Attachment Styles and Trigger Mapping: Widening the Window of Tolerance

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⭐WHAT ATTACHMENT STYLE ARE YOU?⭐
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Have you ever felt panicked or overwhelmed by your emotions in the moment, and totally unable to calm down?
Or maybe your tendency is to exert SO MUCH control over your emotions, that when they do arise, it feels like you’re at war with yourself?
Maybe you wind up rejecting the source of the emotional stimulation (i.e. a lover), because it feels too dangerous to explore it any further.
But then you are left feeling lonely and regretful, like you might’ve made a mistake and thrown out the baby with the bath water.
As a result, you might find yourself wondering how to better control your in-the-moment responses, so you can have a cooler head when emotionally tough situations arise, or show up with more emotional honesty, when your partner is asking for deeper intimacy with you.
Welp. You are not alone in this.
In my online Facebook group of over 15k members, individuals often share posts and comments expressing those very same thoughts, feelings and experiences.
For example, recently a member posted the question…
“Sometimes my feelings shut down when my partner gets close, and I know it's because I am feeling anxious and threatened. How can I widen my ‘window of tolerance’ so I am not so pushed around by my attachment triggers?”
If you can relate to this, this 14-minute video is for you.
In it, I explain …
The definition of your “window of tolerance” and how it relates to trauma-informed approaches to healing.
A demo for how to map your triggered responses through Polyvagal Theory.
But the most important point I make, relates to how growth happens at the EDGE of your comfort zone, not in the middle of it, and not outside of it.
This point is so important because it will really help you to forgive yourself for not being “healed enough” already, and to recognize that increasing your tolerance for triggering people, places, and things is a process that takes time, mindfulness, and gentle courage.
So, you don’t want to miss this!
⭐Want to learn more? ⭐
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26 окт 2020

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@penstarin Год назад

My boyfriend had this experience and we had to call the ambulance, his alcoholic mother alsosufffers from the same feeling of disassociation.

@queenofzenk 3 года назад

Nice to know how spicy i really am 😂😅

@geemail369 3 месяца назад

I just went through this with a dear friend of mine. We opted to go for more in order to explore our feelings, but she wasn't able to, since a bunch of triggers keep her running. But she got professional counsel and started to work through it, now that she knows.

@averagejane09 2 года назад

I seem to be giving the responses of someone who was traumatized but I don't think of my childhood as traumatizing...at least anything more than the average person. I'd say my mom was not a bad mom, but she was depressed a lot and rarely smiled or played with us. I would say I didn't really bond with her or emotionally feel safe in the sense that I never felt she supported me. Honestly, I remember thinking she didn't really like me......is that trauma? But she didn't physically abuse me...well, I was in the spanking era, but no severe physical violence or anything. Dad was often working late. He was more fun when he came in but I was less comfortable with him.....nothing he did wrong. I confuse myself. How can I have scored disorganized attachment on two tests but I can't identify any severe situations in my childhood. Seriously, I know people who had way more traumatic childhoods who are not disorganized. What the heck is going on?

@brianamacwilliam.attachment 2 года назад

Thank you for watching and for sharing some of your experience. I think this video about how normal childhood experiences can actually be disguised developmental trauma. Attachment Styles and Relationships / Childhood trauma in Adulthood / The “Normal” B.S. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-e5EQIj2JDwo.html

@noneofyourbuizness Год назад

My brothers ex have the same issues . Because of her mum depression she felt abandonned She suffer from codependency and abandonment issues

@beautifuldisaster8080 3 года назад

I always feel disconnected from my thoughts , mind and feelings . My life feels like it’s not mine even when I look in the mirror it doesn’t feel like it’s me and when I hear my voice on a voicemail or hear my own self talk which is all the time it doesn’t sound like my voice , what’s wrong with me ?