I recently went thru a huge anxiety crisis. I have had depression for years but I was given a medical diagnosis to have surgery and I didn’t want it. I couldn’t eat and lost 20 pounds because of fear. I didn’t want to live and couldn’t believe I’d ever feel normal again. Then the doctor gave me a different option. I slowly got better mentally. And stopped living in fear. This is my “and then”. I still am not completely better but getting there. Thanks
And then I watched Julia Kristina and started feeling much better. Thank you, Julia Kristina, I literally feel your powerful, loving and sincere energy which is perfectly matched with what you're saying.
Thank you Julia. I'm a widow. Still healjng myself. I just ditched my best friend of past 5 years due to her selfish, toxic behaviour. I'm facing surgery. I don't need the extra stress. By Autumn I will be in recovery. And then.....I power walked on the boardwalk. I got a bus to nearby city. I made new friends through shared interests. I found my inner Joy! ❤❤🎉🎉
Thank you, Julia, you help us so much. I remember how I broke up with my first boyfriend in my early twenties. The whole situation felt like a nightmare, I was so sure that the pain would never end. But when I was crying in my bathroom, trying to wash my face with cold water, I suddenly got this thought - "it's gonna get better soon, just hold on, it'll pass, you _know_ it". I repeated that phrase a few times and went to bed. That night I let myself cry and feel everything there was to feel, but that phrase somehow stuck with me, and it was soothing. It was 10 years ago, but I still repeat it to myself whenever I need it. Maybe it'll help someone else here who's struggling now. Talk to yourself, treat yourself with kindness, and remind yourself that this feeling will pass. Because it always does.
Julia, Senior Shifter Chris here! What a short and sweet RU-vid video! 2 Words to Remember When Going Through a Hard Time in Life. I love how this two-word phrase comes after the other phrase you taught us “This is the part where...” Again, this helps to think of our lives in a story. Most stories have some sort of conflict and drama, “This is the part where...” The moment when the main character is going through something hard...maybe it is the next chapter or the next scene or even the sequel, “...And then...” I look back just a few years before and when I first started your Shift Society, I was going through a hard time in my mind. Feeling depressed and not good enough, “...and then...” fast forward to now, I am more accepting of who I am, I have a balanced managed mind because of the thought and inner work, I take small steps when I need it, I ask for counseling from you and the other coaches, I get support from fellow Shifters and I am also taking meds for yet another source for my wellbeing. I was going through a hard time, “...and then...” I took steps to help my mental wellbeing. Here are my (small) notes: Two-word phrase: *"…and then…" *"This is the part where (something happened to you) …And then…" I didn’t need to take as many notes today as it is a straightforward message.
Thank you so much! I have been waking up with anxiety and depression ever since my breakup. I feel so much grief and I don't know what to do. I have been crying alot. But one thing I noticed is that when I was suicidal years before, I made it through. I don't know how I got through it but I made it. I wouldn't have known so many things or who I am without those moments in my life. It's safe to say that this is the part where I have to endure things again.
Thank you. I really do hope I am at the part "and then". The struggles I am in now seem so much larger than any other tough time, previously in my life that I "got thru".
Thank you Julia! And I can definitely relate to the weather thing, having moved to Britain some years ago haha. It's funny how we are almost programmed to see things this way.
Seeing this video today is perfect timing. You always get my attention, and I appreciate you so much! Going through a rough time in my relationship, not sure where it’s going now. AND THEN gives me hope that I’ll get through this like I have in the past. Thank you, thank you! Sending love and hugs to you always. Sherlea
I'm elderly and feel I'm losing control. Physical and mental health. I've always been a strong person, now I'm not. I feel alone. My kids don't understand. Long time anxiety disorder and depression. Many Dr's, a raft of meds. I'm tired of sitting, worrying about things I can't change. I just feel tired. A year ago, I was a confident person. I'm sure not now.
Hi Becky, I'm 57, so I'm not elderly but I retired early and I'm feeling lonely and sad. I'll pray for you, let's get through this mess together. Love you. ❤️
I'm about to be 40. I listen to Julia all the time. I think she's drop dead gorgeous. I love older women because they have experience and they are beautiful inside out. Don't feel lonely. Nobody is lonelier than me! I broke up with my lady like 6 years ago. Been angry ever since. Never really got over it. You have so much to give. I would go out with an older gal in a minute. 😂but you must have standards.
Plus I have a difficult time in relationships. I have very low self esteem. Though I am an Iraq war veteran and I work out quite a bit I mostly feel very sad too. I am constantly worrying about whether I'm good enough. I do listen to Julia but it makes me upset because I cannot look at her sometimes. Lol.😂
It's about prejudices and expectations! Keeping these in a realistic appearance is hard work, but it is trouble to make the best effort! It is very good that you clearly do this, because it is easy to overlook. Thanks for this inspiration Julai!
I spent way too much time in my life looking for someone who would love me and who would rescue me from some of my problems instead of facing them myself. And then… I decided to ask God for help, and I decided to ask myself to be my own hero, to do hard things I had been avoiding. With God’s help and with my own consistent efforts, I discovered I was so much more capable than I thought I was. I solved some of my biggest problems and became a better version of myself. And then… I met my person, and fortunately I didn’t need to be rescued by her. I was a happy, complete person, ready to be in a healthy reciprocal relationship, which we both wanted to be in, rather than either of us needing to be in. And then… I was so grateful that I decided to make those changes before my person showed up so when she did, I was ready for her!
On the flip side, when I’m in a happy moment of peace and contentment my brain says “this is so wonderful enjoy this moment - I hope it never ends but I know it will.”
Im a lot like you. I am going to be older and I am almost middle aged. Nothing much has worked. I feel like a complete failure in many areas. Like I'm a dead log. You are I'm sure more amazing than u think. You have done a ton. 🎉 You are not alone.
So what do you do if the "and then" happens but you still carry all the pain from the previous bad things in between the "and thens" and don't know how to let anything you've ever been through go? I'm 48 and at this point I am my pain. I'm not sure what it would look like without it. I'm just starting DBT because it was recommended to me. Just figured i'd ask anyone who has a perspective.
Because it doesn’t sink in right away. For Someone who has felt like this for a long time it takes them a long time for their brain to be able to reframe the thinking.. Have a nice day❤
The 2 words are "and then," basically saying we have been through it before and we can go through it again." For me, I can use this for my anxiety issues, saying "this is the part where I felt overwhelmed with anxiety, and then I used breathing techniques and was okay." And yes, we in Vancouver sure experience a lot of rain, but it provides us the rainforest we have. 🌧🌲🏔
