6 Beliefs that Are Secretly Making You Unhappy 

“Pain is inevitable... suffering is optional”... that right there!

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

You’re right Julia the antidote to anxiety is trust.

My stepfather used to say all the time to "Let go and let God" It has helped, and so has "Have the courage to change the things you can." from the Serenity Prayer. Julia's way of breaking things down and explaining things in different ways is comforting and inspiring.

These videos are amazing self-development thank you for them being free because I would not be able to pay for them your a real deal the best therapist I have ever listened too

Am I the only one who gets excited when her videos are longer than usual? 😂 The level of knowledge and self awareness I’ve received from watching this one time, does not compare to what I’ve unlocked the second time. I needed this message and I’m so thankful to you, for sharing your time with us and teaching us how to activate that incredible versions of ourselves. You’ve changed my life and continue to do so. Thank you thank you thank you.

I’m proud of myself for mostly resolving this issue, self-limiting beliefs can be really difficult to get away from!

Wow, you nailed it! Covid literally shook every ounce of our comfort and control. Having you to listen to has been enormously helpful. Thank you.

Pain is inevitable Julia you’re right.

I struggled with this when I was dealing with chronic illness. I didn't know if I could make plans or not. I hated to cancel because I didn't feel good. So, at some point, I had to decide to make plans and assume that I would be fine. I did make accommodations like looser clothing, or shorter trips, but I had to make plans for something! Giving up making plans really sucks the joy out of my life.

😮 The sad and unfortunate story about the cancer patient will change my life philosophy moving forward….I say unfortunate but his mindset is one of the greatest gift to us…. I’m stopping with the entitlement mindset of less to no pain and mostly pleasure. AS A HUMAN BEING pain and the unfortunate times are part of the life arrangement so when they happen and they will I am blessed and grateful to be participating and be a part of life 🤗🙏🏿 I’m so grateful ☺️

This is my first exposure to Julia - it won't be my last.

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1580">26:20</a> - Undo and re-build. This is the core of self-transformation.

You don’t have full control Julia you’re absolutely right.

I so look forward to your videos , it seems like every time you put out a video I’m dealing with a lot of those issues. This really helped me this morning, just not letting my thoughts overpower me.I am guilty of Trying to control everything that comes my way and always comparing my life to others. I know I have to get control of these issues or I’m gonna miss out on so many amazing things. thank you for your content it really helps😌

Life doesn’t always have to be comfortable Julia right on.

You’re the counselor I never knew I needed!

We should think responsible Julia you’re right.

why am I crying (sadness) right now?? Thank you Julia :)

I never realize soon enough that my thoughts are getting out of control so I can stop doing it in time, before I start losing sleep 🙄

Nothing is ever certain Julia.

Another great video. Many thanks to you. "A belief is not an idea that the mind possesses, a belief is an idea that possesses the mind.".

This video was very much needed! For a very long time (up until now actually) I thought I had to reach that certain point in my life where everything is fine. I was living in an illusion which made me feel empty most of the time. So your message was eye-opening. Thank you!

Thank you!!! Wonderful message.

You’re absolutely right Julia life is full of ups and downs.

This really hit home with me this morning! I have so many self limiting beliefs! I'm going to start working on this beginning today! Thank you for your insight!🥰🙏

Two years ago, I had myself checked up at a hospital for any complications, because I felt like there's something wrong going on with me, only to find out that there never was any complications other than anxiety. It was triggered one night, a few weeks before it continued to get worse, it was the first time I've experienced fear in a way that it felt like I was in extreme danger even tho everything is fine and well. The doctor told me, "Happiness is a choice", and never did I really understand it until I watched your video. I let myself suffer for too long, always looking for a cause or something to blame, for why I suddenly got anxiety disorder, even tho I'm already told that anxiety runs in my family. But I always knew, that it was me making it worse. Two years, and I'm still struggling with it, no job, dealt with numerous problems along with existential crisis, burnout, depression, and now, the ongoing pandemic. I'm 23 years old and I felt like my life already ended when I graduated from college. I keep telling myself, there was no reason for this to happen to me, I was so happy then, I was always grateful for what I had, how come it's so different now. And that's where it hit me. The only difference between now and then, is that back then I chose to be happy, I had trust in myself, I knew about life having bad days or even years of it, but always believed in myself, that I can handle it, despite the pain. Your words are just so great to hear, pain indeed is inevitable, suffering however, it's a choice, much like happiness. Thank you.

I love listening to you because of how passionate you are when you share your knowledge. Thankyou for all the help you've given me when I've needed it.

As usual, Julia hits the nail on the head! The part about control is spot on and something I deal with every day.

Thank you. This is exactly the video I needed. And I’ll probably rewatch this anytime I need it

Never assume anything Julia.❤

You’re a saviour, Julia. Thank you for this frank assessment of life. Definitely leading to several mindset shifts for me 😎🦾

Most of my unhappiness comes from those that are unhappy in their own lives, interrupting my bubble. Without outside influences, I'm happy as a pig in ... stuff. Hawaii is awesome. Hope you get to Maui. Good stuff.

Hi Julia - I know you’re in Canada and I’m in the States, but I still want to refer to you as a National Treasure. What you just described is so accurate and usable, once again, it’s life changing. Thank you 🙏

Thank you❤ what your grandad said was powerful. He was a saint

Brilliant ...one of the very best lectures on this subject... going to re watch and note these bullet points with notes on personal experiences relating to each..... thank you so much J you are such a great inspiration ... simplicity at it's very best ...x

Thank you Julia for this video. I needed it

Oh my gosh, this just ticked all of my boxes! I'm doing everything you've talked about.

Perfect video! Ty so much💞We love watching you!💗🙏

Thank you...needed this.

Holy macaroni. I needed to hear this to start my day! Thanks, Julia

Julia kristina is the only person i know, that gets to me. Thank you for this video. If you think you win, you win. If you think you lost, you already lost. I admit to picking at people's minds/psych. Nasty habit. Cant help it. Worse, i use a speakcard. I might be transpassing on private personal human domain.

You help me look and things that I WOULD NEVER know or think about before. Definitely exercises my conscious mind.

Thanks Julia 😊 I am listening to the video right now on RU-vid. Much appreciation and respect! I hope you have a lovely day 💗 ☺🤙

Life isn’t always wine and roses Julia.❤

This was really good to hear. It makes me feel as though my anxiety is normal and that it can in fact be resolved with shifting my perspective. It is good to hear a professional say this and I feel as though I am going to be better equipped to cope with my thoughts and life itself when practicing so many of these suggestions.

Incredible wise words. Listening over and over to retain these nuggets of wisdom, thank you.

Hi Julia, just wanted to say I really like your videos and learn a lot from them. You have an amazing presentation style that is easy to listen to, and simplifies complicated aspects of psychology for novice listeners. Keep up the good work and Hakuna Matata!

Wow you are a gem . Thank you for all that you give to the world.

Really need this video this week. Thank you!

The comparing one really speaks to me. I know exactly what parts of my life I want improved. So when I see anyone who is abundant where I feel deficient, it's going to be something I have to deal with.

Really helpful, thank you Julia :)

Thank you so much for this video!!🧡💛💚💙💜 I'll try to implement these thoughts to myself especially focusing on the good and avoid thinking everything will go wrong... i'll try to get the most of my 40%. Thanks again for this video Julia and i hope you have fun in Hawaii💗 (I clicked the like of course)

Great video! Just what I needed to hear today. Thank you!

Wow! I do all of this at certain times. Thank you for making this video. This is one video that I can and will play over and over❤

Thank you, Julia Christina! Very helpful 👍🙏❤️🌍

Thankyou so much for talking about suffering with uncertainty,it helped me a lot......I was really feeling down because I felt like I had so many questions unanswered and that made me slow down on my life and be negative and was feeling stuck. What u said made me feel better because...Yes! We don't really need to know everything to be fine and confident❤️lysm

These videos are REALLY amazing! thank you!

Wonderful video! This is so me. Definitely going to watch this several times & work on myself. Thank you!

Thanks Julia Kristina.

The fact that I have been doing literally of these things recently makes sense as to why I feel so anxious and unhappy Thanku so much Julia you are really helping me understand my life much better I always feel good when I listen to a video of yours ♥︎♥︎♥︎♥︎

Wise words, thank you.

Thank you Julia, as always, I take so much from your videos.

Really appreciate all your videos!! Very relevant Thank you 😊

You are so amazing I relate everything you say is definitely how I think. Struggle to do the points made in this video. Thankyou for sharing your experiences to firstly help me but also the thousands of other people. You are an inspiration

Thanks so much for the information, its so great to hear you say you want to help the world be a little better.

Bad things do happen whether we like it or not.

Oh geez, I've got all of these very strongly I thought you were reading my mind. Going to need to re-watch this several times. I think I grew up with so much death around me, financial uncertainty, and beliefs about myself and relationships that have just been reinforced by others over the years. Changing these deep seeded beliefs is difficult. I like how you said that I can think the thoughts that create good feelings. I can just choose that because I want to. I'm going to try and remember that!

Thanks for your videos 😊

I love listening to you and learning .thankyou

Love your videos!

Thank you Julia, i needed to hear this today 😉🙏😊 Shout out to you from WA🇦🇺

Love your videos. Have really helped

Excellent discussion , sage advice would be a Happier World if more people heeded these 6 simple guidelines.Thank You Julia !!!!!!

Sending this to All my friends!!! Super informative!!!

Excellent understanding of our thoughts and how they affect us thanks

Thankyou! 💕

All of these are me, especially the control & anxiety. I’m working on it. Love your videos! Thanks for your tips :)

Thank you for doing this. I love your videos and the help you provide

This is another great video. I am always having trouble believing I am good enough. I think this stems from always being told when I was growing up that I will never amount to anything.

Great message! I need to change my habit of worrying about my adult children every day!

This too shall pass 🙏❤️

Julia - you are my go to for personal development/ therapy advice ❤ Thank you! x

Great talk- very pertinent to me!

This video answered a lot of “mysteries” I had as to why it is challenging at times to find happiness and contentment in everyday living.

THANK YOU !!!

I'm also working really hard on not fearing the worst..... Again not easy to change that thinking but I'm trying really hard!

You're so right I love your videos

Her voice is really relaxing, for some reason. Sometimes I put her playlists on repeat and fall asleep.

That first one hit anyone else so hard. I literally put this on pre-panic attack. As soon I started feeling uncomfortable and a little overwhelmed.

Great topic

Nothing is ever perfect.

Hello there! Thank you!

Agreed! More people with managed minds definitely makes the world a better place! I hope one day mental health care can be accessible to everyone

This is validating

No one has full control.

I just love everything about you and your videos. Watching you speak is itself healing. You tackle subjects that have touched me on a very deep level, since I do suffer from a lot of what you talk about in your videos. I'm an Egyptian by the way, and I am glad to be able to connect to your ideas by watching your invaluable content. You know, what you say about what happens to people in America becomes double fold - or even triple fold- in the case of someone like me having to live in a Middle Eastern and a third world country. You see Egypt is really rising from a very deep slumber. And it is becoming a promising country in many respects, but I believe I will not be even alive to see radical changes ( of the nature that would really restore my faith and hope in a better future) take place, because although the country is changing rapidly for the better, I happen to be already 42. Sorry for rambling a bit.

Another timely video, coach! 💕🤗 #SeniorShifter #Shifter

Thanks for the awesome video JULIA ! You are right about impermanence, everything is temporary. According to Buddhist philosophy everything is impermanent. 1. Everything that is born is impermanent and bound to die. 2. Everything that is joined is impermanent and bound to come apart. 3. Everything that is stored is impermanent and bound to run out. 4. Everything that is built is impermanent and bound to collapse. Everything that goes up is impermanent and bound to come . I got a copy of your new book, it is absolutely wonderful. Thanks fo being you.

amazing what i need to work on