A brain-changing cross between mental wellness and personal development. These videos will help you understand what's going on in your mind and emotions, and then giving you the tools to make the necessary changes to help you feel happier, more confident, and less anxious so you can love yourself, others and your life better everyday.
The tools I teach are research-backed, cognitive science strategies including those from CBT, Mindfulness & Self-Compassion.
It’s so hard if someone has ADHD / executive functioning issues or poor mental health you can fall into these horrible parent/child dynamics with an adult. It’s a challenge between helping or harming someone.
I’m not excited about trying anything new. I don’t sleep a lot anymore, I have a little bit of energy but ends too quickly. Yes, I’m grieving about distancing from relatives, something I had to do for my well being, I didn’t like doing that because now I am alone. I was also in a narcissistic relationship and it took a lot from my soul. Drained me to the core because having children with this person. I have lingering emotional pain from that. I just want to be able to feel happier especially when being with others.
I've been unemployed for almost a year. My car's transmission died and it took $3300 to repair it. My cats been diagnosed with Stage 2 Kidney Disease and needs expensive food and medicine to live. My husband broke up with me in mid-April but said I could stay until I moved back in with my Mom. Less than 24 hours after my 41st birthday, he told me he wanted me out of his life and kicked me out of the house. I have no money. I have no savings. I have no job prospects. And I'm not sure what to do right now. Except to continue packing up my stuff so I can store it in my Mom's basement for now. 😔
I left 3 years ago, divorced now for 2. A very long silent treatment from him before covid as well as he and our youngest daughter (then 23) being vindictive towards me in 2020/2021, drove me to my decision to leave. He locked me out of the house.. and and.....the names he called me🤐🥺 He ticks all the boxes in this video. And then after I left I learnt that he's been lying about certain things. I gave him my best years and justified so many red flags!! I'm so grateful to be free now. My daughters don't talk to me. The way I feel now, one marriage in a lifetime is enough. 🌈✨🌸
I wanted to know that he asked me to stay away from him because according to him he feels I am giving him stress. What should I do now? Please guide me.
I really appreciate your message, and I agree that you shouldn't make your problems become other people's. But I have such a difficult time maintaining this in the case of parents/caretakers, even into adulthood.
Excellent ! This really helps me understand the individual aspects that make up ... ' Emotional Immaturity ' ! Thank You ! You've confirmed the points I am familiar with / & have experienced ! 👍👍
I acknowledge that I have high Confidence but low self-esteem. I have come to understanding that we should not seek the approval of others rather we should act in ways that serve ourselves first.
Thank you so much for this, Julia. I have to make a decision tomorrow morning about whether to get a diagnostic mammogram six months after the mammogram that diagnosed my breast cancer. I am to start radiation treatment in two weeks. My doctors support my decision to do this before radiation if my gut is telling me that there is something wrong. I am having the same sort of breast pain I had before my cancer diagnosis. But they also said if there is a finding of something abnormal, then my radiation treatment will be delayed until we can do a biopsy and get the results. Biopsies are very invasive, take time to heal, and create more scar tissue and potential complications for radiation treatment. I also don’t want to launch into radiation and wait another six months for a mammogram only to learn that I did have another tumor, potentially, and the other breast. I’ll make the best decision I can tomorrow.
I recently went thru a huge anxiety crisis. I have had depression for years but I was given a medical diagnosis to have surgery and I didn’t want it. I couldn’t eat and lost 20 pounds because of fear. I didn’t want to live and couldn’t believe I’d ever feel normal again. Then the doctor gave me a different option. I slowly got better mentally. And stopped living in fear. This is my “and then”. I still am not completely better but getting there. Thanks
Love this video. You do such a good job at just stating the facts while not making anyone feel judged, while giving those subtle encouragements. I thank you so much for your work
Hi Julia, one of your YT shorts popped up on my feed even though I haven't watched your videos in years. I watched the ones on narcissistic abuse back then because I knew something was really wrong with my father and that he was rly manipulative. You helped me understand it better and I slowly convinced my mother. Its been 4 years now since we left him, and I have only been texting him since a few months. I just wanted to thank you for indirectly saving me. I have cptsd but i am seeing a psychologist which helps me a lot. Thing is, now i realised that my mum is emotionally immature and emotionally unavailable, even though she thinks that she is very supportive of me and cares about me. I'm not independent enough to live on my own (especially due to how i grew up, so much control), so im going through yet another psycho-emotional challenge. I know it will all be better once i move out, but for the moment, it's going to be a struggle. Living with an emotionally immature parent is very hard psychologically and emotionally.
Some people ENJOY their covert aggression, and enjoy gaslighting people and practice it. It’s all part of the game, where they are enjoying your misery. They enjoy you being miserable. It’s an art form, and they are practicing their craft. Gaslighting is its own brutality and gaslighters know what they are doing. They HOPE you want to talk about it, so they can continue the spin. The more mature and logical you are, the more mileage they know they can get out of you…
Dancing,,, Singing,,, Comedy is not a sign of emotional health… Sorry… What if we think Robin Williams as one of countless people masking their emotions.
The part about judgment really resonated with me. "Judgment is the first thing i see in you because its the last thing i want to be seen in me" i think i tend to subconsciously judge others because it made me feel good to point out theur flaws instead of noticing my own shortcoming
