20 (IMPORTANT) THINGS I WISH I KNEW IN MY 20'S 

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I’m 40. One thing that I wish I knew in my 20s is that who you choose as your partner or spouse is one of the most important decisions that you can make. That person can elevate you or drag you down.

In points:- 1.Slow down and smell the rose 2. Beauty without a kind heart is just decoration 3.Stop trying to prove yourself 4.25 is not a deadline 5.There is a time and season for everything 6. Attention from the opposite sex is nothing 7. Sex is not Love 8.Find your tribe 9. Quality over Quantity(for friends) 10. Be more adventurous 11. University is a big scam 12. Do not take things so personally 13. Its ok to change your mind 14.Dont hold grudges. 15.Learn to let things go 16. Save your coins 17. Opinions are assholes 18. Nobody cares as much as you think they do. 19. Stand up for yourself. 20.Young choices becomes adult problem.

The part about "building a solid tribe of female friends" really hit the nail on the head for me! I too am in my 30's and I don't really have any close knit female friendships. I yearn for those friendships with every fiber of my being. The older we get, the more challenging it is to establish these wonderful friendships. Boyfriends (sometimes even husbands) come and go; we as women need to stop solely focusing on men and take time to develop strong connections with other ladies. This is truly one of the biggest regrets from my 20's and younger years.

“25 is not old.” Thank you. I’m 31 and recently found the career I actually want after going to school and trying different jobs in my 20s. Since I’m a new entrepreneur, I’m not making much $$$ and that can be discouraging as a 31 year old, looking at other women my age who are financially stable. But what I do have is youth, health, peace, the challenge of learning entrepreneurship, more freedom, impact, etc. Trying to count my blessings because while I’m comparing myself to others, they are comparing themselves to me! I am on my own unique, beautiful journey. There are married people jealous of single people, entrepreneurs jealous of 9-5ers…. Keep your eyes set on YOUR path.

You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching, Love like you’ll never be hurt, Sing like there’s nobody listening, And live like it’s heaven on earth

I just turned 20 (this month). And what I've learned (got a bit shocked) so far are : 1. Parents can drag you down indirectly. So always be smart to watch the situation 2. You will start to lose "friends" to go out with like how you did in high school 3. Mental health problems is now a normal thing for you. You just gotta improve and forget about the stress because.. 4. Stress won't go away unless you rely on your parents 100% 5. Being fake and masking is a different thing. Sometimes you just need to match the vibe with other people to get a lot of connections especially at work. 6. Being grateful is a MUST. Don't ever compare yourself with anybody. Or if you have to, must be in a positive, encouraging way. 7. Sometimes saying "No" is the better than sacrificing your other importances 8. More disciplines will be very helpful. Especially in time. 9. Other people sometimes can understand you better than your family. And it's ok. 10. People are competing at work. They can be your friends but wanna be better than you and "win". As I said, be smart to watch every situations. 11. Last but not least, be wise on who you choose to share your probs with

Whoever's reading this, i pray that whatever you're going through gets better and whatever you're struggling with or worrying about is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic day! Amen

I'm 19 now. I'll be 20 in 4 months and I don't know if I'm ready for my 20s. thank you for sharing this video, you are my big sister I've never had 🥺❤️

I just turned 26 ✨yesterday and I spent it in solitude and with family. No fancy clothes, no clubbing, absolutely nothing and I feel so wholesome and fulfilled in everything. I've learned 🥰so much these past few years about myself, relationships, school, and feeling stuck. Ladies, no matter what please keep going and don't compare yourself because everyone has their own time when it's their time. 💕

25 is not old 🙋🏽‍♀️ I turned 25 this year and I needed to hear that 🥹

Im only 22 and I feel so much pressure to be great inside and out to the point i feel depressed so i needed to hear several of these points! I also agreed with needing to slow down because I too felt like I would miss people when their gone and regret it. I need to not worry what others think, not rush things, build a tribe, and not think im right about everything, know that it’s ok to change my mind and etc. I saved this video because it resonates with me, I been feeling like my 20s are not good already and I only been in them for 2yrs. 😅 Thanks for another video❤

📌Young choices become adult problems 📌It's ok to change your mind 📌 don't take things too personally 📌Stand up for yourself, check them 📌25 is not the mark, you still have the rest of your life to be successful I learnt a lot, Breeny you are my big sis I love you, thanks for the gems♥️🇳🇬

I'm 55 and I agree 100% with everything you said. The only thing I feel differently about is.. I do NOT regret my University experience. I have never regretted any education I have received whether I paid for it, got it free, or learned it the hard way. Sure, I'd like to have the money it cost me to attend but darn, I would have thrown it away on crap anyway.

Never looked at not getting things at 25 like that. I always felt like people who got to their goals earlier were better, but I never looked at it that way.... you should have something to strive for and grow with. In due time. Thanks for this

8. Find your tribe 16. Let things go , this stood out to me so much as I am such an over-thinker , I take things very personal and find it hard to forgive .

1. Slow Down/ Be present in all life moments. Life is moving. (Time cant be gotten back/ cherish times and moments)-everything you want to accomplish/goals is going to happen but take time to cherish moments in life. 2. Beauty without a kind heart is merely decoration. Work on being beautiful inside, out. Not just physical appearance. being pretty is aesthetic, being beautiful is wholesome. 3. Stop trying to prove yourself. (you have nothing to prove.) Be you, be genuine>> stop trying to prove yourself to family, cousins, friends. it does not matter. They see your value. 4. 25 is not old/ 30 is not old. You don't have to have your life figured out at 25/ 30. your not in control of your timeline. 5. There is a time to be, do, have everything you want to have. 6. Attention from opposite sex means absolutely nothing. You cant do anything with male attention. ( watch at >> 12:02 ) 7. Sex is not love. ( Any man who wants to sleep with you does not respect you, and in fact is not love.) 8. Find your tribe>> (female friends) and find it early. Be intentional about building a solid tribe of friends. 9. Similarly to # 8 Quality friends over quantity of friends. 10. Be more adventurous. Doing things out of the normal. step outside your comfort zone. 11. University is the biggest scam of life>>>> disclaimer>>> Breeny lee's personal opinion/experience. 12. Don't take things personally and don't hold grudges. 13. It's ok to change your mind. Stop trying to have all the right answers. 14. … (She skipped #14) 15.Learn to let things go. >>>"Its not that deep" 16. save save save. Don't spend everything you earn. Save your money. 17. Opinions of others. (watch >>> @ 25:04 18. in her 20(s) >> she learnt >>>nobody cares. Watch @ 26:11 19. Stand up for yourself. 20.young choices become adult problems.

31 has never looked better B🧡

Recently turned 21 and I already feel like I didn't do enough to start my 20s right, this video calmed me down and made me excited for them. Thank you for putting out this video Breeny💕

For me being kind and genuine stood out for. I need to remember that there is a difference between being pretty and being beautiful, you said, "Being pretty is aesthetic, being beautiful is wholesome". I need to work on treating everyone EVERYONE the same as I would treat my loved ones and to be stay humble. Also, I need to remind myself that I mustn't prove myself to anyone, it's me against me and the people that get it, get it and the people that don't, don't.😂 (I actually needed to see this today because I was feeling like I'm not pretty enough since I'm not receiving male attention so thank you, Jesus and thank you for sharing Breeny😘 God bless).

I really needed to hear this. I’m 23 and feeling undoubtedly lost. Thank you, Breeny! So good to see you back 💘

I'm 25, and I could relate to a lot said. The family dynamics, relationship issues and the fact that I never built a tribe. Tbh it was hard for me as a social outcast, struggled with depression and anxiety and now I'm in position where I'm not so sure about myself fully, it's like I'm stuck in a latter stage of bittersweet adolescence. I know there's a lot more to life but sometimes I feel like I missed out on my best as a child and a teen. I see so many persons my age out with their friends at so many events, and then I get FOMO. Working to be better at the end of the day ofc, cause it's only one life I got and I don't wanna forever live with regrets.

“Beauty without a kind heart is merely a decoration” I love this 👏🏼❤️ and I always remind people that beauty isn’t everything, you gotta be humble, respect others, know your value and other people’s values

I just turned 28 and I’m so scared of turning 30 but this video has made me feel much better, thank you ❤

Young choices become adult problems!!!! Literally spoke to my soul

Really enjoyed listening to this while I was packing... totally agree on the point about not having to have it all figured out in your 20s, it's something I've BEEN saying to myself and others for a long time. I remember being 18 and crying my eyes out feeling like I'd failed for being unemployed, broke and not the "IT" girl. Then I turned 20 and suddenly felt this immense pressure to get all my life's goals achieved by 24 and then took a step back and realised how ridiculous it was. Now I'm 28 and honestly I have never felt more contented. By 22 I became a BBC TV Presenter, by 25 I landed my first TV commission and now this month I'm making my first TV Director and Writer debut for Warner Bros. Discovery. I didn't start off as the girl who all the guys noticed, but now the tables have turned and honestly I realised I wasn't missing out in the first place, half these dudes who may look great on the outside are whispering sweet empty nothings, so it wasn't hard to spot a quality man who found me when I wasn't even looking and loves me for who I am and values my mindset as well as the physical attributes... I say this all not to impress you but to say, LISTEN TO BREENY! It's going to be fine and sometimes you just have to trust the process and enjoy the journey... even when it's not going according to your plan. PS: To any teenager watching, Breeny has been a source of inspiration since I was 16, you're in good hands😉

I'm 40 now and I agree with all those things! Especially saving your money. So important!

I’m 19 years old and I feel like I have been putting so much pressure on myself to achieve lots of things, finish my career as fast as possible so I can start making money and “live my life” that I have forgotten to stop and smell the roses like you said. I’m learning to take things slow, to have faith that what’s for me will be in my life at the right time. Thank you Breeny for sharing those advices and for always being my virtual older sister I never had 💗

I’m 28, and I still feel like a kid lol. I resonated with everything you said- and I’m excited for the future! Will definitely continue to implement these mindsets and continue to grow 😊. Thank you Breeny!

EVERYTHING you mentioned resonates with me. God really blessed me when I found your channel this year. I just turned 20 recently but I'm so thankful for you and you're still my favorite RU-vidr❣

it’s easy to make good genuine friendships regardless of your age. The more you work on yourself, the more you attract the things that are meant for you. Remember, you don’t chase, you only attract.

I’m turning 21 in a few months and I’ll be graduating college in a year and half and I’ve never been so anxious. Just knowing that I am in my twenties is scary (I was 16 a few days ago). My good girlfriend and I talk about it everytime we meet up - when will we meet our partner, our future career, health, relocation, happinesss - it’s just so much to think about. Comparison is also a huge thing 😫. Something that I’ve been doing more is journaling to clear my head. I’m enjoying these gems you’re dropping Breeny ❤ Currently working on #3

I’m 29, turn 30 next month and it would’ve been nice to know how unstructured and raggedy your 20’s actually are. Lol my mom had 3 of her 4 kids by her 20’s. I remember her back then and it boggles my mind to realize that she probably barely knew what she was doing. Just figuring it all all like the rest of us are these days. But another really big one for me is not letting people put me in a box and me actually holding myself there. That’s held me back a lot. I’ve been doing the personal work though and I’m pretty excited for my 30’s. 🥰🤩

This is so inspiring thanks for sharing your story. I started my path to reinventing myself a year ago, I'm now living healthier, confident, stronger, making 6 figures, having leisure to enjoy family &friends. I feel happier and living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone "you can start anytime to have a reset it's worth it! I'm striving to continue growing cus it's a journey✅✅✅

The very first thing you mentioned is what I need to work more on. Even though I do spend time with my close family/friends and be in the moment it’s still hard at times not to feel like I’m behind. I’m 29 and still don’t have a career (figuring that out) and I live at home. However, I’m being smart saving my money, got an 401k, Roth IRA and Life Insurance. So I’m blessed to have a grandma who allows me to be able to accomplish these things. Anywho, I do like being around my granny, mom, lil brother and sis. I have to remind myself that I’m doing just fine and everything that’s meant for me shall be! I’m blessed beyond measure.* 💕✨💞

I feel like the God made u talk about this been going thru alot and i needed answers..this feels like a literal miracle #love u B

Slowing down and smelling the roses is so, so important as we are getting older as well as being present in the moment! Too often we are in our heads about our past failures or future dreams that we forget to enjoy the moment with our loved ones! Also being beautiful inside and out as our physical beauty will fade over time but a kind heart never will! Loved all of these tips beautiful Breeny! Sending lot's of love and light! 🙏🏻💞✨

Me being 25 right now and learning that I'm not behind. I am just where I need to be & I am perfectly okay with that now.

I'm 22 and finding your tribe really struck me mainly because I am experiencing many changes- many to do with location. I moved to a different country with my family, and then once again I moved to another city by myself for uni. I cannot help but feel myself becoming a floater, but I will just trust the process because, at the end of the day, I always find genuine love in good friendships. I think the tribe will form so long as I remain open to it.

Your third point made me cry, because I always try to prove myself, even if it’s unconsciously and I absolutely hate that. No one cares at the end of the day. Everybody is worried about their own lives. So you just might do what you love and not care about the view of other ppl. Also, I‘m 25 right now and I’ve nothing figured out yet… thank you for your words.

Breeny, you're the type of woman who only gets more beautiful as she ages--on the inside and out. You inspire me! ❤️

Hard exterior with a soft heart, don't take things personally, most of what people do is a reflection of who they are and what they are going through in their personal life and nothing to do with you.... "I felt this"

Beauty without a kind heart is merely decoration 💙

I'm 25 now and over past 2 years are so I've been spending a lot of time alone and it's been rewarding. I have learnt much in this year of 25 than ever before, allowing God to take control had been best decision I've ever made. What you've shared is so true, the world makes people feel like we are sometimes behind or slow or deviant but we all have a purpose and when times right we all will be were we need to be. 🙏❤️ The years we spend being in our 20s are the most teaching years ever!

I’m 22 and sometimes I can stress myself out waaay too much. Reminding myself that it’s okay to slow down and be more present is something I need to work on. Thank you miss girl for these reminders

Speak Breeny 🙌🏾👏🏾 Slowing down is something definitely I’ve been feeling lately

Thank you Breeny, this is exactly what i need to hear! Sending love 😍

Love this 💕 currently 25 and I needed this video

You always make a video when I need it the most ! Love you lots!!! ❤

I needed this one. Thanks Breeny 💕

Yes! She's back!❤

Amazing advice love❤ The energy you radiate is so beautiful

Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you Breeny! May God bless you ❤

So happy😭♥️we missed you Breeny!!

As someone who is now trying to be a marine biologist in the field of research, university is definitely not a scam for me. However I used to be in fine arts (I know, I am both an art fanatic and a science nerd) and I absolutely thought that wasn't something everyone needed to do. There is an incredible side to being taught new things and discussing ideas with others, but if you cannot afford secondary education it's absolutely possible to be a creative without a degree.

Breeny with the golden advice. Loved this. Going through the “there is time for everything”

You have nothing to prove, nothing to loose! 🙌🏽

I LOVE YOU BREENY!!! I was going through a rough patch and losing sight but watching this really grounded me again.

We’ve missed you, always creating content we really need ❤❤❤ thank you so much Breeny

Good info for discussion...decisions now affect your adulthood. Invest/save...something I really wish I did as I am scrambling trying to have a solid retirement and money for my child's college, etc. A little saved goes a long way. Amen!

Your gentle tone really makes me want to listen to your Breeny.

Wow. What a great lesson for an 18 year old to know! Thank you so much for sharing and being a big sister ❤

This video was so insightful! What resonated the most for me is there’s a time & season for everything ❤️

I’m so going to rewatch this, print out most of your points and put them on my wall so I can see them everyday. Those lessons were so so so good 👏🙏✨💕

I love your videos. Always dropping gems and I learn something new and how to articulate a sentiment I've been having trouble finding the right words for. Thanks Breeny!

I've watched a lot of 'advice for 20's' videos and this one by far has been the most reassuring, helpful, (funny), and resonating. Exactly what I needed to hear at this time! Thanks for posting ♥

i literally love your voice it’s so beautiful and just so well spoken with knowledge 🥹🥰

Your advice is always top tier 👌🏻

Love how happy she was filming this video❤ Missed your presence on RU-vid Breeny💖

I’m 22 and I’m glad and thankful to have a great solid friendship group since freshman year of college(had to drop only 1) where everyone is genuinely happy and supportive of each other. I’m also still figuring out how to live the life I always wanted and not fall in the comparison trap of feeling like I should’ve already accomplished something major in my life by now

AWW BREENY YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL ❤

Whenever you post it’s my time to make a cup of tea and just enjoy and take in your wisdom. You never fail to inspire.💕

Thank you Breeny for this video. In fact, thank you for all the videos you’ve posted up until this point. My 20s are definitely a fresh start for me and after listening to this video I feel so hopeful and excited. You are a true inspiration to many. ❤ Wishing you the best that life has to offer.

I love you and your videos girl! It never fails to console me through whatever I'm going through. Just turned 21 a couple weeks ago 💓

I literally love all your videos i always get boosted!

That was such great advice Breeny, wondetful reminders for all of us.

I’m 20 and I love this video sm!!! Very much needed!! Thank you for your time and content Breeny ❤!

you look so beautiful!! thank you for this message. I needed this

This was suchhh a great video!! Thank you🥹🌸🌸🥰❤️

God bless you Breeny for these gems❤.... Continue to shine bright like the diamond you are🎉

Your videos are always right on time for me. Ive been following you since the beginning and something about your videos always ground me, always bring me back to who i am at my core, and helps remind me of what truly matters/why i do what i do and where im headed. Thank you so much for all your transparency and your words. ❤

Omg hey breeny! I love your videos so much as a teenage girl you help me get out such a dark place! 💗💗

Thanks, Breeny! I'm in year 8 of my 20s lol. Thanks for these lessons, I needed to know them all!! Keep being an exemplary woman!💖💝❣

Thank you Breeny for this amazing advice. I’m struggling with the fact I’m getting older and this made me feel more peaceful. Also we missed you. I’m glad you are back🥰.

If I could like this 1000 times I would! Love this Breeny! I just turned 27 this month & I can relate & attest to pretty much all those… esp when you said you don’t hold grudges cause you genuinely forget & how you are unbothered by opinions of others esp if they don’t know you or you don’t give them any value in your life… like that is sooo me & people seem to never quite understand that about me.. like I just love to laugh & get on with it.. & letting go & embracing change is not a prob for me either! It took me a while to get there & now being here, I cherish & protect it sooo much!! So this is a very reassuring video!! THANK YOU DARLING!!!❤️🎉

I’m 25 and this is the first video I’ve watched all the way through. You are beautiful inside and out and I could hear the passion and purity in this video. Thank you so much, I needed this. New subscriber! ✨

This video was VERY well said! As someone who is a freshman in university I can relate to everything you touched upon. It really contributes to changing my mindset❤

Im 20 and I loved this video. I feel like I’ve learned so much and thanks to you I feel like I’ll have a life full of gratitude and unique experiences❤️THANK YOU

Ever since i found your channel I’ve been learning so much! Im only 25 right now but you really helped me look at things differently ❤

Currently 19 & I’m always so so grateful to come across videos like these!! Thank you so much Breeny!! 🫶🏽🥰🙏🏽

I’m someone who’s been very critical of your older videos, I have to say this video was a breath of fresh air. So much growth! Kudos! 😊

Turning 20 in 2 months, this came at such a good time! Thank you for being the big sis to my only child self 🫶🏼

This has been very beneficial. Thanks for looking out for us Breeny Lee.there are many wise people in this world but not everyone can find it in their heart to take time and break down to us what we need to do in order to survive. Thanks for being that Big Sister we all need in our lives. Am a first born of 9 so you can imagine how much your videos have an impact on me

22 now and I’m slowly learning 🙏🏽 patience time management and all about giving myself grace ❤️

This is great, thanks Breeny! I actually know all this stuff at 25, but always a good reminder and stressing the importance of each point.

It’s nice to see you back! We missed you!!

This is genuinely one of the best videos I've seen in a long time. Thank you. I needed to hear all of this. I'm only 22 but I feel so much pressure to have it all together.

Just turned 29.. looking forward to this video.. welcome back Breeny❤️❤️

just found your channel today. I am so glad, you are amazinggggggg

I literally thought about you last night and checked on your channel. Whoa this is crazy. Good to see you again beautiful Breeny 🥺🤍🙏🏼