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When my husband was really sick and couldn't work or do a whole lot like he used to, he got pretty down about it of course. Anyone would when you can't do what you are used to, women do too. So one day when he was really down, I said I loved him and had to go run an errand and will be back soon. In addition to that errand, I got him a blank card with cute animals on it and inside I listed all the things he does for me even when he is limited to the house. It was a long list as I filled that card up on all sides except the front , and I sneaked it in the bedroom and put it on his pillow when he was in the washroom, and went to start dinner in the kitchen. I had a huge grin on my face the whole time as I listened to him go back to the bedroom and hear him open the envelope and a minute or two later he came in the kitchen with tears streaming down his face and hugged me for like 5 minutes!! I said see? I will always need you, no matter what, I would be a wreck without you, I love you. It made me feel better that he saw what I have been saying to him all along. It really helps a lot when someone actually sees on paper all the things that they contribute, it makes it feel more tangible. It made him feel very needed, desired and loved even when he didn't believe it himself because of his health at the time. He also said he loved me just as much as the day we met. Always surprise your partner with lots of little things, because it is fun to see their reaction and it makes the giver that much happier too.
Video summary: Men want to provide and be respected. 1. Choose to need a man (3:50) 2. Let him take control; believe in his ability to provide for you (5:15) 3. Celebrate his job well done (9:50)
Some adjustments here: Choose to WANT your man. Needing him to help you in some things is OK, but overall, the wanting is more important. Let him LEAD, not control.
I’ll be honest, I watch a lot of coaches on RU-vid but this is the first time in a long time I’ve felt like I can actually use a strategy without feeling as though I’m playing a game and/or manipulating my partner. Matt, you’re the man! Thank you 😊
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My husband had a gorrible day today and I used the phrase "You do an amazibg job of being my man," and I've neverbdelt his energy shift so quickly into melt mode. It touched him where he needed it and breathed a little more wind back into his sails. I've veen watching your videos and have found so many good things to glean from them. Many things and concepts i eithwr already do or have known but its nice to know I'm on the right track after almost 17 years of marriage. Thank you, Mat! ❤ 🤗
i struggle with showing men that I need them. I have been firecely independent my entire life and my parents have taught me to be okay just on my own and as a result, its a struggle to let people help me. I definitely feel like guys that have been in my life in the past feel like they weren't needed and this is something Im working on
@@denisejaydub I can't/won't do that. Sorry. Not sorry. I won't act helpless. Why do we have to get over our issues but they don't have to get over theirs?!
This is an amazing way to treat your husband, partner, lover, friend. The fact that he use and went back in history and saw how man provided and needed to do an incredible job, and for his partner to praise him; Mr. Boggs did not just came with a new theory, or something he created, he used actually facts. Mat, you are doing an incredible job! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hey Matt, I love your videos. My husband is my best friend. Married 10 years, living together 17 years, friends 25 years since I was 12 and I am still head over heels in love and have a crush on him like a high school girl. I utilize a lot of your strategies because I want him to feel like the man I feel he is... and it has definitely strengthened our relationship and built confidence in one another. I would love your thoughts on how to let him know areas that I need/desire a little more without making him feel inadequate or not enough or seem like I'm nagging. If you already posted a video about this, sorry.. but then can you share the link. God bless you and your family. Thank you for pouring into this generation resources that it needs for a healthy loving relationships and the lense to clearly see our roles as wives and the way to give our husbands the platform to be the men they were created to be. It's so important for us to model this for our children so they too can share the same experience.
Again why! Why is it all in a women’s shoulders to reach, try, research, better herself and men do not! You have a happy relationship! Why are you always having to strive!!? More and more to keep, entice to continue to keep him close! I think it’s garbage. Men need to be men step up and woman should be so sure of who and what she is that HE does this to ensure he doesn’t “falter” and lose her. I think it has to be a two way street. I’m sorry the burden of being the perfect women still weighs on us!
@@candaceescottwiliams1496 this may sound counter intuitive but I think it’s because we are the smarter sex. I could be wrong. It’s also not one size fits all though. Forgive me but the men who do these videos are more metrosexual than truly masculine. There’s nothing wrong with any of them. I think they are saying if you want this (fill in the blank), do this (fill in the blank). It’s for women who may not know why they are getting what they don’t want. Again, it’s all perceptions based on experience. I loved the movie Hitch. It’s a romantics movie with the same result but from the male perspective. I hope you don’t mind I answered. I understand you but have lived long enough to know men are more easily manipulated than women. That sounds horrible but it’s not meant in a mean way. It’s why men are so willing to accept that a much younger beautiful woman could love them even though they are 20 years her senior and have done nothing to take care of themselves besides build a business per se. Granted us women can be just as easily convinced but it’s not as acceptable because the standard is that we know better. Not sure if I explained that very well. I say be you, love you and someone will see your value. All the best.
@@candaceescottwiliams1496 Hi Candacee, thank you for your honesty. I understand that it may seem as if it falls on the women's shoulders and that women have to strive to maintain the relationship. In some cases that may be very much true, and can become frustrating and disappointing, but it's not true for all cases. I am by no means a relationship specialist.. actually very far from one... I only know what works for my relationship. It's challenging yet important to lead by example. There are many times that I want to tell my husband "hey what are you an idiot, don't you know me better by now" (and sometimes I do..and much worse too) but I know the result of that is far from what I actually want. I think one of the most beautiful and challenging parts about being a woman is being so incredibly intune to emotions and feelings, being able to hear what's not said and just sense something.. it's a little like a super power. Yes, it can be tiring sometimes, but all great things require effort.. deterioration is the most natural part of life, everything will naturally deteriorate if it's not nourished properly. Speaking for my relationship only, my husband says I love you by mowing the lawn, or cutting the poison ivy, or ordering dinner so I dont have to cook, or telling the kids to be quite because I'm tired from working or watching netflix series with me even though he thinks it stupid. I just happen to know those things about him and appreciate him for that.. but that's not my love language.. and even though I know he loves me I still want him to communicate it the way I want without making him feel that all of the things HE chooses to do to show me he loves me is not good enough. And yes, your are right I, the woman am here researching ways to maximize our relationship but that's because I married a man that is worth the investment of that and im happy to give 100% of myself to a man who, in HIS way does the same for me.
@@michelemeyer8496 Exactly. You've said something powerful Ma'am Thanks for this so much. Am just 18 years old but I love how you spoke. God Always Bless You and Your Husband in Jesus Christ Name Amen 🙏✝️ 🛐🌊✨❤️
I feel this way about the man I’ve been dating for almost two months. When the time is right I want to let him know how great I feel when I’m with him… safe and protected.
Great advice. Essentially you're lifting his confidence and bigging him up as a man. Very easy and wholesome to do when you're with a man you really like or love!
Hey Mat - I have been doing inner work for 20 years (still doing inner work) and added dating/relationship work about 8 years ago. Have read books and done seminars and now finding these great youtube vids. I have done programs with leaders in the field and I have to tell you that you are AMAZING !! You give us such important information, in a language we understand, that entails both how men feel, what they need AND inner work type stuff (for us). Fantastic - thank you so much. I have a lot of your vids to watch, I see :-)
Wow. I was just imagining how I would feel if my guy said, "You're doing a great job at being my woman.". The idea makes me want to cry. I want that validation too.
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Mat, you have such great advice! Thank you so much! The way you describe everything makes it so much easier to understand the process again. I was with my man for 27 years and he passed away going on 6years. Now I want to start again and it’s very intimidating but it’s exciting too. Thanks for refreshing my memory how it all comes together again. Wish me luck! Thanks again.
When they know you don't need them for anything, that's when they will treat you right. Getting there is hard since most of us have been sabotoged by Narcissists. Most just want attention and not a relationship so be aware of that ladies. Love yourself and you will be happy. We don't need someone to love us especially since most aren't capable. Men don't need love, they need Respect like he says. Don't let them disrespect you either! Listen to your gut!
Mat, I'm glad you have PATIENCE. Because, I am a female and I might have not corrected your cutting. I get to cut all my onions all by my little old self!
You're doing a GREAT job of showing me these mindblowing pearls I am only now learning for the first time (at 50). I had it ALL wrong all along. This is so, so helpful, thank you!
A good advice of mine for yourself and for your loved one, is to always (as much as possible) be happy when you go to bed at night, grateful for the day, excited for the next one, and letting him know either with words of just a state of being. As an example, I love hot weather, and when it's 30 degrees the next day, I tell him how excited I am to wake up with the sun and have coffee or breakfast with him the next day. How it feels on my skin, on my health, etc... Find things that make you happy on a daily basis and be grateful to share them with him.
I have said, “Do you want to know what I love about you?” Then I list 3-5 things and I express my appreciation for him. Another thing I told him that I made a New Years Resolution to concentrate on seeing the positive in my man and concentrate on building him up. That was my 2020 New Years resolution. Later in conversation, he parroted that phrase and said, “I want to build you up”
Thank You Matt 👍🏻 "The main aim is the Connection.." One more, Some people think 'Men's Respect' is something that is overpowering and it sounds negative, right (for me personally)! Thank you for breaking down what 'Respect' here is all about!👏🏻 Beautifully explained. U're A Great Mentor! I look up to you.🙏🏻 #blessings & #muchlove
Wow…. Been watching all your videos after recently broke up with my third boyfriend. I definitely voted this is the best and very powerful one in order to maintain a very good relationship. Thanks again for all your great input .
Oh my goodness! Thank you so much for this advice. I have been on my own as a single parent for so long and I am a planner (and teacher, btw). I wouldn’t have thought twice about jumping in. I’ll think differently about this now.
I have taken a few year break, and it makes sense that I’d have to ‘allow myself’ to ‘need’ a man. I hold so much reserve in that regard after a long term marriage ended in abandonment. An unhealthy rebound relationship and a later relationship out of loneliness (with a jerky lush), have really made it hard for me not to isolate, outside of work.
On this one you really struck into me, I felt you, and I'm very grateful for you showing me what it means to be a man. .thanks! Nobody ever explained all this to me, nor ever my dad, or brother
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Hey Mat! It is great to suddenly and unexpectedly receive a notification about your new video on a day that you are not expecting any. Happy to receive 2 videos from you in a week.
@@akshatsihrivastava3097 Hello. What is it you would like to introduce me to? Thank you for your reply. And your time to making your videos. They are very helpful.
You know what’s wonderful? I’ve met 4.5 wonderful men who fit the mold of how a relationship should start. I say the .5 b/c he’s wonderful but undecided on me. However, my thoughts are when he hopes I’m available and decides he wants me, it’ll be too late. I’m fortunate to experience this now at the same time. Your videos are extraordinarily valuable. I appreciate your work!!
Thanks Mat for a real eye opener of a video! I've never been so happy to see that I've done wrong. I can for sure be less independent and accept help. Will keep the strategy in mind. Thanks for helping! Both you and your wife bring more love to the world together, thanks for sharing ❤️❤️
Thank you for articulating this with fine examples. It's very clear now and I hope I can implement. My hubby is amazing and I struggle with letting him know that in a way that resonates with him.
Great content, you are a great person in addition to coaching women you should coach more men they need to be more whole and complete just like how your wife can compliment you we need more guys like that in society.
Mat is the only relationship coach I follow. I've tried most of his suggestions with my sweet guy, and they've worked every single time! Occasionally I'll ask R if he agrees with something Mat said, and he absolutely does (ex. women shouldn't tell their man that he's perfect, bc it makes him uneasy since he knows it's not true)!
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So we are told that neediness drives a man away faster than anything and yet we are also told to choose to need a man. Can someone explain this to me? I am so confused.
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A woman should appreciate the things a man do for her I remember when I met my lover over a year ago he asked me how is home and I am told him I am in need of some vegetables he turn up the Sunday morning early to take me to the supermarket to get them. When he drop me back home I said to him 'honey you make me feel like I am a lady again. Thanks for being my friend'. I could see the glow on his face. Why? No one has praised him like that before.
Honestly you are the only Dating Coach I listen to. Usually I didn’t watch these type of videos but somehow your videos are popping up at my timeline. As a Christian woman I can say that this advice is following the Bible. God advice for a marriage: submit to your husband, we are the weaker vessel, so the man provides for us, protects us. And we shall honor and respect our man. Beautiful! ❤️🌸💕
Could you create a video on the equivalence of “cutting the onion” for intimate behavior? If something is uncomfortable, women really need to speak up. In spite of a man’s ego.
Sir u been doing sooo great ♥️ u r such a wonderful teacher 😍u truly have find yr ikigai 💕 helping us a lot in our mindset being more approachable towards our true love life , god bless you 💞
I let him take his time after telling him what I needed and it never got done, or less and less to the point of neglect. I feel like I was trying to do most of the providing, emotionally or practically or otherwise (less as time went on without getting the same back and my needs met). How do you find the energy to give him what he needs if you can't get the same from him. I waited too long to cut my losses. (Ps: None of that witch doctor peddling in replies. I'll report you for spam)
I commented on it on someone's thread here, it's because we deal with Narcissistic Selfish guys. That's why you get neglected. Don't settle for it! Love yourself and leave! I'm so tired of the games I am happy being single now! 💜
Mat👀 this is your best video EVER!!🥰 and i say this respectfully and fondly💛🤍 all your videos are excellent! but this one nails it to the core! also, i really enjoyed your recent video in which your amazing-beautiful wife offered wonderful insight regarding the early stages of your relationship🌼 thank you for all you do❤️
Mi boyfriend and I, we're 4 years together already, we dont love together yet, but, we try often to help each other on different chores on our daily routine, now I tell him, he is a very good souf chef, since he has learned with me how to cut and Cook vegies, and he tells me I am the future handy girl, since I already know how to repair the basics and do some wood works at home. 🤓😊👨🍳👩🔧 We believe this has helped us and make our love stronger through the years...
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Nailed it.. I'm currently doing these things for a man who has never recieved feminine love! It's hard work but it's working! Then I found this vid..how wierd! Maybe meant to be😏well he's eating it all up its so nice to see him enjoying this also! I'm really big on post celebration efforts even if they still do a crap job lol it doesn't matter cause it's just a kitchen task! But it's lovely seeing his face upon the 3CCCs awesome! I'm extremely feminine too.. I choose to need a man!🙌! Once this is deep within the women's psychology her relationship will be very loving, patient, calm, happy!
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OK, Mat. Thanks for the great video! But what if you cannot celebrate your man for a job well done? Maybe he did not provide what you asked for or did not provide it in an acceptable way - what would be an appropriate response?
I've been subscribed for a while, and I clicked on this video because the title was about desire.. and you just happened to look very desirable! Wow! Like exceptionally so! You should grow your beard again!
Thank you for that good explanation. Yes, it's really important to respect each other. If someone is thankful for the things we do, there is a high chance we'll help again.
Your story of your wife jumping in the middle of cutting onion business makes laugh and reminds me of my boss of jumping in the middle of a presentation and grabbing the microphone from our marketing manager. It also reminds of myself of criticizing and advising my ex-husband for numerous times. That must be one of many reasons that contributed to the marriage breaking down. I also found your approach is from male perspective, will you make videos that share how a man can win a woman's heart.
Good video. And yeah, even women have similar needs and children for that matter, to not be micromanage. Unfortunately, in my situation, I am targeted and stalked and its a similar feeling to being micro managed. Sucks all the positive energy right out of a person. Good point to showcase thats a negative and toxic quality in relationships. Yeah, we all need to lay off each other's backs. 🙄
Consider what you both want. My brother is happily married 25 yrs to a woman who rules the roost, yet is respectful and thoughtful towards him. She has greatly enhanced his quality of life. Me; I like when men take the lead and that is usually the case! Im intrigued by this man I'm seeing, I like him, let him know what things I appreciate, but I have found that he is very slow to respond until I take the initiative: example: fun, happy me "Meet me for breakfast! " He's there. "fun happy me: "dont forget how excited I am to go boating with you! " we go. Kind of disappointing...he shares some deep stuff with me, says his Mom (much loved and missed by him) ruled the roost. So: Is he my guy? I'm probably not his girl.
Hi Matt frist of all I love the advice you give in your videos and tired some of them on my boyfriend and it's just made our relationship even stronger and I thank you I have learnt so much from you
Amazing, Celebrating a Job Well Done, Validating My Man's Effort, Appreciating the Good: "You Do a Great Job at Being My Man" Thank You, I Appreciate You 😀✨🍀
Sitting here trying to think of things I can do to float my partners boat and make him feel needed 😄 I’m too independent and so used to taking care of everything.
I am guilty of that! I could be impatient and I have a talent for seeing the big picture so to speak and he's the complete opposite. When I tried to let him go through with things, he usually butchered it and it's really hard for me to stand by and let him mess up and figure it out. But I'm going to try, about making any promises lol....... On the other hand, I do celebrate when he does something very well to the point where I can see his chest puff up and ready to explode and he's so happy about it
Since I told my man that I am the most important person in my life,but he comes right after me,at #2 l notice he appreciates me more.when we’re together I give him all my love and attention but I show him that I am not needy in a desperate way,since then he tells me he thinks about me 24/7 and even told me I must have put a love spell on him 😂
I love your channel, Matt! Thank you for all the great advice. It's helped me a lot. That said, I think there's something missing here with the onion thing. Maybe you're just too nice to say it, but sometimes ladies, we just need to shut up and let our man do it. Not everything has to be done our way. If he's giving you the onion pieces you need, then who cares how he does it? His way isn't "wrong" it's his way. If something just must be corrected, it's perfectly ok to wait and next time you're cutting onions you can say, "hey, I noticed how you cut those onions the other day, do you mind if I show you a different way that I find more efficient/safe?" If you don't want to be his mama, then stop playing the role.
Hi Mat, I recently viewed one of your videos where, at the end you stated that you would soon be coming out with a new program that dives in deeper. I'm interested in participating and would like more information.