I don't agree quite so. Fit beautifull women have many options,of course and that's all. i've seen many many many women who you're not going to say they're attractive at all, to date or mary fine men. Besides local availability issue(you live in a village where women are few), there are other reasons, from how this woman is playing ball, how cool and interesting character she is and the phobia some men have in dating beautiful women(for practical reasons, that is)
I think if people are comfortable and confident in their own body then it doesn't matter But if they want to workout or go to the gym that's their choice too...
I ended up in relationship with a guy I slept with on the first date.To be honest I was in a mindset where I didn't care what the outcome was. I didn't care if he thought I slept around because I decided to sleep with him straight away. I was more focused on the concept that I have more to offer then sex. I'm smart, beautiful, witty and it takes a certain type of man to win my heart and time. I think that's the mindset you have to be in. and if he's shit in bed at least you know from the get go and aren't wasting your time.
I married a dud in that arena…go Christian values! I would rather know if I am wasting my time. Honestly, if he sucks in bed what is the point? So tired of these old school double standards.
Well you women bang guy in there 20s and early 30s when you're in high school while us high school boys don't get any because the older men keep banging them before we even get a chance to learn anything together. Then the high school boys grow up never having any form of relationship with women so we have to make up what we missed out in high school and play hard and loose to make up for what we had not.
I'm a very commitment-minded man. These were good, but here are a couple of others: 1. Talking about yourself too much. 2. Not taking responsibility for your actions. If you make a mistake or do something wrong, own it.
Yeah, totally agree about the over sharing thing...keep things relaxed and authentic... there is no one more boring, than a person who talks about him/herself, all the time. If you want to be interesting...listen to what others have to say.
Grit I agree with you!! I can't stand someone who refuses to own up to their mistakes or admitting that they have problems that can be fixed lol. I was with someone that never did anything wrong or never had any problems always had to be correct. Thank God I'm not anymore haha. Thank you for pointing them out too.
I am very successful and keep ending up with men who are NO WHERE near my level of success, motivation or drive. I keep settling out of fear of being alone. The past few months I've been trying to focus on myself and hope that someday a wonderful QUALITY man will come into my life at the right time. I have gotten back into GREAT shape lately and I am starting to get used to the idea of being alone and creating my OWN happiness. :)
I just watched a video of yours. You can delude yourself, and it will not fix the problem. You are beautiful, but you have very visual barriers. Your blue hair is an example. Whatever, I am a guy. And I'm attractive so listen; this guy in the video speaks the truth. seriously. I have never watched a video like this and he is so correct. the reality is oh so true for us men as well. I am having a great difficulty living up to women's desires. I want to be real with them and yet it is so difficult to maintain while keeping them attracted. sorry about my english
Amen to that being single is best thing no kids bill no marriage bills I'll rather pay off what I have then to worry about that if I want something my dog and Jesus believe that
My best friend katelyn and I talked about how we have to be happy with ourselves before getting with someone. There’s too many women and men both settling for people just to say they have someone.
Hmm, weird. I’m not fit and have men perusing me in person. I do feel insecure about my weight bc at one point I was very fit. I’m not a huge woman, but I do have extra lbs I need to lose. This is the way I see it, everyone’s meant for one person and that person you’re meant for, the two of you will connect without explanation. I met someone I never thought I’d date and it was more than his physical appearance, it was our connection. I get what you’re saying, but that’s not always the case. And you know, when I was very fit, I was tired of men chasing me for that reason. Now that I’m not, it feels good to see who likes me for me and I’m confident with my answer. My tip for men, don’t let physical attraction let the reason you pursue women... we all get old one day and the true test of love, is falling in love with the inner soul.
Never put your real name on social media to many predators waiting to scam you for money or worse harm you. Use a fun handle . Protect your id, your pictures, your kids, your assets, address , your phone, email. Always meet up in a public place until you trust him . Never meet him where you would not be safe . Some profiles have been stolen , entire stories with intent to steal your identity or to prey on you. Use your common sense.
My brother had 2 wives that were gorgeous knockouts. His 3rd wife weighed over 250 pounds when he met her. He has been married to his 3rd wife the longest and he has NEVER been happier. By the way, she lost a lot of that weight through the years to improve her health. She did get her tall handsome cowboy by just being herself.
If it is not okay for a man to judge a woman for having sex on the first date it is also not okay for a woman to judge a man for having sex on a first date. Equality is a two way street.
Very Good Caroline Marchand, I feel the Same Way. I don't like men that are too easy and Want to Sleep with me on the first day, I find that disgusting, and it means they are Sleeping with All the women they date easily Too.
I get tired of some men focusing more on my looks than trying to get to know me. I understand that looks are the initial attraction, but don't make it so obvious or constantly compliment my physical traits because I'll lose interest.
You bring up a good point- many (not all) men will try to sleep with you on the first date. in my mind I hardly know the person so why on earth would I sleep with them? If the man cannot handle it, that's fine- he can continue dating/sleeping with the 'first date' women. We all have to do what we feel is best for us, not what some other woman is willing to do or not do, etc. Ladies need to lock down their standards and values and hold to them for themselves, then the right person will eventually align with that.
I'm a Christian man who is waiting until I'm married. You're right, like attracts like. Don't let anyone talk you out of your standards and values. But at the same time, if a woman gave up those standards and values for other men in the past, they can't reasonably expect a man who hasn't to ignore that fact. Like attracts like.
@@grit7733 , a woman who isn't like that shouldnt be treated like one who is. You attract what you are, not what someone says you are. Facts matter. Quality matters. I always get to know a person for who they are truly, not what other people say about them. I personally care more about common interests, chemistry and personality more than gossip or even reputations. Sometimes, (rarely) people change. I can't imagine being one of those people who devalues others because of things like that. It's not very spiritual at all. People learn better when they realize their worth. I treat common workers as well as CEOs. I would treat poor the same as rich, etc. Everyone has value. I think that was Jesus' point.
@@NikkiDocherty74 The CEO sees your historic when he hires you though. I would not recommend a lady to date a guy who has 2 baby mama but says he's a different man now. The lady should refuse him and tell him to look for someone in the same situation - a girl with two baby daddy (let them both give each other a new chance). Facts are, people don't change that easily - I would not risk my future gambling like that. "Don't let anyone talk you out of your standards and values. But at the same time, if a woman gave up those standards and values for other men in the past, they can't reasonably expect a man who hasn't to ignore that fact." - totally agree (Not saying I would try to talk a woman out of her new standards - I would just look for somebody else). Btw, Jesus says a Christian man should marry a virgin.
Few men are that attractive the majority are balding, beer bellied, bad teeth, short men with poor hygiene. Few quality men out there generally prefer a trophy wife.
So I guess my huge loving heart, loyalty, intellect and talent mean nothing because I am insecure from past trauma. Honestly, I would rather be alone then lol.
God bless you u will had a reward in heaven for that sometimes people who are alone no kids and marriage r chosen from God the most because that person was stornger god bless you in heaven people are not everlasting the world is temporary everything doesn't stay forever it stays behind think about it this way if u die can u take your house and car with u no but I think u can have a better in heaven 😇🙏 that s y God is coming back because he s not happy with the taken people we're not here to be perfect we're here temporary so being perfect will only deceive you and that's people who are married and have kids so look at that way not everything and from God even if its just a husband and kids people get that confused that s the truth
If you are insecure then it sounds like you need to do some work on yourself first. A relationship won't heal your past traumas for you, if you want a truly fulfilling relationship, you need to be at your best on your own first.
Most men I’ve dated recently have all said they like curvy women. Now I’m not heavy but I have womanly curves and am 43 so I do the best with what I’ve got! Also, most men I’ve dated said they prefer little to no makeup.
I am sorry but if a guy cant deal with 5 extra kilos, then I cant deal with his reciding hairline. We have to be all that yet it looks like men can be average and get away with it. Nah.
@@shoopdj so? Even 5 extra kilos can be a sign of health issues that you cant fix. Just because something is genetic doesn't mean you get a pass for being a jackass and thinking you're too good for anyone with flaws.
Women's bodies change with age, a healthy weight at age 22 is different than 45 even according to the doctor's healthy weight guideline. So I beg to differ with that choice vs. genetics concept. Women who suffer with PCOS for example always have a challenge with weight and this is hereditary. I feel Iris Grey's comment very compelling.
I put on a phenomenal amount of weight due to a sleeping disorder.. I still tried to lose weight. I did boot camps and a variety of diets.. And guess what? I couldn't lose weight.. I had to get an operation to fix my sleeping disorder... And now I am losing weight... So NO!!!! Weight gain is not always a choice 😳
This video is shallow. His dating priorities are so Kardasian.A good sense of humor, intelligence, and kindness goes a long way.It's called interior beauty my friend, and everything else falls into place.
Just putting it out there... How is self love shallow? Having standards is shallow? That being said, he is just letting us know what men want and thinking. He isn't telling us what to do.
If you alook like, lets say, a hippo, your interior beauty means nothing when talking about a sexual partner. Beauty is INSIDE AND OUTSIDE. not just inside. that's a lie.
Foundations of male attraction: 1. Phisical attraction (phisical beauty, indicators of health: face features, skin, hair, hip to waist ratio). Show your phisical body, curves. Don't hide in baggy clothes! 2. Be confident about your overall attraction level. And truly love and appreciate yourself and all the parts of yourself. This will display those traits to men. You will raise your standards if what you are accepting in men and be perceived as a high value woman, it will project you having more options (more suitors), even if you don't have them. This is about having the level of confidence and self love that is required to attract a high value man. 3. Great friends, social media, where you travel, etc... 3 things that kill attraction in a man: 1. Not caring about yourself. (About your health and phisical outlook). 2. Your lack of confidence in your beauty and attraction (insecurity, afraid not to be attractive enough.) It will place the guys on a pedestal and yourself below. No one wants to date someone beneath them. Both someone equal or higher. 3. Negative (social) reputation. Our social circle also determines who we date. Sleeping with someone on the first date in general is not O.K.. He will think that you are able to sleep with other man on the first date, it will kill his attraction. He needs to feel special and selected.
Ya know what really matters most.. is loving yourself, once you learn to do that you become very atractive and respect your self and trust your gut feeling about a guy weather he is worthy or not
Tell the jealous men who don't like me wearing make up or working out TOO TAKE A HIKE!!! Way too many jealous men in this world or insecure rather! Also as far as men JUDGING women who sleep with them on the first date... A REAL MAN A GENTLEMAN wouldn't try to disrespect a woman and THEREFORE would have better manners(by the way almost 3 years celibate)....I'm just saying... FINDING A GENTLEMAN(ONE WITH MORALS AND STANDARDS) RATHER THAN JUST ANY MAN WHO WANTS TO GET LAID IS LIKE LOOKING FOR A NEEDLE IN A HAYSTACK!
@Angelique P I think they should judge as they see fit; we already interfered at the choosing of a person's partners in the past (and it wasn't ethical - ex: gays,lesbians and etc...). If a man is sexist when choosing a partner, let him be; if a man doesn't want you cuz he will only marry a virgin and thinks you're a slut, let him be; if a man doesn't like you cuz you party all night, wear make up, works out, likes eating lasagna and etc... (you guessed - let him be). You can only control yourself, trying to change other people's mind is not your job. Just avoid real bad behavior and what you consider ''toxicity'' (aka what you don't like) . ~~
@@MrOBlacksO .... How can a man judge what he does not know about a woman? He can't, THEREFORE when a man shows disrespect ON THE FIRST DATE THEN HE IS NOT A MAN! Yes I agree that I cannot and will not change a man with bad behavior or cannot argue with him when he tells me I cannot work out, have a career or wear makeup... When he reveals that to me I end the relationship... BUT HE WON'T STOP BUGGING ME!!
@@angeliquep8391 How can you judge that men who have these traits are not ''REAL''?. I know of couples doing pretty well - even though they live the same situations that won't stop ''bugging'' you - for example, a friend of mine married a woman who stays at home all day, doesn't work and doesn't wear make up (Said wife also thinks the husband should be the one to go outside and work while she tends to the household - take care of the kids, make the meals, clean and etc...)and they seem pretty happy. They don't have friends of the opposite sex and only go out with each other (dinners, skiing, travelling and so on... the kids stay at her mother but,sometimes, all the family hangs out together) - a solid 15-year old marriage. This is what I was pointing at -> what you're complaining about isn't objectively bad in men ( these are just their individual preference). Something inherently bad is when, for example, a muslim radical chooses to throw a plain at a skyscraper (kinda over inflated but you get the point). Again "I think they should judge as they see fit; we already interfered at the choosing of a person's partners in the past (and it wasn't ethical - ex: gays,lesbians and etc...)." Most men liking a woman that didn't sleep with too many guys is pretty normal; as you should not shame a gay guy for not liking women, we too,should not shame the perspective of someone in regards to such a personal decision. (Ofc, we should judge and shame self-destructive behavior - like "Girl, leave this man, he beats you''). Judgment, as you're implying, is not wrong - it's like standards, to each their own.
@@MrOBlacksO .... Sorry I don't agree... EVERYONE has a story and a past... I was a FAITHFUL wife for OVER 20 YEARS. Never ever slept with any man while married and he was the one who cheated with a witch and left me and our boys homeless and he was the one who put me in danger. So I only judge those men of my past that when at that current time of dating they showed no respect for me THEREFORE I don't respect them. I have turned my entire life around and have dated healthy men however that witch of the past and the other male witches she was sleeping with are interfering with all my relationships and they are the reason why my ex husband and I are now divorced. Until I meet a Godly man who knows about spiritual warfare and the problems of my past and that people in the occult who harass me NO MAN IS GOING TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO until I feel he can be trusted.. So when I say to them I will not do what they say until they prove to me trustworthiness and since they haven't I told them to leave me alone yet they CONTINUE to bug me.... So yes everyone has their views and likes and dislikes and if I'm not in agreement with them they need to let go....Further more when a man does not understand that the relationship is over or the word no then he has some psychological narcissistic problems that I will not tolerate...also my children are grown and I sacrificed enough trying raise a family while rising up in my career. So now that the children are grown and I am Free single woman divorced I am now focused on my career and if any man I meet don't like it he has to go BECAUSE no one is going to stop me from my goals
@@angeliquep8391 I don't know with what you disagree...we pretty much think alike - your ex cheating is objectively wrong - a man liking a woman who prefers to stay home is not. Btw, the wife I mentioned earlier choosed to stay home, her husband didn't oblige her (they were both at the same page). No woman/man can control you - ofc you can judge and have your own preference as well. You should not sacrifice anything if you're not willing to do so. You didn't understand, "I think they should judge as they see fit; we already interfered at the choosing of a person's partners in the past (and it wasn't ethical - ex: gays,lesbians and etc...). If a man is sexist when choosing a partner, let him be; if a man doesn't want you cuz he will only marry a virgin and thinks you're a slut, let him be; if a man doesn't like you cuz you party all night, wear make up, works out, likes eating lasagna and etc... (you guessed - let him be)." doesn't mean I'm questioning your right to work out, wear make up and etc... I'm just defending the right a man has to find attractive a woman who doesn't have the same priorities as you. I sorry for what you husband did to you, and I hope everything works out in the end.
Here women want to know what men want in a women, and when he tells you what attracts him, and I'm speaking in general.....most of the comments I read as your feedback are negative and hostile, toward what he just said. He's not trying to tickle your ears....he's trying to tell you the truth. Women need to stop feeling so offended when someone tells you what is attractive to THEM. Take it or leave it....your choice.
Well Bridget Gibbs I get that. But truth is I am a Mazaradi, why on earth would I take a dump truck? I have high standards, I will not take a low standard man.
Let me set some things straight, please, and ask some questions for others to see as well: I am an ex model, 31, I still have the body, the face, the hair etc. I have always been the commitment high quality woman, have never slept on the fisrt date, have never cheated, have never had a one-night-stand in my life. Mabe it's hard to believe, but it is true. Also, I speak 5 languages and I am a PhD Candidate on Ancient Greek Philosophy. Having set the standards the main question is: Why is it that men want it all (beauty, health, education, manners, charachter etc.), but right after they find "the whole package" - the "trophy" as they put it - they feel insecure about themselves resulting after a while in a relationship that is all about manipulating the woman into making her feel insecure? Don't they have all they have asked for? Aren't these the reasons why they approached her and decided she is a good commitment match: healthy appearance, confidence on her own beauty (how can I not? I am an ex model for Christ's sake), good reputation and - I would add as above - good manners and charachter? Why do they feel that it is suddenly high time their woman stopped caring so much about her appearance (stop putting makeup on, stop going to the gym systematically, stop spending a few minutes in order to create the perfect outfit for each situation, start being a foodie)? Lastly, why is it that all of the sudden she should stop speaking her mind (and I mean speaking her mind, not being offensive or judgmental)? By asking these questions I do not picture a specific man. I speak straight from my experience on the opposite sex as a whole. I love your videos and this is why I am a subscriber. But having mastered all the Not-to-kill attraction criteria above, this is really something I cannot figure out. Thank you.
Xenia D. My own experience and the same for many women like us that I know. It is because these men you talk about did not measure up to us from the beginning, they thought they wanted it all and when they get it, it was too much for their ego, or they feel threatened that the attention now will shift to their gfs, or because they realize we are too smart to be fooled, and that they can’t get away with shit. It’s sad, but it takes some special men to gracefully embrace women like that in the long term, it is almost ironically that the women who have the whole package are the ones who struggle the most.... I see so often men going from the women who is the whole package to the woman who has all the 3 things this guy just said that you are not supposed to do, and these are the women getting the ring. Too common in my opinion.
@@ndiazmalGreatly put, you are right and thank you for commenting, because after all there is women like us too in this struggle for finding the one, which proves that these three rules may not always be a recipe for sucess. It seems that in most cases men don't want the woman who is special and who wants to be with them by choice or not by some sort of need, but the one who is in a lot of ways convenient to them.
Xenia and ndiazmal, How very true. I see the same again and again. Woman who seemingly has it all (although no one is perfect, all of us are supposed to grow till the end of our life), often gets sidelined and the man chooses a less intimidating, perhaps slightly frumpy, more 'easygoing' woman... which is ok, if he then truly loves her and stays faithful. It seems he does not like challenges, but comfort. He may use cheap excuses to explain his behavior, for example calling the beautiful sexy woman 'too complex', 'too much drama', when in fact, he is plain intimated and feels threatened. Also, characterwise, not all sexy beauty queens are drama queens and egoistic, many are warm, loving, passionate and would be at least as good as the frumpy, homely looking one that he finally married... It just seems that men prefer these 'easy going' and 'comfy' women, instead of beauty and brains.
NarnianLady I disagree on men wanting the “easy going” Most tend to go for the drama actually. For example, I have been told by guy friends that I should bring more drama in my relationships to keep things exiting and not be so easy going. Intellectual women will choose educated conversations and dialogue to solve problems, at least I do, which completely reduce drama to cero without being a pushover and keeping my ground wro opinions and boundaries. Some men are just used to drama queens and get addicted to toxic relationships with women, they can find the perfect woman for them but then end up going back to the toxic ones.
And it is just that there are too many beautiful women out there for any one of them to stand out that then they must rely on character personality and class....and most beauty is shallow and non sustaining through a marriage
He's acting like every quality man is a model and physical fit and deserves the same But, I don't see that to be the case, a lot of men dont have hair or might be overweight but still feel they deserve the model type. Gmab! He's describing vain shallow men. So, if you lose your figure they will leave you.
not true. he is describing men who are of high quality, that means men who are ambitious, take care of themselves and have standards. just because you have seen low quality men doesn't prove any point. you miss it. and we men are the same. you will never see a rich guy with a ugly woman. and theres a reason why.
@@NoPretending Let's Agree to disagree!! I have seen high quality men, CEO and even politicians to date either ugly girls and even fat girls - Why? Because they are THE REAL HIGH QUALITY GUYS!! The real high quality guys doesn't have to care about your appearance, he has to love you just as you are!!(and the same goes to high quality executive women) that's really caring and loving a person!! Otherwise, they are just superficial, shallow and honestly very st*pid people!!😉😉 Therefore, everyone out there choose wisely, if you got a c*nt who only cares about your "appearances" (looks), false rumours, etc Then he doesn't really love you, he would love your ass, but sooner than later the truth comes out! Girls out there: never settle for an everyday gym jerk, choose someone truly worthy! Otherwise, you'll waste a lot of time and effort on unworthy jerks!!
@@NoPretending I've seen plenty of rich guys with ugly women - of course those women are from their own wealthy background. Some rich guys are with average woman. I'm a plain Jane, but my first husband was WAY out of my league. Despite the fact he was more attractive, didn't stop him from pursuing me. Of course, I had to leave him after finding out what a rage-a-holic he was. He eventually married a suga momma.
And not just that Angelina. I've seen young Asian women go to extremes such as dieting, dolling themselves up etc. And for what? They chase someone's old grandad. These grandads don't even have money. I can't believe how ANY young woman could have the stomach to hang out, or worse marry a man who is 2 or 3, sometimes even 4 times older than themselves.
Here is the deal. 2 years ago I would have HATED these 3 key points you just gave us. Why? Because I let myself go, my skin was bad, I gained weight in all the “wrong places” and I was SO DEFENSIVE about it. “This is me and if you don’t like it LEAVE!” Well… they all left. I started changing my thoughts to be more positive, my new positive thoughts lead to taking care of my skin, hair, etc and eating better which means the fat on my belly started to go away. I felt so much better about myself. I wasn’t defensive anymore. And boom. I started attracting me left and right.
Interestingly I met a man, some years ago at my heaviest. I wasn't looking. He was tall and thin. I had the best sex ever, and he enjoyed it too. Per his comment, it blew me away. I'd been celibate for 11 years, per my own choice. Yet, he persued me. After meeting him, I began to lose weight. Sadly, our time was brief.
Please don't over complicate your life by watching various videos on how to be desirable for a man. It's unnecessary, all u need to do is first love yourself, respect yourself enough to not beg and plead for any body's love and attention, never be the only one compromising, don't go overboard to look great because there's so much more to a real relationship than physical looks. Work on your personality be positive and stay healthy. Find a man who doesn't force you to worry about your weight and your appearance that's what happens in most high school relationships, adults must be able to get past that shallow mentality.
In real life, I have also noticed that many men still tend to marry women who don't have a perfect body... but in fact, may be overweight, or or... which is fine. It however does speak about men wanting something else in a wife than just beauty. They may be attracted to beautiful women, but they can be intimidated by those they consider 'too attractive'. Also, sadly, there tends to be a stereotype that 'too attractive' looking woman cannot be wife material - no matter how modestly she dresses, she still looks feminine, and many men subconsciously equate that with 'seduction'...
They want someone they don't have to fear another man taking their woman from them....to prevent Jealousy, They like looking at a beautiful woman, what man doesn't but many men are intimidated by beauty....but will marry a plain one to keep jealousy at bay...It takes a very secure man to attract and KEEP a beautiful woman. And vice versa~~!!!!
You dont have to be a perfect size 10 to be beautiful I'm a size 16-18 and I'm very confident by the way i look, i believe there is more to people than just looks but yes i agree on 1st impression looks count
Can you talk about how to level up from where you are? Talking about mindset first Then I’m talking about leveling up physically in terms of beauty , body health and fitness, etc. Can you please talk about how to achieve a feeling of self-worth and high value as a woman. How do I learn how to see myself as beautiful, attractive, and wanted on a consistent basis? I want to be assured that I will attract a man who does the same thing and wants to Uppalevel himself Too. I guess if I believe in a lot of traction thing that would happen Examples are always welcome, because somehow my brain wants to twist things and examples help me see things more clearly I appreciate this channel and Matt Boggs channel You both offer great insight and I love that it’s from a male perspective Thank you
Wow... Well, this what you're asking is a process that requires time, compassion for yourself, & above all patience. I believe inasmuch as he's providing great advice FOR women about men.. the advice YOU likely need should ideally come from those who look like you: WOMEN & very strong, self-possessed, helpful women. A man cannot be a woman in your case.
And..... BTW, there ARE no assurances as you request, in Life as there are no guarantees. This, what you need for yourself before you think of involving with ANY man... Is to care for your Woman-self.
Thank you. I require a lot of self patience and compassion It seems that I am rather hard on myself, and want to find out what’s going to make me perfect. Intellectually actually I understand that’s absurd, but I’m talking about deep down I feel like a little girl Believe me I’m growing out o Old ideas Most of us have been self deprecating and conditioned
Should a man sleep with a woman on their first date, he is also letting her know he is cheap. Now.... how can he even begin to question..." well, if she sleeps with me on a first date, how many others does she do this with"???? To the women out there... STAY FREAKIN CLEAR AWAY FROM THESE ONES WHO "TEST YOU" A high quality man wouldn't let that happen even if you threw yourself on him....
@@shoopdj Daniel, WHY Don't You Go and WORK on yourself for Years until You become Perfect, and When You Can Reach in Perfection at least to the Level of the Ankles of Any Woman walking around, then You Can Come Back and comment here.
I really hate dating... in America! Overseas it’s great and a bit different. People seem to have less hangups abroad.. just saying from experience. Ladies if you’re having trouble go abroad. Foreign men are fab 💗
Amen! You are correct sir. Feminism ruined things for men. Women need to start valuing themselves and how about not having sex until marriage because you save yourself so much heartache.
I’m curious what you think about women who don’t have Facebook or personal Instagram or Twitter or anything like that? There are a lot of women out there who just simply have too many hobbies and jobs and stuff and don’t have time to sit on social media.
Thank you for your presentation. It was so true about being a woman, you need to maintain your standard, as man was born to be a chaser and he loves to be challenged; as well as woman needs to act as a target being hard to get. Easy comes! Easy goes!
all about the physical, supposed to be about commitment minded men. That means true love. This is only for hot young executive types who probably don't score high on the commitment end.
that's how men work. If you delve into yourself, you will find that you have quite strong judgements on men as well. but he speask the universal truth.
And high quality men marry within their class....or status in life .....or prearranged marriages....unless they want a trophy wife!! Depends on their goals in life....European men are different, there good quality men base their attraction on less on looks than on character and personality....American men are shallow as are most American women and put too much emphasis on physical attraction whereby once they are married and snagged that guy it is time to let go and be frumpy!! We all get frumpy in the end...
this is not true. men goes for exactly the three points he made.doesnt care where you are from. Im a man and I am completely in line with him. Im from Europe too..
Some people looks good outside but evil inside. Looks can be deceitful now days. Where just foods! Looks good smell good tasty and yummy but deadly like some people too. Some people are Dog! 🙏❤️🙏
I've actually heard men say they would rather sleep with a beautiful woman with herpes than a healthy average to ugly woman. Thats really messed up. And the men saying it were unattractive- not so fine facial features, beer guts, receding hairlines, poorly dressed, you get the picture. That's when I decided being a single, successful woman was enough for me. If romance happens, it happens. I'm not really looking anymore.
i just wanna share what i think majority of girls generally want in a guy 1. kind(good person ) 2. responsible(finances) 3. takes care of himself(appearance)
can only confirm that. I have the most dear admirers. I make sure to be healthy, I don't go to clubs, and since the advent of social media and google I've made sure not to post a picture or a friend. And I go my own way It's marketing. You are the product. A high priced product. It takes a lot of attention. It's a long way up. The guys are from high society.
Most women spend days getting new outfits, do their hair , makeup, nails to make a good impression to meet up with a guy wearing tennis shoes, wrinkled clothes, greasy hair and untrimmed beards, body odor etc. Most men have had their Moms or ex wives dress them. Men get with it. Grow up and dress to impress.
I always wonder how do you attract ONLY men you want to attract I'm not a beaut (not according to my country standards). But I take care of myself, I have income, I have important position at my job, and I have survived heavy & difficult past that clearly makes that confidence radiates from me. It's so annoying that all kind of men (married men included) always try to hit on me. So I think I need some tips on how to make yourself look unavailable for the men "beneath" you
I don't agree with not sleeping on the first date...most men I don't feel attracted to, I don't go for on the first date...in fact, I follow my intuition and my feminine sexuality. Not all men are my natural attractive type and I will confidently follow my instincts, and think twice. High quality men , usually notice the difference.
I always dress very casual on a date and don't make much of an effort, my hair is even messy most times, regardless if they decide to take me to a castle; it works for me, it allows me to attract the kind of men who would like me even when i'm not looking my best. I don't want to scream attention seeking by wearing a sexy dress, heals and a crafted look, that's just going to distract them from my true self, I want them to really see me and not just stare at my figure. I've now found a high quality man who i'm very attracted to :) Be yourselves and give the best of yourselves to someone who truly deserves it, who touches your soul as well as your body. Jason is very right when it comes to attracting most men (the ones from the masses) But most men aren't interesting as a partner, so i want to selectively attract the kind of man who i not only like but i can be comfortable with. It all depends who you want to attract and your purpose.
It's not a double standard. I wouldn't want a guy who sleeps with someone on the first date either. I don't think that it's okay for me to take someone seriously who's a player. So, there's no imbalance if you have class
I ended up found a true love with a guy i slept with on the first date. We both knew that we were looking for sex nothing else..but we wanted more and more and could not get enough of each other 😅 maybe this is rare..but I wasn't looking for relationship when I met him. So I didn't care about his opinion.
I’ve never Heard such rot! What he is telling you is that these are his values. He obviously is very ridged in what he considers ‘attractive’ not all men/women want the same thing ... I’ve seen women/men who I wouldn’t consider worth a second glance but they have someone who loves them. We’re all different and we all want different things.. there. .. my sisters and friends want completely different kinds of men than I do... I’ve seen what would be considered handsome well groomed men but they leave me cold. My sister loves hairy badly groomed men I wouldn’t touch one with a barge pole! My neice likes ‘ ginger’. With a beard and glasses and doesn’t seem to care if they are not too clean... yes we all have standards but all standards are different ... just be yourself. :)
God yes. I agree about sleeping with someone quick. I would never do that. I would never lower my standards. I cannot stand this "fuck now, ask questions later" world we now live in. People have no standards.
The reputation one is the only one I have a problem with because people make up false rumors. You can be a complete shut in who’s been celibate for a long time and people can be saying you’re a wild one. Hah. Joke. Never believe it people. I’m glad I’m over 50 and out of the desire to date. It’s pretty entertaining tho. I think you need to be attractive duh. If not just do your thing and stay alone. There’s no law that says you need to date or be in a relationship anyway.
My two younger sons are very intelligent and do the sabotaging because they don't want a Dad, they say they don't need one because they are grown up now and for a long time I felt as though I was letting them down for not dating and finding a new father for my children.
Ok first thing men don't have mental hang ups about who they want to date. Women on the other hand will compromise because they have a very strong impulse to find a mate & fast! Not all women but in general woman compromise more than men. That's what this video is about between the lines & that is what women (not all but in genral) are reacting too. A woman may think why am I tolerating his bear belly, and bolding hair when he harps on me about the 15lbs I gained!!!😡 well men simply don't have these hang ups and generally think that they are a great catch unroll you tell them otherwise, so ladies stop accepting men that don't meet your standards. Ps I'm not talking about unrealistic model type men but a man who you don't cringe at. 👍
No matter what ever is my looks, how good am i on presenting my self, how behave am i, if tbe man doesn't love me at all. It is useless. So what important is the man is really sincere what ever looks and attitudes i have. Love, sincerity and loyalty is big deal with me.
Not debunked. It’s just common sense that there are exceptions to every rule. Being unattractive makes your chances LESS, not nonexistent. For every unattractive woman you see who has a chance with a guy, there are good looking ones with 10 times or greater chance.
This is only a male initial perspective and not everything in a relationship. Everyone is getting so defensive. Everyone including women wants something from a relationship. I want a guy that takes good care of himself and dresses nice, is humbly confident, and has good friends and reputation. Comeon' pretty basic. Why would I date a guy knowing he's a loser.
Hm, I don't disagree with you entirely, but I'm going to point out something about the first things mentioned: You can't really lose weight until you are happy with who you are. This sounds counterintuitive, but it's true in an odd way. I'm 37 now, I'm an over the hill, single mother with an autistic son, despite all of this, I'm the happiest I've been in at least a decade. I tried desperately to lose weight, and it wasn't until last year when I decided I was simply going to be happy and live my life the way I want to that I finally began to lose weight. I'm not fit, I'm in the overweight category, but things are still improving and I'm fine with what I see in the mirror. As for appearance, trust me this presenter would be telling me I need to be more natural. I love candy-colored wigs, goth clothes, and wild makeup. I'm at a point in life where I've stopped caring what others think.
In my experience with men nothing is written in stone , there are always exceptions and it depends on the people involved . I can give some examples , i never made it a practice to sleep with a man on the first date , but it happen about 3 times and those 3 men asked me to marry them of course at different times ! There is also a thing called love at first sight , its rare but it happens and then there is lust at first sight one just has to know the difference ! To be perfectly honest i never needed anyone to tell me how to attract a man ! To make the best out of a relation- ship or marriage is another story !
On point no. 2, women who don't see themselves as attractive are not necessarily insecure-they might just be realistic. And that, does not mean she puts men on a pedestal *nor* does it subconsciously communicate to men that she sees herself as below him (which in turn would turn him off). Makes more sense that they didn't really find her attractive but wanted to sleep with her. We don't need to find a reason to blame women for this 'sudden' change of mind. Maybe it's him. Just maybe, it's the man for once. Women have to be realistic. If they are not attractive to men, all the confidence in the world won't change that.
What if the high quality man made you physically sick and have to lay in bed. That when the high quality man causes your body to ache from head to toe? I don't know if that is a high quality man at all then. My husband is a high quality man and I respect him. I don't go with anything less than my standard. I trust him working with men and women. He doesn't screw around and is a business guru.
It’s weird how many people got upset in the comments about everything he said or how many people complain about what he said too. What’s great about life is you don’t have to agree or you could agree. You can click out of a video or you can keep watching if you want a certain type of guy. He is talking about dating “high quality” men. Meaning whatever that is to the guy making the video. So why are people talking about guys who have wives, or guys w wrecked health and bodies. Why watch something for advice then swat it down with comparisons of men you already know you don’t like. You have to change something to get a different pool. What do you want to change and what pool do you want to be in. Or just don’t worry about dating and do whatever you want and have a good life the way you want. It’s cool to just chill. I’m just chilling right now.
All humans should be good to themselves. Get healthy through self focused learning and betterment for ones own good and groundedness. We all - regardless of gender - should engender the best we are able to do and that is an ongoing process. Human values, kindness, integrity, boundaries, (learning to be comfortable with them also) is very key. At the end of the day I truly believe for most people, once outward peacocking wears down, we are left with who we are. And that is the question.
I enjoy your videos, Jason, especially since having confidence is a challenge for me. Do you have any plans to talk specifically about older men? I mean there are lots of us in the second phase of lives in which we are either divorced or our spouses have died. It would be interesting to see how to get a great man who was once married to a great lady, and also, what signs to know that a divorced person is not yet ready to move on. Thank you.
Kelly Borsheim - I’d be so appreciative of advice relating to dealing with this topic too. How can widowed people get past losing the love of their lives?
Lol. Nr 3. One of the guys I was talking to was very eager to meet up and when we sorted out a date he started to change the conversations into how physically attracted he is to me. This didn’t bug me at first but when he didn’t had any other topic than this anymore I decided to reactivate my dating app account and saw that he changed his bio into “hunting for one-night-stands” even though I made clear that nothing physical would happen on the beginning of our dating he was obviously shocked I found his account, when I wished him good luck on his “treasure-hunt” he grew silent. Seemed like it would have meant too much effort to pursue me further to get laid 🤣🤣 There is nothing wrong with wanting flings and casual sex but feigning interest, support only to get laid even though I said these are NOT my values to begin with...what a waste of time.
ok I can say as a guy. your quality. you said it. was straight forward. no fuse no mus. guys have to test because there are so many woman who say that then say. he not a real man he never tries anything. if he was he would go for it. blah blah... he didn't know you were one of the real ones
I just spoke to a friend in another state who has a major weight problem. Let's just say I bet she gets married before me. It just takes one good person.
