1. You get into disagreements 2. You get a pet together 3. He plans for a big trip with you in the future 4. He publicly displays his relationship status 5. He starts revealing deal breakers
Last relationship I was in, during the first month together he violated me. I had to heal, because I thought if I give any form of acknowledgement or affection like a kiss, that a new guy would hurt me. It’s been a few years since, but true love covers you in the right way with sincerely good intentions. I had to heal for me & the right guy. I had to annihilate all fear. I also had to trust myself to love again.
One thing I noticed; if a guy keeps talking like my parents were divorced and they are so anti--marriage....I'd have to say stay away. More than once I felt like I was up against someone else's past---which does NOT = my future. You have to have a guy who is positive towards you regardless of either this happened or that happened. I've gotten tired of paying from the get go for someone else's problems. You make YOU the priority from the get go or let him go.
I strongly advise against getting poor animals ....I have 3 dogs I inherited from tennants 1 thing couples do is get a puppy then the get pregnant break up and the dog is not important anymore.....not fair to dogs.....
I rescued my dog-son. I think Jason just may have overlooked to mention to make sure you're committed as a pet parent, regardless of whether your relationship lasts, or whether they allow your pet at the place you want to live at (i.e. rental apartments, condos, rental houses, communities, etc..)
I agree, I actually think they can get in the way of a relationship if the couple has not grown together and created a life together. I have seen couples that later on get a dog before a baby. Learning to take care of an animal together and still meet each other's needs has it's merits but not for everyone.
The way to a man's heart is through his ego. Stroke that, and you got him. Also, it's not how good you are in bed, it's how good you make him think he is in bed.
HAHAHAHA I LOVE NUMBER 2!!! Never thought about it that way, but it makes sense. Committing to a pet together is a big responsibility and means that he has thought about spending the future together lol. I think men especially count the risks before committing so for him to agree to a potential risk of losing a loved pet when things go wrong is a big move. GREAT TIPS, THANKS FOR SHARING!!!
The disagreements are reactions to fear of commitment. Especially if the man or woman is acting childish and hasn't matured enough and wants to be a bachelor/ette in a "relationship".
Mmm.. yeah. Lol i don't think disagreeing on these things makes commitment. My ex and i were married for almost 10 years, and together even longer than that... We always disagreed on whether or not we would have kids... And to the day we got divorced he never wanted kids and told me I'd have to be with someone else to have kids. It was one of the reasons we broke up. We wanted totally different things in life. Sometimes those disagreements are red flags! It's called a person being themselves and letting you know who they are and what they want in life. And if you disagree that severely... Then they're not the one for you! People don't change.
This video was spot on with my fiancee & I. We've only been together 4 months (almost) but We've known each other for many years & each thing you spoke of instantly reminded me of him & our relationship. I'm not quite sure how to explain it really, but I know We're meant to be together! I couldn't stop smiling the entire time I watched. Thank you so much & you're a great coach & I enjoy your videos so much!!!! 😁😁😁
Wow, he has 3 of the 5 bizarre signs. This is mind-blowing. I have a guy who gets frustrated when I want get off (for any reason) in order stay on the phone just to have phone silence for four to six minutes.
There are conflicts in some sort of things that are going between me and my LDR partner that i just met in a dating app.. he may not as transparent as he is but what i really appreciate is that he says that i become his bestfriend...he did share things he had in the past that i know his being vulnerable...
I don't think it is necessary to tell everything from the past, unless you are still dealing with it. The eating disorder thing is water under the bridge, so why bring it up? I don't want or need to know every issue from the past. If it affects the future, absolutely.
A gamer is always a gamer .... nothing matters fr him... he will do all of the mentioned point and thn blame you and try to betray you and get out of the relationship...
Men will commit in a second if you’re: 1. Young 2. Beautiful 3. Thin 4. Popular 5. Blonde ‘cos they’re terrified someone else will snag you. Every other woman who doesn’t fit into these categories has to make do!!!!
Wow. Couldn't disagree more in several of the points! As others have pointed out, getting pets should not be seen as a sign of comitment, especially as some people might use this as a way to force/rush and/or fake a commitment and it's the poor pet that pays. I collaborate with pet shelters and this is one of the main reasons pets get ditched! If you would not have kids to reinforce your relationship, you should not iluse pets either. As for disclosing deal breakers, somenpeople (in my experience ESPECIALLY men) use this as a way to manipulate women by displaying a vulnerability of some sort and to tap into your empathy with them. Many women have a nurturing/redemptioning/caring instinct and exposing dealbreakers (especially early on) can be a way to get you to react rather than act. Travelling... I would say it depends on the type of travel and the type of people. I travelled with my ex for work, not on "easy" conditions and we got along fine. Looking back, I'm pretty sure we did not bond at all in them, probably because the situations we were subjected too forced us to be "allies" and because we were both good professionals. Butbin what should have mattered for "us", no we did not bond. I thought we were and that is one of the reasons I did it; but turns out he wasn't commiting at all, just doing what was most convenient for him at that time. Discussions... that I could agree with, to a point. As dor healthy discussing, it is easy to see on hindsight or when speculating how this should be. But when you are in it and especially ifbtehre are cultural differences it can be very muddy water and not a great commitment indicator. Plans of the future... plannings is easy. If it doesnt go with clear and relatively immediate actions, it means nothing. I would agree on the making his status public if one is sure he is a) doing it on all his social circles; b) he is not doing it as a way to have you feel commited to him or as a way to "shush" you; c) he not only makes his relationship status public but clearly related to you.
We got into a disagreement over having the more committed we ended up breaking it off long story got jealous when I tried to move on. It's been going on between us for over 2 yrs were still together he chased after me the last time and texted about what we have and I won't find anything real at a bar I wrote u mean a real relationship? He wrote what we have you won't find at a bar. I almost gave him my house keys I've known him 4 yrs and he lives close. He moved like 3 yrs ago I almost bought a ticket to see him he came back we talked daily on fb at the time. My man won't label I told his brother were together and sleeping together. As in present.
IS WHAT A WOMAN TALKS ABOUT REALLY WHAT SHE'S READY FOR AND ALL ABOUT HERSELF? TOO OFTEN FEMALES MAKE A BIG DEAL ABOUT THINGS THEY HADN'T PREPARED FOR THEMSELVES SO IT RUINS A MAN WHO ACTUALLY TOOK THE TIME TO TAKE HER SERIOUSLY .
What to do if we get into arguments but he does not want to discuss and arrive at a solution? Whenever I bring up anything, he shuts up and stares at the floor.
I love what u said throughout this whole video I c the things that my boyfriend has done n I believe everything u said bcuz we have gone through those 4 things we don't have a pet yet but he's asking for the right now n I was not sure so thank u for ur truth n it made thing's VERY clear 4 me
Thank you for your video. I have a question about the 4th sign. Do you think we can force this a little to happen or does it have to come spontaneously? He has children and I'm afraid he didn't come out with our relationship yet because of them, but maybe he's just keeping his options open too, I don't know.
Hi, good video. What do you do when he asks you on a vacation, introduces you to his social circle then just changes to back stepping all the way out the door? I read those things as us being serious but he simply seemed to change his mind. How do you tell if a guy is genuine in these kind of gestures?
Willow I hope it works out for you both. I did that with my mans business he wants me to help him with his business but we’re having a bit of issues about working together before I met him I was a LPN for 26 yrs I gave up my career to help him which is live streamimg billiards pro / amateur pool well its great traveling around together all over but I’m not really a pool girlie & he calls it his art & he is very smart into computers & websites which I am not into that either & he says I’m your boss & you have to listen to me & he tries bossing-me around I don’t like it one bit ....... I think it should be equal between us but he doesn’t think so everything is his money , his business his his his so I’m like REALLY NOW ????? Ok that’s Fine by me hell I’ll just stay home & wont help you as much with YOUR BUSINESS anymore ......HE GETS ME SOO ANGRY AT HIM AT TIMES LOL BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER ALOT & we both our extremely loyal to each other sorry I wrote a book lol Sometimes I just need to vent about it we should go to therapy about it so I could get it off my chest how It makes me feel ...
Hi Jason, do u know why he doesnt want to commit to me, ignore my text for days then reappeared and offered me a relationship? Why the hell is he acting like this? It felt like he dated he's preferred choice, fell through, so now he's offering a relationship to me (-_-)
I'm not Jason, but, over all the general research I've done (online, books, life experience, etc.)- men apparently go away to cool down their deep emotions and rationalize. When they are in the heat of it, they feel knocked off balance, crazy about you even. They have no idea what's really going on with them. They go away think about the whole situation. Upon deep reflection, feeling their emotions, further analysis, cutting out any loose ends with other casual partners, and finally also going through the feeling of missing you, they slowly come to the conclusion that they are not insane. They realize they don't want to hurt you, they take commitment serious and want to be sure they really want this without any manipulation, or distractions. They then realize they want to risk it all and offer you a commitment. Give yourself and him credit. Men generally don't feel the need as much as women to fully committ themselves into a serious relationship, and if not then another one like back-up. They generally may have back-ups for sex, casual intimacy, but not likely for relationships. He just basically disappeared to deal with himself, and to take you into consideration. Congratulations! He really wants to try this out and is doing right by responsibly taking the time out to analyze everything before moving forward with you. The only thing is, as women we wish men would communicate and just simply say, "Hey I'm taking a few days away from communicating with you to analyze our friendship/relationship. I need this time away for a good reason. I promise to get back to you within a week or two." But nope. They don't realize how painful it is for us. Also, see it as growth for yourself too. When you are strong enough to handle a disappearance act, you become stronger, self-assured, resilient, able to withstand emotional detachment from the outcome. You can also learn to communicate to him that you would like him to work on communicating that he needs time to reflect away from you, etc instead of him disappearing and ignoring you. The thing is they often don't even seem to think anything is wrong with it. Like when friends go months or years without talking, but they are right back on track as if they never had a time gap. Guys expect you are out enjoying, doing your own thing as if they never existed. Bit the reality is we get upset, feel neglected, feel emotionally triggered, sad, etc....and basically in limbo the more attachment we feel to them. They just don't understand that we feel this way, nor why we we do. Back in hunting and gathering days women stayed gathering and when the men did not return from hunting fear set in on us about whether they died, and whether we would survive and whether we could raise our offspring. These are prob. deeply engrained fears in us women.
@@LisAndi1111 - thank u so much, U really helped a lot. Not sure whether thats exactly my case, i think girls feel insecure when men are not willing to give us a sense of securities. It doesnt make sense after so much flirting, hey, he's not committed so he should have the right to ghost and ignore me for more than one week, went for someone else, things fell thru, then appeared like its perfectly fine that now he's READY for me NOW.
You're welcome. Ghosting and coming back like nothing is not okay. You do not have to accept him. I am not saying it's okay for guys to ghost. I am explaining why they may do it. As it is, when people are casually dating, they may be dating more than one person at the same time. There is no commitment, so it's acceptable. If the other supposed person wasn't really compatible with him, and you were in his opinion, then that seems logical to stop seeing that person and formally committ to dating you. Anyone with options (as you should have) would choose their best match. You should have other options and not put all your eggs in one basket, until you are both committed in my opinion. Also, the point is he should not be giving you a sense of security. You should idealy have your own sense of security (besides, nothing is ever really secure). Also, I read what you said. My impression is that you are not sure (you said "it felt like"), unless you know for sure, there's no reason to think things fell thru for him with someone else. I believe you said he came back with an offer to you for a serious relationship? By no means are you obligated to accept him. In fact, if all that bothered you, and you know for a fact he did that, then I'd say no, and prob. even cut him off. I am not suggesting accepting him: coming, ghosting, and coming back just for FWB, hook-ups, etc.. What I said is to be applied if he genuinely was dating you, took time away to analyze the relationship with you and came back with serious intentions of a committed relationship offer. However; if you want that relationship he is offering, the ball is on your court at that point to set ground rules on him not acting these ways with you through the course of your relationship with him; and more importantly following through on the consequences he will face. Let's also keep in mind the process in which they fall in love... After all the courting and promising sunsets and fairies, only after, when you are interested in them and they realize you are, that is when they "stop to think",.... "Oh wow, the chase and hunt is over, I got her now, but do I even want anything serious with her???" At first it's attraction, courting, chasing, hunting... but once they've "got you" on the hook is when they really can't beleive it and start considering if they actually want anything serious with youvat all versus the others they may have been doing the same with.
@@LisAndi1111 thanks so much again. Your analysis is unbelievable, are u a man or woman? He's now no-sound again though I saw him active on FB and IG. Maybe I think too much about commitment, commitment doesnt mean much to many guys anyway... I've been alone for 20 years, I started out so hopeful and excited over dating and relationships has long been gone. No matter what I do, I cant find back that hopes and excitement. What about your dating life?
So true as soon as I got into disagreements with him he ran away! What if he speaks about his exes and how he hurt them or they now hate him?? is that revealing deal breakers?
I'm not really convinced of the meaning you give to the 5th sign... My date told me of his food issue very early too, but it was just to assure there was none of that in the dinner I invited him to
Some actually tell you "dealbreakers" early on to dissuade you from considering them seriously and try to see how far they can go with you. Be careful. Agree, depends on each situation. Not all are the same.
lol even whn ur in a committed relationship/s it seems like I get, out of the woodworks, more ppl asking me out ,sending their nudes that U cant unsee having to explain it like u asked for it lol and then they ask what do u think? Lol o and they’re determined bc when I block em they seem to somehow re add me without me knowing lol #semihottgirlproblems (if that makes sense lol)
Thank you for your advice and informations., being in a long distance there was no pet involved, but all other things were done, very early on too. but its so difficult anyway. Its like you need a degree in relationship to can enter one and survive it. And nothing prepares you for what is coming, not even life experiences.. its always hard and difficult. Why? its like the bar is set higher and higher for each one.. starting better and better, being better and better more and more satisfying, but then the problems being more and more complex and difficult to fathom.... i need a love break: Lots of love, no problems, for a few weeks, please..
Awww That’s awesome Me & my man of 4 yrs now have 2 Dobermans , a red & rust 3 yr old female & a 12 wk old black & rust male pup , we just adopted at 6 wks old that was tough but thankfully he is a very smart Dobie & everyday it’s getting easier for us ....I already have him housebroken & obeys commands ,even knows tricks as well & it blows my mind How super smart he really is !!! He is a very good puppy ,so basically the Dobermans are like our own children I call them our fur babies & he spoiles them Rotten ,if something happened & we had to break up I would get custody of the dogs ... He never had any children or dogs before but I on the other hand have had two boys that are older grown man now with their own lives & have also raised and breed German Dobermans for over 25 years with my ex of 23 yrs lol
Jason....I have pet 🐝 Bee's with my..... guy! Seriously! They produce sweet honey...and yummy Bee's wax! But if you get to common with them they will Sting the Hell out of you! We love our furry friends! But we have (learned) that we can't get to (comfortable)... with them. Like people tend to do in relationships!
