4 regrets from my early 20s 

Every line was meaningful and true.

I am turning 20 and doing a decent job but My father is an alcoholic, I want to get rid of him. I love my mom but she stays with him just like a babysitter and she also want to leave him I think I am going to leave them alone but my mom is not letting me go What should I do?

@@vanarqwq3660 There's only so much you can do to help others. As hard as it is, sometimes it comes to going on your own path and taking responsibility for yourself. There will always be a way out, just gotta find it.

Hinduism is very deep because it also gave birth to oldest indus valley civilization once you start learning you will find it "sanatana Dharma" . 🙏 If you have time just try it many in the world are facinated by our indian culture architecture , medicine , science and our spirituality there are certain places in India where you can feel heavy cosmic energy once you focus now if you are wicked minded that won't happen with you.you will never be able to experience this on other place

All four great points, Especially when it comes to dating. Fellas, as a 30 year old now things didn’t start to click for me until 25 partly because I wasn’t putting myself out there, being assertive, learning game and willing to fail so I could learn from my mistakes. I was waiting for things to happen rather then taking action myself. Dating when you’re older does actually get easier for men because we care more for ourselves, have more personality and experiences to share etc…

True is important to date like a beast

thank you so much 🙏🏻🙏🏻

I disagree on the third one a bit.

@@JK-cj3qe his regrets are his own, not applicable to most

Lol same here

Same here man just turned 23 and idk wtf I'm doing

Welcome to the club

Same. I’m 23. Got a degree in biology. Still broke af and lost

We should make a group and call ourselves "Lost 23 y/o's"

Like?

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well hit 30s and discover it yourself

@@elperroreggae no nigga, im tryna know now at 19!!

You mean to say, don't think you have to be a high achiever in your early days.

Repent and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost

@@SoldierOfGodKJV ne seri

This was awesome dude

@@SoldierOfGodKJV this

This is 100% me. I turned 25 in June I’m in the same place. I’m working towards my goals, know what I want, and all that self doubt and anxiety that I had from 20-23/24 is GONE

I guess we're three now. Hope you're doing well guys :)

Me too .i never even had a girlfriend ever.

I am turning 20 and doing a decent job but My father is an alcoholic, I want to get rid of him. I love my mom but she stays with him just like a babysitter and she also want to leave him I think I am going to leave them alone but my mom is not letting me go What should I do?

Same feeling brother

And it also talks about season of life, season to grow and season to reap,

Keep going , bro . Have faith . You ll make it 😇

yooo dude what part in the bible is that? that's sick I wanna check that out is that on proverbs?? pls tell me if u know thanks!

@@johnclemmy7909 proverbs 27:17

Here's another one, out of my own pseudo-religous texts: Hávamál; Stanza 47 "I was once young, I was journeying alone, and lost my way; rich I thought myself, when I met another. Man is the joy of man" Never go through life alone. It is a heavy burden. You should always try to make friends and take joy in what you can but never over-indulge as well.

One of the best comments I’ve ever read 👏 ty

Do your best and achieve the goals you desire

Tough stuff, thank you for sharing your story, I wish you the best

What did you tell therapist that you want therapy for?i am kinda embarrassed to go into therapy.

@@PookieNarc119 well, you start off by telling them about the ins and outs of your depression and anxieties. How badly you want or dont want to die, how little motivation you may have, how scared you are of social situations. They usually ask a lot of questions to start off getting to know you. From their they explore your mind deeper, figuring out why thought patterns are the way they are and how to fix them. I told my therapist all about my suicidal thoughts and anxieties, from there we searched into my past as to why I felt that why. Alot of it had to do with my upbringing and dealing with my "inner child", meaning the kid I used to be didnt get told he was loved or valued and needed to hear it some where. At first I withheld some information from my therapist, stuff I was super embarassed about and told myself I would tell nobody about it. After reading a book about chronic illness saying that it could be mental problems masking themselves as physical ones I decided to open up. I ended writing a 6 page paper detailing everything I hadnt told her and was ashamed of. She said everything I told her was normal and nothing to be ashamed of. The biggest thing with therapy is to just be honest about everything they ask. You may not find a good therapist at first so dont mind switching if you have to. I was lucky enough to get a great therapist for my first one

Same

I already have a girlfriend 😂😂

does being 24 count as early 20s?

@@Ali-dk6lz yes

@@tatendazata great for you bro

@@obfuscated9943 makes you?

@@ajithv5540 appreciate

Buy the bank

same 😀

I am turning 20 and doing a decent job but My father is an alcoholic, I want to get rid of him. I love my mom but she stays with him just like a babysitter and she also want to leave him I think I am going to leave them alone but my mom is not letting me go What should I do?

same same, cheers to being uncomfortable and "happy" (having a damn schedule, lol)

same but im 23

What do you mean by the illusions of social media..how did that stop you from making friends?

I wasted my early teens not making friends as well, but I spent a lots of time with my parents.

@@frog6054 I think its ok if you don't have to many friends, like maybe 2-3 good friends and that's it. I think you would be fucked if you didn't have any friends at all, that seems kind of scary.

I'm 20 And kinda feel the same

Yeah i used tinder when i was 19. Looking back i realized it was such a waste of time, texting, talking to girls, going to dates and ultimately all of it going nowhere. I appreciate the experience it gave me, because now i know i shouldnt make dating a big priority in my life

You don't have to, if you follow this simple advice: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-NbTHpoA030w.html

there is nothing wrong with being social and flirting with girls and expressing your masculine desires. I dont know what his problem is. How do u expect to learn dating if u just wait for 5 years and then start from zero. I didnt get his point. I mean sure it might get easier with time, but that doesnt mean it sorts itself out lmao. Some people have a lot of self-development to do which is only done through experiences that teach u ur faults and limiting beliefs.

I am turning 20 and doing a decent job but My father is an alcoholic, I want to get rid of him. I love my mom but she stays with him just like a babysitter and she also want to leave him I think I am going to leave them alone but my mom is not letting me go What should I do?

I totally understand how you feel.

Totally get how you feel man😭. And that sinking feeling like your going to make a huge mistake or future regret that you can't control. I am so scared to turn into an old cynical lady with 100 of cats, who does not enjoy or grateful for the live she lives😂. Take it easy okay. Breathe, and try to be kinder to yourself on the decisions you make. Sending love and support from here🤗💙. You've got it.

I feel you brotha as I never partied or hanged out with my friends a whole lot in my highschool years because I was so focused on my schooling I kind of wished I had done it more then. I'm only 20 myself but I feel you in your statement.

I can relate a lot, it used to be exactly like that for me at the end of high school, I felt so much remorse looking back and there were so many possibilities for my future and so little guidance on what was the "right" thing to do. However, I do believe that if you just think a bit and pick one path and start walking down it, no matter which one you picked, that's still going to be so much better than not choosing anything at all. No individual choice is worse than not choosing at all, so you might as well pick one even if you're not fully sure about it and go for it. You'll learn along the way if you like it or not and you'll be able to consciously adjust your path along the way. There's great videos from J.Peterson on RU-vid about that, I recommend you should watch a couple. Also, maybe you messed up in your past. Maybe you truly did and maybe doing things differently would have been just strictly better and you will never have a chance to truly make up for that. But even then, it's better to try to learn something from it and move on than to mess up even further due to indecision. These are just my 2 cent, it took me a while to get to those conclusions and I hope they might be helpful or at least thought-provoking for you. Best of luck

@@lucaimeneo6202 thanks luca. very helpful to read that ✨✨

Did you pursue a degree to achieve that, and what kind of job (e.g. what languages) did you land?

@@tyrantula767 I think you've spooked me away from programming, more than anything. The most I could stomach is a Bachelor's degree, not a Masters or PhD. My previous schedule had me doing programming as a minor, and since I've been struggling with the major, I've been looking to see how programming has been for other people. I already know the basics of web development because I've done it in my spare time. My programming course on the side of my major has had me learning C++. I picked it up pretty well, but I can see how it's only going to get harder from here. Classes were one thing that was quite hard for me to get a handle on, in the context of my course. Thanks for the comments, I'll keep them in mind. My plans are in flux at the moment, but it's nice to hear how others are are handling their chosen majors.

@@Slavolko It’s mainly the more complicated coding fields that require graduate degree like Machine Learning or Data Science. Theoretically speaking, you could use what know to land a job in web development and be getting paid while gaining experience. Then, while imployed, you could be learning more languages and technologies. That way, you can move into a more complex coding career and your experience as a web dev will count to the recruiters more than a degree, because it shows that you have industry experience coding. C++ is one of the harder languages to learn, so kudos to you. I only know Python at the moment and am learning html, css, JavaScript, MySQL, and php. Once I get a coding job, I may learn java or c# to get a higher paying software engineering job because many of the corporations that offer high wages for software engineers use languages like java and c# for their back end infrastructure.

@@tyrantula767 Well hopefully that means I wouldn't need anything more than a Bachelors for normal degrees like IT or CS. Not even sure what IT is, but it seems like the thing all the non-tech savvy people swarm towards. Machine learning is cool to use, but I don't want to be the one developing it. I don't know where I'd be able to land a job with my current basic web dev skills, besides small gigs online. Frankly I don't trust myself to make a website for someone else because of the difficulties I've encountered with my own work. Javascript libraries and all that. Regardless, good luck with your learning and career prospects.

@@tyrantula767 I was looking to get a job in web dev as well, my main worry is they would want fresh graduates to work on site. I have an associate's in computer science, is there a good amount of web dev jobs that are remote?

I agree, I think this example works well pertaining to himself and other creatives. For example, he always wanted to be in the entertainment industry so I believe this advice is perfect for people who feel the same way. However for those of us that are intrigued by the corporate world this advice doesn’t really apply. I only agree with points 2 and 4 fully(partially point 1). I partially agree with part 1 only in the sense that as a man your “true value” starts to occur at 25 so you shouldn’t really feel bad or beat yourself up about not being “superman” at 23 e.g. about no having a job or a car or not getting the type of girls you’re interested in. At this point in like up (20-25) you should be working on yourself. I agree with point 2 because I feel the world is evolving before our eyes and we shouldn’t allow the world to evolve without us. Point 4 is something I’m beginning to realise, your parents aren’t here forever and one should take active steps to consciously spend time with their parents as not only may they pick up on certain wisdom but they will also receive good advice and great company(depending on the relationship with ones parents)

Lawyer requires college degree.and you went to college for free. that's the difference. Kids these days get into 50k debt to " find their purpose "

Same here. I never been in relationship before, i was tried to dating, but i relize i have to focus on my self

Even on high school I could never get myself to date someone but turn out I don't miss out on anything . Like shindbad said ,maybe I just wasn't ready anyway . Better improvise yourself

I was lucky to have a powerful mindful father I didn’t chase women at 23 I’m good I developed and improved myself m but am starting to have a strong want for it

Would you be able to elaborate on some of those mistakes.

Good luck my man! Same story here

I was thinking the same thing too, like when you are lit fucked over and think it happened for a reason when you lit know all the reasons yourself.

I think it’s true / I think women are on different timelines, and perhaps end their student phase of life at 22. It’s not fair, as men end up getting more time, but - I think this might be a trope.

@@CaptainSinbad Usually men look better as we age, you said it yourself, there isn't really a trope unless you compare it to the percentages, then in that case, there could always be a trope.

I don't blame you on feeling that stress, as I guy I feel better about my looks as guys tend to look better as they age alittle more into their late 20s/30s and women kind of get hit the fan around 30 sometimes and up and generally don't age to well.

@@THEINFERNOKID men do not get better with age. Men look horrible after 25/20s. Because they don’t take care of themselves and seem to slack when it comes to their weight and physical appearance

Thankyou 🌼

Yea one of the many things I hate about being young is the fact that no one values or cares for your opinion, and that people give you zero respect just because you are a young person. People talk to you better and respect you more the older you get which irritates the fuck out of me because that makes me want to be just older in order to gain that respect.

Yea it's bs if you got a babyface like me. Luckily im kinda tall which kinda counteracts the face, but appearances definitely do affect your career.

Well, that's a bunch of good luck right there :)

That’s a leader right there

@@abhisheksharma2138 was gonna say meeting your gf in college was a bunch of good luck consdering the one I went too they were all in their own groups or middle aged Karens with kids.

STFU

@@MrAshu-mx4dh dam bro😂

Same, I have abit of short term memory loss so I tend to forget what I am going to say alot and tend to cut off people when they are talking or Ill lit forget what I wanted to say.

Gud luck to you 🌼 and I'm sorry for your loss

@@itsofficialyou7014 thanks so much.

Every indian I think is confused

@@sunnyarora3557 Nobody is not confused at some point in life. I am yet to come accross a person who had it all sorted out from start to finish. Have a good day! :)

Practice meditation and hear classic Indian relaxing music

@@retrogamer3775 ^ second that

Damn congrats bro how did you get into uni at 25? Is this your first time getting into uni?

How you did it? Can you spot a light more in it. Thanks.

@@samreplete1842 His age, look at em. He's a fairly good looking guy and he's older. There is this girl who I was dating months ago who i didn't even really try to get with until she was basically stalking me at the gym, then I finally approached her and we went out. She admitted to me that she was attracted to only me the second she saw me and that is what really caught her eye. I'm only 20 and this girl is 27, she thought I looked much older until I told her my age. The point is, is that aging for a guy can really help you find a mate considering I feel the majority of women would rather date an older guy anyway.

@@THEINFERNOKID why you think so girls will date older guy however in your cause the tables are opposite?

@@samreplete1842 Not sure if this is a legit question or not. This was only for one girl so I guess you could say luck.

@Sam Replete It's just maturity man. You just know so much after early twenty. Experience, youre less trying to prove yourself and got that teenage angst completely out of the way. Just the vibe of a man after like 25 is fundamentally different. You also have been working for some time, know how to get things moving.