Does it apply to all men when you say man prefers older woman? I'm 51 and he is 39. I look like I'm in my 30s and he thinks I am one. We do not feel any age gap though.
My grandma was 41 when she married my grandfather. He was 25. It was his first marriage and he was her fourth. Her marriages to other (older) men didn't last long but she and my grandfather lasted a lifetime.
That is awesome. The most honest relationship I had in my life was with a 37-39 year old when I was 21-23. Twenty years later and I think about her everyday. It was my fault that it ended. I went back to my ex girlfriend before her. But, I was a wild 23 year old. And that’s a story for another day.
@@jpmnky Today is another day. I want to know more… 😃 Do you know how she went on with her life ? Did you hear something about her ? She must be nearly 60 now. And you, did you stay with your ex ?
I’ve been talking to an older woman I’m 35 and she’s in her late 40s but our chemistry and the vibes are so amazing! I can’t get enough of her she’s such a great person I’m definitely falling for her in every way!
U guys need to be real, see what u want from this relationship if it happens. Find out what she wants, then go from there , but u have to be honest from the start to avoid bitterness and regret later on .. good luck
I am finally talking to my Crush who I wanted n needed for the last 4 years.. She was dating my friend and it hurt me... They both know how I felt about her.... And here we are 4 years later now starting our story...... HAPPY COUPLING PEOPLE .
Amen to this! I found my best friend, soul mate, & partner all wrapped into one. We have a 19 year age difference and not once did he ever tell me it was an issue or concern but like the rest of these comments, it's all about the love and connection one has with their partner. I can't imagine life without my best friend.
I love this video. I have been with my husband for 32 years, married for over 30. He is 53 and I am 67. He is the best husband, friend, and lover. He was just 21 and I was celebrating my 34 th birthday when we met. We have been together pretty much every day since then. We have 1 son. This is the most sincere, loving and happiest relationship I have ever had.
That’s inspiring, I’m 32 and worried about going out with the 20 yo I’ve been talking to, but I feel like it’s just society stressing me out haha. He grew up on a farm and actually has more life skills than me in certain areas 😂
@@ProdavackaDivu I'm now 32 yrs old and my love² is 20 yrs old we're both happy but we still keep our relationship to his family because they don't like our age gap
I am 53 and my man is 29.We have been together for 5years and we are still going on strong.Introduced me to his parents on our second week of dating!Planning to get married soon.
@@jonutnut age doesn't matter. The person does. Assess them like you would anyone else. They are just as likely as a man your own age to ghost you or just use you.
Congratulations. I am 63 and I met a 23 year old young man who loves me and I tell him that the age difference scares me, but he tells me he finds me so attractive and even sexy. He wants to marry me and refers to me as his wife already. What advice do you have for us if you you be so kind
I am 30 and went out on a date with a 44 year old woman, and had the best time ever. We already set plans to go out again, really looking forward to. She is really awesome and so much fun to talk to and be with.
Vic T I’m 55 and met a 43 year old guy 2 months ago. He’s been pursuing me every since he said hello to me. At first it was awkward as I thought he was not really serious. But he makes a point to contact me daily and plans dates. Honestly, while I’m enjoying the the attention, I know he can find a woman closer to his age. I can’t figure out why he’s interested in a woman 12 years his senior, but I’m rolling with it.
@@papoopa5800 let's hear why he'd be doing an injustice . I have guys in their 20s that hit on me all the time. I'm in way better shape than little girls half my age , am not a gold digger , and dont need a man. I've taught the younger generation for years , and quite frankly , I dont blame younger guys one bit for dating older women. Arm candy means nothing to a real man , and let's face it, with today's technology it's easy to look great at ALL ages. No one can believe my age .
There are 14 years between my partner and me, we have been together for just over 38 years...still going strong, even though I am 70 years young now ....
What attracts men is Confidence! In a healthy relationship, a man does not want to babysit his lady! Be confident in your feminine energy. I like that Matt😊
Julianna Milin ,,, I am so glad I watched this video and read the comments!! I am 46 and get chased by guys as young as their early 20’s all the time 😳 a few months ago I actually found out that a 19 year old friend of the family was interested in me 😱 I’d never heard of this, so very glad you are in the same situation 👍🏼
Julianna Milin I will take your advice and just roll with it too ☺️ before this video I used to literally be feeling ‘why me, when I’m old enough to be your mother’... but I need to learn to just be flattered and accept it 🤷🏻♀️
There’s a women I’m talking to. She’s 36 I’m 23. I’ve known her thru my best friend I work with for only about a year. But I’m so comfortable around her, I can talk to her about anything and everything. She was my first kiss that literally happened 2 months ago. And she was the one that asked me if I’ve ever had my first kiss. She’s an amazing women. Very attractive, and has her shit together. I’ve dropped hints, but she’s told me I’m a great guy but it’s definitely not like that between me and her. She’s been screwed over by so many guys that don’t see her worth and her beauty like I do. And she doesn’t realize I don’t think. I asked her out on a “teaching/learning” date to let me know of the do’s and dont’s, but she doesn’t know I’ve told her a little fib, cuz I know that’s the only way I could get her and I alone, it’s actually a real date between me and her and I’m just gonna be open to her about the way I feel. And see where it goes! 💕
It didn’t go good at all! She didn’t talk to me for nearly 2 weeks. We are just now back to talking as friends and have let her know it took me too long to realize our friendship meant more than for me to keep trying and eventually push her so far away we aren’t friends anymore. It is what it is I guess! 🤷♂️
@@polarbear_4.045 oh she’s not into young men I guess. She kissed you, because she wanna know what it feels like kissing you or feel your kiss but that’s it. That kiss absolutely means nothing to her.
Im 26 PhD student. Met the love of my life she is 39 and PhD student too. We look physically like we are in our early 30s. We are mentally and physically attracted to each other and have similar life goals.
I am 57 years old and my husband is 45 years old. We have been together for 18 years. When I first met him I was very concerned that the age might be a problem at some point, however, as of today our age has never been a problem. I have six children from a previous marriage that my husband has always consider them all his very own. He is an incredibly amazing man. He was 26 years old when I met him and I was 38 with six children. Age really is just a number.
I love your comment about older women letting a man show his masculinity without feeling threatened by his woman. I love it when men hold a door open for me, carry something heavy, or protect me in some way - just plain act like a man. Too often, young women these days get insulted if a man makes even the smallest masculine gesture. These women turn everything into a feminist manifesto about how she doesn't need this or that from her man. It's one of the reasons why so many.men get turned off from relationships.
There can be several reasons why younger men date older women: straightforwardness, not playing games or cheating, narrating stories and tales, confidence and motherliness are some of them.
Ok now tell me honestly…would you be with a woman who’s THIRTY years older??? Because I have feelings for a man who’s 19 when I’m 49..please be honest and justify
@@shuyung1 yes I would and I actually have been before. Dated my mom's friend when I was 18 and she was 47. I love older women so much, they have a different appeal than women my that just gets me going 😊
@@shuyung1 yeah Im 35 now and I wouldnt date a 65 year old although I had a holiday affair with a 63 year old when I was 28, so probably yes, but don't count on it to last very long (although I sometimes miss her). but ok she was really good looking and in good shape, not some average granny, for that age she was a 9 out of 10
Mat Shaffer , I’m learning to live in the moment and enjoy it without hoping, wondering, pushing about a “future “. I fully support his space. One more , “best part”. It’s effortless, comfortable and it flows. It has to feel natural and when it does, it’s magical. Thank you for the video. ❤️
I love reading so many comments I can relate to. My sweetie is just shy of 15 years younger then me and we love each other dearly. He is extremely kind, patient and tender. He is a great listener and we laugh together more then we don't.
As younger man engaged with someone who is 11 years older than I am, This is SPOT ON! The connection and the companionship is all there and it's Easy! Never have I had an easier time with women around my age. Communication just happens. No need for weird mental mind tricks or the suspenseful guess game. It feels rather secure as you've mentioned.
I just turned 41 & he just turned 28! It's been an awesome 6 months thus far lol. I have a son that's 22 & a daughter 17. It's definitely odd for me but I'm happier then I've ever been when I'm with him! 🥰
So true! I’m 43 & for many years there’s been significant attraction between myself and various younger men. The main issue I’ve run into with the few that I’ve dated is that it can be difficult to relate to the level of life experiences that I’ve had and sometimes that can create a barrier. I know there are younger men who are grown enough mentally and emotionally that it wouldn’t be an issue and remain open to the possibilities without restricting myself with various age differences ❤
I am 30. Single. As I get older still, I am intrigued by older women still. My first actual experience with an older woman was when I was 25 and she was 43. Best experience ever!
I first figured out I wanted an older partner when I was a freshman and sophomore in high school, 10 years ago. I was 15 at the time and a teacher of mine was 23 or so. That age gap was huge, too huge for me but it showed me how secure she was and how comfortable I could feel around her, we connected almost immediately as friends not just as student and teacher. Not to mention she's good looking, I'll remember her as someone I looked up to, especially while dealing with struggles both of those years. Unfortunately we of course had to cut ties once I graduated but those memories will always be with me.
I love your thinking but i recently rejected a 39 yr old man because as i am in my early 50’s i am concerned that even though he is smitten with me now, later on when he craves to have his own children, i wont be able to give him that. Heartbreak down the road. I cant get past that thinking. I have my adult kids. I have satisfied that need but when his mid life crisis hits, he will grow to despise me when he misses out on that wonderful part of life
mmhm if kids are important to him I can see where you're coming from, but be careful not to project down the road and disqualify yourself from a potentially powerful connection with someone
Totally agree Mat. I dated a man 20 years younger than me for years and the age difference was never an issue. Unfortunately the cultural differences were.
You’re so right. My boyfriend of almost 3 years is almost 10 years younger. He’s actually very mature and on a mental level he surpasses me... not by much though but this is very true!
I'm 10 years older than my bf. We've been together five years so far and we're still very happy and say "I love you" every single day. We're constantly showing our appreciation for each other. I think that's why younger men like to date older women. We're usually way more appreciative and respectful. I feel lucky to be with him.
I'm 9 years older than my hubby. We were great friends for about 20 years and throughout our friendship had no clue that we would be husband and wife. Funny how some of our friends knew we would have gotten married
Believe it or not, not every older woman has more life experience than a younger man. I may not know everything that I want, but I know certain things that I don't want, and I definitely don't want a man who won't respect me for who I am.
So...most of this comes down to being WISER and having life experiences that younger women do not. Also, older women are more confident in who they are, they love themselves and don't feel the need to twist themselves into someone they are NOT to impress a man, any man.
I am the older woman. I’m 70 and most of the men I date are significantly younger than me. Men my age rarely even look at me. My bf of 24 years was 14 years younger than me. He passed away when he was 49. Since then it is what I’m used to. Until I started dating again I’d never made love with a man older than 49. Just had a meet and greet with a man this morning. He’s 50. It went very well and he’s already asked me out to dinner and trivia ( I love to play and usually beat the rest of the house).
You say men get tired of having the carry the relationship with younger women. As an older woman, well even as a younger one, I've almost always felt I had to carry the conversations with most men. That's one of the many reasons I've pretty much given up on men. The vast majority have difficulty leading. I'm a dominant women, but I'd much rather the man lead. But, if he doesn't, I will. That just ruins for me. I want a secure, masculine man. So hard to find. I'm open to younger men because they're the ones that hit on me, but most, even those over 40 still have a lot of growing up to do. Sadly.
So trut. Why cant everything just flows..conversations spark connection n everything else. Why do we have to try hard to carry it forward? Relationship are Very complicated
Hi Matt. I’m 51 and my best friend is 35 . And honestly I get along pretty much better with him than with a friend I have of my age in all aspects of a relationship. It flows naturally and he loves how passionate I am and to hear my stories . We can talk for hours . Thanks for your advise. Much love
Date older women they’ll always remind you on a daily basis how old you are..:-/ personal experience. The more experience thing in bed is debatable.”Because they already know what they want” there’s so many things they won’t do or are not open to doing.But in the most obvious on his perspective ..they are the best partners. Because nine times out of 10 they are not into the superficial perspectives of the world and more humble.
I am 26 year old that is with a 47 year old woman. She's cooperative, feminine and communicative. She knows what she wants and she doesn't play games. Neither one of us want marriage or kids. She has a kid of her own but doesn't need a father figure for her kid. Just wants me for fun times and good memories. That is chemistry right there.
Thanks Mat for this awesome video! I am 17 yrs older than my man.....im 62 & he's 45! When we're together, we feel so compatible. I used to feel a little insecure but he always makes me feel so beautiful & sexy about myself. I just do my very best to take care of myself so I can always feel confident. It has become a lifestyle, not a struggle....& After 5yrs, I don't even think about my age anymore. He has always been kind and gentle. As you said..." I will never let my age be a limiting factor!" 🏹💕
My ex is 14 yrs younger. Im currently seeing Chris (same name as my ex haha), and new Chris is 20 yrs younger. I’m 49, he’s 29. The first meet up was a magical evening. Never thought I’d click that much with someone who seems like a male version of me. He can be a model as in super hot and stable to boot! Younger women look at us with that LOOK.... oh lord.... he was just proud holding my hand that night and was so sweet. Imma continue seeing him. Thanks for this video!!
@@Conservative_carnivore Not all men are the same. He has proved himself to me in the weeks since i posted that. In fact Natty Patty, we are getting married!!
Thank you for doing a video about this, it is so spot on! I recently went out on a first date with a professional rugby player who is 14 years younger, I look a lot younger than my actual age 😂 Unfortunately he had to travel back to his country the very next day but we continue to talk all the time. When I found out his age I tried pushing him away and he called me out on it and told me that the age gap didn’t make a difference to him bc he didn’t remember the last time he had connected with anyone like we did. So what you say about having that connection overriding age difference is so spot on. In many ways I have found him to be so much more mature than men who are older than me and I love that he surprises me in so many ways. I really appreciate videos like this bc not long ago I watched a “well known relationship expert” do a video on this same subject matter and he dissuaded a younger man from dating an older woman, completely dismissing the fact that they had a true connection and brushed it off as “it’s just not a good idea/goes against nature” simply bc the woman was older. So thank you for bringing attention to this topic and treating it with such respect! 🙌
Thanks Matt for talking about this topic❣ I've always dated men younger than me and I still do, it just happened that way. Somehow they are drawn to me and I'm drawn to them. I often feel that they are more emancipated, more fun, more open-minded and more alive than men older than me. I also asked some of them why they like dating older woman and they pretty much said the same things as you Matt😊😉And ladies, take it from me, dating a younger guy is the best anti-aging treatment!!!😀🥰
This really did help. Sometimes when I’m in public, I observe people when sitting somewhere and looking around. I’ve noticed that most masculine macho guys are with older women. Not just average slim men, but a very much of a manly man with an older woman.
So I just started a relationship with a man who is thirteen years younger than me! I asked my daughter and her husband about finding me a guy and when they said his name my heart leapt out of my chest! I asked him he said yes and omg! I’m falling quickly and so happy I’m even taking things slower than I normally would! He’s seeming to be my Twin Flame. Can he be any more perfect for me? Not a moment of the day I don’t think of him! Things I want to do with him like shopping, camping, races, movies whatever! Thing is I was feeling down yesterday and he asked me if I was ok! Not a one of my ex’s except my first husband would have asked me what was wrong! I have never had that before! Yup I am falling hard!
Love that you dispelled that myth! I have always dated younger men. (Just the way it always works out.) Plus, they never believe me when I DO tell them how old I am. Lol.
I loved this Matt. Finally someone mentioned the masculine/feminine pull. It's very very true. I see it with my lion!! We 100% have this romantic dance...but it took me at least 7 months to stop being afraid of him. The idea of cougar, sugar mommas and mommy issues play a massive role in our society. But for me it was if he ends up loving me and I cannot give him children that would break my heart!! As you already know from my bazillion comments He leads I follow and it's still exciting even after a year...it's better actually!!! Ahhhh his masculinity needs my femininity!!
Geneva Livingstone I have a luv a lot older than myself. I cry I won’t be able to give him children. He said I have all the time later for that. Now... all I want is YOU!!!😀
Geneva Livingstone Yes, true. I'm very spiritual and new age too; and I really liked when Matt mentioned this. I stumbled on Matt's video and channel today - Liked and Subscribed!☺
Thanks for your video you really made my day! I’m 52 in age but feel 25 in heart, however because of my age I thought finding a soul mate could be very hard but now you and the comments proved it that there could be so many potential soul mates out there for me 😊. All I need to do is just to open my heart ❣so God will send a man- even younger- who deserves my love.
Jesus i think i'am falling for a guy 14 years younger than me. He is the only guy who has tried to get to know me. I want to get to know him more. The chemistry is out of this world 🌶️!
I went on a date with a 19 year old and I'm 35. It was the most fun I've had in years. I feel kind of guilty becauee he is so young. But it made me so happy.
@@Mat_Shaffer hey, I really love this show , very interesting it's reality no matter how people can deny but is reality , please if is any man looking for a good woman , a good relationship long term relationship pls don't hesitate I'm available , South Africa
Im 30 years old and i like a 50 year old and everytime i see her i get butterflies and she makes me blush and i thibk she's really attractive and had a nice personality.
I have a much younger man in my life. We have such a connection... right from the start. We joke if I had an older man, I may end up looking after him, my younger guy says you have me, I will look after you now!!!!! Love that. Matt you made me feel better!!! Iv had a problem with our age difference, you just dispelled my fears. Thank you, again.
men definitely have a tougher time communicating around relationship and intimacy :) also, this is primarily a channel for women, only like 3% of my audience is men haha
Its finally about us senior women. Older men have married young girls for as long as i can remember and very little critisism. But an older woman in a relationship with a young man gets mountains of it. Age doesnt matter. Its whats inside the individual.
My hubby was 16 years my junior. From the time we met we had fun. He looked after me in every way possible until he died aged 52 years, 11 years after we met.
I've dated 20 years younger and 50 years older. It's all about connection and maturity...but IMO older men tend to know how to treat a woman better. Finding that younger mature guy that has it together would be gold.
@@Mat_Shaffer I'm sure they are out there...but they can't replace the experience of an older man. It might be just my case...but every date I go on with the younger guy seems worse than the one before. I won't totally discard the younger guy...but hard to find one who is genuine & has his life on point. I do find as I get older I'm less tolerant. Older men who have been there done that seem to intuitively know how to appreciate and treat a woman.
Be an asset for this type of woman doesn't be a problem. She is done with those types of people. She already knows how to be alone and is not scaring. This guy is telling the true...
I’m 69 and I do get a lot of attention from men in their 40s and 50s. However, they don’t want to date me they just want to go to bed with me. I want a real multifaceted relationship. I don’t want to be anyone’s secret toy. I’m attractive full figured smart and funny. I have more to offer than just sex.
We have to set boundaries. If a man is really interested he'll respect them no matter what age women happen to be. I'm 66 and dissing a guy in his 50's because of this. He kept pushing boundaries and I don't have time for games!
I came to your channel because of a nice younger man is attracted to me, and I feel insecure about being older. Love your other video's as well. Thank you!
I think you are absolutely right. I am an older woman and I find that many younger men are attracted to me for those reasons. I can also look back to when I was young and I wouldn't talk, I was shy and uptight and really I know I am a lot more fun to be with now than I was then.
My fiance and i have been together for two (2) years, hes 50 and i am 63, we love each other dearly, sincerely and truthfully. He treats me like his queen always, the things that he says, the way he looks and talks to me, and they way that he makes love to me. Soon we will marry and live forever in love.💋
I’m 50 and my bf is 31. We have an amazing soul connection and love each other immensely. We have the best conversations and it feels like we are the same age. I would marry him if he asked but I know he wants kids some day. Couldn’t imagine not being with him.
My boyfriend is 17 years younger than me, I've turned 60,he'll be 44. He's an American, I'm German we still live in an long distance relationship. I was afraid of it but I'm super happy with it. The chemistry between us is perfect. We laugh a lot together and have great conversations. His two kids and his mother accepted me fully.
@@Angela-bo8qm Hi :) Well you look very charming so I was hoping that we could maybe chat. :) I am Marin from Croatia and I'm 28. You mentioned you are German so that is really interesting :) btw I prefer mature women :)
My late husband was 6 years younger (married 25 years) , then the next person I dated 25 years younger and my current Fiance is 8 years younger. Your commentary is spot on.
Wow!!!! You just made me feel better. My luv is a lot younger than I am. It has bothered me so much. He tells me constantly age is just an number. You have relieved me. Thank you Matt💙
Thanks for this video Mat! A 30 years old single decent good looking guy said that he likes me, that he likes my personality and my body. I tried to discouraged him every now and then so he will stop the communication. I'm kinda worried because I know I'll fall for him anytime if I let myself to. We met in person twice and the connection is so amazing. He's job and business is doing well while me is a single parent of 3 that works in just a little above min wage and I'm 45yo.
