4 things all great listeners know

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Dig into different strategies that can improve your listening skills so you can become a high quality listener.
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It’s easy to tell when someone’s not paying attention, but it can be surprisingly tricky to know what good listening looks like. Good listening is one of the most important things we can do to improve our relationships, develop our worldview, and potentially change people’s minds. So what can we do to become better listeners? Dig into different strategies that can improve your listening skills.
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@muhammedmayer3988 Год назад

Listening to others with sincere interest rather than talking about yourself actually makes them like you a lot more.

@themanwithaplan5425 Год назад

And in my personal experience, it also works the other way around.

@TheWanderstar Год назад

As an introvert, this works wonders, I have made all my friends using this exact method, I ask them about a particular question, throwing in a clarifying question in between and giving only short descriptions for my experiences and opinions. People *want* to talk to me now, because I'm such a good listener. It really helps with my insecurities.

@gradientO Год назад

Well, someone gotta speak about themselves so that you which you can listen to it. Both can't listen lol

@muhammedmayer3988 Год назад

@@gradientO a majority likes talking about themselves which is the reason behind my statement, and yeah the things fluctuate but it's just a median of expectations

@flamingaish Год назад

yep, people love talking about themselves

@playpower7632 Год назад

1. Removing any distractions, especially phones 2. Trying not to interrupt, asking open ended questions when in break 3. Focusing on the present moment, asking the other if you miss the details 4. Don’t be afraid of silence, both can use those moments to think a more thoughtful conversation.

@annguerrero9988 Год назад

Thank you!

@brightrrs1740 Год назад

Thanks, I wasn't listening

@briandsouza7854 Год назад

@@brightrrs1740 😂

@emilio_mlx Год назад

@@brightrrs1740 Ironically, I'm not sure OP was either. They heard everything, but I don't know if they listened.

@raptorthegamer5524 Год назад

You seem to have been listening

@david_oliveira71 Год назад

"The power of deeply listening to another person, with full attention, and without judgment or an agenda, is one of the most profoundly healing acts a person can gift to another." - Jennifer Brandel

@brightrrs1740 Год назад

Talking to someone who has no judgement or agenda would be the same as talking to a cat or a wall. And even that is untrue, because cats clearly have agenda. I don't want to sound anti, but even doing deep listening just for the sake of another human is already an agenda. A good one, but yet it is what it is.

@Atulack Год назад

How can power be an act?

@lonestarr1490 Год назад

@@Atulack And if you gift it to someone, does that mean you lose the power?

@tatianaquercia4555 Год назад

@@brightrrs1740 Agenda-free and judgement-free conversations do exist. Clearly the listener must be aware of his or her listening role in the dialogue, or he/she cannot take pride for it. The pride of supporting another human being is the reward you get as a listener.

@brightrrs1740 Год назад

@@tatianaquercia4555 Doing stuff for a reward or for taking pride in it already IS an agenda. And it is impossible to be non-judgmental in a fundamental way, because most of our judgements happen subconsciously and are not under our conscious control. Maybe one can control his judgment or keep it to himself, but one cannot listen without it.

@kingflumph5968 Год назад

I especially vibe with the point about "not just waiting for your turn to talk." There's definitely a difference between a person who is engaging with your words and a person who is giving you space but not engaging you. I'm working on this with my students a lot.

@brightrrs1740 Год назад

In a sense this is very true, in another the "This was important and I have something to add/rebuttal" is a basis for a good conversation; Good listening is somewhat dependent on good talking, and it actually is sometimes unfair to say someone is a bad listener, just because someone spills a novels-worth of stuff, without letting anyone else get to speak. Especially in discussions it can be quite annoying, because some people will make several obviously edgy statements, just to finish with a big one, so you either have to unzip some minutes of talk or let it stand as if you did not disagree with it.

@lobonegro7429 Год назад

😊

@Davidcj2023 11 месяцев назад

Fear #1: “I don’t know what to talk about.” Fact: People remember less of what you say but more of how you make them feel. You can take control of your fear by developing your skill at listening, being genuinely interested in what others have to say. To think about: What kind of friend do you prefer-a chatterbox who always has something to say or someone who is a good listener? Fear #2: “People will think I’m boring.” Fact: People will form opinions about you whether you are shy or not. You can take control of your fear-and help people form a better opinion of you-if you let them see you for who you are. To think about: If you think everyone is judging you negatively, could you be judging them unfairly by assuming the worst?

@dangerfly Год назад

It's very important to determine if someone is looking for advice vs emotional support. People constantly seeking validation can be off-putting to a critical thinker looking to actually help and vice versa.

@LackToast_Intolerant Год назад

I've struggled with people like that before! What helps me is to simply ask if they just want me to listen or if they're open to advice

@WhereDoWeBegin Год назад

Everyone needs to be aware of this skill. Simply being a witness is a powerful thing.

@wancheng89 Год назад

“Help” is subjective to what the other person needs. Often times deep listening helps so much more than advices and suggestions from ppl who are too eager to give them.

@dangerfly Год назад

@@wancheng89 That sounds like emotional support. Echo chambers can provide emotional support, but that doesn't mean they're helpful. Someone can be objectively wrong and also seek help to validate it. Helping them could result in you hurting the other party.

@bonquva Год назад

I feel like its typical for men to do that aswell

@drquix4569 Год назад

Interestingly as a doctor, during medical school we were taught all these things in our courses of how to take a good history from a patient complaining of most symptoms. It's fascinating to see that we were just taught how to be good listeners, and goes to show that being heard solves half the problems even in the medical care sector.

@pimsywimsy Год назад

I’m in my first year of med school and we have a course called Communication Skills in Healthcare, we literally learned these exact same things just now and I had felt that they helped me become a good listener in my daily life too :))

@Nahoko_Satomi Год назад

I want to be taught that too

@rafehkhan7 Год назад

Exactly!

@leandros7662 10 месяцев назад

As a clinician, we were taught that 50% of your diagnoses are formed just by listening to your patient’s problem during history taking.

@landryeteme4984 6 месяцев назад

@@pimsywimsy❤

@linski5920 Год назад

Being a listener all my life, people only like to talk about their stuff rather than listening to someone's. I always pay upmost attention when somebody is talking to me about their things. It's strange to have found out that when I talk to them about me no one really cares. So I decided not to talk about myself and just listen to them whatever they say. Sometimes, a listener needs a listener too.

@MindfulMathHub Год назад

Indeed even a good listener needs a listener too ..🤌

@ruthevans1490 Год назад

Perhaps grab a stranger and pour out your heart. It really helps!

@abbykoop5363 Год назад

I tend to journal. It doesn't try to change my mind, tell me I'm wrong, or switch the conversation to itself. I've been told I'm a good listener, but I also haven't found anyone who compassionately listens to me without trying to "fix" things.

@jinorism Год назад

@@ruthevans1490 i volunteer in case you want to take this up!

@ruthevans1490 Год назад

@@jinorism Thanks Lamp! You are very kind!

@AaronKlapheck Год назад

Do one thing: honestly and truly have a desire to understand the person who is talking. Everything else will come naturally to you if you do this. This is not something you can fake. This is a mentality and mindset you can put yourself into with practice. You will not understand everything a person is saying at all times; this will give you the chance to ask them clarifying questions as they naturally come up.

@meto4837 Год назад

Well said 👍🏽

@TheDumblebee Год назад

I agree. Indeed, we can learn any of those tips, but, without changing our mindset, we can be seen as a "fake" person, even if we thinking that faking it is also a part of learning to become a true good listener soon. A right mindset truly helps.

@stefvandreunen1041 Год назад

I have severe ADHD and interrupt people a lot, because of either enthusiasm or just because my brain works like that. What helped me and others a lot is indeed summarising the last sentences someone said. To let them know i was listening and my brain sometimes just takes over.

@kimjongun2637 Год назад

Wonder why you people are increasing

@xmunchyx Год назад

Same reason why autistic people are increasing, vaccines. Just kidding! No it's actually because awareness and diagnostic tools are getting better. The people in the past who had autism, adhd, or depression were simply perceived as creepy, weird, annoying, hyper, or weak. Now we know that their brains just work differently, you can even see small differences in brain structures. I've also done my own research and found out that adhd not only has a strong genetic component, but there's also strong correlations between adhd and environmental factors when in the womb. There's something like a 60% increased chance of adhd if a mother smoked during pregnancy, but it's hard to figure out whether it's because the smoking caused adhd or adhd caused smoking and was simply passed down to the child (adhd is strongly tied to addictions and substance abuse). But researchers have been able to pinpoint groups of specific genes that seem tied to adhd and even specific groups of mutations that can lead to adhd, though those are rare. Anyway there's a wide variety of physical ailments associated with the disorders (including allergies, asthma, and epilepsy, if you can believe it!), which lends it legitimacy in my eyes. So yeah, it really boils down to if you want to label a group of people with similar genes and brain structures as weird/creepy/etc or as people with autism/adhd/depression/etc.

@godnyx117 Год назад

I do that as well and I try to not do that and relax as much as I can. I don't know if I have ADHD tho.

@udontevenwannaknowbruv 4 месяца назад

@@kimjongun2637 Wonder why there’s always one of you “everybody has ADHD these days” people that nag under every comment about ADHD

@kumsalice 7 дней назад

i have adhd too and do interrupt others. i talked my friends about it and they understood that it was a result of me being really engaged in their story! i am still doing and they seem to really love it. just make sure some of them are questions since they love it. i hope it helps

@evanlucas8914 Год назад

One strategy for making a silence less awkward is to repeat back what they said in summary in a ponderous tone like "I can't believe they would...." Or you can simply say "that sounds like a lot to think about." Both are subtle hints that you are listening and are formulating a good and thoughtful response. A good response that allows you to share your thoughts without making it seem like you're trying to change someone's mind is asking a hypothetical like "what would you think if ____ had happened instead?" This way you allow them to form their own opinion which could help them understand what you're thinking.

@NickAndriadze Год назад

It's absolutely correct that ability to listen well to somebody is a very important skill to have. I also love the fact how the characters in the video are elephants. Because you know, they have big ears and pay attention to everything that happens around them...

@whatsup3519 Год назад

We need to appreciate Ted ed teams animation. You are doing a great job.

@andaction.agency Год назад

Thank you for your nice comment about animation, we really enjoyed the creation process❤

@niemand8074 Год назад

Yes.. It's a great note. 🌈

@biniyamfisseha1096 Год назад

i'm still amazed that this type of content is available for free.

@Highlyskeptical Год назад

1. Respond w/ empathy 2. Check for understanding 3. Counter bias w/ evidence

@AlesAmazigh Год назад

Third one definitely doesn't work everytime. It depends on the subject and the personality of your interlocutor, but confirmational bias is very hard to bypass.

@Highlyskeptical Год назад

@@AlesAmazigh Asking "what evidence would change your mind?" after giving examples of what would change my mind would sus out whether to disengage. The closed minded aren't worth listening to.

@anthonymach2526 Год назад

Jokes on you, I’m not even listening to this video.

@johnsamuel6807 9 дней назад

I'm too

@noobmaster2854 7 дней назад

you're scumbag 😅

@cbormann9525 Год назад

Tip 1: remove distractions and try not to interrupt and if you do so wait for natural poses and ask open ended questions Tip 2: summarize what you just heard Tip 3: try to stay present and ask for clarification Tip 4: don't be afraid of silence

@CNWPlayer Год назад

you summarized what you just heard

@elenbalyan3683 Год назад

I feel like my whole life, I have been in the position of a listener. What I have learned is that people absolutely love talking about themselves. You ask them a minor question, and they can go for hours talking about it. Being a good listener has helped me observe people to the point where I can make assumptions of what their response to my next question will be and most of the time they turn out right.

@niemand8074 Год назад

Nice🌱

@udontevenwannaknowbruv 4 месяца назад

I am a good listener as well but I have a friend who takes advantage of that lol. Every time I meet her she will talk for hours only about herself, and it’s usually the same stuff she’s told me before. When she attempts to listen, I can sense that she’s not actually engaged as much as when she gets to turn the conversation about herself again. Unless the topic is about something that interests her. And then she wonders why I don’t tell her much about me 🤦🏻‍♀

@FinancialShinanigan Год назад

Had to rewatch this video because I got distracted

@XRaym Год назад

00:33 We finally can put a face on this famous voice-over we hear since years. I didnt imagine he looks like this 😅

@SelinaCat Год назад

As a neurodivergent, thank you for this. Being enthusiastic but genuinely having a disabled ability to fulfil that desire is so complicated. Ex, I actually listen BETTER when I'm fiddling with a mindless game on my phone but of course, it comes off really rude if they aren't familiar with how much difficulty I have or my struggle to address it.

@ThinksFarToMuch Год назад

I work as a hospital chaplain where I basically practice non-judgmental, compassionate listening for a living. This video’s advice is spot on with what I was trained to do!

@thatguyyoudontknow Год назад

Empathy and sympathy are also huge. Find common ground with anyone about anything, and you'll form a bond. Be genuine.

@gyurto Год назад

I was always really worried that I'm a terrible listener, but I literally do everything that was mentioned in the video. I hope that others also perceive my listerning as good and I'm not indeed a terrible listener.

@MrNicoJac Год назад

As long as you try, it would be impossible to be a _terrible_ listener 😆👍🏼

@bizzare_storm Год назад

One more thing i learned was when are you supposed apply these tips. I always remind myself that its okay, i don't need to be excellent listener 100% of the time. I also deserved to be listened!

@stingybismark4976 Год назад

4 things all good listeners have 1. Ears

@missjoshemmett Год назад

I have ADD. I have always been called out for not listening but have heard every word. Once Mother Superior made fun of me in class for not listening. I was so scared, but I suddenly stood my whole little self up and repeated every word she said including the part where she made fun of me. I got detention. If you have a medical problem that people don't except, what can you do?

@TygerTigerable Год назад

Proud of little you for showing them you did hear what they had to say - its a shame if they didn't accept you did past that. I have ADHD, and my partner does too, what we do when its important that the other person knows we're listening is that state we are AND we remark out loud that while our hands & eyes are busy with (thing, like knitting or a game) we are only doing so to satisfy that busy hands need. We've found this to relieve a lot of anxiety about being heard - even with both of us having ADHD, we are still socially conditioned to take fidgeting as preoccupation/not listening. A little "I'll be (working on this cross stitch) to keep my hands busy, but please tell me what you have to say" can go a long way!

@Kirealta Год назад

You were not the victim. You were interrupting class.

@terrafirma5327 Год назад

@@Kirealta No one said they were a victim, they are looking for advice. But I hope you feel better about yourself now.

@MrNicoJac Год назад

@@Kirealta You're the kind of person that kicks someone because their trying-their-best isn't your version. May you step on a LEGO until you mend your ways 💩

@felixdogan6776 Год назад

2:26 -Knock Knock +Who's there -Thoughts *Me* +What thoughts -Intrusive

@Sam-nb1rm Год назад

Brilliant animation! The animators deserve a huge raise indeed

@ManiBerr Год назад

@@Gibdo88 Not really, I think they were just trying to complement the animators's job. However, you assumed they assumed the animators we'rent being payed enough. So who's assuming now?

@meshwa-mitsuki-soni3125 Год назад

"There is no such thing as a boring person, there are only bad listeners" - something i read somewhere

@dangerfly Год назад

Platitudes are sometimes worse than useless, they can be harmful. "The customer is always correct" is one sided and obviously untrue and it creates a toxic work environment.

@fizzahkhan22 4 месяца назад

The sheer joy i see peoples’ faces radiate, while i listen to them attentively and show interest, brings me all the happiness in the world.

@jamesliu5560 Год назад

Becoming interested in someone else's interest is the first step to befriending them. A really good book that talks about how being a good conversationalist (and listener) is "How to win friends and influence them" by Dale Carnegie.

@user-nx4yw6eg4d 10 месяцев назад

I sometimes use all this 4 tips in direct conversation, and it really works! It helps me to understand their perspectives and personalities even more and helps me to give the appropriate respones and feedbacks. These 4 tips also sometimes encourage my partners to do the same, so we can have a thoughtful, open-minded conversation in respectful manner with highly positive outcomes (both in solutions or emotionally). Thanks Ted-Ed for highlighting these 4 wise acts!

@PwnEveryBody Год назад

This is essentially the reverse of genuinely listening to someone. Just like how smiling into the mirror has a habit of making one genuinely happy, trying to look as if you're listening happens to lead to genuinely listening, not just acting like it. Even putting aside the fact that asking questions requires one to have an understanding of what is being said, the act of putting aside distractions, paying attention to the conversation instead of your own response, and leaving space to think and breathe before speaking, all adds up to making you genuinely listen. In other words, if you do genuinely listen, then these things come naturally, and if you do these things, then listening comes as a result.

@viviaalemon Год назад

Being a good listener is so important!!

@smilesmcgee4926 Год назад

The designs are so cute!! I love the little detail that the narrator is a fly that is buzzing around the subject.

@StarBoundFables Год назад

Awesome edutainment, thank you, Ted-Ed 🙏🏼 I made sure to take notes on this 1. Listening is a very important skill which has benefited me tremendously 🗒 One of my fav sayings is: "My favourite resource is PAYING attention" 😄

@lisalim6249 Год назад

Ooo this seems to employ various principles of Rogerian's counselling approach of (1) open-ended questions, (2) reflecting meaning, (3) reflecting feelings, (4) purposeful silence. The additional tip on preparing the environment was insightful, thank you!

@Fear_Therapy Год назад

Woooh. I wanted to improve my listening skills! Thanks for this. ❤

@christiansuo5243 Год назад

Being a great listener is like putting on their shoes, what it feels like to understand more on their situation rather being sympathetic to their feelings.

@levibauer375 Год назад

I’m easily distracted and my brain likes to wander, and often I’ll be with a friend and realize I’ve drifted off only to crash back to reality. Stopping them, apologizing, and asking them to start over is so helpful and I’d like to think demonstrates your intention that you genuinely want to listen

@hamzairfan7183 7 месяцев назад

love this content. Keep it up TED-Ed!

@harmony137 Год назад

At the root of it, being a good listener simply means you actually listen, and not just trying to chime in to snatch the mic from the speaker. That's the difference between hearing and listening. You are not only listening to their story, you're also trying to see it through their eyes, understanding how it affects their personality. When you listen, it will automatically show without you having to think about it, because listening is actually quite energy-consuming. The little nods, the occasional "Hm" are sufficient.

@dreadwing1390 Год назад

When you talk you are just repeating what you already know but when you listen you learn something new which adds to your mental well being or even understanding human emotions...

@rufaabdalla1726 Год назад

This has to be one of my favourite animations thus far. props to everyone involved in the production as always 🫶🏽

@LARKXHIN Год назад

Same, I know TED varies the style for each video but I do hope we see more of these elephants.

@andaction.agency Год назад

Thank you for your nice comment about animation, we really enjoyed the creation process❤

@farhadniaz732 9 месяцев назад

Hi There. Thank you so much for this informative video! 👍

@samanthagarcia1398 Год назад

as always, the animation is elegant and lovely

@TheShowerofSlime Год назад

The choice of elephants for this animation is a fantastic choice. I had a sudden flashback of warm feelings from my childhood reading "Babar and his family"

@vindyasamarasinghe8892 7 месяцев назад

Being heard is what i rarely feel while im listening to everyone actively

@andaction.agency Год назад

Dear TED-Ed team, thank you for amazing cooperation on this project! We enjoyed it a loooot ❤❤❤❤

@anishdeshmukh4333 Год назад

This video is so amazing! Ted ed gives such an in-depth insights yet in a simple way and the style of design, animation and ideation is breathtaking. I'm quite happy I that we have channels like Ted

@Nile081 7 месяцев назад

This video made me happy. I noticed that I already do almost every tips while listening! I will continue to learn more about listening. I do not know if the creators' will read my comment but thank you for this great informations 💖

@Philippians4.13Enjoyer Год назад

Thank you for this video TED-Ed

@SickleM Год назад

Totally agree, I truly internalize these tips!!

@larrynguyen85 Год назад

Ted-Ed - wonderful and concise video. Just this one crucial skill could change our divided political discourse, save relationships, and end wars. This channel is really making such a positive contribution to our world.

@niemand8074 Год назад

Yes.. It's possible. Important Note

@arunakumari3357 Год назад

As communication skills , listening skill should also be considered ✨

@es-vz9fi 11 месяцев назад

This is BRILLIANT! Please can you do a children and young people version of this! 😊

@aidagholampour100 Год назад

I always grateful for listeners that don’t just me it’s a power skill we can do it

@cavemann_ Год назад

I am currently trying to become a better listener, so this video comes just in time :)

@phunkymind23 Год назад

This really helps. I have a language disorder, and keeping up with conversations and saying new sentences can be complicated.

@rileypetri-rose1015 Год назад

Taking a moment to form a response sounds really nice. Too bad nobody ever allows that to happen. Everyone always feels the need to fill the silence

@whisperingwooper1763 Год назад

These are all the basic counseling skills and is the foundation for any good session! Can be easily applied to any relationship though.

@lestranged Год назад

Yes the "how did it make you feel?" sounded like something off a therapists script, it's so cliche that you know they are actually thinking about what to order for dinner. Checking off lines from their script. Asking that question in other wording might sound more natural and sincere.

@whisperingwooper1763 Год назад

@@lestranged it sounds cliché but it actually helps a lot by asking that question it may not be worded exactly that way but a lot of the times putting emotions into words can help it’s all about trying to go deeper with a person and creating a safe space.

@Tony_Kam Год назад

Great video, really spot-on points

@mariachan-cx2se Год назад

I really like knowing how others think and not only sticking to my opinions and I like exchanging opinions and discussing it with others but when I tried to be a good listeners others didn't listen to my opinion at all and kept on changing the topics after giving their opinions and didn't listen to mine and even interrupted me

@sangrampattanayak8201 Год назад

Rather than following any tips or guidelines try to truly listen to people. You will be amazed how much of difference it makes on someone's attitude towards you. If you are awkward try to keep on conversation rolling by asking them something from their previous information. i.e. "I went to doctors yesterday" - "Ohh!! How did it go? Are you alright?" You will be amazed how much of difference it makes to people when they truly feel heard.

@GROWITHMUSIC Год назад

Knowing how to listen with sincerity is a rare quality... Before interrupting someone or making any judgment, it is sometimes better to know more about the situation to understand the other person's point of view.

@NightWriting Год назад

I am a good listener. The tips are all very familiar to me. But sometimes i am the one who needs a supportive conversation. And than i come to the sad realisation that most people just can't listen! I try to open my heart to someone and they completely trow it away with there own bullsh`t!

@mompreneurlife Год назад

love the point about asking questions - so important. Great video. Thank you.

@irmsm4695 Год назад

This was a really good video and some of these comments are super helpful for my class that I am teaching on Active Listening.

@sandhyaeducationandenterta6871 Год назад

Really a nice presentation. Thank you

@HighLanderPonyYT Год назад

I'm such a good listener that I feel like people barely want to listen to me in return. The imbalance is depressing.

@mariachan-cx2se Год назад

Same :'(

@goodbaiii Год назад

Cause a good listener need a listener too :'). I wish you’ll meet someone or one of your friends that would like to listen what you want to talk about!

@tilekduyshobaev2130 10 месяцев назад

"Listen instead of waiting for your turn to speak" - hits hard

@KINGROGER30 Год назад

Incredibly insightful and yet so simply explained. Another amazing lesson

@andaction.agency Год назад

Thank you for your nice comment about animation, we really enjoyed the creation process❤

@focusonthecurrent 8 месяцев назад

alright. I'll remember this on my next date (i never had any dates)

@minhquangle2528 Год назад

Thanks!! It's helpful for me 😊

@Sid-mj1qf Год назад

Visual storytelling via animation is so beautiful TED-Ed.

@andaction.agency Год назад

We appreciate your kind words regarding the animation; we had a great time making it.❤

@vibhaprasad7314 Год назад

First of all...i loved the animation☺️...it was really cute Second....i understood what i was doing right and what was wrong... So thank you💙

@RanmaSyaoranSaotome Год назад

To become better listener is simple: suppress your inner voice to have a dialogue rather than a monologue.

@Zamin30 Год назад

And If I do both together 😂 I am a good listener anyways.

@aminulhussain2277 Год назад

I don't have enough of an inner voice for there to be anything other than the other person's monologue.

@leau250 Год назад

This is a useful knowledge for making friends and maintaining relationships. Thank you

@Oliver-vt7sc 10 месяцев назад

I really love this videos. Thanks :)

@giaitrinnp2610 11 месяцев назад

I've been told I'm a good listener and for a long time I didn't really know what I was doing to get those core memory compliments. I think the most important part of what Ted-Ed is saying in this, is that you have to SHOW it. That doesn't mean you have to be bubbly supportive no matter what. I means you take in the information and genuinely think about it. It was always kinda just auto pilot for me, but when I heard them say it, I realized. Its not smiling and nodding. Its hearing the emotion and understanding when somebody is upset, angry, frustrated and then trying to harness those emotions to let them see their faults, or to let them see their clarity. Being a "good listener" is honestly something I don't think everybody should become, or want to become. Its taxing, and it has led to me having some flourishing 15 year friendships, but it has also led to some heartbreak and self loathing that I don't feel qualified to tell anybody because I'm the anchor for so many.

@CuddleFish124 Год назад

I’m autistic and pretty much have no interest in listening to what others have to say if it doesn’t cover a topic I’m interested in (ex. I like talking about cartoons because of my hyper fixation, while the person I’m talking to likes outdoor mountain biking). To trick my brain into listening/engaging in these kinds of conversations, I’ve been told by others to look at it like this: you don’t listen because you are interested in the topic. You listen because you care about the other person. Most of the time I couldn’t care less about my friend blabbing on about their most recent hiking adventure, but I listen and engage with them because they are my friend, and I love and care about them as an individual.

@TheShowerofSlime Год назад

Your ability to reflect is a great trait to have. All friends do not have to have all interests in common, it is easy to forget that we are a part of others circle and vice versa. However making your part of the circle meaningful to the other makes us more valuable as individuals. Thank you for sharing you input.

@BR_cortes Месяц назад

Amazing content, thanks!

@charansinghkhind6732 Год назад

It’s said that listener is the judge. And through listening deeply it is more easy n convenient for me in grasping the knowledge from religion to universe.However,listening attentively is a difficult trait to imbibe in one’s personality, and for that to adopt it one has to keep himself awake while awake.

@1212RAJVEER Месяц назад

"being heard is enough to start a deep conversation".Factos!!!

@ooopila2161 Год назад

My friend isnt that good of a listener. Whenever i try telling her my problems or talk to her about something important, she would always get distracted or purposely try not to listen like avoiding eye contact and moving onto a different subject right away. Even if i were to finish talking she would just nod and not say anything after to comfort me etc. Im truely glad that she was able to listen in some instances but i want that support from a friend if you know. Every time she talks, i would listen and give her my full attention and i really want to receive the same from her as well. I dont know if im being sensitive or ungrateful so please do correct me if i am :)

@nekopop8159 Год назад

Atleast you showed that you care about her. People not listening to you can be frustrating tho; you could find a time to discuss about this. My friend told me that she doesn’t like “serious talks” but more “joke talking”, which I then understand. She’s a chatterbox but I can’t find things to say back or think of one in time. But I do listen to her. Your friend’s behavior is her part of system, everyone has their way to going through social time and phases. What I can say is that there is nothing wrong about you sooo yeah.

@ooopila2161 Год назад

@@nekopop8159 I understand a lot now.. thankyouu 😊😊

@learnthroughit245 Год назад

Thank you I've learn to have a active listening

@HaNguyen-le7ut Год назад

Listening to Ted education helped me a lot in improving my listening skills, thanks

@serene5385 Год назад

You don't always need to be a good listener... Sometimes you must choose not to listen what is none of your concern.

@Phycorax Год назад

Agreed, sometimes your own problems are the best place to be selfish at.

@wge621 Год назад

Sounds more like eavesdropping

@am.am6 8 месяцев назад

Can't agree more

@hongphuoccaothi1823 6 месяцев назад

ofcouse a dude with anime profile would say something like this

@adeypinotz4132 5 месяцев назад

being a good listener is necessary, because good listening skills are very necessary to build true, meaningful relationships with other people, without good listening skills it will be difficult for you to make real friends

@chelsea9493 8 дней назад

My new partner says I'm a good listener he has adhd and I am quite the opposite. I find him fascinating so even if I want to say something I'm a person whos always in my head anyways so I don't need to talk much and it works perfectly because I love to learn and I hate talking to people most of the time. He makes me laugh most of the time and he builds my confidence with how quick witted he is. And he loves when I do say something its to make him laugh or a rebuttle. I know this makes me sound like a doormat but I'm not he just talks more than me and honestly I love it because I never get bored and then we get into interesting conversations. There is nothing quite like finding your one

@mohammadriyaz2545 Год назад

One the best presentations and one of the best animations.......and that too on an interesting psychological hack.

@andaction.agency Год назад

Thank you for your nice comment about animation, we really enjoyed the creation process❤

@jenniferbates2811 Год назад

Learning how to listen vs. hear is a great skill. It takes time, though. Understanding how to read social and facial cues takes time as well.

@Charlemagne2602 Год назад

Such a lovely lesson.

@Luca-zw9fc Год назад

I started the video, then started doing stuff on my phone, only after 2 minutes realising the sound of the video was off... I think that answers the question for me

@alislash4723 Год назад

This is so much mean for connection between me and environment.

@adityathedarkseid4102 Год назад

Amazing. Please make about how to focus learn or study but with disturbance

@takayuki9600 Год назад

The last part is what i need to implement

@eugenvonbismarck5029 Год назад

I’m from HK studying the UK, I am mad pissed by people in here constantly interrupt a conversation and not likely to listen to anyone and just keep talking regardless. That’s a really important value however, that everyone should cherish.

@ChairVi1012 Месяц назад

It’s amazing how some people actually needs these videos when sometimes for others it just comes natural, I hope it helped a lot of people because socializing is very important nowadays 💘💘💘💌

@helixquisite Год назад

The animation is really good and adorable. The female elephant looks very cute. 😻

@Student-gi4lb Год назад

Thank you for this. I recently feel not heard by this so-called "master" and I was annoyed how interrupting and misunderstood he was on me. Anyways, times have past, I have decided to not talk much to him and think about what lesson I may learn from it, whether I am a good listener or not.