Are you wondering if you're able to handle a relationship? If so, we have a video just for you. - Credits - Script Writer: Catherine Script Editor: Steven Wu VO: Micah Animator: Daniella Apron RU-vid Manager: Cindy Cheong
Yeah, but not really. Love at its core is about trust. Being possessive is a consequence of not trusting your partner, you become controlling to cope with your insecurity. In the end a relationship (not only a romantic one) that is deficient in trust simply won't last long, trust is everything.
1) Selfishness: Taking significantly more.than you are giving 2) Prideful Having to be always right 3) Depending on your partner to make you happy; co dependent lacking self sufficiency. 4) Expect people to read your mind; know what you need without communication 5) Commitment to relationship fears
kinda surprised that 4 of them aren't even close to me but at the same time, number 3 was my biggest mistake over, and over, and over again :/// feels super shitty to realize such thing after all the mistakes I've done all the fucking idiotic mistakes...
I cannot stress this enough, LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP. People who don’t love themselves cannot stay in relationships for long and there is no balance. Please try and love every part of yourself and don’t think you are undeserving of love, grow and learn to appreciate yourself too.
I dated a girl who didn't love herself for 3 years. We broke up because she wanted polygamy. I know this is an isolated case, just wanted to mention it.
Part of that relationship phobia can be from watching your parents be stuck in a bad relationship for too long, which leads to the fear of being stuck with someone not right for you rather then them leaving. Especially when this is coupled with the horror stories you hear about some people in there relationships.
My parents have a very stormy relationship where they fight a lot and had some extreme rough patches especially during my teen years. I believe they love each other, but it really shaped my feelings and views on relationships. For a while it even convinced me that people in relationships always would end up resenting and hating each other. Now that I am in my first relationship I feel quite anxious about it being somehow wrong or toxic and I feel like that definitely has something to do with it, so your words resonate with me a lot.
Truer words were never spoken. My relationship phobia stems from these experiences where there has always been bad energy in the house for decades and no commitment on my part to leave this home due to sick parents I felt responsible for.
My Dads relationship with his wife may be the closest thing I've seen when it come to a happy married relationship. All i know is disfunction so maybe that type of lifestyle isnt in the cards for me. All of my previous romantic relationships have been dumpster fires 😂
I'd like to add another one: - You're too selfless. Just like the selfish example, being too selfless is also damaging, because you're giving way more than receiving. In a relationship there needs to be balance between how much you give and how much you receive.
Totally agree w this suggestion. My opinion is that the people pleaser will probably have a very high tolerance at receiving abusive behavior and a very low capacity for recognizing abusive behavior. They, I suspect are probably the high empath type too, so they will be much more attractive to people that feed from the attention (overtly needy types) and vice versa. therefore pleasers and the needy are probably more likely to be trapped or hooked in that cycle (like the anxious-avoidant cycle). It would be very interesting to see how these two cycles compare. That would be one hell of a video for this channel.
I recently got into a relationship with my best friend. When he told me he loved me and wanted to have a relationship, I couldn't say no 'cause I like him. I knew I wouldn't be able to commit to a relationship; I have commitment issues from a past relationship, my mental health is kinda bad and I have family problems. I told him about my issues and he assured me he would stay with me to overcome all my problems. Now 3 weeks into the relationship, I already feel better, my mental health is getting better, he is staying with me to face all my downs. I hope I can get through all my problems and have a healthy and relationship with him.😊
This video made me realize I'm ready to have a healthy relationship and I'm in one right now! It's a feeling I've never had before and this time I know it's right, I feel mature enough to get commited to the other person and just want things to work out.
@@codyeastwood6217 it's going great, we are living in the same city right now (it was long distance until a month ago) since I had to move for my studies for university, so it's been amazing so far, ever more than before
*DON'T enter a relationship if some of these are you* - You become clingy when someone gives you attention - You end up going into relationships with a mindset to TAKE - You cannot allow a space between you and a partner, suffocating and making it about you - You feel empty without a person in your life
i have the first and last sign mentioned by you, ossein and a similarity with the one from wisdom fruit, but... without an actual relationship with genuine feelings and possibly without being with the person(s) i love (i'm pansexual and polysexual) i can't really feel fulfilled or happy, and no matter who i talk with talking doesn't help at all, sometimes i even end up not caring at all about being happy anymore. what should i do?
@@chronred8190 Happiness is a HIGH emotion and after all HIGHs, there are always LOWs. You should strive for attaining joy and peace of mind. It seems like you have boxed in yourself in all these labels. Joy and peace of mind is an inside job and you have to work within. No one can make you whole, beside your own self.
That's the worst! I've liked someone for a long time and I'm pretty sure they like me back, but if they would ask me to be together I would probably reject...
That last one kinda hits home with me. I was in a relationship for about a year and a half which was ended by my partner abruptly. First I was told “ I’m not ready for a relationship” then after me prying some more she said “You were too scared to do anything.” The thing is, every time I tried to make some advances she’d show signs of discomfort so I would back off. Now every time I try to get into a relationship or express myself to someone I get anxious. It’s worse if I like them.
I have gone trough this just like you, i told him i loved him and he said "yes and no". Somehow we ended up together just to end things 7 months later. Lesson: don't force things. In your case, if she was uncertain about your relationship, you should not have got yourself involved. It's hard when you are in love, but is for the best. Try to find someone who you love and they love you 100%. With no uncertainty. If you found someone like this, please love them fully and accept that the outcome is not always the best, even if you are both in love, but you can really have good memories with someone.
Whenever I get into relationships I feel depressed. I don’t like the idea of falling for someone so hard that they have that much control over my emotions. I just don’t like the vulnerability feeling I get from being in love. I’ve honestly been happiest in my life when I’ve been single.
Honestly same. I started getting close to someone romantically and little broke down crying everyday before work because I felt as though I was becoming trapped again. Idk it’s hard to explain
I can relate my dating struggles from this video in terms of dealing with co-dependency. I’ve also been involved with someone who was selfish and possessive but labeled it “love”… I’ve experienced someone who had severe abandonment and dependency issues that very much impacted our relationship.
1- selfishness 2- too much pride for good communication 3- toxic co-dependency 4- not expressing your feelings and problems enough 5- commitment issues
I used to be like this but over the last year and a half I've been leaning about myself. Learning who I really am, learning what trauma I had in my childhood and how to overcome it and how to be in relationships and I don't have these problems anymore.
I saw someone mention selflessness in the comments and I 100% agree with that one. I was in a 2 year relationship with this one girl named Olivia. At the start we seemed to have a good balance with the giving and receiving in the relationship. Later on she seemed to start pulling away and I had talked to her about it but she denied all of my claims and accusations. The relationship ended up being one sided to where I was doing everything I could to hold up the relationship while she put little to no effort into it. I had sleepless nights, cried a lot, starting having panic attacks(very first time ever getting them), and I did everything in my power to keep her happy and safe. Around 3 months ago I confronted her again cause the entire week before she barely talked to me and I could clearly sense she was drifting away from me and losing interest. I asked her a few questions to see what could've been going wrong then I asked what I thought was a simple question and that was "why do you love me?" 3 days went by and I got no answer so I decided to break up with her and she had nothing to say but "Ok stop texting me, have a good life ig 💀" It broke me and ruined me mentally and emotionally, my grades in school went to shit for about a week and my parents were no help at all.
I'm sorry that happened to you, but you'll definitely get a better relationship with a person who likes you and wants to be in a relationship with you. I hope you're doing better!❤
@youngghoul1636 I am definitely doing much better, thank you, I've found a girl with so much more in common with me than the last girl and she's perfect, hopefully she can be the girl! ❤️
lool what's even more is I was thinking about this over an hour ago, who knows maybe I even said it out loud, so I'm not sure but the question is, did they hear my thoughts or did they put the thought there? Lool yup, I'm definitely NOT ready for a relationship.
1. You put yourself before anyone else. Being selfish. 2. You're prideful and you think you're always right 3. You always depend on your partner to make you happy. Being co-dependent. 4. You expect people to understand you without communicating with them. 5. You have commitment issues.
I grew up in a family that has anger issues and were everyone is self orientated. Trying to discuss anything is almost impossible because nobody takes responsibility and is very likely to either get overtly angry or passively aggressively angry. Since growing up I've given up trying to discuss anything about people's bad behaviour because they'll always lie and project to validate themselves. I always end up losing friends when I challenge them. I do so politely because I'm sick of the shouting and raging. The sad thing is I've never been able to have many friends and never had a relationship because most people are childish and want everything their way. I'm gay and find gay men are genrally a lot worse at having relationships that what straight men seem to. This isn't a 'me thing' but something that is reflected in the high percentage of gay men who cheat in relationships, the high amount of gay men that repeatedly have short relationships.
I can relate to this, same fam dynamics and find that even a casual observation of a partner’s actions or behaviour will often erupt into a screeching meltdown. From seemingly professional, rational mature men. I think I have given up!
@Marla Jacques Trust me,it's not just men. I recently broke up with a woman that was prone to crying fits and tantrums if I pointed out anything she did wrong. I'm very rational. Just talk to me and we can fix it. 9 years older than I and she was still a child. Sad. I loved her, but I will not be demonized for having boundaries. Better luck next time. 😊
im so sorry and i relate to you, even i dont win fights cuz i just dont want to cause a drama, it affects my mental health and makes me scared if i do smth implusive, also itll be okay, i hope u find someone gud for u!
One struggle I have is feeling confident in being able to be vulnerable. After some really bad past relationships, I have a strong desire to have confidence in a partner accepting me being vulnerable. I could be wrong, and it may be over analysis, but without the unwavering feeling that my vulnerabilities won't be weaponized, I keep some strong barriers up. Strangely, I feel that I'm not asking too much, but also worry that the barrier is too high. I think it's the establishment of genuine compassion that would take down said barrier, but that has continued to be an issue in relationships. I don't believe it's due to a lack of communication because I have been forward with the issue. It may be part of a higher standard I hold someone to, and it has been met before,
1. you put yourself first before anyone else 2. you’re prideful and you think you’re always right 3. you always depend on your partner to make you happy 4. you expect people to read your mind 5. you have commitment issues
My girlfriend also had a uneasy childhood and she have that attachment issue and she have anxiety and stuff everytime she is alone and i feel sorry for it
I struggle to be open and honest with my closest people that I care about. It’s like I hesitate to just not think at all and the second I notice myself not thinking, I almost instinctively gaslight myself from continuing my momentum in being vulnerable. It’s like a learned response and it’s a bad habit in a way.
1. You put yourself before everyone else 2. You think you are always right 3. You always depend on your partner to make you happy 4. You expect people to read your mind. Bad at communicating 5. You have commitment phobia/relationship anxiety
With time, I have realised it’s not how much you get from the relationship, it’s also about how abled are you to give the same efforts to the other one. I think that solves major problems. Thank you psych2go!
@@suryareddy72 of course you’re right. You should think of yourself first and yes sometimes you need to be a little selfish and that’s ok. You cannot love someone if you don’t love yourself right? But anyway how can I help you?
Mikee 1234444 the reality is. YOU WILL disappoint your partner at some point. It’s human nature!!! Whether you mean it or not. The true test is will you be able to work through it?
@@detectivehawk4976 No I mean I dont think I'll be what they expect. My first lover left me because I apparently didn't do the normal things a boyfriend is supposed to do.
Mikee 1234444 Don’t. People must respect you for who you are, especially your significant other. If you don’t meet their expectations, it’s no use being together in the first place. You do not to force yourself to meet their expectations especially when they’ll never be truly satisfied. The only person you need to change for is yourself. Don’t waste your time with the person that doesn’t suit you even if you love them. People don’t usually expect much from a relationship anyway. I don’t understand what did your ex expect from you:
Mikee 1234444 WHa really?? That’s completely okay! You were never obligated to. They may’ve just been too sexual to be in a relationship with you. They didn’t respect your boundaries and comforts, and you deserve somebody who does. You should never have to change yourself, unless it’s actually necessary. In this case, it isn’t. ubu
My biggest problem is that I'm selfish and I feel guilty about it all the time. I want to improve and in fact I try a lot to do favors to other people or help them even if it requires some of my time. I'm also a good listener and I try to put empathy and solidarity above every other value in life. Thing is: more often than not this behaviour exhausts me so mich if it prevents me from having my "alone" moments, where there's me and only me doing whatever I feel like doing and they have to be frequent enoigh or I start feeling extremely nervous and anxious. The feeling of inadequacy in the relationship... I feel it so much. This and the fear of commitment, even though this is my first relationship. This feelings are so strong and connected to my anxiety issues that they change the perception of my reality. They change my humour costantly to the point that I feel anxious around my boyfriend, sexual desire just leaves for who knows how long, my sentiment is on a trial again and again and again. It's a cycle of feeling in love with the person, than not in love, than feeling afraid, then in love again and so on. I've been going to therapy for almost 10 years and this relationship has been going on for almost 4 years. I needn't mention that my therapy sessions of these last 4 years have all been around this issue, basically. He's a wonderful person. I've been blessed to meet him and to be loved by him. No one would've stayed in these conditions. Hell, I probably don't even deserve him. I'm fighting hard to stay, to make him stay. I want to solve my problems while I'm still with him, cause we both see so much potential in our relationship...
@@bellamoon12 I ain't subscribed and the videos popped up XD They are pretty usefull tho due to finally be able to share thought about subjects that aren't easy to talk about with real life people / friends
Hey don't be such a downer about it love is beautiful and crazy and it's the best thing you can ever feel but it can hurt so much as well but i'd rather have those feelings than not experience them at all, they just make life so much more colourful.
I really love this channel, i have problem figuring out my own feelings and sometimes my actions but i am always able to figure them out with this channel, i am so grateful, thank you
Relationship with yourself is better than a toxic relationship with someone else. When no one else is around, you are not alone, you always have your self.
Calling a relationship toxic is just shifting your responsibility. A relationship is just an mirror for your own bad behaviour, the toxicity comes from within, a relationship can "detoxify" if both sides are willing to work (unless it's abusive).
@@vrieskip This! The thing is people don't know how to communicate..... Just imagine going through all that education and still having issues forming basic sentences like........
Rudy This is very true and an underrated statement. Better to be with just yourself than to be in a relationship that is toxic, dysfunctional, or just plain mediocre.
Somehow i thought i was pretty messed up for thinking such a way. Feeling like it shouldn't be normal to not be ready, especially after years with the same person. However, when i pulled myself back, to find myself on my own (still in a relationship, its more a just getting away from everything to reset myself & truly find myself), i realized that it wasn't an issue, to think such a way. That not being ready is perfectly normal.
Yes, i feel youre not ready if your relationship with yourself isn't very loving. You can only truly love another to the degree you can love yourself in good times and bad, sickness and health, rich and poor, success and failure...how well do you love yourself in these situations?
This video showed up after the break up with my boyfriend and the fact that I know I was the problem is hitting so hard. It is too late for us now and I am regretting everything I did to him now. He was the only boy that really loved and understood me. And the fact that he said "I wish you find better" is eating me inside. I could never ever find better... 😖😭💔
In a generation where ghosting and flings takes place, I'm actually not surprised to why relationships these days don't work. Some are just in a relationship for the sake of being with someone. edit: tysm 4 the likes y'all
This is so true. I made a promise with myself no matter how much I don’t want to be single😭😂 I would never ever date someone or be in any type of romantic relationship without some type of romantic like or love feelings towards them
Im in a relationship right now, but I'm doing my best to keep it alive and real, we always have conversations about what's wrong and right in the relationship. I'm just so happy I got a partner who is an old soul like me.
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Now that I’m older I totally understand the whole, “you can’t love someone until you love yourself” thing. I remember agreeing with arguments saying you still deserve to be loved even when you’re not 100% there, which is true! But! If you don’t work on yourself and the things that actually create barriers in your relationships, then you’ll always find yourself struggling and in heartache. When I wasn’t learning to be content with myself I found myself in a lot of issues like codependency. I realize know that not focusing on myself first was only putting me up to get hurt and hurt others. It was also asking a lot from my partner whose job wasn’t to make me happy, but to be happy WITH me. That was a huge one. Putting yourself in charge of your own happiness actually makes your relationships stronger because you balance things out. I’m still hesitant about getting into a relationship because I don’t want to set myself up for heartbreak, but at least I know that when I do decide to date again, I’ll be better equipped and in a better mindset for the both of us.
I’m in a relationship and I must admit I have a few of these problems….but It would be stupid to decide to “break up” and toss away a good relationship when me and my partner are actually happy with each other and understand each other. Whenever he’s gone away I like to work on myself and improve my mindset so our relationship can build up. You can work on yourself while in a relationship
yes exactly, I'm going through the same thing and i struggle with codependency, but he knows that and he's ready to be patient about it while we work on it. love isn't easy, but it's worth it!
This character wasn't ready for a relationship because they forgot to bring clothes to the date, therapy, dinner, and sitting on the couch. Poor thing.
*Practice self-awareness of your emotions to be able to handle a relationship.* “What am I feeling right now? Why is that? What can I do to feel better?”
Did that, it evolved into "Are these feelings necessary in life? Is life meaningless without the existence of love? If so, isn't it life is meaningless by default if a person take everything logically?" Aaaand I end up studying bunch of philosophies, now a nihilist.
I had a relationship my sophomore year in high school that I was really excited and nervous about. We were together for a few months. As you can tell it did not last long at all. One thing that I wish I noticed sooner was that this girl really impacted my feelings and emotions. If something was wrong between us it would impact the rest of my day and everything else outside of that. Over time it started to negatively impact my mental health and also made me distant from my friends and family. Needless to say a lot of my effort was being put into trying to make her feel better at the expense of not caring about anything else including myself. At the end of the day, to anybody maybe about to be in the same situation just remember that you are young and while it is important to care and be there for your s/o, your OWN mental health is all the more important. If you are noticing that it is really taking a toll on your days and dampening your moods then you need to jump ship or communicate that. There is more and you should NOT be feeling trapped or like if you aren't there it is all your fault.
I’m reading through these comments and I see why relationships never last. It’s not because of the reasons stated in the video. It’s because nobody wants to help their partner through thick and thin. Expecting perfection up front without putting in the effort to deserve it in the first place. Nobody will ever be 100 percent ready for a relationship. Like Yin and Yang, you take the good in the bad and the bad in the good That’s life. Just my two cents
lol sir.. thats ur issue and why many relationships that should end DONT END cause of that delusionl sense of "loyaltiy" and "honor" to a person who now in a behavior pattern that ruins shit.. aka should i remain with u if say u start engaging in dumb shit that effects both of us.. why should I HAVE TO BE PUNISHED and BARE UR BURDENS.. people want u to stay so they that thrust and off load shit they cause on to others then get mad when that person has a line like "UH NO THANKS" so its a two way street.. u gont get to impose a "logic" and igorne it on the other side of this.. 😂 mistakes are fine and really not at all a reason to walk out.. BUTT BEHAVIOR PATTERNS are a different story.. fyi nobody DESERVES ANYTHING FROM ANYONE... nobody is obligated to anybody unless they AGREE in a mutual agreement... if ur my partner and u make a oof/mistake here and there .. thats fine.. butt if it becomes a behavior pattern... UR BREAKING THE AGREEMENT... im no longer obligated to hold up my end sir.. if anything in this case.. U SHOULD BE GRATEFUL TO ME THAT IM STILL STICKING AROUND.. also lets go back to deserve "without putting in the effort to deserve it in the first place" lets use a slightly off topic example for this.. does an overweight person "deserve" a fit healthy fine looking person? are u saying because they didnt put effort into themselves to also be fit healthy and well groomed that they dont deserve said supreme waifu/husbando..? u get what u get.. there is no DESERVE... then u work/putt in effort to maintain it.. or u dont.. and both cause can result in bood and bad.. simple.. im responding to u literally cause u said this "I’m reading through these comments and I see why relationships never last." u have zero clue why peoples relationships did or didnt last.. again u statement kinda implies there are RULES that if u follow it it will last.. ignoring reality of LIFE and SHIT HAPPENS and PEOPLE CHANGE and that if u break these "rules" ur relationship wont last.. which ignores all the time the still do despite bs... the simpliest answer... if one or both make it work.. it will last... period.. there are no rules no dos and donts.. cause all kinds of relationships exist.. my advise alway is.. I DONT KNOW UR LIFE OR THE PERSON UR WITH SO MY ADVISE WHICH WORKS FOR ME MIGHT BE BAD FOR U.. so YOU and you alone need to figure it out.. there are no rules.. yin and yang is goofy too... some people have like no ying in their lives really while some have almost no yang.. and it still works.. some people will not accept BS and they do fine.. usually no bs people weed thru the bs people and end up with other no bs people.. 😂 i will not follow u from a house out into a card board box if ur life goes to shit... why should i be punished WITH YOU for ur actions..? loyality is a double edge sword.. its used also to TRAP PEOPLE.. to force them to remain beholden to people fking up over and over... personally for ME.. that sense of I/THEY dont DESERVE anything nor THEM/ME feeling ENTILTED to things(persons) not making a big fuss over MISTAKES yet give nor groud to bad behavior patterns.. usually results in being able to BE REASONABLE and not deluded by "feelings" and thus able to MOVE ON from people that are making life more of a hassle and stressfull.. the fast u move on from people like that the sooner u can get back out and find more people.. life is too short.. and perception of time goes by faster and faster as we age.. 😂 i got a simple rule.. its not about being right or wrong.. its about understanding and no manipulation.. if people in general get the impression u being understanding of them regardless of who's right or wrong... people are not only more recpetive butt also more understanding of you.. and then both are more like to work together and actknowledge their own wrongs and work to correct them.. aka trust issues and lack of communication aka understanding.. they'll "communicate" alright by yelling fighting and trying to point out each others flaws and use it agaisnt each other.. xD all my relationships ended on MUTUAL TERMS... i really hate ur ying and yang methaphor cause reality isnt black and white.. there is no "good vs evil" we are a specturm.. 😂
yet, sometimes you have to give up. if you are the one responsible for someone elses happiness, taking care of them when they cant even do that thwmselves, its not right to stay, because it affects you. i had to stay up hours a day until 2/3AM to keep my ex boyfriend alive almost every day, he forced me out of my comfort zone, ignored my issues and boundaries, made everything about himself, cheated on me and pressured me to do things. i broke up with him a week ago, and i feel great.
Recently I've thought about dating again since it been 2 years after my last relationship. But I become supremely hesitant whenever i even think I should attempt. I categorized it as commitment issues, but as I look deeper I saw a recurring event that still could be categorized as commitment issues but I think it's something else. Every break up I had always involved other people putting in their 2 cents about me or whichever partner at the time, causing doubt. Most of the time, I believe they're looking out for me and I just bad at choosing partners. But now I can't even think about having a relationship without someone's approval.
Relationships are really one of the hardest things to maintain. Bringing two people together from different backgrounds and beliefs, it’s very hard but SO WORTH IT with the RIGHT PERSON
The blame game,what did you bring to the table,sounds selfish,you are troubled if you doubt yourself,aren't you the source of the conflict,your not a possession,confront all insecurities,do you need help with the chores,anxiety gets in your way,you feel vulnerable,so get help ✔️
@@Jackgritty28 What are you talking about? Your comment in response to my comment? Doesn’t really make sense to me. Maybe I’m missing the point? 🤔 🧐 🤷🏾♂️
Saiki Kusuo damn same. I feel like I want to get to know my crush better but know that even if he likes me, I don’t think I’ll be ready. For me its hard to be vulnerable, idk why.
Good points, I recognized myself in some of them, though there is a lot of factors not taken into account and either the title is wrong or misexplained because I don't think recognizing yourself in one of these signs makes you unable to handle a relationship.
Im glad this is something so obvious. Im way past the me stage by now at 31. I think im ready to hold life by the hand.. Im so excited to have a relationship..
I'm watching this because this guy just asked me to be his gf but he's extremely selfish, always dismisses my feelings, is super passive aggressive and has even gaslighted me. I know he likes me but i definitely deserve better. Edit: my decisive moment to break up was sexual coercion from his part. Sexually assaulted me in the process, trying to see if he could change my mind. I didn't let him. It's almost a month post breakup and the first constant 3 weeks in a while where I haven't cried. Don't blame yourself for not seeing the signs soon enough, but once you do, get out as fast as you can. Lots of love 💚
Tell him this very things and work em out. If things didn't work then you truly deserve better. Don't be hasty otherwise it is kinda selfish from your part as well
@@ht-cr3ms if I decided to break it off it's because i've been trying for 6 months to work it out. Why do you think I said he dismisses my feelings? My problem was that I tried too hard to make it work and I didn't leave soon enough to realize it was harming me too much.
Nah, I don't think so. I know this is a joke, haha, but I just watched this video out of curiosity, and to, uh... See how many of these related to my ex jfdk;aslfjdsak; XD
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While hard at times , Accepting that no one will ever love you is freeing. And hatred of one-self is a good way of staying alive. After all if you feel pain you are still alive.
The care and compassion you can give to yourself is something that isn't wrong, and is a great gift to receive. If you have health problems, then you get them solved. If you need to feel good about yourself, do something that will bring out your stronger traits, or improve the ones that bother you, because you put the dent into that big chunk of things to do, and that's a start. Listen to Torches by Aimer, too.
Relationship anxiety I would say is the most common, and the most unfortunate. Because you aren't harming the other person, but instead you're technically harming yourself by letting your insecurities bottle up inside instead of letting yourself love someone else and talk to them about your insecurities. From my experience men suffer a lot from relationship anxiety, but they don't like to show it/admit it. And there are a lot of sad reasons as to why that is.
@@caressemondine6415 Because of the stereotypes/standards that are mostly put on men (they can apply to women just not as often) that say men have to be "strong" but the masculine version of being "strong" means you don't express your emotions.
I hate to do it. Because it makes me cry and insanely scared but I am doing it because I love this person. I hate to cry but I do when I feel vulnerable.
i feel like my past few relationships have just been codependent and they make it seem like its my responsibility to consistently be there whenever they need. I NEED MY OWN TIME TYVM
You know it would be interesting to discover the extent of how low self esteem ruins your life after all many mental conditions such as depression or anxiety can be caused by low self esteem. I think, I am not an expert. Also keep up with your great and helpful videos
I would get nervous whenever people used to dm me and i felt like i had to try too hard to try to impress them since they would get bored of me. Point is i let my anxiety get the best of me and because of that, i lost contact w many friends and loved ones
I’ve seen relationships start and fall all around me from my parents to my friends, and I know as I am I couldn’t deal with all that on top of trying to improve myself financially, physically, and mentally, it couldn’t be done. So until I’ve got a comfortable amount of money, with a decently strong body, and a disciplined mind, the fun little game that is relationships can wait until I’m worthy.
True dat. Ifu cant even afford u a house let alone a car. Then ur not going far in a relationship. Without money ur not living ur life so how can u except to live a life with someone else
@@Kanimates So, you're depressed, and have anxiety? Doesn't sound unstable to me, sounds like the usual problems that everyone has to a certain degree. :o Professionals categorize unstable psyche's as "prone to self-harm" or "homocidal" etc. Just being depressed and having anxiety is quite normal in modern society, and is not categorized as being unstable. x] I too have depression and anxiety. : /
Madao I don’t have depression, and I just have really bad worrying/overthinking problems. Plus, I have terrible anger problems and I’m pretty damn annoying.
Thankfully the co-dependency thing I finally worked through in my 20’s. The problem in my 30’s is consistently feeling inadequate and not being more comfortable with myself. My partner deserves the best of me, even though we are both learning and understanding what is healthy. I WANT to grow up and show up; my partner is worthy of the greatest love story.
Definitely dealing with this right now... It becomes a vicious cycle when you become ready, but run into someone who isn't, but plays like they are for long enough to get you interested. Then they pull the rug out from under you and send you reeling... That seems to be my life
