5 Surprises in Malay Wedding from Japanese perspective👀The Wedding in Malaysia Astonished Me !!!😲 

Malay's wedding reception is basically to let everyone know that the couple are married, so parents would invite as many people as possible. they also take this opportunity to provide food as "sedekah" (charity.) that's why usually they'll invite your whole family too to enjoy together. and also for them to reconnect with family and friends. I personally think the reason why most Malay wedding doesn't start on time (aside from traffic etc) is to let guests, especially those who were late to settle down, chat and eat and still didn't miss the bride and groom. you can come at your own time and there's no need to rush. sometimes guests even come after the reception is over and there's no food left. the reception is to celebrate the couple, so there's no need to be so strict :)

1) There is a saying, if you invite 200 people to a Malay wedding, you have to multiple by 2 to that total amount for the food. Basically, the food should be prepared for at least 400 people. We Malay tend to invite at least one person/a friend to the wedding, even if that friend did not know the bride/groom. 😂 2) For the timing, typical Malay wedding usually held from 11am to maybe 4pm. The bride and groom usually arrive around 2pm. You can however arrive early, eat the food buffet and go home without meeting the bride and groom. If you want to stay and meet, you can too. It does not matter

In the context of a Malay wedding, "Raja sehari( One Day As King) " refers to the concept of the bride and groom being treated like royalty on their wedding day. The couple is adorned in traditional attire, often resembling regal outfits, and they are the center of attention throughout the celebration. The phrase emphasizes the significance and grandeur associated with the couple as they embark on their marital journey. It's a cultural expression of honoring and celebrating the union with a sense of royal splendor for that special day.

5:51 French cuisine is just to be looked and admired like an art. Malay cuisine is to fill your stomach like what food is supposed to be.

Most of your points are correct except for the timing part. In Malay wedding, when the time stated 8 pm - 11 pm, it means that you can come anytime you want between 8 pm until 11 pm. Usually, in the invitation card, it will mention that the groom and bride will enter the hall 0.5 hour or 1 hour after the reception started. And yes, if you come on time at 8 pm, you can immediately start eating. No one will look at you weirdly. Anyway, enjoy your next Malay wedding. Great video and be happy always.

Even if you attend the wrong wedding (it happens sometimes, coz weddings all tend to happen during school holidays), nobody will chase you away - it's embarrassing, yes, but you're still welcome! It's part of our hospitality.

actually the crying and emotional part happened in 'Akad Nikah' (marriage contract ceremony) at Masjid(mosque) or at the Bride home...usually 1-2 day before the main wedding that u attended... for the time, if Japanese 8.00pm , Malaysian u have to add it 1/2 hour or 1 hours late hahaha

Actually wearing casual clothing to weddings is frowned upon in many Malay households as it is deemed improper. The rule is to wear smartly but not necessarily traditional attire although traditional attire make the event feel and seem more festive. Unfortunately, over time more people begin to forget that dressing well to an event as special as a wedding is good manners and part of our appreciation for being invited to such a special event by the family of the bride & groom.

For a malay wedding, 200 guest is very small however from the food and the venue I think the budget for this wedding is significantly higher than the usual weddings that feed 1000+ guest. I hope people don't expect all Malay wedding to be this grand, most are pretty simple and modest.

Hi, Sunami👋🏻 😄 Just to share. Malay wedding concept is not ceremonial but festive. That’s why there’s no strict dress-codes, tentatives/time & people can join-out anytime. Malay wedding has 2 components which are ‘bersanding’ (bride reception) & ‘kenduri’ (feast). Before wedding, there’s true ‘ceremony’ which is ‘akad nikah’ (solemnisation following islamic rules & conditions) that only attended by family members, relatives & close-friends. The ‘kenduri’ (feast) is not compulsory/must to have in wedding but this tradition actually is part of charity from bride to feed anyone to get blessings or good deeds from the Creator in return upon their marriage. Thats why there’s no force to give certain amount of money to bride or their family. Just to share 🙏🏻

Traditionally, the purpose of the celebration is to inform the whole comunity in the area that the couple are now married, that's why it is loud with the music and shows, to call everyone in the community to come and eat, there was no limit for guests, the whole area and anyone come pass by are guests, there was no such thing as wedding crasher. In fact it was the community who help to cook, serve and manage the wedding. Of course some things are different now due to modernization and westernization, people now can order wedding packages and reservation at hotels and halls, people just come to eat. It is not the same anymore. I get the experience of the old style wedding in the 80s-90s, usually I take part at food preparations and serving, kids nowadays no longer experience it. 😁

a misconception about malay wedding is that, it is not bound to time. you can come at anytime within the time stated in the invitation card. if it says 8pm till 10pm, you can even come at 9pm. not a problem at all..

haha, that's why malay love to go wedding events. 😂 after this, u will looking forward to go next wedding event.😄

This one is modern ceramony. You should try the traditional one in kampung❤

You should try go malay village wedding, the environment is bit different but ton of fun. Cause mostly they make kenduri before wedding, so tons of neighbours come and help prepare the feast before the wedding. It so much fun 😂

I like how informative this video was on both cultures, Malay & Japanese wedding customs! Also, congrats to the bride and groom , they look stunning together!

We usually looking forward to go to Malay wedding is to eat delicious food 😂 also there's very little rule or expectations for guest. you can gift however amount you can afford even as low as rm10..its also normal to leave even before the arrival of bride & groom, because sometimes older people attend wedding is to meet with the parents, not the newlyweds, so after exchanging a few talks and pictures and ate the food its fine to leave already. Usually before the reception, we have the 'nikah' which is the exchanging vow ceremony that is more close knitted. Thats when all the emotional stuff happens between the newlyweds and their parents. The purpose of the reception ceremony afterwords is more to celebrate and announce the marriage to friends and community.

Sunami .you really explain our wedding culture very well. You study us very thoroughly. However if you go to malay wedding at the rural area@kampung , the vibe will be somehow different.really appreciate that foreigner enjoy our culture

We invite you to come to our ceremony.. that means we already take your time, so no need to be strict about time in wedding ceremony.. come and enjoy.. not stress stress la.

Your video is very informative. I love that. If you have Indian or chinese friends then maybe you could attend their wedding ceremony. You can learn a lot more about wedding custom in Malaysia. The purpose of the wedding is to celebrate the union of the couple, so there's no need to be strict. As long as you look tidy, you can attend the ceremony. The emotional part, you cannot see it because the "Akad Nikah" is in private setting. Only the relative and the closest are invited to it, and usually it happen one day before the "Kenduri" (feast). All the drama happen during that event. And you are not obligated to give money to the family. But it's like a Gift to the couple to their beginning chapter as a husband and wife. We call it "Salam Kaut". Or you can exchange it with other Gift like elctronic kitchen tools or something else to the couple. Hope you're having fun at the ceremony 😄

マレーシアの華僑の結婚式も面白いですよ！😆 もし参加してみたいなら、12月の私の結婚式に招待します～😊

You should experience the kampung style malay wedding. This one is quite modern but yet still okay! You will find the differences if you attend the kampung style.

One more thing to add, malay weddings usually have two ceremonies. The groom's side and the bride's side. Basically, they're celebrated on two different days and typically they're only days apart (up to a week). Bride wedding ceremony are celebrated first before the groom's ceremony.

"Selamat pengantin baru" is a Malaysian wish of happiness to newlyweds.

Sunamiさんのドレスかわいい💕

Sunami's expression when she got to eat first while waiting for the ceremony to start is so cute 😍 4:48

Many Malaysian will soon invite you to their wedding based on Japanese cash gift rate ya. 😂. Anyway, for Malay wedding it is not necessary to give cash gift but some instead will give an item as a gift. Cash gift amount is based on your willingness to contribute.

マレーシアの結婚式、最高ですね😊面白かった〜

Another difference is that malay and chinese weddings in malaysia are split into the ceremonial event in the day when it's religious and lots of traditions take place, and then lunch or dinner party where they invite tons of guests which is what is shown in this video.

In Malay wedding, the guest are mostly from friends, family, neighbour and even co worker. Everyone that comes will usually bring their own family. If your cousins, friends, neighbour or co workers have family, they will bring their own.

It's actually weird if a Malay wedding starts on time. It's true haha. Usually in a more traditional wedding (like at family homes not in hotels or special wedding halls), there's a time frame like the host will tell u to come between 12-3pm, something like that. So even if u are "late", u will still get to enjoy the food. It's something like Hari Raya Open house but at a bigger scale. They'll be serving food all day 😅😅

Sunami san can speak English so well, so talented and beautiful .

Totally enjoyed this video, Sunami. A nice, balanced perspective. Just wanted to share with you what happens in a Muslim Malay wedding. As someone here has already mentioned, the solemnisation of marriage vows takes place in an intimate setting, with only close relatives & sometimes friends at hand. It is conducted either at the bride's home or at the mosque. This is where the water works occur 😊 Then comes the celebration, where both parents and the bridal couple invite their friends, in addition to the numerous relatives in attendance. The celebration is either done during the day, generally from 12 - 4pm or in the evening, 8 - 10pm. In the case of the reception you attended, 8pm is arrival time for guests. As prayer time is around 7ish pm, 8pm is the standard time stated in the invite. The bridal couple arrived right on the dot, at 8.30pm, as planned. Any later, it would make the guests fractuous, despite the wonderful spread prepared 😅

Malaysian as u know, most important thing is the FOOD. Regardless of event, dress, make up etc is 2nd, 1st would be foods. 😂😂

I think you get it wrong 😅, the time range in the invitation card is actually referring to the duration of the wedding ceremony as you can come and eat at any time you want within the range of the ceremony...its not specifically tell you when the bride will come to the stage...for ex, if in the invitation card said the ceremony start from 11am till 4pm, you can come and eat at any time within the time range but usually the bride will come onto the stage around 1pm++ (usually after zohor (pray))....so its more flexible because sometime you need to work or got more than one wedding invitation...you can easily arrange your time yourself...

We only come for the FOODS 😂 for gift money its up to you, at least Rm10😅 and we usually give it stealthily when shaking hand with their family members like father or mother 😊

thanks a lot for the good words.. all the best to you too

I was having a bad day but watching you eating happily and being excited about our wedding traditions really healed me ❤❤❤❤❤

its all about food.. we focus more on the dish and enjoyed while chatting with friends and family... more on happy moment.. the touching moment normally during the akad nikah.. mostly included closed family member..and friends

Your english is getting better. Keep it up.

How nice!! こういった異文化体験ができるのは有り難い限りですね。式の雰囲気が伝わってきて楽しく見させてもらいました！

Usually, if our parents get an invitation to a wedding, the mother won't be cooking and the children would follow together. So there's always a popular line that translated to "I'm gonna go to kenduri, if you don't want to follow, then you can go starve yourself," something like that. That's why when my in-laws did my ceremony, she tried to make a lot of food variations for the guests.

In a Malay wedding, 200 guests are considered small. Normally the host will go for 500 (family) invitations. This 500 will make up to 2000 people. As for the time - normally guests will be given a time frame - eg from 12noon to 5pm. Guests can come within the time frame given.

200 guests is a new norm after mco. Before mco average would have 2000 to 3000. Traditional wedding in kampongs (village) would have even more guests..Tiresome but fun!

It is wonderful you can experience a Malay wedding and compare it with your Japanese experience. It is quite an eye opener for us to know it is so costly to attend a Japanese wedding. You should try to experience a Chinese wedding dinner. Usually we give ang paus to the couple and it can be anything from RM 200 -400 depending on the place of the wedding. The ang pau should cover the cost of the wedding dinner. And alcohol is served at Chinese wedding dinners. As usual, our wedding dinners always start late.

RM50 - RM70 is still quite expensive especially for normal malay wedding, we usually got it from rich family on relatives only. I think the average is from RM1 to RM10 only.

in Malay wedding it isn't a must to give money packet/angpau.. if we give, we usually will give it to the bride's/groom's parents (depends which side the reception is) as "thank you" gesture or blessing for the invitation so they can use the money for future expenses and the amount varies depends affordability usually from rm10 above.. if closed friend, i usually will bring along present such as home appliances for the couple..

the time actually indicates what time guests can come and eat.

sunami i always love your video. your explanation is always in details and informative! and i could learn difference between japanese and malaysian culture.

4:48 Sunami demonstrated punctuality by eating on time. Totally agree 😆

My own reception, supposed to be 8pm, but my husband show up at 11pm. He is Indian from India! I will remember forever and ever! Whenever we have quarrel, this always and forever i will mention! Huh

That look to be quite an upscale wedding..come try the kampung wedding next time

I am glad you enjoyed your first experience of a Malay wedding. I hope you can attend weddings of other races too! Chinese weddings usually serve alcohol and have "Yam Seng!" toast 🥂 Indian weddings would typically serve vegetarian food. 🤤

My son once had a Japanese friend when he was in University. Could have been my daughter in law, but it was not meant to be.😊

when you said the best dish, in instant i said "RENDANG!" and ofc i was right 🤣

More understanding one of malaysia culture 👍👏

Happy newlyweds and a luxurious event

If you get a chance....attend the Kampong wedding....

5:07 "its okay *lah* to be late" 🤣🤣

Japanese is using Waterfall methodology, Malaysian is using Agile methodology Japan is single & sistematic, Malaysia is diverse & versatility

Thanks for info, 🎉🎉🎉🎉

Good to see you got experincing Malay Wedding. It is lively because we celebrate our "One-day king&queen". Basically, we are happy for them getting married. About the "monetary gift", it is NOT compulsary. You're welcome to give any amount or not. For our best-friend wedding, usually we also give them other gift such as household item for them. The food. Yes. Nothing else to say..

hope you enjoyed at the wedding. Well this is Malaysia. Hajime ma ste😊

subarashi content sunami san! ❤🎉

Actually, it's not necessarily about what time you arrived and what time the groom and bride arrived. Usually in Malay weddings, guests will either attend the ceremony earlier or later then the newly-weds. But there are some purposely waited for the right time so that they will be able to meet the wedded couple. Definitely there will be time gaps but it's up to you to decide. Prior to your attendance, you can actually check on the time the organizer decided for the couple's estimated time of arrival... well just sharing...take care sunami

This is Malay wedding, Chinese are more comparable to Japanese, mind you. We Malay have more flexible hours, possibly stretch to 6 hours, but it shorter if the event takes place on night. If you eager to meet the couple, you might want to check with the host when the exact time the couple will be parade in. The crowd are bigger, even the host most of the time didn't really know all the guest. It could be friend of friend. No one will mention your invitation card or what not. A money gift are just a courtesy, a RM50 are respectable enough. No one will give you a bad looks if you didn't give it.

Malay weeding ceremony normally at Day,ussually rare do at night,because can give easy to family relatives,and friends coming from the far distance,can give more relax and casual and no need to rushing,after the day,the night is for family only,normally at Perak,always do like that

bagus komen dia ni. kalau xde review mcm ni kita x tahu pun specialnya majlis perkahwinan melayu. bila ada perbandingan baru nampak specialnya. colorful. makan macam2 n sedap. bnyk acara dlm acara. santai. tapi nmpk perkahwinan jepun ni lebih kpd cara org putih aka kristian. yg tradisional jepun punya kita x tahu. kenduri melayu ni plak lebih kpd Hindustan. meriah.

Malaysia host not a sit down wedding, it's basically open, you can come within the stated time on the card, usually from 12pm to 4pm... accept when it's held in hotels, then they will start on time

Yes, I enjoy it very much.

another thing to note is that the atmosphere will be different based on the venue, if the venue is pretty much closed like this one, you can expect this or a western-like wedding style while someone blasting kenny g to no end, but if the venue is open they usually will be held at either a family house or a homestay and they will have a long tent for the guests while blasting wedding themed song

Comel + manis pulakk awek jepun ni 😍

For that kinda wedding, it's surely luxurious. Since most I've been to are held in either multipurpose hall or just outdoor venues. Plus no performances, at most are just kompang playing group. The main event is just to see the bride and groom together happily in their beautiful clothing 💕

Welcome to Malaysia ❤❤❤

Good sharing Sunami..... lovely video

Very..very good experiance, I like that ..I am learning too. Thank you sis.

ceremony time means when is the feast started and when the feast ended. the reception will always start much later. 😁

すなみさんは楽しそうでよかったです。 マレー人の結婚式はパーティーみたいですね？ また、中国人結婚式では以前カラオケが行われましたけど、最近は少なくなってライブバンドで代用しました。 インド人結婚式はボリウッドみたくて色々なパフォマンスがあります。 ちなみに、中国人とインド人の結婚式にはお酒が通常に提供されます。 マレーシアの結婚式で「YUM SENG」と叫ぶの経験を楽しみにしてくださいね。

Hope you have a nice and unforgettable moment during the wedding. the one you attend you here is more like a modernized malay wedding ceremony. traditional malay wedding were usually carry out at the groom and the bride house. where people work together cooking food and setting up the tent, tables and chairs for the guest. wedding ceremony in malay culture are meant to celebrate the couples marriage. thats why you see the enjoyment there rather than being sad. the one that you usually see crying was usually the couple's parent. but it is more due to being proud of them and partly sad since they are probably going to see less of them especially the one who stays with their parent before marriage. for the gift, it can be in a form of money or other stuff like culinary set, bed sheet, picture frame. this is some of the common stuff people gives during the wedding ceremony especially culinary stuff like plates, cups, and glasses. its not compulsory to give any gifts. it is just a nice gesture as a guest and it is fine if you dont give any. i can't remember how many time i have attend a wedding without giving anything (bad example. haha). And don't worry about the time either. commonly, malay wedding starts at 1 pm or 1.30pm (typically after Zohor prayer). but you can see still guest arriving at 5-6pm. some states like Kelantan even have guests come during the night

My wed in 2019 totally kampung style.. "rewang" whole village will help to cook all the food for more than 800guest😂.. imagine washing all the dishes n the cookware after the wedding 😅

Rendang when its cooked properly is marvelous...btw dont eat to much coz Malay food have alot of sugar hahaha

Hi.. Of course the guests have to arrive first.. maybe 8pm onwards. Then only at 8.30pm will the bride and groom enter the wedding hall.. Hope it was fun and memorable event to you

the wedding that you attend was on the higher end. it's more contemporary and modern as opposed to the more traditional ones at villages and towns.

In a Malay wedding, because the heavy influence of Islamic practices, you can see such things happening. 1. Giving money to the bride and groom. - not compulsory to give but given as a form of a gift of love - not compulsory to impose 2. All who were invited MUST come according to the Islamic teachings. This only refers to the wedding reception, not the engagement or solemnization. Hence you could see a lot of attendees. 3. All guests are the same regardless of power or wealth. Hence, you could see everybody enjoys themselves during the recept. It is forbidden in Islam to separate wedding guests by their status. 4. Wedding recept is used to announce the relationship, to appreciate the wedding, and to celebrate it. Hence, it is a celebratory event. Traditional Malay weddings even have performances like silat pengantin (Malay traditional martial art serves to perform at weddings), kompang performance (the one behind the couple entry), joget lambak (everybody dances freely to the song together without any choreograph) and marhaban (say graces to Allah in a form a traditional song). 5. Clothing for Malay weddings is smart casual to formal attire. Too casual attire is actually frown upon as being inconsiderate to the wedding families. Same colouration between family members is to make it easier for the guests to come and congratulate and ask about the wedded couple. 6. Timing for the reception and timing for couple entry are different. Guests could come to the reception without seeing the couple but you may see their family members instead. Since the attendance of invited guests is compulsory, imagine 1000 guests attend at the same time. You could have a concert. XD 7. Guests are treated in honor according to Islamic practices. In wedding feast, it is good to have a lot of food more than what the guests could eat as a form of appreciation. Rendang is a traditional dish which requires long cooking time to properly complete it. Some would cook for up to 5 hours before it is done. 8. In Malay Muslim wedding, the two families unite. The bride isn't letting go of her family. The couple will need to take care of his parents-in-law as their own. Soorry for the long comment. Love sharing infos about my culture.

Aku suka tgk video sunami sampai habis.. Best!

You should go to malay kampung wedding... it's totally different than those who live in the city...in kampung wedding all people who live in the village will get together even the day before the wedding too usually the woman will prepare the ingredients for the wedding feast the next day... and the man will setup the tent and places for all the guest to eat tomorrow... usually they will slaughter a cow or buffalo to... It would be great experience in a lifetime because that's kinda wedding gonna be gone and forgotten soon... good luck and enjoy malay culture..

Love it when you enjoyed every moment of it ❤✨

When I was around 7 or 8 yrs old ( Im 50 now), my grandmother would bring me to wedding preparation . The whole Village would participate in the cooking ,decoration etc. Each person would also donate beras ( not much maybe about 5 cups each). The wedding preparation would maybe take about 3 or more days and me and granny would be there for each of those days .I was very lively and I like those times bec i would also play with other kids. When we r hungry we just eat , when we are sleepy we sleep. I dont remember who took care of us, I think all the adults just watch out for us . Weddings are actually a community activity/responsibility😊.

I think u should go to Sabah.. See wedding like as race Bajau, Dusun, and etc 😊...

konniciwa tsunami ❤

Sunami-san speak well English 😊😊 Malay wedding sure lively and have many foods 😊😊 Maybe next time Sunami-san can attend Chinese wedding too 😊😊 You might enjoy it too as Chinese wedding you can drink beer which I believe most Japanese will like. Chinese wedding do have some minimum amount have to give as guest depends on location and how close with the bride and groom. If normal guest about RM100 - RM150 for guest, if close friend or relative have to give higher and chinese wedding can wear casual too as better dont be too beautiful to steal the bride and groom spotlight 😂😂 Chinese wedding will be kinda noisy for you Sunami-san when near end bride and groom will go each table to drink alcohol and shout " Yam Seng" which is same meaning as Japanese "Kanpai" 😊😊 for chinese wedding will usually have about 1 hour loose time to start the ceremony, example if invitation write 7pm, usually 8pm will actually start 😂

Yeahhh. Thank you for enjoying the wedding ❤

good experience for sunami san.....

Malaysian Chinese weddings will be quite similar to Japanese weddings. Except the Chinese cash wedding gift might not as expensive as Japanese.

Thanks for sharing this video Sunami-san, interesting to know

Tbh, the timing only fixed if you guys to wedding in rent location. For people who does wedding at their own house, you can actually come anytime. For example if the wedding event ends at 4pm, you can still come visit the couple after that, because the point is for the meeting the couple and congrulate them.

Waaaa sedapnyaaa! Rendang, apam balik, pisang goreng, cendol. 豪華そうな披露宴ですね

You must try pisang goreng with ice cream!

Indian weddings are fun too.

im surprised that youre surprised !