5 Things NOT To Say To Someone With an Eating Disorder 

Thanks for point it out

Success Wheels the main thing is not to talk about the person’s weight; that’s a no no. I almost starved myself because of that.

I think this is like a brilliant idea to do now not being mean but if like someone is dear and they wanna listen to RU-vid this'll be very easy for them Not mean*

thank you

@MillerTime 86 pretty much everything else 🙃

thank you for the feedback

@@Psych2go your voice it's so relaxing i'd make a bed out of it and sleep in it all day

@@MedusaThrived , my sister wants to be one too! She is on 11th grade and thinks seriously about doing a psychology university.

Now i want virtual hugs :'l

@@Leotastick here's one 🤗

One of the reasons is having telling an angry person to calm down. You say that, that is a death wish 😨😨😨

@Bisexual Dolphin I thought the video would be a good idea, because angry people get treated strictly.

Or even better: Things not to say to someone who you think is angry 1. Relax When I’m feeling pretty normal and someone tells me this thinking i’m stressed or angry I do get angry and stressed to my bones

Number one, leave them alone until they calm down. Don't try to calm them down, don't try holding them down, because if you do that, it's just gonna make them angrier... (From a person who almost always angry and frustrated, thats me. Some of my old idiot classmates where did these and I just wanted to kill them to when they did that)

@@star-boltlover9609 Yes, and i'm capable of killing..

Lovingly Great It’s great to see I’m not alone. It just sucks when I tell people I just don’t really like food and someone points out my body weight.

yeah.. the worst is when people say I don’t look like I have a disorder. I have atypical anorexia, and its literal hell, but no one takes it seriously because of my weight.

All of the best. I walked with a good friend through bulimia. It is no joke.

Lovingly Great people can be so ignorant

I used to have it two years ago and almost got stuck into a mental hospital lol that's the only reason why I started eating again. Out of fear, not realization and self love or any of that. I hate everyone.. I'm never going to ask help from anyone ever again

Yeah the mind is really powerfull, sometimes to powerfull.

Yeah, the mind is a powerful thing. Do you know anyone who may be suffering from this?

@@Psych2go I don't believe so. Which is a good thing, not only because it's a terrible thing to have, but because most of the people I know have enough mental illnesses/Physical Illnesses weighing them down: They really don't need another one.

Yeah, currently food is seen as a coping mechanism on some days for me and only as a form of energy so I can run it off on other days and I can’t shake this feeling

yes so true and sadly right now I am struggling with it ;-;

Temmie la Yandere【KUROI】 i feel ya.

Once I was talking to my sister and I said that I eat a lot to make her understand what BED. I was saying that I had a problem stopping and she said ‘that’s not a problem that’s because you really like food’. And I knew then and there that I would never ever speak to my problems to just anyone. I don’t really hold it against her because she was young (15) and I don’t think she even fully understand what I was trying to say. But yeah I don’t really talk about my problems to my family 😐 I gave up on that because I know my family members and even if I try to explain it to them it’s just not gonna work. But if you think you can ‘work’ on it with your mum, course you know maybe your mum just doesn’t know or it’s not fully knowledge on the subject. So maybe you can try to send her articles or videos that explain it well and then she will understand and support you more.

@@biancalazzaroni6290 really, people understand anorexia, but most of them think BED is just not wanting to stop...

I use to have a disorder where i ate ALOT to cover the pain but i grew older and it got worse to the point where the only thing now to distract me from the pain is feeling pain from ur stomach asking to eat but u urself cant.....

My mom says that all the time. It really hurts me. I always try to tell her that it doesn't work like that, but she never listens. It took her an entire year and a half to even convince her that I had eating problems and that was only after I started purging. Still, she didn't get me help, so I had to seek it out myself. I went to my aunt and I think that made my mom feel jealous enough to try to help. It's been almost a year since I started binging/purging and almost three years since it all started. I just don't know how to stop it.

HoneyRose I'm currently in recovery from anorexia and I completely agree with everything you just said >.< this video was really relatable too. I hate it especially when they say "just eat" but it's so much more difficult than that. It also feels like everyone around me is on a diet and it triggers me so much when they talk about calories and all that when im trying so hard to stop counting every single calorie that goes into my body :(

@@BabyLionYibo I'm happy that you are in recovery. I wish nothing more than for us to just sit down and eat a proper portion be full and be done with it. I also am in recovery seeing a therapist for bulimia. I pray that you will get over this! We can overcome but it's a tough mountain that's been going on for years. You can and will break the cycle!

Yesss!! My mom always talks about “the keto diet” and she has all these things laying around for it, and since I’m currently battling ARFID (hard to explain, almost like picky eating to the extreme) I’m just like “how do you eat these things without throwing up?” And she says she just eats them because it’s not that hard to eat so this hit home really dang hard.. Also just know that whatever you’re battling, you’re doing great 🤗💞

@@memethornislowkeysad8987 thanks! We can all overcome this battle just like the video says it takes approximately 2 years on average for recovery some maybe more everyone is different ❤ you got this. Btw if I hear one more person talk about the keto diet 😑😑😑😂

Don’t feel sorry for ranting. It’s better to let those feelings out than keep them inside.

“Do you want to die?! Is that it?”

"You're ruining Christmas for everyone!" "You're so ungrateful!" "You have such a perfect life, why are you still acting like this?" - my mom 30 minutes ago

My friend said that last one :3

SO many people say this kind of stuff to me, I'm sick of it. I wish they could actually understand. =(

"Why aren't you eating?!" Then they hand me a full plate for the third time. "I bought you cake because Ik you love it" "Ik you secretly eat in the middle of the night" When I go with a friend to buy new jeans: my friend "tf that's a big size" People also think that if they don't feed me I'll dislike them and I'll get angry "You need to lose some weight"

Same

hope this video can help

my mum and my brother both do

I have a eating disorder

Same

Witchotography a family member of mine has bulimia

I hope your friend gets better

I have ana I think

@@Itsnoteasybeingwheezy You should see a specialist with that anorexia is very dangerous

@@guppy9161 ok :)

Sarah P. I’m glad I saw this video. So I’ll know what to do.

I'm sorry :(( Your feelings are valid, and they shoud not be compared to what someone else is going through. I once heard someone say "telling someone not to be sad because there are other who have it worse is like telling someone not to be happy because there are other that have it better."

Hey I know this response is late but I just wanted to say that you’re feeling are valid and that you deserve the world. I hope you are doing better and I’m here if you would like to talk about anything. I love you and wish you the best

@@lilturtle2932 thank you! I’m doing a lot better now! Reading your message made me smile :)

@@wintersbutterfly_ So happy to hear you are doing better and I’m glad that my message made you smile! I’m proud of you and love you

I’m glad you’re open about it!

Just saying not everyone is open about it

@@aestheticlia757 yeah I'm surprised I'm being open i really never had the courage to but I'm happy plus it makes it worse when your 13

We're happy to hear that the video helped you :)

@@Psych2go thank you 💕

And what was the reply? LOL

I want that cake. Can I have that cake? Now I want cake even MORE!!

Uncle Donel omg yes

Oh god now. Just replace that with a burrito and now I have the worst memory

@@liam6772 it's chicken nuggets for me 😅

Thank you for sharing! What have you learned after watching this video? And how do you plan to help those who are suffering from this? :)

You are EVERYWHERE. But yes, I agree.

Yes, i agree as well, but HOW ARE YOU LITERALLY EVERYWHERE

I don't think they're your friends. I hope you're okay.

@@sceptre80 Thank you for your support

Sometimes people get desperate when they see someone deteriorate in front of them and don't know how to help.

@@sceptre80 Or it might be that they just don't how to help.

@@AlterRektMLG why would a friend say that you don't look like you have something that you're plagued with?

I hope this video will give you a better understanding!

@@Psych2go Thank you ❤

I wish the best for u and your sister 💜💜💜

I hate that! It's so annyoing!

glad to know we can help!

How's it going? If don't mind me asking

Same for me, may friend told me iwen if we are not so close but im happy she told me, and naw i hawe ben gogeling facts abut eating disorders

Exactly!

...unless the person themselves wants to talk about it :-)

of course not

@@Psych2go then I go to my room and eat it there. And I hope you will get better. I don't know what does it feel like, but it doesn't mean I can't wish you the best... If I made you angry or frustrated or upset, I'M SORRY!! ....i didn't mean to.... ;-;

I usually don’t eat in front of people who are not eating.

Actually I think eating cake in front of someone with anorexia would be a good thing... As long as you aren't using negatives like "it's a treat/naughty/I'm being so bad/I need to diet". Then it shows that actually, cake can be a good thing

Kíra Tóth you’re a kind person

Wow. I didn't know that alters in DID and other such mental disorders can actually have other mental disorders too.

My alter has a chronic nut scratching disorder, ill wake up sometimes and my sack is raw and covered in blood.

@@xeno_christ_blackout Are you joking? I can't tell. If you're not I hope you recover from the wound (?)

CONGRATS IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU I’m recovering too It’s really hard.

@I love memes thanks man

Good luck! 💛

for sure!

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to love thank you Thanks!

I purged for three years and I have acid burns in my esophagus and also is in my stomach because of the damage I caused myself it’s not worth it

I understand you wanna vent but... I think this can be very triggering and toxic. Try saying something like "i struggle with this stuff".

@X Gacha Did...you watch the video? thats not helpful

try to break the purging habit. I purged for a while but my body realized that throwing up was really hurting me so I become immune to throwing up (I no longer had a gag reflex) and I panicked. how could I get rid of the food in my stomach was my thought. I decided to relax and just let my body digest and do the work on its own. really, everybody has the power within them to defeat any illness or disorder. never question your worth because your mind can play tricks on you. if you look in the mirror and don't like what you see, do you know why that is? because you are so used to looking at yourself in the mirror , you're brain doesn't see your features as special anymore.you are just used to yourself! but your features are special, they are!! everything about you is beautiful and everyone can see that. your own mind is your biggest enemy, but you just have to believe in yourself as the amazing person you are. it's alright. you can vent here or cry because there will be people like me that appreciate your courage of coming out and telling people your story. if someone says your comment is triggering, that makes no sense. clicking on this video could be triggering because it talks about an eating disorder. your comment is appriciated, and you are as well. you've got this, and you'll be alright. I've seen it happen in others, and it can happen for you too 💕💕💕💕

@@fairyjuggalo8368 listen. clicking on this video means you should be ready to hear stories about eating disorders because this is a video about eating disorders, okay? people need to vent okay they need to get things out please don't bring someone down like this again even if you didn't mean to you did. if this is triggering for you why click on a video about eating disorders????

you are very welcome

@Clarissa I'm currently considering whether or not to eat breakfast :l. How are you?

@Clarissa Well I had this one friend who knew, but he would force me to eat under threat of telling others about my issues.

@Clarissa Thank you so much! 😊

I always binge eating but when I'm on my diet I am very strict about it so I'm confuse too lmao

its been a year hope you get better

@@Bleakkit thank you! I completely forgot about this comment. I'm still dealing with some intrusive thoughts about my weight gain, but life couldn't be better right now. I'm getting married soon and I love my job. :)

@@caseykeener3525 oh i didn't think that you will reply btw no problem,im glad to hear that i wish u the best take care of yourself☺️☺️

Suga’s Art Me too

how can it be their fault?

twojja matka *The toxic people in my life-* “You don’t matter” “Just stop being sad” “Your just doing this for attention” “It’s just a phase you’ll be better tomorrow” *Also toxic people-* “How is it our fault?”

twojja matka yes! You’re right! I don’t mean to blame them but you know how the things you shouldn’t do to someone with Ed. They do that... but I didn’t mean to make it their fault... it’s really mine for not talking to someone before it was too late

@@twojjamatka3330 eating disorders are often pushed onto people, even if they don't know they're doing it

Do you have someone to talk to about it?

@@Psych2go Ive got my parents, and they noticed it but I dont think they think of it the same way I do. It might just be nothing

I used to skip meals (mostly lunch and breakfast) everyday during my freshman year. I thought it was a faster way to lose weight but now, like you said. I can’t eat a full plate without feeling full

Thank you! It's great that you sympathize with your friend, but we understand it can be difficult. Helping them seek professional or online professional help may be the best. As untrained professionals, sometimes, we run the risk of making things worse. But it's good that you are there for her when your friend needs you. Maybe check out this video? ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-p2gK9w0Zf0Y.html

Hmm, its difficult to say. Listening to their problems, being the person that they can vent onto, thats sometimes the best you can do. However, you could help them out in general, like helping them with chores, helping them make meals, etc. It makes for less stress on their part. Whether or not you see a difference being made, you might be one of their few lights in the darkness.

Yes of course, let me let the team know

This! I suspect I may be in the spectrum but I have no idea how to get "tested" for that. 🤔

Didi Stay strong 🖤

I think a lot of people can probably relate to this. Does anyone want to leave a comment?

@@jaxelton4500 Thank you ❤ It's hard, I'm trying to not gain or loss too much weight, just keeping my """normal"" weight...

Didi I understand that, but please remember that weight is not the only part to health :) I also feel overeating disorders are often overlooked

@@jaxelton4500 I know...I might get diabetes and other problems because I'm eating too much sugar and unhealthy food...

I'm sorry ☹️

because we are in this together

@@Psych2goI really appreciate what you do❣️ thank you!❤️

A DOCTOR that my parents got for me when I had anorexia said something similar to that...yes a DOCTOR (I hadn’t really gained weight, the scale was off b/c I had dressed differently my last weigh in) When I started doing blind weights my dietician just said “I think you’ll be happy”

"you need a sandwich"

Someone Named alex Ugh, I get that all the time

How did they?

thank you for the feedback

Zelda Fan what about overeating?

We're glad this video helped! You're not alone and we're here for you :)