6 Ways To Support Someone Who Came Out (LGBT) 

everyone is valid!!❤❤

Yey

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Everyone is valid✨

omg hi!! Your videos are so entertaining and sometimes helping me alot! :0 :D

Most lgbt people dont stand by it unfortunately

@@fhakqoqnsbajak4 well, more of us I know stand by this though 😌

But you don’t, otherwise you wouldn’t feel the need to say it.

I STAND BI THIS STATEMENT

YESSS I agree! This is one of my favorite statements I’ve ever heard!!

Thanks

I don't think a hugs a good idea with covid 🤭

Or just don't care about it at all

I wish I could give her a hug but she's in Georgia and I'm in NJ 😭😭

@@animationsforfun0 you could ride there on your pony

Have a heart in your favourite color! There you go ~~~~♥️

I'd be careful using the word "want" in that context

@@tortric How so?

@@KxNOxUTA it makes it seem like sexuality is a choice

@@tortric I didn't really mean it like that...

I'm pretty sure I'm ace (maybe aro too) and this is the exact reason I'm way too uncomfortable to talk through any of this stuff with my mum. If I may ask, how old are you? I'm 17 and 1/2. The one time I offhandedly mentioned getting asexual as the result on an online quiz my mum ended up giving me this whole talk asking about "if I was worried about it" and that "children in stable households mature slower". Like if I am ace/aro then why tf would I be worried about it? If I don't feel sexually/romantically attracted to anyone and never have, then why would I miss it or want it or anything, thus why would I be worried about it. I'd rather just get on with my life and focus on my friendships, school work & other stuff. Sorry for the mini rant lol I've just not really got much of a space irl to talk about this stuff. -Not like I don't have anyone to turn to, my brother knows and supports me & while I haven't outright told my friends they're both LGBTQ+ themselves, it's just I tend to feel like anything I say to people I know has the chance to get back to my mum somehow. Even if that chance is most likely actually nonexistent.

If you wanna hear a try to make this sound not as bad, i would offer “she seems not be that offended or bothered at least, she might “just“ feel older and more experienced than her earlier self and has changed some of her views since then“ She'll see. You will see. Hopefully she treats you with respect still. Maybe you can exchange experiences one day. But i'm still sorry she didn't seem to take you seriously 😓

Yeah, she actually texted me after she got to work: Mom: You know I love you and support you no matter what right? It just dawned on me I may have came across as dismissive earlier and that was not my intent. Me: Yeah It was a bit rude though I know me and I hope you know that Mom: Yeah. That’s on me. I’m sorry. I still view you as a younger child that you are. That’s my problem not yours. Me: That’s fine Mom: Throw away the macaroni please; it’s expired. I’m not as mad at my mom now. Yay. Btw I’m 14, so I get where she’s coming from with the ‘too young’ deal, but that’s why I mentioned everyone else having crushes and dating already and such. I’ve never had crushes or anything like that. I’m glad I learned about aces and aros, because I’ve always felt a little weird talking about that kind of stuff with other people. I don’t feel broken after finding these terms :)

@@lottapitchy9625 that's awesome that your mum apologised for coming across too harsh! =D

Ah, my mom doesn't believe that I'm an Asexual, I know how this feels, haha.

Same

Same✋😔

Please remember that you matter and you are valid :)

Next year. Hah. I'm coming out in 5 years..

Don't worry y'all can do it ^^ Just stay calm and try to explain

so true

Indeed

Well, now they do

Correct btw I had the same pfp on whatsapp

Hi Meena! Beautifully said!!

@The Damn Boi Man same

Yea c’mon now, we all just have to grow up 🙄

That's a good way to react, thanks for being awesome :D

@The Damn Boi Man okay get out creep

@The Damn Boi Man 🤣

this video would have been helpful a month ago when my friend came out r e g r e t

@@connor8709 I hate how random strangers on the internet are usually more supportive to people like you and me, rather than the people's real life friends-

@@diyaj2585 I did do that a while ago, but the damage was already done by then

For a lot of people coming out is a huge challenge and having it kind of shrugged off can be crushing.

@@thebutterscotchkid2481 that's true

I really wish more people had this mindset.. Thank you for the support! :D

Lemme guess, malaysia.

HAPPY PRIDE MONTHE💖🌈💖

@@JadeyJ4d3y, Hmm, I thought about Russia 🤔

thanks

Today I learned my crush was non binary, I looked very traumatised when I heard, but later apologised to them for my reaction.

Thank you Apple Dash! As a mother of a Transgender adult child, I thank you as I choke my tears. I love my child so much and sometimes the single fear of her ability to safely use a public restroom or to simply live her life the way she loves puts pain in my heart. If everyone could be as supportive as you, it would help us Mama Bears sleep better at night. Thank you for being there for your friend! Thank you for being a decent human being and loving the way the soul intended.

@@toniagerardo9919 oh of course. Everyone deserves respect and kindess from everyone after all. I'm happy to hear that. Thank you very much

Yoo that's dope. I'm a trans guy, and mostly closeted. You're a good friend

@@idiomatic444 thank you

oof i am an aromantic asexual agenda.... I didn't come out i just sent my friend the flags... She didn't accept it. Now we are not friends

lol

i just realised that i'm a demigirl

one of my friends is aro and i’m a demigirl :o (nice how i’m saying one of my friends while there are only two of them) ((well i do have other friends but they’re not my best friends so:D))

@@gryffingone8155 that's rough man

Hope it doesn't sound rude, but may I ask what omnisexual is?

@@GwynnDdu omnisexual is close to pansexual, but a bit different. Omnisexual’s like all genders and orientations, but they aren’t gender-blind as pansexuals are. They recognize gender and can have a preference.

@@artsy_skies_ Okie! Thank you for the info!

@@GwynnDdu Basically pansexual but with a preference!

@@artsy_skies_ my mini brain can't understand this :/

Hopefully the parents will change later.

I am lesbian and my parents are homophobic

@@Catsk1es it's ok be yourself ur sexuality dosen't define u as a person the world is a large place and there will be people 2 support so no need 2 be lead down by people who don't accept u And I understand ur own parents being homophobic is hard but I hope ur parents will change in the future Stay strong u are beautiful and valid

@@Catsk1es Thats really bad but dont feel bad, if they dont accept you remember that there will be people who is going to and you're amazing as you are, you are human too and homophobic people should understand that not every girl will like boys or every boys would like girls, we are born different and its your life not them, you decide who to love and what you want to be in the future

@@floofdoodle4349 ty

Gay

That's so cool 😃

@@anasabdulla196 yes gay 🤗🌈

@@anasabdulla196 I hope you have a positive intent with that comment😃. I suggest you make your intentions clear so that your comment won't be taken out of context 😄

@@nandana7315 I believe it's negative just by their previous comments

Same

Oh good for ur friend ☺ I ain't planning to come out till another two or three years 🥲

SPREAD THE PANSEXUAL AGENDA AS FAR AS YOU CAN . . . NO MATTER WHAT XD (All Jokes aside That's sweet)

Aww good for u and ur friend! Happy pride! 🤗

@@XLavenderSkiesX Thx so much 💖

In a discussion I had with a fellow classmate about our grievances with a teacher, the topic shifted to lgbtqia+ and acceptance of them in the community, he told me that, as a gay man, the worst thing anyone could say upon learning that someone is gay is, "Don't hit on me" I do see his point, because that seems like a sentence that could cause a lot of heart ache and relationship damage A lot of people will say "I didn't mean it like that" but the thing is, it doesn't matter how you meant something, it matters what the phrase you said means, and if the two don't match up, it can show that they didn't care enough about you or the the topic to think about how their response would affect you

I think the fact they called it "disgusting" is a bit of a red flag. Give them time, people can change. But if someone said "that's disgusting" after coming out, I'd be appalled.

Why did the "please don't fall in love with me" make me laugh so hard?

What if they can't accept that ik identify as a alien and that ik ben sexually attracted to male thing's and not male persoons only some

Your friends shouldn’t treat you that way

I don’t understand parents who disown their kids for being gay. Whether you’re homophobic or not, this is the child you have been loving with all your heart for the past x years (hopefully). Why does this one thing suddenly flip a switch and make you not love them anymore?

"Reason" has very little to do with it. A good portion of it comes down to either fear of the unknown or a fear of one's own inadequacies. Some of the blame could also be laid at the self-righteous "religious" folks who need a cause to fight against.

Some people in women’s sports and religious grandparents

Ya that's a good answer but still wtf

Bish I have read the bible

why you cried

The first time I came out, I was basically hyperventilating because I thought my mom would find out. I was crying so much and my brother refused to not know what was wrong. I couldn't really speak, but he typed options on his phone and gave it to me. The second option was that I was queer, so I deleted the rest of the options and gave his phone back to him. We talked about it once our mom went back into the store, and I explained to him that I was pansexual and what that means. He was actually really nice about it and helped me calm down. That was almost a year ago now (June 2, 2020).

I want to tell my family I’m bi but they are homophobic and they will be so rude to me

@@luke_tv1767 if they are homophobic to the point that they will take stuff like shelter or food away from you, dont come out. Those things are much more important than coming out. And if you still want to come out, best time to come out would be when you are already by yourself and independent so they cant really do anything bad to you if they dont take it well.

My life when i was gay: Me: IM GAE Me and da bois: *laughing* Thats all my LGBTQ life thx for reading this comment.

That would hit too close to home

@@0_jay_021 but it's a video that's important.

My parents are homophobic ;-;

@@bexie1992 I know I kinda need it tbh

@@ashleythehooman same :/

Definitely

You sound like my friend group except that I'm ace lol

My pen pal is gay, I’m bi, my first homie is pan and my other homie is bi-curious. It’s nice to be with others like you!

Thanks for that last part

Ok

wish my mom saw this before she said that she felt like i was mocking trans ppl bc she doesn't count nb and gnc people as trans 🙁

YES IKKKKKK!!! IM SO FRICKING PISSED WHEN THEY SAY ITS ALLYS

Yeah, also you don't need to use labels.

@@goqailysm oh yes, good point! Forgot to mention that! personally I just say “I’m me”, cause there’s new terms everyday and honestly who has the time to keep up! So KEEP BEING YOU!!! ❤️

I recently came out to my friends not knowing if I was “normal” or and stuff like that. I told my friends and they thought I was lying- and it’s super true to not figure it out all at once, I took my time and I still am. LOL I FEEL LIKE IM TALKING DEEP STUFF, but your comment was nice and it says a lot of important stuff.

Thank you :)

@@M-3RCH i'm proud of you for having the strength to come out, and speak your truth, even if you yourself don't even understand it completely, it's probably just as confusing for your friends Were your friends supportive? I hope they're offering you love and support as you navigate throughout the complexities and beauty of being UNIQUELY YOU! being normal is boring anyways. YOU'RE SO BEAUTIFUL FOR SHARING YOUR TRUTH, literal living art!! OMG TALK AS DEEP AS YOU WANT, I LOVE HEARTFELT CONVERSATIONS, awww thanks kinda just bullsh*t my way through life haha! if you ever NEED a listening ear please don't hesitate to message bb.

I've only got allies... when I came out I had to explain a lot.

Heh, over time my friend group slowly started revealing their sexualities until only one girl in it was revealed to actually be straight. Funny how things turn out

@@nerothewateruser8030 It was the same with my friend group. Eventually, our straight girl came to realize she's grayromantic

LOL I've been in the same friend group for 4 years and after one of us brought up being bi, we all slowly came out as LGBTQ+ XD

@@nerothewateruser8030 I think our friend group is the same 😂

This is so relatable 😑✋😭

A lot if people out there for example are extraverted and define themselves by the responses from outside, so any outer appearance easily turns into an assault on THEIR reality! And ofcourse there are introverts with similar dynamics. There are people struggling with people pleasing and if whom they try to please are people with misconceptions of outdated kind because strangely parts from religious organisations tend to forget religion, too, needs updates. Even though they use things like photography even though they would have been burnt by their non-updated ancestors for sure! They are conveniently changing and keeping what they please and constantly speaking "for god" 👀 Even though "God" has and is constantly speaking through all of creation, which includes the good, the bad, the many sexualities and genders and non gendered as. From the maniac to the saint it's all one. Yet fail-able humans open their mouths and say what's OK to update or censor and what's not. 🙃 Interesting! And that even though so many principles in religions are quite similar and actually really helpful, too! But fears aren't rational and we can't demand for everyone to instantly jump to full open maturity the moment they reach legal adult age (by what countries age would we go anyway? 😂) So, being mature and open also means for us to see where they're maybe a little inconsistent and still respect and love them (true to their principles, actually) even though they eventually don't return the same grace. Which is NOT to say we are to put up with their behaviours. We are allowed to leave them to their personal growth process and to call out when they forget that rights of freedom and speech and religious freedom etc. are directly connected to the duty to uphold these standards from their end as well! I should have thought about this sooner! Next time I see someone abuse religion to ask someone change to their "real" gender or sexuality, I shall ask them to change their religion to their "real" religion, which we call "Love" and the rule set being "human (and animal, and plant, and nature) rights". 🤭

Sometimes it's difficult to say anything to someone who came out. Just let them know you accept them I think that's all they care about really:)

No that's actually perfect I personally as a LGBTQA+ person would much rather have someone act completely normal around me while I'm telling them than make it this whole huge thing just make sure she knows your supportive of her

I had a friend say he was bi one time. I just said, So? Why should I care? You aren't going to fundamentally change, are you?

@@natescorner I don’t feel like that’s the best answer. Maybe he was afraid that you will react negatively, as many people would? You shouldn’t have been so cold damn 🤣🥲

Same but with a friend

That entirely depends on what you want to do. If you think they'll be loving and supporting then tell them! But there might be some people who won't understand or may even say hurtful things once they know. Just be aware that unfortunately not everyone is accepting and to think about your safety while coming out. Coming out isn't an easy thing but it's worth it, I kept it from my loved ones for years but once I came out I knew I made the right choice and felt more like myself.

And I sure wish they would take it to heart

As a fellow aroace transmasc I’d like to do the same thing

No offense I haven’t heard of that one before

I’m aro ace I wish people were nicer to us.

@@Brandimator maybe their school is religious

@@Brandimator doesn’t have to be cool, but it is rather nice to see something a bit different than the usual norm, which isn’t anything wrong with.

@@Brandimator no i dont think they mean that, its just mostly of the times is boy x girl relationships and its cool to have differents things and not always the same thing

@@Brandimator I know we all are human, but not everyone thinks that, its just homophobic people make a lot of lgtb people scare to come out, because they are going to judge them so thats why we need to give them our support because we all are humans and we can love who we want to

@@Brandimator no let me ask you this, whats YOUR point? they are giving they're story time of having a lesbian couple on their school and you act like you're not understanding an o and commenting stuffs that has nothing to do what the other people commented

Aw! Thank you so much!

Same!!

Same here lol

:D

Same

Good luck, mine doesn't know english and would ground me if I showed her this in spanish.

Good luck! It will get better, and if it doesn't, it's not the end yet.

@@travellertortle Awwh :') I hope you find people who accept you for who you are, even though your mother may not

@@C-126 Thank you! She's confused and keeps over-misgendering me (in an on purpose way) and I want to talk to her about how disrespectful it is when she does that :,)

@@stardust.7507 np! Ooh I'm sorry

haha your sister seems cool

Russians ?

Wait, what's killing Eve about? I've never watched it, but from the ads I thought Sandra Oh was a sociopath named Eve who killed people.

@@autimso7169 No but we are not far from Russia.

@Tan Sora Thank you💕 We are from South-East Asia.

@@Weird_dude265 KE starring Jodie Comer, who plays a psycopathic assaissin, and Sandra Oh is a fired investigator. Jodie's charms, despite being a killer, left both of us wanting to be strangled by her😏

yeah I mean they did mention transphobia alongside homophobia, but I agree. if someone comes out as trans just ask them about their pronouns and name and use them :) And it's also important to help when it comes to things like gender dysphoria (not all trans people have that, but a lot do) or transitioning (which again, not all trans people do, but if they want to it's great to inform yourself. especially if you maybe want to help them out financially). Anyways, have a nice day 🤗💖

@@UglyPastry I think because the video focused on people coming out as queer, but not as genderqueer. it didn't include small things like asking about pronouns or names for example. but the video is still great! 🥰💖💜💙

It is. Well some parts moreso than others at least.

@Raulo The Rainbow Crystal Starperson Yeah, it's really annoying 😅 between I live in Italy

Assuming your in a Spanish speaking country. There is LatinX, but you would be throwing out the Spanish language in the trash.

I live in Poland and there is they but for genders They =one (girls) They =oni (boys) Yee :/

Yup, in Italia è senza dubbio più difficile per voi. Però non per questo bisogna sminuirvi o disprezzarvi :/ Tu hai per caso trovato un modo per riferirsi a te in modo neutro? In teoria "they" si traduce in "loro", quindi si potrebbe usare quello, no?

@@ashcrow1356 Beh, quando scrivo in chat al posto di mettere "a" oppure "o" alla fine delle parole metto "x", un esempio è tipo "bellx". Nel parlato è molto più difficile perché devi fare vari giri di parole per dire una semplice frase, quindi al posto di dire "oggi sono andata/o in piscina" dico "ho deciso di andare a fare un bagno in piscina" e cose del genere. E ovviamente ci sono persone che non si sforzano neanche minimamente di usare i miei pronomi e mi chiamano ancora con il mio nome all'anagrafe (e ho fatto coming out con loro quasi un anno fa) Per il fatto di usare "loro" lo trovo un po' forzato in italiano per riferirsi ad una persona senza genere ma non ci possiamo fare niente perché l'italiano è una lingua un po' su questo aspetto :'/

Yes me too, respect for everyone.

Thanks

Same,i don't support them but i respect them^^

Wait what do you mean by not "following"? It's not a religion...

@@iconicplatypus7700 I just realized that

Your mom would sound like me if i had a kid Edit: except for the "idk wtf you are talking about but" part

@@EvilMeganium lol my mom never said that part but she do kinda look like it

@@popstel2286 oh ok

It's great you want to support your friend :) The best thing to do when you don't know what to say is to ask questions and listen to them :)

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Ik can't this society wordt to judgmental ik can't deal with this society ik wanna commit suicide the haten and the cruelty wordt really affecting mij😭

@@Undefinedde I’ve made a video that might help you.

@@Undefinedde r/hadastroke

@@user-kc4id7uz7q I didn't have a stroke strokes are serious a girl I knew had one she can barely move her hand it's called typing in two languages

@@Undefinedde its confusing when you type two languages. Oh and that's all english, use grammarly bc I think that could help you.

Yes! I really need help with coming out as trans! I’m proper struggling

Transgender is LGBTQ+

@@jjais964 I know but this seems to focus on sexuality,I was asking for a more trans focused video

@@shadowsafe6329 You're right.

@@shadowsafe6329 it should be the same as in this video, except seeing them as their new transformation and getting used to their new pronouns

But when I came out to my mom she told me that "god made me a girl and I should stop listening to the internet" those words made me cry infront of her, and when I try to talk about it she would scold me and sometimes ignore me. I love my mom but that was the start of the strain in our relationship :/

@@Viople I’m sorry about your mom, I hope she’ll be able come around to accepting you someday. At least your friend is supportive!

Lol tbh don't ever come out on the internet if you really want to be safe... Because there's a lot of different people in the internet too like in real life... So the moral of the story is never come out to people /hj

@@yv3sussy lol

@@yv3sussy i totally agree

@@DomiAnimations 😁👌🏼

but I thought twitter is a liberal pro gay platform

@Raulo The Rainbow Crystal Starperson in my opinion that won't be beneficial for any of them, honesty is always the key

Literally the same thing happened to me, and this was my first time coming out to someone so it was really awkward, i had to write them a paragraph saying i dont like you in that way and well that ruined out friendship soooooo, Its all good now, our relationship was pretty toxic and now im glad im not there anymore :)

@Raulo The Rainbow Crystal Starperson actually it’s been a long time since that happened and they are over the crush now They have a boyfriend now and they seem pretty happy We are still friends, it’s not awkward anymore and I still really like spending time with them

Same :>

Videos can't make you gay man iam Straight I watched this video for education purpose

you had great English! just it’s spelled understand :)

Thats awesome ❤

I hope I'll get there one day too :)

I am also bi. I don't really feel comfortable coming out yet though. I have accepting family and all that. But I'm a very private person and it would just be awkward for me, even just having it be known would feel weird. Maybe in the future I'll be more comfortable.

y e s . u n d e r t a l e m e m e s .

C O R R E C T

YES.

@@A_Sun_Flower YES

Your such a cool person

This is my two cents. Personally I don't think she's the toxic one, I think it's her parents who are the toxic ones. She's a perfect example of what toxic parenting can do to kids brains. Her parents are homophobic christians, not exactly a healthy or caring environment. I think subconsciously her brain is having a tug of war with itself in a way. One side wants to just be herself and be accepted, and the other side is trying to bow down to and please her toxic parents. This is why I think she all of a sudden went from realizing she was bi and non binary and trying to come out, to then changing her mind on all of it when she realized it was going to change her relationship with her father. And the reason she doesn't believe your sexuality nor does she believe the things you send her is either because her brain is just so used to the garbage her parents likely say or it's fear of what her parents might do or say if she said something otherwise.

I think I'm too obsessed with FNAF because I first misread it as "I'm pretty sure my friend is an animatronic." I was like hol up.

Ur not roblox man then

You should've told them "lol and you're a girl 😆 '

As a Pan Girl That would Hecka accepting,But I can't speak for anybody else,

I have no problem with them and they should be treated well but I will still want values to be in hold and don't want them to be all annoying and spread ideology. Besides third world countries need to focus on more important stuff like poverty. Jadey you should be treated well, I still accept your ways:)

Senegal?

@@v-boyboys8144 yeah unless your country is apparently run by old people who think of nothing but of themselves and not the people

That's so cool! You are a great firend (I guess, I can't be sure, but you want to support em, so that's awsome)

@@beamajor3517 Heh thanks , I just hope he feels accepted by me.

As someone who didn't support lgbtq+ but respect them.. I respect your pronounce

Aww that's cute ( ◜‿◝ )♡ I'm glad you were able to come out 💜