7 Relationship RED FLAGS You Should NEVER Ignore 

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Not true for every case

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True.

@@DrJoyti definitely true

No sympathy, but social media is a classified disease via addiction due to the dopamine release programmed into it. If you aren't perceiving and treating it and them, as such, there is a huge potential for failure breaking free.

Everyone comes with baggage though

But a red flag is a warning sign while deal breakers are… deal breakers

@@Julia-kv2po true but many people are bad people trying to be good, that’s what matters. if they are good trying to be bad that’s a red flag

They are red flags whe you realize that you should of walked away instead of making the deal ( I guess I ignored them) almost cost me big time

​@@Jackdaniels19894 if somebody think black and white. Split people into good and bad categories, this is truly a red flag.

The reason for this is because as kids they had to stick around when the a hole parent was destroying them. So fast forward to their adulthood and the child has learned to cope with difficult people and not just that but they fall into relationships with them because they are familiar. Untraumatised kids don't put up with narc behaviour.

Guilty of that mistake

Have to stay true to your soul thru the hardships. Otherwise you are at risk of becoming a monster yourself.

Everyone’s ex is a narcissist these days.

People make mistakes, man.

@@JeremyKersten that doesn't mean I have to date them when there's plenty of people out there who haven't. Also, cheating isn't a mistake. It's a series of horrible choices someone makes deliberately and is a true reflection of their character.

​@@JeremyKersten Cheating is no mistake. It's a crime.

@Peyton Bryan Helm well then I guess I'm a piece of shit forever then.

@@JeremyKersten never said people who've cheated once were all a piece of shit and will be forever. I said *I* don't want to date them. That's all.

Absolutely.

No, they are red

I'm currently dating this girl (she's 33 I'm 27) and as of today, we've been dating for 1 month and 2 days. We're going out today but I am confronting her about some serious things she's said to me, to my literal face: 1. She has told me that she finds me "Somewhat sexually attractive" while I find her 100% sexually attractive. In the 1 month we've been dating, we've rarely had sex, we've only a few times. So of course I'm flipping out when I am not with her because I ask myself who is she having sex with. . . . . but she has told me repeatedly that she's only talking to me . . . . and 2. She has told me that she has gotten really really strong urges to cheat on me but she won't do it because she's not a cheater . . . . maybe one day she might give in to the urge? Will that urge go away the longer we date? Who knows, I definitely need some advice lol Just as a disclaimer, prior to all this she has told that she does see a long term relationship with me, and also that she's not a cheater she would break up with me first if she wanted to be with another person. I have also had urges to cheat on her, but I suppress them 100% I do see potentially to be with her long term, every time I ask her if she wants to end things she says no She complains that I don't make her feel safe, that I wouldn't be the first person she calls if she had an emergency because of my age, she's older than me. But at the same time, she has told me she wants a family and would like to have kids with me one day . . . . so that's why I've stayed. We're going out today literally in a few hours and I am going to confront her about all this and idk what I'm going to do, maybe one day if she's fed up with me she'll cheat and then I would have wasted so much of my life with this person. Idk what to do

Bingo!

I'm currently dating this girl (she's 33 I'm 27) and as of today, we've been dating for 1 month and 2 days. We're going out today but I am confronting her about some serious things she's said to me, to my literal face: 1. She has told me that she finds me "Somewhat sexually attractive" while I find her 100% sexually attractive. In the 1 month we've been dating, we've rarely had sex, we've only a few times. So of course I'm flipping out when I am not with her because I ask myself who is she having sex with. . . . . but she has told me repeatedly that she's only talking to me . . . . and 2. She has told me that she has gotten really really strong urges to cheat on me but she won't do it because she's not a cheater . . . . maybe one day she might give in to the urge? Will that urge go away the longer we date? Who knows, I definitely need some advice lol Just as a disclaimer, prior to all this she has told that she does see a long term relationship with me, and also that she's not a cheater she would break up with me first if she wanted to be with another person. I have also had urges to cheat on her, but I suppress them 100% I do see potentially to be with her long term, every time I ask her if she wants to end things she says no She complains that I don't make her feel safe, that I wouldn't be the first person she calls if she had an emergency because of my age, she's older than me. But at the same time, she has told me she wants a family and would like to have kids with me one day . . . . so that's why I've stayed. We're going out today literally in a few hours and I am going to confront her about all this and idk what I'm going to do, maybe one day if she's fed up with me she'll cheat and then I would have wasted so much of my life with this person. Idk what to do

​​​@@tblazer4932tbh regards the main comment above, Key issues are, Mens core values don't tend to change or what they want. Women however do. Most women don't know what they want until 28-30years old/they often change what they want about this time and often end a relationship around this age if in a long term relationship. Usually to meet and marry the next guy within a short space of time. Also regards women changing their minds/values what they want, this is an ongoing thing THROUGHOUT their lives/at any age! It's why 85% of All divorces are instigated by women. Men tend to make a choice and stick with it once they commit. Women don't. They look for better options at any point in their lives if they become "not happy" eg. If their "core values" suddenly change.. This is both from experience and factual data. Uncomfortable truths are now widely available and it's wrecking society as men now understand women and women know men are understanding what in the past, they didn't (for various reasons) and are therefore now "opting out" of having relationships because theres little benefit and MASSIVE risks for men now partly due to understanding the risks and how women think and behave now and also because society is now geared AGAINST men so there's little upside to being in relationships for men especially so when it comes to marriage there's hardly any reason for men to consider it as a viable sensible option now.(very few circumstances where it makes sense). Also its a fact that 85% of women are sleeping with the aame 10-15% of all men. Hypergamy and cheating are rife among women as they are all attracted to and "sleeping-with" ONLY what (they believe) to be "high value men" in the top 5%, when in fact this is now based upon "unrealistic expectations/ideals" and due to the modern influence of social media (anti social media it should be called) fake people fake images of fake lifestyles based around materialism thats TOTALLY out of the realms of reality for 99%+ of people, BUT which 99% of women now see and EXPECT as Normal, which is a delusion based on the lies of tik tok and social media influencers amd also media advertising. Men tend not to be influenced in the same way that women do perhaps because of how men are wired vs women, however the effect is that society and relationships are breaking down because of this and the total lack of moral values that women tend tk have now when compared to previous generations before social media took a hold. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇬🇧

Theyre always on their phone.

@@jeffreymorris6193Yep, always. One time is a test and should be checked, 2nd time is a habit and time to say adios

Can you tell more about the red flags you ignored? What do mean by act extra? Thanks

Yes, please tell us more about the red flags you saw so we can learn from you. Thanks!

Same here. I learned a lot. As my grandmother used to say: “You can trip and fall once, but never twice because you know now where the obstacle is to make you fall.”

Yes this goes for both genders.

Thank you thank you thank you for bringing this up, your feedback is so important here and it reasonates as healing is not a linear process and I had the habit of attracting men who were not right for me and a lot of it has to do with not knowing who you are, so this video saying we're narcissists is damaging because you do need to know the lessons and be able to explain them to potential partners, who may not want to listen to them or shut them out by watching this video.

We are all toxic to somebody. Can’t have white without black . 😮

Very underrated but still very important point you just made, my friend.

You dont understand how your comment made me feel! THANK YOU I really needed to hear that

Thank you for this.

I call them “vampire friends” because they suck happiness out of you.

@@andrewyoung-n8ary Most are! That's why I only have 1 friend. We've been friends for 30 years because we ask nothing from each other. We are friends, NOT "bro's", we aren't "down for each other" or have each others back. He is not "like a brother to me", (I already have a brother). Just friends and we like it that way.

If they are going to crash, maybe they should? It's natural selection. Maybe you weren't meant to be friends or friends for this long? Why force a friendship?

I have a few to identify fake friends. Let’s say you upgraded in life. Like for an example, you got a PC that has better graphics and frame rate compared to consoles because you finally got the money to get one. Fake friends would tell you that it’s a waste of money and that you shoulda stick to console like them. In this situation, instead of enjoying your upgrade, they try to bring you down.

Lady you are 60. It’s unnatural to be out here finding your Prince Charming. Most older people who are still single do not possess the ability to be in a relationship. It’s a bunch of broken and divorced people with unhealed trauma.

@@Coffeendonuts Wow! No need to be rude. Not looking for Prince Charming, just a companion. I know many people who have found love later in life. People are broken, and divorced, and yes, widowed, at every age. Unhealed trauma occurs at every age. If you’ve never experienced heartbreak then you are one of the lucky ones.

​@@Coffeendonutsremember when you were a "big boy" now at 10-years old and watched the 4-year olds acting silly? Well that's what it looks like for mature adults watching immature 20- somethings. So mind what you say.

​@@Coffeendonuts seriously, you actually think that as you get older, you don't have the capacity to care for other people. Even if you are a widow/ widower divorcee? That is a really unfortunate attitude to go through the rest of your life with, but then it's not surprising that you're watching this video about red flags. I hope that you're able to let go of some of that anger and negativity and that you find happiness in your self before you go out trying to find it in a relationship

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Oh man ....shit I'm fucked up

You dodge a boozoka

@@deshondrehigginbotham506 big time

Just know God saved you from a lifetime of pain and misery. Imagine throwing kids and a marriage into the mess. 😱

Sounds quit toxic, sorry dude

@@Karll541 gotta go through it to get through it -- i'm still standing

I’m on this boat right now! However I guess RU-vid is kinda a social media too. Congrats

@@laeh_ i only use youtube for watching gaming tips or old movies only..

Me too

Exactly! Amen finally I'm not the only one

@@laeh_ i jus go RU-vid purely for watching movie or series reruns

If you're fighting to be with someone more, maybe you seem too needy or controlling to them. You're not allowed to define for them what is "enough". You can accept their limits or you can move on.

@@GlenMcDowellFarm I was speaking more towards those that seek confrontation in the relationship, but I agree with your point.

i thought it was a female friend, if it is then you have a problem if not then ur the problem.

Like a business partner?

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1. Can be due to trauma.

Sure, I definitely run as far away from you as possible 🙈.

@@alinehannak227 I give absolutely ZERO fucks. Who the fuck are you??

@@alinehannak227 ooooooohhh that makes me sooooo sad!! I have no idea who you even are. You probably have crusty meat flaps.

Hope you left xx

Going through that now

Doesn’t work if the person is allergic or doesn’t drink.

​@We Rule I think you missed the point. Keep it simple without spending extra money than necessary. The point is to catch the red flags

@@Azav312 You’re missing the point. If you think you’re wasting money, you’re going about it the wrong way. Shouldn’t be dating with that mindset.

@We Rule ok, do not look for red flags. Take them to a vacation cruise on the 1st date. Let me know how that works out.

@@Azav312 Lol, I’d definitely do that if I had the funds. That’s me being in my masculine energy. I check red flags between dates and decide if I want to see them a second time. Their in-between date behavior will tell me a lot.

Same

Lol, not everyone is a narcissist. Keep repeating that word like a parrot. Sometimes the women suck

Thts my problem with my girlfriend I don’t trust her cause she does sus stuff andI always have a gut feeling that she is . Wat can I do I’m not trying to feel like I’m getting played all the time

@@kinkyKynge what sus stuff tho

​@@kinkyKynge if u don't triste her She's not your girlfriend. Your feelings are important, u have to traje responsability

i would say so

Yes it’s easier to stay single! Things seem more complicated when your paired up with someone else. I was in a couple relationships and I hated it but then also the women I knew were batshit crazy or had some kind of mental illness about them. I always used to get the crazy bitches for some reason. Go figure.

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Lol Be careful with those. They’re slick. Big red flag.

@@Jplazanyc Yeah, me dumbass just accepted it...never again...and neither should anyone else...

@@loveyourtime4143 RIGHT??!! 😀 But actually, the biggest facepalm should be for myself 😀

@@TravisTheSavage Wow, you sound like a real lovely person to be with. However, I'm a fuckin virgin, so that first part doesn't apply.

There are some signs to notice if a person is not over their ex. I had a different problem; relationships with emotional abusers, so now I look for any signs of this when I meet someone new

Correct.

The girl I am dating is close friends with her ex but it 's because they have a mutual friend that died a few years ago, and she's told me that literally the 1st date we went on, so there'd be no surprises.

@@doom-driveneap4569 as long as she told you up front and they are detached enough that you are invited too if they hang out and she is not hiding you. Then i dont see a big problem.

if you cant be yourself around him, get rid of him

Find someone else

Enjoy your apartment of cats.

@@MrFennmeista Thanks, I do! Enjoy your statement of the obvious.

​@@timberwolf5631 sucks.. hope you find someone ❤

@𝖢𝗅𝖺𝗋𝗄 Kegley ◉ʟɪᴠᴇ• What?? I have PC only. And sorry but paying someone to play cupid for me is not in my budget.

You're old, who cares.

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