How to DETACH and LET GO (98% Get This WRONG)

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It's a big paradox in self-improvement: when you are over-attached, you're results are worse, not better! Sometimes the secret to getting what you want in life.... stop caring! This video, I'm sharing with you the powerful lesson of detachment. Detachment is the key to unlocking the true power that lies within you.
Detachment is the key to unlocking the power that lies dormant inside you. This lesson is so important, and I believe it can change your life for the better. If you're ready to let go of the past and focus on the future, then watch this video and learn the power of detachment!

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@clarkkegley Год назад

Here's a paradox: want better results? Stop caring. In this video, we're diving deep into the power of detachment. Let's unlock that potential within ya. Also - we deep dive into this topic for two weeks in our coaching program. Here's a free BTS look at how it might change your life by shifting your identity in under 10 weeks www.clarkkegley.com/free-case-study?sl=yt-detach

@alvingill9892 Год назад

I really need help in detaching

@alvingill9892 Год назад

Ppl hurt me all the time ..I love hard but I always get my heart broken..so what do I do

@Consumer001 Год назад

bro write about islam.

@carlorizzo827 Год назад

Interesting re the paradox. I found i'm unable to stop caring. I do not equate detachment to caring less. The change rather is an absolute acceptance of the utter futility of caring. I can still deeply care, just detour my energies to places where I make a difference. It kinda hurts to stop caring, life is bleak enough.

@marguskiis7711 9 месяцев назад

Detach and you remain alone or find only worse women.

@elizabethlasseigne5361 Год назад

“You don’t have to wait for things not to be hard to decide to be happy..” Said by a woman with cancer. Focusing on gratitude and joy of the moment rather than attachment is the key to peace. GREAT VIDEO!

@EB9RMIE 11 месяцев назад

Night birde on AGT

@marguskiis7711 9 месяцев назад

Bullshit

@Pearlstrand Год назад

Attachment to an outcome blinds you to other possibilities that may be better for you or the situation. Great video, Clark!

@alaalfa8839 Год назад

You may practice doing attachment and detachment at the same time 1. Attachment, by action, intention, inner dream, plan, passion, creativity 2. combined with a detachment of emotions You are attached by your intentions, but detached about when and where it should happen. Not trying to predict every move. Otherwise you would act like a robot. Then you experience oneness, wholeness, and balance. Oneness is the opposite of dualism and polarism. Robots and artificial intelligence never experience oneness, because robots still work without a break, and conscious thinking.

@Snapsta123 Год назад

💯

@Jewelsessences 11 месяцев назад

And soemtimes theres NOTHING good at all that’s why you attach

@marguskiis7711 9 месяцев назад

I detached and looked for another possibilities and found only crap.

@ssbarchive_ Год назад

I love this. My key take away. The more we chase someone or something is the more we get attached and sometimes even lose it. Learn to let things flow. What's meant to be is meant to be. Otherwise, learn to let it go

@bodruzzamandhrubo 5 месяцев назад

what does it mean by letting go? the work I'm doing for that goal or the outcoms/planning?

@jojob_clips269 4 месяца назад

Amen to that

@bernardoaguilargt3763 4 месяца назад

Easier said than done, but it's an absolute must.

@mementomori5374 9 дней назад

They highest technique is to have no technique ‘ bruce lee ‘

@sanatvij6327 Год назад

'it takes less effort to be your true self than to put on a mask and behave a certain way' - this line really hit me hard

@Trisof88 Год назад

But what he forgets to say is that people who put on masks and facades seem to benefit better in life with opportunities which is why it's so prevalent in society

@marguskiis7711 9 месяцев назад

Be true self and you remain alone.

@DonTrump-sv1si 29 дней назад

"It takes more effort to deal with the pain of rejection when you know you showed your true self"- Me

@sayanibhattacharya8268 Год назад

I messed up this one potential relationship due to my attachment and abandonment issues. But I am glad now I know which parts I need to heal.

@HeavenlyAmil Год назад

Same

@ericeric463 Год назад

Same girl happened to me 2 days ago, he was giving love ❤️ but I realized I need more then love. I love myself but did not feel emotional support from the partner. Love is great but you need emotional support more than love.

@Jewelsessences 11 месяцев назад

You don’t mess up a real thing. If it’s so fragile because you’re struggling and not perfect it’s just weak and not worth it and I promise you the other person was not even committed

@Jimmis_93 11 месяцев назад

WELL, IN REAL LIFE IS DIFFERENT WHEN YOU GET A CRUSH WITH A GUY AND TRY TO LET IT GO, BUT EVERY TIME YOUR MIND IS THINKING OF HIM, YOU FEEL YOUR HEART PAINS LIKE A HEART ATTACK AND A PANIC ATTACK.. APPEARS

@dave63rd Год назад

*CLARK KEGLEY - THE BEST SELF IMPROVEMENT RU-vidR*

@eliasrisberg2893 Год назад

I love him!

@U.V.247 Год назад

Wha..... What about Hamza?

@dave63rd Год назад

@@U.V.247 he's for ya'll kids...some of his information can be misleading too...third he expresses his own views and what he thinks of certain things and what he will do in those certain situations but he don't really teach you how to be you he teach ya'll how to be him...but do you really wanna be somebody else or you wanna walk in your own shoes? And also he does feels himself only a few people may see that his pride and ego is over the top...he's not a bad guy I do agree with some of the things he says...I've seen a video of him mocking another RU-vidr's working out routine in a bad way it wasn't even right at all its not Sneako by the way the guy is white.

@zenobiadecrespin7561 Год назад

Amen

@AxlAX Год назад

There's others but he's good to

@Justineyedia Год назад

In Buddhism, desire and ignorance lie at the root of suffering. By desire, Buddhists refer to craving pleasure, material goods, and immortality, all of which are wants that can never be satisfied. As a result, desiring them can only bring suffering. Because desire can involve a wide range of negative emotions, suffering is almost self-evident. Desire can put you in a constant state of anxiety about the desired thing and then lead to frustration if it's not fulfilled.

@brycesage610 Год назад

The phone analogy is great. I've heard some actors talk about maintaining "fuck-you" jobs until they make it big. The idea being that when they go into auditions they know they have their back up job so the stakes of landing the audition don't seem as high and effectively gives them confidence. Which makes it easier to let go.

@00Shaiya00 Год назад

This is the perfect response to the "you gotta have no plan B to MAKE IT" mantra

@alaalfa8839 Год назад

Well and even better is practicing empathy helping friends with little things, and then get more opportunities. I mean the friends may start the business together or support each other. RAther than depend on some stranger.

@marguskiis7711 9 месяцев назад

Most women you met in your life are pretty much crap, so there is a reason why losing a valuable woman is a huge loss.

@itsmylife8164 Год назад

Detachment is possible the moment we are aware of our shame and self concept and family unconscious patterns. Thanks, dude

@sophiaisabelle0227 Год назад

Thanks for this video. I do believe in the fact that we need to let go of things that no longer serve a significant purpose in our lives.

@madhurmotwani9935 Год назад

I can personally attest that indifference and detachment are one of the most underestimated and overlooked traits that helped me achieve what I wanted to :)

@Jewelsessences 11 месяцев назад

Any shit will know its place once you treat them with indifference.

@marguskiis7711 9 месяцев назад

You achieved nothing.

@andreasrydell Год назад

Letting go of attachment can be hard. Why we crave change, to be somewhere else and obsess over things, is because it is uncomfortable where we are right now. To not have that relationships makes us more aware of our inadequacies or maybe our lack of self love, to not have that success, might leave you more aware and present with the pain of your low self-worth that you lived your life trying to escape. Our natural state is peaceful, joyful, and not in need of something to feel amazing, that's just who we are, we are designed to be detached and it's the most simple thing. So why are we not there right now, in that letting go state? Why are we stuck in this complicated state of obsessing? Well... being in a state of letting go is being in a state of feeling like "you have it" already. But when you feel like "you have it" what does that mean? You feel whole and complete within yourself, you feel like you're good enough, you are loved, that you are connected to your heart and true self. This is when you let go of the endless game of looking for some external thing to convince yourself that you are loved, worthy and all things you currently believe you lack.

@yng27 Год назад

societal pressure

@farojaco Год назад

Really mind blowing. Hopefully we can apply this teachings in our society

@kjkilojoules Год назад

The way you put letting go makes so much sense. Thank you for putting in terms that align with Neville Goddard's teaching.

@Mandance Год назад

That’s a great thing to strive for but we still live in a traumatic reality so we will probably continue to seek things outside of ourselves

@RyanChow1989 10 месяцев назад

Amazing ❤

@eleanorhammond Год назад

This is hands down one of the most important videos I’ve ever watched in terms of self improvement. And I’ve watched a whole lot. Thank you

@adamlark8631 Год назад

Your videos arrive at just the right time, Clark. Thank you

@Candiceemry Год назад

That’s so funny that you mention your struggle with RU-vid metrics at the beginning of your journey, because you are one of my favorite RU-vidrs who I now come to watch just for his/her presence, information & entertainment is a second thing. So thank you for YOU, Clark ❤

@sofieinn781 11 месяцев назад

Thanks so much Clark! You have been a strong influence for so many years. Doesnt matter where in life there is always a video of you showing how amazing we can be and actually are! People like you make me possible to believe in becoming my best version no matter what. Thanks!!

@geneg3776 Год назад

Constant and ongoing pressure leads to unhappiness, burnout and getting sick. Excellent and important topic Clark👍

@nicknovakk Год назад

Love the videos on detachment. It is 100% the biggest thing I'm struggling with, but I've gotten a lot better at it these past months.

@marguskiis7711 9 месяцев назад

But you are still alone.

@Angad_Thakur Год назад

I am grateful for this video so much watched it twice to let it sink then journaled for an hour and those worries and thoughts that were bothering me for weeks just vanished

@parampreetrai7093 Год назад

This is probably one of the best video I watched on RU-vid and I'm not even joking. This is a true self help content.

@tamatharawls637 9 месяцев назад

Certain videos of yours always makes it into my life at the right moment I need to hear your message(s). Always when you let go and know it unfolds perfectly.

@crow_feather Год назад

I just really wanted to give you a wholehearted thanks for both this, and the follow-up video you link us to in the end. Thanks to them both, I had what was truly a lightbulb moment in my head, in which I realized just how much I've been holding onto negative scripts within my own mind, and making them my life story, thinking that those scripts are the only way I can ever be...are the core of who I am. Yet nowhere, anywhere, is it written in stone that that's who I need to be...that those scripts can't change, when they absolutely can. I don't have to hold on to these scripts as the core identity of who I am. And then, by changing the scripts, I can change my life for the better. This video and the one you link us to in the end, outlining the technique, are exactly my way of how to do change those scripts. Thank you so much for this, Clark! It's not often I have a truly lightbulb, life changing moment through a RU-vid video, but I certainly have here! For that, I honestly can't thank you enough!

@marguskiis7711 9 месяцев назад

Lol

@dawnfreshour8425 Год назад

I usually watch multiple videos, on the same subjects, done by different coaches. I find several of yours to be the easiest to understand. I'm glad that you didn't give up You Tubing. Thanks!

@07trailshredder Год назад

Dude this video hit home for me. I get nervous in presentations at school, meetings at work, and I just possibly botched the chance at what I thought was my dream girl. Definitely wish I would've heard this sooner.

@cadineshsharma4002 Год назад

Thanks Clark for making this video, much needed ❤❤❤

@eugeneramatu2489 8 месяцев назад

Hands down the best video on RU-vid just changed my whole perspective on relationships

@lindazeisky3845 Год назад

Thank you...most difficult thing to do in some cases. One tries to let go, but it's so hard in some cases to do in your head...even if in action you have been able to do. Sometimes in some cases it's easier to do, in other cases, ufff really hard. There's always one thing that makes it hard to detach.

@alwaysgreatusa223 Год назад

There is no real paradox here. Caring too much only comes into play when it adversely affects your performance and/or the performance of others. There is nothing paradoxical about this because caring too much really just means putting too much pressure on yourself and/or others -- in other words, putting more pressure than is required. It doesn't seem to be a magic formula to success to stop caring altogether. Everything requires a certain amount of care and pressure in order to be achieved. The trick is in finding and applying just that right amount -- no more, no less.

@carlorizzo827 Год назад

Nice work Guy! Creative approach. I'm not young, the bod gets tired, the heart gets tired. Letting go is easier cuz holding on is too darn exhausting. The intense holding on in youth was driven by deprivation. Comments re happiness are interesting. In youth i grappled with suicidal depression. Found great therapy and reasons to live (the arts) But continued to be haunted by dark fatalistic moods. After quitting drinking i recognized those moods were flashblacks. What an epiphany! Required different handling, and cleared the way for actual happiness, the ability to take pleasure in little things. Even when working through tragedies

@HenryPedia Год назад

These are great advices. Thank you so much Clark. I really appreciate and grateful. 🙏🙏🙏

@mahmoudsalam1326 11 месяцев назад

The most important speech started after the 5th minutes as he started to talk about the self-confidence and its reflection on the human being

@BenMojo. Год назад

I wasn't into your videos at first, because I was fed up with youtubers that just wanted the views and didn't know if you were one of them. Then I realized your videos were often prompted to me about subjects that I care about and want to learn more about. And then, after watching a few of your videos, you've become one of my all time favorite inspirational guy ever. Thank you for existing.

@H01143 4 месяца назад

I definitely messed up my last relationship by how attached I was, and my abandonment stuff that came with the surface. Still getting over the heartbreak. Hard to not attach to what could have been if I had let go and let it flow.

@c-mad6364 Год назад

Given this title, I want to thank you for getting me hooked on Michael Singer´s books this year. Thank you for all this, Clark!

@Sabts11 5 месяцев назад

Attachment to an outcome blinds you to other possibilities that may be better for you or the situation. Great video, Clark! My key take away. The more we chase someone or something is the more we get attached and sometimes even lose it. Learn to let things flow. What's meant to be is meant to be. Otherwise, learn to let it go

@joannacabunce8154 Год назад

Just what i needed right now. Thanks a lot🙏🙏

@prolificprofoundpoetry5381 Год назад

I never really looked at the scale of caring… this really breaks down what I was doing wrong.. thank you..

@troylane229 Год назад

This - is - brilliant! Thank you for the great advice.

@RituSharma-wv3uo Год назад

You have all the wisdom of spirituality. All the best for your future. Namaste 😊💫

@Pep1t0o Год назад

Great video! Thank you for your great work, keep it up!

@ValentinaGulpe Год назад

What a great channel to stumble upon! From one creator to another great work!

@luiz_second Год назад

you help me so much Clark!! Hugs from Brazil, you're the man

@tania_yt Год назад

Finally, someone put it in a way i can easily understand ❤

@davidbowry3756 Год назад

Love a good metaphor and you nailed detachment / letting go with your phone over the edge example 👍

@esraarageh4141 Месяц назад

I have just come across this video coincidentally and you can't imagine how thankful and grateful I am now 🙏❤️ Love and appreciation from Egypt ❤

@fernandomata3614 10 месяцев назад

One thing that really stuck out to me is when you said about you don't know a person in 2hours and that is so true. if I don't get a vibe from someone I usually ignore them with out giving a chance.

@lasedricchaney787 Год назад

I really do appreciate this video Clark Kegley you gave me a whole other perspective on detachment thank😊

@lilliza83 Год назад

Excellent advice. I’m always working on the last two. Business/happiness 🙏

@martabrodsky585 11 месяцев назад

Great insight and advice. Thank you Clark.

@philthyrich1433 Год назад

APPRECIATE ALL YOUR WORK BRO

@MelanieJoules Год назад

Heeey Clark! been watching since 25k and always loved ❤️ ur loa and personal development vids the best. Glad to see the channel on 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 since you decided to soley make this type of content!🤩🥳

@BlueBerry-uw5cw Год назад

Thank you I’ve detached from my ex and I believe it because how good you’re as advisor

@themagescorner Год назад

I have so much self-love I'm not attached to anything! Single for 6 yrs running lol

@nirupamavenkatesan8757 3 месяца назад

Thanks a million for talking about this particular aspect of life and the human mind. This was very helpful and extremely relatable. Please post more such content!

@Apokalypseplease Год назад

The bird of paradise lands only on the hand that does not grasp.

@khushishah8844 Год назад

Thankyou Clark for uploading this amazing content and making my life clearer and easier..very grateful for it

@jonstersmall2716 Год назад

You're still living with your mom, aren't you?

@Josv13 Год назад

Great, great content Clark.Thank you

@ruifrazao380 Год назад

This really helped me hearing this...thanks Clark!

@innerlightvalley 6 месяцев назад

I am grateful for all the blessings & protection from the Universe! I DETACH from anything that weight me down, take away my peace, happiness or under my value. I come back to my zen garden (my soul) to practice meditation, tea meditation, be silence, self-care, “create my own sunshine”, live in the PRESENT MOMENT with life purpose, dance with the universe, cultivating a grateful heart & peaceful mind to find true happiness & inner peace.

@JeanBatMusic Год назад

Love your videos. Thanks Clark

@aj.14 Год назад

Man, this content is excellent. I'm proud to be a new subscriber from Malaysia 🇲🇾, Southeast Asia.

@jigyasameena480 Год назад

So meaningful. Thank you!

@PROofHAPPYWHEELS Год назад

Im always skeptical with these kinds of channels with their own business, but I've seen a few of this guys videos and I agree with a lot of what he says and what I've read self-help wise in my own time. This is great free content

@adam-vy6rk Год назад

Tbf RU-vid is really in and out of consistent earnings. So creating a business is the best thing a lot of people can do

@PROofHAPPYWHEELS Год назад

@@adam-vy6rk of course

@CamilaRenaux Год назад

Loved it!

@icyjaam Год назад

Greatly put together.

@annenoya8978 Год назад

Perfect timing 🙌🏼😘

@northscape3593 Месяц назад

The best one yet! Thank you man❤

@cashpay50 Год назад

Wow, i get it now, to do anything, i still need too set out a goal somehow, but be playful and light at the same time. It's about being consistent, in the journey, not the end results.

@harnishghataore7043 2 месяца назад

This came in the time when I needed it. Thank you Universe ❤

@zm759 9 месяцев назад

one of the best videos on detachment 🙏

@AndyBlackSEO Год назад

Great video and makes perfect sense!

@hkronin883 2 месяца назад

Just discovered your channel. This is gold brother. Great analogies. Thank you 💪

@FaithFashionFinances 10 месяцев назад

This happened to me recently I had a few potential project partnerships go wrong and I started to detach and got an opportunity so much bigger and better

@DiegoCLB Год назад

Great advice, needed it.

@user-hw7hf7iu7e Год назад

Eventually, we realize that we become attached to detachment and the only thing to do is surrender all concepts. The most impactful surrender, is the concept of “self” of who and what is doing the attaching and detaching.

@hodgeyfitness6058 10 месяцев назад

This is helping me already the confidence bit I have autism so I don't know when I'm being confident but you explained it in a way I understand self love so basically self love

@footlongsubzero1128 Год назад

Love this 👍. Thanks man 🙏

@footinstirrup4948 Год назад

that was a lot in 11 min. Keep going Clark

@cameronx8345 5 месяцев назад

Dude, great video and very easy to follow along it actually feels like I learned… I’m hooked and gonna check out the rest 🤙🏼

@Melipoo2014 Год назад

wow this video is mad dope thank you so much great topics great content great examplesss so much realization

@Ginovanderpijl Год назад

Bro your content is amazing🙌

@MickBergeron14 Год назад

This is a really good video! I just finished reading The Surrender Experiment - Michael A. Singer This book is exactly about what you talked about. Letting go and let life guide you.

@deleon3747 Год назад

I couldn’t imagine making videos like this constantly

@itskliz Год назад

Great video 🙌🏽

@pamadams53 Год назад

When you were talking about getting your diploma it reminded me of those wise words from Spock. After a time you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting.

@angelroyale6185 Год назад

Great delivery!

@mulantisreunitingall888 6 месяцев назад

Very grateful you didn’t quit, because from the videos I’ve watched so far (recently started), you’ve been CRUSHING IT💥💥🔥🔥🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 like a BAD@💰💰😎. Thank you 🙏🏼 Clark for generously sharing Full-Potential 🌱🪴🌿🌲🌳, Multidimensional 🦄, WHOLE ☯️✡️🌓 You 🌚/🌝 you, and being an inspiration 💝 to humanity 🌎🌏🌍 🎼 beyond 🌌🌠♾️.

@kangasoftware3409 Год назад

thank lord for your virtual assistance

@Dynamics556 Год назад

Just detached from everything and everyone and build more self love

@baijeravlogsjeramyjuntado 10 месяцев назад

I love this channel!! It helped me a lot!! 😊😊

@packerjock Год назад

Clark...you are so awesome and always have a great message. I've spent a fair amount of my life wondering how to let go, as I hear so many people say "just let go". Unfortunately, I don't think I got how to let go from this vid. I may be working too hard at it..or asking for an easy answer. Still searching.

@404NotFoundIDontCare Год назад

2:45

@vicobaloba1011 Год назад

you just created a video for me 😢 thank you bro!

@kennethbrown7627 Год назад

Wonderful channel! 👍🏼

@tulumconcierges88 Год назад

Great point !!

@misschiff5904 Год назад

Ive been binging this channel today, its nice getting another persons perspective on this type of niche. Clark is definitely a very knowledgable dude that I inspire to be like. I have to say he looks like Superman and Clark Kent 😂👌