This Romantic Gesture Is Actually a Major RED FLAG | Matthew Hussey 

RECIPROCATION. "Don't invest in someone based on how much you like them. Invest in them based on how much they invest in you." -Matthew Hussey.

My biggest red flag that happened recently was I was the only one asking questions. If someone doesn’t want to get to know you on a deeper level…know they aren’t serious.

this totally makes sense. This explains why generations ago, a father would say," what are your intentions?' He wasn't asking for a proposal, he was saying, My daughter isn't a toy for an experience. How committed are you to having a relationship where communication and responsible behaviors are in place.

This can also apply to friendships, some people do not value YOU They just need ANYONE there. Settling is truly a big time wasting mistake.

I recently met a man who told me about his ex who "was the love of his life". I was proud of myself to see immediately that he was telling me he would never love me - and I ran for my life. In the past I have been hooked into accepting 2nd best place. Lol - growth is good!

It’s the difference between a person wanting to do something really cool with SOMEONE vs that person wanting to do a lot more ordinary things with YOU SPECIFICALLY.

Grand gestures are often a way to hide emotional unavailability. Definitely been there.

All this is simple. "When they show you who they are the first time, believe them." Maya Angelou

When he started talking about little betrayals to yourself, I almost started crying. So often I think as women we settle for something that falls short and try to accommodate ourselves and make that thing work. Instead of standing strong and not settling, pursuing something that is worth holding out for.

It takes practice and patience to recognize when a relationship is built on escapism. I see this a lot especially in online dating, people looking to escape their boredom with dates but not actually looking for authentic, long-lasting connections even though they might say that's what they're looking for. I think a lot of humans don't even know what escapism is in themselves or in other people.

I, as a guy, have made these types of mistakes many times. Nobody (and I mean NOBODY) has ever told me in my entire life that what I was doing was wrong and why it was wrong. These videos are so incredibly helpful.

What I love about my husband as he has never asked my messy ADHD self to change for him, and I haven't asked his Autistic anti social self to change. But its easy to sort of mesh together. We understand each other. We both can feel close, sitting saying nothing to each other. Yes we do special things together, but just being together feels right. We trust each other

My traumatised self watching all of these videos even when things aren’t bad 😂

Every problem cannot be solved with a "grand gesture." It takes more than trips/vacations or exciting experiences to make a relationship work.

My biggest RED FLAG, is when someone is happy to talk about themselves and be listened to, but when you want to talk they interrupt you with what they were thinking about while you were talking. Sometimes you only get to say one word and they start talking again, even if they just asked how are you, lol 😂

Wow I’m immediately a fan. This guy really has emotional intelligence. He’s not teaching men to be the way “men think women like” but actually the way women like. He’s teaching women to understand men too. He’s teaching people about people. About themselves. It’s incredible. The perceptiveness of this guy

I appreciate you not shaming people who are just out there looking for experiences. There's nothing wrong with that as long as you are communicative as to what you are offering.

When my partner and I were initially long distance, I let him reach out to me and initiate visits more than I did to get a sense of where he was really at and what he was desiring. He called me. He suggested him coming to visit and then he did. He started doing that every other weekend. When we talked, our phone conversations would often last hours and we talked about everything, including our everyday lives. After seeing that, I called him more and visited him during my school breaks. It was so clear from the beginning that he wanted a genuine connection and a real, committed relationship!

Ignoring or dismissing red flags WILL cost you later

I had a cat that liked everybody until I came home with my boyfriend, she went for him and hurt him…. He was bad news and she felt it. She doesn’t live anymore but I’m still proud of her.😢😊

1. Can he tolerate your "no" (and then observe him how he behaves) 2. He and you have an opposite opinion about something and you both can negotiate a solution? (observe him how he's negotiating). 3. Can a guy wait? (observe him what a guy does when you don't rush things). 4. Can a guy listen to what you are saying and respond to it? (and then observe his behavior). And now new number 5. "Looking for experiences" , yes, those guys do exist. They want to make exciting memories but not necessarily a relationship. Very true. They are looking for "peak experiences". And then they disappear after that peak experience and you are like "what?". (.. for males checking out females change he to she)

I feel like this particular red flag is the most dangerous (and harmful) to those of us whose primary love language is quality time. 😔

I learned that a partner is right for you when you can be yourself and be creative. When one is in a toxic relationship there is no personal growth. In my last marriage I was isolated and kept my head down and was so depressed. I never had a happy thought so how could I see myself painting or singing or laughing at anything?

My husband and I were married for fifty years and I want to add a perspective. Some people just do not communicate well by phone. We often traveled for work, and while we had good communications when we wee together, we almost never talked by phone. We would discuss necessary familly business, but not personal, emotional things. Some people need to be WITH someone to share.

I just went through this. He didn’t see me as a person, only someone to fulfill his needs. We were long distance, but when we would spend time together (sometimes weeks) I was always “taking care of him”, and he was all with the grand gestures and love bombing, so I at first thought it was an equal give and take. When we would be apart, all he started to want to talk about were sexual things after a while. When I confronted him about our lack of communication about our regular lives, he would ignore me completely. I started realizing he was a narcissist, and the cycle of grand gestures and going cold is just part of how they operate. Once they get what they need, they don’t consider the other person at all. It’s still hard to look at those romantic times with the knowing that it was all a facade to get what he wanted from me, but I’m glad I realized my needs weren’t getting met at all.

I wish I had seen this prior to my last relationship. I laughed when you said waste a year because I wasted FIVE years on someone who did this. I got strung along for a big fat nothing in the end. I hope people take this seriously because it’s no joke. You can lose the best years of your life with these fools before you even realize it.

A man to avoid is a man that suffer of apathy: indifference and emotional detachment!!!!

This isn't exactly a match for "Love bombing" but I think it's close enough to be equally a red flag. A lover bomber is someone who invests big into you, and then pulls away after a couple weeks to get you to do all the giving in the relationship for the rest of your life (or usefulness to the other person) And if you don't keep it up, they leave you for someone else.

Imagine being married to someone like this. The relationship never goes deep. Stays completely superficial. I literally thought I was losing my mind. Then came divorce( my idea) and the awakening. Thank goodness I have been out for years now. With my eyes wide open.

Be with me in my everyday chores and struggles, don't come to me just to enjoy some big moments.

I've been here before. My ex had no real interest in me, but I provided a fun time and experience due to being highly agreeable and open to experience. It's not a fun place to be really into someone who is merely using you. So glad those days are behind me.

This is SUCH a brilliant explanation of having (fun) experiences vs taking clear steps towards building and maintaining (closer) intimacy. I heard recently "'Maybe he doesn't love you, but he enjoys you."

Betraying ourselves in order to seek their validation. So powerful. Thank you!

This rings true for me. Last guy I dated basically wanted to slot me into the role his ex played, doing the things they liked doing together, but which weren’t what I enjoyed. He didn’t want to learn about me, just have me pop into the space left by her, including assuming I was on board rather than asking. It was actually a little creepy. I’m glad I twigged quickly and said adios.

I see this a lot on online dating. A lot of men seem to be looking for an adventure buddy “someone who likes the outdoors/hiking/travelling” but this is not the same as wanting a relationship. The main reason they seem to want a woman is to go on adventures with and do THEIR favourite activities. It would be the same as me saying “I want someone to join me on shopping trips”. Looking for someone to join you on your favourite activities is kinda selfish, the correct answer should be to enjoy doing things you both enjoy after you have found out if you share their same goals and values. Otherwise you are just their replacement dog going for walks with them in a park. There needs to be more signs from the start that he is looking for something deeper otherwise don’t be suprised when you want emotional intelligence, a husband and children and the only thing we wants from you is to go for hikes with him every week. Be pickier, vet him properly and walk away if you intuition tells you he is more prioritised with adventure rather than building a home, if that’s what you want.

If your goal (North Star) is to find real love, step away as soon as you have to do something that is not natural for you and you need to force it. LOVE SHOULD NEVER BE FOUGHT FOR! THE END.

As a Man, Every single date I've ever been on in my past I've invested myself 100% in that date. Must of spent thousands between dinner dates and movies and other things. I insisted on being the man and treated the woman right. Went out of my way to be the best man I could be. The women loved it. But they just dragged me on. And the second I said lets make this real and continue exploring it, let's start a relationship they all ran. Mind you I gave nearly all women 2 months each of my time and money and I got NOTHING back in terms of investment in me and starting a relationship. And I don't play around. Once I end something it's done. I move on. But it got to a point I just said ENOUGH. 5 months back I stopped actively looking for love and relationship and started living my life and focusing on me. I figured if a woman is interested she'll let me know and she'll chose me. Otherwise, I'm just going to keep improving and living a great life. Tired of spending cash, spending my time, spending my mental capacity and getting nothing back. I'm simply done. I'm carving my own path now. And if someone wants to join, ok. If not, That's ok too. 👍

“You cannot have fun with someone until you know who they are”

I love that you made it a point not to demonise the guy for wanting what he wanted because his wants of fun and adventure are just as valid as the woman wanting an actual relationship. Neither of them is right or wrong, they're just different and incompatible.

That Northstar advice applies to just about everything in life, not just relationships.

Oh dang...this video makes me realize I'm looking to have experiences, but not intimate relationships. I just want a companion to do stuff with. 😕 I guess I need to very open and honest right up front. Thank you for this video.

Wow, ‘experiences vs connection’ - communication is everything!

Always pay attention to your gut feeling if something feels off it is! I learned that the hard way

I came to this realization approximately 2 years ago and this is gold! It was also a painful realization. I’d rather get on with life on an ugly truth, rather than a pretty lie. Great insight!

I had a similar situation with a man I was speaking to long distance. He would get on the phone with me and then within 10-15 minutes he would make some excuse to get off the phone. So I asked him why he wasn’t trying to communicate with me and if I made him feel bored. He said that wasn’t it at all. I told him I’d prefer to have longer, high quality conversations so we can know each other. He listened to me and our relationship developed quickly. Now we’re married and I moved to his country and I’m watching him cook me dinner while I’m making this comment. 😂 Things can really rebound if you address the issue AND THEY LISTEN and your intentions are aligned.

I am my own North star ⭐. I divorced him 11 years ago and have become the person I was meant to be, not the target of his tantrums.. The greatest love is the one you have for yourself 💓

Had an experience just as this with a british guy. The difference was that he had an even bigger red flag: I was the one looking for an experience and was straightforward with him from the beginning. He kept pushing for a romantic relationship and, as soon as I opened myself to the idea, he started acting as if I was the one looking for something more. When I readjusted my expectations (and behavior) once again, he wanted to do a big gesture (aka come to Brazil on a whim) and I told him to not even bother. He kept calling me for a year after that, regretful and crying, until I finally got him to stop.

I’m 73…having had 4 older brothers, 2 sons, grandson, 17 male cousins and knowing countless men in business and personal life, you are so right. Men want the pleasure or your body not you heart or mind in general. Eventually they will choose to get serious, until then it’s all about pleasure for themselves and how to get it.

He didn’t book a trip to London to come and see her… he booked a trip to London to go and see London 😁

What this means in my book is he's a love addict. He loves the feeling of being in love and excitement - but doesn't want real love. Love can be boring but it's rewarding that these people won't ever understand. Him getting on a plane is exciting for him because he's getting a dopamine high but he isn't looking for closeness. Matthew I love your wisdom!! ❣️

YOU ARE BRILLIANT. As simple as that: 'Energy flows where attention goes.'

Amazing, the way you described my own experience! I asked my partner whether I was simply a supplier of good experiences or if there was more in our relationship. He said the question made absolute sense and it was also about me and our relationship. But in fact our communication was very poor, he avoided any "deep" conversation. To cut the story short, our North stars were very different. And I looked the other way instead of acknowledging that that relationship was leading to nowhere but deceiving and disappointment. We split two weeks ago, it aches a lot and I now have to put myself together. It will take a long time, you are so right!

What I thought was “romantic” years ago, I now realise was a huge red flag. Turning up unexpectedly, wanting to spend every waking moment with me (effectively controlling what I was doing and who I was seeing). Even my kids say I attract the “stalker” type!

I’ve never been able to understand what was going on, until now. Seeking the validation of someone who was incapable of anything but using me as a tool is… Eye opening. Thank you! 🙏

This was so wise. "What was initially a fun trip turned into 1yr of heartbreak and getting away from our North Star."

Agree! When a person provides an answer BUT -not an answer to the question/issue/discussion being proposed that is a form of control.

Matthew Hussey is a gift to women.

When men have the financial means to offer “grand gestures” there is often no deeper meaning to it, for them the cost is insignificant, but the result is an over romanticised connection by the other person who is getting caught up in the excitement of a grand gesture. He is looking for fulfilment in the moment, and she is looking for fulfilment in a relationship. The two are very different dynamics. Always communicate your needs and pay attention to the actions of others.

My husband’s communication improved a lot when I asked. Some men don’t know how to communicate in relationships.

This just confirms my experience that grand gerstures are not always a proof of his great love for you. I had two ldr and I thought to myslef "wow, they booked an expensive ticket to come to see me from another part of the world, they must love me so much." Hell no, it just meant they had free accommodation and a local guide to an exotic location. I was just an exotic experience they could brag about to their friends. Even now I got involved with a guy from a neighbour country who messages me regularly, but he isn´t really saying much and don´t really seem to be ineterested in an actual conversation. We visit each other and party, drink, have sex, but that´s pretty much it. He says he is not comfortable with firends with benefits situation, but hasn´t done anything that would suggest that we are more than that except for calling me drunk at 2 am saying he has a crush on me. I am not having that ever again.

I think relationship wise my North Star is telling me I need to find myself more than I need a man right now. If one comes along without me even trying to put myself out there, then time will tell if it's meant to be. 🍒

This is one of those issues I have observed more with men who have money than men of more modest means. Those with money want to do fun things for which they need a companion- like fine dining, concerts or theater. I once dated a man who treated me to truly AMAZING events. Really, the most incredible dates. But in the end, I realized that the attraction wasn’t to me for me. It was that I liked to do the same things as he did.

I am so glad that I finally (at age 42), found a Man that is a good fit for me. Dating and/or being with Men that did not invest what I invested into the relationship is heart breaking. It’s no joke…. It can be suicide inducing for many of us. I would advise to keep trying…. Eventually (odds are) you will find the right Person for you.

Some of us aren't stimulated by calls/texts when interacting with ppl. Calls and texts are mind numbing to me and is the worst way to get my attention. However I'm totally engaging in person when there's someone in front of me to see their emotional responses and behaviors.

Had this type of relationship 25 years ago. Always on the go, always a new experience, barely any time to catch my breath. Oh, it was so exciting meeting so many new people (everywhere we went we ran into people he knew), but the VERY subtle tell that this wasn't going anywhere is a comment he would always make when we would meet up. He said, "You're the girlfriend I always wanted." Not life partner. Not wife. Not mother of my children. Girlfriend. That's all he wanted, a girlfriend to have exciting experiences with. I wasted 5 years of my life on this guy. Smh.

I have found true unconditional love in my my 2 little rescued kittens who have grown into 2 beautiful Cats.. I love them with all my heart and they love me back.. the best part is ..this love will never become less or get lost in time.. i feel i dont need the love of a human anymore.

I felt exactly that…and thanks for putting in words…after 5 extremely delightful dates…I started noticing our communication was just to plan the next date…until he said he was not as invested as I was in having a long term relationship…if I hadn’t pointed that out, we would probably keep going on great dates and I’d be falling for him not knowing he was not on the same page.

Even if you have a clear north star, you must invest some energy and time to really get to know the other person...and the only way to do that is sharing experiences with them (unless you have clear no-go from day 1). So the key is not fool yourself during those experiences with things about the other person that are not real and exists only idealised in your mind.

I spent 17 years with someone, betraying my North Star. I grew up with surprisingly strong self-esteem despite emotional neglect from my parents, and I never put it together that I really started hating myself when I started chasing validation from people who didn't value me...you've given me something to think about...

True: we may even see the Red flags but we discount them as not being significant as we want to give the new relationship a chance & the new person the benefit of the doubt..

This is by far the best video I've seen of your advice. Things can seem very alluring, and exciting but they are detrimental to your end goal. You have to choose to spend your time solely on your goal, anything else is getting off track. So on point about self-worth decreasing when engaging in these behaviors. This happens without us realizing it.

Thank goodness he's promoting this significant difference between men and women. Broadly speaking.

You nailed it! Some are incapable of intimacy but need experiences with others and/or need others to care for without the need/desire for knowing and being known. Super red flag: when they never ask sincerely how you are or how your life is going.

Matthew, I have watched many many videos of yours, but, in my humble opinion, this was the best one. The message of finding ones North Star and, as a result of it, gaining self respect and therefore being able to say no to the things that do not help us reach out North Star is such an important message. This video has a very empowering, clear, lesson. You are probably not going to see this message, but Thank you for that.

Had a guy string me along for almost 5 years. Fancy holidays and gifts. Long distance relationship that never had an off ramp. It’s horrible especially if you love them but they confuse you. Who flies you business class half way around the world to meet their parents then doesn’t call you for about two weeks after you return?

The same situation happened to me but when I raised my concern about it and said I don't feel your love like I used to do before we met. That's it, he just said his personal space got hit and said he needed more time to think about himself. It hurted me a lot since this is my first relationship but I came out of it thinking this is better for both of us.

When I started spending time with Jim...he was working on getting his masters as a middle aged man. We discussed that both of us were limited financially. We agreed that we enjoy spending time together. We agreed that the activities that we did together would be free! Walks. Bag lunch. Free concerts. Hiking. Time with friends. Volunteering. It was amazing how many activities we could come up with! Leaving $$$$$ out of relationships seems to focus more on who the other person is....morals, integrity, character, etc.

If I had heard this 40 years ago, I would have run from the marriage I had in this type of relationship. Although I am late to the party, I am grateful to you for doing this for anyone else that is at the beginning of the same situation and can recognize it and make better decisions. 💞

Wow… this was beautiful and totally made me tear up. Thank you for your genuine guidance and support to people whose goal is to share their divine love with someone who deserves it. 🙏🏻 also - your voice is amazing!

The way you explained the feelings, intentions, and communication issues in this scenario was so helpful. Thank you.

Wow. This is how most guys date now. I was stuck in it for 3 years. After I dumped him, my North Star found me 🥰

My favorite quote from my therapist when I found out my ex was seeing someone new and had taken her to a concert in a foreign country (this is a man who went to a 100 concerts in a year): you think he was giving her something… no, he is in the relationship he wants to be in, with the music! Now he simply he has someone to do that with… it is not a romantic gesture. Love that!

This is actually really interesting to me. Personally I'm interested in something in between these two early examples (experience vs serious relationship). As an autistic person with ADHD, I find that I have a very individualized basis of what I like to do in my life, but I would like to have someone to share experiences with (and sometimes express/share my more individual experiences) when I feel able, whether it be romantically, platonically, or intimately. My baseline though, is that I need my place of individualism to return to for my own comfort and security. Perhaps this is due to previous relationships I was in in my immediate post-highschool years, but I think finding a relationship that shared some amount of real co-dependency with expectations to fulfil one another's needs is not something I am able to provide. In fact, the expectation itself in a relationship is very damaging for me, as it slowly causes me to burn out. I will always need to place my own needs at my highest priority, or I risk immediate loss of function, and even though I will always want to do what I am capable of to help someone who I were close to like this, I will not always be capable of doing so, and that expectation that others have will be persistently empathetically perceived by me and serve only as extreme emotional weight which will hurt me consistently as I try to recuperate from whatever had removed my ability to function in the first place. This is also not even considering the fact that I do have my own very strong interests, and those interests are necessary for me to feel fulfilled in life. Neglecting them feels like I am neglecting myself, and so the amount of time I want to spend around them is often too much for most people. Even though I am capable of entering the presence of neurotypical people and appearing like someone attractive, with an ability to aptly communicate myself, with plenty of romantic expression, I struggle to meet someone who is interested in me with a similar understanding of my needs. My capability to do it when I am able does not equate to my ability to do it at all times. I am not bringing this up in a way where I would expect anyone to put forward a constant level of interest to me while receiving less, but rather just that I struggle to find anyone who would be willing to share in my interests/experiences that would offer equal investment. As I am writing this, it has occurred to me that I may just genuinely be Aromantic, but able to play with romance and enjoy it when I feel energized to do so, as infrequent as it may be. It's simply seriously problematic if I try to attach it to my identity, which needs its own individuality, or I begin to feel entirely suffocated by my loss of freedom.

Bingo! Nailed this for me so eloquently. Now I know what I need to do so I do not continue to waste my time and my prospective partner's time. Follow my north star. Digging this spot on, easy to understand analogy. Simply genius.

My exhusband was like this when we were dating. When i expressed doubts about the relationship, his answer was big, grande jestures (showing up at my house at 2am and crying until i said i wouldn't break it off, screaming that he loved me at the top of his lungs, running 3 miles to bring me a cookie and later when we were married, hauling the giant kitchen table out into the woods and dressing up in a suit and cooking for me- which i had to clean up the mess). Turns out he's a sadistic sociopath and thought everything was a game and manipulating my emotions made him feel like he "won". I'm married to my soul mate now and let me tell you, I'll take love, friendship and acceptance over fireworks ANY DAY.

This had to be the biggest wake up call ever. I never knew why I was so upset with my choices and so depressed Everytime this kind of man and I ended up ending things. This is now crystal clear

Bingo. That's exactly why I walked away from someone yesterday. Thank you for this confirmation and affirmation for my recent action. Have a good day/night.

Very good video and true. Sometimes the grand gestures end up sweeping you away and you forget your own needs to be loved (seen, heard and understood).

Thank you!! I actually pushed someone away for this reason, and after that had a bit of a bitter taste because I wasn’t sure if I made the right decision, this confirms my decision and strengthens me to do the same next time.

I was just having a similar conversation with someone who wanted to do more activities together which is great but I also conveyed how the more regular, even mundane things like checking in and just taking the time to share pieces of ourselves and spending time discovering who we are and talking about our relationship too, e.g. any problems, miscommunictions, priorities, feedback is healthy and positive as it's time well spent with the activities and experiences are the whipped cream and cherries on top of any cake of a relationship. Having been a widow for four years now, after a 30+ year relationship with my husband and best friend, I'm not missing the activities and experiences, I'm missing the more grounded of talking, checking in and catching up. I know we've gotten to the point where we know what each other was thinking and how each other would react but that's what I miss the most: I miss my partner.

This man is a gem. Thank you for everything!! 👏👏👏

I have been casually dating people again after an 8 year break following a divorce. I have met a lot of people with agendas who ether want immediate exclusivity or ghost me as soon as they realize I am playing the field. The problem is, they don't communicate this in a heathy way. Instead, they get mad when I bring up the topic of keeping it cool. I like physical intimate attention . I like variety and I make that known clearly. Once bitten twice shy. No way am I getting exclusive when someone else is being manipulative.

You have no idea how grateful I am about your message…this is a confirmation that I did the right thing letting go someone who was not for me! ❤️

This reminds me of a non-romantic interaction between myself and an old employer which I believe still had a strong aspect of what you’ve discussed here. He wanted me to spend more time on the road (contrary to what I was hired to do). I explained that I disliked driving because it was stressful, my vehicle needed 600 dollars worth of repairs, and I wasn’t hired to do so much driving in the first place. I asked him for a couple weeks to save some cash, get the repairs done, and consider if I wanted to stay onboard by accepting the change in my work duties. He immediately arranged and paid for my car to be repaired. At face value, he was nipping one of my major concerns in the bud as well as being financially generous. But I ultimately left that job because what he was actually doing was being dismissive. He was throwing me a sop. The message his actions conveyed was not, “I’m here to help.” It was, “There. That oughtta shut you up for a while. Now, back to MY needs..”

Wow. The North Star analogy, this relates to every single part of life, not just romantic relationships. How illuminating. Like a light bulb that was switched on in my head. So glad I watched this and that this was suggested to me. 🙏💙

Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!

This is exactly what I needed to watch. I've been chasing a guy I like for the past year and it has been emotionally draining because his values aren't aligned with mine and he doesn't want a relationship like I do. We even talked about it, I had the courage to confess how I feel to him and we had a mature and honest conversation, which I wholeheartedly appreciate. I don't want to chase him anymore. Thank you for sharing a video like this. I love hanging out with him because he makes me feel good and safe, but that's only for that moment or evening we see each other. For the rest of the time, I am longing and yearning for him, but he does not put in any effort and I'm the one that drives the conversations, I'm the one that asks questions. I'm tired! You are absolutely correct: doing what is best for us doesn't make us feel good, but it is for our own good. Chasing a person isn't worth the time, effort, or energy when they aren't into you. It hurts and it takes time to process it and get over it and move on, but when you hear someone else tell you these things, it opens your eyes. God bless you. 💖

Thank you for this video. I have realized that I am the person who wants an experience and my boyfriend is looking at a full future together. I need to make this right.

Interestingly following your North star relates to everything in life - not just love or relationships. The same goes for achieving weightloss, reaching a fitness goal, battling addiction, aiming for a career goal and much more.

This is really good! Interesting how it is also relevant to work and career - I feel like I am wasting my time in the wrong job. It's crazy how relevant this video is to my career situation.