7 Signs Someone "Loves" You, But It's Toxic 

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Sadly also true for my mother, almost everyone who meets me has a ton of assumptions about me based on her stories and it's like... yeah, I'm sorry about that. I think deep down she's been telling herself all these things for so long, she genuinely believes them to be true.

Overidealization or (how i call it) "placing someone on a pedestal". Sounds nice and innocent, until the observed subject shows human flaws, then (after the shit-throwing, bullying and gaslighting starts) that attitude is shown for what it truly is: Dehumanization. More precisely, the opposite extreme to Demonization. The person in question is, at the end of the day, not seen as a "person"/human being and is not allowed to be. Always has to be perfect in the observer's mind.

I feel like that's so common with the way people see celebrities. People forget or get mad that they are humans with flaws. Being on a pedestal sounds nice until you see the way it negatively affects people!

@@esmee6308 Can you give an example? And do you mean your mom often tells people things about you that is not true?

​@@brynne77 I'll give you the three most common ones: - She'll tell people I'm disabled, enjoy video-games, don't get out of the house much, tends to show old pictures etc. All these are technically not lies but coming from a 200kg mother with pictures of me when I was bed-bound, most people don't expected a lean, relatively muscular, walking without aid woman to be her daughter. - She'll try to set me up with men, saying I'm single (true) interested (not true) and kinda goes back and forth without mentioning a thing to me until she's like "I need you to show this person around town please, I don't have time, he's coming over for a few days." And they think it's a full-on date from someone who's showed interest but is just very shy. First time was a 41y old man (wonderful guy don't get me wrong, also looked younger than he is) when I was 18y old (he assumed young looking late 20s/30s due to my mother's stories...) I got a facebook now just so they message me and I can end it before it properly starts. - A friend of her told her if I needed a job once I move, she'd help me out. (Since I'm technically disabled, this is genuinely extremely helpful.) However my mother going from 1 to 100 in under a second essentially agreed I'd start full-time Dec 1. Where-as I already got a new job, will still help out at my old job for at least a week to train my replacement. Meaning 7 days a week, I'm working... Luckily said friend asked why I wanted to swap sectors and well, I went from 1 to 100 in "oh god what did she promise this time?" And the story came up. I did agree I'd do what I could but well, my main-job... At least she's got months now to find someone rather than think she had someone, so I assume it will all be fine. I get in every single case my mother's either trying to help or it's the way she sees it. However this has gone on for over a decade, at some point open your eyes and see your daugher is 1. grown 2. not the way you wish she was. :(

Lol

LMAO SAME

SAME

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Sameeeeeeeeeeeee it's like your mind reading me

Idk why but i always thinking about my parents everytime listening to sad broke up song 💀

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@@hannisgf-ue8xs relatable

So did I…

Yo same TwT

Hit me in my core!

Same.

Yes lord😂😂

Glad you like our choice of reference!

True! I much prefer Harley x Ivy

@@bi-lociraptor6322 me too!

This reminds of people saying they're a "Harley+Joker" type. Like why do people think that's healthy?

@@jeshcar why does it have to be healthy?

I think this should have actually been in the video. It's a good point

I wouldn’t be proud to introduce him to my friends or family.

Yeah. I get how there's toxic friends getting in the way of other people's happiness but if you know you got good friends and what they gotta say about your partner comes from a place of concern, listen to them! My closest friend told me about the hurtful things my ex said to them. Although what they said made me anxious they didn't want me to dump my ex, it was my choice at the end of the day. They just told me to be careful. I would've continued the relationship and keep distance from my ex and my friend to keep the peace. Then shit hit the fan and my ex traumatized me to the point I had to get the cops involved. I heeded my friend's warning and tried to resolve everything myself or make compromises but they were right about my ex. He's a horrible, horrible person. Although I feel guilty for not seeing his true colors sooner I'm glad my friend voiced their concern so that I wouldn't fall for his manipulation to get back with him.

I do that sooooo much

THIS

THANK YOUUUUUUUUUUUU!!

Are there any others that we missed?

@@Psych2go omg you noticed me???? my comment??????? 😭😭❤️❤️❤️

1. they get unreasonably jealous and possessive. 2. they act passive-aggressive towards you. 3. they have issues with codependency. 4. there's an uneven power dynamic. 5. it feels bad all the time. 6. you lose yourself in the relationship. 7. you over idealize one another.

Mhm... Harley is 200% better than Joker

@@alitaisalwaysthere ikr

Yes! Ivy Is better than Joker

Harley Quinn is definitely too good for Joker even though he is my favourite Batman villain

And Joker was designed to be a VILLAIN for a reason and to my point of view his character is made BRILLIANTLY because he represents a lot of REAL LIFE VILLAINS that anyone can encounter.

This. I just recently ended a friendship that had most of these signs. I didn't really lose myself in the friendship or overidealize the friend though she probably did so to me. My decision to end it took too long probably because I don't like hurting others and ending the friendship would affect more than just us two but everything worked out.

To a certain extent, yes. Some things are no probs at all in terms of friendships though. It's the frequency, how many of these get ticked off at the same time and whether or not they make you feel bad if it's not reciprocated or appreciated in the way they had imagined in their head. Also, in terms of friends (and relationships), communication is key. If something can not be openly talked about and respected afterwards it's worth to take a step back and reconsider whether this is someone you want to have in your life on a semi-frequent basis (or not at all).

I was thinking the same thing, and i only noticed that far too late 😢

I wish I could of seen the signs earlier I wish I could of been better and change before he finally decided to break it off and need his own space. He said he still loved me but that he wanted to work on himself but I honestly think it was because of me all I can do is pray for his well being and growth as well as for mine 😔 I didn’t make it before I completely lost him.

@@XEveeX_ well the hope is not still lost. You can work on yourself. Let him go because you also need time to use your insight. You are more important than anything. Love yourself, invest your time in yourself, strive to be your best version and if you don't want to be alone, there are so many amazing people out there just open your heart to the world. I wish you all the best. 🌸

same, i have a toxic traits to. Now we're breaking up because of my toxic traits:((( she deserved better:((( i love her so much, we decided to break because for our own good. But i felt guilty because of my own toxic traits. :(((((

My ex and I were toxic to each other. 😬

wish my gf would realize this. im not going to act like im perfict but she treats the real me like an abuser and the mask like its the best thing in the world. i havent been myslef in years

Paul Rud’s character said it first.

Yes it is a Stephen Chbosky quote

It's so sad and liberating at the same time to realize Emma Watson's character was not the romantic, troubled soul the main character of the movie painted her to be 😂 and the lengths to which the main character was able to rationalize her behavior in order to avoid admitting his self esteem is on the ground level, because otherwise he would not waste a second waiting for that hypergamous idiot she was.

Antman

Same... Well i actually decided that days ago 🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️

Unfortunately that's the route I've taken...for 10 years now.

You always miss the shots you don’t take

That makes two of us

To all those people who got mistreated in an toxic relationship. Dont give up on people. Your worth it and deserve to love and to be loved. Even if they treated wrongly and told you that you are the problem. You're not. They are. Hiding in a shell won't heal you. It isolates you. Just move on and know yourself. Always remember that you are worth it and deserve it.

Thank you so much for this, this video made me feel quite bad about and I'm glad you wrote this

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Thank you for writing this, this particular viewpoint tends to get overshadowed. While I wasn't in a toxic romantic relationship, I was toxic to some of my friends in the past and didn't realize it until literal years later. I would beat myself up over how I must've hurt them, since I never apologized for what I did (at the time didn't realize what I did was wrong and never saw them again to be able to actually apologize). Recently started being able to not beat myself up over the past and grow as a person and as a friend. Having been toxic doesn't necessarily mean someone's a "bad person"

Exactly.

Well said. We all could use a bit of cleanup in this. Forgive yourself, and it is easier to forgive others.

Glad you like it!

I thought I was the only one who noticed that too

Her voice makes me happy. 😀

Your beautiful body beckons me baby!

@@Psych2go your voice is so much calmer in the newer videos than those years back. Did you have a voice coach or something? I'm genuinely curious how you did that.

It really is contagious...

Mhm! How do you normally differentiate the two?

Love is evil

@Loving life 🙈🙉🙊🤣😝

You feel so alone, stuck in an endless cycle of insults and cold shoulders. How can he cut me so deeply with his words, leave me crying in a heap in the next room, give me the cold shoulder for days at a time, and offers no apologies for his verbal abuse. And why can't I bring myself leave him...?

@@christineghere2461 that's about right.

Or its just get worse

This is either meant to be a joke or a optimistic/hopeful quote. Too bad it's not on the best possible video for this quote. You tried though and I'm proud of that

lol! I wish you two the best :)

I was thinking the exact same thing.

@@samuelebincoletto637 So was I

I love them since day one as a couple upset new suicide Squad isnt more about their live n relationship n suicide Squad bc first one already had to lil with the two of them now nothing is it bc people were like not sure if they did or didn5 except the new joker ugh make out movies imagination have we all lost that part of us I def have not I look at the character n adventure not actor/actress or words written in news paper description n base mine off theirs whether called adventure a more pg13 jungle Cruise whatever shit tabloids be spitting LMAO yah feel me

Serves him right!!!......he really didn't deserve u....stay strong 🔥

indeed

yep, I just experienced it this month.

@@whitelilycookie60 Damn mine was last month :( she left and the worst part is until recently I blamed myself for not being good enough

@@Peanuts76 Don't worry, you will end up moving on anyways. There is something more important than her.

@@kakabito7520 yup, same but you deserver anyone better than her

Yes I have experienced this. Been cheated on. Let's not forget ppl who demand everything of you just so you get shit on. Negative vibes suck the life out of me. I have been accused of doing things like being out etc. Or being online. When I have been sick in bed. There's one for the record books. Did this person ask how I was? No. They obviously didn't even realize that the phone worked both ways.

Yay thank you, that helped a lot

My God Roschel fits all of these traits 🙃

I'm good then lol

God bless you

Co-Dependency my most noticeable flaw according to therapists, but guess not an issue anymore since haven't been in a relationship for years and doubt will be ever again.... And if anyone tries to go with the "in time" comment....STOP... You don't know me, so don't comment like you do.

Duh he used her to break out of Arkham

True haha

i wonder why 🤨

@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 in a comic he literally left her to die surrounded by his previous partners

I’ve been single all my life. I’m alone, bitter, and miserable.

@@ianpage2509 it make take awhile to get comfortable with solitude. But trust me, you will find it to be rewarding and remember being alone and lonely are still different. Stay healthy. Stay blessed ❤️

Exactly right. A gamble that can sometimes result in injury or death. Between love or life, I choose ✨LIFE!✨ 😀

indeed

Hear hear. I used to think I was missing out. But seeing people chain themselves to such emotionally, physically, and mentally draining exercise in frustration helped me see that it's not the deeply fulfilling thing people make it out to be.

I recently cut my mother out of my life. I’m 44 and wish I had done it over 20 years ago. Remember you can’t help or fix everyone, especially anyone who doesn’t want or think they need help.

@@asasial1977 im 22 now and i am coming to realize how toxic the stuff got. im still in the process of sorting everything out and still its possible that my mom actually tries to change, though i dont know how high are the chances. at least i have realized what shes doing is wrong ane toxic

@@basil_sunflower99 I wish I had realized it. I was a scapegoated child. I had been taught, and believed everything was my fault.

@@asasial1977 im sorry you had to go through that. to be honest if it wasnt for my internet friends i wouldnt have realized all of that so its mostly thanks to them caring about me so much. i hope you find happiness now and i wish you all the best friend❤️

I’m not happy.

@@paulodeleon6544 you will be, not now, but soon:>

Good job you!

Oh my this hit me hard I also lost myself in my relationship I became toxic and I never acted like that before I was insecure and didn’t know how to love myself as well I still really love him but sometimes I feel like he deserves better and I just want him to be happy 😭😭

@I Love God Amen Amen. 🙏✨

I agree, this channel is such a great resource! Toxic relationships are so dangerous it's really important to know you're worth :)

I agree it should be toxic relationship

I became toxic to the person I love and it hurts now realizing what I have done and knowing is too late now I am scared to get into a new relationship fearing I will become that way again.

Glad this helps :) Did you resonate with the video?

Yes! I might need to heal my abusive behavior. Thanks to the knowledge you give I can start. Thank you so much may you be blessed

How is your married life going on now? Did anythings improve?

@@ayushgour2840 thanks for asking, yes it is! Everything changed since I started seriously work on myself and healed my childhood traumas

She is going to age up veeeery quick if she sticks with him.

I have a friend in one of these as well. His abuser has isolated him from many of us, myself included. His abuser also financially sponges off of him. Still, my friend defends the puppeteer. It's pathetic. I just keep hoping he'll wake up and see the mess he's in and do something to get out of it. Can't do anything to help him until he wants it. It hurts but life goes on.

Unfortunately, there's nothing you can really do. I had a friend in this situation and she pushed everyone away who tried to warn her or who she thought didn't like her husband. When I called her, he was always listening in, so I know he was controlling her. I guess the best thing you can do is remind them of their worth and hope they'll realize they deserve so much better.

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A m o g u s

Me too

That took guts. I’m sorry you’re going through a break up, you will come out of this better than before!

Thats a big oof,and very relatable..

Why didn't you work on improving your issues? Wasn't that person worth making an effort for?

I can't imagine that being easy, I wish the best for both of you

I respect that 💯 usually toxic people know this but won't admit it .

I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship for just over 13 years, and I only just realised that it was a couple months ago. He hurts my feelings, then gets angry when I get upset, like how dare I have feelings. Then he verbally abuses me, name-calling, insulting and demeaning me, then comes the cold shoulder for days, then he just acts like nothing happened, no apologies, he doesn't care that he hurt me so deeply. There's more to it than that, but that's basically the continuous cycle of our relationship. But it's easier to say "you should just dump him" than it is do actually go through with it. The emotions involved are so complicated and confusing, but I've been extremely unhappy for a very long time, and it has definitely affected my mental health, and I feel so alone... Anyway, thanks for letting me vent.

"Doesn't matter the reason."...sounds like lack of accountability. Did you do something truly worth being angry over?

I'm really sorry you've had to go through that, I hope things only get better from here

I completely agree🙏

You're right

No, this makes a lot of sense, Simply. I'm not offended at all.

I try to but it’s hard :( I just love him so much and I always feel like he‘s gonna leave me and this is so scary.

Good for you for having the guts to get out of there!

dude i’m so happy to hear that! please remember to love yourself before anyone else man, u got this :)

@@kade5275 Thanks a lot mate :)

@@rudranshbhadauriya_27 of course!

bro, that's hard:((( stay strong!

Sometimes, that's part of life and it really hurts.

Dont worry, me too ✌😔

"I miss my wife, Tails. I miss her a lot."

@@greatwavefan397 you are better off without her

I'm glad that you finally gathered courage and chose the most important option and that is loving yourself🙏

Ik! I think the psych2go voiceovers are almost therapeutic. I'm happy you're able to find help through it

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*A wise man once sang

same, she was my everything. But I'm the who's toxic to her :((((

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Wh'tsapp him for heIp

✛𝟮𝟯𝟰8139934468(☉｡☉)!

✛𝟮𝟯𝟰8139934468(☉｡☉)! it really worked I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break up

Thank you :) Would you like to see more of this animation?

@@Psych2go Ofc sure!

Thatd be a good title

Glad you like them! :) We are happy to help

Thats not true. People change all the time, everyday. Real love is work. Real love takes time to cultivate. You can learn to love people and grow with them, even if they make some mistakes or you make some mistakes. Trust can be rebuilt and people can grow, they always do. People change everyday, feelings change everyday, nothing ever stays the same whether you think it does or not thats just a simple fact of life.

tbh, I'd be wary of ANYONE whose favorite Pokemon is a pure poison type (dual-typed poison types are ok, tho, like Bulbasaur)

Now your experiences can help you in the future! :)

@@Psych2go that is true!

It’s mainly an anime tho

@@glowstarep523 sorry, my dude, but there are SEVERAL Pokemon main-series games and even more spinoff games. My family has Platinum, Black, Omega Ruby, Moon, Let's Go Eevee!, and Sword. The anime is based on the games

🙂 🙌

True