7 Things Asexual People Want You To Know 

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Dear people who think i just haven't found the right person: *no*

Aces are like unicorns. *Not a lot of people think we exist.*

When I first told my grandma I was asexual as a teenager, her first reaction was "Oh thank god" and I died laughing

All I want is a boyfriend that feels like a best friend that is always there for me. Why does there have to be so much pressure on having sex with someone? When you explain to people that you're asexual they either give you a weird look or say "oh so you don't like anyone." I wish more people were understanding smh

Friends: so do you like boys or girls? Me, a Biromantic Asexual: well yes but actually no

Asexuals experience: feeling anxious when your friend says "I haven't been laid in weeks I'm going crazy!!"

The girl: So what do you like to do in bed? Me an asexual: *_Talk about feelings or just sleep._*

My parents: "NO BOYS, stay away from boys! If you so much as mention a boy's name, we're gonna interrogate the hell out of you. But we don't want you to be a lesbian either. If you ever start dating, we're all gonna die." Me: "Okay," *is ace* My parents: "NO, NOT LIKE THAT!"

Person: how do you know you're ace? Ace: what? Person: if you've never 'done the do', how do you know you don't like it? Ace: well, I've never been stabbed, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't like that...

I'm Asexual and Aromantic but I suddenly fell in love with two beautiful creatures in the world... My bed and the food

I knew a girl who was asexual and aromantic. She was cool, she never got involded in drama, liked to play video games, she mostly stuck to herself and a few close friends but she clearly wasnt lonely. She never wore make up or liked shopping. was a straight A student and became a doctor. I have a lot of respect for her as a person even though we weren't that close. I never met anyone quite like her.

I hate when people say “y did u say he’s cute if ur ace!? Do u have a crush on him???” Like, I’m sorry but I know good looking when I see it

“You’re not asexual, you had a crush on somebody!" Me: ”Doesn’t mean I want to screw them." Not everything has to be about sexual attraction. To me, asexual literally means little to no sexual (key word) attractions to anyone. However that doesn’t stop me from having romantic feelings for them.

Friends: do you have a crush? Me as an Aromantic Asexual: I have a crush on myself but i think myself doesn’t love me

Ok everyone, for who's not asexual Just because I said someone is cute doesn't mean I want to duck them or be with them, being asexual doesn't make me blind

My friend came out as asexual to me so I’m trying to learn about being asexual so I can understand them better

Me: I'm asexual Them: So....you don't like anyone? Me: Oh jesus here we go again-

Me: **is asexual** Teacher: mitosis is asexual reproduction Everyone: **turns to look at me**

I don’t want sex, or a relationship, I just want to be left alone.

I am not even an adult yet, and I can only imagine how hard it will be to find a partner who doesn't need ''The thing''. This is why you need to make it clear; I know it's awkward, but you are saving yourself from a lot of trouble.

ace on the streets asleep in the sheets

I'm a Asexual And if you don't know how it feels like just imagane the world was obsessed with door knobs.

Short answer: ace peeps like people for their personality, not because of what's down there.

teacher: okay class today we will learn about asexualty the whole class: *violently stares at me*

Okay PSA to non ace people: Just because I make a sex joke doesn’t mean I’ve evolved into a horny monster and shed my asexual shell. It doesn’t work like that-

My friends out here wanting to get that d from their crushes and I'm here like "I want to have a boyfriend that feels like a friend"

I had a sneaking feeling I've been an asexual even as a teen. I just wish I was told about that term and learned about it at the time. I still remember hearing students at my school engage in talks about sex, and it's very clear some of them were very interested in those discussions and would've had the same sexual attraction for it. For me, I personally never saw why people liked the idea of having sex and found it repulsive. I really did believe that maybe I'll eventually have a change in heart once I become an adult. Nope. I'm glad to know there's other people in this world like me and it's not that strange after all.

Some things to know about asexuality (anyone can read this, including asexuals who may not know everything about asexuality/may have common misconceptions) One thing that's important to know upfront about asexuality is that asexuality is about our attraction to others, not our action. We can be asexual and still have sex. Not all of us are sex-repulsed (sex-repulsed means feeling disgusted at the idea of YOU experiencing sex and NOT wanting to engage in sex yourself), so those that aren't sex-repulsed can have sexual relations and for plenty of reasons such as: wanting to pleasure the other person(s) in the relationship (who may or not be allosexual! Allosexual means experiencing sexual attraction at an average rate/allosexual is anyone who isn't asexual), wanting to pleasure themselves (asexuals, as you know, aren't sexually attracted to people but they may enjoy the 'feeling' of sex itself), are just curious about how sex feels and are okay with having sex with people etc. Most people seem to think asexuals are “just scared of sex” and are completely unaware/oblivious to when someone finds them attractive which is so untrue and hurtful to think because it's a stereotype that doesn't define all of us. Asexuals, again, are not defined by their actions but by their attraction just like any other orientation and the same goes for aromantics! (Example: aromantics who are romance-repulsed wish to NOT engage in activities that are typically considered romantic. Aromantics who aren't romance-repulsed may wish to do activities that are typically considered romantic) By the way: Yes, asexuals can be fully capable of telling if someone's "attractive". We may not feel sexual attraction but we're not blind. Aesthetic attraction is a thing as well so it's important to take that into account. I'm sorry this is super long. I would make it shorter to read but I'd have to exclude clarifications which are important for, you know, clarifying lol Overall, I hope this was educational. Thanks for reading to the end! (Jk this isn't the end, I'mma just include some helpful terms related to asexuality- you don't have to read this next part although it is also very educational and may help you better understand yourself and others) Descriptors (I include the ones that are most helpful for conversations about how you feel about sex yourself and seeing sex in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity) Note: If you switch the term, 'sex/sexual' with 'romance/romantic', it can apply to how you feel about romance yourself and seeing romance in media/when other people discuss or show romantic activity. Both asexuals/aromantics and allosexuals/alloromantics can use these descriptors. Sex-repulsed = feeling disgusted towards experiencing sex personally Sex-indifferent = feeling indifferent towards experiencing sex personally Sex-favorable = feeling glad towards experiencing sex personally Sex-negative = feeling disgusted towards seeing sex in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity Sex-neutral = feeling indifferent towards seeing sex in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity Sex-positive = feeling glad towards seeing sex in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity This means you can totally be sex-repulsed and sex-neutral, as in: you may not want to experience sex for yourself although you're indifferent to seeing it in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity. Regardless of whether or not you're sex-repulsed, you are supportive of people who are sex-indifferent or sex-favorable (or should be supportive, anyway), as in: you may not want to experience sex for yourself although you're happy for anyone else who does want to experience sex for themselves! You can be a sex-repulsed asexual/allosexual and be happy for friends who do want to have sex (:

Something people need to get into their head already. Asexual: NO *SEXUAL* ATTRACTION. Aromantic: NO *ROMANTIC* ATTRACTION. They are both perfectly normal, but it’s *absolutely* disrespectful to say asexual people don’t want to date or want a significant other.

Being asexual in a hyper sexual world is very lonely

Being an asexual person, I commonly get treated like I'm broken, but I'm just a normal person trying to live my life happily. Just because I don't feel the want or need for sex doesn't mean I can't have a fulfilling life.

I'm in my 50s now and just learning about asexuality. I am so much happier since stopping having relationships in 2007. I have difficulty understanding the longing for a relationship by my female friends. Its such a relief to not to have to think about it anymore. I live with 2 dogs. We have lovely life together. I think about getting someone to share my home, but it would only be to help someone out. I feel selfish and I recognise my privilege here, but I prefer to just live with dogs.

The thing I struggle with the most is the fact that we live in a hyper-sexual society. Everything is sexualised. I'm not saying it's bad to be sex positive, it's just difficult to accept yourself when everything around you is supposedly linked or should lead to sex. It feels suffocating.

When people sexualize me it grosses me out. Also it scares me :/

For me, I’m perfectly fine with kisses, hugs, and cuddles- but the moment anything gets remotely sexual, I’m like “Haha, no.” I consider myself asexual, and in some ways, a little bit sex repulsed.

"WHEN YOUR AN ADULT YOU WILL HAVE TO MARRY HIM" Thats just..sad

Me: "I think im asexual" my mom: "Don't worry you'll find the right person" Me: "DID I STUTTER"

Why is society so invested and (dare I say) obsessed with sex

I remember telling a boy friend that liked me why I didn't like him or anyone else, that I was ace and he was like "that is not normal. You need to be cured of this". With the world driven by sexual urges, 99% of people simply can't grasp how you can't possibly feel anything.

My cousins: You just need to find the right person. Me an aroace: As I said. I. Am. Not. Interested.

Me, and asexual: ah yes a video that doesn't think all ace people are aroace

And it makes high school awkward af

I have a friend who's asexual and this made me understand her better. *Thank you for this video*

"Every human wants sex" Oh I see, it's hard to be a god. :) YOU ARE VALID ACE GANG

Hear that? **The entire Asexual Community cheering and clapping** Ah yes. The sweet sound of understanding.

When I told my mom I was Asexual she basically just said "Of course you aren't yet, that comes later. You just wait" and now here I am years later and I'm still asexual

Me: telling my friends I’m Asexual a million times My friends: *continuously shipping me with other people*

Love is not sex. Sex is sex.

ok, so it has taken 53 years for me to realize there is a word for me...

Thank you for this video. I’m 39 years old and have lived my entire life thinking that there must be something wrong with me, that somehow I must be broken. You making this video made me almost cry.

I'm demisexual and It's so weird when someone says "omg that guy is so cute I would totally go out with him" I just...don't understand how people can fall in love like that-

Asian parents praising Asexual kids till their marriages and then fretting and blaming them for the same. It's weird how quick Asian parents change overnight and yet not change ever at all 😂 An Asian myself!

**Sudden Realisation** MOM! THIS ISNT A PHASE

I've always hated sex scenes in movies, even kissing grossed me out, while my friends were practically drooling over this stuff. I honestly thought that something was wrong with me. When all of my friends got themselves girlfriends or boyfriends, I started feeling like an alien. I even tried to force myself to like a guy, but a mere thought of having a relationship terrified me. Now I finally know who I am and why am I like this and I'm binge-watching different videos about aces! I was happy as hell when I found out that there's a whole community of ppl like me💜

People often say that I am attracted to animals or inanimate objects because of me not being sexualy attracted to anything and it really annoys me because of it.

There should be a group where actual asexual people can find love like no horny people allowed

Asexual Aromantic: *existing peacefully* everyone else: " you need to work on your fear of commitment, you just haven't found the right person yet." or " Were you traumatized? Is that why you don't want a relationship?"

Wait you can just like someone romantically? And that’s a completely separate thing? Okay I think I finally figured myself out-

my partner and i are both ace, and we're extremely happy just cuddling and talking and such, and i think that's awesome :) thx for making this video, its really great

I was married for 18 years. My now-ex used to say “ Something is wrong with you. Go fix yourself. Go to counseling, go to the doctor and get put on hormones.“ Which I did. But it didn’t work. Because I was not “broken.” Lack of sex drive is normal for me. Now I worry I’ll never find someone who accepts me as I am w/o expecting sex. I don’t feel it’s fair to date a “sexual” person b/c I’ll never be able to meet their “needs.” I like cuddles, companionship, adventure and would love to share my life w/ someone but I don’t know where to find someone like me who would be ok in a lifelong committed, friendship-type relationship w/o sex. I’m 50 and friends say I’m cute and sexy (seriously??). So I give the “wrong signals.” I attract sexually oriented people. Seven years since my divorce and I’m still alone.

THANK YOU. FINALLY SOMEONE GETS THAT ROMANTIC AND SEXUAL ATTRACTION ARE NOT THE SAME THING. Edit: Holy crap, I’ve never gotten this many likes. Thanks guys!

I’m asexual and one thing I don’t understand.... Why is the world so obsessed with sex when we could take all that energy to MAKE DRAGONS?!!! (But all-round generally good video) Edit: I didn’t think I actually had to say this but let me specify, this is a JOKE. I know not everyone is obsessed with sex. If you enjoy sex, all power to you, I just want dragons because dragons (1k likes thank you so much)

I think I've commented this in every ace related vid I watched, but it just doesn't sits right to me that strangers (or not, just some people in general I guess) look at eachother and think that they would have sex with them.That feeling accually happens? Is seventeen years just to young to feel that?some people just base this attraction on appearence?? I have so many questions, help

Making a face when your friends express their “need” to pass on their genes and last name.

Sex Ed teachers should show this in class

Asexual: *exists* The first letter of the alphabet: *chuckles* I’m in danger

My dad when I leave the house: Don't add to the population and don't subtract to the population Me: it's okay I'm ace. ♠️ an ACEassin.

people hate you when you love sex, but people also hate you for hating sex.

I’d rather just get a dog and live in the woods than have a romantic relationship.

"Asexuality is not a disorder" *This video being in their Abnormal Disorders playlist*

OKAY, I NEED TO MAKE A TRANSLATION OF THIS FOR MY NATIVE LANGUAGE, SO I CAN SHOW TO PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T SPEAK EN, THIS VIDEO IS PURE PERFECTION

My parents just think I'm "just not ready" yet I have literally feel no attraction like that at all

I always felt different and this is why ❤️

"Asexuality is not a disorder" - Psych2Go , also Psych2Go : puts video directly into "Abnormal Disorders" playlist.

This means the world to me. Ty for giving these points for those of us who don't know the words to begin the conversation

whats even grosser about someone's gf/bf/nbf being disrespectful about someone's asexuality is that there's a little thing called consent as well.

As an asexual aromantic all I hear is "it's just a phase" 'stop hiding your crush" "you just haven't found the right person yet" and they think if I don't get embarrassed like that.

Everyone: My ace/aro ass: Say "you'll find the right guy" to me one more time-

I am just questioning myself if I'm ace or not..

I'm asexual, but I'm really young, so I don't think anyone would believe me or take me seriously when I tell them, I'm not going to tell anyone until I'm older. It's honestly really sad, I've come out to my parents and other family as omniromantic, I have a few people who support me (including my parents) so they would be okay with it, they just probably wouldn't take me seriously at this age.

Boys in real life: Me: I'm asexual Boys in anime: Me: I'm asex- w h a t-

I made up this metaphor for my own asexuality for my friend, who was struggling to understand what I meant. I said ‘for example, imagine stepping on a snail barefooted. It’s gross, right? No one in their right mind would willingly do that.’ Of course, she agreed. I continued ‘that’s how I see sex- or, in fact- any intense physical reaction at all. It disgusts me and yet everyone I know does it. Everywhere I look people are stepping on snails, their foot covered in snail mucus, and they seem to have the best time in world. It doesn’t make sense.’ I also applied this metaphor to the popular question ‘can you tell if people are attractive?’ I answered ‘I could find a snail with the prettiest shell in the world...but I still wouldn’t step on it. Because that’s gross.’ Edit: I just want to add that this is about my own feelings and I know that this is not the defining term for asexuality. Asexuals mostly aren’t even disgusted by sex (as the video explains) but this is how I feel. Asexuality has its own umbrella and making metaphors for how you feel can be a great way of helping people you know understand how you feel.

people: why don’t you ever date or like anyone? me: well... **aromantic asexual**

I was recently introduced to the term ‘asexual’ and began to think that maybe I am one. Since childhood I had no idea why people’s interest is largely dominated by sex or romance. I had been constantly feel annoyed at people asking ‘are you seeing someone’ or ‘do you have a crush’ ‘have you had sex yet’ etc - none of them interested me. I did date and several times I was in a relationship, and yes I experienced sex. But even though I felt some sort of affection to him, it was never sexual desire, so I did not particularly enjoyed having sex. After the last breakup, which was when I was 24, I’ve been single for almost 7 years and I’m okay with that. I have friends after all. However recently I told my psychiatrist that I might be asexual, she said ‘no you are not, haven’t you had boyfriend before and you’ve had sex? that means you can’t call yourself an asexual. I think you are just trying to run from the fact that you don’t have a partner.’ I explained to her that I’ve read that asexuality is spectrum, which means there are variety of people who regard themselves as asexual. But she said ‘if a word could mean so many things, what’s the point of the word? what’s the point of you calling yourself an asexual, if the definition is so vague? I don’t think you should call yourself an asexual’ I cried in despair. I’m now scared of telling people that I might be asexual. (sorry for bad English)

The amount of people who have taken my asexuality as a challenge, or assumed it’s something that they can fix is ridiculous! I broke up with my ex as they assumed my asexuality is a fear of intimacy and unwillingness to be close and might I add general immaturity. I’m furious at the lack of understanding that people have on this orientation. It’s not a choice but a feeling.

Me, an intellectual omniromantic asexual: I like my coffee like I like my partners: hot, but not screwing me.

My friends sister is asexual and I didn't really know that much about it, so I decided to come here and I have to say, this video really helped me learn what asexuality is! I never knew this stuff before so it was helpful to learn! Thanks Psyc2go, you always make great, informative videos!

No one: That one person who says “ I can change that” when you say your ace:

As an asexual I want to thank you for making more people aware that we are not mythical creatures

AS AN ASEXUAL THIS VIDEO IS THE VIDEO I'VE ALWAYS WANTED. Thank you Psych2Go.

I identify as asexual and that was spot on! I have experienced a lot of that societal misunderstanding. We even face discrimination within the LGBTQIA+ community (emphasis on the A, for these purposes), from fellow members who don't believe that being ace is "gay enough." You don't have to be gay to be LGBTQIA+. You can be ace, bisexual, aromantic, transgender, and many more.

Teacher: So let's talk about asexual organisms.. Me: 👁️👄👁️

Me: mom I don't want a kid Mom: Ur just saying that now you'll find someone Me: *are u sure about that*

Friends: Which do you like, boys, or girls? Me, an aromantic asexual: No

As an asexual I finally found out why I never fantazised about sex with any crush I had. I only imagined romantic relationships and the thought of sex is still meh and an inconvinence for me tbh

I feel like this is what I needed and should have known many many years ago. Thank ya'all for putting this information out there for the others that may have questions about their sexual orientation. I am 67 years old and wasted time and suffered in denial. I tried to prove to myself that my feelings were alright , I worked hard to be the best lover I could be, while I was extremely promiscuis trying to find out why every sexual experience left me feeling alone, sad and unsatisfied. As I look at the past I realize now that I was only an actor, and I played my part very well,. Now I look back on those experiences, I feel repulsion for the things I did to please another women not men I have always been Hetero because of the sexual assaults that other predatory men who took advantage of me as child. There is more to say later.....

One thing I'd like to add is that it's also possible to be aromantic but not asexual. That's often forgotten.

wow i never thought psych2go would make a video about asexuality. this is really cool!

The fact that so many guys are asexual but they get called an alien or weirdo when the group talks about sex and I'm they are like forcing themselves to say yes