7 Things You Should STOP & START Doing After Age 40 

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One thing I quit doing in my late 40's is offering people unsolicited advice. After a few years of no longer giving advice, family and friends who never wanted to hear it before started coming to me and asking for it.

Great video! One thing i would add as a single 44 year old is for us adult men to stop wasting time on people who don’t give us the same effort we give them.

I’m creeping toward 62 and my last third of my life is hopefully my best years on earth. My exercise routine is spot-on. My sleep habits are getting better since retirement, my diet is slowly improving, and I’m applying sun block whenever I work or play in the yard ( I fought that one until just recently). My advice for the ‘younger” gents is to stash that money away early and reap the benefits later. Yes, money is important but time is more valuable because we are all on the clock and you never know how long we actually have. Make the best of it and spread the love.

Turned 50 two weeks ago and one of the biggest things ive suddenly learnt is to forgive myself for past mistakes. Ps love the videos.

Great advice! I went back to school (for the 3rd time) in my mid 40s and got a job in the medical profession that affords me a WAY better life than I had before. I decided that I was going to value myself and my life so that I can contribute to the community and basically live my best life. No regrets. Life is good indeed!

A lot of good points made here. Be positive, Take care of yourself, avoid being around negative people, eat right, exercise, focus on your goals, career. Make yourself number 1.

Turned 53 today! Life really did begin at 40 for me. I started focussing on my passions - that's the best advice.

At 55 one my bigger regrets is not saving for retirement when I was 25 at the rate I do today. But it's what it is and at least I know better now.

At 62, I get exactly what I want. Do no settle. Also I cut toxic family away from me.

I’m a 45 year old women, I don’t know how this video popped up on my feed but this is good advice and very informative. New subscriber here! Being a single woman and subscribing to your channel will hopefully help me to better understand men of my age.

Valid points.When u look at all the brands out there for example..they cater mostly for the young but this man and his channel helped me to unlock the code and not walk around like a fool at 50.

Now 40 my biggest goal is taking care of myself to be able to enjoy life. Good sleep, reduce stress, health eating,exercise, take my vitamins and do good for others! 👍

Thanks John, glad to hear you let all that negative energy go. Recently received EMDR Therapy to help with the trauma of a motorcycle accident last year. My first helicopter ride to a trama center! Tossed myself into the woods in the Catskills. You think the road crews would have cleaned up the road salt from the winter! Worked like a charm, then went to work on the ex and my son who passed. Highly recommend. Maybe more talks about how you cleared your head. it's part of the overall process of healthy living and maturity.

74 this year and still flying my little Cessna all round this wonderful Country. What I love that I could not do before retirement is to take afternoon Naps. Love em. Main thing I stopped was being in politics. Took a lot of weight off of my shoulders.

I needed this video worse than I could've ever admitted to myself before I clicked on it.... just turned 40 a couple weeks ago and am likely about to go through divorce, but it's a new chapter.... I just started a new job a week ago, and it's going good nowhere but up from here.... I've been neglecting responsibilities and myself for a long time now, and I'm past the stage of denial and ready for the next day 1 at a time....

One thing I started doing after turning 40 ( recently ) is being EXTREMELY comfortable in my own skin . I no longer care about how people judge me . If something is legal and I am comfortable with it , I just do it !

Good topic; you are helping the 40 over community in so many different ways; thank you!

Well said Sir, I'm 62 and enjoying life, eating well, staying healthy and looking forward to my final 3rd !

Great video. The rave clip at the beginning hit home because I’m still down for an edm concert or Vegas pool party once or twice a year. 43 and in good shape, but like the advice. Especially with the caveat that you can still do things you enjoy , but don’t have to be the MVP 👏🏽

As a 58 year old I can heartily endorse the message of this video. You are an adult man, and that is your greatest asset, so use it. I am divorced, have had a life-long love of sport participation and at 6ft2in and 196lbs I'm in reasonable, if not stella, shape. I garner far more interest from women now than I ever did in my 20s and 30s. It's night and day different, and from many women who are substantiallyl younger than I am. I've learned to relax and not be a "try hard", as well as playing to my strengths... that I know shit (and I don't need to brag about that, it just comes through in the choices and judgements I make).

Becoming a mentor, and giving back, particularly so many young men these days need a solid role model. I have over 25 years in business. Once a week I go to a startup center and coach and mentor these young people. I learn so much and get in return.

Great video! I must say that at nearly 63 that the advise you're giving in this video is spot on. I pretty well follow the same life choices that you've spoken of. I'm a happily single man and on the brink of retirement so the experience side of my life - travel, pursuing hobbies etc - is about to be ramped up. Thanks for the great information.

There are studies of happiness that show that experiences produce more long-term happiness than "stuff" does. More specifically, the memories of the experiences improve over time (even over subsequent years, for major experiences), while the less pleasant aspects of the experiences (like waiting at the airport) fades from memory. On the other hand, the the happiness from stuff peaks at the time of the purchase, then decreases over time. This is the complete opposite of what some people expect. They expect the happiness from an experience to end when the experience does, and they expect the happiness from "stuff" to last as long as the items do.

Excellent video John! I stopped drinking a while ago. Where I live in Florida happy hour begins at 2! It was taking me down. I feel 100% better. More energy, clarity, just happier. Highly recommend it. Not to mention the money I save. I'm guessing $500 a month. $12-15 weak drinks don't go far. Learned along time ago to let go of resentment. Extremely unhealthy to store it inside. Especially if it's an ex.

39 tommrow. No kids. Shit job. No home. One divorce. It's been a hard life. I've really tired.

Five days before I hit 50 I had a massive heart attack. I was running 6 miles a day, lifting weights but it still happened. For a 6’4 tall dude I weighed 195 pounds. I didn’t eat a lot of fast food. It was a hereditary disease most in my family have. I wasn’t expected to survive. So when I left the hospital I changed the way my life was going. I stopped listening to people’s illogical irrational nonsense and my wife was on the top of that list. I began doing things for myself and indulging in the hobbies of my youth which I put aside hoping I’d have time in the future to enjoy. I don’t try to be young, especially as a school teacher. People in their 20s are like kids to me.

So I turned 40 2 days ago and prior to now, I felt kinda nervous turning 40. But after watching this video, I realized that I'm ready for this new phase in my life. Thanks a lot for this. You've earned yourself a new subscriber and a fan.

I honestly believe this advice is great for men of all ages. I’m 32 years old and this video helped me a lot. Thank you

My dad was a really young 65 when I lost him. It's been pretty tough but I'm trying to reskill now to amass the kinda life experiences worth getting out of bed for.

I've learned as I now have reached the half century mark that you are the only one that can make yourself happy. Don't rely on others to make you happy. Choose to be happy. Remove toxic people from your life. Be responsible but don't wait to do or accomplish that thing you want. Also, I care less what people think of me especially strangers so I am bothered by fewer things. I've found that I am much happier now than I have ever been.

Thank you, sir, for your advice. I'm almost 44 years old, but really, what helped me the most is the gym,sport & heakty diet

Help somebody up the ladder. Yes I try and do that. Great point! In my role as business development, I see younger men struggling with how to approach a potential client. I really did not have a go to person myself but I hate to see folks on my team struggle so there is no need for them to endure the same bumps and bruises and wasted time as I went thru. It gives me a sense of pride and accomplishment when I see my younger colleagues succeed, advance & do well on our team. And if you work for a public company and you own stock, you like to see that share price increase. That’s what helping your team can do.

These are all great points. Thanks! Collecting ‘stuff’ just because is a great one to get rid of. Experiences are what I prefer.

Time stamps 1. 0:45 Stop acting like you're 21, you need grow up 2. 1:20 Evaluate your behaviors, and hold yourself accountable 3. 2:02 Start taking better care of yourself, you're not getting any younger 2:15 Sponser Tiege Hanley 4. 3:40 Stop thinking that you'll always have more time to start saving money. Start working a savings/investment plan 5. 4:25 Stop holding on to resentment 6. 5:20 You're only half done. Stop wasting time, start living your life. 7. 6:40 Start paying it forward.

I subscribed to your channel 3 days back. So far I have watched about 50 of your videos. You are doing amazing work. But This video of yours has totally won me over. Well done my friend

As someone famous once said, "Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." Resentment doesn't hurt the person you resent, it hurts you!

I plan to stay active but enjoy knowing I'm in my 40s and taking on responsibilities. Fixing things and learning new things has been positive.

The "you're only half way there" thing was great to hear as I have largely had negative thoughts about where I am in life and feeling like that's me more or less done. The only thing I might say is that these days people are starting families later in life. I am 42 and my wife and I didn't have our first child until we were 30. Our youngest is 8 so I'll be at least 50 before they'll be self-sufficient. However I think I am OK with that.

Only "Keep" positives in life and ignore the negatives. I've been doing it for years (Since my late 20's) Great video as always John!

I quit drinking a few years ago before I hit 50 !!!

My friend John giving good advice to us 40s Men!! Great Job

I used to be the curator of a sad menagerie of hurtful memories. They stretched all the way back to my childhood. I finally stopped when I realized that by keeping those memories relevant, I was unwittingly partnering up with those people that caused me pain. Also I came to understand that those people were likely operating from a wounded heart themselves. As the poet of Galilee said, "forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us." :-)

I enjoy being older because I'm taken seriously at work. As a 22 year old kid, I had a high paying job but I was doing sort of a menial job that wasn't very important. Now my work is really important. I don't go out anymore. Weekends I'm staying in watching movies. I don't date either.

Thank you so much for this video. I agree with you and trying to implement all those things you've mentioned. Keep the channel going on and stay safe :) best regards from Sweden

I want to tell a story I think is kind of inspirational for men. It totally changed my outlook. My dad was a player when he was younger and so was his brother. They both turned 20 years old around 1960. My dad was a bartender in Cincinnati around 1967 or 68. He once told me he's lost count of how many women he'd had at around 250. It was another time...lol! My dad however settled down soon after and raised a family. His brother, my Uncle Jim, however was a "player" his whole life! I was chatting with him over a beer a couple years ago when he was 86 years old and asked him "So at what age were you getting the most action?" With beer in hand he looked up and thought about it, then his answer shocked me. I thought he'd say 25, or who knows maybe even 40. He says "Oh I'd say around 70." wtf?! Thats how they thought back then, they never said "oh i'm old, game over" . So yea, with the right frame of mind, your best years may still be ahead...WAY ahead !

Hi John. I learned a long time ago that even if my brain thinks it can keep up with much younger people my body is says " I don't think so. "( especially after going to the gym ). However I do try and keep up with current music and what not so I can still converse and know what I'm talking about with my younger coworkers. Peace. 🙂

Good stuff man. Might think about taking each one of your suggestions and doing separate videos on them. Appreciate you.

This video triggered many thoughts for me. Good topics as always. But John.... Age is just a number right. (Shrugs shoulders). Regarding skin care..... Go see a dermatologist periodically, please. Particularly if you are a fair-skinned person, had one or more sunburns as a kid, or are one of those with moles. In my mid 40's I had skin cancer removed, and just went through it again at 57. I go every 6 months now. Getting checked by a professional is key. Neither of the spots was one that I thought was an issue. Pathology said otherwise. I've been a TH member now for a couple of years. Sunscreen is key! Wealth - "If you want to be wealthy, start a wealth plan." (Jim Rohn) "You don't own things. Things own you." - This is SO true. The more I owned, the more money I spent maintaining it. A divorce took care of much of the possessions, but I'm still downsizing. Live Life - if you are on the "societal treadmill" regarding life, get off. I think even the saying, "Life is a journey, not a destination" is wrong. Life is a series of experiences that one has along the way - people you meet, places you go, things you do. Do them when can and when you are young. When you get older you may no longer be able to do the things you dreamed of. I spent way too many hours in the office and passed on experiences. Can't get that time back now. While I provided for my family very well, they grew up and have moved on. #Legend

Learn to prioritize and don't take everything so seriously. By your 50s you should have learned that most things in life really don't have that big of an impact nor have long term effects. So learn to judge accordingly and take it easy to reduce stress on yourself. LEGEND!!

Completely agree with all your points especially the point of reaching back to help others. Keep up the great work!

As a 61year-old man, keep an open mind and embrace learning, exercising, and meeting new people

Turned 40 recently and I was “awaken”. Took time 15-30 mins everyday in silence only for “me”. Call it “my time”. Stopped running behind attractions, silly stuff like returns and other crap and stopped late night netflixes, parties and women. Attempting to balance my life in this rat race interesting times we live. My life is too important to waste for stuff not relevant for my age. You have to accept the evidence created by Time which we call it “age”

OMG, at 5:20 it clicked in. I am 45 now. Kids are getting teenagers and the travel itch is hitting hard! With 40 I had a serious midlife crisis and I tried to study engineering (major respect to engineers!). While it wasn't the right fit, it showed me the power of taking a leap. Now I'm enrolled in a web development bootcamp that could open the door to location-independent work. Greetings from south Germany! :)

Preach! Speaking my language brother! Keep up the good work!

I'm 73 - I just got back from an hour and 1/2 run around the hills, but even so there are certain things that my body just won't tolerate any more, and more than two or three drinks is one of them. The days when I could party all night and work all day are long over - the hangovers I would have after more than a couple of drinks would be monumental. So I restrict myself to a glass or two of wine - and funnily enough I don't miss getting drunk. I would however give my left wossname to be able to sleep the same way I did when I was 21. :)

Thanks & good job. I hear hanging out with young people will help you feel younger. I agree that being/acting recklessly/immaturely is inappropriate, but I consider it unhealthy. Maybe we should stop shaming people for acting like idiots (immature) and start inspiring people with healthy (self love) behavior.

At 62, I can say the best thing I did (starting at 32) seriously plan for retirement. I was partly lucky, partly a product of good planning - retiring at 58. Pet peeve w/men over 40? Quit wearing your ballcap backwards and the “team jersey” look needs to be retired. However, these peeves are small potatoes compared to your excellent advice to live life better.

Big one for me is not making women or a woman the centre of your life. Focus on your own family friends sports hobbies travel and other interests if one or a few want to come along for the ride then great

I’m 41 and appreciate your sound advice, John. Great work

I'm 58 and my hamstring finally healed from last year at the skate park. I love skateboarding now more than ever. I'm not great, but it's a fun challenge. I'm a grown up most other places. So grow up, but don't grow all the way up. Find some stuff ya love.

I've been on team 40 Over Fashion for about 6 months now. Thanks for the great videos John! Thanks for all the great fashion, style, and general life advice. I'm making small changes and feeling better every day. Cheers! :)

Lots of great advise in this video! If it’s not too presumptuous of me, may I ask where you got that shirt? It looks terrific on you and I’d love to find one like it. All the best to you and many thanks!!

Don’t spend money on possessions? Um, you got an automatic watch winder right behind you. 😉

Thanks for sharing. I needed this.

I’m so glad I got heavy drinking or really drinking at all out of my system at a really young age. I had two DWI’s before I was even 21 and by 23 I was done.

I'm 53 but don't always realize it. What I'm learning is that hitting on girls half my age is creepy.

Ok so I live in the UK, and I was in a bon Jovi tribute band. We were doing amazing, and we had lots of gigs lined up, one day I woke up and realised I hated this music and I couldn't bring myself to sing it anymore, I was like, what the hells wrong with me ? I do love music, but it's changed along with my style and choices .I'm 43 on the 16 and I'm not bad looking for my age, but it definitely felt strange not liking things I once did, I've suddenly got into writting, and poetry, literature philosophy. 😊. What an odd few months 😳

Level 3 Tiege Hanley for me I'm 31 and I love these videos teaches me to better my life

Really liked the video! I found out basically how to dress correctly and feel comfortable with what I had on through watching your videos. I always made sure my children had the best and never paid to much mind to fashion but now they are grown and I've made a more conscious effort to be better dressed. Now i have people complementing me on what I wear and ask for advice so i just direct them to your channel. I have also learned myself over the years that it is unhealthy to hold on to negative feelings towards others. It brings you down and affects your mood and can just make you bitter. Thank Jesus I've learned to let it go and changed my way of thinking and living. Thank you for the video

" paying if forward" absolutely love this

Appreciate your videos. At 54 and healthy, can agree with a lot what you say. Keep up the great work!

I like your advices and your style in explaining all this. Keep it up!

Definitely one of your best ones. Interestingly enough, a lot of the comments below are also in the same, Excellent category.

Great video John. Awesome advice and smart decision making. Money management is extremely important but that doesn't mean you can't treat yourself once in a while within reason. Keep up the good work John!

Great video glad you posted keep them coming thanks

Dude I'm a 55 year old viking type tattooed bearded guy. I dress in cargo shorts and rock t-shirts and get women every day of all ages but mostly 30's. I have my regulars but meet new women every day. I live in a retirement tourist lake side college city in northern Ontario. I'm wearing my Star Wars shirt today 😎 🇨🇦

As we age, many of us become complacent in a rut. Challenge yourself by continuing learning new subjects and skills!

Just turned 40 this month. thanks for this video John! 💯

"Collector of Wrongs." What a powerful statement. Clearly you are over it. You are now exudingly open. You and your sponsors cost me allot of money. ...but well spent.

I do enjoy these presentations. As a man that sold suits at Nordstrom and learned so much about putting myself together by the ladies in the shoe and shirt/tie dept. so much of your information is spot on. Thanks. I have subscribed to this long ago and never receive drops.

Nice Video, give yourself permission to relax & have fun! Life is short!

Never forget and wait to repay at the right moment.

Experiences are the best investment for me. Travelling, art residencies and art projects mostly.

I have been following you for over 4 years now and this video changed my outlook on life, completely. Yes, I need to forget things now. Friends or whoever did wrong, cheated you, or whatever... they will always behave that they did not do anything or will show as if they don't know what they did. it is better to forget and forgive too. Our anger only affects us and nobody else. Thank you so much for making me understand this simple thing. And, I really need to live like a 42-year-old now haha.

Absolutely love your videos! And you’ve inspired me, brother! I’m 54 and have been in a mental rut for some time. But no more! Tonight it’s two hookers and an eight ball for me!! Starting right now I’m living my life, dammit! 💪

Love your last point. Great vid!

Good points keeping healthy think positive as much as possible learn how to relax mentally and physically take life day by day try not to stress life is what you make it .

Thanks, John. Good advises!

Some good, solid advice there, especially what you said about resentment. Just read Corinthians 13, what it says about Love. "Love keeps no record of being wronged".........I work in a hospital and I tell you it is full of people who have collected offences over the course of their lives and now the effect of this baggage has literally made them sick. Its shocking to see but also terrifying. Hold on to nothing, let it all go because if you dont I promise it'll take your health and joy from you and in the end it will take your life.

Great Video. Thank you for posting.

Excellent advice. Especially the skin care. What is that box to your left on the shelf with things moving in a circular fashion?

Looking good young man! It takes a lot of effort to reprogram yourself when you've got 4 decades of duty facing approach and pushing hard. How can you focus on a passion that may well have already extinguished? It takes a ton of exploration and discipline. Looking at 60 and nowhere near equipped with the right reflexes.

John’s assumption that I have dedicated much of my life to raising a family is quite funny. Erm….no. I'm 53, and am no closer to being a dad now than I was when I was in my 20s. I've travelled the world, lived in six countries, owned some amazing cars, had adventures that most people can only dream of, and now live a few minutes from the beach in sunny Western Australia. I get up when I want, see who I want to see, do what I want to do, and go out for drinks or dinner whenever I damn well please. None of that would have been possible with kids to look after. Some people might say I'm selfish. I prefer to call myself free. So many countries to see, so little time.

Nice pointers. But I feel I realized it late that men in the age group of 21-25 should focus on health and financial stability and then think of women. If one takes care of those initial 5 years their life is set.

Hello again Sir. Great points and things to think about. That last one really clicked, what legacy am I leaving behind?? Gracias LEYENDA!!

When I get into my 40s I will remain humble but confident more suave I love being a classic gentleman

Good talk, thank you :) Turning 40 this month (june) no kids...

I'm turning 40 in a couple months and the only advice I would give is get rid of toxic people immediately. Don't let anyone spoil your mood, time is precious.

Excellent. Too good an advice. Cant' be better than that. Thank you