8 Hurtful Things Parents Tell Children

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Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Do you think you might be raised by toxic parents? How you were raised is one of the biggest factors that determine who you are. Your parents and environment shape your personality, interests, and ideals much more than what most people realize. However, parents are human too. As much as you may idolize them and want to follow in their footsteps, they make mistakes as well. Whether you’re already a caregiver looking for phrases to avoid or a child seeking information, here are a few hurtful things parents tell children to help you become more aware!
Are you depressed because of your parents? We also made a video on the signs your parents are making you depressed: • 10 Signs Your Parents ...
Article link with sources: psych2go.net/8-hurtful-things...
Disclaimer: This video isn’t meant to diagnose, treat, or cure anyone. It is for informative purposes only, so if you or someone you know may be struggling, we urge you to seek professional help from a therapist or another trusted professional. If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This video was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.
Writer: Lily Mentriko
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Jonelz Leo
RU-vid Manager: Cindy Cheong
References
Duncan, L. G., Coatsworth, J. D., & Greenberg, M. T. (2009, May 2). A Model of Mindful Parenting: Implications for Parent-Child Relationships and Prevention Research. Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review. link.springer.com/article/10.....
Faircloth, C. (2010). ‘What Science Says is Best’: Parenting Practices, Scientific Authority and Maternal Identity. Sociological Research Online, 15(4), 85-98. doi.org/10.5153/sro.2175
Gryczkowski, M. R., Jordan, S. S., & Mercer, S. H. (2009, November 14). Differential Relations between Mothers’ and Fathers’ Parenting Practices and Child Externalizing Behavior. Journal of Child and Family Studies. link.springer.com/article/10.....

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@imalittlemffrog2374 3 года назад

“There are people who have it so much worse” “You’re being selfish” “Crying isn’t going to fix anything”

@ranmarume 3 года назад

oh..i remember that

@aimlessequation5390 3 года назад

Ah... yes. Those.

@steph_senpai 3 года назад

MY F E E L S, N O O O O

@morellocherry8820 3 года назад

Yes... i feel that

@keegantheidiot5067 3 года назад

Ahh i hear this ever 2 days

@somebody7650 3 года назад

“Talk to me about what’s wrong” “I’m listening” two sentences i have never heard in my entire life

@zergthe6597 3 года назад

Or when you do hear them, it's by the time you're already shutting yourself down

@pawbeanzx387 3 года назад

Same dude, it's almost like my parents don't know those phrases existed. They always tell me I'm being over dramatic, so when someone else asks me this, I always lie and say that I'm fine because I'm just too used to being called over dramatic

@juliazhou4394 3 года назад

Same

@miyaka1870 3 года назад

Same

@WhatTheFleepBro 3 года назад

@@pawbeanzx387 same

@AishathAshra 9 месяцев назад

I’ve learned many things from having strict parents -hiding Emotions -You can recognize their footsteps -Learning by myself -learning how to starve

@anoynmus.person.0_0 4 месяца назад

@19783008ful 4 месяца назад

So Wrong. Damaging. I understand this

@More1481Pictures 4 месяца назад

Another lesson, don't call them out for their actions apparently. My mom (she isnt that strict but she acts like such a bitch over any bad habits I have she would be on my ass about it so goddamn much.) Literally told me OH THATS FUNNY when I told her my true feelings about her. Like seriously??? Screw off...

@cathycasinger3197 3 месяца назад

I can also detect my family members by their Footsteps

@Helloy_t 3 месяца назад

Really? I have too. It sucks having strict parents.

@Mushroom-Top 6 месяцев назад

Skills I learned from having a toxic/strict parent - sneaking things without anyone noticing - recognizing sounds like steps - seeing through lies - not making empty promises - going through a day by barely eating Thanks mom.

@Shghgdhjj 5 месяцев назад

@Keykey11271 4 месяца назад

You missed one Not showing skin/shoulders I have strict/toxic parents too😢❤

@kojismiles 4 месяца назад

that sucks

@Who-fn4kz 4 месяца назад

:’(

@SomethingExist 3 месяца назад

same

@annathepotatowitch6395 3 года назад

who else really wants to send this to their parents but are too scared because you know they’re going to counter it with some shit reason? Just me?

@gublaibanerjee 3 года назад

Rather I want to send to every parent I know

@sonshine_ssb 3 года назад

Nah man me too

@End336 3 года назад

@blam9360 3 года назад

Yes.

@kittysakuraba1656 3 года назад

*hugs tightly*

@mohamstaz3618 2 года назад

"I had it worse growing up." Trauma isn't a contest, mom.

@vixenthehybrid2622 2 года назад

That's what my family does to me I hate it They fucking tell me "oh you have it so easy, we had it worse."

@crapnuts 2 года назад

and sadness isn't a contest

@rawlicious3790 2 года назад

I remember back when I was young my mom would say my grandma beat her up with a rattan when she's being bad Sure that's rough and you didn't beat me up with a rattan but with words mom, smh I doubt and hope she doesn't see this comment because if she did she'll possibly kick my ass

@xlatte8150 2 года назад

@@vixenthehybrid2622 same, they sometimes tell me: Be grateful that we let you relax and play on the phone for you, while other kids have to do work just for themselves and their family. The fact that i think work sounds like a good life, if its not way too hard..

@ciirl9462 2 года назад

Istg- Have you been kicked? Have you had a dad that doesn't care? Have you had mild depression just because of your parents?

@AnnaMay-ed3mh 7 месяцев назад

My friend was asked seriously "why are you like this?" by her dad, for fathers day, she killed herself because what he said made her believe that he wanted her gone, and she really loved him, she just wanted what was best for him. She took her own life, for somebody she loved.

@sanjaijagesar6176 Месяц назад

I know maybe you wont react but any update on the situation? What happened with the dad after that ?

@user-nl8pb3hx5f 26 дней назад

Damn. That sucks that it happened. That bastard just did that? Be suprised if he ends up with regret for a very long time

@peaceangel-rl2hf 5 дней назад

That's so sad. The only 2 times I ever really felt so worthless and felt I should just die were after deeply cutting and nasty remarks about my character from my father during a very tragic and traumatic event that was occurring to me, so I understand. Narcissistic parents cause severe emotional and mental harm to their children 😢9

@trashcan1758 9 месяцев назад

There are two phrases that my mother always repeated: "If you can't do something RIGHT, then don't do it AT ALL!" and later, when I felt depressed because of that and didn't do anything because I was afraid of making mistakes, she said "You're lazy, you won't achieve anything if you keep doing nothing!"

@willowwilliams498 7 месяцев назад

Is she insane? How does that make any sense?

@SophiaLi-pv9ec 7 месяцев назад

Somehow doing something wrong is worse than not doing anything. My parents suck.

@emukasafreinshipforlief 7 месяцев назад

This comment hit me like a rock. i always try, but nothing isnt enough. Whenever my mom says that, i try asking her on why she’s telling me to do things and later just threatens to hit me.

@SophiaLi-pv9ec 6 месяцев назад

@@emukasafreinshipforlief same

@19783008ful 4 месяца назад

That's so horrible 😞 I've never been good enough

@mediocregamer2484 3 года назад

"How are you depressed and unhappy? You're life is so good. I've given you everything you could want. You're just spoiled. You don't know what it's like in the real world. You've never actually suffered."

@kevinnguyen552 3 года назад

You never actually suffered I really hate that your parents said that cuz it suggests that there is only two types of emotions Very very happy And very very depressed It suggest that ur feelings don’t matter which I HATE

@Isabel-sr8ep 3 года назад

Any parent who says that deserves to get smacked so hard they forget their own name my brother was trying to talk to my dad about how hard school is and it stresses him out cuz he’s a bit older now and it’s getting harder and my dad said he’s too young to be stressed or sad and damn I actually hate my brother but I felt bad for him in that moment...

@diminished_my_blocks_ 3 года назад

Tell them, that anyone can be unhappy nomatter what age nor lifestyle,even wealthy people can be unhappy sometimes. I really hate it when parents tell their kids that.It's gonna be hard but it will be too late if nothing gets done about this.

@mateoignaciomontanocatacor8786 3 года назад

"Maybe you are just bored"

@cmcphotography1 3 года назад

People who treat others' problems for being "not as bad" as theirs as if it didn't exist are scumbags who should be thrown around like a football

@constancelai5529 2 года назад

Things I learn being in a strict family... • Hiding emotions quickly • Being able to recognise everyones footsteps • Learning things by myself • Good at keeping secrets

@nathanieldeez4370 2 года назад

Bro the part with being able recognize everyone's footsteps is so damn accurate. I didn't live In a strict household but I could still recognize footsteps

@muhammadraffydzakwan7679 2 года назад

This is exactly me

@GameSpyke 2 года назад

i can relate

@quentinramecourt6628 2 года назад

@@HellEnforcersAirsoft and you piss them off for what reason?

@supahmist6068 2 года назад

Yo same! I also learned how to fake being happy and fake a smile :D **Silently crying in the corner**

@theisaashishow251 8 месяцев назад

" Education was meant to give wisdom and not stress " ~ Isaac Scribe

@strix501 3 месяца назад

Sorry buddy, but on engineering degree that thing Will be considered as Bullshi- They really give us pressure when studying and never want to give us an easy way for learning.

@theisaashishow251 3 месяца назад

@@strix501 Yeah bro I understand ur pain

@Manic68686 18 дней назад

I’m 13 and depressed and my parents would be super angry at me for accidentally making a mess I try to clean it right away but when they see it they say “your a burden” or “why are you like this do you want to have a future!” And I’m still scared of those sentences and for the people that have depression you can talk to me about anything and I’ll do everything in my power to help you, and I’ll try to make you feel better

@JayV300 2 года назад

Parents: **Says hurtful things to their kids** Also parents: Why doesnt my kids love me? Its like saying "Im stabbed, why does it hurt?"

@Luke-nc5nf 2 года назад

Cheers ill drink to that bro

@holyonesingadimedja3241 2 года назад

True

@saraaaa27 2 года назад

and they dont even realise it, baffles me.

@itsyourgurlxrystallized7143 2 года назад

And they wonder why we go to our other family members who will support us or go to our friend(s).

@asimocloud5736 2 года назад

And then they scold us for being more close to their friends

@JJ-ru6bh 3 года назад

1. "You're so dramatic, grow up." 2. "Why are you like this?" 3. "You belong to me and no one else." 4. "As long as I'm feeding and clothing you, you'll follow my rules." 5. "You're too thin/overweight." 6. "I wish you were more like..." 7. "That's the way I was raised and I turned out fine." 8. "You were an accident." Thank you soooo much for this information!!!

@evy2248 3 года назад

Thank youuu

@littledollangelheart 3 года назад

I was told im too skinny and underweight by my mom but I was born that way I dont wanna gain weight and look fat :(

@SweetUniverse 3 года назад

That was my dad, "that's the way I was raised and I turned out fine!" He's an alcoholic who has an alcoholic mistress. 😂😂😂

@littledollangelheart 3 года назад

@@SweetUniverse wow he only want to be alcoholic just to be cool my one cousin is like that she tries to drink just to be cool

@IndyLaLune 3 года назад

@@littledollangelheart not every alcoholic has the same reason x)

@FredrickAddo-sc2fn 8 месяцев назад

my parents have said a lot of hurtful things to me but the one that hurt me the most was when my mom told she regretted giving birth to me. I really cried that day.Iwas only 13 when she said that.Then she said that two more times when I Was 15 I told her what she said hurt me she didn't care she was laughing and being proud of what she said.

@Flaco5609 6 месяцев назад

ugh that’s infuriating to me, im so sorry you had to go through that. My mom told me the same thing when i was 14 but instead of laughing, she was crying bc she recently turned islamic (we’re latino) and i tried coming out to her as bisexual. Not only did she wish that i was never born but she said the same ab my innocent younger siblings (including my brother which she had just had) and all i could do is just watch her cry on my shoulder as i sat there completely disassociated from reality. Parents suck bro

@maryam_ali2012 Месяц назад

I'm so sorry you had to hear that, my mum said the same thing, she told me to go and jump of a building which led me to seriusly think that if i die , it might be better for my mom and dad. They wouldnt have to be angry all the time because of me. Im very sorry

@nathandrago3989 22 дня назад

I my #### that's so rude ur mom sucks like he'll tell

@FredrickAddo-sc2fn 22 дня назад

@@maryam_ali2012 oh my God, yours is worse than mine .I am so sorry.I know we are both strong and we will get through this life.Please dont listen to your mom whenever she says things like that. please stay safe and always be happy☺

@lunarmcflurryonrecroom-bs6cl 9 месяцев назад

Stuff I’ve learned while with a toxic mother: • The sound of her car coming into the garage • The sound of her footsteps • When she is mad but doesn’t show it so I know to stay away until she calms down • The difference between play-fighting and secretly hurting me • How to stay calm when publicly humiliated I’m still fighting anxiety and depression while this is going on 💔💔

@GhostPlatypus 2 месяца назад

I’m so sorry 😭😭

@abdearahmanboda8731 2 месяца назад

I don't know you but ,just stay strong ,and no matter how rough the going is ,there is always better days to come I hope that helped even if just a little

@CareFreeNarcoleptic 3 года назад

My mom: you can tell me anything Me: tells her “anything” Mom: gets mad and starts yelling Edit: I never realized how many people related to this omg

@khitaraaldilla5406 3 года назад

;-;

@deborahjolly2653 3 года назад

I can relate to this

@ahbabraufahmed3058 3 года назад

same but for my dad (somehow it is the reverse cause my mom does not do anything and father gets angry for little reason).

@poison5363 3 года назад

MOOOOOOD

@riesuki 3 года назад

@@deborahjolly2653 same

@1TS..M3 3 года назад

And then parents be like, “Why doesn’t my kid like me?” Edit: Omg this is the most replies and likes I’ve ever gotten on a comment and just in general- TYSMMM

@ChocoMelodii 3 года назад

Ikr They would always be like “You don’t love me anymore?,” “Do you still love me?” and “I don’t think you love us anymore” They don’t even realize what they are doing. They always say that it’s for my health, teaching me a lesson because they “love” me and blah blah blah

@clubkarma4655 3 года назад

Ikr my mom is like that she will say it do something that offends me and she will go “I love you” and I won’t say anything back and she will complain that I didn’t say “I love you” back.Like bruh -_- that’s annoying

@1TS..M3 3 года назад

@@clubkarma4655 I know like I hate it so much

@arandompersonthatpostsstuf4788 2 года назад

Me: Well maybe you should stop beating me for the most stupid reasons i haaate you >:(

@rui.inazuma7078 2 года назад

yeah

@Joanna-uh7eq 24 дня назад

“stop crying or I’ll give you a reason to cry.” Is a sentence that always makes me cry more.

@imnobody7912 2 месяца назад

My parents acts like their good and nice parents only in front of others but u never know what happening inside the home...... You mentioned everything that my parents say to me time to time

@mansoorahmad1320 Месяц назад

Same my all teachers or school thinks that my parents are so understanding, cooperative,never make me sad,listeners or they support me but just I know the reality

@fia8591 3 года назад

I hate when parents say things like, “back in my day” because guess what? It’s 2021- not 1980 get over it- the world has changed okay? Just because you wish you were a kid again... 😒

@chocolattefeverdreams4228 3 года назад

Ik. Times have changed. Their methods might not even be useful, when there are easier ways.

@raniaalmaadiva8465 3 года назад

Mom dad we are from two different generations-

@maren4582 3 года назад

exactly it’s 2021 PARENTS.

@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241 3 года назад

my mom and grandma told me that and it was soo long that i hate it and i wanted to sleep

@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241 3 года назад

the one ''bAcK iN mY dAy'' i be like: yeah no one cares.

@Sizzle78 2 года назад

“Thats the way I was raised, and I turned out fine.” This hurts so much

@Sizzle78 2 года назад

@Bianca Barragan I hope you’re doing ok Just remember that no matter what, your feelings are always valid to yourself ✨

@Sizzle78 2 года назад

@Bianca Barragan 🤍

@crysmo247 2 года назад

@@Sizzle78 i feel your pain but dont listen to them they want you to be what they want instead of what you want they are treating you like a doll!you deserved better

@sriku1000 2 года назад

A Great watch on how bad parents are made ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-vdwR6sVRulk.html

@specnut3172 2 года назад

u mean it isnt normal to be told that? i was said things that i shouldnt have been born so they would have mney to live in a house with only my brother and that my school fees are holding them frm giving my brother a happy life , at this point im waiting to turn 18 so i can move out of that pathetic household

@twistedaddiction 9 месяцев назад

Honestly this video hurts a lot. I was forced to grow up very fast after I turned 11 and was molested by a close family friend three seperate times until he ran away. Also doing the same to a few of his nephews before leaving. Ever since then my innocence was shattered and most of these things except being told I was an accident weren't even seen as problems. Im 20 years old now, turning 21 soon. Yet I carry so much truama from my childhood. My Mom has gotten a lot better now that I'm an adult; but when I was 16 I fought her boyfriend several times after he put his hands on my Mom. Defending her from her abuser; and she took his side and let him back into the home. After a few more fights I moved out at 17, and returned a little over a year and a half later after winding up homeless for a few months of that. Thankfully he was gone, and that's when my Mom apologized for everything. But it hurts; so much to think back on half the shit I've done. I'm leaving out so much here; but I have been through the ring of abuse so much. These videos are hurting my soul because I can't help but watch them; and hate myself for just how commonly I can relate to things in them. I'm a broken person; and my fucking head hurts. All the time.

@kahlynloyd341 8 месяцев назад

🙏🙏🙏

@Legend_Evve 7 месяцев назад

That was sad. But there's ALWAYS a solution! God will come to u soon, and soon u will have victory! Have faith

@twistedaddiction 7 месяцев назад

@@Legend_Evve Thank you, I appreciate the kind words. My situation only continues to grow worse with each passing day however; and I try so hard. I feel like I've been forsaken.

@n.e.r.d.2213 6 месяцев назад

Don’t give a damn about your long ass comment 😊

@StoneTheScrap 2 месяца назад

@@Legend_Evve dude religion doesn't fix everything please just understand that your only making an empty promise I do still suffer with toxic words my parents mostly my dad says but I suffered more with toxic relationships and trust me i prayed for a good relationship every day but never got one. Please understand that religion being used on these topics are you just making empty promises because your talking to people behind a screen you don't actually know what their life is like. So please for our sakes leave religion out of this okay

@randomhuman2318 2 месяца назад

“You’re a horrible example to your little brother” is one my dad has said countless times or “you’re too sensitive”

@Lethalgold 14 дней назад

Damn you have that "boys don't cry" dad too?

@joannaliu9579 3 года назад

Grades and being successful in the future mattered more than my mental health, I want to be a better parent or a caretaker when I grow up.

@crispymattu9286 3 года назад

Youll be!! I can sense it! ♡

@alexwolfplush7523 3 года назад

I do to but I'm afraid I'm going to give them the same experiences that I had / are having. I wanna see someone have a better childhood than I have and I wanna do it in a better way than my parents but I'm way to scared to become a parent

@kanzieabuaisha4574 3 года назад

@@alexwolfplush7523 nah I'm sure you'll do great 👍🥳🥳

@ton9698 3 года назад

Same here!

@harshita827 3 года назад

Me too .they say all types of stuffs bout me as a joke like yu cant just talk about yur child's insecurities in front of everyone .they are always like why are yu like this yu should have manners ,yu should meet new ppl like wht is yur prblm i dont feel to socialise why pressure someone to do something we should be honest to ourselves not to those fake ppl around us

@crystaelechan487 3 года назад

One sentence that traumatizes me: "You're a girl but you can't cook or be anything kids your age in a poor village can do."

@finnishnationalist9481 3 года назад

damn... those comparisons to poor people Does she/he understand the enviroment? In a poor enviroment, the child needs to rely on themselves for food. In an average enviroment, they have someone to take care of them, and she/he thinks that that is the same.

@woahouuu4383 3 года назад

THIS RIGHT HERE. They just don’t understand that I simply don’t have the time like they do to learn to cook; I haven’t gotten the chance to do anything I wanted in years. Their lifestyle is different than mines and they keep expecting me to have that on top of my disastrous workload.

@gayasuzuki895 3 года назад

This :(

@toallthemanhwasireadistill7452 3 года назад

yup, they always tell me that , it is just that i ain't interested in cooking ! why is it so hard to understand ?? they always compare me with my younger sister who likes cooking . But , it isn't my fault cooking miggt be her passion or at least hobby , but to me it is nothing ( sigh) my parents almost tell me everything in this video

@nightmare_6 3 года назад

My mom and dad don’t tell me that but my grandma always says that for some reason 🤷‍♀️ Idc tho 💅

@user-qp1fj3hr8f 4 месяца назад

I literally cried when I watched this😢 my parents did everything in this video to me. Especially comparing, and it's now that I realised that it really affected me as an adult. I was aggressive and didn't treat my friends well. I used the hurtful words that my parents used at me. They act as if they don't mind, but I know it hurts.

@maytalacedo2942 9 месяцев назад

All of these is why I realized what happen to me as a kid and how my mom did damage me entirely. " You belong to me." Is bone chilling and scary since I realized my mom's possessive and it scares me. Thank you for this.

@ummm_88okboomer45 2 года назад

“You’re so sensitive.” “Smile.” “Come on it was a joke” “What are you, depressed?” “Stop worrying all the time.”

@coffeeshampoo87 2 года назад

"Attitude problems" when I'm having a meltdown

@lykoii1705 2 года назад

"pathetic"

@fw.jay2 2 года назад

My parents told me I was sensitive

@bbachan9609 2 года назад

The “smile” just hurts me, my mom says it all the time

@AviationGeek01 2 года назад

My mom and older brother always make jokes about my weight so I can relate.

@AyeeeItsAlii 3 года назад

Honestly this just hurts me and I feel like I can't expression my emotions or well-being to my parents

@trinaq 3 года назад

I agree, this unfortunately hits too close to home for many of us! 💔

@lunarlotus8778 3 года назад

@Trina Q ya I know what you mean

@nvlogs6207 3 года назад

I completely understand I feel like I have to be a certain way when I’m with family quiet and reserved and distant I don’t really know how to express my emotions or how to feel loved

@hmmmmmnmmmmmm 3 года назад

Same! My emotions were always invalidated, but I was fine with it until my closest friends did the same thing, especially when I confided in them. I didn't see it as a big deal back then, but now I'm too scared to tell them my parents are genuinely abusive. They just think they're strict

@manufacturedpie4118 3 года назад

I’m scared to tell I don’t know what they will say so I just keep it to myself or I’ll ask my bffs or cousin

@TherealCataBlue 9 месяцев назад

My parents said "Stop being so needy!" I cried myself to sleep that night. It harmed me mentally and emotionally. My sadness still sits with me.

@rune9843 10 месяцев назад

"Do you feel like dying? Go ahead." My mom would drive me and my siblings to school. During this she would let out her judgement, complaints and comparisons of us siblings. Before my day even started, everyday I remember feeling exhausted and depraved because of it.

@ShoppingCart_er15 3 года назад

Instead of saying “you were an accident”, say “you were a surprise” instead. My mom always says that and it makes me feel special, like I was unplanned but my parents will always love me and their lives would be totally different without me.

@CombatHelm 3 года назад

Yeah, typically people associate accidents with mistakes, but surprises are typically associated with fun and a happy random thing that just kinda happened. More parents with ‘accident children’ should say surprise instead of accident more often.

@finnishnationalist9481 3 года назад

Damn. That's some good parents. *cries in dodging sandals being thrown across the room*

@trish7048 3 года назад

That really is a better choice to say, surprise is much better than accident

@lilysalisbury6554 3 года назад

my mom said i was an oopsie baby and she always says she's glad she had me :)

@blxck_dxrknessxz1948 3 года назад

Dang nice parents *while dodging sandals*

@gabiz1331 2 года назад

"You're kinda fat" "Can't you be more like them?" "Why did I had kids" "You're such a crybaby" "You can never do anything right" Despite those things my mom never listens to anything I say

@user-tm7hf9kw5t 2 года назад

Same but my dad can u pls wish him get away from me and my mom

@AgentGrace15 2 года назад

My mom didn't necessarily say anything about my weight daily, it was just clothes shopping. She would always force me to try on clothes that were a size or two smaller than I needed and wouldn't let me grab stuff that fit until I was in tears. Then I was just a brat for not appreciating her buying me any clothes at all.

@serenarodriguez1411 2 года назад

Merkimer: sad🐷👑

@meganpirello7627 2 года назад

i have been told that too

@serenarodriguez1411 2 года назад

Sad

@MatthewIsntCool13 5 месяцев назад

I grew up with a very abusive mom and a emotionally distant dad, My mom would drink and tell me hurtful things on a daily, itd go from "Your the best daughter ive ever had" to "I wish i wouldve aborted you". She fought with my dad a lot and id always be dragged into the middle of it. She guilted me for the reason her and my dad not loving each other and many other things

@cubemasterwashere 4 месяца назад

The overweight part spoke to me. My mom usually says such things when I tell her that for example I feel like I'm worse than the people in my sports team or when it's because of my skin condition and disguises it as "wanting me to be healthy" even if it just hurts.

@user-gi9yj8bp3l 3 года назад

Disclaimer: The dislikes are from parents.

@TheRealKaiSweat 3 года назад

lol so true

@alinciobanu628 3 года назад

Lol obviously

@mohammedemdad5006 3 года назад

Yes

@cursedpotato64 3 года назад

They are all idiots? ^^'

@gabbie6281 3 года назад

Omg- probably

@eimerhegel427 2 года назад

"Bobby can get all A, why can't you?" *"Bobby's father can make 1 Million per month, why can't you?"*

@random_girlypop_ontheinternet 2 года назад

I’ll steal this thank you

@mako_the_seawong7306 2 года назад

I shall steal

@Cloud-ed7gb 2 года назад

Brooo my parents compare me to everyone all the time :(

@laiqeua 2 года назад

@@Cloud-ed7gb i feel bad for you I remember when my mom said "you're friends can do it then why can't you?!" That hit me so hard

@Cloud-ed7gb 2 года назад

@@laiqeua yea it’s so painful seeing ur mom wishing for a different child who could do better tjs things than me but it’s life

@emilyplaysgames927 Месяц назад

my mom says all of this and makes me depressed. thanks mom. your definitly the best.

@yanderefangirl8317 8 месяцев назад

My parents were far more comforting. They could lose their temper sometimes, but they both worked two jobs when I was a kid (they only work one job now) because we were poor and living in a sketchy neighborhood (gangs, drugs, and homeless people walking around the neighborhood). But honestly, my parents gave me and my sister a far better life than they ever had. My dad had worked since he was in elementary school, had an alcoholic dad who has never said ‘I love you’ to either of his children, and his mom was kind but addicted to drugs and food. My mom had an abusive stepdad for a while, was mostly raised by her grandma while her mom worked, and under constant stress. But they both vowed to give their children the exact opposite of what they had and we are forever grateful for them.

@thorach7607 3 года назад

The worst thing about our parents is that they neglect us everyday, but act surprised when something happens to us.

@anonymousfeather1907 3 года назад

They act surprised in a bad way though

@wolfqueeni484 3 года назад

Yeah, this legit happened to me as well

@kermitthuglife4190 3 года назад

i get beaten up at school everyday and my mom thinks i get into fights so i get grounded for being beaten up. this is why i want to kill myself

@zerotwo8737 3 года назад

@@kermitthuglife4190 explain her?u r getting bullied!

@msilva2423 3 года назад

@Nick That’s nice

@kazikool69 3 года назад

My child is fine!" Your child is telling people not to kill themselves, even though they are $ucidal

@priscillajaldi6146 3 года назад

true!

@thh1226 3 года назад

Same

@huiiihhhh 3 года назад

Same

@thh1226 3 года назад

I like to comfort people it bring a weird feeling to me. But I will take the chance to die if I can like car accident or something else as long as it's not suicide

@Jasmina1Urata 3 года назад

o-oh that hits hard

@UvaVerde12 17 дней назад

My mom used to show me photos of kids on the streets who didn't eat for a long time,when I dind't eat all the food in my plate,and either said i would be like that or that i am wasting food,and that food could have gone to them. She ignored me when i told her i suffered bullying in 1st grade. My grandma skinny shamed me,compared me,and at the same time victimized herself when i was mad or sad. She doesn't let me have privacy,and threatens to tell anything to my mother,knowing she will yell at me. She tells thing I don't want her to to tell to other people,like personal information that shouldn't even be with her. This video is honestly very relatable for some reason.

@Marina-vb9by 3 месяца назад

“You’re such a drama a queen.” to this day, I still don’t think my mother realizes how I hurt I am by the poor choices she made that traumatized me.

@baguette4607 3 года назад

“You’re such a brat” “She’s such a disappointment” “Why do you act like this?” “It’s just her hormones there’s not a problem” “You’re embarrassing us” “Why don’t you act more like ___” -my mother

@bodwig115 3 года назад

Forget I’m an rp acc) Most things you said is a quote from my mum

@zhohneke 3 года назад

@@wonyoungeyeyyeye726 bro why did u just say “ooooooff”

@Bem002 3 года назад

Same here :'(

@dakotabruun3419 3 года назад

Same

@random-mexican7787 3 года назад

My mom also says that to me

@bunni4230 2 года назад

My parents say: "Stop eating so much or else you'll be fat" "Go workout" "You're eating again" It doesn't happen often but it still does hurt the more you think about it.

@jamkb9266 2 года назад

The same she will also say What kind of a kid is this

@mindyobusiness1408 2 года назад

She would try to put it like she was helping me 💀 “I was fat in school, I wish I had someone to tell me this like I’m telling you”

@kiki3990 2 года назад

My parents also say those words to me cuz I am overweight. I feel so empty and tired of this world and if I say it yo them they'll be like "Stop pretending and go study" I always cried whenever they say it to me I am burnt out and one time I even tried to kill myself.....

@itsnats8007 2 года назад

They care about your weight. But it hurts.

@ranvirt283 2 года назад

Its more like: « Are you never tired of eating? You are already fat enough….you want to look like an elephant? Etc… »

@l0s3r_hum4n 9 месяцев назад

Things i learned growing up with a abusive dad and mental annd emotional abusive mom 1. Don cry in front of them 2. Hide any emotions 3. Don't go anywhere with them 4. Do things when asked or else 5. Never talk back 6. Be good or else 7. Must take parent role to younger siblings 8. Care about them more than yourself 9. Try to avoid them 10. Stay out of the way 11. Don't ask or take anything with out permission 12. If they don't care they will never care 13. Don't be proud of yourself 14. Your better off by yourself 15. Control and bottle up emotions 16. Don't talk about yourself in any good way 17. Don't eat often 18. Hide things 19. Avoid being yelled at 20. Be good enough stay away from parents

@mansoorahmad1320 Месяц назад

But the problem is that we can never be good enough for them

@marcusbaker830 19 дней назад

For me 21. always take it out on your failure friends who are below you

@user-vy9hy2qp7s 4 месяца назад

I now see the massive emotional scars my father is leaving me. I dont think the trauma and abuse he put me through can be reversed. This video and many others from you have helped me realize the abuse i deal with is real, and its not just me overthinking it. My trauma is real, and i need therapy to even have a chance of somewhat reversing my scars, but they will never fully hear.

@NotKevinNeverWas 3 года назад

"I wish you were more like...." [Slams table] *ADOPT HER THEN*

@yaganonobvcyv9613 3 года назад

That’s damn right

@melodii9749 3 года назад

If I said that I would’ve been dead by now 😭 ✋

@NotKevinNeverWas 3 года назад

@@melodii9749 Same

@EHMM 2 года назад

@SANJEV MARIAPPAN Moe Slap them back show dominance

@Phoebe5448 2 года назад

I said the same thing to my mum when I was 11.

@matty1214 2 года назад

Mom: Look at him, he's so talented, brillia- Me: Look at his mom, she doesn't compare him with others which established his confidence Mom: 👁️👄👁️

@namidahooman8238 2 года назад

Exactly 👁️👄👁️but that is something we can't do.. Because they will only say "are you talking back!?"

@yourlocalpancake 2 года назад

i wish it was that easy-

@leeleebahleelee 2 года назад

@@namidahooman8238 lol ikr

@Yeonderellashoe 2 года назад

My mom - 😡 🥿

@justanintrovertwithcooldp7 2 года назад

Well I was quite good in studies when I was a kid. So my mother never compared me for my personality. But I still had to find an excuse to not let my friends come home cuz everytime she saw them, after they left she says look at your friends, they look good and talk so nicely and then LOOK AT YOU!!

@imakia.draws_official 4 месяца назад

I'm actual happy I found this channel. My school also found this channel and is supporting it because of what it talks about! Thank you!

@Theonlycherrios 6 месяцев назад

•thing to do when your in a strict family • •hide your feelings when you go to a different person or family member •remember that your in a strict family so look out for the footsteps •keep secret close to you don't spill them •remember to hide your phone's or tablet or laptop and try to delete your search history •don't yell at the monsters (parents) it will make it worst •Make sure you do the chores when there not around they'll say stuff mean around you when your near • Make sure to wipe the tears they made you cry out so hard so they won't Bully you some more •when they compare you to somebody don't think that's true there wrong.... •I hope this helps y'all •

@kazikool69 3 года назад

"My child is fine!" Your child are barely living, and your just making it worse.

@jemeilleure 3 года назад

Not me laughing on how true this is and crying on how sad it is at the same time- 😭

@anitharamaiah3845 3 года назад

Ikr

@mewmew539 3 года назад

For me my mom told me I don’t respect her and I do and she say I don’t respect her shut up that what my mom said and I cried for hours bc it hurt my feeling and I was angry bc she doesn’t respect me every time she leaves the dishes and we have dishwasher and she doesn’t put it in there

@kazikool69 3 года назад

@@mewmew539 I'm so sorry that happens. I can relate. I wish i can help you more but i can't belive she does that to you. Ithe next time she does that, tell her calmly what she does to you.

@i_hatemuggles 3 года назад

@@mewmew539 not da only one

@sanamono8186 3 года назад

The worst part is that they don't even realize how much their words can hurt us. They have no idea what "emotional support" is. For all my life I've been feeling unwanted or not enough. Having perfectionist parents is the worst...

@user-je5yg5nj2m 3 года назад

Just know God made you for a reason and Jesus Christ for you so you can fulfill your purpose don't just read this and go back to sin but read this and turn from sin to receive the fullness of God Almighty Pray this prayer with me "Lord I come to you for without you I am hopeless, Lord I give you my life for I alone cannot do this Lord forgive me for the times I've signed and fallen short of your Glory, Lord help me to forgive others and receive your light and let your light shine through me in the Mighty name of Jesus I pray Amen

@yuzumifumiko9328 3 года назад

i can feel you...ive never heard my parents saying something positive or good aboute me...

@user-je5yg5nj2m 3 года назад

@@yuzumifumiko9328 you are beautifully and wonderfully made by God as Psalms 139 says and all God's works are wonderful and you are purposed, you are hand-picked by God to do great things you just to step out and grab on to God, just gotta hold on to God to receive your blessings to receive your break through and it gets bad before he gets good but if you keep on trying, the best thing you will do is try the worst thing we will do is not try your best.

@yuzumifumiko9328 3 года назад

@@user-je5yg5nj2m

@jjais964 3 года назад

They litherlly have no way of supporting me and then say "You just want atenntion" then say "You can tell me everything" LIKE BITCH YOUVE DONE SO MANY BAD THINGS TO ME TO THE POINT I CUTTED MYSELF WHEN I WAS 10 they dont know I cutted myself

@abouday-bp5ok 7 месяцев назад

I was exposed to a harsh childhood from my parents, so thank you for this video. It seems that I need a specialist because I am different

@galxeyzab 9 месяцев назад

Watching these comments have helped me so much as a parent to my son, who is now 7. I'm always saying hes too dramatic. I'm always thinking he's over reacting to situations and do want him to take things so seriously when in reality they arn't. But I never thought of the other side of this. That I might be sending a subliminal message that his feelings aren't important. I gave birth at 18 and I'm constantly learning more and growing. So these videos are such a blessing because it keeps me thinking about how to address my children and their behaviors and watch what I say to them.

@victorianmist8531 3 года назад

The worst thing is we love them and they love us but they still hurt us in ways they'll never probably know and it makes a great impact on our mental health.

@erinshannon8031 3 года назад

This is exactly where I'm at. I know they love me, but I also know they have no idea how the things they've had told me all my life have damaged me. And if I tell them, they'll just get defensive and think I'm dissing them...

@CheshireCat-cm1si 3 года назад

victorian mist After a frustrating morning (I had overslept, rushed through my morning routine, and was already late for school by the time I realized I'd forgotten something), my mom told me in the car that she'd failed as a mother. I spent the next three years feeling like my mom saw me as a disappointment and secretly hated me. It took me five years to stop thinking that way, and my relationship with my mom has deteriorated as a result. NEVER say something like that to a kid.

@Aizetsusfavadmirer 3 года назад

ikr.

@emorobin3901 3 года назад

I don’t love them, but I think they love the version of me they see…it’s not the real me but they love it, so I live it.

@soranokenshi7616 3 года назад

Oh they love you?

@jessica7560 2 года назад

to parents, please don't EVER say : "you can never change" "you're still the same" "you look like a whore" "when will you be like them" "why don't you try to look like them" "why are you like this" to your child. it hurts. understanding each other is important, trusting your child for a bit isn't harmful. please, let us breathe. we tried our best, and we're sorry for not being enough in your eyes. we're trying to be ourselves, we're taking your opinions into consideration too. but regardless, whether or not we look perfect to you, it's NOT FAIR to INSULT our efforts. we have our own voice, our very own thoughts. please try to look into our perspective too, not only to judge based on how we act. we can also get mad, sad, depressed, and frustrated. don't say something that you'll regret later, and don't say sorry if you're going to repeat the same old hurtful words. you're supposed to be our greatest supporter, our home. treat us right, as another person, and not an object. we don't deserve to become a broken being, to question our existence or to stop believing in our own selves. please, if you're a parent, never restraint your child's development. it's tiring, how much it ache whenever we tried to forgive and continue to love our parents for being the reason we feel sick or even dying inside. don't ever neglect the small details we need in order to grow into the best version of ourselves. please, let us know more about the world, the bad and good side of it. let us decide at least for the sake of our life. to our parents, we need you, trust you, and deeply appreciate you. but sometimes, we also need our own space and needs. thank you.

@kenny3015 2 года назад

This but for really christian/Catholic parents please DONT CALL YOUR KIDS WITCHES/DEVILS

@Lil_Duck2.0 2 года назад

This was a whole paragraph but it’s true

@ac1dk1d 2 года назад

@@kenny3015 damn.. i wish i could say that to my mom, she always makes jokes about my baby pictures saying "oh this is (my deadname) when she didnt have her demon horns"

@kenny3015 2 года назад

@@ac1dk1d why do parents do this shit 😭 me mum calls me a witch/beats me tf up whenever I do the most mundane shit she deems bad, like opening a cereal box the wrong way like jesus these ppl need to go to parenting school

@kenny3015 2 года назад

@@ac1dk1d enough about me, are you alright?

@user-xr2md9ls8u 22 дня назад

Your voice is super calm like it’s so soft like like when it’s like harmful topics your voice is so soft while doing it makes of feel so relaxing while knowing the truth

@user-du6zl8vh5u 8 месяцев назад

My father once said this: "Watching all these useless video won't even help you! If you study , then you can get good marks!" what he said really hurt me.. I dn't know how to cope it. I am already trying my best but it is not good enough...

@Emilybaeee 3 года назад

“I wish you were more like your sister” “Your sisters getting good grades you should try harder and be like her” “Shut up go away” “Stop crying it doesn’t matter”

@ythewoodpeckerfan5286 3 года назад

Parents later after abusing their child: "i'M a GoOd PaReNt!"

@kermitthuglife4190 3 года назад

i get beaten up at school everyday and my mom thinks i get into fights so i get grounded for being beaten up. this is why i want to kill myself

@tinaangelica2760 3 года назад

@@kermitthuglife4190 I don't know you or how your mom acts in general. I don't know if you've told anyone else about this, a teacher or other adult, (one worth trusting I mean) a friend or classmate who could convince her, and I don't know whether or not she'd react like a halfway decent mother should even if she knew. But don't give up. Please. I probably sound totally generic... but long as you're breathing you've still got a chance in life beyond all this crap you put up with now, and if you kill yourself you're killing that chance along with it. First time I had suicidal thoughts I was about 10; Next few years of my life turned out to be beautiful years I wish I could go back to. Not saying it'll magically turn around right away, that'd be sending out false hope and who wants that when they're miserable, but there IS actual hope is what I'm getting at. The kind of pain you're probably in, while completely valid, has a way of blinding people from that. That goes for anyone else struggling reading this too. I care about you. I know for a fact Jesus and God cares about you whether you believe that or not actually and I'm not gonna leave that part out. Take good care of yourself. Even if the people around you won't. I also believe God will take care of you and be there if you let him. Either way, God bless you, stay safe, and if you feel like talking or venting even you're welcome to reply.

@esteffanynolasco8347 3 года назад

no tell someone and get help

@ivymuncher 3 года назад

that was abuse? wacky

@-kiyomii- 3 года назад

“Life got worse after you were born” “Idiot” “I’m the parent! listen to me” “Your mom changed because of you” “Get off your phone” “You’re so ungrateful” “How many pimples do you have” “Do you ever brush your hair” “You should eat... something” A few things my parents have said to me

@elijahcarson9218 3 года назад

ayy same...

@hayamixd88 3 года назад

@@thethethejdgj6592 mine's the opposite, When I had my grandparents take care of me everything was great until I got back to me family, That's when my torture started. My brothers are the only people that care for me and we promised each other that we would leave the house to go back to our grandparent's house to live a better life. And look at me now, I am happy with them.

@anonymousfeather1907 3 года назад

My parents said that to me, but they said it so much, I don't even care anymore

@-kiyomii- 3 года назад

@@thethethejdgj6592 I remember the good old days when my grandparents were alive... My dad’s mom was the nicest thing and my dad was the opposite he used to pick her up and throw her on the ground when she didn’t listen He used to make her cry for some stupid reason (still does that to mom) I could go on and on but my fingers are already tired Just saying I used to love my grandparents(especially my dads mom) but my dad turned out to be a complete psycho... But I will say my dad has had an influence in my life, he normally lies about everything and recently I’ve been noticing I’ve been lying for dumb reasons

@misterghastly3759 3 года назад

My mum has said 5 of these things to me and I'm only 12.

@RYUUDRAWS 14 дней назад

What i learned from growing up with my parents -Hiding emotions -Not telling about school issues -not too proud of accomplishments -depression -feel empty -trust issues -efforts are not much for to be proud of -house is prison

@aliciahigdon12 6 месяцев назад

I'm fostering my 3 grandbabies right now, in over a year their growth and development has just improved 10 fold, and I'm happy to know of extra things to watchout for as we help them grow, and I'm happy that despite some of the trauma that had happen to lead them into our care, that I know and they know they are loved, that they trust me 100% and that I have earned that trust with them, and I hope that once they get reunified with their mom, that we still keep that solid foundation of trust and unconditional love, that they always know no matter what I will always love them and be there for them, that they can come to me even if they feel they can't talk to anyone else. One thing I've found is when I do need to get a little cross with them it's too let them know,"I can be mad with you, like you can be mad at, me. But I love you no matter what!"

@chibio_o 2 года назад

"gets mad for no reason" top 10 ways to make your child sad

@LyleCollo 2 года назад

Why is this funny? This is a accurate representation of my childhood

@thegammer4747 2 года назад

Ornrhre

@idf1294 2 года назад

2.answer sh** when they ask or they will surely slap the f*** outta you.

@itz_ladynoir_fp5450 3 года назад

“Your overweight” - dad “Stop crying you’re annoying” or “You’re too sensitive” “Be more like your classmates” - mom I am tired.

@liancristelquitsang4643 3 года назад

Every body shape its beautiful i am also sensitive and you don't need to be like your classmates you need to be yourself God and Jesus loves you the way you are

@tiduspayne312 3 года назад

Your classmates? Why does your mom have enything to do with your classmates

@itz_ladynoir_fp5450 3 года назад

@@tiduspayne312 because most of my classmates get good grades

@itz_ladynoir_fp5450 3 года назад

@@liancristelquitsang4643 🙏 thank you

@foxeyclouds5021 3 года назад

I am sick and tired of parents saying “I was like you!”

@mehtheonlyone8766 9 месяцев назад

I get called skinny by my parents not too often but if they ever do say that either tell them to stop or don’t take it too heart. Your beautiful just the way you are!❤

@TheCat-AboutThat 4 дня назад

2:42 My stepmom said something similar to this, but soon because of my change in behavior, she told me that “since I’m just the stepparent, I shouldn’t have to care, but I do”

@willowoodz 2 года назад

“you’re not tired- you’re just lazy. you’re fine.” “you never listen to me! you’re such a lazy and useless kid.” “you never help me.” “stop acting like a baby.”

@Nepeta.. 2 года назад

This hits way to close to home I hope you're doing okay btw :D

@kaishawna3753 2 года назад

This is me. Sad, but true

@madisonloves_potatoes8060 2 года назад

I’m an 11 year old and my mother tells me too act like a grown woman..

@Velvet62211 2 года назад

My mom wants me to be a doctor but I want to be an actor and if I fail at that, I wanna be a fashion designer. When I told her, she guilt tripped me, but what got to my heart is when she said “Your dad would’ve wanted you to become a doctor and your disappointing me” she knows how much I care about my dad and my father died months ago, and yes, he did want me to become a doctor so those words hit me hard and now I feel like I need to please my family to be happy instead of focusing on what makes me happy

@zuzanafialova8111 2 года назад

@@Velvet62211 I feel that my parents want me to be doctor too but I want to do something else

@Yomush 3 года назад

Bonus things from me: 1. "Stop crying or i'll give you a reason to cry!" - Basically stop showing emotions or i'll punish you even more 2. "At your age I was already doing x and y!" - I think that was supposed to motivate me but it did exactly the opposite 3. "Don't backtalk!" - That was especially common when I tried to challenge my dad's decisions 4. "You'll get respect when you'll get a job and buy a house!" - After this sentence I limited talking with my dad to absolute minimum 5. "You know how to do it. You're just lazy/don't want to do it."

@KENONICAL 2 года назад

The first one man, it’s always the first one

@chubbychicken2412 2 года назад

2,3,5 for me Also does anyone else also get the "get out of your comfort zone" thing alot?

@alanisashleypconanan2778 2 года назад

Ahhh my whole life

@mannybutler7517 2 года назад

never heard 4 other than that yess

@visureddy726 2 года назад

The first one

@statostheman 14 дней назад

When I grew up, I've to be the father both to my mom and dad. Dad I forgave him and I fought his bureaucracies when he gotten older and got diabetes. Those years was my best years of my life. When he was on his death bed in 2019, he gave me one advise in life: "Never give up". But when my mom died recently in this year, I didn't feel nothing. Due she was using me all the time and never apodized for her actions. It was a toxic relationship. She always gaslighting me to do stuff for her. I do have some good memories of her, but those was very few. Mostly I only remembering the bad stuff. Maybe I'll cry for her. But not today.

@CatherineLee3000 9 месяцев назад

My parents are awesome! But I have been bullied by other people and they have hurt me. After a while, I learned not to care what others think about me. But some of the comments that wounded me from the past are still there. My parents had to be very careful with me because I am more sensitive, and I have high-functioning autism, and I learn and handle things a little differently. I was the first child out of two siblings, and I have a sister, who is almost two years younger than me. I learned to stand up to myself, but my dad would stand up to others, like a few teachers and some older people, who love to be jerks. My dad will go after anyone who tries to hurt my sister and me.

@luvykori 3 года назад

“You’re too dramatic.” “Why are you like this?” “You’re very skinny”

@CreamChz_ 3 года назад

Yup soo eating for me is actually a chore now I guess

@e.ashton 3 года назад

@@CreamChz_ I guess this is me, my mother complains I am too skinny

@ekambirb 3 года назад

For me, it’s I’m overweight.

@e.ashton 3 года назад

@@lynnhelga9512 My mom thinks I am too skinny

@jungkooksbananamilk8885 3 года назад

@@ekambirb same

@nikko2469 2 года назад

"what is wrong with you?!" "why are you so dramatic?" "shut up" "stop crying" "why aren't you like your sister?" "why are you like this?" Those are usually the things my mom tells me... I know she doesn't mean to but... It hurts.

@nathanieldeez4370 2 года назад

Yea, I can agree, even though my parents are good parents they would sometimes say this when talking about grades. They did not mean to he harmful but it would hit hard, *be

@Dogz411 2 года назад

My mom had bad past but understand her I think she had anger issues she can't control what she said so sometimes yell at me "Stupid girl!" and i understand you.

@vicious_vixel 2 года назад

Parents probably know. But they won't apologize

@jujotheweeb7247 2 года назад

My parants are like that sometimes to

@Stringer7390 2 года назад

The pain of being compared to your sibling.

@Fridgerator2pointoh Месяц назад

I remember when i was 12 and i had an agrument with my mom for telling her how i feel and actually expressing mt emotions. After my mom gave me a moment to cry, i asked her to come back into the room so we could talk. I was trying to tell her how i felt, and was crying in the process. I took a moment to catch my breath and cry before continuing, and while this was happening, my mom crossed her arms and gave me the most uncaring look ive ever seen, and said; "did i just come in here to watch you cry?" Ive never talked about my emotions and how i felt since that day... Everybody tells me to do so, but im just so traumatized and hurt from that moment that i probably never will.. thanks mom...

@scarakisser_com 3 года назад

The fact that I'm more vulnerable towards my friends than my own blood relatives is concerning

@funnychannel3813 3 года назад

Same tho

@jinhitlabels.2014 3 года назад

I havent seen a single relative of mine for 6 years

@xandriee 3 года назад

@@jinhitlabels.2014are you sad about that?

@mizukihayashi2637 3 года назад

Same, like I'd literally die for them, and I never shed a tear when a family member of mine dies.

@timik32 3 года назад

same here :/

@alvily 2 года назад

The worst part is when they say stuff like: "We had it worse, you have it easy..." Dude idfc about your childhood, if I am feeling depressed because of your bs don't try to make me feel like it's not so bad. You had your bad moments as a child, so you know how it feels, right? So help me overcome them rather than making them worse.

@faizzuddin4004 2 года назад

It’s sucks tho when parents used authoritarian parenting based on how their parents raised them. :’) it is endless cycle, why can’t they giving a chance for children to grow and not an object. For me, my parents always used psychological pressure and sarcasm to win any conversation and i just learn to bottle up my emotion because everyone know it will gone bad if i spoke a word. I hate this, am i always bad?

@coffeeshampoo87 2 года назад

Tbh at this point I have no clue what to say when someone asks me if I love my whole family

@hajar2919 2 года назад

@@coffeeshampoo87 same'

@doublev4409 2 года назад

I already talked to my dad abt it and then he hit me and my sis and said that I "give a lotta lectures but have no practical knowledge" as if him learning to cheat and scam people out of money is practical knowledge that is essential for survival in this world; like this psychopath doesn't even know that there are ppl who are able to live a straightforward life. Bastard. I hope he rots in hell.

@paigelarson9279 2 года назад

“You don’t know how luck you’ve got it, If you think this is bad you should have seen how I was treated rahrahrah” okay invalidating betty, a step above neglect is still neglect. You punished me for your transference instead of getting the help you needed to sort through your own childhood neglect.

@idkwhatusernameIshouldput_ 20 дней назад

OMG I AM SORRY FOR YALL WHO GROWED UP WITH THIS TYPED OF PARENTS I HOPE U GUYS HEAL GOODLUCK!

@aubreereed1424 9 месяцев назад

I wish parents will understand the ways of kids like me but all they do is what this video says my parents say that ALL the time it’s just not good. Love you guys this video helps a lot!❤

@alexissimons2666 2 года назад

As a child, I was always told: “Stop crying, or I’ll give you a reason to cry.” It made me feel like it was pathetic and I punish myself when I cry to this day. Please never tell your children that, or they could end up like me.

@HopelessAnguish 2 года назад

my parents did the same

@Cigarettes..out.the..window09 2 года назад

I wish my paren were never like that:(

@Dara-cn2vh 2 года назад

Ah my parents tell me the same thing

@potato8032 2 года назад

When I was a toddler my mom would cry from frustration as I’m an only child, my dad would say “You make my wife cry and I’ll make you cry.” ....I was 5

@alexissimons2666 2 года назад

@@potato8032 Jesus Christ, and to a toddler? I hope you’re okay now.

@naviestyx 2 года назад

The fact there are more children and teenagers watching this than actual parents is infuriating as hell

@fairylaw4994 2 года назад

They learn how NOT to act around children to be better than their parents

@akira_playz3111 2 года назад

Amen- I'm 12 :-:

@VaishnaviJamdagniDPGA 2 года назад

Ikr

@StarryHorizons_ 2 года назад

@@akira_playz3111 I'm 11..

@crysmo247 2 года назад

@Omega Pringles fan im also 10.

@StarPaws-Quads 9 месяцев назад

This hit hard. I have had so much trauma from when I was younger, and I’m loosing connection with my family members. My sister says I’m annoying. My dad says I’m a disappointment. My mum says I’m the worst. My 2 brothers just make fun of me. The only people who seem to really love me is my oldest brother and my best friend. Especially my best friend. She has stopped me from hurting myself, and at this point without her, I would have already ended my life.

@MrBruhblox 9 месяцев назад

They are so trash. - a well raised sigma kid

@V_haunting_in_the_comments 7 месяцев назад

I love how you use different words for a fitting category. And I also love ur voice and way of art style. Keep it up!

@carpathianken 3 года назад

My mother often asks me "Why can't you be normal?" which is ironic, because when she gets overly upset over some trivial matter she starts shrieking like Nancy Kerrigan & starts punching herself in the head.

@amandalang5772 3 года назад

I think she needs to see a psychologist.

@carpathianken 3 года назад

@@amandalang5772 Unfortunately she's not that type of person.She did a stint in a psychiatric hospital one time, but I remember her saying that she resented being told by the Doctor there that if she stopped feeling sorry for herself & started working on herself that her symptoms would improve.

@amandalang5772 3 года назад

@@carpathianken goodness.... sounds like they need to revise how they address people. I’m sorry you’re having to experience that. Have you told her how that makes you feel when she hurts herself? Or will that bring on more pain?

@shadowhawk4164 3 года назад

This phrase I am VERY familiar with but I can’t defend against it because I am not normal (sorry if that didn’t make sense) I have at LEAST one mental disorder and I just can’t act normal, I can barely speak, I’m extremely childish, I can’t do a lot of things normal people can do, I’m not normal and I hate it, sorry if none of that made sense 😔

@carpathianken 3 года назад

@@amandalang5772 Yes Thanks Amanda,both my sisters & I have told her that it's very distressing to see her punching herself up & using it as a coping mechanism, but then our mother calls us ungrateful.Our counsellors tell us that considering the harm that our mother is causing us that we need to sever all ties with her.My mother shook my sister so hard during one of her psychotic outbursts when she was crying as a baby that she's now permanently mentally challenged.

@BoygeyMario 2 года назад

My Mom just laughed at me because I simply said "I'm trying my best". I ABSOLUTELY hate it when my parents laugh at me. They are experts at hurting my feelings, making me depressed.

@unnimaya2409 2 года назад

It's ok I know how to feels but don't give up 💜😊 have a good day

@Finfection 2 года назад

Yeah, that shit is the worst. I would have full on panic attacks in front of my mom and she would just laugh at me and tell me to stop acting stupid.

@zao2103 2 года назад

@@unnimaya2409 lol 🤦🏼‍♀️

@hajar2919 2 года назад

very sad

@widefusion7086 2 года назад

@@zao2103 ????? what did you mean????

@cabletilley648 8 месяцев назад

i love how they dont ask for subscribers at ALL. they really take this stuff serious and that is really good to see.

@kittenomg992 Месяц назад

I’ve been called 2 or 3 of these and it’s RIUNED my life

@lili_3066 2 года назад

"Follow your dreams" "Your so smart" "It's ok at least you did your best" *The only words that i wanna hear from my parents.*

@iamjisooiamokay2332 2 года назад

Me also my parents never understood me😔😔😒

@humanbeing572 2 года назад

My parents always motivate me , i am blessed with the best parents

@iamjisooiamokay2332 2 года назад

@@humanbeing572 you are very lucky😊 but I am not😔😒

@ramhluihrahsel7425 2 года назад

Me too😭😭

@builderbros270 2 года назад

Same

@dog4927 2 года назад

My parents often say: "Don't cry, it's embarrassing us." "Be quite, everybody is already looking at us" They are really lovely to me but when they say that it still hurts me.

@crystal_candy8685 2 года назад

Could relate but my parents say the opposite '"Why are you so emotion less "' "'Learn to be expressive like your sister" "You are so quiet and introvert"" Gets compared to my so called "hot and sassy " sister 24\7 now I wish I could switch lives with u even tho your a complete stranger

@meganpirello7627 2 года назад

i have been told that too

@kateri7404 2 года назад

@@crystal_candy8685 my mum shouts at me to stop crying when I cry but she says I’m emotionless when I don’t cry at a supposed “touching movie” or a tragedy

@bread_chills4159 2 года назад

True

@bread_chills4159 2 года назад

It still hurts me too man ;-;

@bencilbusher5070 Месяц назад

My parents used the "as long as I'm feeding and clothing you" argument all the time. I think this is why I hate getting gifts even from my own wife. I never want to feel indebted because of this. When I get the gift I feel uncomfortable rather than appreciation and compulsion for reciprocity.

@leevc2037 10 месяцев назад

4:57 I'd like to tell a quick story. My little cousin WAS an "accident" (but my aunt and uncle LOVE him to death) but when he was very young, he asked where he came from (like a where do babies come from sort of thing). My aunt used a "modified" version of this phrase. She said: "You were a SURPRISE." She told him the truth but said it in a way that, I think, wasn't hurtful. She told him how they were gonna wait to have children but that one day they found out they were gonna have him and that it was "a very happy surprise" to them. He took it very well and started making jokes about after that. Like, he'll hide around the corner and jump out and say "Surprise!" With a big smile on his face ^_^ He was such a cutie

@huskybotie1552 2 года назад

Parents say we treat them like *Slaves…* But in *reality* They don’t *realize* how much *Slave-like* they make *Us* feel *when they say that..* Who else remembers *Under MY roof, Under MY rules* ?

@imthedevilbythewindow 2 года назад

🥲

@mickeymousewithouttheclubh6584 2 года назад

I remember that phrase way too fucking well

@hollyloveitbillodeau2876 2 года назад

Well...

@hollyloveitbillodeau2876 2 года назад

UUUUUGH

@hollyloveitbillodeau2876 2 года назад

Yes

@gacha_husky0.037 3 года назад

“Wtf is wrong with you!?” “Stop your crying.” “That’s how a young lady is suppose to dress.” “Why do you lie to me?” “Why don’t you ever trust us.” I’m 13, and bro- this sh!t really affects your life. And the second one. I grew up always thinking when I cry, it’s pathetic and I’m always overreacting.

@orrpisumiorrpisumi4409 3 года назад

Same

@violet_twinkle7569 3 года назад

I can totally relate

@DanielVlogsAnything 3 года назад

Same here bro/sis!!!!

@gacha_husky0.037 3 года назад

@@noneofyabussiness5064 😂

@rvbyedits9150 3 года назад

Omg yes I always thought I'm so pathetic when I cry and I am overreacting

@thejoshsings9280 8 дней назад

My dad has often called me careless. I’m not careless. I care deeply about people

@queenaliababwa 9 месяцев назад

Honestly things like family saying "that's a lot" or "Are you really eating that much?" And situations where on the rare occasions that I'd sit and eat with my parents, they'd watch me eat or stare at me while cutting something with a knife because I can't hold utensils properly. They wouldn't say anything, they'd just stare until they took the plate to cut it themselves. There's a lot more but they are the reason why I have a hard and anxious relationship with food and yes, it does feel like a chore. Food is ment to be a source of nutrition and you should be able to enjoy eating it. Please don't forget to eat, you are beautiful and you can eat as much as you want. ❤️

@MoonlitBookworm73 3 года назад

Things my family has actually said to me: - "You aren't allowed to have an attitude!" - "Are you seriously crying!" - "They hide it well don't they?" (My weight) - "You're not active enough!" (This has been said many ways, many times, by many people) Yes guys, these are all real.

@ashleythehooman 3 года назад

Same

@callmeflower6901 3 года назад

@@cupcake038 They said that i can't do anythink right

@TwN-vv4mi 3 года назад

To my family, crying and venting feelings aren't any good. When someone cries and it's not them, my parents dismiss it.

@ashleythehooman 3 года назад

@@cupcake038 same ;-;

@DreamKittyLove 3 года назад

AWWW DONT SAY THAT!!! your making me sad and appreciative towards my parents :,)

@kiwis7449 2 года назад

my mom literally said “im sick of taking care of you” but isn’t that the point of having kids?

@anmolarpit_2178 2 года назад

I can understand you

@jhigudhaka5655 2 года назад

I can feel , what u feel

@sacrificeforcats6943 2 года назад

and my mom would be like ''' SHUT UP, STOP USING THAT STUPID SENTENCE OH YEAH''

@ThePromisedFall 2 года назад

One time my mom told me “ I did so much for you, but you just cry all the time, stop being childish and grow up. “ I broke down in tears after that.

@hi-qe2ob 2 года назад

My mom once yelled at me "I HATE YOU"

@L3SLYDrawsStuff 3 месяца назад

“Talk to me, I’m listening” Then turns into one of the following for me: “I had to go through the same thing, you’ll get over it.” “Don’t be so dramatic, you’ll be fine.” “That’s why you’re so sad? It’s not that bad (insert some story of their past)” That’s the source of my silence and social anxiety

@Kinsdoesthings_10 2 месяца назад

I have been told “why are you like this” and “you should be more like..”

@nnnev_ 2 месяца назад

Don't listen to them. You're much more worth than you are treated. They say that in the heat of the moment and it's mostly not really meant. And if they really meant it, they're not worthy of such a beautiful child. Please do remember that every child should have parents and not all parents should have children. If you want to talk to someone, I'm here even if I'm just a stranger

@Kinsdoesthings_10 2 месяца назад

Thanks :)@@nnnev_