9 Ways to Become More Mentally Strong | Julia Kristina 

Which one of these connected MOST with you?

1. Be kind to yourself at hard times. Positive self talk. 2. We are the thinkers of our thoughts. 3. Realize that life is hard. Instead of asking why me, ask why not me? Acknowledge that you are human being and life is not easy. So I am not gonna give up, everything is temporary. Sometimes it is hard and sometimes it is not. Just accept that. 4. Take responsibility for your choices. Look at the situations in your life and see how many things are there that are your responsibility and how much are optional. Some things are must to do for survival. But there is a lot of stuff we are putting on our plate that is in our mind and not necessary. Take responsibility of only those things that matter. Make choices. Choose to do things that matter. 5. Step out of your comfort zone. Stop waiting to not feel scared. It's not like from going 0 to 1000, but let yourself be a little bit uncomfortable. A lot of stress is traumatizing. But do something to grow. Comfort zones are only perceptions of threat. You won't die. Step out. 6. Speaking of failure. Change your perception about failure. Ask yourself why you fear failure so much. Change your meaning of failing. 7. Giving up is not an option. If you decide that it is what you preferred then don't let yourself stop because of fear or self doubt. 8. Stop looking for shortcuts. There is no easy button for anything. No magic solution. We don't actually do the work and deal with the stuff. We waste all of the time trying to get the shortcut. It is not going to be roses and sunshine all the time. So, do the work. It's not always easy and painless. 9. You have to have healthy boundaries. If you are tossed around in life like a ping pong, it means you don't have boundaries. Communicate to let People know what's okay with you and what's not.

You really need a podcast! I would love it! Thanks for making this channel. It helps everyday people like myself 💕

"We are not out thoughts, we are the thinker of our thoughts" - excellent!

Get out of your comfort zone! The brain has been protecting us for a million years to survive in a harsh world. Uncomfortable feelings and negative bias is just a protective mechanism to keep us safe. The world is a different place and we must realise these are just 'feelings', we will not die! Thanks for this, as always your talks are very helpful. Please keep up the good work.

What do you mean “some days” it can feel overwhelming? Wow. You are a machine!!! Amazing how you manage three precious little ones and all of your excellent work!!! You are incredible Julia. ❤

Thank you for sharing what so many of us (this world) needed to hear. ❤

You are special. I am struggling. Lost my husband to suicide. Cannot see my therapist because our borders are closed. Thanks for your authenticity.

Love the distinction between preference based vs fear based decisions.

I've spent a lifetime at sea in all kinds of difficulties. And I've seen the strongest of men break when things fail and such men thought they had control. Control is not the answer but flexibility for acceptance of the unexpected is within each moment and thus being awake and present in each 'now' and to observe with the intuitive essence of curiosity. I'm sure we've all seen a person of great character who inspires those who are close at hand during times of great difficulties and who appear to be able to calmly seek or adapt solutions for such things. You're an 'intuitive feeler', for the signs are quite clear, thus have the gift for such things.

I love the expression: Back yourself.

You are helping a lot of people more than you'll ever know.

I easily get myself stuck and I depend on a person to get me through. Over the years I have internalized their voice. Everyone needs a guru.

Great video. I especially like when you talk about comfort zone. Pushing ourselves past the outer rim of our comfort zone is where all the magic happens. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable, knowing that your growing

Being kind to ourselves, compassionate and kind. Being aware of the way you talk to yourself, loving and respecting yourself specially when you fall down. Changing our self-talk ♡ Sending love

The short cut one got me I was in active addiction for 12 years finally got a full-time job quit cold turkey (hardest time of my life) and took responsibility of myself and my finances. The job rebuilt me and my relationship with myself I now trust my judgement and love myself. Restarting at 33 years old it can happen just got to put energy into yourself and have faith 💜

I must say... this video has honestly helped me SO much today. Thank you

Tuning in from Tennessee. I am honestly not sure how I stumbled onto this channel but I’ve been following awhile and truly am grateful for the time you put into this.

I am new here, from Cebu Philippines. Glad to see and listen to you Julia Kristina

“If quitting is not an option then we don’t need to have a conversation about it” 💪💋👌xo

I have been in a very dark place... Watching you has been really helping

I am new to your channel. I was having a bad night at work and was feeling emotionally and mentally drained by a situation with a co-worker. I clicked on my youtube page and there was your video. I clicked on it and now have been watching a number of your videos. Thank you for your knowledge and your channel, it has been so helpful!

I love waking up to I am going to have a good day because I love myself, can be kind to myself & show that kindness to another. Boundaries are Set. Love Your Presentations !!

Julia has such a compassion to teach. She is authentic as you hear the fluctuations in her voice knowing that she has experienced these same emotions. Life is hard. We must have healthy boundaries. How does a Catholic let go of guilt? How does a caring, loving mother say no to grown adult children in distress? I love her coaching but how to implement them is a challenge? I am a nurse with a master's and mindfulness coach but still struggle in my marriage & family of 33 years. I will explore what Guilt means to me and keep exploring body, mind & spirit boundaries in my life.

A few years ago, it was really harsh for me to hear some of these things. I couldn’t watch some of the videos like this one because it was just too much. But now, I’m so much better with things that while some of these points still show me my own gaps, I am more capable and secure to address them. I’m grateful. ❤ The one that is hardest for me is “easy button” - I end up spending so much time trying to optimize… but must go through the whole thing - the actual long cut is needed to have the transformation we needed.

Hi Julia, I discovered your channel yesterday and have already watched half a dozen videos - you're amazing. Thank you for everything you do

Watching from Thailand. I love ur work 🎉🎉🎉

I definitely needed this video, 2019 has been anything but easy for me as far as mental health is concerned. 13 anxiety/panic attacks so far, being referred to an Intensive Outpatient Program due to cutting, not being able to hold a steady job, falling behind on numerous bills, feeling like everyone is to busy for me or like I'm not good enough for people. This is definitely what I needed to help change the course of 2019 and end it strong and in control!!!

I will be honest and vulnerable, the part about failure was so relatable to my life and so heartfelt that I nearly shed a tear with realization.

Hi! After getting covid, i developed panic attack everyday, it was really hard, this was not happened in my entire life. I kept on watching different videos about panic attacks and how to cure them. But this video and the mindfulness video helps me a lot. Please keep on creating and posting videos, you can change someone’s life. Thank you and god bless you!

Thanks. I was directed to your podcasts by a friend. I was looking for your boundary podcast but found others and starting listening. I just listened to how to not let others control my emotions. I loved the tool of looking for my triggers and how a very small happening was triggering my big emotions. Triggers are just old wounds or scars that are inflamed. My trigger is loss. This helped me get back to reality and the size of my previous problem evaporated. Thank you

I think part of the reason we always talk bad about are selves is because from a young age we are taught to not be conceded and arrogant. Which this mentality has traveled with us are whole lives and it slowly escalated to us hating are selves, because if we feel good we feel guilty.

Love when you mentioned stepping out of your comfort zone. I use to be afraid to go anywhere outside of NYC and being anywhere where I didnt know anyone. I started traveling last year to places near NYC until I took my first plane to New Orleans. I've continued to push myself to go to places I'm not familiar with like california and chicago. Its helped me so much I'm going to canada in two weeks my first time. Pushing my comfort zone has become eye opening to me.

You have a pleasant voice. I mean I could listen to read the AbCs. And you are smart. Excellent combination. I’m so glad I found your channel. Thank you.

Thank you Julia, for your work. I've had so many changes and loss in the past few years...my parents, my job, my home... finding you has been a great support. ❤

The long cut becomes the short cut- so true! I read the slight edge years ago and this is when I first understood this- what we see in other successful people took years of trial and error that we often didn’t see! Stop feeling sorry and get busy incorporating small everyday small steps to emotional freedom

I just needed these all this morning. Thank you.🙏🏼💕

I'm fairly new, but so far I am really impressed and so glad I found you. Thank you 😊

Hi Julia, you are a ‘Godsend’ in the true meaning of the word. Your delivery style is one thing which makes your messages so potent and helpful. I am so thankful for your help. Could I suggest though, that you slow up just a little so that I can take your message in better. Thanks heaps Julia.

Julia Kristina.... I just found your videos! Great pep talks, just what I need it! Thank you so much for your work! 🤝

I find it soothing to say "Everything's going to be all right" Thanks for all your knowledge.

So true, God is the constant thing that does not change.

You always know exactly what to talk about in your videos, can’t wait to watch!!

wow you impress me kids and three businesses!!!!! congratulations Julia Kristina, You are really Brave!!!!!!

Your videos have helped me get through this dark time in my life more than you’ll ever know. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

This is so realistically motivating and informative! Such great insight and work that’s so authentic

Thank you, positive self talk, is the one I need to work on.

Thank you with tears in my eyes for all of your content

“It might be uncomfortable. But I can be uncomfortable.” That really is the antidote to narratives in our head which tell us we can’t do anything differently until we feel comfortable. Thank you!

Life may be hard, but when you have good boundaries and a solid sense of self, the practice and effort you put in gets easier, it becomes natural.

Thank you, thank you. So kind to post this.

Thank you Kristina for doing what you do

Stepping out of my comfort zone and self talk. I’m a work in progress and have faith in self improvement. Thanks you for this thought provoking topics.

So blessed to have found you!

Amazing words as always. However one of my favorite parts is "We don't need the breadsticks to survive." 😂

So much going on in my life now! Trying so hard to be strong!!

Definitely stepping out my comfort zone! Feeling the discomfort and doing it anyway. Thank you!

Thank you for dedicating yourself to help people!

Thank you Julia!!!

Such a relatable and valuable video. Thank you so much for posting this.

The confidence in attitude of task topic,"do or do not there is no try"simplifies and is a beautiful thing.

I used to fight to keep going every hour of everyday. I am now seeing a small light at the end of this darkness i have been going thru. Having counselling, finding the right medication and your many you tubes have been pulling me up. Your web talks are sooo spot on , almost everyone one of them give a person so much hope and tools to work with and understand what has happened to me. How to slowly unchain one`s self from this dark emotional turmoil which has been dishonestly set upon me. My sincere thanks to you.

Than you Christina! I have been suffering from narcissistic abuse verbal and mental for decades and just now realizing what has been going on ,so thank you so much for making this video!

Major game changer. These teachings need to be added to the education curriculum.

Listen to you all the time! My hubby has all many mental illnesses. You help us work on them together💞 Thank you, thank you! We love you!💖

Self talk, self care, lessons learned, moving forward, kicking back, calming down.

Wow. Thank you for elaborating these points.

Hey im not new but so pleased you post a video every week, every one of them helps so much and you have such an impact on people's lives. Thank you

Yes, I like that I must take responsibilities for myself. I love your teaching.

I really liked the idea that we always have choices within challenging circumstances.

This should be your new introduction: “Hello. My name is Julia Kristina, and I am the truth” Because you really are🙏🏾

An answer to my prayers. I needed this! You have a gift! Your words r golden. ❤️

THANKYOU Julia! This video is my favorite so far.. I love you so much! I downloaded it so i can watch it whenever I need to, which is just about every day.

As always, another great video! Thank you!

Best wishes to all of us in putting this all into practice.😊

I came to the comment section to really vouch for you making a podcast. Would really love to be able to listen to you in the car ! Thanks for these videos, I recently discovered you and love the channel.

Fantastic talk. Just found you this morning and so glad I did. Thank you for being you.

This was one of your best videos yet -- thank you Julia.

Better to only be tossed around when swing dancing, LOL, and not to be from life. Your videos are great. I have been watching a lot more negative videos trying to improve, and so glad that to have happened upon yours, Thank you Julia.

I was nodding my head yes the entire time you were talking because honestly listening to you speak is like music to my ears! I would totally love to listen to you in a podcast!

Albuquerque, NM, healing from a toxic relationship and your videos are really helpful.

Priority, Priority! Always take a step back, Always have choices. Excellent, I too have had to learn this. Thanks!

Just recommended your channel to my friend because you really helped me last year when my anxiety was through the roof.

Why haven’t I found you before? Thank you, thank you!

Thank you for being here. I’ve never felt more understood. New to you. Wish I had this information couple decades ago. Never too late.

You are Amazing! - What life changing wisdom....wow! Thank youuuuuuuu!!!!!!!

Hi Julia, thank you for all your videos. Have a great and wonderful day to you and everyone else!

I needed this! :)

Wow I have just come across this timeless piece! You have spoken directly to my soul.spoken like a sage.

Life changing! Your words are so helpful. You are the best!

Thanks Julia , you are amazing human being

this is a long one, thanks for all the effort :)

Julia, being a responsible coach for others, I really would earnestly comment you that your innermost core and cell comprising thoughts, feelings, intentions and above all you are simply simple and sweet in your life and enjoy giving that indomitable vigour to us.

Hi, found you searching about narcissism. Thanks a lot, your talks are inspirational ✨

Thank you for smiling. The friendly, engaging warmth of your attitude helps make taking in the information so pleasant. And thanks for sharing that you’re a mom! I had no idea you had littles and makes it easier, as a mom of littles myself, to relate with you. Thanks for sharing your perspectives.

Found your channel a few days ago... already a game changer! THANK YOU for choosing to do the work you do! ... connected with "taking resopnsibility for my choices"

Woohoo! This is totally a book in the making - can’t wait to read it🤗 grateful for your grounded wisdom!!

I am from India. Currently living in Singapore I JUST LOVE YOU. THANK YOU SO MUCH.❤

Hi Julia! I'm new, your video was recommended on my Newsfeed because I'm searching for help with anxiety and insecurity, and I'm glad it did! Love from Berlin!

Inspiring, honest, & intelligent! Thanks so much!