Happened with my close friend...... His father asked him to join family business of plumbing and electricals...... He agreed and worked with his father for over a year..... But his father expected him to take all the decisions by first asking him..... He started feeling like a slave..... He left business and went to Banglore to work in an IT company..... Now he is earning well and he is living independently
Very unique discussion. Though I am not from business family but my father who is still alive, Very wisely distributed his property among his children and I always tell him Hamara Rajyog toh papa ki vajah se h plus he is enjoying his old age fully contended. Actually fathers need to come out of their insecurities and after a certain age timely hand over things to children.
I must say you nailed it 💯 percent but still you told nothing. My father exploited me far beyond your imagination. My whole life is ruined and business is also finished. I'm 45 and till this date my wife works as a teacher in a high society international kind of school just to pay my children's school fees otherwise I can't even pay that . Apparently to the world I live a life of comfort doing nothing but I know the pain as my life is finished. What you told is just a minute fraction of the issue. Love ❤️ you from Pakistan 🇵🇰
@N A yes . Already visited once and moving to dubai or somewhere else for job + business. Own job and business is the only way out of toxic domestic environment
Sir you are 200% right. I'm stucked in same situation for last 4 years, before that I was working in a company with moderate salary as bachelor; after loosing my job in down surging at my company; my father manipulated and emotionally forced me to join family business, so I had to join and start helping my father in business but since then till now im not getting 1/3rd of my job salary amount as monthly expenses/ salary from family business. My father use to say 100% same thing to me as you said here in your video and his mentality is 100% Alpha male type. Now I want to leave family business and get back to job but due to 3 years gap I'm also not getting job in my field. My Father literally Ruin my future and life Sir...now every moment I cry inside and regret for leaving Job and trusting my own father's word 😭😭😭 my life became unbearable
This situation is very very similar to mine I couldn’t connect more with anybody else Same with my Family business I’m stuck here since 2019 that’s 4 years my father manipulated that I have to split my business with his brother so you come onboard to handle this big business as I cannot do this alone. I was doing a average job as a fresher in 2019 since 6 months but I was getting a fixed salary As I joined the business without any terms and conditions with my father he used to just give me expenses like take some 1k or 2K survive on this for the whole month that’s 1/3rd of my salary too because according to him why do you need more money I’m giving you everything a house to live food to eat wifi and TV is there That was so undermining my confidence and my existence I felt like a nobody and had financial anxiety I still have I also decided to leave the business this year and get a job but it’s not the same anymore I need to upgrade myself Sir said some real things here very touching I want to show this to my whole family 🙂
@@aakashkukreja2746 bro I'm also in family business since my engineering ended. It's been 7-8 years. Initially i didn't joined any job as I wasn't interested and wasn't clear with my life but now i am not satisfied with my life in business cause i feel like i can grow and earn more in job than business. I am not being manipulated or something, i can literally go tomorrow and my father will say nothing but 7-8 saal baad mei Fresher hi kehlaunga , toh how should i enter IT industry with good pay, ya nahi ki fresher ki tarah struggle krna pde. I'm already 30 with kids, 5-10 years invest nhi kr skta pay badane k liye.
@@mrdotak6 if you are happy with your family business and getting paid by your father the only way to get more money is try find how to grow your business 5x so that you will have more profits and more income at this age getting a job won’t be easy and you got responsibilities if you still want to try go for doing course from upgrad or scaler and then start applying for jobs
Sir , ours is a predominantly business community run by families. Of course now youngsters have realised the value of freedom and are going out on jobs which I strongly feel is a good trend. I like your advice because you are very practical. 🙏🙏
This is the main reason why i left my Father's business... Now i am engaged in a company earning very less, but still somewhere I am getting my identity...
I have never seen such a content so apt and to the point. Brilliant sir. I am writing it in a situation where I am fighting for stake of my husband in our business and this video just comes at the right time. I think karna has a huge role to play but request you to guide us more on this
My childhood friend got divorced for the same reason. Her husband was working in a family business was completely under control of his father financially. husband cannot spend a penny on his wife without taking father's permission.
Sir very good topic,it is very good that you are explaining things I have faced many problems and still facing on this business thing so I have started working on my patent and as you have explained in happiness course that we cannot improve narcissistic and i have also read their kundli and there is no sign of improvement ,you are one and only one person who can say such things without any fear hat's off sirji
Yes it is very true. One sister in our extended family had to look forward to mother- inlaw even for purchase of basic medicines, though the family business was doing very well. Finally the husband had to leave the business and join govt. job to get salary and to leave the town itself.
I am 35, business band hogaya agar job kiya hota toh 1 lacs ki kam se kam salary hoti Jo Mai job already karta tha but family business me aa k kaam se gaya ,Ghar se gaya ,gharwalo se gaya family dispute ke baad,bachee ko international school me daal rakha hai na fee pay kar pa raha hu na hi ghar ka rent, educated but no corporate Job experience
Great video Sir. It is especially true when you are the younger brother and helping your father and elder brother. I have seen many of my business family friends suffer from life long exploitation in such cases.
Been listening to all the content available on this channel! Amazed at how you have so much clarity and indepth knowledge of various arenas and aspects of life! Indeed you are a new age reformer and healer. This content should be aired by govt and should be taught or at least broadcasted in schools and colleges! Jai ho 🙏
Ek video esi ladies pe bhi bnaye ki Jo ladies apna alag carrier nahi bnati and husband ke business me hath bta Rahi hai lekin unko bhi ese hi treat Kiya jata hai
I saw the same happening in one of my friend's family. Ultimately my friend and his other two brothers opted for jobs rather than continuing with the family business which was doing reasonably well. Saved themselves from getting their lives ruined. No wonder business got permanently shut. Wise decision in the end by the three because their father won't just listen P. S. I don't understand how on earth does this man, the kavi, has got so much clarity on every topic. Seems as if every topic is coming from his personal experience
absolutely right sir. Even though both of us (me and my husband) working in govt sector but we are living separately and my husband not spend single penny over me and our child. His total salary, time and himself devoted to his parents
Sir ur totally right 👍… Ajkal ek or problems ho rahi hai … father ka Ager hum against jaka job karta hai to Wo bolta hai ki bacha Kishi kaam ka nahi hai … Apna family business ma kaam ni karna chata .. bhoote Şunata hai emotionally blackmail karta hai …. Sir Kya Kara ??
Exactly this is what happening in our life since last 15 years not able to save enough money . We are two brothers not able to decide how to divide business as its not that big and same situation in house not able to divide that also now business is also not doing well .Life is hell at this age can't try any private jobs too...please we need more clear videos about the solution..hats off to you for bringing this video
Sie mene to ye b bola k meri shadi me 40-50 lakh ka itna kharcha mat kro me court marriage kr leta hu muje de do ye rs mein kuch alag kr lunga khud ka ya iska investment kr lunga ipo me paise lga dunga sip bhar dunga gold loan ka kaam shuru kr dunga but nahi kr dia kharcha or aaj muje hi sunne ko mil rha h k itna khrcha hua teri shadi me kama k laa are kaha jaau kamane apki dukan aake hi to sara din kaam krta hu aap hi to doge muje rs vahi to kamai h meri..pareshan ho gya roz sochta hu papa ki naukri hoti to jyada better hoti muje ye business nahi krna padta job kr leta padhai likhai me b tez tha me to...bachpan se yhi feed kiya gya k apna to dhandha sambhlna h sb tera hi h...but aaj mahaj ek salesman banke aisa feel aata h kaha fans gya...koi control nahi h business par ..koi b idea deta hu to ye sunta hu k tu kya janta h...mere se jyada mere staff ki suni jati h....purchasing financing kisi pe koi control nahi h bs subah jao majdoori kro kapde becho or raat ko aa jao paise chahy to hath felao...har jagah bhikhari bana dia h
Great video👍 please और case studies batao sir... Very relatable & a true picture shown of a business family. Love to hear more from you on this please....
Same thing, 100% same thing same thing happening with me. Very depressed now. On the edge of divorce. 😔😔😔. I am 37 years now, almost no career opportunities now.
Very good topic. I live in Canada from last 18 years. I worked for a family business of Heating and ventilation (around 50 employees including production staff) here at the start of my career in 2008. It is Canadian white family. The week I started was the last week for official working days for the father (father was around 70 at that time). His son was working as Project Manager at that time. He was getting the salary as project manager in his father's company and living separately with his wife and kids. Son was promoted to become a President of the company (His father is retired from this position). After retirement, father was coming to work for 2-3 days for short hours (just to pass some time). I am not sure about the ownership stakes between them. Both Father-Mother were living by themselves and son, wife and kids living by themselves separately. It's a practical way of passing on the family business to the next generation.
That's True, as you said 💯% happening with newcomers in family business. But the solution given by you sir is so straight forward, there are many youngsters who are being dominated by their parents so straight forward solutions won't work for them, please give advice in such a scenario
Dear sir, This was the topic I was looking for from the day I got connected with you. We are 3 siblings and I am the second one in the family and this is what is exactly happening with me/us. Apne pairo par kulhadi Mar kar mene apne family business ko join Kia after nearly working for 22 years as an independent professional and now for the last 2 months I am not participating in the business and am totally confused about my carrier options since I do not want to resume my old work. Literary gone through most of your videos, became a platinum member, completed your taught astrology course and am going through the happiness course as well. Hoping to get more such videos from you so that I get back on track.
Hello sir Great job sir in focusing light in this dark spot in the society.where every one is looking son and his wife as a culprate.I am facing the same problem.mujha asa laga mere hi story suna rahe ho app.
Eye opener for parents who see business families and get their daughter married blindly seeing the money. Your daughter will automatically come under the mother in law as the son is not financially on his own. It's a barter of your daughter s freedom for money.
Ujaala Sir ji 👏🙏🙂😂🎯. Very well presented 🎯and absolutely valuable informative video. Sir, please give the captions in English also. Please explain with cases and examples. T&C's are must even for Husband and Wife, now adays.😅
Abhi maina Apni resently job Chodi hai.. mera father mera Uper family business ka pressure bana raha hai jo ki seriously batu Muja nahi karni .. unko mana bhi Ager Mai mana karti hu to bhoote Muja Bafaltu ma bolta hai… Ishko to 20-25k ki job he karni hai + family sa koi Matlb ni hai .. family ma koi help nahi karwani +bacha Kishi kaam ka nahi hai +karla Apni marjı udd la kuch Salo ma teri shaadi he kar denga and all of things emotionally blackmail karna 😢unko kuch samjana ki try karu to bolta hai hum par Ehsaan mat kar … wo kuch Samejna he nahi chata hai + Phir wahi sub emotional drama
Hisaab is essential or else everything will get destroyed. Everything includes the business, the family and the finances. Give the ultimatum on hisaab and give ultimatum to the father/proprietor with a reasonable time limit (3 months) to get their act in order. If they don't, then you can choose to quit and pursue opportunities elsewhere. And trust me, it is VERY HARD to land a corporate job with only family business experience.
