Welcome! Contact 9911702005 via WhatsApp to connect personally. Join The Platinum Subscribers: ru-vid.comjoin Sango Life Sutras Android App:- play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co.jones.yqthl For iOs apple users: apps.apple.com/in/app/myinstitute/id1472483563 Download "My Institute" App and enter org code: yqthl Join The Free Telegram Group For Subscribers : t.me/sangolifesutras
I am full time working lady for last 30 years. It’s difficult to manage home, family & job responsibilities when kids are young. But once you cross this phase life is beautiful. Your financial freedom is a matter of great pride for your family. I suggest to young working ladies spend on hiring good domestic help , cook & tutor for kids from your own salary. You can save money in later phase of carrier. Don’t expect much from parents or in-laws. Don’t pay attention to toxic relatives.
Great advice....I m also a full time working mom in government department on a responsible n reputed post....My baby is just 5 yrs old....My husband is very supportive...I have House help, cook, and tuition teacher to help me... mushkil hai manage karna...but bohot mushkil nhi hai....ghar me bache ki vajaha se cctv cameras lagwaye hue hai...mere husband ki shifts ne Hoti hai duty as he is also govt employee...but shift me duty hone ke karan...mujhse jyada vo Ghar pe hote hai aur bache ki responsibility bohot ache se nibhate hai.... cooking, cleaning har kaam me help karte hai...we both are managing efficiently without any support of in-laws
@@mikkunmummaworld9895 30 percent quota wale night shifts nahi karte aur gyan batate rahate hain. Aap logo k karan mardo par sara night shifts ka bojha padta hain aur salary toh puri lete hain ye 30 percent
It takes Guts to talk to we Indians and give them clarity on these never spoken before and unique issues which we common Indians are facing but not able to express freely anywhere.. finally someone has come up a rational torch. Super example of the car breakdown test..100% accurate. Thank You Amit Ji...
Don’t you think marriage is a bargain in which both husband and wife satisfy each other’s needs. If a man wants a financially, emotionally independent lady who can do household chores. What’s the man’s contribution for the woman’s life?
Marriage is not a bargain but a social obligation to take this human race further. Family is the most important institution of the society. However, in present times a woman wants a man with handsome salary who can support her financially, emotionally who contributes in household chores while she is enjoying money earned by her husband. What is the contribution of such women in a man's life? Actually, contributions are towards making family by both the genders and if this satisfies each others needs then they are incidental.
Most school teachers in India earn less than 30 or 40 thousand per month this too on higher side. Imagine How much they have to pay baby sitter and househelpers, cooks and what remains after paying them. Otherwise they have to depend on inlaws for babysitting and do house work in evening apart from carry over school work. It's not easy.
you are right..even maide also know our necessity and thus treat us according to her ways..teacher proffesssion speciay in private is very slave type work ..high expect and less payer
Sir i think ye shadi se pehle hi decide karna hai ki ladki ko job karna hai ki nahi. Shadi aap ek less educated ladki se karlo phir usko pressure karo job karne ke liye, yeh toh galat hoga. Outside India specially Europe and USA, Cannada house wife is not affordable . The system is designed in a way that both have to work.
And that is why under the influence of feminism, western countries like USA and Canada, their native population is withering away..Unfortunately it is a bitter truth that more educated and career oriented women are not interested in having families and this hits the interest of the society..This obsession with participation of women in the workforce which is imposed by the west is in my view not a very well found idea..Let it be the choice of the women..She should not be unnecessarily forced into it..
Things are however much easier in developed countries…the hassle one faces in India is not there,I feel making it easier to work in a sense.Of course on the flip side there number of people who help are also less
It is quite disheartening to know that giving birth and raising a child and being a homemaker after leaving your career because no one really bothered to support you when you needed but you still think of families well being all of this is so easily degraded saying bas itna hi to Kiya hai.Can anybody imagine the mental condition of an independent girl who has to take money from husband.It is not easy to work again after so many years sir.People are not getting any jobs even after a few months gap forget about years. I don't know about other women but I really wanted to work but couldn't and that took a toll on my mental health.A husband can not get away everytime jab kaam karana tha to job leave kar do aur jab income chahiye to saalon baad job dhoondo.All men and women can not be judged at same standard.
I used to work till 2013 at that time having package of 20 lacs per annum but was getting so hard pressed with a full time maid too due to not getting break as per my wish and no support from husband..the sunday used to get spent in grocery shoping or other things...in-laws used to enjoy on our expense..i was on a verge of breakdown..had to leave ultimately after 15 years of no break job..
You were in a toxic work environment. Men face it everyday. For 3 years between 2017-2020, I worked at a job with *only* saturday and sunday off. Job which required me in office till midnight. Not even sick leaves. I used to get sick only on fridays (this is not a joke, this is true). When do you think i did my groceries? The birth of my first child happened in this period but still no offs. You can try at a company with better and more respectful work culture. My current employer just gave 2 weeks off to *everyone*. To do whatever they like.
The same thing happened to me. I left job after the kid.. coz I also had to cook for us, cook and pack for baby, clean, make tea, cook and pack lunch for 2 , dress up and get ready for office, make and eat quick breakfast, wake up and dress the child, dropped to child to baby sitter... while my husband wakes up, get ready eat his breakfast.. and complain he is late because of me. This was just my morning routine before leaving home at 8.30.
1) सबसे important reason ये है की अगर पती को कुछ हो gaya तो क्या karenge 2) दुसरा observation है क्या शादी के बाद turant बच्चा रह जाता है, बच्चा होणे के बाद, महिला आधा dimag ही chalta है (at least 6 month) क्योंकि bachhe के uper maximum attention rahta है...तो क्या करना चाहिये शादी के बाद अगर महिला कोई Business करना चाहती है या जॉब करना चाहती है, तो वो करे, बाद मे बच्चा rakhe, isase क्या होगा की confidence बना rahega, nahi तो कितनी सारी महिला है बच्चा hone के बाद उनको लगता है की अब मैं कुछ नही कर sakti 3) आपको question है, जो engineer महिला है उनको office मे overtime के लिये baithna पडता है, 1 to 2 lac salary ऐसे ही नही milta, लेकिन घर पे बच्चा पढ़ाई, emotional इंटेलिजन्स मे पीछे पड जाता है, वो महिला uske class मे topper थी लेकिन बच्चा class मे looser होता है, uski class mates teacher इज्जत नही करते, उसका confidence down होता है, ऐसे मे वो महिला ने क्या करना चाहिये?
You clearly didn't listen to what he was saying. ( He said girls should go for high IQ jobs and avoid low iq replaceable jobs and women are intelligent)
A common fact given is that working ladies do not do household chores. But log bhul jate hai ki pehle ladkiya khusi se housewife baanti thi par family success ka sara credit husband took away. Husbands were continuously praised for promotions, earning good money, miving to abroad, and women did not have any recognition and upar se sunte hai "ghar baithe karti kya ho". That is why women are encouraged to work and now they are also following men and take pride in not doing houaehold work and "kaam mein busy rahena" but now women are looked down upon being too career oriented. Husbands now think they are doing a favour by letting his wife work but have traditional mindset k ghar ka sara kaam karke office jao.
Hello sir! I regularly watch your videos. Can u please record the webinar that you are talking about and upload it in your youtube channel? I am currently residing in the middle east so I may face problem while joining. Watching webinar in videos will be more convinced for me. Please 🙏 🙏 🙏
You are wrong here, sometimes husbands force wife to leave her better job, because of his ego, where he can't digest wife doing better than him. Second point: at the one point you say be ready to start small, no body reaches high without starting small, that small begining needs family support. You put many obligations on the wife, out of which many contradict with your own views and suggestion.
Amit ji - this is very timely! India's female participation in workforce , 19% is less than Bangladesh and Pakistan!! Add another point - women often over a career of 20-25 years overtake the husband in terms of income as the industry needs women who are qualified and capable. This happened with my parents and the same will soon happen in my case too. And I am saying this with happiness as this makes my family financial situation better!!
Teaching and Dr. is a tick marked job for women, now they dont pay much so? A woman should stop being teacher, nurse and doctors. Its takes time to become a Doctor so according to this person, a woman should study and marry not be anything. He is showing such a good world. For any job you start with less money, then you switch jobs get paid better and then govt recruitment is less these days. Is this man even practical in certain things? First he says marry early, then he says dont work.
Forgive me for saying so,but women in the sub-continent have chosen to become sex and food providers to their men folk. Because they do not have money of their own, they are deeply anxious that their husbands might ditch them and leave them in the lurch with nothing. This further leads to manipulative behaviour where a concoction of sex, love, pativrata dharm and romance is used. With men realising the reality sooner or later, it leads to loveless, lifeless marriages with sub-optimal outcomes for all involved parties. Sorry if I have broached a sensitive subject in an indelicate manner
@@kunikrajput8455 As I said, forgive me for broaching a sensitive subject in an indelicate manner. My language skills are limited and I couldn't do any better while telling the plain truth😊😊
Very true..my husband told he will pay me pocket money and asked me to quit but then I got a job where I earned more than him and then he started doing all the chores although I don't agree to this kind of thinking totally because in the male chauvinist society many times women are paid less for the same job.
@@AmazingWondersTV you don't know the whole story so it's better you don't steer things in the wrong direction. We are in different professional roles but for the same job and experience usually female candidate is offered 30 percent less. Chauvinism is not just with earnings.it is on so many levels. For the role that I am working on, a male counterpart is paid more money where I have the proof.
@@sudhirchandra9790 no why would he quit..he still does but he started to see some value so he started contributing and he realized his bad attitude and always feels sorry for it.
H W Yes sir I absolutely agree with you words sir ji I respect your content please help us to grow in our future to all house wives 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏it will be helpful
I m not agree with you .first think about the root cause .girls are never educated in a proper way at their own house .from childhood they face discrimination. They have to face alot of problem in education only .any how they got a formal education.then how can go for good intelligent type of job where they have no good degree neither parents support. Anyhow they try to reach at least that place and you are saying don't do that too.I talkin'about all middle class girls issue .They are pressurized always to less study .and afterthat quick marriage.no support for their study and job from their own parents then how can they think and go for upper post job when the base is not strong.This is the common reason among all middle class educated family also.the place where they reach is by their own struggle and hardwork . because that one post is not easy for them to get it.because from starting they are facing a lot of problem to from their families relatives from society and then anyhow they can reach at any kind of job.so don't say them don't do this or that.and then they got married from there again theiystruggle start in a new form .ang their lives affected by many ways where it is mentally emotionally physically and other type.This is the FACT of an common Indian girl or lady.It is easy for you to sit and criticize easily about them.How many of you agree with me .pls like.
He is suggesting that women should be financially independent irrespective of their situation. There are women who earn well even after having less education. He is suggesting to earn well by putting your intelligence into something that is sustainable and long lasting. He will also guide. There is no reason or logic in doubting him. What he said is true. Everyone should be financially independent to lead a good life.
Sir shark tank dekhte Ho kya ? Waha bog namune arahe hai is saal .. waha k business ideas thoda Discuss kar sakte Ho kya aap apke RU-vid channel mai season 2 Shuru hai Abhi uska
Women who spend time in salons are usually upper middle class or wealthy women who have assets to their name. These women don’t need jobs. I firmly believe that people should not join the private sector unless absolutely required. Private sector jobs are pathetic, routine and boring . If more people join it furthers reduces the wages. Two people working leaves your home and family vulnerable and exposed to everyone - private businesses, governments, ideologues…. Anyone who can sink their teeth into your kids and family.
I disagree with you. You can't predict the future with what you require. And if your private job is boring you can always make a switch. And I have seen where both the parents are working, the children there are self dependant and have their own aspirations. Of course they are vulnerable, but not that they are going to stay at home all day after school. They'll be outside the whole day.
I think that the lesson is more for the parents to make their daughters able. I wanted to marry at 21 years of age (after completing BTech) but my Dad encouraged me to do a PhD from IIT. Luckily, I got in. That decision changed my life forever. I completed my PhD at 25 and then joined the workforce as a scientist first and then a professor. I married a good friend who also did his PhD from the same place. Now, we run our life as friends. It is very relieving. We earn well and work as a team both at the workplace and home. It is sad that people say that educated girls are less adjusting, but based on the cases I have encountered in my family and distant relatives, it is the other way around. It is a harsh reality that people still think that educated & earning girls are trouble. They are more confident, sane and secure.
I am also a girl and I am really happy ki apko support Mila aur apne hardwork Kiya so you get what you want . I pray ki dosri girls' ko bhi family and society support kare.
Sir my wife is MSc physical and I am IT professional and I wanted her to work but she is saying no to work rather she is saying she wanted to completely focus on kids there education and there life making.. Which she can't do after joining any job.... So I don't know who is correct Becz somewhere growing kids is equally important and I saw working parents can't focus on there kids life.. Kindly advise
If you support yr wife then you both can upbring yr kids very nicely. Always stand by her side if yr parents pass comments on her for not looking after the home with 100% dedication . Yesterday my son cooked daal rice as he was doing WFH & bahu was.stuck in office. I got so happy to hear this over phone becoz I wanted the same support fm my husband but had to leave my job becoz his non corporative approach
I think if it was decided before marriage that she will be a house wife then its injustice to pressure her for work. Job is not for everybody. It affects mental health.
Hello. I did this. I quit my job when I was pregnant, now my daughter is 9. I gave her my 100% for 9 years. But then after she turned 8-8.5 she started needing friends, peers and gradually growing independent. When she used to go to school I used to feel a little empty and lost. Most of my friends were working already so in that time I used to get lonely. So I decided to start freelancing from home. Also, if I had a support system like parents or inlaws to help out I may have started few years back itself. But even with zero support, now I'm getting back to work. Do encourage and support your wife, if children are a little older they genuinely get busy with their lives and infact prefer spending time with other children. Even me being a 100% dedicated mother felt now I should restart work. Also the best mom is a happy mom. If your wife is happier without job, let her be. I also loved being a dedicated mom and avoided job, but now from my heart and brain felt the time is right so rejoined job. If she is feeling little empty or missing having a job, please help her go for it. All the best.
while working in a high stress job like IT etc, you cant even focus on your own life/health, forget about others/kids life fully, if family going good while you can support its fine for her to dedicate to home, but you should also thank her for what she is doing
Pranam uncle...mai apne husband ke sath footwear ke business me involved hu...poore din 10 hours rhti hu... mujhe personally apni income badane ke liye kya krna chahiye....plz... suggest me
My wife was unemployed when got married. I am central govt employee for 6 years. I encouraged my wife to do job. I answered all questions which came in wife's interview for IT company job. Now she is earning 1.2 lakh per month. Now she and her family don't respect me at all caz my salary is 60k. I don't take wife's money,I only want respect. What should I do now ?
Can you guide fauji to plan their life after completion of 20 years of service in armed forces please sir It will be great help for us bahut sare fauji follow karte h apke video
Netflix nahi guruji mere ghar reels chalte hai.... 4 mahine me ek baar salon... Everyother day Meesho ka order... Everyother day restaurant se khaana...
Mere hisab se mostly ladkiya Aadmi pe depend ho jana chahati hai Mujhe lagta hai ye onki natural tendency hoti hain Bhot se aadmi bhi jaise sust hoty Hain Vaise hi sabhi ladkiyaan bhi ek jaisi nahi hoti
Sir what about girls whos in laws and husband too support her, to such an extent that they are willing to do the house work and have hired house help for other chores and yet the girl s not pursuing a career?
Today,even an MBA's,Engineers are not satisfied with the jobs.Most of them are EXCEL OPERATING CLERKS with good salary,but n job satisfaction. 80%of employed are in mundane job,as that's the only employable skills they have,rest are either jobless or earning through small business like eateries, catering,service agencies of various types. All jobs are time consuming,as survival of the fittest.The domestic priorities in back seat as families don't even have time to lunch,dine together.Children busy with studies activities,and some go stray when parents have no spare time to spend with child. Money earned,spent for hiring domestic and educational assistance,and rest on tax saving instruments.Very few have smart financial planning with future goals.They only realize when some financial advisor tries to explain their needs.Worst is for future needs their is not enough money to act on the roadmap. Blessed are those who have control on every aspect of life,as mentioned above.
Of course it ia excellent job and a noble profession. However there is drastic change in societal norms. Money making has become big profession. People who make difference and serve the society such as farmer, soldier, doctor, teacher are no longer respected. People in entertainment industry like actors, in sports are respected a lot and also they are paid huge amount of money.
@@dahliajaji9547 Teaching is no longer a noble profession. Now a days teacher cannot control students, students should be allowed to do whatever they want. If a teacher takes any action against any student's misbehaviour or any wrongdoing, the next day guardian come to school/college and complain against the teacher, they show supreme court' order...
I would rather choose an earning wife over a home maker. ( even if she earns more I have no issue ). I have no issues with women choosing to be a housewife. But, I believe in order to have a strong financial basics, we need a financially independent wife. There would be no stress of salary division. Woman will take care of her personal requirements. We will get enough time to allocate our budget on health and housing needs.
I believe each and every individual men or women after degree must do a quality job..never think much about inlaws husband kids..they all survive without you being there 24/7..try it..
No husband in north India support wife. All males want not to do home chores. Myself belong to respectful medical profession. But all got wasted. Now I am only doing all house chores. Can you help me.
Sab aise nhi hote. My husband is very supportive. I am from UP and he is from bihar. Shadi dekh ke karni chahiye. Supportive larke kam hain par mil jaate hain. Baaki shadi se pehle hi clear cut discussion hona chahiye in baaton par.
Let's be practical .. My son is 15 year old .. I chose to be house wife for some years .. Till now my kid needs me not because he can't do his his daily chores but because he is a teenager .. In teenagers are happen to lose the path .. I can say so because my son would have lose his path if i were not physically available at home . So, if you have kids you are responsible for them till they r teenagers .. I am not saying mother is they only one who is responsible . father can also take this responsibility.. This man lives in the word of fantacy ..
Then your kid lives in the world of fantasy. He thinks every time someone will come to save him. A teenager who's age is in double digits needs a full time care taker? How's that ok?
@@prasadbhadane608 , I think you don't have kids .. Teenage is the very delicate age and teenagers needs attention . Earlier we had gurukuls so kids used to have education and moral values there but now schools don't give attention to give moral values nd mostly people live in nuclear families so ,how come children would get moral values and who would show them the path if both the parents are busy ..
@@ssss91788 ,it's not a excuse .nd still you don't know anything about me .. I am a hard-working woman .i managed. My home along with my passion ..i am into my passion this much that i got many achievment through my passion .. But i only give time to my passion when I get time .. And when i m with my kids i only spend time with them .. So, don't judge anyone
