A Catholic Guide to Sex and Intimacy (feat. Dr. Edward and Beth Sri) 

Yes.

I was thinking the same thing

So true and I don't think they had any idea they were on camera either.

Look into Retrouvaille, check with your local parish.

Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were abused but it doesnt happen to everyone that was abused. Those that choose to live like Eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex but opposite in gender. Notice, God prefers for people to be in LGBT relationships. Male or female is determined by gender located in the brain. Billy Graham translated the bible wrong. Rapture is when God's true people shine like the sun right here on earth. It is not what most people think. Malachi 4:2-4. Read it. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6. Anyone selling anything using the gospel or teaching the LIE of monetary tithing won't make it. Same sex marriage is not a sin. God prefers it. Male or female is determined by gender located in the brain. * Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. That means everyone has their own choice to make. *******..*.....**

Stay hopeful brother, God bless!

@@serviamstudios thank you

@@serviamstudios thank you

One hopes that married couples are adults.

How many married people do you know that aren’t adults⸮ Are you that uncomfortable with sex that a nervous couple alluding to it through euphemism is scandalous to you?

Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were abused but it doesnt happen to everyone that was abused. Those that choose to live like Eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex but opposite in gender. Notice, God prefers for people to be in LGBT relationships. Rapture is when God's true people shine like the sun right here on earth. It is not what most people think. Malachi 4:2-4. Read it. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6. Anyone selling anything using the gospel or teaching the LIE of monetary tithing won't make it. Same sex marriage is not a sin. God prefers it. Male or female is determined by gender located in the brain. * Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. That means everyone has their own choice to make. *******..*.....**

One thing I think alot of us suffer wit, is when communication breaks down and counseling is sometimes well overdue. It was a Catholic counselor that save our marriage when our children had flown the nest. In the 1990's, we didn't know each other anymore. This year we celebrated 47years of marriage. I thank God everyday for my marriage and it's blessing! God love you all.

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If a husband/wife denies sex, is the denying of love itself. A lot of Catholics believe that a marriage without sex is the real holly marriage.

Their is nothing in scripture that says that men ought to initiate sex, if anything scripture indicates that sex is mutual. To say nothing of the psychological effects on both members of one person never gets to initiate and one person always has to.

Care to elaborate? How is it disrespectful to men? What is missing?

@Sigurd EWT it’s all about the woman’s needs and wants and about what the man needs to do better. Not the other way around

@@crenshaw2186 Though she does mention that women should offer themselves to the man as an act of love, even if they do not feel like it. They clearly acknowledge the man's need for sex. There are of course other relationship aspects not given light in the video, of non-sexual nature. Anything else you would want to mention regarding sex?

@@sigurdewt7294 true, I missed that part

@@sigurdewt7294 What is missing is what women should learn about what the man needs or expects, or how he processes all of this. This might not be disrespectful to men, but neglectful. It is only about what he needs to do for her (and he should, of course), but is there really nothing at all that she needs to pay attention to, for him?

I agree a lot Crystal, I feel they focus so much on the negatives though of having children and not enough on the positives, also what's the case for them doesn't have to be the case for you. Some people do great having tons of kids.

Catholic married couples can't have oral sex. That's what priests and the saints taught. Its considered a mortal sin by the church so just giving you a heads up

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i saw a video about this on the youtube channel Theology of the Body- i’ll look for it

So....once a married woman is past menopause any sex she has is then sinful? That doesn't seem right.

I recently learned it is a mortal sin for Catholic married couples to have oral sex ( even if not climaxing and its just to warm each other up before sex) but I'm confused because although the saints taught that, I can't find it in the Bible. Were they just scrupulous or is it really true?

@@iidentifyasayoutubertoday7025 from my understanding oral sex is not a sin as long as it culminates in a way that’s open to life. For many women it is the only way for them to enjoy sex in a way that leads to release, otherwise you might have a relationship where the woman Denys sex due to the one sided ness

I’d advise not worrying about being forward, we’re talking about sex there’s nothing to be gained by being coy. The Catholic doctrine that Dec must be procreative is a church doctrine not a biblical one. Even the official stance of the Catholic Church allows for the pull-out method. Which is to say that the Catholic Church allows for intent is attempts to counteract the possibility of pregnancy. So even within Catholic doctrines accidental extravaginal ejaculation shouldn’t be a problem. Though why the Catholic Church thinks it has the right to dictate the details of people’s sex lives on matter that scripture was silent is anyone’s guess.

@@iidentifyasayoutubertoday7025 Even the doctrine of procreation pushed by the Catholic Church is not in scripture, so it should come as no surprise that oral and anal sex are never condemned in scripture.

If he is cheating and unrepentant, you may be able to consider that he is putting your health at risk by exposing you to STDs. If possible, talk to a priest who knows you for advice regarding your specific situation. Catholics are allowed to divorce if they must for their own safety or that of the children as long as they don't remarry. If he took vows to you under false pretenses with no intention of being faithful to you, there may also be a fault in the marriage that could be grounds for an annulment. If things are not that bad or your priest advises you to keep working on your marriage, I recommend seeing a Catholic promarriage counselor yourself, even if your husband won't go with you. I hope this helps. God bless you.

You don't go to hell because of divorce. Adultery is divorcing and remarrying without an annulment. God does NOT call you to stay in an emotionally/psychologically abusive relationship. I'm not saying you need to divorce but your reason for staying is erroneous. He needs to get help if your marriage has a chance of being repaired. And if he refuses to change or repent you should consider a separation. It might be the thing that saves your marriage. Right now he doesn't respect you for staying in such a disrespectful environment.

Get a annulment, he cheated on you. Broke his vow of fidelity so the marriage is null and void . The catholic church will back you on this.

Talk to a mentor marriage couple from church

Glad I'm not the only one who noticed that. It seems like what they did say is correct, but very one-sided. It does seem like it is always, only the man who has to learn and change.

Standards for "Catholic" women? Lol! See all the comments here from "Catholic" women who married outside the faith complaining about it.

@@GillianSeed What does the faith have to do with it ? There's plenty of misogynistic, entitle, self bloviating Catholic men, there's no lack of them believe me.

That's why you like Jesuit masses given by pathetic priests that will never judge anything you do.

I think they are speaking generally. I guess because men have higher testosterone so they usually have the higher sex drive. I don't know if many women would be admit to having a higher sex life than their husband. I think the male would feel emasculated.

As long as Viagra is used to facilitate the martial act, it is morally okay to use. Anything else (not being open to life even beyond child bearing age, not married, not used for the martial act and rather for pleasure, or saying you’re open to life but in your heart you’re only thinking of pleasure), then it is not morally okay. The martial act is a gift of self, not a gift for self.

@@LiztasticGames thank you for your reply. But i want to know the Church's official teaching on this matter - preferably the teaching that is not diluted with modernism/secularism.

@@dinnapadilla then read the catechism.

@@JulieNicoleSays thank you...will wait for Dr. Sri's reply.

@@dinnapadilla The Church doesn’t have a specific, authoritative teaching on the use of Viagra, but they do have it covered within the context of other teachings. Therefore what I mentioned in my previous reply is the Church’s stance on the subject, based on the context of other teachings mentioned in both scripture and the catechism. I can go in more detail in my reply regarding Viagra if it would help you understand it better?

Some men might not be emotionally intelligent enough to figure out someone's feelings. It might help if you are willing to bring up your feelings yourself and just tell him how you feel so he can take it into consideration. If he's one of those ones who thinks his decisions are always rational and yours are invalid because they're emotional, it may help to notice his own feelings out loud to help him figure out his own feelings as well, "I notice you're feeling annoyed about something. Do you want to talk about it?" or, "I notice you are really happy today. Did something good happen at work?"

The marital act is for 1. procreation 2. Cooling of the concupiscence. The purpose of Marriage is the procreation and education of children. Therefore contraception is immoral and unnecessary. Every marital act needs to be open to new life. If you can accept this Truth, then you would not commit this act with just anyone who you would not spend your life with and raise children with. Would you willingly have a baby with a man or women you had a one night stand with? The obvious answer is no, so you should not perform this act with anyone you would not spend or build a life with. Ideally, both husband and wife should be virgins with no past sexual experience or memories with other people. Carnal knowledge of past lovers (not your husband or wife) affects your intimacy and causes great pain. People do not realize how much retroactive sexual jealousy affects relationships. The secret to marital bliss is being married to a person who has no sexual past. The scriptures are very clear that sex is spiritual, 2 become one flesh and cannot be separated once consummated. The memories of past lovers will continue to haunt you to your grave and cannot be erased. If you have had previous lovers, how is your husband or wife supposed to be at peace with the fact you shared the most intimate act humanly possible with another person? Take this very seriously...only give yourself to your husband or wife, lest you deal with very deep spiritual problems that may not be overcome. God Bless

@@TS-ex4ql Thank you for the reply. What you've mentioned seems counterintuitive and difficult to accept. Edit: I've thought over what you said, and these thoughts sound twisty. If marriage is solely about rearing children, it would not matter how intimate I am with my spouse. Intimacy with the spouse only has a limited impact on child-rearing. The idea that marriage is only about raising children sounds emotionless, which seems dull. Second, never using birth control and having sex with a spouse whenever someone wants to relieve their urges will lead to a lot of children being born who their parents can't take care of. There could be financial or other reasons for this. This practice seems like it would cause a lot of harm and therefore can't be moral. It is also mentioned that having past sex will always haunt someone. Maybe it has haunted some people, but most people, I doubt, will ever have intimacy problems because of past sex. Furthermore, we live in an age of meditation and psychotherapy. With knowledge of these things, comes knowledge that our mind is very pliable in changing how we experience reality. Almost any negative feeling, I imagine, can be remedied with these solutions. All that I describe is because I search for rational answers to leading the best life possible. It would appeal to me greatly if Christanity could state truths like Western Philosophy and offer practical advice in managing our thoughts and emotions, similar to meditation practice. All of this said, I am a learning Christian. I'm aware that some questions we don't have answers to, but in the case of marriage, I would like to understand a good Christian position towards it, not necessarily Catholic.

When the Church teaches that every act must be open to life, one must understand that there are natural infertile periods in a woman’s cycle. A fertile woman has about 3 or 4 days which she can conceive each month. A women’s body shows obvious signs of when the fertile period is approaching, when ovulation occurs and when the fertile period is over. Any woman can learn to monitor their cycle this way. When done properly, a 98% chance of avoiding pregnancy can be achieved. It takes discipline and self control, but can be that successful. As for the 2%, we’ll even the pill is only 98 to 99% effective. God can still bring life even when we don’t want it. The only 100% way to avoid pregnancy is abstinence. When a couple has a grave reason to do so, they may choose to only have relations during the infertile periods. This is called Natural Family Planning. However, the sexual act must always be performed morally, which the husband ejaculates inside his wife’s vagina. Yes, Catholics who live a Sacramental Marriage and are open to life tend to have larger families. Again, Procreation and education of children are the primary purpose of Marriage. Not all Catholic marriages are blessed or fertile enough to have many or some any children. The main thing to remember is that contraception is a mortal sin that separates you from God and to die in mortal sin ends in hell for eternity. Not sure how catechized you are, but mortal sins must be forgiven in the Sacrament of Confession. There are other naturally infertile periods in which married couples can make use of where pregnancy is not possible, such as during pregnancy or menopause. Although a small chance of pregnancy can exist for some during menses, it is not a grave sin to have relations during that time. The bottom line that every marriage needs lots of good sex. Not every sexual act has to be for procreation only. As long as the couple accepts the consequence that life may occur from their union, there is nothing wrong with desiring each other and having plenty of good sex. The sex will be better knowing that person you are with and chooses you fir life is willing to have a baby or several babies with you. There is nothing in the world that proves true love than having a spouse who loves you enough to being open to life. As far as fulfilling urges, the Catholic Church teaches that we need to mortify our senses. We cannot satisfy our lust for sex, food, drink every time we get an urge. We would be on the level irrational brutes if we lived that way. There are some people who live that way, always feeding their flesh and they are repulsive to be around. True, the marital debt must be paid whenever asked. If lust is involved every time relations are asked for, then it is a severe lack of charity from the spouse who lustfully and frequently demands sex to fill an urge. As for New Age ideology you mentioned, those are incompatible with the Catholic Faith. It’s best to leave that way of thinking behind you and fully follow Christ. Not all people can have marriages where both partners are virgins. People make mistakes, especially if they live in today’s culture and don’t have or didn’t pay attention to Christ and His teachings on sexual morality. It is best not to have had any sexual experience other than your spouse, but it can be overcome with prayer if one did sexual acts with others outside marriage. Sexual soul ties are real, the Bible warns about fornication for many reasons. Sexual sin with past lovers cannot be forgotten totally and the devil is quick to use those past sexual experiences to put a wedge in your Marriage. Better to bring a clean slate to the marriage bed, there will not be any Catholic who will tell you different. I’m not perfect or don’t pretend to know everything. I have had plenty of sin in my life, but the past 15 years in marriage where we followed Christ 100 % are 1000% better than the 1st 5 years of marriage where we tried to live our marriage without Christ. We have seven children and it is not always easy. We need crosses in this life, this life is not about pleasure all the time. One thing I can tell you is God provides all we need, we never go to sleep hungry or cold/wet. I look at each of those seven Blessings and cannot imagine life without any one of them. We seldom get to eat out or travel, but I would not trade my Faith, my God fearing spouse or children for any material trinket. God cannot be outdone, trading your own will to live Gods will for your life is the key to happiness on earth and the narrow gate that leads to Heaven. God Bless

Sex is not that big a deal. If you are really in love and committed to one person, then it is very good. Worth the wait. If you don’t really love the person it is empty. Don’t waste your time- that is my advice.

Because every act of sexual intercourse must be open to new life being created, if your with someone you don,t want to have a child with should God send one why are you even considering having sex with that person. If the answer is no that's why sex is forbidden because the baby needs a father and mother too care for and nurture it in its life.

There are trends but the vast majority of men and women are in the middle, with their traits overlapping an average.

According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, the average cost of raising a child to age 18 was $233,610 as of 2015. 1 With an annual adjustment for inflation of 2.2% each year factored in, the lifetime cost of raising a child born in 2022 could be estimated at $272,049. Probably closer 300,000 with 8.5 % inflation. and that's if they leave the nest at 18 , and don't plan on helping them out with higher education? May have to figure you kids as your retirement plan, hopefully they get good jobs.😉

Probably the average family size around the world for most of history...

@@DavidMatias79 The ones that do have eight kids are probably living in poverty for the most part, or on government assistance, And I don't know if I believe that, considering that the U.S and world populations have been dropping especially in industrialized countries.

I have a similar comment. I agree. I do know when I am with Nieces, nephews-or any kids for that matter- It shuts everything down for me. It could be like that for just women. I’m not sure. I feel like it’s got to be a lot easier to have a marriage with no kids. I might be biased in that sense.

What specifically would you suggest to balance it?

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I'd say we do. So many live with trauma, baggage, and false ideas on what intimacy looks like, myself included. God bless you for not having that cross to carry, going off your words. Take care and please share the video to anyone you know who might be struggling and in a place of pain, fear, and/or shame 🌻

Maybe you are not the target audience 💁🏻‍♀️

Who is, "we?"

@@JuanMartinez-xl2oj I take it you are Catholic? You ask we? You might be a priest, which you are celibate. The video is addressed to Catholic's which means ALL.

@@ig9038 I'm Catholic, I'm not a priests, I'm unmarried - so I'm celebrate. In two days I have my Confirmation into the Church, at the age of 37, and I find the posted video Beautiful. As the only son of an only son, I applaud the beauty of the Sacrament if Marriage, it was at the wedding feast in Cana that Christ performed his first public miracle.

That's not true.

@@SamuelObafemi Any and all sexual attraction is inherently lustful. It is impossible to have sex and not be lustful. Therefore it stands to reason that such an act done without the ultimate goal of creating a family is done because of the Lust inherent in sexuality

lust is wrong so if you make sex lustful then yes it is wrong. But sex in marriage is a gift and used also for making babies.

@@alicevill2259 it is needed for the creation of children. Nothing more

@@tanks451 sex is for procreation and pleasure for married couples. If you say sex is for creation how then can you say sex is inherently sinful? Sex outside of marriage and contraception in and outside of marriage is what is sinful. Sex in itself is not inherently sinful. Please don't go misleading people.