A New Approach To Evaluate Men Over 40 For a Fulfilling Life Partnership 

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I found my life partner at 62 . Maybe a little later than most people but the right time for me! Everything you say is true. I learned it the hard way.

I'd say the biggest issue I run into is selfish people. I grew up with selfish siblings, sadly. When I see a man who only cares about his life and his feelings, I run for the hills. I'd rather be alone than with a selfish jerk.

Thank you! Assumptions on what women want 1:50 2:30 you prioritize longevity in relationships 2:50seek balance 2:59 seek sustainable passion in life 5:00 5:30 Not having a renewable source of connection. 5:50 you may let intensity blind you. You open your vulnerability before he has earned it. 7:05 not being sharply clear on what you want. 7:50 not seeking clarity on what he wants early on. Is his values compatible to yours? 8:35 not knowing how to bring up challenges in a solvable way What to look for in men 10:20 1. Empathy & kindness leads to compassion, understanding your feelings. Avoid men who can’t empathize or understand others’ feelings. You will be the focus of his wrath one day & he won’t understand why you’re hurt. 11:30 2. Strong focus on health (mental & physical). Generosity in life. 12:40 3. Purpose - does he understand why he’s here & doing something about it. He’s walking toward his purpose. He’s not seeking his emotional void to be filled by you. 14:02 4, Clarity of relationship vision - if he doesn’t know what he’s looking for, don’t date him. Does he know what wants? 15:00 5. Value driven hunger - does he know what he’s working for but not at the expense of his health or spending some time with his loved ones. You want him to have balance. 6. Ability to access polarity 16:00 - has a capacity to access his feminine side

Thank you for this. I would add that men in this age range most likely have an ex and they can be the third party in your relationship even if you’ve talked about it. Be careful of how they feel about their ex and what they say.

This was so good. Way to teach women how to set the bar high for themselves. Bravo.

Hey Bern, out of all the relationship coaches I have seen so far you have got the most genuine, loving and insightful energy. Thank you for sharing your gifts ❤️

Thank you. Sorry to say divorced men 40-50 are financial disasters and men who never married in the same age bracket just partied on and are financial disasters too.

I became a widow at 43. I'll be 46 on May 1st. A much needed video that focuses on my age group. Plus, i have a 12 yr old son with my late husband and that's also a factor in finding a fit. Thank you for thinking of us. I'm currently dating a man that's 40, single with no children. Hoping for a connection for a lifetime. Thanks, Bern.

Suffering has made me so much more positive, it’s gave me gifts that I cherish ❤️

This is probably the best relationship advice video I’ve ever seen. Regardless of age. Thank you Sir.

My God! This was so incredibly insightful. I was taking notes and everything. Thank you so much for taking the time to thoroughly convey the importance of spotting a high value man.

WOW! I'm soo grateful & thankful Bernardo for you & this vid. I made the mistake of investing too many yrs on a man who was selfish, lacked empathy & lacked clarity & purpose + bonus was abusive (physically, emotionally, mentally & financially). It's been a yr since I've been divorced. 3 yrs since I discarded him- I have soo much peace. I'm fulfilling my goals & enjoy the life I live. My quality of life is unbelievable. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I appreciate you very much! 😊

I love what you say about suffering in life. It’s a beautiful way of looking at it. ♥️

Thank you for this video. All is true. I learned so much. Blessings your way. 🙏

Absolutely great! Very enlightening Thank you 😊 ♥️🙏♥️🌟

Fantastic coaching advice! Thanks Bern!⭐️⭐️⭐️

This is so good! What you describe is a very healthy, well rounded and a balanced man.

Excellent video, Thank you Bernard!

OMG u are so on point, ur knowledge is so appreciated. TY for the help u provide us all. 🙏🏻

So touching , thanks much,God bless

This is such an incredibly insightful video! Thank you so much!!

what a video! true gem Thank you

Thank you Bern!🙏

Best video from you . Thank you !

Hi Bern. Thanks for always giving us great advice!

Great content - thank you, Bern 😍🙏👍!

Such an excellent video, you have such accurate insight into this subject, i have been viewing your videos for a long time and have always appreciated the honesty, fairness and respect you show to both men and women when you discuss relationships. Thank you for your generosity in sharing so much valuable information with us here. 🙏🏻

wonderful advice that is helpful in finding friendships both male and female. thank you for taking the time to study a useful topic and share it ❤

Awsome, Bernardo ! Thank you for such a Clear path!

This was great.. thank you..

Awesome video! Thanks!

I like the new music opening and background

Right On Bernardo !!!

Benardo you get it. Thank you so much

What you say is very helpful and I appreciate it. Thank you

Wow. Makes total sense

Thank you very much 💞💞💞

Waoo. I must say am impressed by all these facts you have put out about man. They are wonderful ❤️. I hope and wish all the women watching this video get them as well as I did. Thank you so much. For me the health part it's the key to all. Take care Bernard. God bless.

Great video!

So true!

It's not about chasing my interest, it's about you being able to get close if you think you can get close 😜😉💕 Some of us are to be raised, and loved by the traditional heart centered gentleman or so taught in my cultures anyway 💓😘

bernardo this was healing to hear you say we have enough alpha men who arent also kind and empathic.

This helped me understand how bad my x was so I now believe I can get better

Thank you. I’m happy I found your channel

You are so wise! I resonate with the type of relationship that you describe, and the traits that a women should want in a man. It's also why I had to leave my husband, recently.

Where do the men you describe hang out? At the unicorn farm, perhaps?😉😁

I look for intelligence, compassion, humor & fidelity

I'm finding a pattern that men my age, early 40's, are usually divorced and a slave to their kids/ex-wife. Or the total opposite, they've never been married with no kids, and are selfish & jump from woman to woman.

Oh my, that's so much information it's hard to take it in at once. I'm codependent so letting go of men I know are not on the same level nor are a good fit for me is a challenge. Then I crowd the space in my heart and don't let others in. I'm 37 and dating is super difficult. I honestly probably could put in more effort but I'm kinda just going with the flow, or trying.

Amazing points! if the partners meets these but not at the expense of knocking into the relationship, otherwise he is just using as a foot stool to step up from you… 1. empathy and kindness 2. A strong focus on health 3. Purpose 4. Clarity of relationship vision 5. Value driven hunger for more. 🎉

I met a man who is over 45 and he's in the military. He told me he didn't like being questioned. I said to him, "then how am I suppose to get to know you"? He said just by talking to him. I'm planning on stop talking to him. What do you think?

Thank you Mr. Bern, this was awesome. It is on my listening loop for the day!!

Men actually try to make me seem crazy when I ask what is his life’s purpose. At 40-50? Dude where are you from? Are you that selfish?? 🤯🤯🤭

One of your best yet Bern, where do I find this guy?!

Gosh, its so hard!!!

I’m not interested in coaching at the time but would love to donate or contribute. How can I do so?

The tool i was dating for 18 months ! Didn’t tick any of the boxes ! He was still a broke ass man child ! In his wounded feminine !! Not attractive at all !

It's my interests & knowledge that fascinate men, or make them run.

Unhealthy men can try try make successful women a nurse with a purse."

Excelent info

❤

Bern, do you have a video about a good man (it seems) not having time for his woman, such as because of work? Or inconsistent with communication such that his woman feels lonely and unsure whether he's being true? Or what to do if I think I overreacted and I seem to have caused the end of it with an impulsive text after not communicating earlier, but want to know if it's reparable...and whether that's a good idea, given my first two questions? haha

Men in this age are to egoistic, and.burnd from past realastionships 😕 They contact you when they have time.......... after 3 weeks I often bowe out. To much damaged goods out there with closed hearths

My dad's name is Bernardo 👍🏼

I am so thankful for how transformative working with you has been. Still embody the principles you taught me and have a life I love! Could I ask your thoughts on *ED? Is it an inevitable part of connecting with men in this age range? Can it be a dealbreaker? How to know if a man has *ED without getting intimate? "Domo Arigato" from chilly Tokyo!!! 💛

you lost me at cold showers and cold plunges....haha

Crosswatchin 🕵🏾‍♂️

yea, we dont want erectial disfunction

Sounds like sick a tall order...

So you are actually coming from a stand point of believing that asking men these questions and them actually answering you truthfully. Well I have a surprise for you!!!! THEY WON’T!!!!!!! Men have become hip to this and will lie and tell you anything they know a woman wants to hear and because of this woman have stop asking because they know men will lie. So it either goes 1 of 3 ways from there: 1. You don’t ask and wait to see if the things that are mutually understood is not spoken of which is still a huge risk and disadvantage for a woman or 2. You ask these questions and they lie but they stick around and do all the right things because you have given them a blueprint by asking these questions so they do everything right for 5 months then you get intimate and they are gone shortly after that or 3. Best case scenario you actually tell them what you want and they immediately get turned off and you never speak to them again. This one is actually not as common as you think. The real truth is life is not happening to us it’s happening through us this is why a woman could have 30 dates and all of them go the exact same way. That’s not a coincident. What we believe to be the truth creates itself in our lives. People laugh at others who have imagination but without it you will never have a great love life because you have to be able to see and perceive that you can have it in your mind before you ever get it. It could be 100 men put in front of a woman all decent men who want a real relationship but if her self concept is off then they will all run from her and she will repel them ALL.!!!!!!!!!! Work on yourself internally and you will experience positive external results 🤷🏽‍♀️

What are you priching? That all we know, tell as where we go to finde that partner?