A Stoic Approach To Envy 

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The best way to treat envy is self awareness. I think the use of social media reduce self confidence.

If we just focus on our path and feel grateful for what we have there is no room for envy or jealousy.

1. Focus on our own path 2. Be gratefu of what we have Best medicines.

Both are harmful and unfortunately they are amplified by social media use. Apparently comparison is the #1 reason fro unhappiness however you can also use comparison as a hack for extra motivation to accomplish goals. Well done Sir! I always look forward to your videos. *I wish you Stoic Peace & Many Blessings*

Philosophy adds a DEEP layer of meaning to my life. I have been away from this type of deep thinking for a while and your channel is rekindling my sense of curiosity. thank you

If envy could kill, I would've been dead a long time ago. Trying to get past these feelings, and it's harder than everything I've ever done

*Jealousy* - thinking of having a privilege to someones attention, "owning" a person. *Envy* stems from similar feelings but refers to others things, positions, situations. Although being a manifestation of the ego, a type of benign envy can fuel a persons will to achieve same things.

My envy is tearing me apart and I think it’s connected to social media, main Stream media and the new music on the radio.

Your topics are unique, like a healing beacon in the darkness of the modern sick world.

We should not conform to injustice. Sometimes people are accused of envy when they point out unfair situations. So we must be really careful to say that something is envy, sometimes it's just the desire for justice and fairness.

Really love all your videos, but this one is truly deep. Your final thought about focusing on own paths & being grateful for what we have therefore giving us no reason to be envious, is profoundly brilliant & honest. Really inspiring wisdom. Have a great stoic day & wishing you continued success with this wonderful channel!

I've watched many of your videos but I hardly make any comment. However this one touched me somehow. My little brother is mentally disabled and I am not. He was also the only boy in my family. He used to get everything. EVERYTHING he wanted, even when he didn't ask for it. I somehow grew up in his shadow. I felt that I was being used because I was the one translating his language to other people (and also translating for my parents because they couldn't speak French since they had immigrated to France in the 70's). In return I had nothing. I also felt that my mother despised me for being good at school and bringing good marks while she had never been to school and couldn't read. I also felt that she deeply desired that my brother and I switched brains. I felt some sort of guilt, for being 'the clever one'' with a deep sense of responsibility towards my family. As though I had to use this brain of mine, since it was the reason why I had nothing in the first place. I found it hard to come to terms with the universe being unfair. It is but it not. We think that we lack something or we deserve something but the universe doesn't owe us anything (I heard someone say that and it stuck.) As long as we understand that, envy slowly shifts away and we accept what we have and what we are. On the other hand, we might indeed lack something but we are not bound to chains all day long: there are always other things that we have and that others lack.

Keep up the good work, you are helping to change the world by your work.

It's always the SIMPLICITY of your material that stands out. Content wise. It's fascinating. ❤️

You are now my new favorite channel! Please keep this up! Got me reading so many books

I don't know if you are going to read my comment. but man since I discovered your channel three days ago and I am hocked to it. for many reasons 1- good introduction 2- examples from different religions including Islam which is ignored in mostly everything related to humanity in many educating videos on RU-vid. 3- you give a personal point of view and to things. I would recommend a channel called " the school of life ". I love their subjects as well. And I believe you would love it. Ah, one more thing, talking about envy. I wish to meet a person with whom I can discuss such subjects. Most guys my age are into Tictok or whatever they call it :) I have envy toward you if you are someone knowing all of this so you are a well-rounded human. Thank you and I am following and liking all of your videos because I honestly really enjoy them.

I suffer from envy it makes make suicidal 😭😭

I actually needed to hear this today. Thank you.

Envy can be an incentive and driving force to attain that which you are envious of through hard work, determination, sacrifice ad patience.

This channel is quickly becoming one of my favourites to watch. I respect the effort of each video your knowledge and outlook on such topics. Keep it up please!

Dude finding your channel was one of the best moments in my virtual life

thank you so much again for this kind of video.. it inspired me to be more focus on my path than to focus to others achievements.

I suffer with envy because my career path currently does not afford me the lifestyle I dream of. And my dreams are ridiculous far out of reach it seems. I don’t know what to do.

hey, i just passed by and i felt an urge to say your videos save lives, Sir. Respect.

I believe it depens on your current reality. But generally speaking, envy is a natural human feeling. We learn through model, imitation, example, and envy can be part of the learning process. With healthy envy you can better yourself. As the video says, watch out what you're envy for.

Thank You for this lesson. I'm relieved to know I'm reacting the positive way. Envy alone is not good or bad, it simply just is as any other feeling. However, it's how we react that defines us. Cheers

Thanks for this videos. One day, I'll be able to donate through Patreon, love your videos, they've made me a better person and helped me find some light to some struggles I've had.

Great content, keep the good work, you noticed Islam in this video, it was a true sign of your knowlege, not many people in the west know about this religio and it's teachings much needed for nowadays, The Prophet Muhammad was a thinker and philosopher and a leader in every aspect of life, the most Influential Persons in History deserves more attention from you. Thanks

Just what I needed right now. I was envious about a classmate who has something I desired for long. I felt I needed to get away from it, and searched on your channel if you have any old viddeo about this, thank you for this

Imagine having a lifelong friend. Imagine that person being always better connected, much better looking and wealthier. Imagine that person also regularly womanising and indulging with other mens women. Imagine your wife clearly finding this person attractive and saying so. While I am slowly eliminating this person from my life, the anger and envy from this has been unconquerable for me. I’ve bettered myself my entire life but some people have life on a silver platter and then exploit it for their own ends. The admission of my wife crushed my soul, permanently. No matter how hard I work, or what I do, I’m always second best and his voodoo appeal always wins.

Man I have to watch this every time i feel envious just to remind myself.

You said it just as I was thinking it. If someone has something you want it should be motivation. Not motive for you to be immoral towards them or hurt or harm them to get it.

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Naturally I become envious of some of my friends who have (or have had) romantic relationships while I myself have never been in one before. But over time I realize that having a romantic partner is physically, emotionally, and financially draining the longer it goes especially since I have experienced that somewhat vicariously through those friend’s experiences that I know. Therefore, the longer I ponder my envy whenever it arises, the easier it becomes for me to logically let go of that envy because being alone in a way is much more liberating. 😁

Hey, you did listen to my request! Thank you man!

Thank you for this video😊

Thank you for this life-saving video! I will be more aware of envy in 2022!

Thanks for the awesome videos. 🌸

I'm happy that I can find joy and peace in the success of others. Why not feel happy to see them happy? It's a win-win

Thank you from the bottom of my heart

Man, I love this YT channel.

Thank you so much for making one for envy

Thank you. May God bless you.

I envy a lot of people to the point I become hateful and it drives me insane

Envy is a programming as is all that we choose negatively to counter the positive energy we are born with. The choice is made harder the more we follow the programming and not the provided .

Another great and insightful video ... Thank you

I took solace in recognizing that the person I was projecting my envy onto was a part of me I had not taken responsibility for.. When I recognized the value in the other person I realized those values were inside me and in moving towards those values with my goals I was free.

Another great video. Very insightful as always n.n

I love this channel.

Another great video 💜

Your videos helps me alot :)

Good. Well put.

This was good. Thank you

I used to be jealous. Now I am angry.

I find it so difficult not to be envious of friends who have had more luck than me. I have a hard time convincing myself that (for example) having more money wouldn't improve my life significantly. I truly resent my friend for his luck and success, his arrogance (he is really nice guy but also very arrogant too) drives me insane. I resent myself for my bad luck, for my choices. But then I remind myself that my resentment doesn't make sense. My friend did nothing that I would not have done, he was just in the right place at the right time. So then I resent myself. But that too is illogical as my choices where they best they could have been with the resources I had at the time. So I naturally resent life itself, I resent fate as the stoics would say for saddling me with my brain that made different choices to my friend and for not offering me the same choices he had. Now he is a director of a company and I am paid barely above minimum wage. But if you can believe it no matter how much i resent life the b*stard doesn't seem to care at all. Furthermore my resentment just drives friends away, it's not their fault they got lucky (I am unlucky enough to have two friends who became successful due to sheer luck of circumstance). And in spite of our differences we are good friends so I value our friendship. It pushes my wife away from me and it blinds me to the opportunities that may drift across my path. It makes me resentful of everything. I still feel the resentment as keenly as a slap, it cuts deep and hurts a lot. But I quell those feelings because they benefit nobody, it doesn't mean that I don't see more money, more free time, respectable jobs as better things and better than my own life. I just have to work hard to swallow that crap because if I spend my life watching somebody elses life I will never have time to improve my own.

Nice video like always

I love your video's. Thank you so much

this is beautiful

Excellent.

i'm envious of your knowledge :)

I've always had to work really hard and take care of myself and my children without the help of anyone, including both ex-husbands (2). I've always envied women that are kept, taken care of. I don't know how to make that go away. It's been a hard life.

Great Video!

This video is so inspiring

I came here to look for a cure of my envy I ended up having even more rage and envy than before. Total Unfairness in this world and the judgement of the universe And this is totally killing me. I admit it. I want to put an end of this but don't know how

Awesome content

Also, stay away from people who are envious of you, they will always seek to destroy you, especially covertly! I am at least somewhat aware of this pattern i had of keeping envious friends in my life. Now i am more careful and AWARE of this in people.

Amazing

It's embarrassing when my jealous face pops up. I don't have the grit to say, "sorry I just got jealous" on the spot to neutralize everything, I try to hide

This is the is the glass half full or half empty argument, people who see the world as a glass half full tend to be content with what they have while the person who sees the world as a glass half empty only sees what they do not have and envy those the think have more

Well done with 63k subs

Thank you for this Sunday go to meeting at the Church of Stoicism. I have to study my dictionary. I was using jealousy and envy synonymously. Now, I must cultivate a new understanding and usage. This is difficult when I have been programed without the fine nuance. Can I teach an old dog new tricks?

good afternoon, I dont know if you are going to read this, but I am so grateful that I have found your video.I was going through hell thanks to envy, I cannot get a jop, I I came to know that someone in my circle of my same age already have a job with an amazing salary.Of course it would be nice to have that, but I do not desire a job because I really want it, but because I used to thoght that that is what I am expected to do in society and if I dont have a job then I am worthless,but it is not my case anymore, I couldnt get any job, but I have my own business right now, it is not too much but at less I am doing what I love, thank you so much, it is an excellent video , this video unchained my life

Turn that envy into motivation.

Thank you

That fast! Thank you my brother :D

Just asked for this one... Thanks...

I'm disappointed with this, because i'm not convinced that the unfairness of life doesn't impact the ability to be happy. Can you make a video on how to deal with anger as a response to unfairness of life?

When I was in 8th grade I was really envious about a kid who newly joined our school and kept getting good marks than me. I unknowingly accepted him as my rival and later that year I got A grades in all subjects. I was really happy I don't know why I was envious about him but soon after starting 9th grade we actually became very good friends and till this date I'm in 12th grade I don't understand why I was so envious to him for getting good marks. As of now I lack motivation and I feel as if I'm saturated to my surroundings I don't feel any thing about marks I just feel numb towards everything. I lack motivation and as of now I'm really bad on my grades and unable to recover. 😔

Nice one....

Never be jealous of someone who is doing good .

Very nice channel! This is an inspiration for life! Thank's for forwarding your knowledge! Are you from south Netherland? Nice landscape!

Yes to be grateful of what we have.

Envy isnt ever going away.

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Thanks

I have a video suggestion for you. "When you hurt someone's feeling in the past(3years ago) & realized it now & can't do anything about it (because of no contact) other than blaming yourself." What's the stoics have to say about this?

I heard Jordan Peterson say that you should only compare yourself to yourself from yesterday. I never focus on anyone else since only I have to face to the consequences of my choices.

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Good lord. You just described Shelly Cooper and Robin Cole’s feelings of me.

I see envy as a trigger to other negative emotions. Shame and anger are linked to envy. Is the answer to work backwards. For example - why the shame? Dealing with deep rooted issues within yourself will deplete the power of being envious of others has over you.

Hey first of all great videos you make (ran out of new ones seeing these older ones) I think you would find it interesting to look into the gnostic interpretation of Cain and Abel in which Cain is favoured for his refusal to serve God which from a gnostic point of view entrapped the eternal spirit in matter causing existence and by extension suffering. I really dumbed that down but I really suggest anyone reading this to look up the gnostic point of view on Cain and Abel. Peace

Envy can be used for good reasons, such as to better yourself..like learning a new skill. I very rarely envy anyone, I would like to pilot a fighter jet or go up into Space. Last time I was very envious was watching kitesurfers, I wanted to learn so bad. Got 8 years experience now:)

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NIN Pretty Hate Machine - Something I can never have brought me here (eventually over time, in spirit)

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I would be very interested in learning more about the stoic approach to handle envy and jealousy coming from other people. Not how we deal with our own envy, but how to deal with it coming from other people. Have the Stoics any helpful tips about how to handle better the shadow coming from other people?

By the way I really enjoy your RU-vid channel, helping my struggle alot. I want to get my hands on your book but I'm out Canada and can't find away to getting it over it. Is there a way to make that happen?! Thank you

God and then baba's upbringing made me so pure. I envy no one. I don't have time for this in my entire day

We need modern phyllosoper like you. You should write a book