Acephobia from within the LGBT+ community | Slice of Ace 

What gets me is that they would have the A stand for Ally before Asexual. So how is it that allies are welcome but aces aren’t??

Honestly, whenever I tell someone I’m asexual they usually respond with “so you’re like a plant?” I thought it was funny. So yes, I identify as leaf.

Great video. Your right. The lgbt+ community includes every gender and sexuality minority. Ace, aro, gay, bi, pan, Demi, trans, intersex, etc. Everyone is included. I am bisexual myself. just know that not all allo- people in the lgbt+ community are acephobic. My ace, aro and Demi peers are all great and I hope that one day acephobes will realize that.

Don’t downplay it. Ace and Aro people are LGBT+. Period. Saying in any way otherwise is gatekeeping us from a community we have every right to be a part of.

Acephobia is sooo real but I don’t really go around telling ppl I’m ace bc I don’t want to deal w the gatekeeping of the lgbtq+ community nor the whole something is medically wrong w me bc I do fear my parents will/would do something about it. Before I used hide behind my religion before I knew what ace was/considered myself ace but dare god is it so comforting to know there are so many others like you. I love the ace community bc I feel it’s the most inclusive

Hey, great video! I’m glad you’re talking about the issue. I’m aro ace, and when I told my parents, my mother couldn’t understand it but supposedly accepts me anyways. But the issue that hurt me way more is my dad. He knows that I have no interest in be romantic or sexual with another person and yet, when my brother brought home his girlfriend to meet us, ever since my dad has kept saying that me and my sister will bring someone home some day, so don’t judge her. It’s not straight up oppression but it is ignorance of my identity- of who I am. Furthermore, that same girlfriend said it was ‘just a phase’. Further furthermore, I attended an lgbt club meeting at my college one day. When I told them I was ace, the guy next to me said “so how long have you’re parents known you’re gay?” This was after I explained what asexuality is. So to say we aren’t oppressed is just ignorance and lack of caring.

You made me cry when you started to talk about the black people. I feel so much the same. It's unfair. I hate injustice and the hate against other people/species. But we have to speak up for them and have faith that one day all lives matters equaly.

Just wanted to say, please don't feel bad about not being positive for once. The past months and esp. weeks have been a lot to deal with mentally/emotionally...

Great video! I recently came to terms with being a heteroromantic asexual person and have come out to 2 of my sisters (went well and was very pleasant!). I understand that I will never face systematic oppression or be denied any sort of service for my relationships (because I am "straight"), but I will fight for those who are. All gender identities and sexualities (and anything in between) are valid, the sooner we can start changing how we talk about these kinds of things in a healthy way and come together the better things will get. I will admit that I have contributed to heteronormative behaviour and even if I feel guilty it is important to identify those behaviours and internalized feelings (progress > complacency). LGBTQIA+ and BLM movement mentality go hand in hand, so we should keep educating ourselves and fight together! Have a lovely rest of your life and remember you are valid :) edit: I am biromantic now (identity is fluid!!), but my sentiment from earlier has not changed. Ace is ace you are valid! Edit: Hey I know it’s been awhile, it turns out I’m not heteroromantic, but I will always stand by my statement said earlier regarding validity. Have a nice day :)

Honestly, whenever I reveal that I'm ace/aro, I get told by EVERYONE that "I'll find somebody I'm attracted to" or "Stop trying to label/make yourself look special". Yes, even my closest friends and my own parents tell me these. My mother does accept me a lot more than my dad, though.

Its sad that we get the most hate from LGBTQ+ itself

I see a lot of people in the comments complaining about acephopia and I would like to say, They're just jelly because we don't need something they consider as one of the most important 4 human body needs.

I personally enjoy that it thumbnail includes the caveat "If they want to be". Honestly it is a bit much to expect one community to expect everybody, like sure, maybe once their done fully representing other people they'll get around to us, but we already have enough trouble representing ourselves and I'd rather not wait another hundred years for good representation. Also the fact that some aspec people want to distance us from the lgbt community due to the aphobia that comes from within it.

Thankyou for your support towards the black community. As a black ace American guy, I personally REALLY appreciate that. Your words really felt sincere🖤. I've been watching your videos for a while and I appreciate you even more. ❤

i don't get why they include ally in the community = n = it is not a minority it is just people supporting a minority which makes it so weird.

I remember going to a pride parade in DC and someone asked if I was bi I said no I'm ace and they said then why are you are a pride parade that really made me think....to be honest I want you to cover if you ever wished you weren't ace a struggle a lot with feeling proud to be ace. Iv been in a lot if relationships where being a ace made them leave. However I was in a great relationship for four whole years were they understand how I felt and were respectful. But I have always felt horrible like I'm keeping them from being happy and because I loved them so much I broke up with them because they deserve to be happy. 😔

Black & Ace, I really enjoyed this video!

Fortunately in my country there's no discrimination against the asexual people from the rest of the community but I'm sure it happens in several places. We have always been here only on an invisible form, gladly everyday there's more education available and well, the future seems bright despite all of the challenges ahead.

also, it is ok to not feel too happy at times like these. it is ok to express your emotions and feelings so don't feel like you are forced to be positive.

Thank you, thank you for making this the more vocal support we have the better. It helps snuff out those who speak against us and shows younger aces, arrows that there is support.

I forgot acephobia was a thing when i found out im aroace recenyly

I'm gonna be honest, I never felt part of the LGBTQ+. I don't know why exactly, but it feels like an awesome thing, but miles away from me. I love and support everyway I can, specially my friends, but maybe is because I don't get to much involved in the community in general. The most difficult people to deal for me are the older generations who can't imagine living without sex or a romantic partner. But where I live, people just don't care for real, most of the times they're gonna stray up ignore. Maybe that's why I never felt like I have to fight to be included. I kinda don't want to sometimes. Please don't hate me for this comment, it's just my personal experience. I talk here only for myself and if you don't agree that's okay ❤

Very well said

Even the argument with the suppression is not really a point for ace/aro- erasing gays: There is still zero awareness probably in most places around the world. Even in wealthy countries (I am German and only coincidentally found out the spectrum exists at 24. Now I am 28 and identify as aroace.). So guess with whom we probably get mixed up if people understand we are not average? Now guess the consequences in countries where there are still err legal problems up to death penalty for anything but heteronormative sex+romance-relationship. Why do gays think only they face problems?

Please people, it is called LGBTQIA+

Very informative video! Thank you :-)

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