We're on the same wavelength girl. I got diagnosed with inattentive adhd on my 29th birthday. 💀 It was a very validating experience for me personally. I understand myself a lot better these days.
Omg yes sooo validating, almost gives you a second lease on life going into your 30s which has been really nice in a way. Thanks for watching and sharing, Estella 💗💗💗
Update guys and sis. Remember I said I will be 36 and everything you stated, I identified with. Well thanks to your recommendation I went ahead and paid the fee to see if I really had it or did I just assume well…… just as suspected I am 100% inattentive type. I fill 100 times better knowing I have a neurodivergent and it’s not just me. Today is day 1 of my journey. ❤ thanks for making this video it inspired me to get evaluated.
Hearing how making this video has positively impacted you in this way has made my day 🥹 I’m so happy for you and the relief you feel from exploring a new part of you!! Kudos to you for taking the next best step for yourself and cheers to your new journey! 🤗💞🥳
Girl, I’m about to cry! I expected to have experience one, two, maybe three symptoms but literally everything you just said. I was starting to think that I was crazy. Now add having two kids on top of all that you said. Wow!
Nichelle, wow it makes my day to know I’ve helped to make you feel seen! You are not crazy and you are not alone!! 💞 Best wishes with your journey and happy you’re here :)
Hi Eric! I’m so happy you found my channel at this part of your ADHD journey! Congratulations on your diagnosis! I totally remember going down the post-diagnosis rabbit hole myself too haha. It’s really healing in a way to know you’re not alone. It’s great to connect with you and thank you for watching! 😁
I’m finding myself in a similar mental state I was in last year (while I was still in grad school). After finally getting an adhd evaluation the counselor said I didn’t have adhd but anxiety. Fast forward to almost a year later and now I’m unmotivated (difficult getting out of bed before 10am), struggle with prioritizing my work, easily overwhelmed, anxious everyday, and I have moments where I feel extremely positive and hopeful (which stirs up a bunch of ideas and paths I can take in my early career) and then I crash into a self-critical/anxious/hopeless state. As a kid I had similar symptoms to you. I was the good student who excelled in her classes but it was always tough to focus on class (I would just write stories in class or do the homework) and study. I’m starting to think about getting another evaluation from someone else but it was difficult the last time and a lot practices don’t take insurance anymore 😩
Hi Deja, I’m happy to hear my story resonates with you, I would def get another evaluation when the opportunity comes! It’s definitely worth figuring out. You got this ❤️
Great video! I'm a 42, almost 43 yr old Mom with a toddler. Looking back on my life now it's clear I struggled with ADHD for example by masking and social interactions. I even had a son in my teens who himself was diagnosed with ADHD at school-age. It took me having a toddler and a new set of life challenges ( being older/peri-menapausal unhealthy relationship, having a high energy small child) to realize I in fact may have ADHD! Thank you for putting out relatable information and sharing your story❤
Hi Vicky! 😊 it’s so crazy to look back and be able to see how it was adhd the whole time. Better late than never though, as they say! ☺️Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m happy you found this video relatable as you navigate your journey! 💗
This is a great video! I've never been diagnosed but it was suggested to me from a Psychologist that I may have ADHD because I kept fiditging (sp?) lol during our meeting. I've done my research as well. Not quite as in depth as you have. It's just something I dealt with all my life. I too would wait to the last minute to complete school projects. Now I know why! I'm stil a procrastinator. My brain never stops. I have trouble geting and staying asleep. I lose focus all of the time. I still fidget and I nibble on my cuticles A LOT! I am a business owner as well and at times lack motivation to do anything with my business. I refered to it as being a bipolar business owner. One day I'm super excited about an idea but if after I make it and it doesn't resemble what I pictured in my head, I feel defeated and why am I doing this stuff anyways! I can't concentrate long enough to do the marketing that I seriously need to do if I want my business to grow. Sometimes I think that I know my business will take off and I'm scared of that happening. I'm a perfectionist, not a heavy duty one, but if my name is on something, it HAS to be right. I've changed the name of my business 3 times over the past several years. I can't just sit and watch a show or a movie on TV. I always have my iPad with me and I'm playing games while listening to the show. I now listen to one of my fav shows at night to help me go to sleep. I use to use Calm, but I got bored with it LOL!! So yes, I can totally relate to you on this subject. I'd like to do meditation but I keep putting it off. Tomorrow I'll start, and tomorrow comes and I repeat that saying each and every day. I thought about using a planner to keep me organized, help me to focus on one or two particular projects bs jumping around to one project idea to another idea. I think I will look into the supplements you informed us about. Thank you for doing this video, and I'm glad I stumbled upon your channel one day when I was tying to find video's on motivation. True Story!! LOL Before I end this long a## comment, I do do things that make me happy every day, like listening to music, singing, dancing etc. Oh one more thing, I cannot stand quietness in my home, I alsays have a show playing on my desktop that I can listen to while I work. Sometimes I here something interesting and now I'm focused on that. Anyway...the struggle is real! Thanks again! Bye!
Hi Michelle! Wow, I can relate to sooo much of what you’ve shared. The struggle can be so real, especially as an entrepreneur but we got this! Thanks so much for watching and for sharing your story 💞💞
Thank you, you are awesome and this helped me tremendously. I just got diagnosed and i am 60 years old! I wish i knew sooner. Great job educating others!!
It definitely has taken me a while to take it all in too, especially finding out as an adult! It helps to remember that there’s no “right way” to handle it, it’s your journey ❤️❤️
@@brinyabainThis diagnosis was a complete surprise to me. I sought help for severe depression during 2023 and beginning of this year. But now that I’ve done some research on adhd in women it makes sense.
Thanks so much for your video! Have been watching/ listening to it over the last couple of days, this is really helpful , I’m 29 too! Think that might have ADHD and various family members have been diagnosed recently with ADHD, brother and mum also potentially have undiagnosed ADHD (my brother was like a stereotype of young boy with ADHD) , thanks so much, giving me more confidence to go for assessment … xxx
Hi Franca 😊 it’s my pleasure and I’m so happy to hear this video was helpful to you!! Sending lots of love as you continue your journey. You got this!! 🤗
Thank you for sharing! Steph was diagnosed a couple of years ago. It's been liberating to get the diagnosis and to work on coping strategies together. A few people would say Steph didn't have it either, but I knew something was different... However, I didn't really consider ADHD & myself much until listening to your video...hmmm... interesting... ❤ ty!
Thanks so much for watching and sharing this Katie! I’m happy Steph’s diagnosis has been liberating and supportive, I found it to be so for me too. Gives some direction and validation. So happy this video sparked thoughts and excited to share more! 💞
Thank you so much for your video and resources. I'm seeing a psychiatrist for an evaluation and these resources are so valuable. The variety of symptoms is very interesting.
You’re welcome Sue, so glad you enjoyed this video and find the resources helpful! 💗 Happy for you taking the next step in your journey and also happy that you’re here. You got this!!!
@Brinya same girl. Im a black woman. I just got diagnosed at 29 1/2. I just turned 30. Growing up in the household I did (chaotic in a bad way) chaotic in a good way like you said. More organized compared to my mom and younger sister. But living with other people who are not my family members they noticed a lot about and were not afraid to tell me😢. Ouch.
Omg I see you Alexa, I can totally relate. I felt that way when I moved out. One thing that has really helped this year has been to actively seek out other neurodivergent people, so I can can have more real open conversations about the day-to-day challenges I face without feeling as judged. Having ADHD as a black woman can feel pretty isolating sometimes. We’re better together. Thanks for watching and being here ❤️
Thanks! Making this video was as much for me as it was for you all, so I took my time getting it all out lol. But I’ll consider making following videos shorter in the future, thanks for the feedback and thanks for watching! ❤️
My pleasure sis! I’m so glad you found this helpful in your journey so far. I know it can feel really hard and confusing sometimes, but you got this!! ❤️
Hi honey! I love your videos so much and I’ve only watched 3 but I’m watching them all twice. This one is amazing and so ADHD friendly, I think this why I’m drawn to them. I self diagnosed and now at 53yo I’m wanting to do Life Coaching and I’m asking myself “Is this something I’m going to start and keep having to start?” Or can I actually keep up and keep a steady pace. While listening I’m picking up on ques of my behaviors, I make schedule after schedule and never keep any of them…I’m very creative and do well on small projects but big projects I avoid because if I start it I want to finish it and I won’t leave the project until complete. I have a motto if you start it you finish it, but when it can to the scheduling… I finish the schedule but never follow it. I can’t tolerate noise while concentrating, I used to interrupt ppl so badly and beat myself up about and ask why I can’t control myself…and the answer was because I would forget my thoughts right after they pop up so if I didn’t spit it out I’d lose some good points. I beat myself up and said “You are rude, annoying, and think you know so much and are more important than anyone else” so I convinced myself that nothing I can say is more important than respecting others and listening more than talking. I then had times where I would have diarrhea at the mouth at the most inappropriate times and didn’t give ppl time to add to the conversation…and when I stopped talking….their eyes were like 👁️👁️ where did that come from?? So embarrassing. I am clean but like you I was messy even if everything had a place I would be to in my head to put things away then if company was coming it would take me 40mins to get to spotless because things just needed to be put away. I am very different I think so far out the box, and so far ahead of average normal ppl. Years later they come back and say “YOU SAID THAT YEARS AGO!” and of course I don’t remember. 😂. We have so many of the same symptoms, I have clothes laying on my bed at this moment. Finishing my degrees took 3x longer than normal due to test anxiety and taking so much longer to study due to dyslexia, comprehension and brain always thinking everywhere. Studying all night getting 2hrs sleep before clinicals. Seemed like the other students were studying hard too but I couldn’t get through my tests. I was quiet and to myself as a child too, family situation same…loud and free communication. My impulsiveness I just got under control at 52yo I would get online in the middle of the night and forget and have packages show up, severe impulse spending… now I have systems wait 24hrs, put it in a cart online but don’t buy it, move phone from reach at night and get rid of all credit cards. To only buy what’s needed… a reward had to come from my envelope system and $30 spree. I take supplements fish oil DHA, EPA and keep a very clean diet, paleo. No gluten, no sugar, no dairy…no fast food or processed. I’m a sensitive, Empath, nurse since 97. RN I’m trying to figure it out because doing more then one thing at time is getting so hard for me. I can’t be a nurse and start my business…nursing empties my battery 🪫 Thank you so much, I have to figure this out and finish strong.
Omg, soo much of what you shared I can relate to, thanks so much for sharing this. As you move forward in your journey I encourage you to try removing "can't" from your vocabulary. You absolutely CAN have a successful coaching business even with all the symptoms and while working as a Nurse, it may just be at a different pace from others and it may not look the same as a business owned by someone without ADHD. And that's totally OK, because in the end you'll have a life and business created that's 100% true to you and a beautiful story to share about how you made it happen. Keep going!! 💞 I'm here rooting for you and I'm so grateful to have you as a part of this community ✨❤️
@@brinyabain thank you! I usually don’t say “negatives” at all but at this point I am being honest with myself… I’m too old to blow smoke 💨 up my own butt 😂 yes, my mind stays on my business plan and research lots outside of work… once I get it mapped out I will get mentors involved to see how solid it is and if I have all the money overhead I will need for 18-24 months to build my success. Thanks again ♥️
Oh no I’m sorry to hear you’re being met with these challenges while getting treatment. I definitely understand, it doesn’t seem easy or healthcare systems always make it way for us to find the right treatment and it can definitely be expensive, too. Don't give up! ❤️❤❤
I once lost my keys in my coat sleeve... I went crazy for probably 15 minutes at 6:30am looking for my keys one morning before work... I was already running late and i must have had my keys in my hand when i put my arm through the sleeve and let go of them at some point in between.. I didnt end up putting my coat all the way on though because i found them when i went to put my coat on for the second time when i realized i could use my husbands set of keys. I cannot come up with any other conclusion.
I'm 14 and I feel like I have ADHD, I noticed I had the symtoms for a good while now I just don't know how to bring up the conversation about it to my mom, I'm scared and nervous so I've been keeping it to myself for a long time now.
Hi Nioki, thanks for sharing, I can imagine how nerve-wracking you must feel in this moment. Maybe you can try writing down the symptoms you've been having and how they're been affecting your day-to-day life, so that the words come easier when you bring it up and she can see how much it's bothering you. Or you can write a letter and give it to her to read! Sending hugs. You got this ❤xx
After watching ADHD Love channel, like every video.... I'm convinced, but nhs in 🇬🇧 has 4 year wait list. Sooo depressing. Your channel popped up, so glad you've clarity! Rox and Rich wrote book on Small Talk.... or the agony of it! Sure you'd love her, she's Adhd, he's not. Riveting how he thinks! She's got half blue hair. Does washing 7 repeat times as forgets! I leave stuff in dryer for a week.. That chirping alarm is sending me over edge hun lol lol. Triggers lol. You're very pretty and great video 🎉❤🎉
Sounds cool, I’ll check them out! Don’t give up! There’s tons of strategies you can try while you wait and I’m sure the time will fly by in the big scheme of things. Thanks for watching! ❤️❤️
@brinyabain hi there! Thanks for reply . .. I'm trying not to lose will to live, Covid wait times before we're 18 months, now 4 years next month. Grr. Anyhoo I hope you can relate to our British ADHD couple. She was diagnosed 36 I think..it changed her life. Hubby is typical but loves her quirky quirks! Funny as ... Their 5 things I love about you videos are cute. Her 'room of doom' hobby graveyard, where all dopamine parcels go to die. Giggles 😃. Quote from Roxy. Have a blessed day!
