As a young woman with peers pushing for ambition and careers, it can be scary to share the future I want, which is to be a wife and mom before any career. I felt pressured for so long to fit into the modern "empowered" mold. But, this was so empowering and encouraging. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!
While I'm just a "man", I believe that a husband should physically, emotionally, and morally provide for his wife to care for their children. Being a Mom is not the same as being a slave, it is a service, but not slavery. The whole "empowerment" concept is a lie to deceive women that they are oppressed by caring for their family.
@@backdoor5993 I think is mostly economic at this point. Everything's so expensive now that both parents have to work. But yes, I think the kids do better if Mom stays home with the kids, at least until the kids can go to school full time. My mother did that, as is my sister. The other issue is divorce. My mother did not work at all. When my parents split after the last kid was out of the house, Mom did not feel qualified to work anywhere. She was so self-conscious that she didn't even try to get a job. Fortunately, the settlement she received was enough to keep a roof over her head until she died, but the whole situation left her severely depressed. Sorry for going on so long, but this has bothered me for a long time. God bless you all.
Career = work for a company. Wife/husband = work for your family. That’s the way it seems to be. Putting hours and hours of work for years just won’t make you happy.
I am said sister that had the 30+ hour labor that ended in an emergency c-section 😅 I just wanted to pipe in to say something that wasn’t said to me: if your labor doesn’t go the way you imagined and planned- it is okay! You are no less of a woman and a mother and that little miracle will love you no less. Be prepared for everything and remember the end goal- a healthy baby. 💕
I’m 21 with my wife of 3 years (23). We agreed for her to be a stay at home mom while I work. We have 2 young kids and we couldn’t be happier. Although with how expensive life is we try to get by with a single income. I work at a steel mill working swing shift so it can be hard but we like to keep it traditional. Just hope prices don’t keep rising like this. We can hardly get by anymore
Glad you and your wife enjoy each other everyday while you're doing the most rewarding thing possible: raising children. Try and find another stream of income!
I was a stay at home mom, sometimes I felt so out of place almost all the other moms worked and there was guilt, I had a wonderful husband who wanted me to do what I wanted, I wanted to be home they were mine to raise. I loved it. I had 6 kids 2 sets of twins 6 under 6 so I totally get it and yes it was quite the adventure, would not change a thing. I wish moms could get paid to stay home a raise their children, I think we would live in a much kinder world. What a life the two of you have had. Congratulations. I lost my husband of 49 years in October and miss him so much. You two are an inspiration. Thanks for sharing.
I had a completely natural birth of my first baby and it was a wonderful experience! I love being a Mama. I don't feel like I had to give up on my dreams to have kids... I just chose the bigger dream❤️
Crazy enough my wife and I decided that she would not be working to raise our child on the way in a few weeks. We felt the cost of daycare is too high and it would be much better for her to be spending the time with our child. A sacrifice for sure but well worth it. Hearing your story reaffirms our decision.
I am a senior in High School. I am waiting for a women who shares my desire for a family. A family raised by 2 parents that work together. I love the point you made with sacrifice. Lots of people don't understand that sacrifice is a necessity in raising future adults that can lead this world. Nothing more exiting than an adventure you can make for yourself with miracles made of your own blood and your forever partner.
Patty and I have been 51 years married and just getting started. We love this adventure and we now have our children grown, grandchildren and great grandchildren. So much fun and getting better every day. :)
I can't recall ever commenting on a video, but after watching thousands of hours of RU-vid, some videos stupid, some profound, I think this might be my favorite one, because of the hope it inspires. There are so many terrified and disgruntled people in this world, but it is not all of them. There are the few that have made their life an adventure and I love that. Thank you for sharing =)
We just found y’all this week and we are so glad we did!! We love your values and your love and goals! We’ve been married 41 years now and have 4 children and 6 grands ❤ My greatest accomplishment has been being a mother and homeschooling too! I did work for awhile - I don’t recommend. Lol Balance is important and keeps peace in your heart and mind. Love your content and your encouragement for young moms and families! 🙏🏼🩵
My wife had a home birth and it was wonderful!! We are currently dealing with male factor infertility so it’s really difficult for us to have kids, so I love hearing your stories of having a big family. We only have one right now but we pray that God will bless us with more and give us the wisdom to become healthier. Thank you for sharing!!!
I loved hearing about your adventures of becoming parents. I was only blessed with one, my son, 41 yrs and 6 mos ago. I was only 19 also when I had him. Life was tough as my husband, at the time, decided that he didn’t want to be a parent although he wouldn’t consider birth control. So needless to say, I did it as a single mom for years and would do it all over again. I made plenty of mistakes but did the best that I knew how. ( I didn’t have a good childhood). I’d also like to say that I praise the fathers that stay and become good daddy’s to their children.
I had the same experience! First pregnancy, 5- hours total labor/birth, unmedicated. Wanted to step through the full right of passage of womanhood. I also ate well, exercised well and drank lots of strong raspberry leaf tea for probably 3 months. It's no joke.
I can't tell you how joyful this made my heart. My cheeks hurt from smiling for so long. Please consider making this topic a series on your channel, or at least make a couple few more expounding on different sub topics within the large umbrella of Adventures in Raising Children. I could watch hours and hours of y'all reminiscing & discussing how you brought up your family. I'm going to bed tonight with so much genuine happiness and full of extra vigor to tackle tomorrow. (My husband and I ranch in MT and we have a 2 year old, a 9 month old, and I'm currently 3 months pregnant.) Thank you and please keep it coming! ❤️
to me being a father is not a chore its something I take great pride in and am very happy doin but I do feel alot of pressure from the outside world when it comes to the choices I make for me and my family. I feel like in the eyes of others there is no path that I could take that meets everyones standards and that for me has been hard for some reason. yall make me feel alot better about what Im doing and I thank you for that!
I don't know much and can't tell you much of anything other than this: Follow God, his standards matter most, and whatever you decide you decide in what's best for your family.
You truly are an amazing woman Momma. I feel the roles of man and woman are getting so messed up these days. With no mutual respect. It warms my heart to see the clear love and respect you two share. Thanks for being who you are. ❤
From the very first minute I knew I was going to love this video! I’m studying to become a midwife, but becoming/being a mama/wife is my top priority in life. Thank you for sharing this , your perspective is very refreshing. ❤️
Wow, thank you so much for vouching for the miracle of giving life. The importance of this message cannot be understated and it is a shame that so few have watched your video. At least your voice is growing with each generation. I'm having trouble in making people see what you have so eloquently described. The world is a battlefield of broken minds and we are the medics trying to resuscitate their will to live.
I wanna be a homemaker and a mom and this is so helpful to me! I liked Mr. Wayne's line about how life is as adventurous as you make it and as you veiw it. I feel like im getting stuck in the system rut instead of finding thrill in work and growing and exploring. I needed this, thank you so much
I just found your husband’s channel this morning and LOVED it and watched several videos. I was delighted to hear about your channel as well. I’m looking forward to watching all I can and getting to know you two better as a result. You’re my kind of folks.
Stumbled on your husband’s channel yesterday and found out you had one today. This was perfect timing, because I’m due with my first baby in about 9 weeks! Hoping to have an unmedicated delivery. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Congratulations🎉❤ a tip from an experienced momma- have a dula or midwife assist in your delivery even if it's at a hospital. They are SO wonderful and will advocate for you and your birthplan when you need them.
You guys are so full of truth and wisdom! My second boy is 6 weeks old now and drives me crazy more times than I'd wish to, and I admit I looked at him as a "task" or a "duty" sometimes. I needed to see your joy and pride in your kids to help me remember the miracle he is. Thanks for being there.
Ahhhaaahaha, Deanna, every time you mentioned how fast you birthed your babies, I think I was muttering under my breath at the moment you would say, "there is probably a lot of women mad out there😅". Yes, I'm not sure you were making any friends!!😂 Loved hearing your stories. Your heart is amazing. I was a stay at home mom myself. I homeschooled my boys. We were on the poor side I would say, but we chose to raise our kids and not leave it to someone else. Both of us had working moms while growing up. It did not work out to be good. So we wanted to change that for our boys. My husband worked hard and kept a roof over our heads, our home warm, and food on the table. We had no riches. I couldn't go out and buy new clothes, or beautiful furnishings.... but we were so happy!
Great video! My husband and I have been married almost 3 years. We’re praying to have children so I just loved hearing y’all talk about your experiences! It’s my dream and calling to be a momma so you are very inspiring to me!
The best channel ever. Useful, inspiring, wholesome informative. It's so hard to find precious information like this y'all present. Kudos to you. You both are awesome!
Mama, I’ve always been told this and I believe it to be true. Your job is to teach your kids what is right and what is wrong. But at the end of the day they’re going to make their own decisions. As long as you told them, you did your job. Awesome video. Thank you again for sharing.
Parenting is always an adventure. I'm enjoying my "young adults" now because the evolution is starting for them and the conversations are honest . We get to share our adult mistakes and accomplishments with them. Thank you for sharing your lives with all of us.
This is such a great video! I am 27, my husband is 29, & we have 5 young kids (praying God blesses us with more!) Children are the future & the biggest blessings! 💜 I have prayed since I was a child for twins, I want them so bad & I am ready to have a home birth! We are so much alike & Dewayne & Brock (my husband) are so much alike too!
@@drycreekmomma I love that you encourage me & say they are so fun! Everyone with twins (that I've talked to) seem so negative when I say I want them, I can't believe some of the remarks I've gotten 😅
You guys are great!! My 20th y.o son recommended your videos. It's very encouraging. I m a Catholic Christian, wife, homeschool, working mom... etc. Thanks for sharing your adventures ❤
It's such a pleasure to listen to your story. I congratulate you very much and I'm happy for you that you can now sit and talk and enjoy the adventure you had with your kids❤ Our first one was born 9 weeks ago and I also wanted to have the most natural birth. I was curious of the natural way, how is it and how I handle it and what I would think during. From first contraction till birth it was 12h for me. And as painful as it was I was surprised how quickly the pain goes away after. My mother also did natural way for all 5 of us and I felt so loved that she did it for us. So the other reason for me was that I wanted to do the same for my kid and I felt that if I took painkillers I wouldn't have experienced the love that comes from the suffering. Thank you for sharing and I look forward for next video. I would be very interested in your discipline methods and if and how your older kids helped you with raising the youngest 😊 All the best from Slovakia ❤
Spot on anyone attitude of “ miracle”. Dont worry abt the Possible haters that modern corporations of America produce. Your WISE perspective is so spot on!🎉 keep serving the “ meat” in your messages ❤🎉
I came across your husbands channel and now yours and you two are my new favorite RU-vidrs! I have two kids under two and you are an inspiration. I feel overwhelmed a lot of days and I’m not even a stay at home mother. I have no idea how you did it with 7 but I am very impressed. Please keep making content like this.
Love you guys! We are hopefully going to be pregnant within the year. Certainly nervous, but so excited, and we love listening to stories like this. Thank you!
I actually am a modern liberated woman and I don't want to have kids, ever, but you two rock, and I have a huge respect for your bravery, tenacity and the sheer amount of love you gave to the world through you children. World really seems to be a better place because of you two being in it and being together.
I love how you are referring to them as adventures. That's exactly what they are. As a mother of soon to be four, oldest being six, every day is an adventure!
I thank you very much for your talking about all this simple and complicated things on a time on your channel. I'm so grateful for all what are you discussing. You're a beautiful couple. I wish you health and happiness and grace.❤
SO good! What great adventures! I had 13 hrs of labour with my only child and raised my son alone. Your story is inspiring to so many. Love your videos…Oh and Sheridan WY is so lovely…probably the best of the USA. Thank you for being so open. Love it!
I have boy/girl 9 year old twins, they were born early, 46 days in NICU and are thriving just fine now but it was a roller coaster first couple of years. I am amazed you could handle SEVEN kids!!!!! I joke but I probably shouldn’t now that I heard this, that I always wanted about 4-8 kids with my children. They view me this week as their saint, I do know they know I would die for them and my life is to get them raised as appropriate God Loving Adults.
I totally get you too, on the natural birth. I was in labour from Wednesday evening till Saturday late morning... No pain meds nothing. I could handle the pain. The exhaustion in the rest of my body was what was hard. But as long as I was in the tub, I could handle it. My man was an amazing help as well during labour. And I had prepped myself with a birth trainer (which is something I would advice any pregnant woman to do). Unfortunately the last couple of hours of my birth were traumatic due to the actions and attitude of the hospitals midwife.. She made me get out of the tub (which basically made me immobile cause my muscles were extremely tired at that point) I was begging for a C section because of her. Lost faith in my body because of her comments. When the gynecologist came in, she got on eye level with me, held my hand and LISTENED to me. She brought back my calm. She went out of the room to start prepping the C section and I kid you not, she walked out of the room and my body started pushing. Finally. Our daughter was born within 8 minutes from that. And my self confidence had returned, so I could finally stand up for myself and tell that midwife to let me decide where my legs were lol. Next time, I will go without meds again, and I will make sure that there won't be any people in the room with me that aren't helpful. Maybe hire a doula, cause you can't expect your man to handle all that for you either when he's also exhausted.
Thank you for sharing your story! It sounds amazing… And a bit traumatic! I definitely support the decision to hire a Doula next time. They are an amazing support system to have in a natural birth.
What a wonderful story you shared! I gave natural birth to my 2 children, in an almost identical way as you did. Even my first was born on Sunday. God Bless your whole family!
11:00 you wanted the full experience of giving birth in order to be fully aware of whatever might happen. I felt that too after my first who was delivered with a C-section. Everyone told me I was stupid to endure the pain but it turned out that there were complications and if I hadn't been fully aware my second would have been lacking oxygen for too long because my contractions just stopped in the middle of the labour. I had to push her out by sheer will. That saved her life.
You two have such wisdom, I love how good both of you explain your point of view. Thank you very much for your videos and your advice, a big hug from Spain 🇪🇸🇪🇸😄😄❤
Thank you for talking about this. I am a 23 year old woman, and it is very instinctually clear to me that I want to have children and devote my life to them. It feels like nothing could compare to the happiness this will bring. I feel encouraged and in good company through your videos :)
My wife and I LOOOOOVE our kids! We had fraternal twins and they are young adults now. We have loved every second of being their parents and not once have we felt they were a nuisance to our lives. We have always viewed them as young adults that God has blessed us with. Children are to be a blessing NOT a burden!!!
About having natural births, you made the right choice. I am 63 now and how things were with my first child was a whole lot different than the second. I had my first son at 19 years old and it took 62 hours, the doctor wasn't there. The nurses gave me Demerol every 4 hours which would slow down the contractions, the last Demerol shot was 2 hours after a shot. I started pushing right after that shot and the nurse told me to stop because I wasn't going to have the baby yet, then my water burst and she went in panic mode to get the doctor in...when it was all over the doctor told me I had 14 stitches and in bad shape down there because of being so tiny my hips didn't spread far enough apart for the birth. 16 years later I go into labour with my second son, he was premature by about a month, it took 4 1/2 hours, the doctor had given me a 'whistle' and said 'whenever you have a contraction suck on this'. I don't know what the drug was but it wasn't strong like Demerol. and it didn't do much, I still felt the pain and was aware of everything going on. So you are right about going drug free because it can cause more problems and delay the birth because the baby is also getting the drug and not strong enough to fight his way out. BTW I am a small-town Canadian so we only had one doctor in our little hospital when my first was born and 3 doctors when the second one was born. Now our little hospital is a walk-in clinic and women are taken by ambulance over 200 miles away to have their babies. We don't have mid-wives in my province, there are provinces where it is legal but not here and that has to change.
Love this! Thank you for sharing! I would love to hear more episodes about pregnancy and raising your children! You are have so many interesting stories, adventures, and wisdom. Love the red raspberry tea tip.
You two are wonderful! I am so glad you are doing this channel! I love your traditional values. We also chose a path that isn't "normal" I hope some day I am as brave as you guys to share our story. :) (To Mama specifically here: don't be ashamed of the messy details! Own it and be bold. Haters gonna hate, but for us, mama's on a path like you have walked, your voice is the one we need to hear in the crowd. Everyone telling us we are not doing it right.... Thank you for braving the camera and sharing your stories!)
My wife and i worked a coporate job w our first in daycare. 3 years in, had another and canceled daycare. The difference in quality, relationship, behavior, bonding w siblings in a stay at home environment is so much better than daycare. The value is incalculable. good job. Ive Yet to see a stay at home kid end up as a school shooter. It is the antidote to the mental challenges of modern society.
Love you guys and love this video! As someone who worked w their oldest kids and met the younger ones, I can attest they were all such good kids. Well behaved, hard working, very respectful. I remember thinking, "every families got a bad apple. But this one doesn't! I've got to learn their secret." LOL, little did I know one day they'd make a RU-vid channel and share their secrets. Keep em coming, and thank you for sharing with us!
I have to say that every time I watch and listen to you, Deanna and Dwayne, (mostly Dwayne), talk about these angering topics that are no longer looked at with appreciation, then l know I'm not crazy and hopeless. God bless you both !
Hi, I live in New Zealand the pressure to be at work is the same here, I had five babies three boys and two girls I was a stay at home Mum for 16years. My children are Adults now raising their own children I'm so proud of them and my grandchildren. To stay home and raise them myself was a choice ,but I'm so glad I did. My children are happy when they see what awesome caring good human beings their children are now that is more important to them than any other success. I'm so proud of them all.😊❤.My husband raised them with me of caurse but he also had to work.
I love this so much!! Thank you for sharing all of your birth stories, I loved to hear them. We have had our children at home and homeschool them and it's so encouraging to hear that even though you didn't do everything perfect they all came out ok and you have a good relationship. God is so good!! I really enjoyed this video!! Thank you!
You two are the best! Deanna, you are a better woman than ANY of these so-called career women could ever be. This country needs more parents like the two of you. A LOT more. Too many self absorbed, preoccupied, absent, or even worse, neglectful or abusive parents are the reason there are so many lost and broken kids and dysfunctional young adults out there, the reason our country is in such a deplorable state. Thank you both for having the courage to do it the right way.
What a lovely video. I can't help but feel a bit envious. My life and family has been fraught with difficulty. But I know I have a lot to be grateful for too.
This reminded me of what I believe is a quote from Confucius (paraphrased): “we naturally love what we see growing in our own home” and I’d like to think of his counter contemporary, Lou Tzu saying “we naturally love what reflects our own soul” that alone is an adventure; I’m glad you guys saw raising children as such 🙏
My husband and I have been married for five years and desperately want to have children but have not been able to. While my adventure is not the same as yours I am trying to keep thinking of my experiences as an adventure while placing my faith in the Lord. Anyway I want to thank you both for putting out good and interesting content. I love watching both channels and look forward to many more videos!
Hello dear, if you're open to it, I'd really like to recommend Anthony William to you. He is a health professionell of another kind and helped so many people around the world with health related problems. I'm sure you and your husband can benefit from his teachings. Much love and blessings
I was watching and listening to the both of you. But Dwayne! the twinkle in his eyes as he looked at you. Was amazing! I can only hope I look at my wife with that same Beautiful reverence! God is truly faithful in blessing our adventures if we follow him. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.
Hello to you both. I'm Simon from uk. And 54 this year and I have to say that i am in ore of both of you for the way you have just taught me a lesson that I didn't quite understand when it was needed but I guarantee you've just got through to a great deal of young family units that will make such a difference to them as parents and the children they may have or will have in future. Just by being honest and encouraging and sharing with everyone. Well, I've just picked my jaw up of the floor and had to comment. Mumma you have a new sub. You're a wonderful inspiring women. God bless you sir and lady. Kindest regards Simon from the white cliffs of Dover. ✌😎.
Well done chat you guys. Love your Gritts momma, heck your more of a cowgirl than I am a cowboy and got the stories and testimony to back em up! Keep these coming it was fun and my heart goes out to the ones who haven’t been blessed with a momma like you
Hi, I am from Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. I love your adventure story. I have 2 kids from my 1st marriage, My girl is 19years and my boy is 16y. I marriage a second time and had no kids, but raise a boy from his 8years old and now he has 25y. It is an aventure. My best memories are with these kids. We live in a big city, but I always travel to the moutains to camping and sometimes ride horses. Love this channel. I came here by indication of @sobrevivencialismo from Julio Lobo .
While I only birthed 3, raised 4 and my labor was considerably longer than yours ... Lol our stories are very similar. My husband said he could have been listening to me. I agree 100% that kids are a gift and I willingly stayed home with them and gave up material things to be able to be available 24/7 for my kids. Today they are well rounded, productive adults and have given me 10 grandkids! I enjoy your videos, keep them coming.
I think our biggest adventure was the day my bratlings found a horse trapped in the muddy cattle tank about 2 miles from our house. They were 8 & 10, out riding their bikes around. My Shelby comes home in a flat panic that this paint horse is drowning and we HAVE to go help. Devlin stayed with the horse. So I get the truck and ropes and chains, and I'm gonna try. Our cattle tanks are basically tiny spring fed mud puddles, maybe 6ft deep at best, 30ft across. But they are not lined, it's just nasty sticky clay MUDDD!! for about 5ft or so out from the water. Devlin is out in the water with this poor mare, keeping her head up and mostly calm (keep in mind, he's only 8yrs old). Long story short, we rigged a harness from the ropes and winched/dragged this mare outta belly deep muck. Got her home and they spent the next 3 days getting this poor girl clean, dry and fed. We had "Poor Baby" for another 5 years . She taught both the kids to ride, she was our saving grace when life took a sideways turn during their teen years, and when we finally had to let her go, the vet said she was at least 35 years old, there was nothing he could do for her, she taught the kids how death can be graceful and quiet, too. I thank God, even now, 5 years later, for the lessons that old mare was able to give us, and that my kids were able to save her and give her 5 more years of life.
One subject I would like you all to do is on a more recent journey or stage in life and that is when the child of yours leaves the house to go off to college or work. This is super tough stage and leaves many moms and dads with a sad empty space really. You as parents are happy to see them go off to start their life but what a shock if you spent a lot of your time with your kids over the years and then the move on out is a tough one to take at times.
I loved this! Thanks for sharing. I've been a Mother all my adult life and it's the most incredible and beautiful adventure. Nothing better or more worthwhile.
As a man who never wanted kids but now has one and feels lucky. I wish I had access to your wisdom many years ago. It’s been a very rough few years of break ups, reunions, accidental pregnancy with severe depression on my part, even as far along as my son being 2 to 3 years old. But I’m starting to feel more of a man than I ever had the more I embrace fatherhood and responsibility. My only regret is I left it late and only had one child so my son will be an only child. Thank you for your incredibly kind and loving videos.
