I love you and your husband's videos. Such a breath of fresh air in this turbulent world. Thank you for sharing and please keep up the phenomenal work you two are doing! Much love and appreciation! ❤
I love this, and I am so happy I found yours and your husband's RU-vid channel. It is the parental guidance I needed when I was younger, and even now. Thank you for putting out tools for us to try so we can heal ourselves. I also love the bird, beautiful synchronicity from the Universe.
I was with a girlfriend the other night. We had a few glasses of wine over a beautiful fire pit. Listening to our most favorite songs on RU-vid. We are both broken hearted over divorce. It got dark along with the fire and we ended up singing very loudly into the fire and star lit night sky along with powerful female artist songs and i gotta say, I have felt like i shed a layer that night. I also believe it strengthend our bond as friends. We will always have that powerful memory together as two women trying to mend our broken hearts. Maybe we had four glasses of wine each 😂
My beautiful first-born daughter stopped talking to me 2.5 years ago over politics, of all things. The only way through this kind of trauma for me was to admit and express all the feelings-shame, anger, betrayal, resentment, depression... and to be compassionate toward her, and myself, and to forgive her, and more importantly, myself. Because as mothers we tend to blame ourselves for everything. But forgiveness is absolutely the key to releasing the anger Momma talks about, and writing and burning a letter as she suggests is an excellent way to start.
As the daughter who stopped talking to her mom, I think you're lying to yourself about why she went no contact. No child just abandons their caregiver so easily and quickly. I implore you, for your sake and hers, to dig further down into why this happened because my mom says almost this same exact thing about me and she is intentionally misunderstanding me so that she doesn't have to have accountability for herself. She can chalk it up to something ridiculous that makes me sound like I went off for no reason... but it's not the case.
I agree, however i have seen cases where the kids are so politically brainwashed, they do not associate with anyone slightly politically different, including family
I'm sorry that happened to you! I hope your daughter finds a way back to you. My mum and I had some issues over politics a couple of years ago. She liked Trump, I didn't. I have some trans and non-binary friends and she would go back and forth on whether she was willing to use their pronouns.... I took it very very personally. Sometimes I ended up crying like she was hurting me directly. I decided her intentions were coming from a hateful place, and was very disappointed. My hurt made it difficult to listen to her with an open mind. It's difficult when you feel like someone you love is disappointing you, but eventually I realised I'd rather have my mum (who loves me very much) in my life. I'm not perfect either. And over time we've both been more willing to listen to each others points. She tries her best with the pronouns because it matters to me, but when she slips up I let it go. I accept that she believes what she believes. I hope something similar happens with you! It's hard to be open minded with media telling us there's only one correct opinion to have.
I'm sure you probably don't remember me among all the faces you've met, but I can't tell you how much I needed this. Just as you said in the beginning of your video, sometimes somebody hurts you and you just didn't expect it. That's what I'm facing right now and I've been struggling so hard to overcome that, but I haven't been sure what to do. Your video has been an answer to prayer, sort of a sigh of relief for finding some direction. I doubt I'm the first to say something like this, so maybe I'm just repeating what someone else has already said, but I still wanted to give you my thanks for sharing this bit of God given wisdom. As a side note, I absolutely love JJ Heller and have found her music very healing in past seasons of my life. Time to get into it again!
Of course I remember you sweet Nellye! Thank you for sharing here and I’m so glad it helped you! ❤️🩹 We all have a story and we all have our own scars…some are meant to share in order to heal and others are meant to keep to ourselves and strengthen us…but I do find that sharing experiences and answers to healing is beneficial to not just others but to our own broken hearts as well. I hope you continue to find healing and you give yourself grace in it, and that you are able to deliver grace as well. ❤️🩹💖
Wonderfully stated, there are a lot of us that hold on to the hurt for far too long. I got into typing my feelings into a journal on my personal IPad so that only I can read it.
I just noticed you had your own podcast, congrats, and wish you much success! The first podcast I watched, was 5 things you wish you knew about your husband. First, what a lucky man, and how lucky you are, to have the courage to realize how much Dwayne loves and desires you as his wife and partner no matter what, and time of day and night. And how you also realize that, and how much I wish my ex wife, and past girlfriends and lovers would have taken that approach, because it has caused me much deep pain, for 43 years, that I've not dealt with, not to avoid it, but just being a dad, and trucker, and an old school man. Getting up, putting your boots on no matter how I felt, because that's how I was raised to believe, that's what men did. Here I am, finding your podcast, and finding myself in deep thought of wishing what was, or how to get there. Thank you, Michael
I think a big issue with men (as I am a man) is that we don't listen to women. No, not just our wives, but all of them. Not just their opinions, but struggles and feelings. We have gotten so used to any relation between man and woman deeper than waving hello as being sexual that there is a huge break between sexes. Listening to your mom or sister(s) asking them how they really are doing and really listening, and doing the same for female friends. One of my favorite shows I've watched is "My Brilliant Friend" and it opened my whole world up to feminine feelings and thoughts the characters had that seemed totally alien to me. Understanding in a wholesome loving way of how people work, think, and trust is so valuable
Thats a bit biological, men are more analytical, women are more emotional. Women have more of a metaphorical lyrical style, men are more go go go solutions.
Great advice so many people in the world are hurting. I do believe giving your pain to God and letting it go, and place the pain in Gods hands will heal you in Gods time believe ❤
👍yes! I have been doing this and encouraging others to do this for years! Write it and then Burn it! The paper is for your healing and never meant to be seen by others.
my wife went to be with the lord last year, I'm still dealing with the hurt, with God and watching y'alls videos does help with the hurt, thanks and God bless.
I think the Biggest mistake people make. Is to think that something's happening (to) them.If they changed that to (for) them, They'd be doing a lot better.Write a deal breaker list of things you absolutely will not tolorate.Things you learned and realized from whatever happened (for) you.This is exactly why less and less are getting Married.They don't write that list, and then they pick the same kind of person again.We are in the age of the Narcissist.It's time for people to find balance, and make a plan.
What I needed at the moment. I was thinking of writing a letter to God of my feelings of what happened. Setting boundaries and thinking of Christ helps as well because he went through more than I. He was misunderstood and betrayed and yet he didn’t defend himself.
I guess she wanted in on the camera as well. ROFLMFAO!!! You definitely speak the truth. My father killed me when I was a child. He dropped kicked me in the back of the head with steel toe boots on. My eyes rolled in the back of my head and I died. I was dead for almost a minute. I guess God wasn't ready for me. I was so mad at the world through out my teens and early 20s. It was destroying me. I had to let it go or I wouldn't be here today. I've seen people go through worse then me and they were good people and I wanted to be like that. You have to learn not to let people rent space in your head. That's your space. You and Dwayne are great people and are helping young people and old to see past alot of this social media and other BS that's out there. Thank you.
Sister your story is heartbreaking. My mother's treatment of me growing up is similar and it stays with you for your whole life but I have found girlfriends, good girlfriends have been a huge part of my journey to healing, Singing powerful female artist songs into a fire pit into the night skies! Do it!
Hurt people hurt people. Such sage advice that works. And can we talk about how beautiful your Montana background is!?! Whow the sun coming up birds flying by just beautiful. I think another important subject is having a support network. There’s a lot of us single gals, and men that we have no support network, and that really stinks as we’re not married don’t have a partner who works full-time who have no social life this is really an issue. Kids grown parents gone. Etc.
YES, 100% burn it ❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥 Writing a letter to an verbally, emotionally or physically abusive person is DANGEROUS! Doing it for ourself, is a great idea ♥ Thank you DCM!! Put it in a safe place until you are able to burn it ---They can Never know what you're thinking. They will aggressively weaponize it against you. Been there :(
Wow, thank you for leaving the bird part in. The real moments are the best ones! To me, that made that part of the message even more important. Stop and pay attention when something different like that happens, what was said or done in that moment, might be significant.
This was spot on for me! Your videos are so genuine I adore the life and marriage you have because my husband and I are in our middle 30’s but again we have a very traditional marriage that we both love and enjoy but to have a traditional marriage in this day an age is so frowned upon I watch your videos and your husbands videos knowing my husband and myself aren’t alone is very comforting in itself finding like minded people now days is so tuff so I feel blessed to have found your RU-vid channel ❤.
I hope everything’s okay. It’s always the worst hurt that comes from the ones we love the most. It’s hard to know what’s real and what isn’t. You look beautiful with that Sun behind you! You’re a good woman and it shows!! ❤
I've heard of doing this type of method to process emotions before. But I really needed to be reminded of it today. Even though you made this video several months ago today was the perfect time for me to hear it with all that I'm going through. Thank you for sharing this and may God bless you and the family especially during the holiday season.
Thank You Momma for the great advice. Your words of wisdom are much appreciated and understood. Today, I heard the song "Let it Be, by the Beatles and it brought me much peace. Sometimes we have to just "Let it Be...." Can't change other people or circumstances.
Beautiful and precious advice for a world that has gone so modern and conveniently distractive that it cuts through our soul like a double-edged knife. Introspective quiet time with our own private thoughts and feelings is pure gold, and journaling gives me that kind of access. Thanks for the inspiration.
This is very useful and it truly heals your soul. I have done this and it has helped me forgive the person and myself. Thank you for your time and wisdoms 🙏🏼
I believe you shouldn't write any hateful things on that letter. Even if you don't send it to the wrongdoer, it matters what we even think and write. According to King Solomon, 20Even in your thoughts, do not curse the king, nor in your bedroom curse the rich, for a bird of the air will carry your voice, or some winged creature tell the matter. Ecclesiastes 10.
I came to this video after looking for an interesting one and its almost as if it was made for me. The example you used perfectly sums up my situation, and I am definitely going to try this method. I’ve recently been watching shows and reading books that reflect the idea of forgiveness and they’ve really helped me move forward with these issues. If you are looking for a good show Vinland Saga is very good, don’t knock it till you try it :)
P.S.I have not heard JJ Heller . I will look Her up . 🎶Music does bring healing to me . Julie True’s soaking music is great as well. Just a suggestion.
Thanks , please send a link to how you build a campfire , i watched your vid. about cooking a simple campfire dinner could not find the part on how to build that campfire .
That really works out and like you say, forgiveness gives yourself peace, not the opposite. When you are upset or disappointed about others you give them force other you. Easy said, use this energy to bring up yourself and make your own progress. That's basically the trick, but for survive the fresh energy impact from really. Negative circumstances write it down like momma said. Even with doing that, some things will need years, like she said. Thanks for your wise words.
I’ve watched your husband for a while now and have loved the inspirational videos but when you made an account I was so excited because we are fellow Bible believing, homeschool parents just trying to do right by our kids. I’d love a book list from you and Dewayne! Parenting, self help, faith, fiction, would love to know what youve read through your years that really helped and really made an impact. Thank you for the inspiration and the guidance a lot of us don’t have in these generations.
Wow. I had the complete opposite reaction to this before I realized your message, essentially, is... Let go and let God. The stubborn Me still wants to tell the person that hurt me enough, for me to even write it down in the first place, exactly what it is that they did wrong. 😂❤
I wish that I had an aunt and uncle like Dewayne and Momma. I know you guys get that sentiment a lot but it's real and true. There are so many families today that really are not trying and putting in the effort like you guys are. Many people fall into playing the victim, and that is what I got used to growing up. But you guys and your family are actually maturing into respectful people. So when people say like how I feel that you are providing advice and encouragement when we never had any, that is the truth. I want you to know that. It's not to idolize you or to embarrass you. It's from the heart that I really feel that you're being authentic and you take on the challenges of life with grit and grace, and that way of being is rare. It is encouraging to me to see you and your husband live and act the way you do. I cannot say that I would like to emulate anyone in my family because they haven't matured. That is a fact. There hasn't been words of encouragement from them, or any positive outlook or way of life coming from them. That is a fact. They are addicted to this or that and are a negative influence to be around. I'm not saying that to put them down. It's just that you guys really have been able to teach me things that I never have learned from my family like how to grow up and be responsible.
What a soft precious Woman you are 💗. You gave a wonderful idea to all Who will listen. And it was perfectly said ! I am working out a terrible experience with a Ranch Owner . We have recently moved our Colt, Bear to another Boarding Facility . Now I am going through that process of the heart , forgiving and letting go of the 2 years of emotional abuse . So DeAnna , This video was for me 🕊 Laura 💜Bear 💜 Love you both . Love my Dry Creek Wrangler Mugs .And excited to see video’s on Jubilee 🐴
❤️🩹 I too, am healing, and it is hard to share sometimes…to be vulnerable and to open a heart that isn’t fullly healed. 💔 I’m so glad my videos have helped you. Thank you for sharing and for the encouragement…I needed it tonight.
How cathartic. Hurt can become rage, which is a terribly destructive emotion. Letting go is the only way to find peace. The serenity prayer has helped me thru some bad times. I've also burned my share of letters. That sunrise is as beautiful as your words.
Thank you Momma .. someone I love hurt me and it was a big wake-up call maybe even a blessing in disguise. Funny the way God works..if we forgive we can stay connected to God, ourselves and others. Have a great day ❤
Well this couldn’t have come at a better time if it tried! I’m currently going through some challenges in my relationship and it’s echoing many of the same things you talked about. However I’ll do my best, stay noble and try to be a stronger person on the other side. Take care, and thank you.
Hey momma, I'm a 16 year old girl and this video has helped me so so much! I always have such a hard time forgiving and getting over people who have hurt me. I'm going to go camping soon and burn the letters. Thank you so much for being who you are. 🫶
“I don’t want to be a hurt person.” Amen❤ I love JJ Heller but haven’t heard her song that you mentioned. I’ll look it up. “Cast your cares on the Lord, for He cares for you.” Your advice here is a good way to have a physical reminder of that spiritual reality.
The first thing I noticed about you is your kind and gentle presence. I appreciate your video today. I had a trauma when I was three years old. I have had a lot of therapy and have written many letters about that and other life situations. It is good advice you gave in your video. I have had many hardships in my life balanced, thankfully, with many blessings. I wish you much success.
That's a wonderful view you are blessed to have where you live. Wise words "Momma." I've written a few letters that I've never mailed. I never burned them, but then I can't remember what I did with them long after I wrote them, so I suppose that's close enough. 🙂 Life is too short to carry grudges, anger, and hate in our lives. Today, folks would say that's letting other live "rent free" in our minds.
