Advice I was WRONG about... 

...can someone fill me in on what ita is???

We stan a queen who can admit when she was wrong

Fun fact you still don’t need to shell out 100$ to get a really good petticoat. I’ve been raving about Aurora & Ariel pettis for years now. Their amazing daily petti is only 15$, and a huge poof monster is I think 25. They’re made out of thick organdy and don’t seem to deflate at all.

I used to be 'no knees' lolita but then I got taller

Is it weird that I don't wear lolita yet I still jump with excitement when you upload? 😅 it must be your energy because you're one of my favorite youtubers!

I’m new to lolita so this helped me not buy an op because I literally was thinking “I don’t need to buy a blouse” and my petticoat is from costume castle... I’ll invest in better stuff now. Thank you wise one🙏

When I first started, I thought headbows were a must! I used them in all my coordinates, no matter how bad it looked with my wigs. I very much thought that the copy-paste sweet style was what lolita was supposed to look like. Nowadays, I almost never wear headbows, and I haven't worn a wig for lolita in years! I feel much more freedom in coordinating these days.

As a Bavarian girl the thought of someone wearing a costumedirndlblouse (dirndl is the correct word for the traditional dress some of us wear to weddings and funerals and big partys) is frightening 😂😂 I have multiple dirndl and blouses in my wardrobe and they where hecking expensive (by that I mean 250+ for a dress, 70+ for a bra, 50+ for a blouse) Original dirndlfashion is, like lolita, a lifestyle with whole coordinates to buy and style. Shoes, JSK, blouse, underwear, accessories, tights, hairpieces etc. And the stuff you get at costumestores and H&M and Zara etc is just horrible... Ah I could go on and on 😂😂😂

I'm kinda glad that I wear gothic lolita and I tend to wear a lot of all black because my hair is bright coke can red and tail bone length, so my hair doesn't really fit under a wig, and I find my red hair elevates my gothic coords anyway. When I started out I was invested in a lot of sweet lolita, but I found it didn't really suit me at all, and I never felt confident going outside. When I joined the goth subculture and dyed my hair a bright colour when I got older, was when I started developing my confidence wearing lolita fashion, because I was getting used to people staring at me because of my bright colored hair even when I wasn't wearing lolita. So basically it was like "well I get stared at for my hair colour anyway, so how's more staring going to matter". People do assume alot though that because of what I'm wearing I'm a super confident person who can do anything but I'm not at all, i have extreme social anxiety and tend to be really quiet.

I don't wear Lolita, and I don't think I ever will, but I still really enjoy your videos. I'm glad you're looking back and fixing your mistakes. Keep going!

About 1. Aurora and Ariel has VERY poofy lolita pettis on taobao, for like 15-20 usd

You never know when you might find your dream dress. I fell in love with the Royal Princess Alice x Automatic Honey collaboration dress called Witch Academy. I honestly thought I’d never find it in the lavender jsk at a price I was willing to pay. But today I went to my local angelic pretty store during a meet up and found a brand new Witch Academy jsk in lavender! It was only $300 and I bought it at once. I actually wore it home because it worked with the blouse and accessories I was wearing! I’m so happy i bought it and now have a new dress to wear to my next meet!

We all gave bad advices back in the days. I use to tell everyone that Bodyline was the best ever. I use to wore a frilly skirt as an actual petticoat and tell everyone that they didn't need to buy one. You are brave to face your mistakes, but they make you better.

Honestly I’ve kinda stop wearing petticoats, I actually like hoop skirts better now. The shape is really nice, you can buy them pretty cheap, and they last way longer then a petticoats. Hoops are also much cooler then petticoats, making them perfect for the summer. They’re a little difficult to pack and it’s a bit of a learning curve to sit in them, but for me it so worth it! Just be careful around low tables. 😂

I am so happy we moved away from wigs being necessary in sweet lolita. I have a sensory thing on my scalp that makes me want to scrape my scalp of when I wear wigs. It happens with some hats as well, I just can't have things on my head for more than 5 mins

A big costume store in Germany is selling btssb bag replicas...and I was shocked! So basically you can get Lolita in costume stores here ....but you shouldn’t

Cheap costume store things are great to change and build onto. For accessories more specifically. Like hats. They have a lot of nice plain hats you can dress up into a very nice looking hat.

Those last two!! When I was younger and I’d watch lolita makeup videos, I’d notice that the people in them had wigs and circle lenses and falsies. I ended up not even trying out the looks because I thought it would be “wrong” because I didn’t have those things 🙄 younger me was too caught up on stupid, self made rules 😂

You've changed so much, in a good way of course! I love your channel

I'm not trying to be contrary, but I feel like there's a way to use square dance petticoats in lolita without it looking...bad. I use square-dance petticoats religiously because they never EVER deflate (seriously I've driven in MM petticoats for several hours and stuffed them into backpacks and *they don't give a flip*), but you got to be careful with which model and shape. Some of them, like you mentioned in your video, are /completely/ the wrong shape, the wrong material, or just absolutely HUGE. I've seen some that make 90 degree angles at the hips, and it's kind of nuts. You're also sort of limited with the shape of them to some extent? I only wear Classic A-lines though, so I can get away with it. You can pin the top layer of a petti up to give you that bell shape, so in a pinch, you get two petticoats for the price of one! That said, get a petti that is made of organza or organdy if you can. They're softer than netting and don't deflate, and tend to have better poof proportions. Certain models are safer in terms of side and shape as well. My go-to when I'm doing panels is suggesting Malco Modes 580 and 582's, as they're perfect for smaller girls who want a modest amount of poof, and 592's are the way to go for bigger girls like me.

I did a panel at a con about j-fashion once and stated "Otome Kei is like lolita without a petticoat." ....... I'm sorry.

So proud to say I bought my first Lolita dress. It's an Angelic Pretty Toy Parade mint green OP off lace market. I know Lor said you may have to buy things you're not as interested in but even second hand can be expensive so I made a long list of prints I loved, and specifically prints i universally loved in both their OP, JSK, and different colors. It took a little while to find any of those prints on lace market, but I'm really happy to be able to buy something i really love. Lovely Lor inspired me to finally start buying lolita after admiring the fashion for a long time! Much Appreciated!

With the petticoat thing, layering them also wear out the waistband because you never remember which one you put on the outside

i always wondered if you dressed up only to film your videos and now i have confirmed that you do. i admire your dedication.

I'm glad people are becoming more open and accepting of old school styles. I myself was introduced to lolita in the early 2000s, but I was a little teen and didn't have the resources to acquire them, so I've always silently wanted to make an old school coordinate. In fact, I was so old school, I was the opposite and was more-so turned off by the OTT sweet phase simply because it was so different from lolita when I was introduced to it. When I got back into it, I often saw those rules that said 'No 'bold color' and white!' or 'No lacy dresses. You'll be a lace monster!'

I have loved lolita fashion for the longest time but only started wearing it myself 3 years ago ^^ I always thought you couldn't have bare legs at all when starting out but there are so many lolita's who rock bare leggies (with ankle socks) and they look super cute! Personally I always wear tights but that's just my preference on me

Whatever glitter you've been using on your eyes lately is really pretty!

You are so pretty! Im do glad that you can acknowledge you're wrong, as not many youtubers can. Im really new to lolita and barley knew what it truly was until I started watching you. Some day I hope to purchase lolita items.

I've been so excited for this video since you mentioned it last time! your eyeshadow is so cute, I love it

Re: #7 and Replicas. I still can't wear a lot of brand as I am outside their size range so if I want the print I have to replica it. Also before anyone says "Well just lose weight" you try to lose weight on a medication or three that have a side effect of weight gain when maintaining your current weight is a herculean task. As a side note, I've found that indie brands are more likely to have shirring or something closer to my size so I tend to go for those, but there are still a brand print or two that I have a mighty need that aren't in my size(and likely never will be).

I love the idea of this, Lor! I love seeing the changes from over time. :)

Yeah, I remember when circle lenses were a big deal in Lolita. I always felt bad because I had astigmatism with a specific prescription and couldn't really safely wear them. Flash forward and I realized I shouldn't really care before they even went out of fashion???

I wish someone would have told me this back in the day when I first started as Lolita. But I was so overwhelmed by the "strict rules" and the criticism that followed if you ignored them, that I left pretty quickly. And now, at 32, I feel too old for it. But its still great to see that so many people are actively trying to make the community more welcoming and open!

I swear this is my favorite one of your wigs. I don’t know what it is about this specific one, but it always looks EXTRA cute for some reason and I love it. It’s such a pretty color.

I'm so early, but ready for the video 💞 You are so sincere and kind, Lor, I appreciate this. Lots of love from Chile 💖

I was one of those who thought that you must wear a wig, I only wore one twice (one was really cheap and horrible) before I realised I didn't like them, so I said f*@$ it I'm not wearing them, best decision I've ever made 😁

your makeup is killing it!!!

Sorry, it has to be said that my cheap eBay pettis are doing the job, to the point people tell my poof is amazing at meets and want my secret. I use one of the long leg avenue style pettis and pull the waistband up to boob height. I use a short but VERY full petti underneath that sits at my hips. I tuck my blouse into the first petti's waistband then use a broad nurse belt over the top. It holds all my layers in place, makes everything nice and neat/flat around the waist area and then all my poof kicks out exactly where I want at the bottom of the belt/at the top of my hips.

Off-topic, but the Sims 1 music fuckin took me off guard dude. So much nostalgia..

You are educating both us and yourself, while growing into seeing what's good and what's less good advice! I'm also really happy to see that you are uploading a lot of videos lately, whatever the subject might be. Thank you for putting so much time and effort into videos, editing, educating and entertaining us. I look up to you Lor! Also, I haven't been wearing lolita for months now and are planning on selling my first EVER Angelic Pretty dress. as I feel like I'm not giving it enough love. I feel like I actually can't afford the hobby. I have one dress that I want to keep, maybe because it's more my style? (Think creepy cute/pastel goth but lolita. Yes. Mwah.) I need to think this through, but for now, I have to say goodbye to Day Dream Carnival.Another problem I come across is that I've sort of distanced myself from my community because I'm currently in a position where I feel financially and socially strained to hang out. It's awful, but I try to keep in touch with them because we're growing, and they're a lovely group of humans

I love how your foundation looks a bit pink toned. It just matches so nicely with your cord.

This is so helpful, for the longest time thought I had to wear a wig since I have green hair, thanks for the tips 💜

Everything on this list sound so familiar, since I got into lolita a couple of years after you did. I was immediately advised to slap on a wig, false lashes, and circle lenses. Now I wear them when I feel extra fancy or don't have time to do my hair. I am still making due with some homemade and modified square dancing petticoats though. Perhaps this will be the year I invest in a legit petti.

I've seen a lot of people selling second hand petticoats which are not really poofy. And the poofs probably will die down as it ages. Recently I've been researching on taobao and I've found a great seller that sells a petticoat that can give you a full lift of your dress. The effect is equivalent to 2-3 normal petticoats that usually Lolitas wear. Because it uses 14m of glass yarn fabric. 14 freaking metres :O I've just ordered one from them and I'm planning to do a before and after review about it! If it still turns out well after a year I'll definitely recommend everyone. Stay tune!~~~:D

This made me finally buckle down and order a good petticoat! My classical puppets one is almost 4 years old and getting flatter and flatter. And my leg avenue ones are already flat lol. So I ordered a melikestea cupcake one! Thank you for inspiring me! :3

I love that you're sharing your own growth too! The advice may have been perfect for the time! But the fact that you're sharing your growth is inspiring

The Leg Avenue petticoat is better for lightweight fabrics. I have a few Bodyline pieces from my beginner days that I still like. I eventually did invest in a proper bell petticoat, but he usual big puffy shapes are too big for most bodyline dresses. Layering the leg avenue petticoats works much better. Where were you spending 25 USD each for those petticoats? I spent 35 usd for three of them.

I love my pink hair with lolita, completes my full pink co ord!

German beerlady: Dress= Dirndl Blouse= Dirndlbluse ;)

Coming back a year later, this definitely serves as helpful (you correcting yourself) tips for when I’m actually able to purchase lolita pieces! I honestly was under the impression that you absolutely must have a wig when in lolita and that OP’s were the easier choice (especially since I’m a bit self-conscious about my arms, though I would be wearing a blouse underneath a jsk).

Unrelated, but where is your blouse from?

Something I was pretty adamant about when I was first starting out, was that brand just absolutely wasn't worth it and I only went after offbrand or handmade pieces. Back then, brand was less accessible and more expensive (even secondhand), but when I did finally get my first secondhand BtSSB piece it totally changed my opinion. It wasn't that much more expensive than a new offbrand piece, haha. It's so easy these days to be a budget-friendly lolita thanks to taobao and the huge secondhand market, it's crazy!

Lor, you are wearing my dream dress😭💕

this was very helpful. ive been wanting dress up lolita for years. >_

Lor, you look incredible in this video! The wig is such a pretty look for you!!!

I love that your uploading more fashion content!!!

This wig color is amazing on your Lor!

I love the sims music in your videos!!

Also starting out in lolita I believed you didn’t need that nice of shoes and just wore my pink Bodyline ones until they started cracking 😅 I also believed you didn’t need super nice wigs until I ordered a couple really cute ones! I had so many misconceptions now that I think about it. I didn’t even care about head pieces but now that I’m so ott sweet it’s so different!

I feel like you can take some liberties in the petticoat thing. Whatever works for you. I got a real nice taobao petticoat this summer and it's really nice and convenient, you just slide it on and go, but squaredance petticoats are great for layering for the 'maximum-poof' effect. I think anyone should do whatever goes best with their wardrobe and style.

This is so interesting to me because I remember you from LiveJournal and somehow thought you started before the sweet boom xD great video! It makes me think back on "rules" that I remember xD

Awww Lor! I haven’t been here in soooooooo long. I’ve missed you.

I love your blouse in this soooo much

I wore those leg avenue pettis for years myself. A few months ago I finally made a good one. It makes my coords so much more comfortable.

Someone disliked this 🤬you buddy! You've evolved and got better thanks for this video

omg your wig is THE prettiest colour!

your BLOUSE!!!! its so pretty!

7:52 as long as you have an idea of what you want your hair to look like, natural hair is perfectly fine versus wigs. Wigs are really nice thkigh, but they take extra work to take care of versus real hair.

Your hat and lacy blouse are amazing !!

your smile in the picture of you wearing the milky chan replica dress is so pretty. ☺️

Hi!! Even though I've admired lolita from afar since like..............2010 probably? I've only recently started to ease my way into the community myself, since I've been exposed to so many wonderful plus size lolitas and realized that it wasn't impossible for me to participate after all! The only thing is that its been a struggle trying to find resources for plus size lolita second hand or tips for alterations, and while I adore my Gloomth pieces, I'd love to have the opportunity to branch out into different styles. I know it's probably not necessarily your area of expertise, but any suggestion would help 😭

I only have ine replica.. It's not that bad surprisingly. Only reason i got it was because the original was almost 400 secondhand... Not a terrible replica, pretty good lol maybe once i actually see what the real dress looks like in person ill be shook lol

You're giving me pastel Lolita dead girl living in a Tim Burton movie vibes...and I fucking love it

8:13 wait what? The majority of Lolita’s I’ve seen these wigs that are obvi not natural colors lol and it looks super cute too!

I love this makeup look so much! I need your eye shadow palette! Do you remember which one you used?

When I first started I thought that if your petti was cute and matched your dress it was okay if it peeked out a little bit from under your dress. (thank goodness I never practiced that ideology though). I now know petti's are basically underwear and that underskirts are the things that are the ruffles that peek out. lol

Loving your makeup here, Lor! ♥

Honestly, I was struggling to find blouses that were remotely close to my measurements (I never realized how broad my shoulders apparently are compared to the rest of my torso until getting into lolita) that didn't cost so much, and I found one pieces that fit my body better before I found a blouse, and I wasn't ready to fully commit, so I got one pieces. I'm just starting out, so my wardrobe is very small and I am lacking accessories, but I did just order a blouse. I am really working on overhauling my whole wardrobe to be generally kawaii, not just lolita, and I want some things to wear more casually, so that's what I'm focusing on at the moment until I start making more money. I'm really interested in alt fashion, particularly kawaii fashion, in general, so it's tough to pick a favorite. And I have yet to find a dream dress to work towards. I really like the sailor lolita dress I got from Devilinspired, so maybe it will be sailor lolita.

How do you feel about moms being in Lolita? I was shunned from mine when I told them I was expecting. I wish people were accepting of moms in lolita

I actually hand stitched my petticoat and I love is. So much better then the terrible Pettis I used to get. Side note: don't handstitch a petticoat unless you're passionate about it, you're not saving that much money and it took me two weeks.

OMG I REMEMBER WHEN CIRCLE LENSES SEEMED TO BE A REQUIREMENT AND THEN I WAS LIKE NOT ABOUT THAT PINKY PARADISE LENS SHIPPING GOSHHHHHHH

I normally turn to you for inspiration and to just learn and to get an idea. I don't take anything as law because it is just fashion and there are no 'rules' per say. The style is different for everyone and I am so grateful to you for allowing me to see that. You are so inspirational and helpful to newbies like me!!!

I actually had the opposite problem with JSKs. Where I live it was nearly impossible to find a good blouse and I ended up preferring OPs because of it

THIS EYEMAKEUP ON YOU LOR YES

1) Glasses: Some girls in my community would shame lolitas wearing glasses that don't match the coord. I always wore contact lenses back then. But one day, somebody said that glasses are medical devices. Would you shame somebody's wheelchair? Nope. So I felt more confident wearing my not loliable glasses. Because they are medical devices. And where I live, it is super expensive. 2) Makeup: Lolita without makeup look somehow unfinished. But after a big eczema crisis that required UV treatment, I felt ok not wearing makeup. And apparently, make-up free gothics exist. So it should be ok in lolita too, I guess? 3) Sneakers: Back then, sneakers were taboos. Glad it is now ok to wear cute and loliable sneakers! So comfy ❤

Lor: Will you please listen, I'm not the messiah! Us: SHE IS THE MESSIAH

Fr though your skin is sooo lilac in this video 😍😍😍

Heyyyyy that blouse you’re wearing is beautiful.

I don't really like wearing wigs but since my own hair is purple and blue at the moment it doesn't go well with most of the dresses. But I love my hair so that's how it goes~

That was great! Does anyone know Lor's eye shadow, it's really pretty!

I only wore a wig one time while in lolita. It was horrible, my hair was super long at the time so the cap was very tight, it was hot, humid and just...ehhhhhhhhh

Your videos make me so happy!

Petticoats! I look back at my photos and cringe my dress was not the right shape with the leg Avenue pettis. And they shed!!!

I still have my leg avenue petti I got from your blog ;u;

The thing about the petticoats!!! Sammmmmeee

i’m not sure if you have a video about this, but do you have any advice for americans who want to start dressing in lolita but don't know where to buy from? every site people talk about buying from is in japanese and im worried 1. shipping will be insane 2. i can't read japanese so i’m gonna misinterpret what the sites say 3. converting USD to JPY will mess something up and 4. sizing??? idk i feel like i’m missing something that all the other lolita's already know. sorry for the long comment, i hope you see this!

Haha I actually took your advice back then and got that Leg Avenue Petticoat. I think it was okay for a start and I still use it today as a layer up for my good petticoat. But yes I should have invested into a better one xD It was still better than the petticoat I wanted to get at first 😂

i think the worst advice i ever followed, and then started giving to other people back when i first got into the fashion was that you needed to have a "decent" wardrobe before wearing it out or calling yourself a lolita....which....holy shit thats just gatekeeping cuz what i thought of as a "decent wardrobe" back then was like, 3-4 jsks, 1-2 skirts, 1-2 ops, with at least 4 different blouses and enough accessories and shoes to coord the main pieces in 2-3 different ways each........like oof i had really high expectations on that and ngl that mentality held me back from participating in comm stuff for a couple years.

Lor!! Where is your blouse from? I’m in love with it! 💝💗💘💕💞💖💓

I'm tempted to buy second hand replicas so I can make dresses for my toddler. She loves the style and prints, but I can't justify the cost in buying something specialty made for her size when I can buy something cheap myself to make her something and have the same kind of fabric leftover to adjust the size as she gets bigger.