Confronting Lolita Obstacles | PART 1 

Maybe I'm in the minority here thinking this but wouldn't an older lady lolita look absolutely wonderful? Imagine a gray haired lady in classic lolita with a wonderful big skirt. I live.

I'm dating a trans person and let me say one thing that I've learn about trans folk is that safety is a bigger concern than you think. If someone questions your gender even after you corrected them then it's a red flag that it might not be safe.

My biggest concern is my safety. I usually find myself comfortable wearing in the city because people are more fashion foward there and don't pay as much attention to what other people wear, but in my hometown I fear getting attention from someone who could hurt me...

For the stomach issues one from someone who has them!! I can't wear babydoll style dresses due to my boobs so I had to rule those out, but it's different for everyone. In regards to tight dresses, I eat lighter when I'm wearing lolita. It'll make me feel less bloated and gross, and the dress will not be uncomfortable. So if I'm out in lolita, I stick to what you usually find at tea parties, like small sandwiches and fruit. If you're out all day, I eat small meals throughout. But once I'm home and back in my comfy clothes, I'm having some pizza. Also, no one should judge you for loosening up your waist ties/corset a bit. I do it all the time if I'm uncomfy, and your comfort should come first!

Wow, I'm a trans man hoping this question would pop up. I love lolita and I'm terrified of people not taking my identity seriously (especially since I'm not able to transition right now and I'm very curvy). I'm glad there are other trans guys out there that have the same obstacles as me. It's really comforting.

I have really bad social anxiety and wearing jfashion was a big step for me. A huge thing for me is the fear that people are looking at me and thinking things about me and when I wear jfashion, at least I know why they are looking at me, because of the fashion, and that kinda makes it better in a weird way. I have no idea if thinking like that will help anyone, but thought I'd still share it just in case.

another trans guy here. i havent worn lolita before but ive loved it for a long time. when i was around 14 i made the mistake of telling my mum that i like lolita which gave her the "proof" she wanted that i wasnt 'really trans'. luckily she now has started accepting me but its been a long time since then and well that hurt a lot. ive always wanted to dress in lolita/ouji but i just worry people will act like my mum again if i do. i already feel stifled by peoples perseption of me as a trans guy and not thinking im 'trans enough' for literally every single tiny thing i do which might be deemed as feminine. people suck and i just wanna wear cute shit

i have a tguy friend who is SUPER into lolita but didn't wanna wear it for the same reason so he ended up wearing ouji and boystyle more often because pants (and looks HELLA cute) when he wears more traditional lolita -dresses and skirts- he says he wont wear a binder if its too hot or he will be out a long time and that he dosnt care -v much- abt ppl questioning his ID because people will question it either way (so it isnt really that different for him in or out of lolita) so tboys consider: there are subgenre of lolita to look more like a prince than a princess and plenty of opportunity to wear pants

I'm nonbinary. I sometimes present as male. I also wear lolita! Clothes are not gendered. They're just clothes. As long as I remember that I can rock my sad shounen aesthetic as well as my sad shoujo aesthetic any day of the week regardless of how I feel gender wise. Just love the clothes!

Hello! Local trans guy here! I appreciate the video! I honestly didn't think you were going to answer any of the trans questions/comments but I'm happy you did! I have to say, there are certainly trans lolitas out there, but its also... We don't all know each other, and it'd just be hard trying to get a community together of lolitas who are also trans (specifcally for me anyway) because I personally don't know a lot of trans guys/nonbinary/gender noncomforming people who are in the lolita community, or even know what lolita is. I absolutely agree that being trans shouldn't stop people from expressing themselves in any shape or form, however theres a big difference between wanting to do something and not being able to do it. Dysphoria plays a HUGE part in that. I don't think you understand how extremely uncomfortable it is and how terrible it personally makes me feel and other people in the trans community feel when we're misgendered. Its not fun. As a trans guy who has not medically transitioned yet, I get misgendered about 50+ times a day (especially because I work at starbucks and hoh boy customers really do love gendered greetings), so imagine that discomfort and bad feelings amplified A LOT if I were to wear traditionally feminine clothing. Very loud traditionally feminine clothing, mind you. I don't want it to stop me. I want to wear lolita. I cosplay a lot, so I definitely wouldn't mind putting money away to buy lolita outfits, but its knowing that I'd get misgendered so much more (even if it was just for events) that stops me from wearing lolita. Its my discomfort wearing any sort of feminine clothing after YEARS of trying to break out of my shell and claw my way out of the closet that stops me from wearing Lolita because as someone who tries very hard and fails 95% of the time to pass in public, I just can't bring myself to put on a dress anymore. And yes, I know about ouji, not really my style (I know, I know, beggers can't be choosers). I hope that explains a bit more? Possibly? Probably not? This is all just my personal feelings, so take this long ass comment as a grain of salt. Lor, keep being amazing, I love your videos

Yessss ♥ Sack dresses are all I wear on my period; anything pressing on my stomach gives me horrid cramps. They're also great for busty girls because the chest measurements are usually higher (if you're worried about them hiding your figure, just add a matching cinch or belt). Edit: Keep in mind that the more you cinch, the shorter the skirt gets! (This also applies to anything with waist ties, elastic bands, boneless lacing, etc.) You might need a matching underskirt if the cut was already at or above knee-length.

Oh my gosh all of these are so helpful! For digestive issues/IBS I love the babydoll cuts. So comfy. And I'm reeeeeally glad the shoes don't matter as much as people say.

Love the idea of this series! I have been adoring and very casually wearing lolita for a bit, and I recently got up the courage to go to my first event! Everyone was so welcoming and kind, now I don’t even know what I was embarrassed about! Many Lolitas are much kinder than the internet might make us seem, and it really is a welcoming community!

You saying that getting the shoes most Lolitas wear doesn't matter actually makes me feel better because I have issues with my ankles and my left ankle is one I have to look out for a lot since I've had two really bad sprains with it. I can be a clumsy person and wearing certain footwear that isn't a chunky heel on a boot, flat, or a good in between is usually something I don't care for.

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The one thing that keeps me from wearing Lolita is that I'm a guy and I do so wish that I could dress in all those beautiful outfits. I just wanted to add that I'm not transgender I just love female clothes

In my 30s and wearing lolita! You’re never too old to do anything you want to do, if it hurts no one, do what you love.

I started wearing vintage dresses about 3 years ago. I know it's not the same, but for the people who are worried about others looking at you--just do it. Yes, some people are going to give you bad looks and judge you. But what you're probably going to find more often is a girl who loves your dress who isn't comfortable wearing it. And she's going to say, "I love you're dress." And it's going to be a wonderful feeling. And when it happens once, you'll feel good and keep doing it. Also, I started really small. I'd do my hair and cat eyeliner, but not wear a dress. I'd have a vintage bow. I'd wear pearls. It got me comfortable enough to wear the dress one day. So maybe start small. Wear some cute cuffs or do some really pastel make-up, and start getting comfortable with the small stuff.

I actually have the opposite issue with the age thing. Especially since the reason I like the fashion (aside from How adorable and frilly it is.) is that it suits my naturally young face. I don't know how many Lolitas I've encountered have told me I perpetuate the misconception of fetish because of the reason I wear Lolita, simply because I admit to the fact that it makes me look younger when paired with my baby face. I mean, it doesn't stop me from wearing it, however it certainly keeps me from wanting to meet any other Lolitas. I remember a comment section in a Lolita fb page where I was accused of age play simply because I made a joke about the way I look in the fashion. Still love the Gothic Lolita aesthetic.

for people who don't feel comfortable wearing tight topped lolita (such as most JSK & OPs, or lolita specific blouses), you can wear a looser/flowy dress blouse with a cute collar or design tucked into a lolita skirt. the silhouette is still there if you tuck the shirt in & a simple matching ribbon under the collar or a broach can fancy that blouse right up. i avoided lolita for SO long due to not being comfortable with tight tops, but this allowed me to wear the fashion and still feel comfortable and very pretty✨

My biggest obstacle really is my mom. I wear it on trips and stuff but I have to hide when I'm home. I used to be really open about but after 2 years of just awful comments it got to a point where I had to stop, at least until I move out. I don't really care about my mom's opinion on my clothes but having her constantly say things about it was way too annoying and not worth it. I have 2 outfits and try to wear them when I can but I miss being a lifestyle Lolita (as I was in my University days) and even though I typed and read aloud an essay about why Lolita is important to me my mom and 2 other family members just made the fashion unfun for me. I can't wait to move....lol. Thanks for the video, if you ever read this :).

YES, WHENEVER I SEE SOMEONE WITH COLOURED HAIR OUT IN THE TOWN I GET SOOOOO HAPPY IF I SAW A LOLITA I WOULD DIE OUT OF HAPPINESS BECAUSE I GET REALLY ENCOURAGED BY IT

The elastic on petticoats KILL ME

Thank you for addressing the shoes. I was at a convention this past weekend in Lolita and I was rocking my converse that coordinated with my dress and I got a lot of negative comments on it along with other girls in lolita looking at me funny.

I am completely ignorant about Lolita fashion but have always found it incredibly beautiful. I discovered your channel today and now I’m subscribing and bingeing!!! Your channel is incredibly informative and very well presented. Keep up the amazing work

Since I wear lolita in a country where nearly no one knows about it at all, when i wear lolita out if I feel like someone is being mean towards me as I pass them I just laugh! I used to be self conscious but honestly what do they matter in your life! You gotta do what you love!

I have a friend who is a male and wears lolita I support him all the way and always love seeing the pictures of his coords he shares with me :)

Baby lolita here! Only worn lolita once outside the house and my recommendation for people who have anxiety from negative thoughts is: go to a park where there are children! Little kids get absolutely stunned when seeing lolita, and a small girl came to me saying I looked like a princess ;-; Also, my 6 year old cousin (lil boy) reaction to seeing a dress I had ordered was asking if he could get one too. Children give the best warm fuzzie feels!

I'm really excited to see a lolita like you, who doesn't seem to put on a "baby voice", who looks and sounds like I do. I've always wanted to wear lolita, but like the last comment, I feel I'm too busty, too muscular, and thus I would look weird in those adorable clothes. Thank you for making this video; it gives me hope that I can try the fashion someday!

Don't ever say that you can't wear lolita couse you are curvy, there are lots of pretty plus size lolitas, a lot of dresses that fit plus size girls and you can also have your brand dresses ajusted to your bodytype. I'm a plus size lolita and I get really mad when people say that been curvy is a dificulty.

Im so in love with the style, but I live in a VERY judgemental place so I probably will never wear it. BUT I do love looking at it and I support all you beautiful, brave people who do! Thank you for educating and supporting this wonderful community, you're a unicorn fairy godmother!

I mainly just can't be arsed to wake up at 4 in the morning to get dressed up in Lolita but I guess that's just my choice though XD Otherwise, its great to wear^^

*I* 💖 *LOVE U* 🎀 i ware lolita for 6 years now 😍💪🏻

That's really funny, I wasn't thinking of getting into lolita seriously, and I'm just watching lolita community videos on a lark to have something in the background while I paint. But I did find myself thinking "Maybe this would be fun to try? But, ah, I'm a trans man, I could never do that" And boom here you are with support and acceptance, I think that's really cool. I don't think it'll make me a convert but it really brightened my day. ^^

You, ScarfingScarves, and LavenderTowne, have similar body and face shapes to mine. My whole life I was also worried I would just look so out of place with said body-types and face shape that people would judge why I would try to look cutesy like this or say it wouldn't work. I am also a slightly darker skin-tone than most and have a clef chin that often also got made fun of when in Highschool. Since watching your videos and how adorable you all look and wonderful you all are. I have been inspired to try the fashion and embrace the desire to look just as cute in-spite of what others have said and my own fears. Thank you!

I have chronic pain and spinal problems making petticoats fit incorrectly, so until I have time to make my own it isn't an option. In addition, some people in the community can be very rude. I attended a panel on lolita at an anime con and a friend of mine asked for tips on finding the strength to keep dressing in lolita with chronic pain and she was basically told to suck it up and that she didn't want it bad enough. Mean while she has fibromialgia.

Not even a lolita, but I love your channel! I've always been into lolita fashion and I'm considering possibly trying out gothic lolita maybe since I gravitate towards that style of lolita a lot. I haven't decided yet but I love fashion and dressing up so I'm strongly considering it! Trying out new styles is always something I throughly enjoy and I have many pieces in many different styles that I like to try and pair together to make something entirely new. This is a style I'm really looking forward to possibly trying and your videos have actually inspired me to give it a try since I've been following the style for such a long time

What keeps me from dressing Lolita is that I'm a bigger sized girl (18-20 US size) But I'm losing weight if I stay on track I'll be dressing it in within the next year hopefully~!

10:43 as a trans man, like... that’s why I was so happy to see a male Lolita in that Sugar Coated documentary. It meant so much to me cuz I didn’t even know men could BE Lolita’s or that they were even welcome into the fashion. Being a Cosplay Server who regularly crossplays has helped me personally no longer give a shit about how people view the way I dress, but it still means a lot to me to see male Lolita’s and trans Lolita’s and like... idk. It’s like this feeling of... accessibility I guess?

I am not Lolita personally, but I love the fashion, have a love for similar things, & respect Lolita’s. Thank you for creating this channel & all the hard work you put into it Lor. Your making a difference. ❤️

Well for me, it's of where I live, there is bunch of farmers, hard working people who care more for work than image, which is fine by me, but makes it hard for me to come out in public to enjoy cute different kinds of fashion, I don't know why honestly, I get nervous just thinking about it and when I do go out in public wearing my crazy outfits at age 28, and gonna be a momma soon, I just get weird stares, or people look at me funny, sometimes they comment on my clothes, liking my outfit or someone saying "I don't know how you wake up in the morning and go about your day looking like that" it's like, well for one I don't live to please you and two, because I feel I deserve to wear whatever I want, within reason of course, that my life is completely different from yours, so its like, lol don't fuckin judge me 😣😐😶😓😢😘

I'd really like to try lolita (gothic, specifically), but what keeps me from doing it is the fact that I am what you would call "plus-size". I have broad shoulders, broad hips and yes, tummy, chest, and behind to match. From what I've seen, lolita dresses tend to be in small sizes and the custom-made ones are just so expensive for my small pockets. Living in a small country, still going through a money crisis doesn't help as well. Also, I might be wrong (and if so, forgive me for that), but it seems to me that there are people who will mistreat you if you are not wearing brand dresses, even though they are not an option. How can someone like me try lolita?

I’ve been binging your videos for the last few days and I originally commented asking a question that you answered in a video I watched later on. I love how eloquent you are and researched you are!

in my case (and globaly in my country's case) one of the big obstacles we're facing is the lack of offer. i don't mean by it, lack of brands or so on... there's just NO lolita shops, barely no shops selling kawaii stuff, and this in the whole country. there was a lolita shop few years ago, but it died you can say "why don't you buy online", but hey, here's an even bigger issues: it's almost impossible to order stuff online here. i say almost bc it IS possible, but our banking system gives practically no way to safely pay stuff online. for example, we don't have credit cards here - therefore no paypal. only debit cards. and i know credit cards are way safer than debit cards when it comes to online shopping (and i find the credit line system way more practical when it comes to buy kinda expensive stuff like that gorgeous bssd dress. but what am i, a grain of sand in the ocean of our too strict banking system). however since it's still possible to pay with debit cards, there comes the safety issue. for example, my bank would NEVER give a fuck abt some hacker emptying my bank account. i personaly decided to open a second bank account i would provide from time to time only for online purchases, & keep my original account completely separated, where i'll keep most of my provisions (it's very new thing for me, please tell me if there's still a risk from that please) well next issue is... hum, we just do NOT have a lolita community in my country. which means no possibility for going to meets up & such. and guess what? we live in a FUCKING ISLAND so we're just, like, cut from teh outside world. i think the closest community i can go to would be the south african one (i live in madagascar, no, it wasn't just a movie name)... idk if they're still active lolitas tho. it's a shame i started enjoying this fashion so late DX But yeah, i had to wait to get a freaking job to afford my freaking hobbies DX nevertheless i don't have enough words to say what kind of an administrative HASSLE it is to go to a foreign country from here. and since in the end i'd rather save money to buy lolita stuff, i'd refreign from spending all my money on just one trip :( also, i really feel that "lack of representation" lovely lor is talking about. well, even if we don't have a real "lolita community" there are still some girls who are wearing lolita sometimes. but mostly gothic lolita. years ago i thought they were pretty cool. but now i'm more immerged in lolita fashion i actually think... they were kind of... i'm trying to stay polite and comprehensive but it's kinda difficult... so i won't say anything; just to say that it WASNT lolita at all. maybe gothic... but even in the gothic community i dont think they would call them gothic. a failed attempt at gothic lolita would be the right description. but i truly can't blame them. i've already said we're practically cut from the outside world here, it's very hard to find someone that can actually "teach" you how to be lolita i think the issue abt money has already been discussed plentily on the video "why is lolita so expensive", yes, the ultimate means to get a nice new brand part is to save up... on the other hand... when you think that the average salary in my country is like just a tiny tiny fraction of how much an angelic pretty dress costs, it can be truly disheartening. rn i don't have too much charges to pay for so i think it would take me abt half a year to save enough money to pay for an "average" dress from a japanese brand (new piece). but i actually have already resigned myself to buy most of my stuff from taobao (fortunately some brands there are truly good and way more affordable)- still since i'm a big fan of bssd i may buy a dress from them, one day. still with Wunderwelt DX

The people staring was such a problem for me since I do wear nerdy shirts or I cosplay for conventions or lolita style sometimes and I was very self aware of people looking at me. And I thought they would hate things or be mean. But last week there was this big man staring at me and I was super uncomfortable but after the 40 minute bustrip he spoke up to me and said "I love the sweater you are wearing and I enjoy that show too" so sometimes people are suuuper nice!!! I have also had people ask me about my hair if it was real or not when wearing lace front wigs and just being curious. When you are out and about in a style you should always see yourself as the advocate for that fashion and when people are curious respond with kindness back! :))) I love educating people as I am a teacher by trade and heart #spreadjoyandkindess. Also love the video keep the good work going!!

And if you're willing to take the time to learn to sew, there's a point where the notions and fabrics you need to make a lolita coord (at least the dress/cuffs/accessories) are less expensive than buying the dress/cuff/accessories outright. And sewing, especially based on a pattern, can be somewhat easy to pick up if you start simple!

Hay Lor I think it would be grate if you did a video with Lou Graves if they are up for it, addressing stuff about what it's like to be trans and still do lolita fashion and other things that people had questions about on that topic. Thank you ❤ and stay lovely ❤

This is @sparklyandglitter ! I hadn't seen this video until now because I had given up on lolita. I had thought that the shoes had to be so specific, I'd need to not only save and buy a dress, and then tights/etc of course, but also super specific shoes for almost every one. I'll admit that I needed to do more research too, rather than just giving up. :) Anyway, it's so encouraging to know that's not the case, and also that it's ok to have comfy shoes or shoes I can wear with other things, too. I've got about half a cord already...I think I'll give it a shot now. Thank you. :)

I'm so happy I found this. I've been doing lolita tentatively for a couple of years, and the mature/curvy question is my constant struggle. But, I have to say, being able to look cute after looking mature all the time is so much fun. I was never called cute because of my mature body and being able to dress in lolita makes me feel the cute way no one sees typically

I saw a lolita at Magic Kingdom on Christmas day 2018 wearing a BTSSB jsk with neon Nike Sneakers and honestly I commend her 👏👏

Mine is, cake or dress ... I want both but gym and cake makes the process slow ...

"EGL" may be better than lolita going forward :0

it seems as if this video was more of a learning experience for you in a good way, lol, you did put me on edge when you were like "i was going to call it excuses" because lots of people have said that to me in a belittling way instead of understanding the actual depth behind the struggle.

Hi! Lolita with digestive issues here! One of the main issues with wearing lolita with those sensory issues on the stomach are petticoats and bloomers that have the elastic that makes it tight around your waist. I would suggest investing in a shorter petticoat that you can wear around your hips and *coughskipthebloomerscough*

As a trans masculine person I really relate to the fear of being "too feminine". It sucks that there is such a negative stigma around dressing more feminine as a trans guy, especially because i really love lots of "girly" fashions. I wear tons of pink and like to paint my nails and even then I get comments saying that I must be faking and that I'm too feminine and girly, so the thought of wearing Lolita terrifies me.

I am a trans guy who dabbles in lolita at the very least. I'm pre-everything and whenever I wear lolita or femme cosplay/drag, my gender is constantly questioned. If anyone needs support who deals with this problem, I'm here to bond and chat with, and I'd love to be a part of representing that :) i'm proud to be a fabulous gothy trans man who advocates for being yourself, even if it's difficult when facing adversity.

I subscribed to you just now why?because you just answers my life long question I live in America and including most of your videos you don’t recommend amazon but that’s my only resource to Lolita cause I can’t find any shops near me and when you showed that French ship that’s overseas you said I can see it in person and they have an online shop and I was like woah finally so thank you so so much!!!!!!!

i'm a curvy 17 y/o trans guy and i've loved lolita for several years and i just bought my first couple lolita pieces this past month! I'm still nervous about wearing them though cause my mom isn't really supportive and i know she would just try to use it as "proof" i'm not really trans because shes done that before :| i'm goth and have a neon green mullet so like im already used to being stared at everywhere i go and people constantly call me ma'am but i'm still anxious to wear lolita in public too

Thank you so much for this video! Can't wait to see the rest of them! Also I'm obsessed with your wig.

Hey Lor, So that trans man who wanted to be a lolita touched on a similar situation for me. I'm not trans but I am a male to female crossdresser who very much would like to try the fashion. I run into two obstacles: one is sizing. I'm not a big guy, (5'9, 165) but I know that Asian fashion brands often sell in much smaller sizes so I have that concern. I also have very broad shoulders and chest so that doesn't work in my favor. Second is just basic stigma. A guy wearing a dress or dressing as a woman will usually raise a lot more eyebrows than vice versa. And lolita fashion is feminine beyond modern standards. The second problem I can get over with just gathering some basic courage, but I am curious about the first. I'm not sure if you've run into a straight cisguy that wanted to wear lolita, but I guess it just goes to show that anyone, regardless of gender or orientation can be interested in it.

My fear is that I am a babybat, yet I really want to get into lolita (gothic lolita). My fear is that I'll try to join 2 scenes/communities that are known for being somewhat aggressive to new comers and that maybe I'm putting too much on plate that I might not be able to handle. Yet I love lolita so much that I can't resist it and goth music is something that I have fallen hard in love with. Doesn't change the amount of anxiety I feel by wanting to be apart of different subcultures it just feels extra intimidating

My lolita obstacles are mainly sizing them to fit me and also that i can't actually find anything that isn't online. And being from Australia that means i generally have massive postage/shipping costs. And i mostly have to make my own... or thrift.

I know I'm late to the party, but it's really really cool seeing so many other trans guys who are into lolita in the comments! I own one lolita dress, it's cheap and horrible, but the few times I've gone out in it I've LOVED it! My only wish is that boystyle/kodona/ouji lolita fashion was more widely available, I can never find good pieces for a reasonable price! >

I support you! I'm so happy for you getting a sponser. I hope you get demonitized no longer.

i’ve been following you here since i was 12 and first started discovering lolita fashion and i’m 18 now- i used to wear lolita more when i was maybe 13 or 14 (i only had 2 dresses but loved them a lot) but stopped after coming out as nonbinary for fear of having my gender identity questioned as well i think its kind of complicated because on one hand, i try to think to myself that clothes have no gender but obviously that isnt true to the general public’s perception

Always do your best ways lolitas!

my biggest problem that is holding me back from wearing lolita is that i'm muslim and wear a headscarf. i dont know how to style my headscarf with lolita and i feel like i will get judged by other lolitas for not wearing a nice wig and acessories. also finding lolita dresses that are below the knees is really hard to find as well as finding tights that are opaque enough not show my legs. if anyone knows what brands for tights and blouses that are white and not sheer i would really appreciate it. these are the only reasons why i'm holding myself back from wearing lolita.

Your response to the trans guy's comment gives me life because that's exactly my situation. I've admired the fashion since high school (10+ years ago) and I'm just now making the effort to save cash for my first dress. I'm 100% down to be an outspoken trans male lolita and I'm totally ready to be called female pronouns while in lolita because I know people just assume and that is OK, people usually correct themselves when they hear me speak, lol. I only hope to be as cute as you are and other RU-vidrs I watch in lolita 😭

I've been wearing lolita off and on, however, due to weight gain, I have not been able to fit any of the three dress that I have ( 1 OP and 2 JSKS one of which is my dream dress midnight gothic cathedral.) for the last two yrs. I am currently working on starting from scratch as I get some other things together and rebuild my wardrobe for not only my gothic but gothic lolita stuff as well. i've also been reluctant to go to meets for fear of not having any dresses to wear.

I have my own alternative/gothic style and I love Lolita I think it’s so cute and beautiful and I love people expressing there different styles💗

I'll be honest the first one about shoes make me giggle a bit because I'm watching this video while wearing pink bodyline shoes with jeans and a t-shirt! There are loads of different styles of lolita shoes and many of them can be used in more casual fashion. I don't like spending a lot of money on things that I hardly ever wear either, so I tend to incorporate a lot of my lolita clothes and accessories into more casual and daily fashion!

You're so sweet and sincere, I always enjoy watching your videos because I always know you do your best to make sure everyone is validated and cared for 💖💖

My obstacle is being almost 6 feet tall! I’ve seen tall girl Lolita forums talking about sizing issues, and how there are some brands that are tall girl friendly. I’m still worried where the waistline is going to hit me on my incoming dress. My legs are super long (36 in inseam) so OTKs are ruled out because they’d be under my knee. My torso isn’t that elongated however everyday dresses do come up short on me.

I think some people might feel as if Lolita is a costume and it couldn’t be an everyday style for school or even at home because family might judge you.

1. I love your makeup! You look so cute! 2. Speaking of which, I have health issues that make wearing makeup products difficult. Do you have any advice for how to go about wearing no or minimal makeup with fancier-than-casual Lolita? Especially with glasses (I also can't wear contacts)?

Too bad that the store shut down almost two years ago now :( 05:27 I have that exact problem too but sometimes I just suck it up 😂

9:14 as a trans man who’s been into Lolita and various fashions and subcultures not seen as traditionally masculine by mainstream standards, I feel this one so much

To the person with digestive issues, try a hoop skirt, they have drawstrings and you can tie them loose instead of the elastic on a petticoat suffocating you.

I think my biggest obstacle is finding anything that will fit me. I'm 6'1" and it's so discouraging to the point of nearly giving up on the fashion.

As a lolita with SEVERE digestive issues, anxiety that requires medication, a low budget, and whose best lolita friend is a trans man that loves the frills and does makeup for a living, I have so much to say for those who need that advice! Makes me think maybe I should make some content about that... I also have a lot to say as a lolita of color, a birth giving parent (it is shocking how angry that makes people), and what I like to call being an “elder” lolita (I’ve had people call me old more times than I know what to do with in this fashion, I’m in my 30s, I’m quite young still). It’s probably easier for me to post on Instagram tho... RU-vid has gotten weird. I also wasn’t clear where this initial post was? I’m trying to see what your community says before I make anything so I can cover stuff you maybe didn’t have any experience with or that friends of mine can address.

Should you invest in wardrobe bags for your nice dresses.

This was great! I'm looking forward to seeing more.

I'm trans and I'm getting into the fashion so it's really cool to see other trans guys in the comments! :D

You did a really good job on your pronunciation this time!

My biggest obstacle is finding a dress that my bust can fit in... I try to look for some salopette dresses and so far so good! But before that I had to look for custom size and it was very expensive for my budget x.x

thank you for making this video. i havent been able to dress up as lolita. Hopefully i make a haul video soon and decide to get a full set outfit present for my bday which is in august lololol

10:13 you said dysphoria correctly

As for the shoes, I think even just ballerina's (is it the same word in English? I'm Dutch) can work for some people maybe. Regardless, I only have one pair of brand shoes and I can only wear them in winter since they're boots, everything else I wear is offbrand, regular shoe store stuff. I think you just have to look around for a bit, there's definitely lolita worthy shoes out there.

I've had a massive anxiety attack at one of my comms big meets and I've changed out of my many layered coord into booty shorts and a tank top because I got massively overheated. I just said my goodbyes in my shorts and everyone was totally fine with it.

The store says it is already closed as of March 2019. :(

I think my biggest obstacle is that I'm overweight and thus simply not able to fit in (most?) brand clothing. I've heard about tips like shirring and resizing, but to be honest I doubt that shirring would be flexible enough for me, along with me being too nervous to edit brand dresses anyway... I've considered going DIY, but I have no idea how to properly transfer patterns to paper or how to even start making/finding patterns in the first place. (Not to mention that blouses and the like are already not an easy thing to make...) (I should also add that I don't use FaceBook at all, so I can't really add comments there or look for communities.)

🙌🏼👏🏾☺️ I love this whole video !

I'm a trans man who loves lolita and this made me so happy 💕 thank you so much for this

My problem is my shaved haircut and my weight. Most Lolita’s have long locks and are quite slim and I don’t fit that quota..

Someone please tell me where she got that dress that is brown and pink with the puppies making desserts!

I like ur Interpol reference for the name of the video

I am 16 years old and have no friends that are lolitas. I am not living in a big city. I live in Germany and my dad don't want me to buy things without pay pal or things from Japan.

Hello, trans-male here. I have gone threw the same problem the person in the video has stated. Due to being feared I would be questioned for wearing such. To where I found an alternative, that being "Ouji"(prince) fashion/Lolita. Where it's a more masculine sytle, to where I still seen as a male in such. But still has the frills and bows like normal Lolita. However I will say it is harder to find online, so you most likely need to thrift for stuff like i have. But if you are a trans-male i say give it a try for yourself.

my main obstacle is being an alternative black girl with a very large chest. im dysphoric about my entire body and i would love to participate in lolita fashion but im scared ill look out of place.

Milktea Dolly has a not good way with clothes then, should be comfy and happy to experience clothes since it directs to love yourself.