AITA for Ignoring My Moms Messages After Being No Contact with Her for Over A Year Now? 

And the mother, who is clearly a morally unfit parent and who was also physically unable to care for her children, got primary custody, while the father got every other weekend? Tell me another story about equal protection under the law and the best interests of the child.

Mom didn't tell the family because she didn't want her 'caretaker' taken away and given to her father.

Imagine telling Op she should be ashamed for ignoring her own mother.. The same mother that ignored her 18 and 10yr old daughters for over a year.. Like, no she should not be ashamed for doing exactly what the trash mom did....

Fairweather mother needs to stay away.

Nta. My heart goes to op.

Ungrateful.....what exactly has her mother did for op to be grateful for? I swear, some people are just stupid for spite.

Answer the family pushing for forgiveness that you're not there yet and when you get there, you'll consider whether that also means resumption of contact. (Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting or that it's all going back to the way it was.) As the person who put so much work in - as a minor child, no less - you are the most hurt by her actions. Your sister wasn't put in the same position. As far as I'm concerned, you could easily take decades to forgive her.

*Where's The Video With The Rest Of The Updates!*