Alexa Nikolas, Drake Bell, Christy Carlson Romano, and why I can't stomach Eat Predators 

im a former mod/staff/volunteer of EP (we became friends in 2022 over instagram and EP started a few months later) and in February destroyed my best friends and also my own mental health (actually for my friend it started sooner). several other survivors at the same time and in the past also had similar situations and were harmed by how she treated them especially by the guess who things. all these people she keeps “exposing” in those videos are people who don’t have the platform to defend themselves and in turn they (p much all of them are survivors) have experienced horrific bullying from hee fans. i had to check myself into inpatient as a result of her and basically lost my job because of that. most of the time i had concerns that I voiced to other members or friends who’d become fans of hers starting in November 2022 I got shut down and/or talked out of them. I’m a survivor myself of someone in the industry and EP seemed like everything I’d been searching for - a community of survivors who understood the experience of dealing w someone we can’t escape seeing celebrated who has fans that attacked some of us for speaking up. And yet i walked away from EP with more trauma that im still coping with. there’s no one with credentials or who has been thoroughly trained in abuse advocacy mediating the group. it’s extremely disorganized and so many people have been harmed because of it. It’s devastating bc the visions for it were such good ideas in theory but they are executed poorly and have turned activism into a McDonald’s-like novelty. I really hope she will take accountability eventually and learn how to break the cycle because those are two things she preaches about yet hasn’t shown that she has the ability to do those very things.

I had to stop listening to Alexa because every single video became about all the people who haven’t apologized to her, and I started noticing she carries very different energy for victims based on her personal experiences with them, their gender, their public stances differing with hers, etc. I think she means well (but what do I know really) but has some very serious blind spots about herself

the breaking point for me was the way she addressed removing the drake bell video because the article had "misinformation," when that could've been addressed a number of other ways. i also hate the way she talks about journalism/journalists, because her complaints are always about things that are ethical considerations in the industry (such as not paying sources). her new grudge against quiet on set feels like a petty personal grievance about her not getting enough of her story shown when the doc was literally about nickelodeon. i'm a long-time organizer, and she does not have a nuanced understanding of anything, let alone how to organize effectively.

I cannot tell you how refreshing it is to have found this video. Her “activism” has never sat well with me. What happened to her should not ever have happened to her or anyone else, but she’s appropriating her own trauma and I feel a lotta damage still to come from her arc as it unfolds.

I just wanted to mention that the Lilo and Stitch scene you reference with the tourists was supposed to be part of a wider sequence where Lilo lashes out at white tourists who fetishize and commodify native Hawaiians by taking pictures of them and treat them as props in their "exotic" vacations. The whole sequence was cut from the final movie but that fragment remains. That doesn't undermine the hints of fatphobia woven into the joke but in the wider context of its original intentions it makes more sense. Lindsay Ellis has a great section about Lilo and Stitch and its treatment of indigeneity in her video on Pocahontas if you want to get more in depth info.

I gotta admit. Alyson Stoner is the only person who doesnt seem like shes lowkey out for some kind of monitary or flat out financial personal gain for sharing her experience.

I dont want to not like Alexa but i cant ignore some of her behavior. She took down her Drake expose before the show where they interviewed drake, ive seen her play guess who with victims stories that arent ready to come out, and just now, i was an article where she was complaining that quiet on the set aired on ID. That is like THE crime channel but she said it should be on a bigger platform? I would have thought as a victim, shed be happy to have her story heard and we all heard it. I dont understand what she wanted, a netflix documentary?

The pizzagate post was the first time i personally saw people call her out for lacking nuance and reducing something this serious to a cringy thumbnail. It did feel weird, unnecessary, and a bit obtuse

I also want to mention that Alexa seems angry at any former Nickelodeon child actors who haven’t actively spoken out like she has or validated her story. But I don’t think victims have any obligation to speak out if they don’t want to, and it’s their right to stay silent if it’s by choice. I understand why she’s upset, but I don’t think she’s obligated to praise or validation from her former child costars.

Hi ophie, former EP subscriber and survivor here. Your videos greatly helped me assimilate my concerns about Alexa’s behavior in recent months. My hyper-vigilance creeps at the edges of my consciousness on a regular basis, and for whatever reason I continuously found myself mistrusting Alexa. Skipping live streams if I was feeling low, and distancing myself from the community. Subconsciously, I believe I could FEEL the revelations you espoused in this video, but just couldn’t get my words in a row. With your help I’ve come to realize the commodification of trauma and survivorship does not align with my values. I have a lot of personal beef with the way she communicates, but to list those here would feel like an indecorous attack on her personality- which I don’t intend to do. Simply put, I trusted Alexa. Her personable and vulnerable beginnings felt like talking to a friend. And that’s exactly what she wanted. She wants adoring fans and a special soft place to land that she created as a vacuum for her own values. There is shame that exists in me for not clocking all of this sooner and cancelling my membership before the insidious nature of her cycle became clear. She speaks openly about “breaking the cycle” when she herself is stuck in a cycle of self loftiness and victimization. I am endlessly disappointed that I have lost what felt like the perfect little spot on the Internet, something I desperately needed. I went to bat for her in the comments, made friends, and believed in the movement. Now I find myself despairing over the idea that restorative justice is something intangible and unreachable, and that accountability, true accountability, is something I can’t trust will come from those who need to take it. Predators and survivors alike.

I literally just subscribed to Alexas membership when this video was recommended to me. I canceled my sub now, i dont feel comfortable contributing what i can see now is a very self focused individual.

Your videos give me old school RU-vid vibes and I’ve never been happier hahaha also going to bed is always the right option

I have been weary and hovering on Alexa's content for a while now, it has always seemed to be very emotionally charged and personal in a way that made me feel unsure. It seems like she is looking to get justice for herself but framing it as something she's only doing for all other survivors. But every topic comes with how it relates to the abuse she endured and strays away from the actual topic at hand. That has always made me uncomfortable, but I would often defend her because I absolutely feel her pain (especially in the Ned's pod situation because to me, that podcast is a chaotic mess that maybe shouldn't be platformed). But her support of Drake Bell is very offputting to me and really sends the opposite message from what she insists are her core values. Maybe there's a bigger reason for it, only time will tell... The pushing of over priced merchandise does leave a gross taste in my mouth though... maybe if a portion of the proceeds were being donated or was a gift to those who chose to donate to a certain tier, it would feel less icky? Otherwise 45$ for a shirt I could easily silkscreen myself does feel like taking advantage of her platform and quite tasteless in general. I am still left with a lot of mixed feelings, and as I am a CSA/grooming survivor myself, I am thankful you tackled the nuance of these situations with such care. "✨️Nuance Corner✨️ was a nice added touch, btw 😅 Ps; You are very articulate in your delivery! I really enjoy your cadence and general vibe 😊 you definitely have a new subscriber in me!

I used to support EP. Even purchased a tshirt, that never arrived or was even shipped. They were prompt in refunding me though so I’ll give them that.

Glad somebody else pointed out how weird the Ned's Declassified pod is! There's just something off about it

A lot of the Nickelodeon kid stars seem very stunted in their emotional development and struggle with empathy for other people not reacting in the way they think they would react. It reminds me of how teenagers understand empathy and not how 30 year olds should.

i also find it weird she name drops britney like every day when britney mentioned her once and not even by name. but she didn’t talk about britney’s conservatorship until it was about her did she? idk

this is so comprehensive and you are so well spoken. i am going to send into the Do We Know Them Podcast!

this video perfectly articulates the icky feelings i’ve had about her from the start, like there’s this air of ego/dishonest intentions when it comes to EP. that said, i’ll be billing you for the therapy i’m gonna need from hearing my Amazon Alexa devices go off constantly for the past two hours 😭 great video, Ophie!

I would love to hear your thoughts on the podcast episode that Trisha just released with Alexa. It seemed like Trisha tried to bring up the nuances of drake bell being a victim that perpetuated trauma and Alexa was avoiding the statements.

I've been binge watching your videos these last couple of days and I really appreciate your takes on stuff like this

I want to preface this by saying that I was honestly slightly aged out for most of the Nick shows that Alexa and the others came from, so I didn’t know who she was until CCR had her on Vulnerable. So I don’t have a lot of the associations with the properties or the actors that a lot of people do. I was also not a huge Even Stevens fan, but eventually I gave in to the algorithm when Alyson Stoner was on CCR’s show because I’d seen their* Pipeline videos and was interested in what they* had to say. From there I popped in and out, and when I saw that Alexa was also talking about the issues related to children in entertainment, I gave it a go. From what I saw, she had clearly suffered some trauma and was at least partially processing that by trying to raise awareness about the issue. She basically dropped off my radar and I didn’t really dip back into any of the PodCo stuff because the millennial nostalgia thing isn’t all that interesting to me. But I do work in an investigative role related to special situations, and so when Alyson dropped their* Hollywood series, I watched it. And I watched Quiet on Set when it came out. And, like a lot of others (I imagine), I started looking around to see if the people I remembered from Nick who hadn’t been featured in the doc had things to say. And Alexa kept coming up, over and over again. So I tried sitting through several EP…episodes? Streams? I hesitate to call it a podcast because it’s really more of a twitch stream on the wrong platform than anything. And my conclusion is basically the same as it was before: Alexa is obviously passionate about the treatment of survivors of abuse, not just child actors, in the entertainment industry. She is just as clearly as person who is still processing her own stuff and is doing so externally. She just as obviously wants to leverage this new passion for activism into something with some staying power. The problem is, she really isn’t good at it. She isn’t any better at it now than she was in 2022 when she was on Vulnerable. In fact, she’s kind of worse. Her communication style hasn’t evolved, the way she presents the issue isn’t any more polished, and most of what she’s centering is just gossip designed to elicit emotional reactions from people. Part of being a successful activist is drawing people to the cause, and she isn’t doing that in any way that’s effective either to advance EP’s (somewhat nebulous) goals, or to advance her own agenda…whatever that even is. She’s just playing at it, like she expects charisma and her story to get her there. It’s not going to. The “podcast” is a mess. CCR may be more of a capitalist than a creator, but at least the PodCo shows are mastering their audio and (some of them) have a loose format instead of dumping for over an hour and complaining about technical issues that they should easily be able to avoid after this long. EP can’t say any of those things, in large part because the organization (such as it is) doesn’t seem to know what it really wants to be or to accomplish. It’s just become a vehicle for Alexa to desperately try to make herself relevant. More than that, watching the episodes of EP feels manipulative of traumatized people being orchestrated by a person who either cannot, has not, or simply will not address their own issues. She comes off as fragile and somewhat unstable. It makes me concerned that she hasn’t really sought the help she deserves in order to work through her stuff, and it’s really painful as a fellow survivor of SA to watch. Genuinely hope she can 5 that in a more private forum. Anyway, tldr; the only former child star turned activist of this group who is really actively doing the work right rn is Alyson Stoner; and, to a lesser degree, Jeanette McCurdy. If Alexa’s goal is actually activism, is actually to affect change, those are the people in the same trenches she should be looking to. *edited to correct pronouns & clarify a couple of points

Someone recommended coming to your channel for an explainer- I was not prepared for how thorough and thoughtful your videos are! (I saw that you have videos about A Documentarian so I hope you know exactly I mean. All love. 😊) Chapters or timestamps would be super super useful if they aren't too much trouble. I have memory/attention trouble - this is good info and analysis, so I want to revisit specific parts. ...aaand I just remembered the transcript feature exists while writing this. Oop. You touched on so many things that (imo) make people feel like activism isn't for them. My brain is sticking on that aspect bc that's My Thing. I love big picture views like this because they help me find generalized words to describe common issues. Apology activism is a great term. My friends and I have called it "Spreading Me Awareness" bc "performative activism" doesn't fit quite right. I will say that ime, celebrities/influencers are best kept far away from the actual center of movements. Their income relies on their ability to make things about themselves. It doesn't really matter if they mean well, their brains have developed shortcuts that don't really vibe with collective action. It's a lot to unlearn or even become aware of. It can end up hurting them as well as the movement they're attached to. Feels wrong to say that organizers should protect them, bc that's an easy way to derail. I'll leave this end messy.

I have always felt weird about both EP and CCR but I think EP's handling felt a bit more sensible, so I passively engaged with it more. The Ned's Declassified beef era was really around the time when I started feeling the least tolerant of it on any level. Alexa started threatening the kids from Ned's with revealing her own inside info about a party with the implication that something truly horrible happened to Lindsey at that party and the guy who played Ned knew and/or did something. Unrelated, but those kids from Boy Meets World were adults when they wrote the letters in support of Peck. Peck had just lied to them about the entire basis of the case and they took him at his word as a friend. Oh and Alexa also implied that Ashton Kutcher murdered an ex gf on a live in backlash to his letter in support of Masterson. I have so much empathy for her as a person but I don't like her leadership style or her rhetorical style as it currently exists.

There's a lot to unpack, so let’s begin, I empathize a lot with her because finding your footing after being abused for so long and having your truth invalidated can be challenging. In the past, I was the same way, and by not being solid in my faith or getting therapy, it was overwhelming to myself and other people. I think we should extend a little grace to Alexa, but that's just me. Also, if she doesn’t have friends holding her accountable about how Eat Predators might be coming across, then Alexa not gonna see in issue with some of the things she is doing. There were times when Alexa was sarcastic more than she needed to be in her reaction videos. In retrospect, she could have recognized that Corey Feldman might be a problem, but he's also a survivor. There is a lot of mention of Britney Spears, but that's because Britney apologized to her. I do not think Alexa got the many apologies she deserved. Similarly, Alexa leads with her emotions instead of determining if she can trust someone with her story, like Christy Ramono. I do feel this would've been a TOTALLY different outcome if Jamie-Lynn Spears would have just apologized, also. As much as I believe she has good intentions, I hope she opens the narrative to others sharing their experience in the industry, and providing their necessary resources for them. Alexa seems to have bit off more than she can chew. I pray that she doesn't crash and burn in her activism.

Thank you for bringing up the hypocrisy about Drake vs Corey in Alexas perspective. I've been trying to explain that sentiment and people are just not agreeing with me.

Very very last thing I will say. I hope she will eventually get better at not doing an over the top surprised reaction on her stream to things she is aware of and has already posted about cuz it comes off forced and makes her sincerity come into question more

I love the advocacy work and hope something good comes from it continuing. I can barely participate anymore though because of Alexa’s emotional reactivity and personalization of EVERY topic discussed. There’s no nuance corner and if it was her own channel, while I would still take issue, it wouldn’t be as big of a deal. The issue is it’s now an organization that’s accepting money from people to actually do things, and it lacks so much professionalism.

I really enjoyed the videos in the beginning when I found the channel, but idk, I don’t mean this to sound horrible because I know she’s been victimized a lot by her ex husband, but with all the stories of Nickelodeon coming out and details and things I feel like she acts like she went through way more than she did at the hands of that company. Not to say what she did experience wasn’t wrong and gross but like, she acts like it was on the same level of a Jeanette McCurdy or Amanda Bynes. “Nickelodeon didn’t protect me” just hits different when she has the same 2-3 allegations of bullying on set and that’s all. Idk maybe this is way off base I just get a weird vibe.

Okay but the "Coolsville sucks" reference 😆

No music No zoom ins No awkward cutaways to a sponsor/video/ meme No clickbait No toxic fandom No sexual innuendos No bullshit, just straight to the point. love that. Wish more youtubers did this. I also wanted to say i was a supporter of hers. never gave money just watched a few videos. i stopped being a fan because she seems to go on a tangent about irrelevant topics half the time. She also laughs alot. It's ok to laugh, but she does it in almost every video so it feels less like a coping mechanism and more like she isn’t taking things seriously. If alexa really wants to be serious then she should go beyond nickelodeon. It's great that she advocates for nick actors but the line does not end there. So many other companies are exploiting children and it needs to be brought to everyones attention. Anyways i enjoyed your video, i love how well spoken and insightful you are!

4:32 Iappreciate the disclaimer. I feel like most of Alexa’s issues can be boiled down to not wanting to work through misunderstandings because she either doesn’t have the emotional energy or becomes overwhelmed with reactive anxiety that results in harm . Some of the GMM criticism of Alexa was very valid, but I had a lot of issues with the way Shift framed things. It feels a little too “debate bro,” and trying to find closure and be “right” than to have a conversation. The latter two qualities are also things Alexa has been guilty of, and Shift’s seeming inability or unwillingness to recognize those qualities within themself is a red flag . Also, his “I’m not a victim but will list every single way I was wronged” framing felt very weird.

I have mixed feeling about Alexa because do feel for her and I love that she is trying to fight for change, but it does get personal very quick anytime someone has a story to tell. The fact that she included Christi Romano in her issues with Lindsey Shaw did rub me the wrong way. Why are you getting mad at one person because they aren’t getting someone else, who grown, to apologize!?! I do think she internalizes a lot and that gets in the way of what she’s fighting for.

10:41 It may not matter to this specific video’s topic, but you’re still right. Even after she grew out the bob and stopped trying to drown Emily, something about Paige always creeped me out, and the only reason I’ve ever been able to come up with is that it had something to do with Lindsay’s acting. I’m not just sure what exactly that was.

Just a note as I’m getting toward the end of the video: the over-emoting could be an actor acting, but it could also legit be just emotional disregulation related to unaddressed trauma and/or hormones. Anecdotally, the unresolved trauma thing and dealing with burnout from some undiagnosed stuff of my own made me absurdly emotionally reactive to things, usually in the form of crying at the stupidest, unrelated-to-me things. And then I’d be fine again. It was just how my brain was processing overstimulation at that point. Absolutely not excusing all the over-identification and centering of herself in things (that’s a whole other thing that she should be held accountable for), but in the interest of being fair, at least some of the emoting and rapid tone shift could actually be legit.

the icon with the hand coming out of the mouth does remind me of Rocky Horror Picture Show, which I don't feel is a good thing in that context

Yes and the megyn kelly thing. Its all just starting to feel more like a means to an end

this is a great video and very validating of the views I have towards Eat Predators

Thank you for promoting the #unsilenced movement. Child abuse shouldn’t be legal.

As someone with a ton of trauma from years of therapy (actively used to manipulate me and enable my abusers etc) I just can't jump on board with the "therapy is the best thing ever and the one and only best solution for everyone" bandwagon. It mostly only benefits those that are mostly privileged to begin with. And the entire industry is full of oppression in both origin and contemporary practice. It's automatically lost a lot of legitimacy in my eyes since conversion therapy is something that can be practiced without losing a license (and is frequently allowed to rebrand or otherwise go stealth to trick queer adults into paying to be out through it. Also including ABA, which gets public funds and mainstream support even), and is only ever challenged by societal legal laws. And not actual Hippocratic type codes of ethical medical practice. And that's only *one* issue with the industry.

I was a member for 9 days. I tend to get hyper-focused on things, and I had followed her before the Cristy CR stuff happened. I unfollowed Alexa after I watched a video of hers (maybe about Colleen and Alex) where she mispronounced people’s names and misstated facts that were very easy to fact check. As someone who goes down research rabbit holes, I remember thinking, this is dangerous. You are throwing around people’s reputations and trauma, and not even knowing basics before you live stream and react in very emotional ways. I also didn’t like how she hasn’t addressed the Aftermath Foundation scandal as at all, but still promotes the ex-Scientology fundraiser tee shirt that promotes TAF. I’m not decided in that whole situation, but you have to address it if you are a saying you are a “survivor centered space.” I also got weirded out about how it was so obvious she hadn’t really teased out her own beliefs about victims versus cycle of abuse perpetrators in general. She seems to align quickly with people claiming to only be survivors, and then says, “Oops well they were abused as kids, and they abused others, and now they are sorry - so we support them. But THIS survivor who also abused others, we don’t support.” It just feels like she needs more therapy and training before she platforms as a safe space for survivors. It’s very nuanced and very difficult to create a space where people can heal let alone advocate. It just seems like you need to focus on one or the other. Also, why is her “artivism” only done by her and her husband and they keep all the money (except the Scientology tee). It’s just a little bit strange. It wasn’t adding up. Glad to see a nuanced take here. Again, I wish Alexa the best and will still watch her content as a subscriber and hope that, with time and experience, she can begin putting in more research and also aligning with other support groups. You don’t have to heal alone or reinvent the wheel. People have been healing and figuring out what works since the dawn of time and suffering began. Off to watch the rest of your video now 9:42 … 1:09:58 Yes, the logo is creepy to me too! Like we hate how Nick sexualizes feet, here is our logo of red lips with a man (?) being a eaten. These are not the same. What?

alexa makes me very uncomfortable

Really enjoyed the video and I especially liked how thoughtful you were (sometimes it's hard to find nuance with "call out" videos, for lack of a better term). Alexa has rubbed me the wrong way for a while but I couldn't really articulate exactly why. You should have way more subscribers and I'm definitely going to binge the rest of your video backlog now.

Thank you for this video! I tune into Alexa's content when I can and I always liked it until recently when she was boarder line defending Drake Bell. This video informed me of so many other red flags. Thank you for the research and heart this video took to post!!

christy carilson ramano jumpscare (i only know her from the do we know them podcast)

So I loved I'm glad my mom died too but I would not say that the book was about her work in therapy. In fact I actually think that was a pretty small part of the book. If you literally look at the pages devoted to it, she gets to her work in therapy in perhaps the last third of the book. As we know, her attempt at therapy the first time doesn't go so well. She eventually journeys back to it, and then they eventually TIMESKIP. Suddenly she's been in therapy and she's realizing how much she's changed. The actual therapy and work she did is not there. I would say most of the book is the lead up to it. I loved the book, but I actually felt like the last third of the book was somewhat weaker because she didn't go into those details.

everything she’s done is terrible, but the thing that really took me aback is the kesha bashing. kesha has endured some of the worst abuse and hatred in the music industry and just as a human being. so disgusting of her and really not “pro-survivor”

Was unaware of the kesha situation that's so disappointing.(a lot of what she's done and is doing disappointing as well) I'm realizing how when alexa feels when she isn't respected even if it that other person might not know of her or her situation she takes it personally and will either intentionally or unintentionally lump those people in with the predators she's protesting.

Lol the pll tangent. Thanks for the vid and commitment

New subscriber! Your thoughts have been very similar to mine over the past year or two. Thank you for giving a voice to this ❤

1:28:30 I'm p sure the point of Lilo taking photos of the tourists is a sort of response to the way the tourists tend to treat her and other natives of the island, and that's the joke. (tho I also think it just mean to be another showcase of her being a very quirky kid) buuuuut from a meta pov they definitely didn't have to make the focus be so much on fat tourists

I'm a little more understanding of people not wanting to go non-profit because when I looked into it myself there is a lot of those in the industry advising against it. Obviously, none of this is Alexa's reasoning so it's a moot point. But, a lot of people pointed out that there is limited funding and the oversaturation of groups is taking funding that does exist. It is much more helpful to join up with a larger group or so I've been told. There's just not enough resources to go around and you can easily overpromise not be able to anything because the funds just aren't there.

at the risk of being too "medium is the message", the guerrilla girls were specifically protesting against the sexism present in the art world, which ties their art directly to the activism in a meaningful way. idk, the citing of the guerrilla girls annoys me a lot because she's clearly missing a big part of why they did what they did.

I know this video is from a months ago, but I'd like to add something. Rider was actually 13 when he met Brian Peck. He revealed this in a Pod Meets World episode released in June.

I truly do not want to turn your comments into a place i keep venting about alexa I just truly feel this is the safest space to do so and after I say this I'll push myself to just disengage. The last thing I wanna say about about the situation that I hadn't seen others mention is how I just realized how absolutely weird and unnecessary it is how she will do reactions to watching child actors kiss adults on her stream just to say what we already know that its creepy and wrong. She could literally just call out that it's wrong and leave it at that but she plays on her stream and makes a spectacle about it and I'd be sitting there thinking, wait do you not think it's weird you're just replaying this trauma to gawk at and are literally profiting off that?????

You know Will and Ryder were not kids when they wrote the letter? They were in their 20s. Also she mentions pizza gate because the podcast did. Did you watch her episode on it?

So well put!!!! I’m so so glad I’m not alone. I have been collecting some information on this too we should chat

I'm sorry, but this is a group effort at this point, not a one woman show. Alexa is annoying to me for some reason

this is a great video. i feel compelled to say something about the whole drake bell thing, but i do not want to seem too trauma dump-y, all i will say is similar to drake bell, the man who sexually assaulted me as a child had been victimized as a child himself. seeing people practically fight tooth & nail to defend drake bell & shut down any conversation around his own sex crimes had me feeling some type of way. seeing alexa nikolas suddenly lack the nuanced take so desperately needed for this situation was also incredibly disheartening. i would, in a sense, be glad if the man who assaulted me got some sort of justice for the abuse he faced. I sympathize with him in that regard. But i would not be able to cope with, hypothetically, the world painting him solely as a victim when he is both victim & perpetrator & there must be a way to highlight both at once. If that makes sense lol

Please take this with a grain of salt because I am not a mental health professional, but Alexis sounds like a covert narcissist. According to the Cleveland Clinic, here are the traits of a covert narcissist: 1. An overinflated sense of self importance- during the initial coverage of Quiet on Set she seemed mad her story wasn’t featured more. 2. Lack of empathy- this is very clear when she literally doxxed one of Drake Bell’s victims. 3. A need for excessive admiration- you can tell by the way she acts in her podcasts how much she wants people to love and admire her for her charity work. This would also explain her very harsh reaction to being called irrelevant. 4. A sense of entitlement- her insistence upon monetizing her trauma because she didn’t get, what she felt, was fair compensation from Nickelodeon. 5. Surrounding yourself with superficial relationships- sounds kind of like her relationship with Christy and Lindsay. 6. Taking advantage of other for personal gain- the fact that she commandeered the whole Eat Predators operation as well as her sharp turn in defending Drake Bell. 7. Resistance to change- she doesn’t seem to want to go the therapy and do the work to get over her trauma. She seems to want to stay in this victim mentality because she can monetize it and get attention from it. Again, please do not take this comment as me trying to diagnose Alexis or trying to say all victims/survivors of trauma do this, this is just a pattern I’ve noticed looking over the evidence from things Alexis herself has put out.

dude you are converting me like i finally have to break the seal and become a commentary youtuber. watch this space

I lost respect for Alexa with the drake bell thing and how badly she responded to criticism for it, but recently i actually had to unfollow her on IG because she basically has started this huge campaign against Kamala Harris, Kamala isnt perfect yes but seriously a Trump presidency would be millions of times worse, she also paints Kamala as this genocidal zionist when i have a feeling theres evidence she actually supports ceasefire in palestine, like yeah Kamala isnt perfect but i dunno, seeing a white woman like Alexa going in so hard on a black woman doesnt sit right with me, especially since she hyped up a third party candidate white woman in comparison, and people have been going in very hard disproportinately on poc and jewish celebs and public figures in general for not openly doing what they see as enough for Palestine to the point of literal harassment and bullying.

To be fair, Alexa's battle plan might be to act supportive and Friendly with Drake Bell while she is working to hold Dan Schneider accountable. And the moment she has accomplished that, she might turn back around to hold Drake Bell accountable. Ideologically, that would line up with the ideological concept of "Holding space for people, while still holding them accountable". Cynically, I think that by showing outward support for Drake Bell. She's likely earned his trust. Gained access to information from him that she wouldn't other wise be able to gain access to. And thus gained valuable information that she can use to expose Drake Bell as soon as the "Quiet on Set" discourse dies down.

This is a good analysation and hope that CCR and Alexa can learn from especially Alexa because even though her intentions are good but I feel like get trama still has her a bit by the neck to the point that the issues that she highlights trigger her and gives a biased stance which can hurt her cause most times.

Im really enjoying this video! Watching it right now and info is v interesting. One suggestion i have is to edit out the inbetween dead air you have left in. It adds a lot of space that is not necessary. I hope this doesnt come across as hurtful or over critical. Youve gained a subscriber 😊

I'm glad to know this information about eat predators, thank you. I love the nuance corner

Hi Ophie do you take critique from audiences who are interested in this topic on how to maybe make these videos more understandable. Idk if it’s just me, but this was pretty hard to follow with the bouncing back and forth between editing inserts of you clarifying things and the segments of you saying “xyz, but that’ll be clear later”. There’s been abt 3 “oh you’ll know later as this video is structured on” comments and im abt half way through the video. Like I said, it’s hard to follow and I have questions abt when this is all taking place in a linear timeline. The long pauses of seconds of dead air where you take to think is also rather distracting and for me gives moments for my attention to be drawn to something off topic when it happens, and it can be difficult to refocus back on what you say as it happens fairly often. Lastly, the lack of clarity on who’s who in this set up makes some of the things you speak of confusing. You are clearly well spoken and while I don’t necessarily agree with some of your video topics, I appreciate the insight you have and have been following your vids on this specific topic for awhile as we come from a similar place of once being fans of ep and Alexa Nicholas. You have many great insights to say, and you have a audience who’s engaged with them, my advice going forward is perhaps find some ways to make your videos 1) clearer + more concise 2) less dead air moments 3) streamlined into some kind of linear timeline perhaps with a short acknowledgment of who’s who and 4) less “oh you’ll understand what I’m referencing now 5 minutes later bc of the structure.” That needs to be structured better. I want to be able to understand what’s going on better as a audience member invested in following this and I would love to see what you do with any kind of pointers you get to utilize going forward!! Thank you for your time and dedication to the care around a heavy and nuanced topic such as this.

1:54:13 Wait, does she ever mention having a problem with Tarran due to his age-inappropriate relationship with Amanda Bynes when she was a minor?

You articulate so well. I could listen all day

1:37:18 i have still never fully understood what she came forward about her ‘cracking up’ about not getting a book deal is so….

1:41:46 Is that a Glee reference I’m hearing?

I came for the lesbian masterdoc and I’m staying here for the nuance corner! 💕

the Neds declassified people are awful, laughing at the abuse in the documentary is them in a nutshell. CCR is a clout goblin and terrible in a different way and AN is problematic in a different way from all of them. last time I checked on drew she was hiring scabs.

Your content is amazing - look forward to more

Ive always found her 'movement' to be very uncomfortable and not actually supportive of survivors. It's always been supportive for just alexa.

She helped get Brian Peck finally exposed. It wasn’t JUST business insider, it was a combination of multiple actors in an uncoordinated movement. In a world of lies, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.

i agree with you 100000%

Not related but your black lipstick looks so good.

I’ve thought the “logo” of EP is sexuality’s since I first saw it. I don’t understand it one bit. Nope. Not at all. 🤷🏻‍♀️

NEXT DAY UPDATE AND PETITION LINK: Alexa is still out there spouting off into the universe, as Lindsay would say. She's started an exclusive run of $45 nick themed Eat Predators Tees and is blasting HBO/ID for profiting off of the documentary I guess?? I assume she knew she wouldn't be paid when she agreed to sit, this feels like the same deal as deciding after the fact that she wasn't happy that featuring on Vulnerable didn't mean that she owned it in perpetuity and got to make big decisions about it. I think the pushback she's getting about these designs is very well justified. I'm attaching a petition started by a former member of Eat Predators here: www.change.org/p/alexa-nikolas-must-resign-from-eat-predators?signed=true

Love that you waited to be invited to sit with your cat 🐱 ❤

30:00 👋 Hey just a small correction (because i have for some reason listened to every episode of the Ned's pod because i constantly need audio playing in my ears): a lot of the clickbaity stuff particularly about Devon and Lindsey's relationship has been taken out of context and nothing they talk about regarding that was ever on set. They didn't start dating until months after the show wrapped. Theyve addressed this on the pod because people seem to think they were hooking up during production of the show. Honestly, they mostly talk about their lives as adults on the podcast and it's not so much about Ned's declassified except when they have guests on the show. I only say this because from what they tell about the set, it seems like the gold standard of what a set with a large child cast should be like. I think if you just watch out of context clips the picture might be very different than the one they portray in the full episodes.

some fair points but ryder said he was more concerned about how it made hollywood look and pizza gate so no i don't buy they had any remorse at all

You have good analysis, but your microphone girl is not that great.

I really want to listen to what you have to say but you do so much table setting that I am completely lost as to what your point is. Say what you need to say. Why are you couching it in so many pillows that I'm forever lost in what your point even was? I'm trying to watch this video and understand but omg! you've permission to have an opinion and express it without having to explain yourself first. This is so hard to watch. I don't understand what you're saying.

I love Alyson Stoner but she used better help sponsorship without checking and all her comments on there video warned her not to. I stopped watching and following after that

Dont give creators money, I never will

10:10 ME TOO

Great presentation.

I’m loving this video and have kept an open mind as I’ve only recently started becoming disillusioned with Alexa, but those letters written by the BMW cast were not written when they were children. The youngest of them was 19, and the oldest in his late 20’s. And either way, 19 is plenty old enough to know a grown adult having sex with a teenager isn’t ok. They victim blamed the teenage victim and only apologized for the letter when they were given a heads up that they were going to be released. They’ve had over a decade to apologize for them on their own, but chose to keep those actions to themselves. I don’t think they were being genuine or remorseful at all.

Nice cat

Jesus Christ, this is 2 hours of the pettiest bullshit. Eat predators, including Ophie Dokie.

No longer a member as of today and I’ve spent the past week and a half (?) going through almost this exact thought process. I’m a very emotional person but the constant merch plugs, “fake” crying and turning personal beef into a crusade against “all survivors” were starting to bug even me. “COREY FELDMAN IS DRAKE BELL” I didn’t even have to listen to the segment lmao. I still hope that she’ll address this one day, if she continues to support Drake publicly to the extent that she is right now

Got roped up into the Alexa shit until today when watching her new vid. I blatantly remember her making fun of Matt. Made me so sad to see her flip like that. glad that I got recommended this video of yours