This is so wonderful and insightful! Your story of your own personal experience so mirrors mine; I have always found myself attracted to/attracting those "numbers", free-spirit types but since a huge breakup about 2 years ago (I actually divorced that exact same "type" of man", but continue to find the greatest chemistry with those types), I've also started to do more of those types of things that I admired in them on my own and my whole life has shifted. I'm still attracted to them for their strength/confidence/ability to freely explore, but I'm not longer tethered to this idea that I NEED them in order to do the same things. Now I plan trips with friends, have started my own business, etc...It's really amazing how things can shift once you begin to understand what it is that attracts you to certain people. As a result I feel less anxious when getting to know someone, I invest/attach less quickly (which I think is actually good for me), and I feel so much more empowered. Great channel, thanks as always for your inspirational content!
I wonder if you could speak to this particular "type" more? An emotional/intuitive person being attracted to a (seemingly) logical/analytical type. I understand it would probably mean diving into your own personal experiences so maybe that's not what you'd like to do on here. I'm just curious because, as I said previously, this is continuously the "type" of guy I am most attracted to (and attract), even though logically I know not all of their qualities are desireable for a relationship. I have dated other guys that I recognize as being healthier but they decide pretty early that they don't want to continue dating. Are they also just looking for their "type" and not attracted to a more secure attachment style? (I've done a lot of work to get myself from anxious to mostly secure). I don't understand the forces at play here and if I should keep trying with "safer" guys as they don't seem to be interested that much, either haha. Thank you!
You, are so spot on! Thank you Briana for taking this time and posting this type of content overhere. You are very spot on on many levels. Congrats for this!
Always grateful when you share your personal experiences. It weds your expertise and your heart so beautifully and grounds my understanding in unexpected ways.
Hi Briana, thank you for sharing, you are a very beautiful soul and I would like to share some thoughts based on my own personal wisdom. I understand the concept of someone triggering a strong attraction based on something you think is exciting, powerful and strong in the admiration of independence and individuality as a personal mantra. My boring, common sense and experience tells me to be wary of such people, because the reality of it all comes down to something more mundane, consistent and balanced. It is not about a glamorous or fantasy vision of what you think that person is, or if they could would fulfill your needs, but a more calm, secure, comfortable progression of a relationship would make more sense, as long as you can take the primal attraction or chemistry out of the equation lol . I think it is more about commitment to work on a relationship and grow, the right partner can be an incredible mirror for reflection, ultimately it is a marriage of minds ! :)
1:37 I love that.. 💣 Many of us tend to run from that which confronts or challenges us but I think it's so necessary for our growth so I've been learning to embrace it.. 💎 It's super important to have that clear perspective.. 👑 - @Acharich
People need to be aware soulmates there's more than 1 of them. Twin flames are to expand your sould and yes is very painful because it's not how it goes. But u grow ya.
A follow up question for this would be, is it possible to have these encounters with people who are sort 'meant to allow your soul to expand and allow you to face your own inadequacies' for a period of time and thwn onev you're done experiencing them you are perhaps on another journey to meet someone else who serves a similar purpose but Ina different way? I'm asking this as a way to answer another question of when do you realize it's time to let go of people in your life?
You cannot make a mistake? I'm already on the defense at 30 seconds in. You're putting it out there, that action has no recourse. Lying, cheating, stealing, are all part of growth towards being a better person? That stuff happens, often in relationships. There is no positive outcome for one of the participants.
I totally question every traveler. Like yeah eating meat and shopping fast fashion is bad for the environment and you shouldn’t do it but I can still see how people are so used to it that they continue but who in their right mind makes a conscious choice to start flying with airplanes all the time like that’s not the opposite of what we should be doing which is like some sort of activism, like boycotting and working against the giant corporations that stand for most of it, and just any type of political engagement to mitigate the consequences of global warming, you know. It’s like it’s just _such_ a big issue that I cannot understand how one justifies that. And of course I was now just making assumptions, because you can travel by train and boat of course XD It’s just baffling to me that travelers still to this day are looked up to even though what they are doing is in most cases harmful. But then again many people who don’t travel contribute probably as much to climate change, and no singular person could ever even be able mess up the environment as much as the big corporations and in extent politicians... I just think we all can and should stand up for what we can how we can or at least live sustainably or act in different ways for the sustainability of our civilization. Yeah... ~ rant over
Interesting how your discourse leads up only with the external life. And more: external collective mind as if your soul didn’t exist. This intrigues me completely bc I never ever had contact with someone like this but I watch in the news.
