Maybe now all is going wrong and you cannot see any hope but, if it is God will you, your wife and your marriage will be restored. Work on you and try to be patient.
This story is so great to hear! Love that you guys are doing so good and together again. My ex-wife divorced me two years ago now. We have two young children together ages 4&7 and I pray every day that we get back together and we can be a family again. I had an alcohol problem when we were together, that eventually pushed her away. She filed for divorce, and I decided to check myself into treatment. I am now two years sober, and I cannot get over the divorce, I love her more than anything in the world and I want nothing more than to have my family back together. I don’t know how to do it or where to start all I know is that I continue to wake up every day and be the best person and father, I can be hoping that she sees it and wants to give us another try. She met another man a year ago and moved in with him so it’s not like I can try talking to her about getting back together. I just don’t know what to do and I pray, and have faith that she starts to see it and that God can to bring reconciliation to our family. Theirs nothing I wouldn’t do to have our family back together again.
This is my 3rd time watching this video. Thank you for sharing your story. If one person is standing for the marriage, it can change things. Thanks for the encouragement. 😁♥️
Happy Girl1 I’m desperately leaning on these words and my walk with my padre daily ,learning everything once again but paying greater attention. Choose Joy § expect your miracles to be for He says that which will indeed prosper his people unimaginabley
Man I would kill to have a woman like that by my side. She has love, integrity, beautiful from inside out.. thank you for sharing guys! Glad your doing well
@@marleneazevedo1101 really, 'fight for you' eh ? Whats is a wayward spouse, some kind of a prize or a trophy ? Well, if u think that you have to fight or beg for your partner's love and attention then u r a simp. Let'em go. If u treat ur partner as a prize/trophy, then let me tell u that the worth of tropht is onky till its nots taken. Once u win it, it becomes just a showpiece.
@Sudesh Gaur you're misunderstanding everything. You don't fight by begging and making the WS a prize. MH teaches to work on yourself and not beg, plead, to try to convince them to stay. If you do that, then you will get the opposite result.
I think in bed. my marriage is a mess an broken, I’m a believer and my wife is not. I have prayed and fasted and still doing it. And the only thing I see is and experience is strive. There is so much that is in my heart but, this one is that (virtuous woman that the scripture talks about.
Thank you , for sharing your testimony ! It is not easy to share the very intimate details of a marriage, specially when there is not only an affair but your spouse decides to walk out on you and your children . Being in the same situation I completely understand the hurt, shame, and guilt that comes with it. However, you listened to the Holy Spirit to stand for your marriage and you got your miracle. God bless you and your family .
Changed his number the day after? Left her scrounging for money? Carrying on with the side chick for 10 months? Man, that's some jacked up poopty woop... I hope you thank the good Lord everyday for your woman.
Someone who is in an affair doesn't act rationally. I think this girl knew that. What a champ of a wife & what an inspiring story. Thanks random girl on RU-vid!
I was think the same. I’m currently separated from my wife. And I have zero desire to look for someone else. God has broken me. And this is the new me. That guy I kinda don’t like. I’m still supporting my wife and kids despite being separated.
@@johnjaso385 I agree 100%. This guy seems cold. He didn't even give his wife and kids money? Wow. I'm separated from my wife as well and it was all my fault. I'm guilty of an affair and lying about it. But God has broken me as well. I want my wife back very badly now. My heart has changed. I just pray my wife will take me back someday.
Steve Wick gees brother. I will pray for you. It’s been almost 60 days separated for me. It still hurts daily. I’m crying out to the Lord and hoping for a miracle. May God restore you.
@@johnjaso385 Wow guys. I feel so alone sometimes but then I hear stories like yours. I completely know what you're going through. I've also been with other women. My wife, knowing I had pornography problems but when things seemed to be okay, suddenly said she doesn't love me anymore and filed for divorce. I moved out and support her financially. It's been the most difficult time of my life but it has brought me close to God and caused me to seek counseling and make new relationships. I am doing everything to fight for my marriage and be the right person. God completely broke me as well. Now I am working on the new person that I have become and am becoming.
I praise God for your marriage and I thank you for sharing about it. You are a true blessing. My Wife and I have been separated 67 days, now, she says she never wants to come back, never wants to do anything with me, again, but I suspect there's more to her. She's not slept with anyone else (I declare and decree this in Jesus' name) and, really, it's just anger and confusion about how God could allow her to marry a PTSD combat veteran who's had a hard life and is un-Churched when she's a Preacher's Kid and has been in the Church her entire life. I pray to Jesus she comes from that confusion, soon, and turns her face back to God and, by extension, me. I love my Sarah with all my heart, so I pray she will open her heart back up to me, soon. Amen.
Hey you two thanks for sharing your story. Please don’t let any negative comments detour the work you both did together on this thread. Even if others might not understand. The other couples get it. God gets it. Marriage helper gets it. Stay strong. I wish the other women aswell could see the damage this all caused. Specially when mamma texts the pics of the children. Dear God if anyone ever texted me pics of their children my heart would just shatter. Limerence, finally this is getting talked about. Your wife is gorgeous inside and out. Keep strong girl such radiance shines through you. And to all you ignorant comments .... he’s just letting her speak her feelings and the situation. That’s a tough situation to navigate through and very courageous. All the emotions. 😭 God protect them, just protect them both. Listen to the tools of the marriage helper. May you all be in Gods peace. Keep evolving, stay humble - you two - and keep growing stronger and stronger. Strive for the highest mountain. Fuck the impossible and keep showing your possible.
It's so crazy how the one leaving says the same thing every time and thinks that their feelings are unique. And the ones being left reach out for help and get all introspective and go through the same steps lol. The sooner we realize we are fundamentally the same the better off we will be :) And im not saying he's wrong , but I don't know how he couldn't embrace his wife when she started to break down 😢
Yes the unfaithful say the same things. It is crazy, they all of sudden haven’t been in love for years and this has been a long time coming and you’re completely blindsided by all this. It’s so sad!
God bless you guys. I'm sure that was super uncomfortable for your husband. I hope he has a good group of mature men around him who will encourage him and continue to hold him accountable. I know that has been the biggest blessing in my life. God bless!
Tears of joy. Beauty from ashes. Amen. You are blessed, John and Amber. Praise the name of our amazingly good LORD and Savior. Plz pray for my wife. She wants out, and I can’t seem to convince her to work on our marriage. Plz pray that she agrees to attend the MarriageHelp 911 workshop.
I can’t even imagine the pain! I’m going thru hell after found out lover letter from my husband to another woman who is married too, he is cold, bitter with me and I’m so done 😔 he never left us but sometimes I wish he did so we could be calm and I could heal, I’m crying as I watch this , God makes miracles!
I hope and pray it was deep shit. The feelings he showers on her it was for me once upon a time, and now he claims he feels the same for that evil woman! May Almighty serve the two what they deserve!!
Wow this is a amazing story and I am sooo inspired right now. My husband and I have been separated since May and I later found out he has moved to another state. I am hopeful that things can turn around even the more by listening to you guys story. Keep sharing!!!
Praying this for my wife and I , I believe God will work miracles through my obedience to him even though we are in different countries and apart for 10 years . God will fix us Thank you , you are both amazing.
Hey @jamesbyrne4523, We are praying and standing with you! Just out of curiosity, have you taken advantage of our free mini course? We know times are tough and want to provide as much as we can to you free of charge. That's why we created this free mini course. It will teach you how to get your spouse back and give you a plan moving forward! You can get access to it directly by following this link: bit.ly/3FAr9Vg
BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, the man, well I don't Know What to say, seems like something's not RIGHT,, Hope he comes round one day And see what a beautiful woman ( Amber. ) IS,,.
This woman is clearly the "leader" in this marriage. She talks more and is the planner and makes things happen. Unfoutunately, her kindness and toleration is likely an indicator of low self esteem. This man barely speaks; inductive that he is not a leader in his home. Completely out of order. He had the affair; he abandoned his family. As such he should lead in fixing "this." Seems like she did\does all "the work" in reconciliation. He's indifferent and seemingly doesn't want to be there. He didn't say what he is doing to reconcile...not 1 thing. Dude is sitting there like a pillow on a couch. Just there. She is crying over pain he caused; he sits there unphased. She said " I love him more than I ever have"; he made a face and said nothing. She may be better off w/o him. This dude may already be gone emotionally w/ no coming back. 10 months is a long time to lay up with a sidechick while wife is raising 2 tolders and 1 whose ill. Yet, he shows no remorse or gratitude for her willing to forgive and reconcile. If dude keeping "sleeping" on his blessings; GOD will bless this chick with a new GOD fearing/ family centered/ faithful husband that will make her forget dude ver existed. Best Wishes!
All that was based off assumption. You can't judge something by that small sight. Nor everybody like to talk on camera. If you see me I hate taking pictures. In all my pictures with groups it seemed as I'm not happy but it's just I hate taking pictures. Don't paint a picture without paint
Karon G some people are shy or reserved, and some people are outgoing. Maybe he just got off from working a long shift. Who knows.... Remember he’s there, he’s present.
Bless your heart for sharing your personal story. And when you began to tear up about tearing up and he began filling in your words for you...I cried with you girl! Your an amazing woman to stick it out and fight for your Marriage when it seemed hopeless. And its not easy being in his shoes either and Idc what any of the other comments say about him. There were mistakes made by both individuals in different ways but the point is they see the error of their ways and are working to make changes to do the right thing for themselves and children and that's more then most men who have affairs can say it can't be comfortable for him to open himself up to ridicule by people who know him abs who do not so im not at all surprised If he comes across cold or anything else. So keep sharing your story and giving those who don't have any a glimmer of hope!
I need help for my wife kids and myself. We are in a very dark place. Covid. Family deaths. And an unhealthy marriage/family. Please Jesus. Help me help my family stay together.
This was a very beautiful story. However I do have a question for you. How did you trust him again after the affair? And how do you know for sure he cut the communication off with the other woman?
Sis, you made it! You are better than Me! He was cruel. I’m glad you made it and got your family Back with no malice in your heart. The glory goes to GOD. That had to be an unbelievable situation of pain and heartache. . I Hope your husband Thanks God and you everyday for the grace and mercy shown him. Especially when he didn’t have any in the beginning. The good word says “He who Is forgiven much loves much.” Please show this lady all the loves she deserves. I hope you all remain happy. Thank you sharing your story, To let us know we are alone.
This was my favorite reconciliation story yet. My soul needed this. My eyes welled up several times. I wish my wife and I could sit and talk to this couple. I know it would help us.
Omgosh .... my ex-husbands eyes have been so empty. He divorced me almost 3 years ago this month. I’ve been standing on God’s promises. He still texts me every other week and tells me he loves me and that he always will. He lives with the other woman and has stayed away from his sons and even his mom. Totally not who he was. I wish I would’ve been around people who were willing to pray for us and guide us. So inspired to hear yalls story.
Hi Lori, I hope you have moved on. Lives with the other woman and texts you every week ? you are the fallback woman. He is not even madly in love with her, which would be _some_ sort of excuse.
Thank you! For giving me hope. I was starting to lose Faith in Jesus and his help. I'll just keep praying and maybe he will allow my wife to "see" and bring her back to me. All I've been doing is working on myself P.I.E.S. - It's all I can do. I pray we can save our marriage. For me, divorce is not an option, ever. I made vows and so did she to God and we need to honor them. Hearing that you two are complete opposites is very encouraging as well.
A huge standing ovation to Amber and John! Incredible story, incredible couple. I am time and again reminded of the fact that women have immense power in relationships. A woman like Amber can save and revitalize marriages or terminate it. Thanks for sharing.
Because of this story I’m calling them right away. !!! The money is going to be spent on attorneys or maybe this. I pray my husband will agree and go with me ASAP. I want to get my family back on track before it gets to the point of him moving out. He recently broke the news to me that he is wanting a divorce. So he hasn’t left yet. I pray there’s hope. Your video gave me a lot of it Thank you for sharing ❤️
Praying for this for me and my Wife 🤍 staying strong and trusting God. It’s out of my hands just hoping and praying for the best that me and her can rebuild our marriage with God at the center of our love🤍🙏🏽
I will he honest and don't think I would have put up with his behaviour. Specially if there was another woman even with children. However , glad it worked out for them. Why would anyone want to be with a woman who tears a family apart?
Thank you for sharing your story... I'm glad things worked out. I hope you guys make it to be 2 old folkies sitting in rocking chairs on the front porch. Marriage is so hard... but I believe if both parties make a true effort to make it work...IRON WILL COMMENT... I believe it will work. NOT SAYING ITS EASY. but it can be a beautiful thing.
Jesus forgived, healed and said go sin no more... lots of people talk about what they would do... but they never put Christ first or allow the Holy Spirit to work through them. They are coming from a world perspective of what we should do.
After many years my divorce came at an age (I think) 20 years older than you guys. Horrible at first but BEST THING EVER it turned out😊😊 I thank God for me and my X wife. We really needed it.
I hate the whole system. So many people are profiting off the destruction of marriages. Keep standing, keep praying, keeping obedient to God, listen to as many testimonies of restoration as you can, work on yourself, love with a spirit and keep on praying for unity. Believe!!!
Jeez so much judgement from people in the comments section. How about if we just let these two work out their own marriage without deciding one partner is deficient? Work on your OWN problems; they’re enough for you.
He is just dry🙄 she needs you to comfort her when she cries.Dear God give this woman the strength and patience and this man the knowledge to understand how she is still hurting.
People stop making your marriage your idol. God’s main concern and priority is salvation for all His children. Let’s us remember that there is no marriage in heaven and believe it’s for a good reason (no more drama).
Marriage is a covenant before God and honoring that is pleasing to Him and beneficial to your salvation. People who work at it are in the right, shame on you for trying to shame them
I know exactly what you’re feeling. Keep standing, working on yourself, listening to testimonies of restoration, praying and learning how to fight the spiritual battle that is going on. God’s will is to restore our marriages and have them thrive!
Read Love & Respect Book! By emmerson Eggerich. my problem is Cutting him off when he talks & that's disrespectful. Over time, it causes major problems. I'm learning this the hard way!
That god damn limerence is a bitch. It comes outta nowhere. First time I heard of limerence was on this channel. It saved me. Hope you are both doing well. All the best.
He still doesn't seem alive. His face looks flat and only interjected when she allowed him to. She dominates the relationship maybe not intentionally but he lets her. I'm glad they reconciled but i don't think they're out of the woods to a safe, stable, vibrant marriage. I know I had to learn same thing as a wife is to pull back and allow the husband to be the head of the household. Not in the sense of subjugation but her Personality seems to just jump in and lead and i recognize it bc I struggle with this too
It’s so important for the man to lead his family spiritually. God knew what he was doing when he commanded women to submit to their husbands and husbands to submit to Christ. A husband submitting to Christ is a man who’s always trying to do the right thing for his family, not being selfish in anyway. Then it should be easy for the woman to submit back. This creates a loving relationship.
I listen to your family’s story frequently. Praying that God has this miracle for us. I’ve putting tons of work in on myself. It’s tough, really tough.
This is an awesome tenacious story delivered by this wonderful couple who overcame the pitfalls of separation possible divorce!! Although, Marriage Helper appears to be a great marriage supporting organization, I wish that they also allow to invest in gay married couples as well. Sadly, I think they do not. This organization is capable of helping and supporting all everyone!! Love is Love and marriage is marriage.
Amy- That is discussed rather frequently in the Save My Marriage Course that MH offers. They discuss the “ why “ behind wearing vs. not wearing your ring. That question is presented to me on a regular basis . I personally struggled with the idea of to do with my ring during the year my husband was gone.
God bless you both for overcoming all that life has thrown at you. I'm standing for my marriage now, it's gut wrenching the pain I feel...separated four months....lines of communication broken down. But I'm hopeful!. Praying and standing for my marriage and guidance from the holy spirit is convicting me to keep praying - you're both an inspiration to everyone.of us. With love and hope alive inside my heart, all things are possible, with a lot of patience, forgiveness and understanding. Thank you for sharing your story....I hope life is being kind to you both.
This is my fourth or 5th time watching this video and im also standing alone for my marriage. Which is falling fast.. and i wishing for a miracle that, i can take my wife to this workshop and would do sometime to her Decision. Of not wanting to work on our marriage. I love this women with all my heart and my family means everything to me. she is truly my better half. I pray everyday that i can turn this around.... Jon you have no idea how lucky you are that even with an affair this women was willing to fight for her marriage. Again you should be greatful.
Juan, so sorry you are going through a tough time. I hope your marriage is restored soon. I know the pain. My husband left me and our 2 kids 2 months ago without warning and it’s hurts constantly. He no longer loves me just wants to find someone else. He doesn’t want to try to fix us. This is worse than death because in death they don’t choose to leave you. The rejection is awful and I see no hope. My kids are struggling and I’m hurting for them too and also frightened for my future alone, financially etc. Good luck and stay strong. X
She is so sweet. This is a great story. My husband went to see his div atty two weeks ago. I had gone to see min a year ago. Neither of us want a divorce but neither of us can see how we can keep on here. I have gone to counseling-he will not go. I have read the books-he will not. Sounds similar to the above..still praying for a miracle...
SORRY. SEEMS TO ME THAT HE HAD ALL THE MONEY AND SO THAT WOULD NATURALLY PLACE HER IN A CRUCIAL VULNERABLE STATE. WOULD SHE EVEN HAVE RETURNED OR PURSUED HIM IF SHE HAD HER OWN FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE?
It’s so much harder when you unfortunately don’t have kids. There’s no communication between me and my wife. She won’t respond to anything, I’ve been doing smart contact for 5 months and nothing has changed. I feel so hopeless standing for my marriage alone
I love listening to your story! I can't count how many times I've watched this video. I have been following marriage helper since my H left me about a year ago and just recently got him to do the workshop. He seemed to vacillate after the workshop and I know you said your H did as well. How did you handle that? Did your H have any struggles completely cutting off communication with the OW once you guys agreed to reconcile?
Such a Beautiful testimony! We are getting ready to share ours and this has brought so much clarity on how to respectfully share. Such Beauty from Ashes. ❤️
A beautiful testimony of God and the church, marriage, and how Love conquers all. I'm glad Jesus is still being the Author of your marriage instead of Satan having the last say-so. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for taking the time to tell your story. I'm in a similar situation with my wife. You were and are so strong and full of determination. I have days where I want to give up and let my wife go. I completely feel the same way you did with your husband in terms of when I look into my wife's eyes. She's not there. She's someone else. I'm working on my pies throughout this. My core value in marraige is so strong that I'm having a very hard time excepting what she is doing. You've given me strength to keep going here. Thank you so much. I laughed when you said down by the river. I aways joke about living in a van down by the river. Thanks again.
I feel like when I hear of ppl cheating, no one is perfect. All people have good and bad qualities. Not saying stay because there’s not anything better, if you’re being abused, or truly need to leave.
@Amber Nickle so happy for you, I am going through same now,and no workshop close to where we live.i am wondering is it hope without workshop for reconciliation?
This is inspiring.....Me and my husband are going through a separation right now and he has just started dating someone else. I have been watching these RU-vid videos and it's nice to know that maybe one day he might come back
I hope we can work out our marriage. I really dont envision my wife ever going to this, im sad about that. I ask her to talk about things and she won't because she said she's tired of relationship discussions... This is so hard
Im trying to mantain strong for my marriage, and keeping hope. But i just found out my wife is starting to take down pictures of us from her instagram. This felt like a punch in my stomach.
I'm so glad I found this video. You both have given me hope for my damaged marriage. My wife and I have been having terrible problems for quite a while. She sleeps in a separate bedroom from me and I desperately want her back. We are separated and I'll be moving out soon but I don't want to. I want my wife back. I have new hope because of your video. Thank you.
Hey Jaden, thanks for your comment. However, 3 out of 4 people who attend our marriage workshop choose to stand for their marriage and reconcile. We are trying to change the statistics about the amount of people who choose to stay married even when things get hard. We hope you found this video helpful! Please consider subscribing!
I am so hopeful that my wife and I will someday have the opportunity to make a video sharing our story of hope. I am looking forward to experiencing the workshop with her, and I am praying that God will convict her heart. Congratulations Amber and John Louis!
@@andreytsatsulin5748 It did not work out. I would eventually learn of more lies and she has continuously done things to harm our family. I have ended my stand and am moving forward with my life. I still hope that God will convict her, but not because there is anything left for us. I wish her well, but do not want her in my life anymore. Despite the loss of that relationship, God has restored so many other things in my life. I am thankful for his grace and redeeming love, even if it doesn't look exactly like I had hoped...it's much better than I ever thought possible!!!
His facial expressions say a lot and none of it is good. 27:37 was painful to watch. She deserves better... As long as she is happy (that they both are happy, really), then that is what matters.
I think he’s trying to lessen the tension & make her laugh..the outside looking in can be so black & white but humans & life is not like that. And you are right, as long as they’re happy, their family is happy. It’s their life that’s what matters.
