An Introduction to Male Shame 

This man deserves the Nobel Prize

"Guilt is I have made a mistake Shame is I am a mistake" Great words! Thanks Paul

My mother once went to a therapist to see what was wrong with her, because she was losing friends, her kids hated her, her husband was considering leaving her. Her therapist, after listening to her story, instead of helping her dealing with her shortcomings, she told her that she was surrounded by toxic people. How helpful is that?

I live in South Africa and here it is quite normal for men in relationships to have to ask permission from the missus before doing something.A friend of mine wanted to get a motorbike after seeing mine.His wife promptly proceeded to tell him that he have a choice.He can ride a bike if he so chooses,but then he will not be riding her anymore.I will never forget that day!That was the day I decided that I will not be treated in a similar manner ever.

This is why you go MGTOW. Let these little girls grow old with their cats. I will keep my cash and the things I love to do.

My then wife and I tried marriage counseling in 2005 to revive our disaster of a failed, loveless marriage and what you described is basically what happened. Well, I wanted to revive it. She wanted to use a counselor to beat me into submission so I'd stop complaining about our loveless, sexless marriage and accept that I didn't deserve better. Oh, the first couple sessions was the typical claptrap of back and forth. She gave us a survey to do. We argued while the counselor lounged in her bare feet. It finally went in the shitter after the two of them had a one on one session and between the two of them they managed to figure out that everything that was wrong was my problem. I didn't take care of her, didn't make her feel safe and secure in the bedroom. My ex-wife has MS and I spent hundreds of hours taking care of her with multiple physical issues and hearing them make that bullshit up sent me over the edge. I walked out and never went back to that therapist. Two years later we were divorced. Men, if you see the red flags, GET OUT. If you're lucky enough to see them before you get married, run like your ass is on fire and the nearest body of water is 10 miles away.

Been married 10 years. About 5 or 6 in addiction issues had popped up for me. I owned it and went to rehab and did the right thing. When I came home she demanded we go to marriage counseling. I said “ok” bc I love this women very much. 1 first session was about me and the drinking and drugs. However when we walked in and sat down for the 2nd session the tables were turned and we talked about her and things she needed to change to be more productive in our marriage. After that we never went back. Lol.

You're fine wine Paul... getting better as you go. I appreciate the hard work you do to articulate these issues so concisely and effectively for this RU-vid platform. What you are doing here is not easy, nor popular, but oh-so necessary for men and boys.

I don't even know how to begin......"Thank you for this", just doesn't cover it. Your statement between 14:20 and 15:10 summed up my (now past)marital situation with an accuracy bordering on the un-natural! A 19 year marriage marked with so much misery and loss that drove me to nearly take my life (and this is not hyperbole). I have since turned my life completely around and am rebuilding my life, career and happiness in China as a MGTOW, away from all of the toxic influences and people who in the end cared NOTHING of my well-being and once they could extract nothing else from me, threw me away like yesterday's garbage. It was a lesson that cost me 20 years of the prime of my life. But the knowledge I have gained is a pearl of great price. Thank you again for the work you do here. I hope to one day share my knowledge and experience and wisdom in a similar fashion. I would not have the next generation of men repeating my mistakes.

Shame is the tool for thought pruning. "racist... sexist... chauvinist..." And that's just online! In the real world we get shaming in far more subtle ways. Another thought provoking video.

This experience of putting a man in therapy like that reminds me of the medieval practice of breaking a man on the wheel. Am I missing something?

Nietzsche: What do you consider the most humane? - To spare someone shame. What is the seal of liberation? - To no longer be ashamed in front of oneself.

Thank you for this video. It not only brought me to tears, it has also set me free. Shame was weighing me down and I didn't know. Thank again, God bless you.

If you dont feel shame, They cannot Control you..... But they sure do HATE you when they realize they cant control you. X-D

I recently watched the documentary The Red Pill. I am a woman. It was so interesting, I watched it again. This perspective from the male side of the street is essential. I shared one of Paul's videos with a woman friend, and she immediately became angry. I asked her to check out some of the videos out there of hostile man hating feminists and their vicious rants about men. Paul's points about men's and boy's rights must be heard, and he doesn't have to be nice about it. I shared some of the knowledge I gained from the documentary and from MRA videos with my husband, and we had a very productive and insightful conversation. In all, I have come away with a more truthful and and healthy understanding of this male person, my friend, who I am married to. It was for the better. Keep it up Paul!

Paul is literally saving lives.

My ex wife was the type of soviet woman that can drive any man to alcoholism. Lucky for me I naturally dislike drugs alcohol or smoking. Otherwise I would be an alochilic for sure. This may sound odd to some people. But when i feel depressed it helps me to cycle on my bicycle for 30 minutes + . my bicycle helped me through after her abuse and the divorce. I hope this message helps someone.

I really enjoy your videos. I am almost 40 years old and most of those years were spent in virtual despair with regards to women, relationships, and my role in the world. Thanks for putting everything in context.

Needed this today as i have to go to family xmas party where i get shamed by the husbands and wives for my nightmare relationship with my ex. They blame me for my kids being takenfrom me, used as extortion,weapons of pain. I not have custody and get 0 respect, none. Millions n millions of men experience this daily, 24/7 365. Stay strong fellas! Thank you so much, Paul ✌🍻

Paul this is Aces ThankU. Love John Bradshaw!!! Alas, the shaming of men is heartbreaking. In my case, started in infancy, gynocentric family system. Choked on shame sandwich. I'm old & single. Yet an old woman friend is pulling this crap, with the protection of an old guy (gynocentric) friend. Your words are so so useful

I’m a marriage and family therapist female and I love your video. I will say that strategy wise, In the beginning I do a lot of empathizing with the hurt person for a few sessions and then I start to turn it. To the bigger picture of patterns and relating. But I have found if I don’t take time to empathize with the hurt person. They don’t continue treatment, as usually the hurt person is the driver that got them there. But just this week with a couple, after 4 sessions, I started to turn the tide.

Great stuff, Mr Elam. Please continue to do what you are doing.

Thank you for your selfless contributions to mankind. You are a great man.

I love how you distinguished guilt from shame. Shame has been a cancer to the modern man.

Speaking of accountability, through 32 years of knowing her my single mother has NEEEVER acknowledged she is at fault at any wrongs. She always flips the card and points her finger at someone else. Someone gotta be held accountable, but not her.

I would like to say thank you for your work - with videos you make. I am a woman, but I can relate in many ways and many times when I listen and learn from your videos about victims or survivors from abuse from people with BPD. I am a daughter of a mother with that chronic disease. For almost 30 years I was searching for info, understanding, encouregment, empowerment support and health for myself. I came very far and needed to put tremendous work and effort to heal myself. Of course without many years in therapy, studying books etc and being active and motivated to stay sane and motivated I wouldn't be where I am now. I am glad you are sharing your knowledge and experience with globe as I can find support for myself too.

You are so right. I’ve had to deal with this in my extended family. We had a relative that her husband and as a federal employee and worked in D C upon retirement they moved to the west cost where we live so a lot more inner action. Time went on his wife would comment on his being on the computer for hours in the basement; but she was dumb to what was going on. She was vary hard to live with-etc a nag and more . One day she caught him sneaking in a bottle of vodka. Well it turned out he would spend hours in the basement looking at who knows what on the computer and drinking vodka and she was unaware of it. Well he died due to excessive alcohol consumption. As years went on after his death I had to deal with his widow, then I could see why he had a drinking problem

Few ask pertinent questions to complex situations. Paul you are one of the few. Please don't STOP. You're sorely needed.

This guy is very much needed out there

Women these days act like they deserve all the attention, and when they do not get it, they get mad or upset. Why are men so willing to give these types of women even the time of day?

GREAT CONTRIBUTION dear Paul - again ! ^¹⁰⁰⁰⁰⁰⁰⁰⁰⁰ *THANK YOU for YOUR* *PRECIOUS TIME & EFFORT !!* Grüße aus Köln 🤗

Back in the 1970s, Mad Magazine had an article entitled, "You Can Never Win With a Bigot." The gist of the article was that bigots play a game of "heads I win, tales I win." For example: A waiter would say, "Boy, that Goldberg table really has me hopping." To which his bigoted co-worker would say, "Penny-pinching Jews, I'll bet they stiff you on the tip!" In the next panel, the first waiter would return excitedly saying, "They tipped me $200 dollars!!" To which the bigoted waiter would reply, "Waddya expect? Those people got all the money in the world!" This article came to mind when my ex insisted our seeing a marriage counselor if I wanted to save "my" marriage. She chose a Mormon as a counselor which was odd as I knew she was bigoted against Mormons. The counselor was very professional and didn't try to shame me in any way; she was fair and even handed. She also told me privately that my ex was "nuts." Later, in a moment of exasperation I shared this with my ex, and she dismissed it with something to the effect of, "What you do expect from that idiot? She's a Mormon." Had it gone the other way, and the counselor had said *I* was "nuts," my ex would have no doubt had said, "See?? Even the Mormon thinks you're the problem!!" It was that old Mad Magazine article all over again!

I agree. My gf likes to always tell me how I made her feel the way she feels and I always try to tell her that she may feel a certain way but I don’t make her feel that way.

2019 and shocked to just learn about MGTOW. Even more shocked to realize I been MGTOW for 25 years already. Great video, Paul.

Paul, you truly are a blessing! You are speaking exactly what most men can't seem to put into words. You speak from OUR hearts and souls giving us concept to what it is we are feeling or going through. We need this!!! Thank You!!!

The truth at last. Thanks, Paul & long may you run.

Thanks for that one. It makes me speechless how many situations come to my mind, having seen this. Still down and feeling broken, recovering. Sincerely from Lower-Saxony in Germany.

I make fun of those Dear Abby type of columns because they only hear one side of the story, usually the females' side. She writes in complaining about her man after she has compiled enough evidence against him to assure a one sided verdict from the psycho- columnist while omitting her fault contributions to the maligned relationship. This is because she needs an immediate fix for her damaged emotions while knowing deep down that she herself has contributed much if not all to the dysfunction.

Omg!!!! This is RIGHT ON!! I spent 30,000 on therapy and boy did i hear all about me. Our culture is geared against men. My wife’s up bringing is filled w abandoning and molestation. A therapist asked me “ did you rescue her or marry her”? I rescued her. But its been a long rough ride. 27 years married, 3 kids. Im hanging in to not abandon my very smart girls. And developmentally disabled son. My wife had an affair w one of my family members. It really hit me blindsided. Ill forgive, but never forget.

This talk makes me think of myself. When I get angry, I usually get flustered and don't know what to say. With time to think, I can see where I may be right or wrong. But in the heat of an argument, all those clear thoughts go out the window.

This is more than valuable than i can express in a comment section. Thank you very much sir. I was slapped awake hearing this. One of the best videos ive ever watched on you tube.

marriage and divorce are the biggest racket run by "family court judges"

Paul is a true visionary.I am so glad I have found his channel.I was beginning to think I am the only one to notice this things he so elegantly talk about on this channel.Please keep on doing this great work.Respect!

I very much enjoyed the expression "guilt is I made a mistake, shame is I am a mistake" very well said Mr. Elam

I've listened to several of your videos. My dad would have loved you...lol. I was raised with 4 brothers and my dad. No women really present. Boy, am I blessed to have the upbringing I did. I learned so much about the male thinking, that I actually think like one ( for the most part). I think it's great that men are standing firm for themselves. Women ( actually girls) have become an embarrassment to society. They never grow up in anyway but physically. Sad state of affairs we're living in!

"Why should I give a fuck about any of these idiots." Thanks for the laugh.

OG. Chauvinist: A man who refuse to comply with his own subjugation.

Thank you, Paul. This video is very important. I got rid of shame a long time ago. It's what allows me peace of mind. I realized that shame is the go to tactic for women and the men that have been raised solely by them. Anytime you express any kind of opinion that goes against the popular narrative, here comes the shame patrol. I remember telling one person in a youtube comment section to shove his shaming tactics up his ass. That's the mentality men should have imo. A sense of self and the conviction to stand up for what you believe in no matter how unpopular it is. And most importantly, men should never, EVER, let women define what being a man is. Never seek validation from them. Validate yourself through your own achievements and lifestyle. I'd love to hear a video for An Ear For Men on this issue of men seeking validation from women and women trying to define what being a man is.

Some of the best advice a young man needs. Whether his father teaches this over time, or he leans it from examples seen or heard such as this. Paul, I was considering doing this for many years as I watched boys, and men deal with inadequate treatment, demeaning demands, and truly be devastated by both a spouse, girlfriend, and/or the family court system. Thank you for all you do. It will not be unnoticed or unappreciated.

I just finished watching the Mr. Bradshaw video on shame. It was very empathetic and thought provoking. 55 minutes well spent. Thank you Mr. Elam.

am glad i found your channel. the information is right on time for me i've spent most of my life henpecked by women. i've mostly picked narcissistic women. who've nearly destroyed me. no more. am on my way to some well needed mental and spiritual health. thanks, again!

Brilliantly articulated. I wish I could give this 2 thumbs up!

Another one out of the park, Paul. Your videos are like bitter, bitter medicine, but it heals the cancer within us men. I often find I have to pause the video, catch my breath, and review parts of my life. Your commentary often hits way too close to home, and can cut like a surgeon's blade. Thank you, and keep up the incredible work!

Don't let the bastards grind you down!.

Paul, I just watched "Healing the Shame That Binds You John Bradshaw." He was quite a brilliant man. Even describing him as brilliant doesn't seem to be enough to describe his brilliance. Great advice you given. It is invaluable. It opens the mind even more.

Thank you so much for being here, you’re saving so many lives.

you hit the nail on the head thank you for all the work you do

My goodness... this is gospel. Excellent commentary sir. Thank you for articulating what so many of us feel daily.

Everyone in my family is against me and my happiness so I keep quiet and build

ALL of this complaint was about the husband looking around Fecalbook for those people, places and things that were of interest to this guy, primarily from his past. AND SO WHAT??, is he really guilty of be curious?, what ever happened to so and so, or the gal that I took to the Prom 25 or 30 years ago. Yeah, really heavy stuff here, she should have called the Swat Team. If this poor sap gets so little out of his life with this shallow bitch, can anybody really fault him for cruising FB for the brief moments of greener pastures??

Here from one of Sydney MGTOW's videos. Liked and subbed.

Excellent talk as always, Paul!!

You're like the father I never had. Thank you for all the wisdom on this channel. I will continue watching for as long as it's around.

Deep Insight brother. Women shaming practices are unparalleled.

Ive only viewed a few of your videos. However i will say i needed this man. For some time I’ve been wondering the premises of relationships. I think this is due to the emotional crutch men have upon women nowadays. Andrew tate has been a top figure recently on speaking out against feminism. Men taking the charge back like past generations have had it. I cannot wait to learn more regarding a better mindset to this chaos we call changing times. Thank you 🙏🏽

It's infuriating to know that in every situation the man is instantly believed to be at fault

I am just as so many other people are, so grateful to you Paul for all of these videos. Your commentaries are not just educational, these videos are in some odd way very relaxing. My conclusion though is first there is absolutely no incentive that will convince me to ever marry. Last, I am convinced that my family was never a "happy family" because my parents were never happy together as "husband and wife" first. My parents have been married for 53 years and were together for 5 years before that. They still boil each other's blood with the same problems from personality differences and breakdowns in communication that I remember going on more than forty years ago. The whole marriage and family thing are two endeavors that have honest to God become real life nightmares for men with no fix possible.

Gaaaaahd damn...I love your content. I'm going to binge watch your shit. Cutting yet will balanced. I'll watch the video you mentioned by Bradshaw. Infinite thanks!

Once again you are telling me the story of my life... You are more of a help to me than really anyone has ever been. Love you brother

Do you have a playlist of just you monologues? I like the other presenters but I have adhd and the group chats I can’t focus like I can with one presenter. Quality content. Thanks.

Great video. You blew broken and the therapist out of the water. Way da go paul..

This video is a fine wine 🍷 it’s aged so well

You have become "A voice of reason and sanity" for me lately. Thanks for your wisdom Paul.

Something similar to this happened to me in the family part of treatment. I still get angry when I think about it, but at least I have clarity. 12 years sober btw, I took responsibility.

Beautifully spoken!

Thank you Paul,you definitely know your shit and it has helped me understand so much.I constantly get the shame and blame placed on me,your words have opened up new doors.Thanks again.

Great video. In that short time you made me think in a new way. Thank you, sir. I remember being dragged through counselling with my then-fiance. It was awful and one giant shame fest. I hadn't thought about it in years, but I remember being shamed about something beyond my control and arguing back a little bit (I cannot claim any bravery, I was just sure I was right) and by doing so, the counselor proclaimed me "abusive" and strong-armed my fiancee to break up with me. In retrospect, that cunt was doing me a big favor. But there is a physiological power that two or more women can generate against the male psyche via shaming. It feels like you have no recourse, and women are so unforgiving. He says, "Be shameless". That is a tall order, sir. I fear it is programmed into us.

Paul,i would like to say thank you to you and also to other great minds like Dr.T for the best education I ever had or could have ever had at this point in my life.

Which brings me back to the question: Whither the Men's Mental Health Network? Is that still on the horizon? A clearinghouse of mental health resources for men devoid of the standard shame and blame seems like such an important and worthwhile project.

this guy just summed up 20 yrs of marriage, I'm glade I donated

. . . thank God I found this video and thank God for you, you are truly a blessing sir, please continue to bring light to this fucked up world

Paul... I think I might be your new biggest fan. Your work is fantastic. I just bought your book. Keep writing! X

So True! Thank you for the John Bradshaw link!

I got to watch my Dad go through therapy like this. There was no one to stand up for him and he just had to take it. Even at the time, I knew there were just as many mistakes made on my Mom's side as well, but she and the therapist tag teamed my Dad and simply beat him down.

I noticed right away your well spoken words. Good work. Great insight. Thank you.

Thanks for the J Bradshaw tip!

Yes he is a very clever man, if not he is very well researched, I say he is both. Keep up the good work Paul.

thanks for that link to bradshaw. lots of guys can use him to yank out the deep-rooted shame. his methods work. i discovered him 5 years ago(only). his "healing the shame....." dates back to "87. right on.. take note of the link, gentlemen. RIP, john bradshaw. normally i don't think of contributing to podcasts, youtubers, etc. but this is a lot different. there are important things at stake in this game. when i get it all sorted out, i'll fire along a little $$$ to help keep these and mancasts going. as far as charities go, sometimes words of wisdom go as far as a christmas basket.

I don't know where to start. This hits so deeply into so much of my previous marriage I couldn't even put into words at the time. Thanks Paul for putting this into perspective for me. So grateful I'm single now.

Poor guy. Seems like the real issue was that he got married. We need more men speaking up like this Paul Elam.

Another great video. Reminds me of a friends experience when he attended couples counseling on the insistence of his wife. She thought she was going to have an ally in the counselor on her quest to shame and blame him. When the counselor did her job properly and started asking some hard questions of my friends wife, she couldn't believe it...this isn't what I paid for!!

Thanks, Paul. Really working on my self-awareness this year and after 6 years single (by choice) I'm now opening up and getting to know a woman. It's a pleasure to start building a couple with values on the table and self respect as a man. Thanks again.

I have to admit, I just got dumped from a relationship that was built on shaming me, plus im now about 90% certain that she has BPD. its been an extremely hard and emotional 2 years, and ive felt completely lost since it happened. but, your videos have been extremely helpful to me in getting my mind back, and regaining focus in trying to remember who the hell I was before I met her.. thank you.. Also, I want to speak on the what drives men topic you touched on right at the end. i know that im not a psychiatrist, and this is just one man's opinion based solely on his experiences in the world, and how he views others and himself. also I know that this isn't in stone, because situations change people, and everybody has to adapt to fulfill the needs in they're lives, so people will sway around between these 3 types, but everybody generally sticks to 1 of these 3 the most, and that's what says the most about what type of man he is.. now, the best way that I've figured out to categorize it in a way that makes the most sense to me, at least: they are driven by either their wallet, their dick, or their heart.. wallet- some are trustworthy if they're a little more grown up, because they see that the more you burn bridges, the less opportunity you have to make the thing you desire most.. money. some extremely untrustworthy, usually younger and will go to any length to get yours or anybody else's money in their wallet.. if a man is lead by his heart, then he wants to be a good provider and roll model for his family, and friends, he's trustworthy because he doesnt make promises in hopes of getting something in return. he makes promises because he wants to do better for you, and because he wants to make sure you have everything you could ever need or want.. especially if those things help to improve your personal life, or help you in your career, or schooling. he just wants better for you because your in his heart.. And he doesnt plan on that ever changing. So he never intends to make false promises.. yea, sometimes life happens, and things have to get adjusted some. But that doesn't make him a bad guy. And sometimes he just hasn't had adequit time to fulfil said promise, but he still has every intention of doing so.. But as long as the people that he loves, love him back, and everybody is there for eachother, then this is the best type of man in the family, and friend dynamics. But he does have his downfalls.. loving other humans so much is dangerous territory, because mostly every person in this world is out for numero uno.. And being there for somebody, and when your willing to do so much for them, even if it means sacrificing yourself in the process, when you start to realise that same person that you care so deeply about, doesn't have the same view as you do on being there for eachother, you see it as, #1 is your family as a whole.. then #2 And so on is your job, home, cars, blah blah blah.. she list of priorities are #1 her, #2 is you or her/both of y'alls kids or her job or however she sees her list. But as long as she sees you any lower on the list than herself, then your only going to start dropping further and further down that list as time goes by. And that's the man lead by his heart's biggest downfall.. every time he realises it, he's no longer happy about everything he's doing for the people he loves. he's no longer motivated to bust his ass day in and day out for everyone in his family, because he knows that they wouldn't do the same for him.. And no, he never did it to get something in return from anybody in his family. But he knows if they dont see him the same way, then he's no longer this amazing, loving, caring person, that would give the shirt off of his back to anybody that needed it, he's turned into your personal slave and you just figured out the easiest way to control him. And his realisation of that powers him down to almost a complete standstill in life, because everything that he truly believed with his heart, in life, was just smoke and mirrors, and he realized that the person he loved more than anything or anyone else on this earth, has done more damage to him than any accident or car wreck ever could.. And most of the time, the little seed that brought on the change in her that eventually led to this was all started by the third type of man.. if their dick is in the driver's seat, then they are, for the most part, completely untrustworthy in the social setting.. in business, or at work they re pretty good employees because they know that it's harder to get paid with a shitty job, or a crappy apartment that you share with roommates. as always, women are attracted to money, their only wanting the easiest way possible to get what they desire. So it's a no brainer. get a good job and keep it, no matter how much you hate it, you get rewarded later on with women, and it all evens out. now on the social side.. to a guy friend, you can expect him to almost always be single, and cancel on you for no real reason, and if y'all are out he may disappear for an hour or 2 or for the rest if the night, and he's always going to be texting people constantly because he's always got one thing on his mind. to woman, no woman is ever really his friend. just prospects that he has to work harder to get. he will say any and everything to get what he wants, he will boost your ego, and be there for you on your side when your venting about the issues in your current relarionship, and will always tell you that your better than your significant other, and that you should leave them in the dust. if he makes a promise, you better make sure he fulfils said promise before anything happens physically between y'all, cause once he gets what he wants, everything he said, and promised you will be gone, shot all over your back, just like his "man seed" left there for you to wipe off while he takes a nap.. he will fill your head with all kinds of bullshit in order to get what he wants, and with our world and social media how it is, he is the biggest ruiner of relationships and marriages, because he's messaging 100 women a day, feeding every one of them the same bullshit, and alot of the ones in relationships are buying into this crap, and it's helping to feed the whole shaming of their current partner aspect, because their comparing these completely fake, totally unrealistic promises of all of these random assholes trolling for women thru social media and comparing all of these false promises to their current real life boyfriend/husband and all of the good and bad that comes with a real life scenario vs, a fantasy situation. So since the woman is being untrustworthy and even waisting the time to talk to these assholes, they in turn beat down the man who is actually there for them, and is And will do way more for them then all these fake ass dudes combined. And as they beat on them for not providing a fantasy life for them, the guy gets worse and worse and more emotionally unable to be the best husband / boyfriend he can be, and wants to be for her. And in turn it makes the situation worse.. plus, we all know that the woman hasn't stopped or even slowed down talking to these fake ass dudes, spreading their bullshit lies, and they've probably started doing it even more. And probably has or will very soon fall far enough into the trap these assholes are setting, and has cheated on the husband/boyfriend and has rationalized it in her head as to why is was perfectly ok to do, since the man that's supposed to be doing all of this completely unrealistic bullshit, isn't doing "what he's supposed to" yet he's doing everything he's supposed to, and probably at this point handling alot of your responsibilities for you. to try to make you happy, and make you appreciate him more, and in turn makes you happier with him, and the relationship better.. But instead if just fills up all of the mans time, and makes him too tired to be this cheerful, energetic, happy person that she used to be attracted too.. plus, now she's got a shit ton of spare time on her hands, and nobody to talk to, or to get that emotional connection with that she craves, because your so busy, but guess who is there to fill that void?? that's right.. all the assholes that don't give a shit about who they hurt, or what they ruin to get what they desire most in the world.. some pussy.. any random pussy..

Thank you, Paul. Very grateful for your work.

These videos saved my life. Literally.

This really helps clarify past failed relations and really sifts out and pinpoints truths on a whole nother level .thank you so much for sharing this sir..

these videos have been so helpful 2 me so big thank you to an ear for men

This channel is gold. It feels like as a man these days that women hold all the keys, and that the mere suggestion that they aren't perfect and can make mistakes automatically makes you a misogynist

These women writing in, have been married longer than "Dear Annie" has been alive. AND THEY TAKE HER ADVICE ????

Glad to have found your channel, thanks man Peace and love from Bristol, England