Are YOU Being Dog Whistled? 5 Types Of Narcissistic Dog Whistling 

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They try to cause you distress on purpose because they get pleasure out of it. Absolutely sickening!

They usually act totally different in public!!

Dog whistle...perfect!!! Only the targeted victim of the narcissist's abuse hears it !!

Once you've learned about 1 narc, you're cured of the rest.

Narcs are the reason it's difficult for me to get too close to people nowadays. I am terrified of getting involved with yet another narcissist.

To add to the egg story, before going to an event, the narcissist will always create drama and get you emotionally on edge and destabilized, so that you go to the event deflated and low.

Needling comments The veiled threat The hidden guilt trip Innocent comparison The subtle mocking jab

And like the dog whistle no one else hears it… do not doubt yourself, you know what you heard and how it was said, it is not in your head

Absolutely.The "joke" that's not actually a joke... And you know that you can't react or you are told you are too sensitive or you can't take a joke blah blah blah. Maddening!!

A wee story that might uplift a few of you. Observe don't react, and call out bad behaviour. My "Sister A" came to see us, as we were talking about various family affairs she tried to dog whistle. Saying "oh he [me] was silly and got sucked into going up a street we all knew not to go up, as kids, because of the creepy old man. I guess that's what wrong with him" him being me. The dog whistle here was I've never been abused but the other people at the table had all been abused. Needless to say this caused everyone to have a melt down at once. I quickly saw the dog whistle and asked, "Are you dog whistling? Really, are you that insecure you have to try to get an upper hand by triggering people's traumas?" This call out instantly caused her to have a meltdown of her own and she ran off crying. People, a dog whistle is one of the sharpest tools of the weakest people. Treat it as such and call it out. You will instantly gain the upper hand.

I often hear a casual conversation about how I'm not very good at cleaning the house, when we're out with anybody. It sounds like a playful joke, but actually he's trying to get me to stay home and clean better. I have actually had him whistle me to come, just like a dog, in public.

I dig how you talk about male and female toxic people.

Oh a new word for " baiting"

The ultimate tactic against the narc and their respective flying monkeys: grey rock, protect your peace, don't engage, play boring and play dumb. Act genuine and authentic and only interact with them assuming that everything they say has no dog whistling nature to it, act as if you're dealing with a happy, healthy and authentic person that doesn't spiritual warfare. But only do so minimalistically as needed without any deliberate unveiling to what you're doing. I have heard of these terms and processed them into my conscience, but on top of that had been separated from the narc and flying monkeys and had been happy outside of their influence, as well as being really busy on other things on my mind beyond social interaction. So when I eventually saw them again my genuine happiness bypassed their attempted dog whistling. It literally didn't even cross my mind until after socializing was over that dogwhistling was happening. I was also scatterbrained from having to address other people in the social event to fully pay attention to them. Only interact with narcs with a gameplan 1. Gray Rock 2. Play Dumb 3. Authentic Joy 4. Perform scatterbrained state to displace your attention from them and displace their distraction to you. 5. If you're in a situation where they have your back against the wall and locked in direct communication one on one, go telemarketer mode and behave as if you are handling a disgruntled customer over the phone and are adhering to generalized protocol to handle provocative behavior.

I've had this with so many narcs and toxic people.

People pretend that they don’t know what the narcissist is doing, but they totally do. When you are at church waiting for what should be 30 minutes for your husband and he shows up like 90 minutes later, you confront him, and someone is quick to defend him and say that maybe traffic was bad or something. It’s crazy to me. I know damn that 90 minutes is no where near 30. Even if traffic made him 15 minutes later, there is no way it’s going to make him a full hour later. When people defend or pretend not to understand, they are clearly enabling. Once they undermine how worn out you were from work which was made worse by waiting for your spouse, you know they are a narcissist. They will talk about how worn out they were yesterday. You see, narcissists will always cover for other narcissists. You are not allowed to say anything without them making it about themselves.

My wife tried to dog whistle me during custody mediation of our kids during the divorce trying to say I have no connection with my kids, trying to say their emotional state changes when they get dropped off with me, and they don't feel safe. All this in front of the mediator being said to me to try to get me to react. Even though the mediator made it clear not to talk to each other, but to her and answer her questions. My wife kept trying to trigger me to overreact in front of the mediator to make me look unhinged. The worst part of it, the mediator just sat and watched her do it and did nothing to stop her. When I tried pointing out these narcissistic traits and abusive tactics, my concerns were just disregarded as if it wasn't happening right in front of their eyes. Good thing I kept my composure 😮‍💨

My daughters so called boyfriend did this to her.What a mind game.She doesn't even realized it.

my fried egg moments , from the first date my ex narc knew I was allergic to seafood. But everytime we would be in company of others and the subject of dinner came, especially if it was something from a fish n chip place, He'd say to me", I know what you want". ( because indeed he did, I'd always have potato cakes, pineapple and banana fritters ) So he would come back and give me fish n chips. I'd say why did you get me fish. He'd say infront of everyone, " because you like fish" I'd say no you know I'm allergic " He'd say " oh you eat fish all the time" and for 25yrs this went on, to the point that friends would say that I was always looking for an argument. Because he was such a good liar! So He'd suggest to new friends to go out for fish n chips and I cringed everytime. Its sick how they find delight in your hurt and humiliation

The hard thing is not to get triggered by these things. Rise above it.❤

I could write a whole book about Dog Whistling. And another about Gas Lighting. And a third about Flying Monkeys. A triology of Manipulation.

I grew up in an alcoholic, abusive, chaotic house with a narc mother. It was crazy making alcoholic environment which led to raging fights. My 3 brothers grew up to be alcoholic sex deviants. I had virtually no contact with them but they partied together every weekend which usually ended up in fighting when drunk. My narc mother can not stand that I won't buy her delusional picture of a loving family. The other day she wanted to annoy me in front of my dad's nurse so she said.. "We had so much fun every weekend at camp having drinks, laughing/joking and enjoying being at camp". I spontaneously laughed out loud at the picture she painted and when I did she lost it. She accused me of laughing to annoy her. She was actually trying to annoy me painting a picture that was a lie. I simply said " I laughed because that's not the family life I grew up in". She was so mad I called her out in front of the nurse. All she could say was "you think you're better than everyone else", to which I replied "yes, I do think I am better than bitter, alcoholic, sex deviants"... lol. The poor nurse was speechless but she did privately reassure me that she sees my mother has "issues". It felt absolutely exhilarating to have someone see her hate and seething anger towards her only daughter. I am 61, mother is 86. She has yet to learn she better be careful what she tries to poke the bear with. I am brutal at comebacks to her digs. She's been looking for a way to pay me back for exposing family behavior. She's hovering in the flying monkeys now...lol.

They do that with me alot they love rubbing stuff in y9ur face when no one else knows what it means ......

I have a 2nd career as a freelance editor to boost my income. At a family gathering, my sibling loudly announced that she could never do my job. Sounds like the start of a lovely compliment, right? Then she follows up with why. Is it because it requires knowledge and skill and a degree of sharp-mindedness and intelligence? No. She has all those things, naturally. The reason is, she'd FALL ASLEEP. So while everyone laughs at her 'joke', I know she's really saying, "Know that your job would be a walkover for someone as smart as me, but I'd never stoop to doing it because it's sooo boring, but good enough for the little people like you." And I know this, as you say, because of all the behind-closed-doors stuff that's gone on that no one else sees.

I refuse to interact with any narcissist. As soon a narcissist is detected, all communications cease with the parasite. There have been times I leave mid sentence, from the narcissist, as soon as I detect what I am interacting with is a narcissist and not an actual human. There is no need to interact with a narcissist at all.

It can be so 'hidden'. My narc ex wife constantly texts me with requests but never puts a ? after the, 'Can you' or 'Will you' text. This may seem like a petty complaint by me but I know she does it to show that I am not valuable enough to even deserve a ? after a request, never mind 'please'. It's not a request, it's an instruction. Being fed up with it after 7 years of crazy abuse I recently told her that if she wants something from me, she should use proper manners. The rage that caused! I used to be terrified of it 😂

I’ve been trying to deal with my neighbor to just keep things peaceful but I can’t any longer. I have felt like I HAD to because I am alone here, on the other side of the country as my family. My neighbor has (had…I got it back shortly after this) a key to my place “for emergencies.” I recently had to run one of my dogs all around to find out what was wrong and have her get surgery to remove a huge mass and part of her spleen. I was also taking care of a stray cat and her kittens (about 4-5 weeks old. Took momma in about 3wks before she gave birth). Neighbor had someone who was interested in one or two of the kittens and was wanting to know if they were male or female. She was supposed to come over that night but I told her what was going on and that I am not home but she could go check if she wanted (I was honestly overwhelmed with the cat and kittens and needed to have homes lined up for when they were ready). I had previously intended to keep the momma cat but had told the neighbor a day or two prior that I will not be keeping momma and need to find her a home as well, that I was only going to do it initially because she seemed friendly (and she chose me, came to my house, snuck in, all this) but she would STILL randomly and viciously attack me when I would grab her EMPTY food dish (there was another there always filled with hard food, this one was soft food) or even simply moving her water dish. There was literally no telling when it would happen or why and my body couldn’t take it anymore…I am a disabled combat veteran with many medical issues, I can barely take care of myself and my two dogs, I wasn’t keeping a cat who wasn’t even kind to me when my dogs are hunters and my boy isn’t good with cats (kept them in a separate area, they never interacted in my house). Anyway, when she’s at my house she’s texting me INCESSANTLY, stupid things like “You’ll never believe it!! She let me pick her up!!” I replied that I believe it, she loves attention. She only attacks when you touch her food or water bowls. So then she responds “Do you want me to feed them?” I said go for it. She responds back saying she picked up and put the water dish down just fine. She never said anything about the food dish though. But again, the attacks from the cat weren’t every single time I’d grab a dish, they were really random. So no reason why she’d attack my neighbor the first time she’s doing this. She called at some point and I was trying to get her off the phone because the doctor came in. She asks me to call her when I get a chance. BTW, I hardly ever hear from this woman who I’ve lived next door to for 5yrs now. Her calling and incessantly texting about nothing when she knew I was busy seemed so odd to me. And her texts about how the cat let her do this and that were so annoying….to me, a “normal” person would just be like “I fed her, there was no problem” but the fact that she kept having to update me on every little thing was like she was trying to insinuate that the cat likes her better or something. I actually text her after one of the texts saying “Good, you can be her new momma then” lol. But to top it all off when I called her later, like she asked me to, the VERY FIRST thing she says is “OMG!!! She is just the SWEETEST CAT EVER!!” and just went on and on about this. Oh, and she never asked how my dog is or how I was doing. Others who I’ve told about what was going on sent texts asking how I was doing. I didn’t expect her to do that but you’d think she’d ask how my dog was. There’s plenty more but as you can tell I am a writer and need to stop it here. But this and a few other things that have happened recently made me realize I just can’t deal with her anymore. I took my key back from her and haven’t responding to her prodding questions where she’ll add “just wondering” at the end. Obviously, you’re just wondering, why else would you ask? I’m making it a point to tell her as little as possible and have as little interaction as possible with her from now on.

A dangerous ex- squatter in my house makes a point of saying hello to me in Public. He destroyed my home and life and stole about $30,000 crippling me forever in many ways. I try to be positive and move on, but he makes a point of stalking me just to pop up and say Hi all friendly. No, the police do nothing. It’s a threat but the people with him don’t know that. He stalks many people he has destroyed and is a murderer.

My fried egg moment is Biscuits. Same Story but with biscuits.

I found this video to be too close to the knuckle and triggering. I remember most of the times I've been a victim of this kind of thing. It's hard to keep one's composure to the point of having a panic attack

I’ve had every single one. Very sneaky 😈

Narcissistic brain damage is a thing. Let's sue for the physical brain damage

only when I was firm social workers started to believe me but it was so difficult to show like I had everything together

This may be long, but it explains everything in a nutshell. my ex would out of nowhere say something like, any guy who buys a girl a drink at the bar is trying to sleep with her. I would then say something like, well what if they’re just friends. he would adamantly swear that under no circumstance does a guy buy a girl a drink unless he wants to sleep with her friend or not. We would dango out a couple hours later and he would buy a girl a drink. I would then say something like, so what do you want to sleep with her? He would then scream out loud, so everyone could hear him. Do you see what I have to live with. All I did was buy my friend’s wife a drink, and this lunatic is accusing me of wanting to sleep with her. I would then try to explain, you’re the one who said a guy doesn’t buy a girl a drink unless he wants to sleep with her. Then he’d scream, did any of you hear me say that? What is that what the voices in your head are saying to you? Then everyone would laugh at me and call me crazy. I would feel so embarrassed and alone. On top of that, everyone would act like I’m the crazy one and he is the sweet, bullied, guy who is stuck being harassed by me.

Behind closed doors, is pure evil. Yet, they seem to be 'the best' to friends, as they are unaware of the psycho behavior. They get turned into flying monkeys. The only way to deal with them, and keep your sanity, is to run. Far. Away.😢

This video is exactly what I endured in the marriage - classic covert narcississt tactics.

My ex-bestfriend did the needling thing ALL the time. One was to say - in a very flippant way - that i should wear more colour... this went on for years, in fact decades. And when i finally rsponded to say i didnt appreciate it she, and all her flying monekys, acted like i was overreacting. I could give endless examples of how that abuse played out over the decades...I have now cut her and all the other 'friends' out of my life. I was gaslit, manipulated, and horribly abused for 4 decades, and when I blocked her she stalked me online...be aware - abusive friends can be just as damaging as abusive partners

I thought this was going to be about the way they expect you to drop everything, and instantly do as you ask, like someone whistling to a dog.

I have more than one outburst that made me look like an a-hole in front of others due to offhanded comments made by an ex wife and an ex GF. The ex wife thought 6 beers a WEEK was excessive, so she constantly made me out to be an alcoholic to everyone else. I was wearing sandals and caught one on a stair when entering an event and she looked at me and said, “have another one, you drunk.” I yelled at her to quit picking on me. The GF later was always making comments about my weight. At the time, I was 5’9 and about 190 lbs. At family events, she would make oinking sounds if I spent any time snacking on the chips and salsa. I snapped on her once for that as well.

When I'd offer her to go to a cafe or restaurant personally, she'd call the place cheap and low class, "it suits your class, not me". Be reminded these are expensive aesthetic places where even some filmstars go to. She'll go with me though but criticize it. But then another day she'd visit actual low class cheap places and call me up or even invite me with her family and ask "how do you like our choice? isn't this better?". At first I had to control the urge of saying "wow you're this cheap?". Slowly I learned to tell her in personal settings "hey, let's drop my choice. Today we'll go to the place your mother finds rich. Shall we? It's okay I can manage". In the process I became a narcissist as well.

We had argued a lot about her basically identifying as an agent of chaos. I explained that I didn’t need that in my life. On another occasion we were having a disagreement and she dropped the argument and texts me the statement” I AM chaos!” Trying to provoke an emotional response where her friends could hear. She didn’t want be heard saying it, but wanted my reaction. On this occasion I didn’t take the bait. It was our last argument.

I'm certain i could have answered the needling egg comment question ten years ago, but I've been no contact and in therapy for a decade now. I'm very happy to say that I've moved past a lot of these painful memories and triggers. I want to reassure others that while it may feel like you will never recover or move forward, I promise you its possible to heal. You're worth the time it takes to go no contact and heal.

Only child of a covert narc mother here. Finally a term for what I've been experiencing with her for decades. She's the grand champion at #4 & 5. Marie Barone comes to mind. If I call her out on it or dish it right back, then it's silent treatment time. I'm contemplating moving far away.

Please release 1 video/day. I can't get enough of your content & extremely soothing voice.

My mother!! All of them!

I can think of times where my mom. has tried to get me to play along with her games - "liking" family photos in a group chat from a relative she knows I don't speak to (because she triangulated her into bullying me) - saying "why haven't you liked any of their vacation photos? you know, you've complained about not being included in things..." implying that if I don't play along I won't be invited to things that matter to me. Oh, and she did this knowing that I was seriously ill at the time.

I haven't really had the same kind of "fried egg" moment with a partner. But my mom is a narcissist I often will tell her things explicitly in a way to avoid her freaking out at me, but today she spent two hours belittling my cousin in front of me and then later that day when I mention that I was in pain because I couldn't get my medicine on time she said, "it's like the situation with Emily" knowing it would make me feel belittled and angry.

I'm pretty knowledgeable about narcissism by now thanks to podcasts like yours, yet this is still a new concept for me. Thank you for explaining it so clearly and giving such explicit examples. This information is invaluable.

They have to find anything against you. Inside they know how low they are. Things so simple like. You didn't rinse off your plate in the sink while hers are laying there coverd in shit. Ha ha ha. When you know what they are, they can be amusing. You can't listen to what they say. You need to know who you are inside.

The last needling comment my mother made to me was one of the last conversations I ever had with her. I spend a lot of my free time playing video games (keep in mind I’m a personal trainer and love working out so it’s not like I’m a slob) but I became one of the top ranks in a very hard and popular game that I played. I got a lot of respect from friends and I held this as a very high achievement in my life. My mother always started arguments about video games because she knows it triggers me. She found out about this achievement and completely minimized it knowing how important it was for me. I got angry at her and she called me abusive. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. My own mother didn’t want “someone who’s abusive living with her.” I realized then what kind of person my mother was and decided she wasn’t good for my mental health. This was also around the time I was going through a very hard time”break up” and my mom said “you know girls don’t like guys who are emotional right?” When I called her upset and needing her support. I’ve forgiven my mom but I will NEVER forget that last thing she said to me.

Try this on a religious narc when they are drunk: "Wine is a mocker; strong drink is raging." That will set them off. Narcissistic injury. Better yet get away from them forever.

I never heard of this , but I know this , my mother did this to me , UT actually has a name and it definitely explains how I'd instantly get triggered and my husband would literally wonder why I'd be on the defensive when my mother didn't say anything wrong ? I would tell him you don't understand but I couldn't explain it

Awesome video! Thank you so much for making these things clear and more easy to recognize

So much to learn... Thank you for sharing your wisdom

Come to think of it this behavior is what started me on the journey I'm on now or a start to my current destiny. It starts out mild and intensifies over time. At first I seen it as just playing around. then one discovers it's not a joke. Watching for patterns I discovered that the whistle would begin about 1/2 hour before a social gathering and would continue until the arrival to the destination. Then it was what I would call the flip flop. She would put on the "super nice mask" while I was triggered to the max. While I was super triggered she would treat me like a king at the gathering. Oh but wait,the party is over on the way home or has it just begun???? Off with the nice mask on with the other one. For you folks that are going through this . Don't take it personal. It's not your fault. This is a demonic possession.

Christine, Glad to see that your subscriber base is growing. Excellent content and well presented. Keep up the good work!

This is why we must all become what's called imperturbable or incapable of being bothered involuntarily

So basically it’s gaslighting.

The really sad bit about the dog whistling is that when you can finally not take the bait, it's because you've decided it's over and you have an exit strategy. As long as you care and want to save the relationship the dog whistling works.

My ex still does this to me via his podcast when he thinks I might listen.

Been there, experienced that, so happy to be free of him.

the keys to my healing....... identifying dog whistling....... and the reactive abuse I was manipulated into........ in my childhood and young adult years. and then labeled the PROBLEM, of the family... shamed , blamed. gut wrenching betrayal by all.

Love the title of your video. Good one.

Thanks for explaining this, it was very well laid out and I could easily understand. I think we want to believe that people work rather than the work itself, that can really make one stagger if they find out what their safe people, or 'friendships' have actually been diligently working on and makes us aware of the transience of relationships, perhaps to an uncomfortable degree. You can only wake up to the mess and accept the struggle that is your life in my experience. Thanks for the catharsis 🙂

Been there and done that...

Thank you for this content. Yes. Now, when members of the death cult do [fill in the blank] I just pat what I want them to kiss. God is faithful when I turn to Him. A counselor said to re-frame it to something positive. It works and they just anchor another trigger. When I think of Jesus and His word, it helps. My goal is not to eliminate reaction but to lessen it, use a thoughtful/self-soothing response. Yes, they have stolen my life in ways. As Mr. Roger says, "Look for the helpers." The famous Mel Robbins has found peace with "Let them." Plus, control what you can control; their mental illness is not under my control.

they do it when you're alone too. It's like their typing in a code and waiting for you to go off. so they can be like wow you're so crazy and going off, wow you're so into me that I could have you going crazy like that. or wow you're insane, look at you.. to try to make them feel better so that they don't have to face their insanity. even if you heal and don't go off and explode it will put you off because you will see it clearly that they were trying to provoke pain in you. it definitely made me wake up and think why would I want to be with someone like that.

Im miserable. He mocks me under his breath daily. I can't function anymore 😢

Jokes are very informative

Great information 👍 Took notes.

Love your work mate, cheers

I downloaded your free guide. My husband of 18 years has relied on me ( since hes 78 and doesn't read nor write) way too much for way too many years. He had s chance to learn but dropped it. We cannot sleep together ( for 5 years now) due to his violent nightmares. He's become like an emotional vampire as well. He accuses me of talking about him only because his ears ring . They ring every dam day! Ive had fits and he says I'm embarrassing and neighbors can hear. But im the one shaking and he is calm 😢. When I told him i want out out out, things only escalated to guilt tripping and accusations

My mother in law loves to do most of those. She bothered me so much about “when was I giving her a grand-baby” and would not relent. She shamed me for waiting until I was ready, told me my eggs were going to be bad and my children deformed, guilted me for “depriving her” of grandchildren. She has since told me I’m a slow lazy parent because I’m an “old” mom.

First time watching one if your videos. Very informative & insightful. Thank you.

Thank you, my dear. Hope you doing good.

It is a real understanding of this pathology here.

This is superb, and would be a good tool for someone trying to explain to an empathetic close friend or family member why they so affected.

I wish i had this information before i went through it. This video is very therapeutic.

when my children got severely sick I left and it was too late

The undercover evil… It’s intensely painful when everyone sees the narc as wonderful… And you are unable to stop yourself from making them look amazing. 🤮

My Narc dad had a classic electric guitar in his collection. As a young adult, I dated a guy (also a Narc naturally) who became obsessed with my dad's guitar when I showed it to him. He'd always want me to bring it out whenever he came over which put me in a stressful bind of not wanting to disappoint my boyfriend, but also not piss off my dad by touching his things. Eventually, this boy dumped me- but during our breakup threw in at the last second that he'd still like to come over sometimes and see my dad's guitar. I had at least enough sense of dignity to say "No!" and that was that for the boyfriend's part of it. The dog whistling part is that my DAD whenever he showed that guitar to anyone LOVED to tell the tale of how one of my first boyfriend's loved that guitar more than me! That became his favorite stories around that damn guitar. I tried to tell him how humiliating it was for me for him to bring that up, and of course, being the Narc he is, he deflected and minimized it. But it obviously was a source of pride for him (my feelings be damned) that someone loved his precious guitar more than his daughter. It sucks knowing this object meant more to two people I cared for than I did. Luckily I'm now at a good place in my life emotionally where I can recognize that really it's my dad (and my ex-boyfriend) who sucked for caring more about an object than a person. But that's narcissism for ya!

Very good run down! 🎉

My ex constantly insinuated hurtful things about me very deviously in front of others. I wouldn't be 'physically present', but she knew I was within hearing range. Things I didn't know were a problem or didn't know about at all. Instant disorientation and anger. She knew what she was doing every time.

So glad to see this tactic covered!! Thank you!! I dropped a narc as a friend over a decade ago. She’s now back in my orbit via a guy she’s dating (a friend of ours). She has had HIM deliver a very generous gift to me because she heard I liked this particular brand. No note, no phone call from HER - and there was no birthday or other special occasion. When I didn’t respond to her, she had boyfriend invite hubby and I out to dinner. We were out of town. Obviously, she was trying to get a response. She still has not ONCE contacted me directly. All dog whistles.

My ex narc would hum the wicked witch of the west song when i would sweep the floor. He never hums, sings, or enjoys music.! Rubbed me raw. Called him out. He told me im crazy.

I remember i once worked with this real narcissistic pos, I needed to get his attention from a distance without shouting so i whistled, the guy went off at me ! Clearly whistling means something different to narcissists than the rest of us

omg. the needling from toxic co-workers is so hard to ignore, trying not to react and feed the narcissistic person.

Oh goodness mine actually whistles at me like a dog. Thought the video was about different whistles… lol 😂

💯 resonates everything.

Thank you for this video. I was thinking I was a bit confused. Basically I found a lot of them with my sister. Making jabs, calling me names, and needling about me (my behaviour, an tastes or situation a while back) and our family at family partys. Then guilttrip me and them by saying when I didn't aggree with her "objective" (her words) oppinion, that she is the Black sheep of the family. She even did it with her husband.

So a dog whistle is shorthand coded speech or reference, often around an emotional subject for the hearer.

I experienced this once, bit didn't realize what was going on til I reflected on it a couple of years later. I was home for Christmas one year, and in the living room with the whole family present, my dad said out loud to all my siblings that they should be thankful they have such a good older brother as a good example for them. I thought in the moment my dad was actually praising me and validating me. But then after watch npd videos for awhile, I recalled that he didn't make eye contact with me at all in this moment, and my sister shot me a look af profound shock at what had been said. After learning more I realized my dad was rubbing in my face the smear campaign he had maintained behind my back for years. I've since learned now why all my siblings treat me like I'm dead. It's sad. But it is what it is. I've moved on now. One example of dog whistling.

This is the needling the narcissist did, sexually touched sibling (that´s right, no moral compass). Then ran off , acted like nothing before surrounding and "prepared" them to watch how crazy that individual is going to turn up. PS ages 5-12

I'm an ISTP Sigma. And exposing these monsters is both a pastime and sport, especially at work. Kinda like being a real-world vampire hunter. Wanna really yank a narc's chain? In a business meeting at work when they are expected to speak, set your phone out on the table and inform everyone you're recording the meeting "just because you don't want to miss or forget anything". Make it sound totally innocent, like how you're just doing it because you don't take notes fast enough. Narcissists HATE being recorded - it forces them to remember what they say and live up to it, and they can't gaslight anyone in the future or deny anything they say (aka lie about). It literally sh*ts on their grandstanding after they've spent days premeditating how they were going to lie about themselves and others in that meeting. Watch the dagger-stares and squirming begin - it totally yanks the carpet out from under them. It gets even better when dealing with narcissistic love interests - that's the most entertaining laboratory experiments one can have fun with. These people are so predictable that you can play their egos and bullsh*t like a harp. Their childish 2-dimentional thinking allows you to flip the script on them and turn them into psychological playtoys because they have enslaved themselves to their false images that they will do anything to protect. "You know, you'd probably be one of the most amazing human beings on the lanet if you were to go get me a pizza. The fact that it was your idea to begin with makes you even more of an amazing person! But I've always known you're that awesome, that's why I'm with you..." You'll be eating pizza in 10 minutes.

I can do anything. I just has to be something i want. It just has to be worth it.

Wow, this is 100% my ex-wife's behavior. She especially likes to do it around our daughter so that whenever I get emotional or blow up, I look like a "bad daddy" so she can use it to turn our daughter against me. My ex will claim that I'm this abusive person who can't control my anger even though I may have spent literally days dealing with her needling and dog whistling before I blew up over it trying not to cause an incident

I guess by now I’m at the point to where I know what they’re doing but one or two important key people in my life really don’t get it. I’m trying to let it go and not care if they get it or not but it still bothers me that they maybe get some things but aren’t really seeing all of it as it really is. They’re sort of acknowledging that some things aren’t quite right with said narc, but they still minimize it.

The family dog gets better treatment, lol

Literally, they actually use high frequency electronics. My Dog actually has reacted and responded to this.