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@@magickquill6724 It sounds like to me-- and I may be mistaken-- that you're worrying about it. Hey, you know what? Don't do that. No need to do that. Absolutely no need for worrying about possible world domination by asexuals. None at all.
The little blue and orange flag is the Aro/Ace, Jamie! I don think it’s as well known as the separate aromantic and asexual flags, so I don’t blame you for not knowing :) The flag was made for ppl who are both aro and ace, so they can just use one flag instead of two. Wow, i didn’t realize how many people would find this useful. You’re welcome! Have a virtual cookie 🍪🍪🍪
Were they avoiding copyright or something or did they just not realize spuds was a word? I wouldn't have assumed Jamie either because spud and spoon are nowhere near the same word :o
As a middle aged Asexual, I can confirm that my mom is perfectly happy with having two pit bulls and grandkids. They even know what " let's go see Grandma!" means and run straight to the car. She is really going to miss them when we take over Denmark.
The world of Asexuals is so accessible yet Aphobic people act like it’s Rocket Science. Prioritising good food over people (with exceptions) is awesome and the best thing, you can be any (insert food here) Asexual you want.
As an awkward ace person who doesn't have any ace friends, there's something about seeing asexual and LGB(all)T near each other in the same title that makes me feel included 😊
Professional phone goblin here: if someone misgenders you on the phone, do what the (polite) cis people do when it happens (and it happens at least twice a month with the most cishet client base imaginable): smile so they hear it in your voice and say "uh, it's [correction]" and continue the conversation before they can interject a mortified apology. Exact same mood as if they wildly misunderstood your last name and it's suddenly got three extra syllables.
Thanks for the advice, have a higher voice pitch than a man but too low for a woman. But the usual response is to assume woman for some reason, even if I speak like an English teacher and make it clear over the phone. Don't know how it's always the phone where I run into issues.
The asexual world domination thing is basically just that when your mind isn't thinking about sex all the time, it gives your brain more time to scheme.
@@KKYL3BR0FL0VSKI there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to have anything to do with sex. Asexual is just a umbrella term to not having any desire to have sex. I suggest looking further to see where under the umbrella you are. I’m sure you can find a term that you can identify with, and if you don’t no need to worry labels aren’t everything.
Jamie, as a fellow Doctor of Psychology, I’d love to talk to you about my awful experience working for Pride Counseling, aka Better Help. It’s so hard to watch some of my favorite RU-vidrs suggest this service with how horrible they are to their therapists.
Oh dear! I was considering checking them out but I've heard awful things about Better Help from a lot of therapists. I didn't realize they were under the same company. Thanks for the heads-up.
i remember in another lgballt video there was a trans and bi youtuber ball that said "hey spoods" (even more obvious than spoons) and he still had doubts that it was him
Heh adora _ball_ As an asexual, we’re always scheming because without having to worry about sexual attraction, we have plenty of time for chaos :) And world domination just sounds fun tbh
Sometimes I'm just thinking about all this crazy things like if you fall from a boat what clothing itom should you discard first or is Azula from atla sapphic and I wonder, if I was allo would I think of that?
@@definitelynotabot1743 I don’t blame him for not knowing, honestly. It’s fairly recent, and not everybody uses it. A lot of people use the one with the aro and ace flags combined. It just depends on preference at this point, really.
It's thanks to watching Jammi and OT that I figured out I was ACE. I always thought I was someone who wasn't currently interested in sex because I had health issues but I would totally find a boyfriend and all that at some point. Now that I know I'm ACE, I've stopped worrying about all that.
It's wild how freeing it can be to realize these things, isn't it? On the ace side, I was one of the ones who just thought everyone was being super hyperbolic about sexual attraction until I figured things out; the bigger thing for me was gender. I didn't realize how hard I was ignoring that certain aspects of myself bothered me for not fitting what was expected of what I'd been assigned until I realized that the assignment hadn't even been right in the first place. Suddenly, so many of those things that weren't "right" were things I could *honestly* appreciate instead of just things I pretended not to care about.
Most of the time when I think that someone is attractive I always find that it's gender envy in disguise bc I'm trans and aro/ace but I'm also too scared to ask my family to use they/them for me bc they make fun of people for being trans sometimes
Gay women and straight men be like "women are hot" Gay men and straight women be like "men are hot" Bisexual folks be like "men and women are hot" Asexuals be like "fire is hot, technically speaking. But world domination is sexy!"
2:59 I understand what this person is going through, my brothers always say really bad things about the LGBTQIA+ community, and it upsets me a lot because I am currently closeted and now I’m too afraid to come out.
The aroace one with the grandpet line reminds me of my mom. She recently told me outright (as part of a larger conversation we were having) that she's happy with having granddogs, and she's totally fine if I never have kids. She gets that I don't want kids, and as she said, if I don't turn out to be a good parent, she's gonna be the one who ends up raising the kid(s) and she knows she's too old (her own words) to feel comfortable doing that and giving them a good life. I already knew that, I've been adamant about not wanting kids since I was a teenager. And she's always been very "grandmothery" to my dogs, treating them as I do, like they're my babies. But it still meant so so much to actually hear it from her.
I can’t wait till I’m 18 and I can finally go to a pride parade and hold up all my pride flags and just feel proud - asexual polyamory’s non-binary Genderfluid lesbian 🤍
The flag at 5:45 is the aroace flag. It's newer and less commonly known/used. It is for people who are asexual and aromantic. Lots of people just use the aro and the ace flags separately but this represents both.
It's so new/rarely used that I, an AroAce, didn't recognize it 😅 I do actually prefer the look of the green and purple one. I know it's the separate flags put together, but I like how it looks
@@Creature_of_Knight to be fair. So do I. I prefer the purple and the green with the black, grey, and white. But some people will want to use the blue and orange one. Just think that it's useful to know. Not that it's bad if you didn't. The amount of time it took me to learn all of the ones that I know now. Far too long.
i just remembered about a year ago there was a thread on tumblr where it was an LGBallT comic where they were giving the little balls weapons/items that corresponded with the first letter of each identity (lesbians get longswords, bisexuals get bats, etc) and i added to it using a suggestion a friend came up with: asexuals/aromantics/a-specs get "*A* freaking death star oH GOD"
8:04 i work as a front desk human so i call people a lot and it's very quite disheartening when people misgender you in really sweet ways over the phone cuz it's like "oh wait ow but also thanks for being nice?"
Im closeted trans and the internet really does at times make me feel so accepted. My friends all call me the right pronouns, and it makes me almost cry.
You have more faith in humanity than me. I would expect asexuality to then become normative, and sexual people being ostracised and disciminated against. Not because asexual people are bad, but because humanity in general tend to want to group things into right and wrong.
Thank you for helping me be able to come out as my true self and continue working every day to become someone that I like when I look in the mirror. It's been 10 days since I had top surgery. It hasn't been the easiest of roads but I wouldn't change it if I could.
Came out to my grandad as transmasc almost a week ago (over text because I have serious anxiety) and he has left me on read. For a week. It isn't fair that he accepted my mum being a lesbian but not me being a man. Anyway how is everyone else doing?
Heyy my asexual pals! I am bisexual and I've noticed a lot of similarities between our magical sexualities. 1. The purple stripe. I know its kinda basic but still. 2. People tell us that we're confused. 3. People are still phobic against us but there is less awareness about it. Thank you for reading, I totally support your plan for world domination and hope you spare the bisexual's lives because of this. Edit: 4. We're both invalidated by certain members of our own community if we're in a m/f relationship (somebody reminded me of this :D) No but srsly no jokes, go live your best life, whatever your sexuality or gender identity. :)
Hello bisexual friend, this is one of your ace pals. Come join us in our quest for world domination. We will end world hunger by providing free cake and garlic bread to everyone:3
I feel the need to tell you that asexuals and bisexuals were allies in the past! Bisexuals used to include asexuals in their community because having no attraction towards any gender means having equal attraction towards all genders, meaning asexuality had commonalities with bisexuality. I'm too sleepy to remember the entire story of our alliance, but I recommend looking up our history together
My parents made a joking off-handed comment about taking a vacation to Denmark and as an Asexual I got very excited (as we do). My parents were very confused though since I am closeted. :)
I’m honestly still working on my coming out. My current home environment isn’t safe for me. Parent, one false supportive (now unsupportive) the other hot tempered and don’t want to be in the same home as when I come out. Like fighting a level 99 dragon with a stick.
Your validity does not depend on how much you tell the people around you. Safety first. Also, you will feel glorious when you do get into a life situation where you can live your authentic self. Stay safe and stay strong, because what you have to look forward to is awesome.
Aceball: "There will only be 6 planets left in the solar system after I destroy Uranus" Biball: "Isn't that a pickup line ? Also there are 8 planets." Aceball: "haha no" _Neptuneball shattered to pieces in the background_
9:31 the way you said "some people-" my brain just automatically went '-long for a life that is simple, and planned...' Because I listen to that soundtrack way to much
Being a Gundam nerd, every time I hear Trans I can't help but think of the Trans-am system from 00. So my immediate thought is that Jamie and all the other trans folks out there can glow red and go 3 times faster if they need to. Also, all the Ace people out there, in my head, have 5 confirmed kills. Of what? I don't know. Confirmed killed 5 loaves of garlic bread in one sitting perhaps? This gets even worse when they're Aro-Ace, because I hear Aero Ace and they're all just wearing scarves in biplanes. BI planes! Fuuuuuuu....
I hear Aro-Ace and I start thinking of Archers. Which is funny because Katniss, Merida, and Artemis (some of the most popular archers in pop culture) have personalities that makes them seem like they are Aro-Ace.
Lgballt is one of my most favouriteist sub reddits. (Also learning that I outnumber most of the population in my home country of australia makes me super proud)
I have my first day at a new high school tomorrow and I’ve been nervous today, especially as I’m trans and praying people read me as male so I can avoid transphobia, or if people read me as female then they gender me right once I correct them. So seeing a Jaime video made my day! And this is my favorite subreddit he’s covered, so it makes it even better :) 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
I genuinely just- whenever I see closeted people talk about other people being homophobic in front of them I get an extreme urge to hug them. I’m giving free virtual hugs here
I can relate! My mama-heart just wants to scoop up every distressed LGBT+ kid (anyone younger than my 50 year old self is a "kid") into a big hug! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 🖤🤍💜
thanks. my mother and her friends were recently discussing lgbtqia+ people in the most horrible way and it made feel sick but i couldn't do anything because I'm closted
As an aroace person with (suspected) executive dysfunction and the competitive drive of a marshmallow, I'll just chill at home with my cake. World domination sounds like it'll take a while, and it deserves to be done by people who can follow through with the whole thing, not stop to eat and never get back to it. 💜
When I was a teen Trans people- especially Trans men weren't really well known. So I'd ask my boyfriends if they'd still love me if I ever found a genie and got my guy body. They all said yes of course. I don't really believe all of them would have stayed in a romantic relationship with me. But I do think they would have kept loving me. And those are the types of people you should always surround yourself with.
5:45 The orange, yellow, white, blue flag is aroace!! It's for anyone who's on the aromatic spectrum and asexual spectrum. Ex. You could be asexual and aromatic, demisexual and aro, ace and gray-aro, etc. and use it!
5:48 That’s the aro ace spectrum flag! We will use it as a replacement for using ace and aro flags when we need just one, or when people aren’t fully aro ace, (ex: less of a partner, more of a special friend, Or maybe gray ace/aro, or just no real label) but still on the spectrum, then that’s the most general flag to use. (Like how if you’re not sure if you’re trans or NB, you can use trans flag because NB’s are also trans. Just not mtf or ftm.) Edit: to the aphobes in the replies, please do yourself a favor and accept that we exist. And to everyone else: Thanks for over 125 likes over just 3 days. Having a comment like this get liked and replied to so much with a surprising amount of positive replies. (Also thanks to the people that backed me when the troll nation attacked)
@@dustygania2425 Actually, this is an orientation. It’s not so much like being straight, gay, lesbian, bi, pan, etc, because the difference is that there is no sexual or romantic attraction. But just like those, being ace aro is an orientation. (Ace means no sexual attraction, Aro means no romantic attraction, Both are no romantic or sexual attraction. But just like everything in the Lgbtqia+ community, there’s more to it than just the basic definition, which is why this flag is for the spectrum, not just the combined ace and aro identities.) Take it from an ace aro.
2:46 I just love how we could outnumber Canada and Australia but Germany is just so cramped full of people it's the only European country that couldn't be outnumbered (by aces alone)
Yo, I just wanted to say your videos are helping me prep for telling my little brother I’m trans! I’m nervous and feel a bit rushed but watching your videos help me get ready. Thanks!!
Acesexual life goals (mine) -World Domination -A BIG CAKE 🎂 -Infinite Garlic Bread -Create a Dragon with S I O N C E -Help cats rule over the world with us Asexual’s
@@ashtoncommittedarsonbutina131 Because the combined aromantic-asexual flag (the one in my profile) has been the one that's been in use for longer, by more people. It also has resemblances to the Apartheid Africa flag. Which is objectively valid. Some people think that them creating flags for Ethnic LGBT+ identities *when requested to do so by those groups* is problematic. And that them supporting Endogenic Systems¹ is bad. There is *also* a section of the community that has a problem with it because the creator supports MSpec Lesbians/Gay people, which they feel entitled to consider 'problematic'- despite the fact that MSpec can mean either "masc-spectrum" or "Multi-Attraction Spectrum"... And, more importantly- either way, none of these are *valid criticisms except the concerns about the flag resembling that of Apartheid Africa.* The people that have problems with MSpec people identifying as Lesbian or Gay, in particular, are objectively in the wrong because they are attempting to gatekeep and force people to identify in a specific way. They're not only doing the very thing that the LGBT+ community joined together to escape- the cisheteronormative demands to adhere to an identity others demand of you; but doing so in a way that has, historically, forced people who *created communities* to stay closeted or be kicked out of the community they created. ¹Endogenic Systems means a case of DID, or a system of alters, without a known trauma to cause the creation of alters. People who try to use the idea that Endogenic Systems "are not valid" because they weren't created by a known trauma, are people who are conveniently ignoring the fact that the person who created the term *specified* it shouldn't be used to delegitimize, villainize, or exclude Endogenic systems. _Particularly because the idea of systems being solely Traumagenic is itself under question, and always has been,_ as it was a decision made by medical professionals without actually interacting with or consulting those the decision effected._ Given that the same thing happened with the intersex spectrum being renamed to "Differences of Sexual Development" despite the Intersex Community being VOCALLY against the change, as it was a change strictly driven by the desire to medicalize intersex existence- and thus treat their existence as "something that needs corrected"- I shouldn't need to explain how the attempts to push Endogenic Systems out- and thus cause them to be denied resources and treatment that the lack of could cause *serious harm-* are exceedingly troubling and concerning.
Tysm for making videos I live in texas rn. my family is trying to move because of how dangerous it is for me a bisexual girl and my non-binary sibling to live here. And any time I'm at school and the kids are being really homophobic I remember your video and know I have a safe space to go back to. So thank you💕
8:08 this whole part made me feel so much. I came out when I was 16, and it made me so happy to finally be myself. But when I was 17-18, I was bullied by my peers so much so that I felt that I had to force myself to be nonbinary. I started to identify as a trans macs again when I was 18-19, and a guy I used to work with and myself started hooking up. I thought he knew, like I was open about it and even came out to EVERYONE at work. I told him that I planned on going through with my transition and he just up and left, saying “I’m not gay” and “I don’t sleep with men”. It really hurt, and it felt like I would never be loved because I’m trans. But I’m 23 and really happy now, with a wonderful life partner who supports me, and is ok if I do want to go through with my transition. He makes me feel happy and loved, and I’m genuinely thankful I found him. And I hope everyone here is able to find that someone that makes them feel good and will always stay by your side no matter what. You’re all wonderful, beautiful, and handsome people, and deserve the best days possible.
I really love seeing videos covering r/LGBallT. I'm ace, and it's super refreshing to see asexuality so casually included in LGBT+ without any "oh, you're not oppressed enough to be here" nonsense. 💜 Love your videos so much! Please come back to this subreddit again soon! 💜
5:46 That’s the aroace flag. Aroace means Aromantic + asexual. I don’t blame you for not knowing. I only know about this because my best friend happens to be non-binary and aroace. Side story: We went to pride in Manchester yesterday and they saw an aroace flag being carried by a person in the parade and they got really excited. It was really endearing to see.
I hate the fact that I'm in a situation where I can't come out to most of my family because they're homophobic, transphobic and could easily hurt me... I can't get myself a good binder and I can't go on T yet because I'm not 18... I hate that I think about ending myself because of that, and because I keep getting misgendered by my family... I hate that I can't get counselling in person or online because I can't pay for it... I hate the situation I'm in with my family and I hate that I can't get the multiple diagnosis I need to be able to live comfortably... I hate that I can't remember much of my childhood before the age of 12 and then having large memory gaps after the age of 12... I hate the fact that I live in Germany and I hate the fact that I'm actively trying to escape my family and leave the house I've lived in since birth...
I'm a year late, but I hope you're okay. The important thing to hang on to when you're a legal minor under the control of people who don't love you the way a family should, is that it passes. You just have to keep getting through each day and eventually you will be a legal adult, you will be in charge of your own life choices, and you will be able to do all the things that you know already you need to do. Just stay strong. Keep breathing. You'll get there simply by waiting them out.
Hey, that was my comic at 9:42! Thanks for reading it! Sadly I still do not like cake but I do, in fact, like garlic bread! Edit: I now identify as demisexual and also have come around to liking cake again. LOL
Kinda wish he had a brief look at the comments on the posts. People will usually list less common flags. (Also, the comic at 3:18 is inspired by YOU, Jamie!)
Dear Jamie, Yesterday was my first public coming out as nonbinary! (I was so scared.) It was a dancing class that started yesterday. We must change partners every few minutes and at the beginning, I just faced a girl and told her I’m dancing the „man“😂 The teacher asked me if I want to continue to dance this part, and I told him I’m non-binary. He‘s queer himself and therefore was completely fine with using no pronouns for me and so on. 😊 The complete lesson went well, no one asked anything. It was such a positive experience with those people, plus the extreme gender euphoria - I’m so glad it happened like this!🥳 So, Jamie, THANK YOU!!! You helped me so much to achieve this! And I’m hopeful now that I can come out to more people. ☺️ P.S.: Sorry for my English. ;)
OMG! That lesbian one at the end, there is an Owl House one with Amity trying to say lesbian next to a Clueless Luz as Willow and Gus are watching. LoL!
I hope it gets less nasty in the next 20 years, I want to visit Poland at some point because the landscape looks to be just right for my idea of a good time, but (from everything I've ever heard) the weird side of Catholicism is very loud there. I don't blame you for wanting to get out.
@@opossumlover3432 I think it's time for everyone to move to Canada. That seems like a nice place. We can let nature consume Poland for a few years until everyone learns how to act. It'll be even more beautiful when everyone gets back.
Okay i was not expecting to cry in this one... Its just a bit close to home. I have been out to the world for about a year now but very closeted with family. I know how they feel and I cant afford to leave that house. I was in the car with my 2 of my aunts (who are the gossipers) they were saying how gay people (anything LGBTQ+) are p3d0s and possessed. I was hurt and tried to stand up for the community without outing myself. Ended up half outing myself. Honestly im terrified of what might happen now. Thank you Jamie for creating a safe place, it really means so much!😘
In all honesty you and one topic are the people who made me realize that I’m trans and feel more comfortable with who I am for the longest time I was wearing girly clothes to try to cover up the fact that I was trans but I started watching you guys and just got a new wardrobe for school I’m not out of the closet just yet but my mom just thinks I’m a tomboy so
It's not that we all like it, it's that we would rather have cake/garlic bread than sex. It's actually better when you sont like it cuz it's like "I hate cake but would still rather have it than sex"
I think this sub helps because it's super easy to make a comic if you have an idea for one -- just draw a ball, color the orientations, and give it dialogue. Easy. It's such a nice way for people to share their stories
It makes me so happy that there is finally recognition for asexuality and people like you, who even tho they aren't ace themselves, do content like this! Hope every ace (or allo) person in the comment section has a fantastic weekend
About getting support online from queer people, I like to be on streams, where I can be called by my chosen name and interact with other non-binary and a-spec people. As someone who's very closeted, this is very important to me.
The grandpet thing actually happened to me. My family used to put a lot of pressure on me to settle and start a family, concepts I struggle with as an ace person. During the pandemic I decided to get a puppy. My parents were against it at first. Then they met the actual puppy and they've just melted. They call her their furry grandchild and treat her as such too.
3:20 anyone else think the youtuber in that comic is supposed to be Jamie? It's a bi/trans flag, spoons sounds similar to spuds, and Jamie mostly focuses on LGBTQ stuff
Hello. I was crying because I dropped my $3 mango lemonade and then my crush cancelled our plans because she had homework. Your video cheered me up, though! Thanks Jammidodger :)
5:47 The flag is the Aro/Ace flag! Not many people know it since the two flags are usually separate but thats the official flag for people who are both aromatic and asexual
Seriously, that one about the RU-vidr helping them feel comfortable hits so close to home. I didn’t come out until I was in my 30s but it was RU-vidrs like you and a few others who really helped me become comfortable with being trans.
5:42 - That is the aro/ace flag. It is meant to represent people who are both aromantic and asexual. But every aromantic, asexual, or aro/ace I know is so confused on why the aro/ace flag doesn't just merge the aromantic and ace flag 🤣🤣
