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My friend came out to me, when we were 15 by telling me about the girl she had a crush on. We never talked about sexual orientation before. She talked about her crush for about 20 minutes, then stoped and said: "oh, by the way, I'm lesbian." No shit Sherlock, I would have never figured that out. Today she's married to the girl she couldn't stop talking about that day. There so cute together.
In like 2005 we had a legendary PSHE teacher and we were discussing the topic of being gay. This one girl started on a rant like "but it's really gross though because if a girl is gay she might fancy me" and the teacher just blurted out "why would she fancy YOU?!" in this incredulous tone 😂 and this moment has stuck with me ever since
@@resourceress7 I think it stands for Personal, social, health, and economic. It's a government program run by the UK. I think in this scenario though you could think of them as Physical Education and Health Education teachers. The girl(not the commenter) sounds like she's sitting in Sex Ed, to be honest. Otherwise, maybe a government and politics teacher.
@@resourceress7 it stands for Personal Social Health Education. It’s mostly used to teach S1’s stuff like “don’t throw lit fireworks at people” and “don’t drink alcohol if your under 18”
The amount of humbling juice they’ll receive from that will toss them all the way into 3658, where gender no longer exists and everyone is referred to as “supreme species.”
The thought of all the heteros jumping in each others face: "You are not into me, are you?!" And afterwards feeling insulted if the person says no.... 🙄
I know right!! I'm het but that doesn't mean I'm into every women I see, and I also don't assume every het-woman I meet is into me in return. It's the same thing! So why would I assume if a male friend came out as gay that he'd therefore be into me? It takes a special kind of narcissism for that to be the default response.
@@WombatMan64 Or indoctrinated misinformation. I had that misconception in the early 1990s and I always had very low self-esteem. Basically I assumed that gay people had no standards, because of my religious indoctrination. I know better now. I have brain damage from birth. Sorry.
Well, the heteros I know only think of one thing if I’m the opposite of their sex, or who ever they want to hook me up with. It doesn’t matter that I don’t want to date them, which is highly offensive to them. If they pretend to be my friend, they always seem to have ulterior motives because they still get upset when they are always in the friend zone. Then people who are my perceived gender get jealous like I’m a threat whenever they have an opposite sex partner. The straight world is definitely not okay
@@honeylemonadearts8852 not exactly, but equally irrational, dysfunctional, and consent-neutral (which is how I even know about straight norms when I have never ever ever ever asked about em)
I am a Dane, and have been waiting for that invasion for quite a while. I have now come to the conclusion that all the asexuals are also introverts, uniting and invading separately, in their own homes. 😆 (Should anyone not understand my Danish humor: It is a joke).
Despite the whole 'world domination' thing, we like playing fair. Can't start a major invasion with the current state of Europe. Or we may or may not be sneaking spies into Denmark. That's also a possibility.
@@mariethedove3909 Not ace at all, but grey-aro, and definitely an ace ally. ❤ I was so happy to see the aroace group at Odense Pride. Nice that they/you make it better known, so less people will feel "wrong/broken".
i have a friend who's a registered leftist, very modern, very urban, and she legit, dead-ass, introduced a transgirl as "this is X, she's trans" and saw nothing wrong with it. like... ok no deadnaming or wrong pronouns but... like... isn't that kind of weird to say though?? like i don't introduce her as "this is Y, she has a uterus". anyway i told her in private maybe don't do that in the future and she was super confused and a bit defensive. i'm not perfect, i've made plenty of mistakes in my life, but that was the first time i understood why some lgbt+ are a bit like "sure you are" towards allies. anyway, humans are never complete, we are always learning and growing, so please be patient. :3
true,also that was bad because could endanger her in front of homophobic people... mostly if trans, they're even more targeted than gay for example and most if are trans WOMEN
@@kaylawoodbury2308 I agree with the rule, but I'd put that as rule #2. Rule #1 of Ally club would be to not assume you know WTF you're on about and listen. I like to think of myself as an ally, and to do that I have to fully expect that I don't know everything, and to listen to people like Jamie, which btw is easy because Jamie is probably the sweetest person on the planet, and also super knowledgeable on the topic, and I will fight (not literally because I'm not a violent person) anyone who misgenders him.
Okay question, how does one become a registered leftist? Genuinely curious haha. And one little thing, it's spelled trans girl, not transgirl, because trans is an adjective, and not a part of the noun. She's a girl who happens to be trans. Saying transgirl is kinda like saying blackwoman instead of black woman, it's weird. It makes it sound like she's not a girl but a transgirl, you know? Like that's a separate and different thing, like a third s3x or something like that, not just a girl who happens to be trans. I hope that made sense :) And yeah you're right that that's a weird thing to do. I have this one friend who introduced someone to me as 'this is x, he's g@y' and I was like 'okay...?' It definitely made me think 'well I'm never coming out to that friend as anything lol'. (Censoring words to avoid auto-delete, I know it's annoying)
My youngest came out as NB recently. We have a really open home where inclusivity is spoken about all the time, so it was just a matter of asking their pronouns. They had got their hair cut short last month because they're also on the spectrum and have the thickest hair (9+ inches thick and impossible for them to work with), so it was also a way to cope with their hair washing. Their dad (we're divorced) was worried it would get them bullied and said, "Lesbians get their hair cut short." They usually ask me to speak on their behalf if they have to navigate the social hierarchy of adult/child, but they immediately said, "Dad, you need to read about this stuff. I'm enby so I wouldn't be a gay woman because my gender isn't female. Do you have a problem with gay women? Because you're stereotyping right now - tonnes of gay women have long hair. I might have a partner who is female in the future, so it's hurtful. My haircut does not determine my sexuality - it's an expression of who I am, regardless of my gender. I'm learning to cope with my disability. Please read about gender, sexuality and autism. I need you to be a better parent." They're 12. It was a huge win to hear their voice so powerful because they usually don't speak like that to family. I was trying so hard to remain neutral but in my own queer/neurodiverse mind I was fist bumping in the air and doing a magical dance! 🕺🕺✊️✊️ right on right on!
@MyAnanin it's years of work towards self advocacy. They're very well read for their age (about 8 years above their recommended reading level if you believe in level related ability). Their vocabulary and writing level is better than mine and I'm in uni! 😅😅
@Science Bear I was proud of my child who is not homophobic. I was proud of them for standing up to potential homophobia... did you read what I said? Their dad was making a judgement about lesbians having short hair, my child indicated the stereotype to their dad and didn't tolerate it because they said they may have a female partner one day, which doesn't make them a lesbian because they are AFAB non binary... That is in no way homophobic. Read what I said again please.
Look, I love looking at these cartoons but one thing has always bugged me... Who gave them the permission to just keep announcing our VERY secret plans in the a-spectrum community? Luckily Denmark hasn't caught on yet, but it's becoming extremely risky
@@crochetmatriarch It just felt wrong to exclude everyone who doesn't specifically identify as aromantic or asexual (so for example demisexual) so I've started using that instead 🙆🏻♀️
I think an ace who lives in Denmark betrayed us for their country and made it public. At our next meeting we must check everyones home country first, before letting them in.
I am also a permanently exhausted pigeon of a human being, so I can relate <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="259">4:19</a> WE FINALLY DID IT!!! We successfully invaded Denmark! <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="285">4:45</a> If the balls had hands the gay trans ball would bitch slap the "ally" ball so hard it got yeeted off camera <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="415">6:55</a> Now I want to hear Jamie do an actual weather report or smth, it would be very cool <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="440">7:20</a> As a lesbian, I can confirm that the panic-and-run is a CLASSIC. Anyone who has the confidence to _not_ evaporate on the spot is a legend!
@Jett How do you mean? I am curious as I am autistic. I study neuro psychology as one of my interests. Do you mean as being Neurodivergent or brain different? So autistic people are Neurodivergent as in our brains are wired differently. A substantial number of people in the neurodivergent community and the autistic community are LGBTQ+, and an even larger number of LGBTQ+ community is Neurodivergent. As I have been studying Neurodivergence vs. Neurotypicals. Neurotypicals have a compulsory need for likeness or sameness. Therefore, they have such a huge problem with not only the LGBTQ+ community but also the Neurodivergent community. This has made me question if all LGBTQ+ are not Neurodivergent. Your question may be giving me a little more clarity into my question. Maybe, not all LGBTQ+ are autistic, ADHD, OCD, turrets, Dyslexic, and so on and so forth, but by the nature of being LGBTQ+ they are Neurodivergent as in they are born brain different. As in the neurodivergence comes with the being LGBTQ+, and some also have with that autism and the other forms of neurodivergence. All this would mean is that their brains would be wired differently than Neurotypicals brains. Okay, you have given me a huge amount to think about tonight. One thing I have noticed is that most NDs are much more accepting of people who are not like them. In fact, we tend to appreciate people who are not like us and don't fit into society's norms. I realize that I used a lot of they them, because I am not part of the LGBTQ+ community. I am just here to learn about people who are different from me so I can be respectful. The deeper I study Neurodivergence, and the more I try to learn about the LGBTQ+ community for my own knowledge so I don't have to ask uncomfortable questions the more I started to realize the two have a lot in common, and how big the cross over is. As an autistic person, I always look at science which is why both are absolutely valid ways of being and both deserve respect. Yet, there is a relationship between the two communities that hasn't been tied together yet. OMG! Once the two become tied together then the NTs will go bat shit crazy, as they don't believe either one is valid. I have literally been told by NTs that autism is = to marvel characters and unicorns. The phobes are truly bat shit crazy!
@Jett Jamie is a great resource for an opinion, and a just a bundle of sunshine to be around in general, but I don’t know if he’s a “professional” take you’re looking for. Many studies have been done about people with ASD being LGBTQIA+, and more specifically trans/nb/gender-fluid/etc. I believe it has something to do with a lack of understanding social constructs, and gender and sexuality is just one big social construct. Autistics and neurodivergents have also a stronger sense of Justice and more of a tendency for self expression than neurotypicals. While the two (Autism and being LGBTQIA+) are correlated, I do not think one entirely depends on the other. There are plenty of interesting studies and topics covered on the subject you may want to look into if you’re truly interested like this.
@@lemongrassandsleep6352 this is so interesting!! I love this and would love to hear your research on it!! I love when stuff like this is researched, it really is so important to have more studies on social behaviors and their correlations with other things!! I wish you the best of luck on your research!!
I remember I was in a group therapy session and I mentioned I was having issues with my friend who was also a girl and the therapist kept insisting the issues were being caused because my friend was gay and had feelings for me 🙃 that always stuck with me because it always struck me as inappropriate
OMG the same happened to my mom, but she believed it and it made her homophobic for the longest time! I remember that when I was a little girl my mom would get paranoid about my friends having feelings for me, or me dating my friends, at a time when "gay" wasn't even in my vocabulary. Seriously, therapists should be much more careful about the shit they say sometimes.
Well what annoyed me most was that the therapist kept insisting that my friend had feelings for me, despite my reiterating that she didn't. It was not only extremely invalidating, but looking back was queerphobic because she was only basing the comment on how my friend and I were both attracted to women (I'm bi/pan and my friend was at the time identifying as bi before later coming out as gay).
I had a female therapist that was married to another woman, she was kind and my homophobic mom thought she was terrible and made me stop going to therapy
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="366">6:06</a> if a straight person fears that their gay friend has a crush on them just because they are of the same gender, then they must not have any opposite gender friends then. Their straight opposite gender friends might have a crush on them too (according to their logic)
Well, given some of the things seen in the AreTheStraightsOkay videos, it’s absolutely the case that some straight people insist that they can’t be friends with the opposite gender, so... it kinda checks out.
Well, sadly where i live there is still a common mentality that you can't be friends with the opposite gender but you're going ti develope feelings at some point. As a panromantic, i shall not have friends anymore, then
It's been nearly a year since the day that I realized I was aro-spec, and then hours later my brother called me over to a closet which he proceeded to literally walk out of to tell me he was gay. That was a big day. Thanks for being such a wholesome presence for me since then. (Since that day, I've also realized I'm not only aro-spec but also ace and trans-- a lot changed in a year. I think both this channel and One Topic really helped with that.)
I think the reason people always default to "are you attracted to me" when they find out someone is not straight is at least sometimes because of the human instinct to categorize. We are so thoroughly entrenched in the idea that people of the opposite gender are prospective romantic partners first and foremost that we have made boxes in our mind. Everyone in the opposite gender automatically go in the "Keep a close eye out for any sign of romantic attraction" box until we are given a good reason not to put them there. And everyone of the same gender go in the "You're safe to be as nice as you want without it being misinterpreted as flirting"' box. Someone in the second box saying, "I am attracted to people of your gender," makes us suddenly ask, "Did I have them in the wrong box? OMG! I Haven't been watching for signs of attraction! What if I've been sending flirting signals when I meant to send friendship signals? What if I have been missing their signs of attraction because I wasn't looking for them, and have been an absolute ass about their emotions?" Now, the proper response is to just trust your friend to be open and communicative about romantic interest, and to respect your sexual orientation as you respect theirs, but I understand the moment of sudden panic.
Dude I was wrong!! Ich habe dich gefunden! Also I'm your world-dominating genderqueer sapphic aroace older sister so haha I win (idc if I'm younger than you shush)
My nieces live with their grandmother, who is HORRIBLY transphobic and homophobic.....basically just a huge piece of human garbage. Anyway, one of them has come out as trans so technically I should say they're my nephew (them/they). The problem is, they're twelve and living with someone with all those....ahem....."opinions....has made them question whether or not it's okay to be trans. I hate it! I am trying to adopt both of them but it's going to take at least a year to get ready. Being twelve is hard enough but they're not even allowed to make their own place in the world and be their own person. It hurts talking to them because I'm the only supportive person they really have >.< However, pissing their Grandma off at Christmas with inappropriate gifts is gonna be hilarious :D
I'm so sorry to hear about their grandmother, but it sounds like you've got some great plans to try and make things better for them! Also, did you know there's a gender neutral term to go with niece and nephew? Maybe ask if they're interested in being a "nibling" :D
You should grow up first before you start trying to adopt some kids that are not yours. Deliberately pissing off disagreeing relatives is NEVER in the best intention of a child. Whether you agree with their opinions or not is not an excuse for you to behave childishly and cause unnecessary drama.
@@vp0617 Dude it's for the kids' well-being and safety, tf do you mean "grow up" ?? The kids are this person's niblings, who knows what happened to their parents, but I can say for certain that they're out of the picture So that won't cause drama nor will it be childish, I'd say it's a pretty fitting punishment for the terrible grandparents
@@MusicalFreak812 You don't even know the grandparents at all, other than that they don't agree with encouraging a child to believe they are transgender, and no, encouraging a child to believe delusions that can cause them to damage their bodies later is NOT in their best interest AT ALL.
@@vp0617 Perhaps I should explain. The kids were told that they couldn't dress emo, so I bought them emo clothes. That will piss off their grandmother. They were told no makeup, even though the youngest ADORES makeup. So I bought her some kid safe makeup kits. It's not as though I bought them things specifically to piss her off. I bought them the things they asked for and things they really wanted. Which, in the eyes of a hyper religious Q-anon believer, will be inappropriate. I do appreciate you telling me to grow up though. It gave me a good giggle. Especially since, you should know, some people thrive on drama. Their grandmother is one such person. She will turn anything, even a broken crayon, into a week long argument with the kids. They aren't her kids either and she lets them know daily that they aren't wanted. She spends their money on her actual biological daughter and herself and dresses them in hand-me-downs. There is more to the situation than you've been told, so perhaps you should consider that before being condescending.
I had to explain to a kid that just because im gay doesn't mean i have a crush on a boy. I told him that not every straight person has a crush on someone and he was very kind about it. He was just a curious kid
i am very happy that aro, ace and gender fluid are all little goblins because i am all of them so that makes me three times as mischevious as everyone else
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="480">8:00</a> I remember saying I think trans bodies are beautiful and got a big rant about how fetishizing them is wrong etc. I was so confused and hurt. Turns out a lot later I’m non-binary and think chest scars etc are beautiful because I want my t*ts removed, too.
The first comic is ace making PAN cakes as a pan ace person, this...actually resonates a lot I'll let you decide the implications, as there are many Edit: turns out I was lying. I'm aroace Everything I thought was romantic was actually alterous
@@user-zl8mg3ll2j it's a type of strong attraction that can be separate from romantic or platonic. For me personally, it means wanting a type of relationship where we're basically best friends but we would also do stuff like live together, possibly get married, that sort of thing
To my fellow Genderfluid people, here is your seasonal reminder to keep your gender at room temperature throughout the winter in order to prevent it from freezing 👍
While sitting in front of the heater with my cat on my lap he got up and turned around so that he could also watch Jamie. Guess it’s good to know he’s also a fan
I finally came out to my oldest brother a few weeks ago as bisexual. Since I am married, his reaction was half a) “Is your marriage “open” or not?” and half b) “If my wife came out as bisexual, I would be worried that she wants to cheat on me with a woman.” I took the time to educate him about the difference between infidelity (choice) and sexual attraction (not choice). He was lovingly receptive and supportive of me, and I think he was relieved that I wasn’t trying to use my identity as an excuse to be an asshole to my partner.
When I first learnt about LGBTQ topics I was exactly the person that would ask these *slightly problematic* question only to learn later on why everyone hates these questions. I totally get it now, but in case you are interested: my friend came out to me as bisexual and my train of thought was... how did she find this out about herself... she must have had a crush on another girl... why is she telling me NOW... wait... could she be interested in me and THAT'S why she tells me? That's thirteen year old me not knowing what to do with this piece of information and how to react.
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="263">4:23</a> The artist should have made it so that the rainbow part of the "ally" pealed off as they kept talking.
A real ally will make the effort to educate themselves (at least a bit) before that impressive display of verbal diarrhoea. That was an impressive display of someone just continuing to dig deeper.
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="393">6:33</a> it really is annoying when I go outside in the summer and just evaporate. Causing all sorts of weather alerts by accident.
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="423">7:03</a> THAT WAS MY COMIC OMFG HOW DID INMANAGE THIS?! Jamie is literally the reason I started going on LGBallT and now my comic is in his video?! Thank you so much!!!
I’m pretty sure it’s cause gay men typically are a bit more blatant than straight women, like they noticeably act different At least that’s what I’ve observed
I feel the whole reaction to someone you know coming out as gay being to worry about if they're attracted to you fits in r/imthemaincharacter as well. How self centred do you have to be? Also, it takes all of 1 second of thought to realise how dumb that is. I've never been sitting in a room with any of my het-women friends with that concern on my mind. OT said it best: You're allowed to be friends with someone without wanting to f$%k them!
@@Sirtrollsalotalot okok, fair enough if you prefer to date cis people over trans people, however we weren't talking about that, I just don't see how it's relevant to the genderfluid conversation, bc you're just saying "I would never date the people in this comment section" and that's fine and all, but this probably isn't the place to say it. (for the record, we wouldn't date you either)
When I first came out my cousin refused to call me the correct name (he still struggles with pronouns but it’s not malice so idc) and refused to try, well I started calling him a female name (think Marcus-Marcilline) he cried went to his mom but after that he tried, he’s come so far and I’m really glad he tries :)
The queer joy of seeing the agender ace ball was so real. I straight up said "that's me!" and started happy flapping and just making happy noises. Thank you Jamie for giving me that happy moment lol. And also for being one of my favorite RU-vidrs!
I'm literally trans and mlm gay and my dad once told me that me and my trans bf were just lesbians with extra steps and that really stuck with me for some reason
Yeah, Better Help are really scummy with their practices (both towards the customers, the therapist's who work for them (some are genuine and some sadly are not), and the profiles of real therapists they steal from professional organisations, pretending they work for them), and Pride Counselling are part of the same company.
@@hawkeyescoffee6399 Do either of you have further information on this? Both of these seemed cool, but if they're not worth it, I'd like to be sure and be able to tell others about it.
I love how people's base assumptions are equal to very predatory men but somehow think people would bother to pretend to be female go be predatory when it's so easy anyhow??? The fuck
I'm definitely with Jamie on this. I hate flirting, I hate the dating scene, I've never been confident enough with that kind of thing. I'm so glad I'm happily married and don't have to think about that any more.
I was expecting the comic at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="328">5:28</a> ish to end with gay-trans ball returning with an eraser and sharpie and erasing the ally symbol on the other ball lol
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="563">9:23</a> “Don’t label yourself! You’re too young to understand” I feel that on a personal level because that’s what my mum says
@@majasajesa Not all Mums, and in this case telling someone not to label themselves is possibly the wrong way to go about (I can't really say for sure as I don't know the details, but blanket statements like that are rarely useful). Every person's path to self-discovery is their own, and if the labels help them understand themselves better that's a good thing. At the same time they may feel no label adequately describes them, and that's okay too. The only person who can say that though is the person for whom the labels may or may not be describing.
Why do people think that, just because they sired or birthed someone, that they know _exactly_ what's going on in that person's head 24/7/52? Because last I checked, becoming a parent doesn't turn you into a telepath. Your kid's identity is their own. Not yours. Also Also last I checked: Trying to force someone to perceive the world and themselves the way you want them to is called, "brainwashing." And nobody - *_NOBODY_* - is forcing people to be trans or gay … or anything else except straight. In fact, from birth, humans are *_FORCED_* into genital-based categories and *_ACTIVELY PUNISHED_* for behaving in ways that don't fit those rigid, genital-based categories. So if anything, the only think kids are being forced to be _is straight and cisgender._
@@WombatMan64 Why do people think becoming a parent turns you into a telepath? Like, the only person who knows what's going on in a kid's head _is that kid._ Same as for any person!
Thank you so much Jamie, I was having a terrible emotional health day for absolutely no reason. I needed something to cheer myself up. Love your content.
When I was like twelve and barely had any idea what ening trans means I was like: "but can trans people be gay too?" My stupid butt back then thought there's only one label per person allowed. (I was just like: okay but if I would transition, I'd still like dudes so what do I do??? There's only one label per person nooooo) Can't believe how much has changed since then and I'm really grateful for you, the Click and OT for helping me to not be that dumb anymore
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="561">9:21</a> OMG this is such an issue: Vocabulary and labelling are 2 Separate THINGS. There’s always a false equivalence drawn by bigots.
I just feel that no one can tell someone else how they should be discovering who they are. There's a lot of good information out that that can help, but no two people go on the same journey, and everyone is valid no matter how they identify.
"Don't label yourself, you're too young to understand" probably goes on to label them with labels they feel comfortable with. I've heard way too many variations of "You're too young to label yourself, can't you just be a girl?", and "Don't label yourself, you're just a boy", and other similar things and it's just like what??? Do they hear themselves? "Don't label yourself, just be [label]".
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="197">3:17</a> i seen stuff like that - where someone has a specific condition - then another person says “ i know someone with that condition! You can be friends!” … never do this It is dumb lol . what someone is - may not usually be a solid reason to be friends.
The worst thing that happened to me is my SISTERS asked if they could still change in front of me.😔 still hurts that happened. And now they are "woke" and "forget" they were hella phobic to poor younger me way back in the day. Also, my heart rate went mega high when my mom was transphobic. So i feel it... love ya Jamie- Dorina
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="177">2:57</a> reminded me of when I was in high school. One of the women on my cheer team found out I was bi and she freaked out thinking I had a crush on her, she was a horrible person whenever I was around, I just told her it wouldn't be possible since she'd scare me straight LOL. Her friends all laughed while I walked away. I always changed in the bathrooms never the locker rooms because I hated the thought of people using my sexuality against me....
For clarification I know sexual orientation is not a choice, it was the only "witty" response young me could think of and it got me out of an awkward situation.
I totally get the feeling of not wanting to constantly educate. Not only am I a gay trans guy (ironic) and have had that exact conversation, I'm also disabled and have a service dog, and absolutely everyone thinks they have a right to comment on the dog when I'm just trying to grab 1 thing from the store. I've literally had adults start baby-talking my dog and their CHILD had to tell them to look at the patches on his gear that say "do not distract" and "ignore me". Most people have never seen a service dog in person before, and so they feel the need to express all their curiosity at once, and while I don't mind the first few stops, an hour into a 10 minute errand I just want to scream at them to read the patches and leave us alone (I don't, but I really want to)
About het people being worried that their coming out gay/lesbian friend may be hitting on them: I think that it is an heritage of hetero normativity, that somehow turns the coming out moment in a sort of unwanted declaration of sexual interest, where the gay/lesbian is seen as a potential predator. I am not sure if it make sense but I feel like it's seen as if (in and hetero context) a guy where starting to hit on a girl that was just being friendly, so she feels the need to draw a clear line in fear of any unwanted attention that could escalate. So in the coming out scenario the "girl" would bee the hetero person and the "guy" the gay/lesbian person. Again, I am not sure if this make sense or if I have made myself clear, that's just the impression that I have in this kind of situations.
Yeah I think that it's seeing gay/lesbian sexual interest as inherently a threat to straight people-as if the gays are gonna gay you up against your will lol Or like, being the target of gay/lesbian attraction kinda makes you look gay/lesbian too
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="165">2:45</a> People doing crap like that pisses me off because I've had people come out to me and even when they have had a crush on me I just take it as compliment and make sure they know that I'll always support them.
same!! A girl knew i liked her idfk how. But was kinda obvious bc when i like someone i act cringe and become red😂 She told me she was straight and me like 1st fist punch, ouch, but she took it well and wished me luck... we stayed as friends the rest of the summer And me like oh, nice then :) and then she returned with her dad to her country (we met in summer tuition class bc was with her mom here 4 a while)
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="552">9:12</a> Yes. As an AroAce, we will very rarely speak of other things besides cake, garlic bread, and world domination. Speaking of world domination, how are our plans going so far Aros, Aces and AroAces?
(<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="330">5:30</a>) So they're an LGB-ally just not a T-ally. I hope that ball learns what is good and bad behaviour.
I kept making it rain Genderfluid until I got stuck being half man and half woman and now I'm Third Gender. (This is a comedic pseudo-summary of my actual experience.)
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="495">8:15</a> this is conflicting honestly like the other day someone asked me "when did you become a them?" which normally would be transphobic back i knew he was just genuinely confused so i answered but if someone asked that same thing online its WAY harder to tell if they come from a place of genuinity
The doctor's appointment one reminds me of when I went for my first follow-up after my revision for Top surgery and the front desk lady misgendered me, so when I went into the exam room the first person I saw asked if I had high blood pressure when she took my vitals, I told her "no, I was misgendered and it made me anxious" She didn't know what misgendering meant, so I was happy to explain it to her and that I was trans, but then she just kept asking questions that were not related to my visit and it was super uncomfortable. She said she waa "just curious"... friend, I'm just here to make sure my scars are healing properly from an invasive, corrective surgery
I always appreciate your curated little selections of content. You save me from having to venture into the more infuriating corners of the internet myself.
