ASKING STRANGERS THEIR PRONOUNS (THEY DON’T LIKE IT) | NOAHFINNCE 

IT' S SUPER FUN WHEN PEOPLE SWITCH PRONOUNS MID SENTENCE IT FEELS SO GREAT

Middle aged men honestly trying their hardest to be supportive is really heartwarming.

one time i heard someone say: if you ask a cis person why they are their gender, their answer/reason will most of the time relate or circle back to their sex or the fact that they were born as that gender. when you ask someone who is trans, nonbinary, or whos gender identity does not entirely match with what they were born as, their reasoning goes way more in depth and will relate to things like feelings, surroundings, their history, or maybe even trauma.

I'm a middle-aged-she-her-cis-mom-lady. Noah, you are my new favorite person. Clever, curious, insightful, funny, and compassionate. You make the world brighter! ❤

Mixing pronouns (changing pronouns throughout the sentence) always makes me so happy

My sibling came out as nonbinary a few years ago, and us having an almost/entirely straight/cis extended family, we didn't really know what to expect with their reactions. Surprisingly, our whole (huge) extended family respects their pronouns and chosen name and tries their best not to accidentally misgender or deadname my sibling. Just something that I'm incredibly grateful for.

As a closeted non-binary person, I have met a couple people saying why non-binary people even exist and how the non-binary community is just ‘a trend’, leaving out the extreme body dysphoria, denial and confusion. Like, can’t people just be people? And also, about the ‘trend’ thing, it’s obviously not true. Non-binary people have existed for as long as people have existed. To be honest, I have been in a state of denial and shock for such a while now and everybody has been very supportive and I hope that you find this acceptance and friends in your life! Thank you for reading!

I once had a conversation with a very straight/cis friend of mine who was trying to understand my experience. I spoke about my gender fluidity and how I’d honestly be happy with any pronouns as long as it wasn’t just she/her all the damn time. A couple times after that, when referring to me in conversation, he referenced me as she, they and he in one sentence and it made me feel so happy and excited. So yeah, I’m my experience, switching pronouns is awesome

I came out as nonbinary last fall. I use she/they pronouns, because I prefer to be called they, but if people continue to call me she, I don't get upset about it. I don't bother strangers or mere acquaintances with my preference for they, but I love it when friends or family use the right pronoun. By the way, I am 76 years old and have always been a pretty open-minded person.

Noah cheering on all the non-binary people and their cool outfits is so wholesome

As a gen alpha, I am privileged enough to have learned about sex vs gender and the basic sexuality’s in 6th grade science. My school also celebrates pride month. We have a pride club, where as mentioned in another one of your videos, is simply just a safe space for all people in the community. I am female, but use the pronouns she/they as both make me comfortable. Love your content, sad I just now learned about you and missed out on your content all those years ago :( def sharing this channel with my gf!!!❤🎉

im 11 years old and recently found out im transgender after like a year and i already came out to alot of people and i finally feel happy and accepted!!

Person: "my name is bug and my pronouns are they/them" Noah: YES!!!

2:53 I go by he/they/she and I love it when people change mid sentence, it just shows recognition for my pronouns and just generally makes me happy :)

3:03 yes, especially whenever they also use mismatched terms such as “they are my boyfriend” or “he is my partner”

18:15 once hung my trans flag on my window (which I thought was facing an abandoned building but I suck at realizing stuff so) and some guy kept bothering me about it (they thought it was the pan flag and we’re getting kinda violent so I’m actually thankful they didn’t realize it was the trans flag.) moved shortly after.

Noah, I’m a closeted trans guy (teenager) and I’m feeling exactly the way you describe yourself in the past. You’ve honestly helped me so much. Even when I’m having a really bad day and feeling dysphoric your videos make me happy. Thank you so much 😊

Asking for pronouns is a very polite thing to do ! People shouldn’t be rude about it especially when people who ask are usually so sweet :(

I love that Bug's hair colour was matching the leafs yellowy colours.just BEAUTIFUL.

Omg the name "Bug" is so adorable!!!! I love unique names like this!!!

53 year old here. I think your video proves that it isn't only older people who can be bigoted. Age is no excuse for not learning from others. I have known about trans people for at least 30 years (30 years ago I visited my friend at her college in Minnesota and they had a talk given there by three trans women - but I think I sort of knew about them even before that?) and of course they have been around since forever. I am always happy to learn more from you or Jammidodger. Or Roly and Luxeria. My pronouns are she/her as I am a cis woman and identify as such.

It's so fun when people switch my pronouns mid sentence it's like pronoun parkour and it's incredibly validating knowing people are putting in effort to use more than one set (he/they/it)

I am a FTM Trans Guy with He/They pronouns, I LOVE IT WHEN MY FRIENDS SWITCH MY PRONOUNS MID-SENTENCE!

16:59 The three states of matter Solid liquid and gas But further than elementary school Plasma hides beneath a mask I dont even know most of it I just know it shall be taught This is not a poem No rhythm no rhyme no thoughts

I'm still closeted so nobody has changed pronouns while talking to me, but there is the feeling when someone asks your pronouns. I came out to a friend of mine (genderfluid) and they asked what pronouns I was using *that day*. That just gave me such a bubbly, happy feeling 😊

Dude, I love Lewis and his ‘pronoun guy’ vides 😂 they are just so funny He goes up to people in his aggressively rainbow attire and the fear in their eyes- 😭

As a transgender male, Noah honestly makes me so happy. He had amazing music, he’s funny, and he’s accepting. My absolute favorite comfort RU-vidr! My name is Ziago with He/They/It pronouns 😊

Honestly, as someone who's sex is female, I have gender dysphoria and have always felt more connected to being a boy, but i've never been able to actually show that because of homophobia/transphobia in my family and culture. I absolutely love this channel so much. like i don't even know how to explain it in a comment.

to the multiple pronoun question, yea i personally think its great because its a validation of all your pronouns. i feel like a lot of the time if you have multiple pronouns like he/they or she/they ppl will only use the binary ones, which can suck so i like when both are used and try to do it for others as well

I'm genderfluid so my pronouns change quite often. Because of this, I usually just introduce myself with they/them pronouns as they have yet to cause me any dysphoria and it's easier than just constantly changing them on people. That being said, I do still have preferences. For example, I am currently most comfortable with she/they pronouns, and I especially love it when people switch pronouns mid-sentence. It feels so incredibly validating and it's a breath of fresh air from the people who just stick to one of the several sets given. Bonus points if they switch up honorifics too.

As someone that's genderfluid and use all pronouns I love when they switch it! When someone calls me he then she I feel so much more comfortable with my identity!

18:09 "You know it's going to upset people." heh heh heh....that's the whole reason we do it

I'm Non-binary Genderfluid (AFAB) but I go by They/Them and He/Him and I absolutely adore when people switch mid sentence~ It's just fuzzy and cozy feeling 💗

I personally like when people use multiple pronouns for me in the same sentence or when my partners say “he is my girlfriend” or “she is my boyfriend”

3:08 “Do you like that, when people change genders mid-sentence” I prefer when they do, yes. My gender is always basically a complicated mix of guy and enby although the percentages of each changes, and when people change between neutral and masculine pronouns I feel it really well represents that for me and I like it.

16:41 I was lucky enough for one year in middle school i went to a public school were they actually talked about gender identity and being trans and all the other gender things, it really helped me figure out my pronouns!

I, a genderfluid person who lives in the trees, absolutely ADORE switching pronouns mid sentence! I love being called she and then he the next and then they, it always just give me such a happy feeling that I will genuinely sit there and start shaking my hands cause I get really happy! Genuinely, I love people using multiple pronouns in the same sentence for me. It's always been something I love doing AND love being done, it just always makes me feel SO SO SOOO HAPPY!!!

These sort of videos are always fascinating. I'm Finnish, and grew up speaking Finnish, and we got no gendered pronouns here. Hell, you may not even be referred to as a person if you're decent enough. In official Finnish, you got no gender but people aknowledge you as a living being, but everyone speaks spoken Finnish here, in which case you just automatically get referred as "it".

I came out as non binary and trans when I was 12. Now I’m 13 and over half of my friend group isn’t their assigned gender at birth and I love how much this shows that we’re growing up in a society that is so understanding and out about being apart of the lgbtq+ community. And one person in my friend group of like 10 people is straight

Im a young trans girl. Im not in the closet or anything, but your videos give me comfort! Thank u

i have a friend that uses any pronouns and their reasoning is that “im too young to care” and that “i have bigger problems” and i have sm respect for him cause i wish i could just not care that much. love that guy man ❤

as a person who uses he/they I LOVE when ppl mismatch honestly needs to happen more i think!!

15:27 omg thats jack oliver!! they were on the tv show glow up

YOU KNOW CAVETOWN!!!!! I LOVE IT!!! I went to his concert a few days ago😭❤️❤️❤️❤️

My relationship with gender is so funny because my parents didn't raise me in a "gendered" way, like I could play with whatever I want, wear whatever I want etc and because I have ADHD I didn't pay attention in school when they were teaching us that there were 2 genders or whatever lmao so i never thought about it. People called me a tomboy but that's wasn't a label I really identified with even if it probably was the closest description from the outside lol, I was just me- I just happened to prefer more 'boy' stuff to 'girl' stuff. I wasn't even aware of gender as a concept until I hit my teens and puberty and I felt dysphoric lmao (they did at least teach us the difference between sex and gender in secondary school though, it really shocks me the amount of grown adults who don't know that). Now as an adult I def feel more 'masculine' than 'feminine', whatever the hell those things even are, I don't identify with so-called womanhood at all and have never felt like a woman or a girl, because I'm not one. I consider my gender (or lack thereof?) one of the most "pure" things about me because I was so detached from the performative aspects of gender growing up so it just formed organically for the most part. In the wise words of The Spongebob movie "you are who you are", and this is who I am lmao, fck everything else.

I'm personally a person under 16 that goes by neopronouns and seeing someone that's over 18 not being mad that I'm "too young" warms my heart 😭❤️ Edit: Thank you guys for all the likes and replies! Your all really cool people, I was honestly expecting a lot of backlash but I was surprised to check these replies and see none

3:07 yeah i use she/they and i really wish people did that

7:35 me too, though I don't even know why but sweet, supportive old men are kinda adorable. like not in a weird way obviously but, take Wilfred Mott for example... ❤

As a 13 yr who's Bisexual, Im really glad that I'm looking at ur channel, because u inspire me and others into being themself!

i love it when people change my pronouns mid sentence!! as a they/she, people very rarely use they/them pronouns for me, let alone use both, and it feels like a sign of respect towards my identity

If someone asks me why I’m genderfluid my response will be “because identifying with the ocean is better than identifying with people” Also I never really hear people refer to me so I never hear people use pronouns on me but often I’ll talk to myself in the third person and realize halfway through a sentence I just changed pronouns like 7 times 😂

im 14 and i go by any pronouns and one of my friends asked me the other day why i go by any pronouns and not specific ones and i answered by saying "because my gender is now in the bin"

I am currently using he/they pronouns, and I find it very funny and refreshing when people change between them mid-sentence. It is just a lovely thing to know they're acknowleding my identity. (But in my language we only have she/her or he/him as a commonly known options, so I mostly tell people to use he/him for me. And it also depends on the people I'm around what I tell them to use for me)

As a (closeted) trans guy, I agree on the 'younger kids not caring about queer stuff' sentiment. One day I asked my younger brother (who is 9) if he knew what a trans person was. He said "Isn't that boys turning into girls and girls turning into boys?". After saying yes, he said "Yeah, it's cool. I support that." And I feel like the fact that a literal 9 year old is more understanding about this kind of stuff than grown adults is really telling.

I love love LOVE when my partner uses xe/xem for one part and they/them for another part of the sentence. It can get confusing, but hey, what about being nonbinary ISNT confusing?

I find it funny when people use ‘it’ to refer to me, especially online because they don’t want to feel like they’re validating me or making me happier by using any other pronouns, it’s very funny how people will claim others in the LGBT Community are overprotective & easily upset over pronouns, not realising their speaking about themselves.

52 here, so older generation I guess, Gen X. I used to be pretty bad with trans issues, I didn't understand it so I didn't accept it. Then I realized my acceptance didn't require my understanding. I accept lots of things I don't understand. Now I've gotten to the point where I have a friend who came out to me, as a trans woman, before she told anyone outside of her medical providers. I think that is a huge honor. Recently I've been having fun educating people who insist that They Them is plural. I point out that the word has been used to identify people whose gender is either unknown or irrelevant. And that it has been used like that since Chaucer.

I was originally scared to watch this video because I’ve seen so many of these “what’s your pronouns” videos where it’s just transphobia. But then I just got hit with your total positivity and this video made me happy. Thanks ❤️

when i chose the name Topazz, a lot hated it because it was "unrealistic" so it's good to see somebody appreciates funky names

Im 13 and I caught onto LGBT stuff easily. There was a joke around the school when I was 7 where people would say gay and I didn't understand it, but when it was explained to me what being gay was, I just though 'cool' and didn't question it. When I was 11 and learned what being trans was, it took me 2 seconds to understand it , while the rest of my family, including my younger siblings, took weeks to understand. My brother who's only 3 years older than me is very transphobic and homophobic, not knowing he has a gay, trans younger brother. It also makes me very happy to see trans people that have gone gray because I almost never see trans people who live that long. Anyways, seeing people who are accepting in general is nice.

changing pronouns mid sentence is amazing!!! i'm omni, agender, and use any (all) pronouns but i dress/act/look like a "stereotypical girl" and so often times people forget that i'm not cishet which is kinda upsetting but i get it :)

(2:40) As a human who uses she/they/he pronouns, I personally don’t like mixing pronouns (in one sentence) but I’m happy to do that for others. When people do that to refer to me I just get so confused myself!😂✨ (10:12) For me, I don’t exactly experience gender so I don’t care what pronouns people use for me. The only time I’d mind is if on a particular day I’m feeling dysphoric. The use of she/her pronouns would not help.

9:31 Noah thought he could flip us if and no one would notice🤨📸

Im 11 and im trans and gay and this warms my heart 13:47

Literally had a convo with someone last week about my gender. I'm a non-binary transman. I was coming home from work and a random person approached me you know trying to be friendly (I thought) and stuff and out of the blue they asked me what my gender was and I told them I use they/them pronouns. They got angry and frustrated saying "No, what's your gender you male or female, girl or a boy? I'm a girl. What are you? I said "I'm just a person who uses they/them pronouns." and then I walked away and I could hear them yelling like: "bro I just asked this person what they're gender was. I didn't ask for all that, are you a girl or boy? it's simple just like that!" and that's why I don't like people. And funny enough, they used my pronouns while talking to someone else lol

I love your videos so much noah i’m a queer person and i find so much comfort in your vidoes they helped me so much when i was struggling with excepting myself ( i still struggle with it but it’s better now) keep the good work up mate

i once met someone called gem after midget gems and i just hope theyre having a fantastic life

he/they, and I love it when people use them interchangeably in sentences because it shows they genuinely care about making sure I feel comfortable

Responding to duel pronouns thing!! As someone that uses he/it/they I absolutely adore it when people mix up the pronouns mid sentence, it's super fun! People use multiple pronouns for a reason; they want you to use both!

“WE FOUND A VOID GENDER” as he gets pulled into the void 😂😂

but really the first guy who was interviewing people seems like such a nice person

Im cis. Im she/her i questioned my gender alot growing up. My sister is trans and she really pushed for me to be trans or nonbinary too it. Shes grown out of that shes cool now. But now i know for sure that i am a woman and i love being a girl. Feminine things give me euphoria and being called they them feels slightly dysphoric depending on the situation. Like if its a stranger its fine but if a friend uses they them i feel less feminine. I think it reminds me of people pushing for me to be a boy. People also thought i was a trans woman high school was weird.

For me I like being a guy as well as a girl who goes by she/him because nobody can misgender me. If they say "THATS A GIRL" its true because I'm a girl. if they say ''THATS A BOY" its true cause I'm a boy. And even if they only use one set of pronouns (Either he/him or she/her) its still my pronouns. #Bigenderpower

12:00 as a trans girl who doesn't want to get Botton surgery YES THIS IS ME

17:09 " *_I LOVE YOUR OUTFIT!!!!_* 😡😡🤬"

not completely related but I've been wearing a they/them pronoun button to school for a couple weeks, most people still use she/her but today I was talking to my desk mates in first period and one of them was like talking to the other about me and they were like 'this is a conversation between me and them' and it made me so happyyyy

I'm she/her, but I used to think I wanted ro be a man because everyone kinda saw me as one in a way. Like I was always a tomboy and I put out this persona of not caring about my apperence and wearing "guy clothing". When I would wear clothes I really liked and felt comfortable in, that happened to on the "girly" side it made me feel like everyone I knew hated it and that they were judging me. Now I'm over it and have started to branch more into the clothing and things that make me really like myself! Btw your videos are great!

Heyy, I found out, that I‘m a transboy like two months ago after I thought about it for like half-a-year and my friends are all really supportive, and I play theatre and the ensemble is also a bit like my family and it‘s a bit like a rainbow-ensemle cause we are all either queer or allies and we are over 100 people from 1 - 89 years old and I‘m very happy, that I could find a home there and everyone calls me he by now, and I‘m planning to out myself in school after summer break so yeah, wish me luck and thank you for your amazing videos.

This is how i came to using any pronouns. i used to care about labels and stuff like way way way too much. i needed a label to cling onto otherwise I felt so confused and just insane. so id constantly be looking for labels that felt right and no matter how much digging and looking none of them did. i went through so many label and pronoun changes I can't keep count. It got to a point where it was just so emotionally draining that I decided to just not care. i forced myself to not care about a label and I have felt at lot more at peace with my identity. so now I don't use any specific pronouns and don't label my gender or sexuality and I have found life so much easier. anyways :)

Hello! I am gender fluid and I go by any pronouns! I noticed you asked about how it feels to go by any pronouns and I would best describe it as (in my personal experience) that its almost like trying to find a message in some sort of abstract work where everyone may have their own conclusion! Anyways loved the video and I hope you have an amazing day!

It makes me so freaking happy when they change it mid sentence 😭

i adore nature names which is why i chose clay because it just sounds nice and suits me pretty well, people whose names are like saturn, bug, fern, jupiter etc its just makes me feel so happy (and yes most people with those kinda names like cavetown)

cis person here! and I would like to say that I'm so proud of all of you. some of you might be in a very dark place or came from a dark place, and just know that you are not alone and it will all turn out in the end. I may have no idea what you guys go through, but I will try my best to understand so I can support those around me :)

Yes, as a trans guy whose pronouns are He/It/Xe i personally love it when people change pronouns mid sentence it’s awesome

i use she/they pronouns and it's because i know im a female but i dress and style myself more androgynous so i also give off masculine characteristics so i use the "they" because I am still comfortable if people use those pronouns. it's also easier if people don't know what to use when they first meet me, they can use "they" and i won't care.

I know one person (one of my best friends) who asks EVERYONE she meets and talks to their pronouns (in her words you never know so might as well ask to be respectful), and she also happens to be the one cishet person in my friend group (I’m nb). It’s amazing and I love her and it’s a REALLY good thing she’s over 6ft and athletic because we live in midwestern USA and some people get very angry by that question.

As a kid I was told all about the difference between sex and gender and it made me into the person I am today

So I identify as nonbinary, I use they/them pronouns. I use the name “Cedar”. I can agree I LOVE LOVE LOVE!!! When a non-binary person uses names like bug, twig, fern, etc. because it makes me feel better about using the name cedar. Ty!

Genderfluid/bi over here who takes any pronouns! (He/They/She in that order of preference!) I am most comfortable with he/they, typically, but since I am, irl, a female, most people automatically use she/her pronouns with me, which doesn't really upset me at all. They are low on the preference list, but I'm not going to kill you, haha! For those who aren't sure what to call me, they usually use they/them, which is also totally fine! I prefer these above she/her, as I feel more comfortable taking they/them, since I considered myself nonbinary for a while. Consider them comfort/safe pronouns! Lastly, referring to me as he/him will make me jump for joy, bear hug you, and love you forever, since I've felt most comfortable with these pronouns for a while now, and they give me that warm fuzzy feeling inside. I don't really know how to explain it, but I hope that helps!!

All of these comments of people saying they like when people change pronouns mid-sentence is 1. making me very happy that y'all are getting validated, and 2. making me confront a lot of internalized enbyphobia about multiple pronoun usage, and realizing that I'd probably enjoy being referred to that way. I'm only out to a few people, but I'm hoping to come out to more people soon, so hopefully I can get support experimenting with pronouns Thanks y'all!

I totally get people, especially binary trans people, who are like "I'm trying to communicate my gender visually and it sucks when that doesn't work". But, as a transmasc, for me, it's like, if someone calls me "she" without asking, that's how I know I failed. If someone asks me my pronouns, it's not because of me or what I look like, it's because they're the type of person who likes to ask. For me it's like, mostly trans people ask my pronouns, or people I've just come out to. So they're making sure they get it right, which makes me feel great honestly.

binge watching ur videos rn bc ur my type 😭

3:08 as someone who goes by they/he I love it when people just randomly change pronouns mid sentence

I use she/they pronouns and personally I do like when people change between the two in different sentences (though if they use both in one sentence it does confuse me lmao). Also I use both so people can use whatever they’re comfortable with for me:)

I personally LOVE when people change pronouns mid sentence for me. Especially like if my bf says like, “she’s my boyfriend” or smth like that. It makes me SO HAPPY

2:50 I LOVE IT WHEN PPL DO THAT 😭 it makes me happy love ya noah, my fav content creator cuz ur funny relatable and just overall the best person i know lol

I use they/them pronouns, I came out almost three years ago and it's incredible to think about how much my perception of myself has changed. I knew about my pronouns long before I came out and referred to myself as they/them in my head, but hearing people actually call me that was so gratifying.

Changing pronouns mid-sentence makes me feel almost as good as one of my biggest idols acknowledging that his character is bi (cuz *Gods* I love Kit Young lmao)

" Bug " , is one of the coolest names I've ever heard !! "Who are you " *I AM B U G*

My favourite thing to do to make it easy for people when I meet them is to go "Hi, nice to meet you! I'm [name], he/him" I think it lets the other person tell me their pronouns without feeling they don't pass or something :)