I did it growing up because I was a little nerd and a teacher tried to correct me once so I made a point of using neutral singular pronouns for everyone I could in all my writing. Then my friends started slowly coming out and I got into the habit of referring to everyone's partner as They and Partner. I called everyone partners long before it picked up in my city and it still catches a weird look now and again, but I think people get it now. Even hetero couples don't want to be called boy and girl friends as it feels a little juvenile and unserious for adults.
@@jazwhoaskedforthis yeah people ask why I use they/them pronouns for my sibling and then I have to tell them that they're non-binary which most people then apologize for asking I don't tell transphobes tho because I know how they would act so for them I just say "because I know how to speak English"
An actual convo where someone uses incorrect pronouns: “Hey, did you see *her* new dress?” “Oh, Actually they use they/them pronouns!” “Oh I’m sorry, Did you see *their* new dress” “Yes! It was so pretty.” That’s a real convo, it’s legit not screaming.
I wish my mum responded like this. She just angrily responds with "that's besides the point! Let me say what I want to say!" Ma'am, I only asked you to use the correct pronouns. If you started talking about your vacation to Malaysia, and I corrected you and said that it was actually Malaga, would you be angry? NO, you'd be grateful I saved you from embarrassing yourself! IT'S THE SAME WITH PRONOUNS
1. As a 35 year old, I feel like a dinosaur on social media now, especially on TikTok 2. As a pansexual nonbinary person, I am beyond confused at straight TikTok 3. As a human being, I am extremely uncomfortable with all the videos that were shown today 🙃
18:30 made me audibly gag, I screamed in my pillow, and burst into tears 😭😭😭 I'm scared for my life and I really wish I could erase that from my mind. Some straight people terrify me :,) (Coming from a trans male and pansexual) Edit: Sorry lemme rephrase that...Almost ALL of the tiktoks shown here in this video made me audibly gag and burst into tears
I'm asexual and I can't get over how it took me more than half an hour to realize why he really said "rockstar", now that I have realized I am in pain-
@@KurohAkuma wait- no because I don't get it but I think I know what he meant and I don't think I really want to know but I'm also intrigued, I'm also Ace so ayyy
@@just_call_me_leo well because it's kind of implying that if they weren't bisexual they couldn't be with them because they don't consider a trans person as fully the gender they indentify as. I hope it makes sense.
A few years ago when I first learned about LGBTQ my friend used they/them pronouns. I was so confused, but they understood and helped me learn, it took me a while but after a bit I was used to using they/them pronouns. They didn't get pissed or have a hissy fit or yelled at me, she was trying to help me. I am so grateful that they were so nice ☺️
That "When you find out she's trans" tiktok was just awful. Im sick and tired of people assuming what trans peoples genitals are, what they call them, and how they use them -_-
Thank you for never shaming anybody, Noah, really. After watching a ton of people who shame others for their orientation, chosen gender, and kinks, you're a breath of fresh air. May everyone be as open-minded as you. :)
This lady talking about not accepting our "delusions" while I'm sitting here with they/them pronouns and actual delusions cause I'm schizophrenic. Like please don't accept my delusions, but my gender identity is not one of them :p if I was a kid and knew about nonbinary and such, I would have definitely identified as it. I was 6 years old and thinking "I don't care if people see me as a guy or a girl, I'd like to be both" and now I'm genderfluid.
Whenever I see Tiktoks like the one with the guy spitting, I just imagine them after shooting the video, cowering on the floor wiping up their own mess. And it makes me smile.
I don't understand how they could think spitting is sexy. When I was little bullies would pin you down and threaten to spit in your face. It's just gross.
It’s like your legal name being billy and then crying because they didn’t call you Bobby, also that’s completely different because sex/gender have biological criteria’s you have to meet to be classified as one, a name is just something given to someone to address them by so you can communicate to them easily
@@Lydt95 uhm...it does actually work like that? It works like that with people who have enough cognitive abilities to recognize that they should be respectful. If it doesn't work with you, that says a lot about your intelligence-
@@syniimon-stix4022 respectful to what? There’s respect, which I have for every person and then there’s stupidity. Would you call me a toaster if I started identifying as one? No you wouldn’t because I’m not a fucking toaster. Why is it any different? You cannot decide what you are it’s already decided. Unfortunately you might not like that, but that’s life, it’s not always easy and it’s not always gonna be how you want it. This generation is a joke and the amount of “trans people” who ‘de transition’ just shows it shouldn’t be so easily available to do. If you actually feel like you’re in the wrong body.. which I don’t think half of trans people do.. you should see a therapist because you’re ill. And don’t get me started about people who push the idea on children. They shouldn’t even know what it is.
I’m having a very bad pain crisis today and I came on RU-vid to distract my brain and saw you just posted and for 22 minutes and 37 seconds my pain became tolerable and I laughed for the first time in days! Thank you, Noah, for being such a real, hilarious, extraordinary person! 💕🌈🥰
On the 2nd ticktock (the daddy one) right when the kid pooped himself, I started to smell poo. Thinking it was just my brain messing with me, I didn't think much of it. Turns out one of my cats took a dump on the carpet, and I had no idea until a solid 5 min after I smelled it. Comedic timing amirite
the girl comparing religion to "genderfluidity crap" has such a bad take and argument, because 1) as Noah pointed out, nobody acts like that and 2) if I went up to someone and said, "Are you muslim?" and they replied that they are not but they are christian and I just answered "so as a muslim, ..." that person would most likely either correct me nicely (like people correct others with their gender/pronouns) or get mad because I'm being disrespectful, which I would be in this case. Stupidity and transphobia mixed together
I am lesbian, so I find it funny when straight ppl are terrified of doing something lesbian. I seen girls not wanting to roll their pant's legs cuz it's "gay" to do so, but really I am just more comfortable when doing so.
I’m straight and I find it so funny as well! Some of my queer friends joke about how sometimes I dress like a “stereotypical bisexual” and idk it’s just funny because I just laugh with them when they say that. I think the funny thing is how fragile their sexualities have to be for them to not wear something “because it’s gay”. If you know you’re straight then yk you’re straight, like- wearing some clothes doesn’t define ur sexuality,, it’s so stupid 😭
@@aiti1028 I came out as bisexual last month and I still dress as I originally did when I was straight, which is just a blend of feminine and masculine fashion. It's weird how some people don't want to wear certain things because they're scared of being perceived as "gay" lol
5:32 ok i actually saw this tik tok and i totally thought it was a queer man bottom talking to their top, didn’t cross my mind once that this could be straight
Not a single one of those guys you showed were attractive nor seductive. No woman I friends with would ever find their nonsense a turn on. You were right on all of it. You are a better feminist then alot of them. There are feminist who claim to be feminist while they tear down fellow women's choices, like those who choose to stay home. It's ridiculous. I don't know any men that would do that spit thing. Most guys know women usually find that gross. I will say some foods can be sexy like whip cream.
The guy who was like "lick it up" was so ridiculous not only because it was disgusting and weird to post such a thing on Tik Tok, but also because that kind of attitude needs a certain type of person to carry it, and a blond haired pretty boy is not that person. Great video as always!
so my friend told me this story that happened a couple days ago, and this particular friend, is non-binary. they go by, they-them pronouns. and my friend was doing the nasty with a guy they met at a party, and my friend is biologically female, and the guy, was on top and saying “you’re such a good girl” and saying all these “female” phrases towards them. they were *so* uncomfortable-
That must cause a lot of stress for them. I hope they find someone better and can implement what certain pet names are okay/what wording a partner can use during moments like that. Boundaries are always good to set, so I'd definitely recommend that if they're looking to better prevent that from happening.
@@poll8934 They’re not explicitly comparing it to that, but they’re reacting in a certain way because its important to have and respect boundaries when having sex with someone. The other person who was calling the nonbinary person feminine names was making them uncomfortable in a very vulnerable situation.
16:32 Googles explanation for "Is They Singular?": Is “they” singular or plural? The answer is both. As of 2019, most big style guides-including the Associated Press, the Chicago Manual of Style, the MLA style manual, and the APA style manual-accept the usage of the singular they. SOOOO BASICALLY THE POINT IS EVEN GOOGLE DISAGREE WITH HER
2:22 that made me so uncomfortable. I literally mouthed “no” when he asked... it’s honestly disgusting that people put this on a public app that children use, I mean I’m all for whatever ya do in ur own time, but as a child myself that’s just strange...
I mean either or is fine, but I must say I'm a little dissapointed it's not "go little rockstar" as that's what I've been whispering to myself when seeing queer people out in public living their best life :'(
I love how they allways say "Mm preffer to use correct english" and next day they won't know the diffrence between "your" and "you're" Tbh it's 2022 no one ACCUALY cares about grammar at this point exept for teachers
20:10 I hate this so much, can't put into words how much loathe this, this is the most DISGUSTING, vomit induced thing I have EVER seen. I HATE Seeing Saliva, it's the GROSSEST thing ever. maybe this is a personal preference; but I can't stand seeing saliva drips on me or any other person. I just can't anymore , I can't; my faith in people and their. . . interests. Is in Hell now. I just can't anymore. This why I can't trust people. God knows what they're into.
16:20 I am Part of the LGTBQ community and sometimes get the pronouns confused myself and once I actually got screamed at for twisting it up once XD please don’t judge my English 🥺
I swear people aren’t “forcing genderfluid stuff” on you. They are just correcting you if you get their pronouns wrong like bro forcing your religion on someone means your forcing them to do something. Being told SOMEONE ELSE’S pronouns are different because they aren’t forcing YOU to be called those pronouns. Edit: adding onto the “singular they” thing, she said “I’m a stickler for using correct grammar” as if she didn’t just say “y’all” at the beginning of the video-
I was not paying attention for a second and then saw that guy spitting and straight up dry heaved. I work in healthcare and can handle all sorts of nasty shit but people spitting like that makes me nauseous. 🤢
17:14 I literally correct everyone’s grammar in school. I’ve been known for that since 4th grade. Someone says “me and ___”? I correct them since its” ___ and I”. Someone says “more bigger” (or something along those lines)? I correct them because it should just be bigger, not _more_ bigger. Using they/them pronouns for a single person is totally valid. When someone says, “oh, my friend did something really weird yesterday” you would respond with “what did **they** do?” This girl in the TikTok is the one who needs to speak better English and follow grammar rules, not us.
14:29 This, imo, has partially to do with the fact that men mature slower mentally. However, the biggest contribution is the gender stereotypes, of how a woman has to take care of her whole family including her husband. So men are used to acting like babies and their gfs have to care for them like one. It's nasty tbh
I personally hate those people that are like "I DON'T ACCEPT THEY/THEM, MY PRONOUS ARE PIKACHU/CHARMANDER" or something Also those cis people that don't accept they/them. They them is gender neutral, I use it if I'm not sure what their pronouns are. And yes, I have found few people using neopronouns that got really offended for me using they/them Like PLEASE -_- How the fuck should I know what neopronoun to use for a person I've never seen before and now gets offended in tik tok's comment section
@@dabitodoroki2882 Im glad im aromantic When i dressed up, a dude didnt want to back off until i gave him number I felt very uncomfortable bc all men do is treat us like objects
I literally need the camera punches at the end😂 like it gives me anxiety and feels incomplete on the odd occasion he doesn’t do It..I know, Im a weirdo😂
The thing is, at least in Spain, these kind of guys tend to get a lot of girls to like them. Because of damn gender roles women tend to like assholes because there's a tendency of going for them and try to fix them as to fulfill some kind of need of feeling needed and useful because they grow learning to help others and find their validation that way. It's pretty fucked up for them because it leads to self destructive tendencies in relationships, over exceeding themselves, not having good boundaries and being stuck in toxic relationships. And the last years that has gotten worse for some with the trap culture that kind of romantize sex even more and with that, validation through being sexually atractive, and in that culture men kind of follow the sadboy/fuckboy stereotype. Obviously not all of them are assholes and not girls are biased by this, right now there are also more women than ever that are aware of those things and that are building healthier relationships, but it makes me sad to see how there's a counterpart that is getting worse :S
The fact they call it a “body count” tells me all I need to know. They probably had no repeat customers if they just refer to people as “bodies”. Also, it grosses me out when people call their actual fathers “daddy”. Ew. That whole family seems incestuous. A little too involved with each other. (They’re probably not actually family . . I hope not anyway) “When a girl is in love, she’ll act like a mother” 🤢🤮. Sorry, no we don’t. And no we won’t
12:58 If someone asked me if my non-binary sibling was my brother I would just be like “oh yeah, that’s my sibling, they’re nonbinary” not like “ I’m not answering that question until you AcKnOwLeDgE their gender” like that’s unnecessary
Im pretty sure the lad with tattoos on his neck is one of us. He does "Top, Btm" vids and uses male pronouns when talking about partners. Unless of course he's gay baiting , which i wouldn't put past a tik tokker lol
I always felt so insecure about my friends who were trans because I never knew how to respond to them. I never understood the pronouns well enough to do it appropriately you’ve give me guidance and all of the needs of just being a good person.
I have actually seen a friend loose his mind over pronouns. I believe it was only bc the person was purposely being disrespectful though not bc they were trying to force someone to use the correct pronoun, big difference.
@@aviezer_who_drinks_seltzer371 Me too and it has nothing to do with pronouns but everything to do with respect. Why is that simple for others to understand?
@@aviezer_who_drinks_seltzer371 I believe that if someone wants to be called by/affiliated with a certain pronoun, name, sex, religion, political stance, race (I'm confused for white instead of Native American) and so forth then what does it matter to another person? What impact is it having on other's lives? As long as someone is not pushing their agenda on others then I'm fine with it, not that my opinion counts as the end all be all. I don't care if it is any of the above just don't push it on me. Educate me if I get it wrong but don't give me an entire essay on it.
You are not ugly Noah!! You are a handsome, beautiful man! Never change for anyone! You are perfect the way you are 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️. Sending lots of love to ur way!
The vibe I'm getting from Straight TikTok is straight guys overcompensating for themselves in order to live out the experiences they want on an online platform. Quite depressing to think about.
