Bi People Have Issues 

One more stat: 100% of bi people are great & deserve to be happy & loved.

I'm bi, but I'm finding it hard to come out

**is a bi woman, has been stalked and sexually harrassed, often refers to myself as gay to avoid harassment and biphobia, was recently diagnosed with bipolar** **slowly sinks down in chair**

I'm a lesbian and it saddens me that some people still reject and invalidate bi-people in our community.

The funding for bi+ groups really angered me. it's like we're not even accepted in our own community.

Wow. Those stats are really scary....

I would like to say that I am bisexual and I have ptsd because of being raped by a guy trying to prove that I only like men and got kicked out of my moms house at 16 for not being straight

I burst out in tears at the stat about rape... I'm a bi girl and got raped so that's honestly really hard to hear and I'm not out because I'm so scared of coming out cause a lot of people i know don't believe bisexuality is a thing 💔💔💔😭😭😭

There was a bi girl at my school that sadly passed away recently because she was bullied into suicide. It's things like this that push people into silence. If you feel safe, please come forward and talk. It will help yourself and others, please if you are depressed or having any issue relating, and I hope I can say this for others, I believe that this community and others can discuss issues like these.

the money part holy shit they basically just threw two crumpled up dollar bills at us

Yes, I'm bisexual and proud. I like both gender so what? It's the way I am and I'm happy to be the way I am so treat me and other bi people right

Being 21 I haven't told anyone that I'm bisexual except for my boyfriend, who thankfully has been supporting me since we've been together, I feel like I can't tell people especially in the LGBT community because I will get hate. I want to be able to be accepted and not hide anymore. Why can't bisexuals have the same love that we give to gays and lesbians?

i feel conflicted sometimes as a bi women, when around gay friends i define myself as lesbian because i feel more accepted and in the past ive been told off by lesbians for being bi. and i get sick of having that argument and having to justify my sexuality which i find is so weird everyone else doesn't have to justify their sexuality, and often people say why dont you choice and that just makes me really angry and make me say things like why dont you choice to be the opposite to their sexuality. so i feel bad because it pushers the erasha and creates a feed back.

Can you make a video about internalized biphobia. I know internalized homophobia is being talked about, but not really for bi people.

Sometimes I don't think that bi issues are that big of a deal besides representation. Then I hear things like this and I'm like "Wow I need to advocate for myself and my peeps before" The only problem is that I can only be so open about it because I'm not out to my parents.

I'm out and proud!!!!!And have been for 33 years! (I'm 47 now)Bi's rule!!!!

also, can you invite bi people of color to talk about their experiences as bi and of color. It would mean a lot to people like me, who is bi and of color.

I'm so happy that you've became a voice for the bi community and are furthing the discussion on bi visibility. A lot needs to change and hopefully by spreading facts and information around like this will kick people into action. I'm tired of the rest of the community being ignored.

I would dare to say there's even more bi people than straight people, literally everyone I've met and got close to eventually came out as bisexual. I think there might be the same or bigger amount of bisexuals than heterosexuals, only most bi people won't say they're bi and people are always going to assume you're just either gay or straight but never bi so bisexuals remain invisible. I find this very irritating, I'll try to educate people around me about these issues whenever I can. I loved this video, RJ! By the way the intro is great. :)

for years since middle school i denied having feelings for the same sex. growing up i learned to realize i was bisexual but still not accepting. alot of my gay/les friends use to make fun of me for saying i had feelings for both. lost alot of friends cause of it. i use to be angey because they who always bitched about not being accepted, are the same ones pushing us bi people down. Im now 29 and fully accept im bi still havent said anything yet, but i dnt have too. Im happy, so regardless who accepts me, idc. I accept me. i love both and i will show love to who loves me equally. simple

this is going to my biphobic classmate. I hope he shuts up now

That poverty stat really caught me by surprise...

these stats r scaring me

Making me cry with numbers... thank you for making this video. As a bi woman who has experienced hate, stalking, sexual violence and the whole gamut of issues this means a lot.

As a bi 17 year old girl, I find it very hard to deal with being confused all the time, even though deep down I know that I will never "choose a side", because I just can!!! I also find it harder to come out 1. because I hate the term bisexual 2.because I dont really feel like everyone is going to take me for full 3. because I always still have this voice inside my head that says : But what if you are one or the other and are just confused at the moment?. Its hard being bi...if I was a lesbian I maybe would be out already!

Someone : bisexuals are priviliged compared to gay people, you're straight passing Me : sit down cause you gonna hear some numbers

I came out by getting my first girlfriend in seventh grade. Boys used to beat me up and call me a dyke. I was told by teachers to "inform the boys I was attention seeking" and "to get through the phase asap". D':

I would share this on Facebook, but I'm still in the closet... -_-

Thank You For This!, I am proudly female, Mexican and Bisexual and have never drugged myself nor want to, we Bi's are amazing, thank you so much for this you are so beautiful, bless you, we are strong the statistics won't hold us down!

I am a bisexual Native American woman in the USA. In my personal life I have felt the misrepresentation of the community against myself and others. I am fed up with the lack of funding and the lack of care that bisexual plus people are shown. #WeMatterToo

Sir, you got youself a new subscriber!

R.J., I love it! And I am having MASSIVE graph envy! Where the hell did you get those things?

I always thought we were a minority in a minority. Now I feel more confortable. Thnx man

Love that you highlight how things are particularly bad for bi women. Bimisogny is so real. Would love to have bi issues talked about in relation to race and transness. A lot of bi people are trans/nonbinary too and bi women of colour experience even more intense rates of harm. Thanks so much for your great work!

I've seen this like four times and it just gives me mixed emotions. It so hard to come out as bisexual, I get called gay instead of them accepting I'm bisexual.

i miss will and rj vlogs. i felt like you guys were apart of my daily life.

Great video as always. Also loving the new intro and use of infographics.

As a partner to a Bi woman I am enlightened and eager for more videos thank you for all you do to educate society and the world at large.

This video is brilliant! I've heard so many times that biphobia isn't real and that bisexuals are privileged etc... Thanks for this video!

Thank God for theNotAdam being here for us all... RJ, this is so sad. Though imagine being bi in Russia..

Uh, rj got really passionate about this. it obviously hits him so hard

OMG, that was intense. But SO important. The money stat shocked me the most. WHAT EVEN.

oh god I need to watch puppies being puppies for a while after this...

I'm bi and I have depression am I forced to stop being bi...

I know no one cares, but I finally worked up the courage to come out to my friend as pan. But then we went to the topic of dating, and she said, "Would you ever date a bisexual guy?" (she assumes I'm straight, which is fair). I said, "Of course!" and her immediate response was, "I wouldn't. They're definitely going to cheat on you." I protested, but it just ended up with her saying bisexuals were slutty and greedy. She said it so matter-of-factly it was kind of depressing. So I'm still on the closet. On the bright side, at least she told me her views before I came out to her! Probably would have lost a friend if she didn't.

I relate with this so strongly it's so hard feeling like your not understood or accepted by straight or gay communities

Wow! I'm bi and I had not idea it was so bad... startling stats. Thanks for pulling those together and painting a picture that will hopefully compel people to change our collective consciousness about these important matters and call for more funding, support services, and representation among other things.

As a bi man I have experienced much of what you describe. I've heard people I love and still love, warn me not to be too open about my sexuality. I understand their concerns but I have also witnessed some of the most heartfelt support and kindness. I think about it like I do with most other social issues is that unfortunately these things take time but also exposure. The more often bisexuality is seen and the more people talk about it positively, then things will change. But we must all put in the effort. I plan to get myself involved in local politics where I live. And anyone who tries can certainly help but we must all work together and be strong against any negativity and hatred.

would you include your resources in the description box? Sanks.

Me: Liked a boy in prepatory, liked a girl in 5th grade, friend and classmates tease me, one being a bit Biphobic. *Bi people are the most misunderstood people in the LGBT community*

love you so much for talk about this, bless you RJ

Than you so much RJ. Thanks for having this segment. Thank you

No lie you have inspired me so much. Not only with me coming to terms with my sexuality but that because of you I actually know what to do with my degree now lol You motivate me to help in my community and raise awareness about this

Wow... I knew about higher levels of depression and such for bi people but I didn't know it applied to so many areas... I can't even choose the one that surprised me the most. I'm really curious though as to the reasons for these stats. I can come up with some ideas but I think I need to see more in depth studies about this. Thank you so very much for this video, very informative as always.

Can we talk about for a minute how Google and other search engines equate "bisexual" to gay or LGBT? Does anyone realize how had that makes it to find bi specific resources???

A lot of these stats are horrifying but also very intriguing to me...I’m a bi woman. Have a history of sexual physical abuse as a child by father and a family acquaintance and then of course fell into physical/mental abuse in my own adult relationships. Have never been able to make any relationship work regardless of partners sex. And then there’s the suicide and depression issues. And a laundry list of all the other crap. 15 yrs ago I stopped dating and stopped all pursuit of romantic relationships. Period. I don’t want anything to do w either sex as anything more than a casual friend. Don’t miss relationships...don’t miss being w others...and I truly enjoy being on my own. NOW, I like myself and am happier. Now I can be whatever it is I am and it’s fine. It’s not perfect but there are WAY worse things than being alone.

I wonder what these stats would be for non binary bisexuals

Would you mind adding links to these references? People in my life like to say "anything can be written on the internet it's probably made up". If you could please link these stats, I'd appreciate it :)

I've recently realized and have been trying to accept and deal with the fact that for over a year I've been have having dysphoria about my bisexuality, constantly thinking to myself "you're not being straight enough, or your not being be gay enough" and I have to make myself stop and realize that I'm neither, I'm bi and I'm doing just fine how I am. I'm lucky to not be a rape victim or sexual harassment victim, but I do believe some of my anxiety and for sure some of my depression stems from these issues specifically in the past in dealing with self harm and shicidal thoughts.I have two lovely best friends who help me through it. But it took one of them pointing out that it's most likely my situation at home and dealing with Bi Erasure there that Could be causes and she even suggested therapy, this video helps me realize I'm not the only one. Thank you RJ really, you do great work and I'm very proud you're so strong through this

The graphics made this so much easier for me to understand and absorb the information you gave us. Thanks for putting in that extra work!

Yeah, I was in the closet while on my active duty contract. Still my "shipmates" harassed me about it, trying to out me. Then I thought I was in a safe place with what I thought were my lesbian friends. (I ain't got nothing but love for LGBTQ+ today to be clear) To end up getting raped while blacked out, by the only male in the group that night, a higher up, meant to be a "mentor" of ours. And this happened after I sat the record straight to them b4 we started drinking. I thought they got it. I thought I was understood when they gave me the feedback. I told him I'm not even attracted to him, when they all got pushy, weird but I overlooked that & I'm still hard on myself for that. How does this mean "fuck me, while I'm blacked out"???? This is what I got for joining the US Navy: Military Sexual Trauma (MST). To make matters worse, the command I was under had repeated cases of MST. The rapists repeatedly got away with murder by "getting transferred" to a different command, with a clean slate. As for the survivors, the ones who spoke up, well, we females turned against one another. We females bullied one another. The slut shame started in the female berthing. To include, my "friends" the lesbians. I even turned on myself by imploding. Thank goodness I kept my mouth shut cause if I dared to have the balls to say something, I would NOT be here sharing this with the world now. Thank you for letting me know I'm not alone. At least I'm one of the few lucky vets who's getting help through the va... That's another struggle. PTSD, MDD, BPD, Panic Disorder. That's what the docs say I have... this is what I learned in the military, as a bisexual female in the closet, although males get harassed and raped too, a lot as well. I'm just glad I'm breathing today.

The issues that bisexual people face are real. I have tremendous respect for people who stand up for rights of bisexual people. There are prominent people who are bisexual, but fail to address the needs of people in their community. You have a supporter in me, as I admire the strength and perseverance of this community.

I really look up to you, RJ. I am unfortunately one of the people mentioned who isn't out to all of the people they care about and who isn't out at work either. I can live without being out at work as I feel that it's safer job security wise but I wish that the people I loved hadn't dismissed my feelings so quickly when I did come out to them almost ten years ago. I am now not brave enough to re-iterate what I said every time I'm just perceived as straight by them. It really inspires me to see how much you've grown and that you are now a voice for our community. I hope that one day I feel braver about expressing who I am and bolder about not caring what other people make of it. Un beso, E xo

Omg every stat just shocked me. It is hard to think things like this go unnoticed. Honestly, equality hasn't gotten to every nook and cranny, but I hope that more light is shined on this vital information about the Bi community. I think it's because these statistics aren't regularly or physically shown which makes them not as visible as they could be. Well, I hope the roundtable goes well. +TheNotAdam

I’m bi, and I am very proud of it.

Have you ever had a seafood steampot? Then you can't say anyone can only like one or the other. You can have sausage and clams at the same time, and it's delicious.

I plan on working in law enforcement and I plan on making it too public in my work place that I am a women who identifies as bisexual. I am very open about my sexuality and have no problems mentioning it to whoever, but it is said that I have become aware that I am not only the only person I know personally who identifies as Bi, but also that I have no real community to go to so that I may have the chance to meet other Bi people. Thank you for your videos for giving me and others a sense of community and voice. You are an inspiration

Thanks for the video RJ. I was shocked to hear all these stats.

I don't doubt any of your stats, but could you cite the source somewhere? Also, the new graphics are really nice!

Woaw those graphics are super scary ... but adore your video !!

i am having a lot of issues coming out as bi. my family does not approve of the lgbt+ and i feel they would honestly kinda disown me. i think only about 4 of my friends might accept me and treat me as they do now. because of this i keep telling my self i only like men and therefore straight, and mentally hit myself if i think a woman is cute. when i had tested waters on my closeted sexuality by telling my mom i was going to marry my friend (who was female and it was a joke) she yelled at me and said i should never pretend to be gay or bi bc it is unacceptable. i am also scared bc my friends have said before, that people are only bi bc they are greedy, slutty, or just want attention. i hope i can gather courage to find myself and comeout but in this atmosphere, it so fucking difficult. im sorry for rambling, your video was great. i just hope no one i know sees this...

this came up on my recommended and the title got me pissed off and about to rant but i listened to it and realized what he meant was we have some problems with our community, not that we were mentally challenged. i’m glad rj was able to prove accurate points for us bi people so we can shine light on this.

So this is just a question to anyone who is LGBT. I am a straight girl who is very passionate about feminism and other types of issues. Since things like this don't affect me directly what is the best way I can talk about things like this without crossing the line as a person of privilege?

This is why I came out as gay first.

R.J. I just want to say thank you! I am Pansexual and I have heard quite a bit of biphobic comments made around me. One of my managers at one of my jobs said to me that she told her granddaughter to make friends with straight people and gay people but to be careful and do not make friends with bi people because they tend to play around and can't be loyal. This was when I was just really coming to terms with my sexuality. You are so right about the negativity coming from others and I have even seen videos on youtube with some gay youtubers in the past that were reaction videos to "What do gay men or lesbians think of bisexuals" so I watched it and was appalled that there was so much negativity from the gay community about bisexual people. So many were like "He's just denying who he truly is." or "She's just doesn't know what she really wants." I was completely shocked. I know who I truly am an I am a proud pansexual male who loves people for who they really are no matter what. I am so glad we have your strong, intelligent and opinionated voice to help speak out for those of us who don't have much of a voice yet. I love your channel because you continuously create content that is quality, sometimes fun but also very relevant. Thank You for an amazing job! Please keep up the awesome work! With much appreciation and love Aaron

Thank you for posting this and every other video you have posted. These stats were just so shocking.. I can't believe how little we get🙁. It's just so unfair. Thank you for working to better it for everyone Rj

we need a revolution my fellow bisexuals❤

Thank you, thank you, thank you for the video. :) Could you fill us in later about how Washington DC was?

Thanks for another great video RJ, I remember looking up these stats for the first time for a video of mine and being completely heartsick. Your videos and statistics like these are what pushed me to advocate for Bi visibility and to be an activist as much as I am able. Your visiblity and passion helped me come out and I decided it was only right I do the same for others who may be around me, thank you for so much. p.s. Best of luck in Washington :)

That is so sad to hear. It is informative and I glad to learn about this, but it was so sad.. I understand why you stand up for the cause and do the things you do. You take care RJ. I hope you and Will and Dobby are doing fine.

I'm not bisexual but I subscribed because I want to have a greater understanding and to be more informed, and this video really helped me understand that bisexual people have a lot of struggles that people need to understand more.

Thank you so much for sharing these statistics and making these videos, RJ! You are doing great things. As a genderfluid, polyamorous, panromantic asexual, I know how much invisibility and erasure suck, and how that motivates so much strife in these communities. Thank you for doing so much to combat these issues.

Thanks for the video, the stats, and the call to action. FYI digging the feather tat.

YYYAAAASSSS RJ. Nailing it once again. Well done mate.

I don't know what I am. I'm kind of a mix of: Bisexual Aesexual Gay Straight.

RJ when you say Bi people are the most likely to experience violence is that between gay men, gay women, and straight people, or is trans included in there? As a bi man, I still find it hard to believe we are in more danger of violence then trans individuals, particularly trans women. Still, some pretty shocking numbers there, love your videos!

I'm a bi girl. I have severe anxiety and depression. Try to use pot to cover up all my mental health issues. I'm not out to my family and often just refer to myself as gay when I meet new people because I am afraid of what they will say if I say bi. Defiantly had suicidal thoughts at least once. Whenever I have a bad day, I watch your videos and they give me so much pride for who I am and for the community I am apart of. Without you, I would have never been able to accept myself. So thank you so much. I love you. ❤️❤️❤️

Incredulity can be violent and toxic...this video is heartbreaking and worrying, fair play for bringing these issues into the public focus! I think that we need to take it upon ourselves to speak up and to be honest about who we are...(Not that I can talk...but I guess I should consider it)...great content! Thank you for your help! I am very gracious and I take comfort in the idea that you might be rewarded for your helpful words in a more personal way as well, I hope those close to you acknowledge your bravery and kindness too!

I really loved this video, especially the numbers format. It made it easier for Me to watch. Thanks RJ

Wonder Woman is now officially bi! =)

These videos are so important. Thank you.

you just gained a subscriber. considering the sexual assault, the mental health issues and all the things i have been through has really spoke to me

Do you think the reason there is not more bi support in terms of funding is because people feel lgbt funding covers bi-people, so why duplicate it.

Whyyyyyy... I'm bi and this is insane-

It is SO hard as coming out as bi sexual because of the shame that comes along with expressing that identity. I think why most people haven't come out as bi is because of the fact that we don't have too. We have the choice to stay quite and date the opposite sex so that we can avoid discrimination. It's a very sticky subject which is definitely why it needs a hell of a lot more publicity then what it has now. So thank you RJ for tackling and expressing these issues ❤️

This video is so powerful.Thank-you for continuing to make bi content because it means a lot to a young bi kid like me.

Well being bisexual myself my whole teenage like and now almost to 30 i've felt like nothing . I've just never would say who I am cause i'd see those around me be made fun or treated like whores and sluts. I'm more open now, but it's still the same from when I was a teenager. I date a man " Oh your out of that phase see I told you, you weren't a lesbian." okay, I wasn't but fuck you very much. I date a woman " Oh you're lesbian didn't see you that way." WTF ? How can you see a sexuality.. No and no my brain doesn't have a straight/lesbian on and off switch. No I am attracted to who i'm attracted to and I thought that didn't matter or that people would understand it's not a phase. We have our feelings love is love to us and when we fall in love with stay with that person cause you know that's how love works, but after having my daughter I gave up on people all together her father was one of those and a hurtful person. After that I just never wanted to quit. I haven't tried to date or say anything. It's like being in this candle lit room. There is a little bit of light and you get that from other bisexual people and people that do understand, but then there are all the others and they and the stigma it makes me want to just blow out that candle. Why bother just shut yourself off and never say a word . Don't be yourself and just keep to yourself. Those are the feelings i've felt. I've tried my hardest to get out of that place. I've gotten help last year for my Bipolar disorder and one drug they put me on was Klonopin cause my anxiety reached a point I didn't want to nor care to leave the house it took someone coming with me somewhere to get me to go out. I slept either less than 3 hours within 3 days or just on and off sleep for months. I didn't realize how much being considered nothing or " a phase" or " Attention Seeker" would hurt my mental and physical healthy. It did and i'm still trying to get out of it and it's hard. Days like today I should be happy to be recognized and validated, but I see more hate and disbelieve then I do acceptance. I actually have felt more like crying out of frustration and sadness then happiness. I say we have a long ways to go from my experience. It just hurts to know there is someone who is discovering who they are and realizing how little anyone on each side cares or notices. It's one thing when the hetero community doesn't think you exist it's a whole other when the community that you that you were apart of that you thought the " B" in LGBTQA had meaning look to you and say " No, you're not real. You don't struggle, You don't know anything. No one wants to date a confused cheater." So today hasn't been a good day, but I hope it was for others. We still have a ways to go and it's not just the straight people it's those in our own community that need to look and recognize that we are here, we exist. Stop treating us the way you, yourself hated to be treated or never want to be treated. Just because you in the community doesn't make you some great person. You can be in the community and still be ignorant. When you look at another's sexuality and think " Pfft that's not real get the fuck out cheating attention whore." This video though did help me feel calm like all your videos do. I'm so glad your here and you are speaking for us who can't speak. You are very important and give me hope and I just want to say thank you for existing and making me feel like I exist and I am important. Cause most the time I can't even think about who I am without crying so I just don't ignore it and mute myself. Maybe one day I won't feel this way. With amazing people like you out there I do believe it will come. Sorry I went and wrote a lot when I meant to just write something praising you, but today has been emotionally draining and seeing your videos always make me feel at ease. Keep up the amazing work. Sad it's 2 years later and your still having to do this, but shit as long as it takes push through till the wall breaks.

I realized I was bisexual at the age of 7. I liked this girl in class but I'm a girl 😂 Now a days I like girls more than boys. Record of crushes: Boys, 1. Girls, 2.

Thank you RJ for speaking on this

RJ you are amazing. thanks for another great video