I’ve got PCOS and the lack of research is so frustrating, so decided after my biochem degree to do women’s health research. It’s actually appalling how little info there is..
Please let me know what you find out! I’m currently under investigation to see whether I have PCOS or not and it’s such a confusing time because of this lack in research. Whether I do have it or not, I don’t really know what I should do with my doctors advice (have experienced SO many terrible dr experiences because they clearly don’t value female health). If you find anything I would love to know ❤
what you said about friendship breakups being harder than romantic breakups really resonates! i think one factor is felt very supported and seen when going through the breakup of romantic relationships, but had to grieve the breakup with my best friend very privately, and i still feel the loss of that friendship. and after breaking up with my ex we ended up being good friends for about sixth months, and i found loosing that friendship with him was a lot harder to deal with than loosing our romantic relationship.
I've never heard anyone articulate friendship breakups so well. I'm sentimental the same as you and I thought I was weird for it but I'm glad we can all go through the emotions together x
So so happy to have this series back! Thank you Keelin! The friendship breakup segment had me tearing up.. true female friendship specifically is such a beautiful and powerful thing to have in your life and mourning it when it runs its course can be so tiring and agonising and lonesome. I’m sorry to see you go through it but also it is so comforting to hear you speak about it. It is just a part of life, unfortunately. Sending love ! Xx
I’ve had vestibulitis my entire life (a burning sensation near the entry of the vagina)it used to be almost every day, nowadays it happens maybe once or twice a month, there is so little research on this condition and much more now than there used to be, I spent my entire childhood trying to understand why I can’t wear certain fabrics, why random seating positions hurt me, and trying not to look uncomfortable when it’s burning down there but I need to be in a social setting.. I still have so little information on it and I’ve come to terms with the fact that I might forever have this underlying condition controlling my life days at a time. There is nothing more intolerable than having that sensation down there when you’re trying to focus on anything, but that… I’ve been very open about this condition with others, I’ve never met a single person in my life with this condition. For now the pill seems to have toned it down, but I fear for the moment I want to have children. Thank you for talking about women’s health.❤
I think this might be what I have. I was always scared that it was somehow linked to an sti but after being checked multiple times through the years I know its not and it doesn't go away when I'm not sexually active. Did you go to a sexual health clinic or Gp to find out you had it? I would feel so much better if I even knew what my issue is!!!❤
Sounds horrible. Are you able to afford to visit a private pelvic floor therapist? It may be flexor/ pelvic floor is too tight . They can identify these issues. Some people talk about lidocaine even amitryptiline an old style SSRI could help lower the sensitivity of the nerve endings. Maybe this could over time enable your brain to become less focused on the area?
@@torijohnston6139 Yes! I visited a gynecologist multiple times, but mine is a man and he's never believed I have anything. I visited a sexual health clinic mainly run by women and I was finally approached with attention and care, I got my answer there. I also did some physiotherapy down there (from the same clinic) to help with releasing tension. It took me so long to find someone who could take my case seriously, but don't give up because it helps so much to know what you have!
@@howareyou857 I did visit a pelvic floor therapist for a while actually, it was definitely useful but did not change the issue entirely, I found it super helpful to have that mind-to-muscle connection though. I've also been on SSRIs which has helped reduce the frequency at which I get these forms of attack. Most healthcare professionals I meet though have very little knowledge on the matter and most of them don't know what to do about it, I've heard some people even get surgery, but I am not sure about wanting to do that... thank you for taking the time to answer though, this feels like such a safe space compared to all the disregard I've received
My mum has suffered with similar symptoms (as well as other symptoms) for years and was recently diagnosed with CANVAS syndrome - that’s not to say that you have this too, just that medical professionals are always finding out about new conditions so there’s hope for you too!
So reassuring to watch this video 💘 I think it’s a great reminder that we’re not alone and always go through similar struggles some way or another. Also thank you for sharing and for being vulnerable online in a time when it’s very rare. As a silent viewer, it’s very much appreciated 🌷
omg I am soooooo so happy to see this video and I have NEVER needed it more!!! I can relate so much to the ruminating and never getting over anything in my life, laughing and crying throughout the whole vid lol, love you Keelin
One thing to keep in mind with "friendship matchmaking" or befriending your friend's friends is that if you have a falling out with the original person you've basically lost that entire social circle. Happened to me and I am in a very lonely place rn because of that :/ They were her friends originally and naturally "took her side" after the friendship breakup. Anyway, this was a very opportune video!
Thank you so much for doing the podcast with feelnorma btw! It’s really helped me feel better about the issues I have and I’ve found a community of people who feel the same. I’m taking part in one of their studies about sexual pain for women ❤️
Great vid Keelin. yes I’ve recently started adhd meds and absolutely unreal difference I’m actually a functioning person now lol. but same thing with caffeine, if I have an energy drink during the day I can guarantee I will sleep terribly now. If I need a pick me up I go for a green tea now, which has caffeine but less intense
I’m 10 years older than you and was always great at making and stalking gals to make friends. But now everyone is having babies or pregnant and I’m having fertility issues and it is the loneliest I’ve every been. Nobody else seems to be struggling to conceive. My pals only want to meet in playgrounds or always with their babies and I am unable to see babies right now while I recover from latest MC. Praying they’re all still there on the other side of this journey. Friends are truly the most important thing, hold them tight ❤
This found me when I needed it. I am 24 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I have had reoccurring BV and yeast infections for 3 months now... never had any of these issues before pregnancy. I have received SO MUCH mixed information from health care professionals. its been hell.
Awhhh loved thissss went to the book swap in London and me and the girlies I met there are going out this eve, thank so much Keelin was a dream of an evening
Loved this episode! Also I'm really happy you decided to try medication for your ADHD. It was the best decision I ever made, the first few months were similar for me but it leveled out and the side effects stopped around 3 months. My life has completely changed!!! I remember a video you posted a while ago about how you handle your ADHD without medication/something along those lines and I was hoping at some point you would just give it a try. ADHD has many different medications with a very high success rate, but there's still huge stigma behind taking medication. Highly recommend "Taking charge of adult ADHD" by Russell A Barkley (Phd) it's what finally gave me the push to try medication, fantastic research in this book!
We need to talk about friendship break ups where people completely switch up, my best friends from highschool had fully turned around and destroyed the trust I had built with them, sharing what I had told them when were close, using vulnerabilities against me, etc.. it’s been so hard to make friends, those friendships have shaped me so much subconsciously, I can only get close to my partners, but I would love to have a friendship that feels deeper since I haven’t had one since (I’m now in my early 20s)
by the way girls: I was on gedarel for 10 years and had no bad symptoms except THRUSH. I found out that's what it was when i stopped taking it and sropped getting infections full stop. Not had one since!
I got recurrent thrush from the copper IUD and it was absolutely awful. Absolutely no-one told me that that was something that could happen. I only realised after reading things from other women on forums. I was so angry, it upsets me to think of other women who go through the same as it was a miserable time
That’s so awful. I didn’t even think at first that the coil is what could have caused it. Then got it out, got it a few more times and then haven’t had problems since but I’m still traumatised 😭
Commenting in case it helps someone - I had a problem with BV for years where I would get it every single time I had sex. Affected my mental health so much and had to attend numerous doctors and gynaecologists before I was told it was probably down to being too dry down there (which had been caused by the pill). So many antibiotics and doctor’s appointments later and all I needed was enough lube. Stress is also an element so that was probably part of it.
did you feel any sense of guilt when making new friends when connection was really made or nothing came from it? I've moved to a new city and slowly trying to put myself out there after realizing that I am lucky and have friends but far away and without friends close by it can be tricky to feel loved. I worry about trying to make new friends in case I don't get along with them and will have to have awkward conversations that leave me feeling bad. - thank you for the video:) !
i love all ur videos sm you're so familiar and comforting, do u think u could get around to making a video about ADHD (in your experience and what you've learnt in the process)? lots of love x
I was sitting peacefully eating my dinner and suddenly heard ”i had a burning itching v*gina” and choked. Then subscribed. 10/10 best intro of a video ever.
woah you have to completely cut out caffeine if your taking ADHD meds. this is the first thing my prescriber told me. that includes coffee, teas, energy drinks. a better alternative is protein shakes.
Just had a friend of 8 years completely ghost me with no explanation. Find it so hard to find new friends especially since I’ve two young children. What even is making friends at this point of my life 😂 I used to have no issues with friend making now I’m just very awkward
I don't usually comment but really feel it's worth mentioning that ADHD medication can be extremely dangerous for someone with other undiagnosed/misdiagnosed mental health conditions and can trigger mania, suicidal thoughts etc. I know it can be very helpful and even life saving for some people, but the amount of people diagnosed with ADHD isn't reflecting the amount of people that likely have ADHD. If you go to a doctor with a diagnosis that you're hoping for then its likely you'll leave with a diagnosis of that condition, however there are SO many other mental health conditions with similar side effects. Not enough research has been done on this for the pharmaceutical companies to dish out medication on this level. We need to be much more sceptical and do much more research when we are prescribed with new medications; particularly antidepressants and stimulants (ADHD medication).
I taught senior infants for 5 years and on the RSE curriculum we cover that penis and vagina as the correct terminology for private parts and EVERY year there would be one or two parents asking if it was necessary. Shame straight away; at like 5/6 years of age. It was absolutely fucking gas hearing all the diff names for private parts from these kids from all different countries, I work in a very multicultural school. Susie, Swiss, pumpum and front bum some of my faves 😅🫣😂
from someone who had recurring thrush for 3 years straight & also a very sensitive vagina to ANYTHING. This is so refreshing to hear other women do & have suffered going through the same and there is no need to feel ashamed about it 🤍
