BORED With Your Relationship? Here's What To Do....
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Hi, I’m Jessica Boss. As a relationship expert, I’ve seen so many amazing couples who have let their happily ever after become as boring as waiting in line at the post office. I’m here to make sure that doesn’t happen to you. If you want more advice about relationships and dating, please like this video and subscribe to my channel so you’ll be updated whenever I have new tips, tricks, and lessons for you.
TIP #1 Drop the attitude
When things go stale, it’s easy to get wrapped up in resentment.
“My partner is boring”
“I’m not attracted to them anymore”
“They’re not making an effort”
“We’re no good together”
“I need someone new and exciting in my life.”
The truth is, you’re never going to convince your partner to be excited or exciting by nagging and complaining. This isn’t like telling them to do the dishes or be nicer to your mother. Excitement is a fragile thing that can’t be faked.
TIP #2 Add excitement
If you’re looking for a reason for your boredom, you’re not going to find one. That’s because boredom is the absence of excitement.
What you need to do is inject some new activities into your life. Think of hobbies that you’ve always wanted to try. Doing new things together means working together towards a common goal and changing how you interact. This will bust you out of the old routine.
TIP #3 Don’t stop dating
No, I’m not talking about seeing other people. Wrong kind of exciting. What I mean is, just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to stop dating each other. Make time once a week to go out to dinner, walk through the park, or even just go for a drive. If you’re having trouble making conversation, try an activity that doesn’t require you to talk. Go white water rafting, rock climbing, the sky’s the limit! Hey, what about skydiving?
Remember the feeling you had when you first got together? It seemed like you were the only two people in the world. Then real life got in the way. If you set aside this regular time for just the two of you, you can feel that way again.
TIP #4 Be the person you’d like to date
Sometimes boredom comes from feeling like our partner is no longer making us feel special. It’s tough feeling like we’re being taken for granted. The two common responses here are to lash out in anger or to bottle up our feelings.
What I want you to do instead is treat your partner the way you’d like to be treated. You wish they would dress nice? Lead by example! Put on your nicest outfit and get all dolled up at the next opportunity.
You wish they’d buy you flowers? Buy them flowers and send them to their work. It really is that simple to shake things up.
TIP #5 Unplug
Take regular time to unplug and connect with your partner. If you’re making dinner together, leave your phones in the other room. They’ll be there when it’s over and you’ll have had some quality facetime.
Instead of watching TV, take a walk around the neighbourhood.
If you find you’re constantly talking about work, family, or other people, make a concerted effort to spend this time trying to learn more about your partner’s past, their interests, and the way they see the world. We tend to feel like we know our partner so well that there’s nothing new to learn but if you ask unexpected questions, you’ll be surprised what comes out.
Sit down and take stock of your relationship. Look at what’s working and what isn’t. Be honest with yourself about what you want that you’re not getting and what they’re doing that hurts you, even if it seems tiny and petty.
Now, put the list aside and talk to your partner. See what they’re going through that may be keeping you two apart. Ask them what you could be doing differently that would make them happy. This conversation may or may not result in a breakthrough but the important thing is is to show them that you’re thinking about your relationship and how it can be better. Pretty soon, they will be too.
There you go. These are surefire ways to get your relationship from boring to exhilarating. In relationships, as in life, it takes work to keep things exciting. Who knew?
If you have other tips to keep things fresh in your relationship, please comment below and maybe you’ll inspire my next video! If you liked what I had to say, please like this video and subscribe to this channel for more content about how to navigate the complex world of modern relationships. I’ve been Jessica Boss, the original boss baby. Thanks for watching! Bye!
28 июн 2024
