Bride Tammy Carter is adamant on getting a strapless dress for the bridesmaids, however her best friend is refusing to wear that neckline for religious reasons. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
Raven LaShelle but if she’s her “best friend” she should allow her to wear 2 little straps. it VERY obvious she doesn’t want to betray her beliefs. so what’s the problem?
@@SalemElaine ...but some very religious people believe showing too much is a sin and it goes against God. And going against God means you are going to hell (according to them). And nobody will risk eternal damnation for a dress... I'm not religious but people ought to put that into consideration.
@@mistid1485 That's not fully the mentality of it, but you're on the right track. We aren't afraid of angering God and going to hell. The whole point of Jesus is that we aren't held accountable for when we do go against God. If anyone is only a Christian because of fear, I'm afraid they've missed out on the point. It's like, "I am in love with God and I will not compromise my relationship with Him over anything". If a spouse has certain reasonable wishes their partner will, out of love, go out of their way to respect them. It's more like that.
She actually looked hurt to have to say that she'd rather be a host..she really loves her friend and wanted to be in the wedding but no one should have to violate their personal beliefs because of a DRESS A FREAKING DRESS
@My Opinion people can believe what they want, she wasnt trying to forcer ger beleifs of modesty onto the other bridesmaids, but in turn they were trying to force her to wear something she was uncomfortable with and its not ok,
Yeah agree. And then the girl in the short blonde hair was acting like shwanda was making it a big deal cause she that it could be a "power struggle" instead of religion. Im not a very religious person but I feel uncomfortable with strapless dresses two and I wouldn't want to go to a wedding if I cant enjoy myself there with everyone. She wasnt even being rude at all too.
I so glad Shawanda stood her ground. No friend would ask you to go against your convictions, she knew before she even chose dresses that Shawanda wouldn't be comfortable she just thought she could bully her into it.
She didn't think that she could bully her into it it's her choice and her day she can choose whatever she wants to brides maid to wear and if they don't want to wear it then they're not going to be in the wedding
@@jonessa802 They are both being dramatic. Shawanda doesn't have to wear that, the bride is just acting like she could get what she wanted. Life isn't fair people!
I literally HATE how they made Shwanda look like the villain! Being someone who hates showing skin, being more comfortable in clothes that cover my body, and being religious myself, I am completely on Shwanda's side. Like my sister wants to get married soon, and there's no doubt she'll ask me to go along with her to choose dresses, and I've told her/my mother/my entire family so many damn times that I hate wearing strapless dresses because of how anxious I am about my body, that if she still went along with the whole strapless idea then I would without a doubt stand up to her about my comfort! And if she acts like how this bride did with Shwanda, I'll be so bloody heartbroken because I love my older sister and my comfort/happiness in what I wear should come first in her books. Even if it's the same colour that's fine, but I NEED to cover my body because I'm so self conscious that everybody would judge me/say that my body is ugly! It legit pains me to tears to watch this clip, but I can't help but come back to it every so often because of how much I relate Shwanda.
Seriously though, the last dress she tried on had a tiny little strap around her neck, and Shawanda was okay with that. What's the difference, really? She freaked out about taking out that TINY little strap. The same amount of skin was showing.
“I wonder if this is really about religion or a power struggle” It is so obviously about religion. She looked so uncomfortable taking those straps off.
Mei Long She wasn’t in the greatest mood, yeah, but if my friend had been badgering me about my religion for a while, as is implied with the bride saying she “thought she’d give in by now”, I wouldn’t be looking forward to this day either. But it all could be edited to make both the bride and the brides mate look bad, and the friend maybe did have some second motive to be like this. I don’t know, who really knows what went on and why.
@@eloisagarcia3300 I agree. She looked so uncomfortable. As the bride said, "letting some straps ruin a friendship", she was just as guilty! If you are good friends with someone, or best friends as implied here, why would you force someone you care about to be so horribly uncomfortable?!
I'm actually with the bridesmaid on this one. If I had a friend who was that uncomfortable with not wearing straps, I'd compromise because you can't force someone to wear something that they are uncomfortable with, especially for religious beliefs or convictions. No ma'am.
@beckyedwards5771, she said she would host (which is honestly rude af for the bride to even say, like she can't even come as a guest? she still has to be serving you?) like if strapless dresses are so important to the bride and she didn’t want to wear one because she's not comfortable showing skin, they could have compromised as having her as a guest or even a shawl or cape added to her dress. the brids was trying to bully her but the bridesmaid refused to let her hold that power over her.
Shawanda was willing to be a hostess. she was willing to take the less visible /less glamorous role and still help out the bride. this wasn't about a power struggle but about the bride having no respect for her best friend's boundaries or religious convictions.
And if they are best friends the bride already knows how religious and conservative her friend is. The bride is the one who was on a power trip, she wanted to flex her muscle and make the friend do something that made her uncomfortable.
Christianity is not popular, but a believer is willing to sacrifice people in honor of the Lord. Sorry, not sorry. My eternal soul matters MORE than your wedding
You can literally see her shoulders hunched when the straps come off. I feel sorry for her. Her friend is just being rude and not acknowledging her friend’s belief.
"I just thought that she would give in." That really says it all for me. I understand the bride wanting things to be in her vision, and maybe there's a lot of background between their friendship that we don't know about; but trying to grind down someone's boundary about their body is unacceptable.
That’s like forcing a hijabi girl to take her hijab off “if she’s your best friend” it’s her religious belief you have to respect that! If she’s your maid of honor she can stand out in straps!
Except that the hijab is intended to demean, oppress, and shame women, as if we are siren-like temptresses, and cannot keep our legs closed around men other than our husbands. Whereas, a person's individual standard for modesty can be about her own self-respect.
Brier-Rose HopeDiamond well actually it is not. A proper muslim home should allow u to wear hijab if u want or dont want to. Some families are just corrupt like in every other religion. There will always have strict families in the world. I happen to wear hijab by choice as a 14 year old. My muslim friend does not. Not trying to be rude or anything just pls dont judge an entire religion just bc there are some bad eggs. Or dont base the fact that some ppl have to wear hijab bc some ppl actually have a choice
This bride didn’t “lose” her best friend, she chose a strapless dress over her best friend and kicked the out of the wedding (tehnically out of the bridesmaids) just because she had certain boundaries about HER body and the bride couldn’t respect that.
I hate how Lori and everyone else was going along with the bride's framing of it too. Just no. A lot of the time, probably most of the time, bridesmaids acting like this are just being stubborn because it is the bride's day. But in this case it was religious beliefs and about someone who wasn't comfortable showing that much of her body. And that is perfectly okay.
how can you lose a friend over some damn clothing 🤦🤦🤦🤦 thats weird it dont even have to be a big deal that she didnt get to stay a brides maid they can still be friends and she dont have to wear that dress strapless just childish
I get that it’s her wedding, but I find it ironic how she says, “If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth” but doesn’t take into consideration that she doesn’t want to wear a strapless dress because of religion. I just think that she should’ve respected her religious beliefs a bit more
I completely agree, however, I think the best friend should have stressed more that it was about religion and not just that she didn't like the dress. Just not liking the dress you should make the sacrifice and wear the dress but when it comes to something like religion, you should absolutely stand your ground and have your beliefs be respected. Every last one of them should be ashamed of themselves for trying to bully her.
@@LittleImpaler Religion is off-limits, though. Should a Muslim woman take off her hijab or a Jewish person take off their yamulke because of the aesthetics she wants for her wedding? The woman didn't just find religion. She was a member of her religion and was immodest due to that long before the bride got engaged. You can't expect anyone to temporarily halt their religious principles for your wedding or any other reason. She's well rid of the bride as a so-called friend. Good riddance!
@@ILoveRomances It's her friend's wedding. Period. Don't like it, be a guest. This goes both ways. Her friend who is over religious shouldn't have agree to be a bride's maid. Are you telling if it was the other way round, that if it's the religious friend's wedding Her best friend should object to a very modest bridesmaid dress? It goes both ways. It's the friend's wedding you put on what the bride wants. Don't like it, don't go.
@@LittleImpaler If it were the other way around, the best friend would be objecting on the grounds of personal preference, not religious objection. There's a reason the U.S. will not send you to war due to religious objections but will if you just don't want to go. Apples and oranges. The bride knew her friend's religious principles and had the audacity to think she should override them for her. That's a total lack of respect for who her friend is and what she believes in. So, if she's pro-life due to religious reasons, she should go with her to the abortion clinic because she's a friend? Miss me with that. No one should ever ask or expect you to betray yourself for them. Like I said, if it were just a matter of fashion preference, suck it up and wear it, but if it's about your core religious beliefs, stand your ground and dare the other person to say something.
Another great solution. The largest bridesmaid needed a shawl. Her arms looked bad in all the dresses. Getting a dress that flatters and is comfortable for everyone is the goal.
Even making her show herself on camera was just mean and unnecessary. Making her show more than she is comfortable with on world wide tv? Screw her friends!
I feel so bad for Shawanda, she’s entitled to her own body and what covers it. I think it’s absurd that her “best friend” wouldn’t compromise at all with her beliefs. She could’ve given her a silk shawl to cover her shoulders with, it would’ve been classy and matched the theme of the others.
Thats what i was thinking. Disgusting behaviours. When the straps were taken down, you could tell she felt like she was being striped naked infront of a crowed. I felt so awful for her. Sick to my stomach even. And her "best friend" is mad that she couldnt break her. Some best friend that is.
@@countbeccula Right! Not simply a religious issue - though that might shield her - but this is deeply personal and private. Something painful that is not discussed. They would all look better with straps anyway.
@@countbeccula So can I ask this, when she put on the spaghetti strap dress was there a difference in skin in reveal as to when the spaghetti straps where pulled down?
@@8kikyo_ not neccessarily but its all about comfort because those itty bitty straps make a dress feel more secure than a strapless one that could feel more exposing and that it could fall down i dont know how to explain it other than the straps make it feel more secure
Yeah, normally it's the friend's fault in these videos, but I'm definitely on Shawanda's side here. I couldn't imagine wearing something that went against what I was raised to wear, or something that made me so uncomfortable. Not just that, my friend's would never ask it of me! Bride was being very inconsiderate.
I’m usually of the “whatever the bride says goes” attitude but not when it personal beliefs. Asking someone to compromise their religious beliefs for you isn’t something a real friend would ever ask of you
I don’t think it was exactly that when Tammy said the color shawandas face just showed that she hated it. And I don’t think it was a big deal. The straps she had wasn’t really hiding anything
@@uccello297 or maybe supported like it wouldn't fall and expose more than she is comfortable with(I personally hate strapless dresses for this reason)
Yeah that wasn't HER wedding tho. Force your bridemaids to be dressed from head to toe on your own day. Today wasn't about her, if anything she could've just brought a vest.
As a friend you shouldn't force your friends into something, they don't feel comfortable in. You're not picking out decorations, you're dressing people who are dear to you. You should be considering their thoughts.
Elizabeth Jones honestly I felt so bad for her when they did that!! I get having a vision for your wedding but you also have to respect your friends boundaries, this women had a good set of bridesmaids in comparison to other episodes for this show!
HOLD YOUR GROUND! No one should be made to feel uncomfortable about wearing a dress. The consultants didn't help either. If I was that friend I wouldn't step foot in that shop again for the way they treated her. They had total disrespect for her beliefs. That is not how you run a business. The bride thought she could bully her into wearing the dress. The best friend did the right thing. I would walk away too.
"I just want my sexy bone covered." Legit best way to say "Let me dress the way I believe I should." Honestly, to each their own, we have body positivity but we seem to forget that many still dress conservatively.
i agree with everyone about shawanda also to it look like the dress doesn’t support her bust really well. you need to get a dress that can help suit everyone not just what you want
@@adriannafearon1235 yeah plus keeping the straps on just for her would also be okay I mean it’s a little different from others but it’s not like it’s a different dress at all😅
Maya H sometimes people need to respect other peoples lines. she didnt feel comfortable with a strapless dress and if her "friend" couldn't respect that then it was right to leave. there is many dresses out there that would look good on her and something that she felt comfortable with.
Maya H Look I personally dont agree with you but i respect your opinion, but i think you can be more polite instead of calling her a weirdo, its offensive in my opinion and doesn't make you look good
Maya H Yes and that is why i am saying that i respect the way you feel towards her, but i also think you can show more respect. It can really hurt people by your comment because to me you're implying religious people are freaks and i juat think you can tone it down with the words i would consider as insults, now you might not agree and that is totally ok we have different opinions.
Maya H Ok I totally respect how you feel and i dont know if you are saying just to state out your opinion or to try to make people be on your side. Either way i think it makes you look like you dont know what you are talking about but again i respect how you feel and respect your views, but i do think its wrong. 🤷♀️
I'm not religious, but if they're actually best friends, then the bride KNEW she had these religious convictions beforehand. The disrespect and disregard for her boundaries is insane.
I stand with the bridesmaid. Wanting to be modest is admirable. 🌹 Bride should respect people's boundaries. "HOST IT IS." 🙌🏼 No one should EVER compromise personal integrity to please others. That's what I call ✨CLASS✨👑
It’s not about the dress being more important than the friendship, it’s about the fact that the bride, her “best friend” can’t respect the choices she makes regarding her body. If it makes her uncomfortable, you shouldn’t be forcing her to do it.
The thing is that she wasn't forced into the bridal party she was asked knowing full well what the bride wanted especially because they were best friends but on the other had the bride definitely should have had more respect twords the bridal parties opinions especially knowing that her best friend had her beliefs on what to wear
@@wifflebat681 she forced her to wear something strapless. That’s her “best friend” and she’d rather choose a dress than have her best friend in her bridal party. All she had to do was allow her friend to keep the straps and all would be good, but no, she would rather have the “perfect bridal party dresses” than the “perfect bridal party” and then she got mad when her friend walked out. She can’t get mad that her friend didn’t want to wear something that went against her beliefs.
@@nicocheree9344 no I know but what I was saying is that when you're asked to be a part of a bridal party you agree to wear what the bride wants you too, now is the bride wrong for not wanting to make a compromise yes and no, yes because if she was supposed to he the brides best friend the bride would have known about how her friends limits but at the same time it is her wedding, im not here trying to start arguments with anyone but I want people to see that they both could have handled the situation better then they did is all
@@wifflebat681 they could of handled it better but the bride was ultimately trying to force her “friend”. Obviously the friend knew what she wanted but that doesn’t mean that she has to sacrifice her beliefs and being comfortable just because it’s her friends wedding. Compromising on a strap for the dress isn’t a big deal, she isn’t ruining her wedding. She could still have the sweetheart neckline and color and everything else; but she can’t let her friend wear the strap?
Shawanda (bridesmaid): “It’s like me against the rest of the world” Nah hun the rest of the world got your back it’s just your bad friendship that make you feel that way
" if strapless is more important than friendship" The irony of those exact words coming out of this bride's mouth... She knew her "best friend" has a strong preference in dressing modestly, yet she pushed SO hard and was absolutely unwilling to compromise / budge a single bit even after choosing to include her into the wedding. As her "best friend" she should've seen how uncomfortable her friend was when they removed the straps from that dress. terrible friend.
Then she should have politely declined the invitation to be in her best friend's wedding. The bride has a right to choose the dresses she wants for her wedding.
Yes I do believe that however the dress is on for a few hours. She was willing to sacrifice her place in the wedding for a dress, that my friend is not religion that is attention seeking.
I see that the bride wants strapless and everyone should respect that, but when someone is clearly uncomfortable in a dress because of their religious beliefs, it is not fair to them out there. Idk just my 2 cents:)
exactly!! it wasn’t just to be difficult, nor a matter of difference of opinion, but religion is really not something to be messed with. especially with her being the maid of honor, it really wouldn’t look out of place at *all* for her to wear a dress that’s a little bit different
@@katelynsousa6591 yeah even if it’s not particularly religious but they’re just very uncomfortable about it I think it’s wrong to back her into a corner like that
Idk it just bothers me for one reason and one reason only. Doesn’t Shawanda have to sign off for the release of the episode? If she was uncomfortable, why did she sign off? Why was she okay with being on national television in a strapless dress, but not okay going to support her friend at her wedding?
“I just thought she’d give in”. How damn disrespectful! She’s not going to give in when she’s told you it’s her religious beliefs! I think shawanda got a lucky escape from that selfish woman!
I personally think it was kind of rude for the bridesmaid to want the bride to change her whole wedding just so that she can be happy when is the bride‘s day but I also see where she’s coming from I feel like they could’ve made a compromise where she had a dress that was strapless but she had a piece of fabric that could cover it and still match the dress but I still think that the bridesmaid should have made the attempt to at least be a little bit more considerate to what the bride wanted on her wedding day
@@mazanicruz6417 a simple strapped dress that is a bit different than other brides made dress is not going to affect the whole wedding and they have been bestfriend for so long and the bide cant even consider that her friend is very religious, she needs to respect that she wants to cover up her body.
@@mazanicruz6417 the bridesmaid wont be able to chose between the brides happiness and her religion. I am afraid that you cant really see the whole picture here
@@leajinlinszhy8517 I can see the whole picture here. I understand where both sides come from but I do think that there was a compromise that didn’t require her choosing one or the other
“If strapless is more important than friendship” Uh, I’m sorry, but it’s this woman’s RELIGION vs friendship, not strapless. If you were a real friend, why are you putting her in a position where she has to choose between her religious beliefs or her friendship with you? The situation could be so easily resolved by the bride allowing that one bridesmaid to wear a coverup! I’m not religious but if one of my bridesmaid was, I’d want her to customize the dress to fit her beliefs. I’d never ask her to compromise her beliefs for my special day. That’s so selfish.
I just watched this on TV and had to look up what the Internet had to say about it, and I am SO glad to see that the comments are overwhelmingly on Shawanda's side! I am so sad that Tammy and the rest pulled the "bride" card and railroaded Shawanda into wearing a dress she wasn't comfortable with. She was polite, respectful and classy throughout in her behaviour, and Tammy completely disrespected her boundaries and beliefs. I can't believe she had the audacity to come out with "If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth?" while LITERALLY placing her need for strapless bridesmaids' dresses above her friend's boundaries and comfort level! Grrrr!
My mom got married recently and she compromised for me because she knew how uncomfortable I would be in a sleeveless dress. I would’ve worn a pantsuit, but I compromised by wearing a dress with sleeves just to make her happy and make me comfortable at the same time
I'm sorry but you knew your best friend had this issue before getting married. She told you before you went dress shopping. Why are you surprised? Why embarrass her like this? A little variation would not have hurt as long as all the dresses were the color you chose. If it were me I would have dropped out of your wedding for good. You were being completed selfish and belittled your so called best friend. I admire her for standing up for her beliefs.
Is that what happen in the full epsidoe ? I would love to watch the full epsidoe. I like the strapless dress. But I'm more for the 1 shoulder to me it looks more classy and elegant. I love the one that Lindsey had on. But I didnt not like how it fit underneath her bodice. But i loved the bow though on the one shoulder strap.
@@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160 who cares! She's uncomfortable, that's all that matters! If she was really her best friend than she'd be okay with putting straps on the dress, shes an awful friend and doesn't deserve good friends.
I really hate the bride's attitude. She's the one who forced her to wear that dress. She's a horrible friend, it's like a strapless dress is worth more then their friendship
@@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160 she shouldn't be upset when her "best friend" decides to drop out of the wedding then, she gave her best friend a choice to wear the dress or not be in the wedding; she chose not to be in wedding. She shouldn't be sad and cry because of her stupid decision she gave her, no one should feel bad. It's not even like the bride is PAYING for the dress (which she should regardless), she would be making her "best friend" pay 100+ dollars for a dress she'd only wear once that SHE'S NOT EVEN COMFORTABLE IN, what fairness is that?
@@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160 but it doesn't matter though, she doesn't feel comfortable in it and shouldn't be forced into it (especially if SHE would have to pay for it), if she was really her best friend they'd allow her to wear straps, especially if it's "not that big of a deal" for her not to wear straps it shouldn't be a big deal for her to wear straps.
she looked so uncomfortable w the strapless i really felt for her, it is absolutely insane how unforgiving the bride is especially since she’s not even the one who has to wear it
always come back to watch this. she stuck her ground and was NOT gonna budge! great reminder that boundaries are GOOD!! this has helped me learn to set boundaries even for my own family. never have i ever felt better since i drew the line with them. so thankful for this episode ❤️
once i saw shawandas face when the straps came down my heart really fell... a true friends should respect her religious beliefs and i really felt for her 🥺
@Autumn Shouse yeah but with strapless it just draws the eyes to the cleavage a lot more and she obviously didn't feel comfortable to her body being shown that way
It’s not that the bridesmaid is being petty or stubborn, the dress goes against her religious beliefs and makes her feel horrible. I feel bad for Shawanda.
Jadin Hackett the fact that it’s her weeding doesn’t mean it’s okay for her to step over her best friend boundaries and forcibly make her were something she’s obviously uncomfortable with What kind of best friend are you if you’re totally okay with your best friend being totally uncomfortable trough your whole weeding just because of a dress I think it’s sad for the bridesmaid
RESPECT FOR SHAWANDA STICKING TO HER BELIEFS. That Bride should have compromised. Smh. It’s her fault she lost her best friend not the strapless dress….
Shawanda should not feel obligated to step outside of her comfort zone and have her boundaries disrespected and invalidated. The bride to be was in the wrong for acting like a spoiled brat and it's a shame that no one called her out. She is the one who made the friendship end over a dress and should be ashamed of the way she treated her friend. I'm sorry Shawanda. ❤️
@@yazminecaraballo8863 Are you religious, I'm just asking so to have a good spirited debate with you, on why you think she's just as horrible as the bride.
@@yazminecaraballo8863 the bride acting like two straps is gonna ruin her whole wedding...it really doesn't make that much of a difference. you wouldn't make a hijabi take off her hijab, and in the end the bridesmaid said she's just not going to be a bridesmaid if they keep breaching her boundaries and the bride's acting like she ruined everything.
Betzaida Altamirano it’s called selfishness. Yes, the wedding is the bride snd grooms day, but your guests should always feel okay or comfortable so your day can go perfect. Just let her wear the straps man. Ñ
She wasn't that uncomfortable if she came out in a spaghetti strapped dress. She's awkward and jealous. I'm pretty sure the Bride talked to her about the dresses weeks beforehand. There's always 1.
Maya H stop hating on people based on their religion...it is her beliefs and you have yours. Stop thinking you are better then other people becouse you aren’t.
@Maya H WTF is wrong with you? It's not about religion. She feels uncomfortable, you can see it. I felt uncomfortable seeing her. Your comment ist absolutely disgusting.
The producers clearly showed who they agreed with through the editing. Shawanda got dorky music and the bride got sad face close ups and touching music. Whyyyy?
Oh because they don't really respect the friends wishes unless the bride is being overly rude they always put the bride first ... I get it's her day but the friend wasn't trying to steal the limelight of the friend she was just uncomfortable and they couldn't understand that
Nick lense But it shows that she didn’t know the bride wanted strapless. She was surprised to find out at the appointment. Also, they are “best friends”... the bride should have known how Shawanda would feel about it. No no no
The look on the best friends face when she had to take the straps down just so the bride could picture the dress strapless was unreal. She was EXTREMELY uncomfortable to say the least. This wasn't about a power struggle at ALL. The bride was being inconsiderate and showed a complete lack of respect and care for her "best friend". Pick a dress with straps and when you look back at the wedding pictures, you can say you picked friendship over the "perfect" brides maids dress. THAT shows more character. I HATED the ending with everyone consoling the bride. It was the best friend that needed consoling, NOT the bride.
@@prettyrecklesdes exactly! She was already compromising and clearly uncomfortable with the dress even before the straps went down! The bride already knew how shawanda felt and just did not care.
the comments on this video are so much more sympathetic toward the bridal party member with boundaries than they were on the video where a bride’s sibling was a masc lesbian uncomfortable in a dress and that’s super telling.
I get the bride has a look she is going for, that's fine. HOWEVER REAL friends only come by, once in a lifetime. If that is your REAL friend, the Bride should respect her friend's boundaries. She could've put Shawanda in a dress w/Straps so she is comfortable and then put the other bridesmaids in Strappless dresses. Or put all the bridesmaids in different dresses but all connect w/ the Brides theme/Vision, that are comfortable for the other b-maids wishes, if possible, then that way all the b-maids are in dresses they like that are still w the brides vision. Come on now its not hard!! She Knows her best friend is Conservative, she could have respected her wishes. I think she did that on purpose to get her out of the bridal party, Not cool. Good job Shawanda for sticking to your beliefs. What's crazy at the end, then that heffa has the nerve to cry about it Girrrrrrl Bye!!!!!!! stop it!!!!!!👋
I COMPLETELY respect the friend for saying this isn't me. She intimately said "I will support you as your friend while being a guest to ensure your vision for your bridal party is fullfilled." If you know your friend is very conservative why would you EVER demand they compromise their convictions?
DAONUT guitar it doesn’t mean you can treat people like shit tho. In the grand scheme of things the wedding is going to last a day and looking back on your photos you won’t care what anyone else is wearing as long as they are presentable and not in a white dress. On the other hand I’m one of these people that couldn’t give a damn about weddings and think they’re a huge waste of money so I’m obviously not gonna care about bridesmaid dresses
But- the bride was so willing to let her be uncomfortable for a strapless dress. When i saw how the consultant removed the straps from the dress, my heart broke for the friend. She looks so uncomfortable and very uneased. Like you willing to make your friend feel like that for your wedding day? And i didn't like how the other bridesmaids said it was "Just because she didn't get what she wanted" like for real?? Yall know how she feels about her religion and you go say something so fucking gross? Tbh that friend is better off without that group.
I was raised very conservative as well, and when I went to try on wedding dresses the other day, it was very uncomfortable trying on any dresses that showed cleavage, to the point I wanted to cry because I felt so exposed. It destroyed my self-esteem and I felt like I’d fall out of the dress, so I totally know how she’s feeling. People should be allowed to wear what makes them confident, comfortable, and happy. Edit: I would like to add though that I had a wonderful support system who were nothing but loving even when I didn’t feel confident in myself. My mom even apologized to me later for raising me to be sort of ashamed of showing my skin, and explained it’s how she was raised (actually even more so) so she never knew any better, but that I should always feel confident in my skin.
@@christensummers9641 exactly, and im sorry that had happen to you. I myself don't have a religion but even i can see how it can harm ones believes to be exposed im such a way. Its sad people can be purposely blind to someone else's needs for the sake for a wedding day-
@@tidepodpadthai2633 It's a dress, not the "entire wedding". I'm religious and so are all of my loved ones and friends, to different extents. When I get married I'm just going to give my bridesmaids a color or fabric and tell them to wear something in that, because everyone has their own body type and comfort level. And guess what? They'll look better that way, because they'll all be happy and comfortable.
Bride: “If strapless is more important than friendship, what is it worth?” My thoughts exactly. She shouldn’t have to ignore her religion for your strapless dress.
@@alessandroiannonemusic The correlation is that lots of religious people prefer to dress more conservatively, and for some, a strapless dress is less conservative. It can show cleavage, and even if it's fitted not to show cleavage, it still shows a good amount of skin.
@@alessandroiannonemusic I'm not religious, though I am spiritual, and I believe that God doesn't really care how much skin you show. But for some people, they believe that God wants them to dress modestly. Even if that means covering up to the collarbone. Maybe something about avoiding leading men to temptation or other sexist stuff. I personally believe the bridesmaid is just using religion as an excuse but actually just has insecurity issues about her body. No shame in that, everyone has insecurities. But sometimes a woman will say she's insecure about a body part and her friends will try to build her up, telling her how pretty she is, etc, but it doesn't actually solve anything because the problem is much deeper and sometimes it's just easier to let her wear straps.
the friendship wasn't worth keeping. when you can't respect someone's boundaries and beliefs you can't be friends. Shwanda Won here. No she wasn't supposed to give in when you can't reciprocate the same feelings for her.
She could have just let the bridesmaids wear strapless and the maid of honor wear straps. It's very common for the maid of honor to wear a different dress than the bridesmaids anyway. The sales ladies should have known to suggest that from the very beginning.
The bride was the horrible friend. She knew and she even said it that she was very religious and it was gonna be hard to convince. So I think she was trying to humiliate her on TV
The bride already knew beforehand that she wouldn't wear strapless she even says at the end that she thought her friend would just give in and wear what she wants her too. I like how none has mentioned it when its clearly manipulative behavior on the bride's side
Yep I’m surprise on why the workers couldn’t step in and tell them that they can change the straps or make them look better. It was probably just for the drama
But Shawanda was being rude and difficult when she refused to wear Tiffany blue. That wasn't right. And she also said at the end she didn't "like" the dress, not "I feel uncomfortable bc my shoulders are showing." I think it was part religion and partly her just being difficult.... and maybe even a little jealous or possibly a little hurt that her friend is moving on and things are changing forever now. You never know- but I do think there was another issue other than simply just religion. There was definitely something else emotional under the surface.
@@GameChanger597 rite becuz the strap wasn’t really changing nothing the bride could let her keep the straps and had the other 2 without but I liked it bett with the trap it look cheap without it
I simply HAVE to say something -- when you have a number of bride's maids of many differing body shapes, it will be almost impossible to find one single dress type that will suit all of them. Seeing the three different women who tried on dresses -- it was obvious that most of them looked hideous in the dresses they modelled. My suggestion would have been to have one dress colour, one fabric choice, and then each bride's maid could have whatever type of dress she would like (within reason, of course). Why didn't these "so called" professional stylists make that suggestion. It seemed so obvious to me. That would have settled allllllll the possible bickering over who liked which dress. AND it would have saved a very important relationship between Tammy and Shawanda. Too bad that Tammy chose to ditch her BFF over a very minor issue (straps or no straps). I would say Tammy was definitely NOT a best friend. Shawanda is better off without her, but I am sure she is going to be grieving this painful reality. My heart goes out to her. I agree with Shawanda that modesty of dress is something which a religious person should observe, especially in church. She was very brave to have stuck to her beliefs, painful as it may have been. God Bless you Shawanda. He sees you and understands what you have given up to honour Him. So do we.
I'm on Shawanda's side on this. She's better off without the Bride as a best friend. The Bride should have accommodated her out of respect not just for her beliefs, but also for their friendship. This bride was wanting her friend to give up her values. A true friend would never ask that.
Girl, you didnt lose a friend because she didnt like the dress you chose, you lost a friend because you couldnt respect her beliefs and her opinions. She was being so mature about it, she didnt force you to chose anything you didnt like, she backed out. You tried to manipulate her emotions to get her to wear something that made her uncomfortable and compromised her beliefs. You keep saying she's your best friend, but you're not treating her like one. I hope she wore a beautiful, conservative dress to that wedding, something she felt comfortable in, and I bet she looked fabulous.
is it a crime to like a dress? her friend was being very unreasonable. using religion as an excuse to not wear a strapless dress. she could just wear the dress with straps without being so rude and unreasonable. i agree her friend could’ve given her a shawl or something but then it wouldn’t look good because no one else wanted the shawl or would wear it. how is the bride going to please one person? she can’t just give up what she wants because one person doesn’t want a strapless dress.
Lol if she can't wear strapless then it's not the bride's fault, wedding isn't about maid of honor or bridesmaids it's about the bride and groom, whatever bride's want it should be follow. Can't you see that girl keep contradicted the bride, if she want to be followed then she should pay for the bride's wedding all of what should bride's gonna pay and be the bride lmao.
Why she just couldn't do all the bridesmaid strapless and just have her best friend with some spaghetti straps or something or just all of the a cover up or a jacket or something. She did not have to lose her best friend over bridesmaid dress
these replies are so weird. the friend was being reasonable because the brides maids all have to match its a culture. and using religion isnt "an excuse" whatsoever for example my religion is rlly strict on what parts of the body you reveal in public so if that was me i woulda been acting the same exact way because thats my religion and im not abouta disobey it just because my "friend" wants me to 🤦🏽♀️
The Bride acting like she’s the victim when she chose to lose her friend because she didn’t want to wear a strapless dress because she was uncomfortable with it and it Wasn’t modest
@@yazminecaraballo8863 1. She didn’t feel comfortable 2. It’s part of her religion she’s obviously very religious and didn’t feel comfortable wearing the dress without straps I understand it’s her wedding but at least be considerate of others feelings .
@@yazminecaraballo8863 if i were her i would also be a host I would NEVER choose a friend over my religion if anything the bride was being disrespectful for not respecting her culture and what she believes in the bride is a fake friend.
A true friend will always honor the convictions and principles of another friend, whether or not they agree. If you truly love someone, asking them to violate their conscience is flat out unacceptable.
Her friend should respect her belief and make an exception for her best friend without insulting her as well. Shes not considered a best friend but a fiend
I am genuinely confused, I need someone to explain something to me. How is it not ok for the bride to think her friend would wear without the straps on her wedding day when her friend seemed just fine with the straps. Not sleeves. Not even shoulder sleeves... thin straps that tie behind the neck. Is it not reasonable to think she would be fine without as well. I'm asking because personally i think it's weird, i have friends similar in conservatism except they would not be caught going to bed in those straps with others around because it basically shows everything already.
@@SiriustheYao it's more of a body issue. even though the straps are very thin, if she's uncomfortable without it, then that would be stepping over her boundaries. at first I thought they were choosing dresses for the bride, and for me, that would've been terrible if the friend was dictating what the bride would wear. tho that's not the case. even though "it's her wedding after all", she should still respect her friend's boundaries. I hoped that they would at least give her the chance to wear the straps and make the other ones strapless as she wishes. "it's just gonna be a couple hours anyways", it won't make a huge difference if one bridesmaids is wearing thin straps. it's her wedding but still, it's her friend's body.
Eros Love I agree with you! It seems like it is exactly that in the brides eyes, a joke. Bride wanted to bully her best friend into wearing a dress she knew the friend would absolutely hate. Her friends feelings didn’t matter in her eyes. She thinks her friend was being ridiculous with her beliefs of covering chest and knees and having straps. This is terrible that a ‘dress’ (actually religious beliefs) broke up a friendship. The bride willingly put it on the line when she could’ve avoided it if she actually cared. The best friend was uncomfortable in the dress even with the straps but was willing to wear it for the bride at her wedding. She was being a true friend. Bride isn’t a good friend.
"if strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth?" Literally I could easily turn that around "Is your best friend comfort worth a strapless dress?" Apparently for this bride its dresses over friendship.
This bride’s behavior was shockingly disrespectful toward someone who was supposed to be her “best friend”. I also dress modestly due religious beliefs, and I can’t imagine having any actual friends who would tell me, “oh I know this goes against your beliefs, your values, and makes you incredibly uncomfortable, but I just don’t care.” That’s not a friend worth having! When I got married I had my bridesmaids pick out their own dresses; they all just had to be in the same color and length, and everyone was really confident and happy with their dress and they looked great!
@@kekekong9 Yep. Removing the straps made it look tacky, cheap and uncomfortable. The straps gave it a classy, classic look. The poor woman wearing it stood tall when the straps were up, but became stooped and defensive when they were removed. I'll never understand a bride who would prefer to make a friend uncomfortable or, as in this instance, lose the friend completely.
Shawanda was probably in the dressing room thinking "if strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth?" with far greater justification. No one should be coerced into wearing something they feel is too revealing.
how did they twist it to be the fault of the friend who stood up for her convictions? The bride did it only for the aesthetics so if anyone "ended the friendship for the strapless", it was her.
But Shawanda was being difficult by complaining about the color and making rude faces from the very beginning. She seemed to have a lot of "opinions" and complaints about everything. I think there was more under the surface going on than just "religious beliefs."
@@GameChanger597 what complaint did she make besides color and her religious beliefs. Even if she made faces she didn’t say anything because she understood it was her friends wedding. The bride acknowledged that she was incredibly religious and still refused to accept that. I would have said a lot more.
@@GameChanger597 I see you've been replying to comments with the same argument.. I think Shawanda made the right decision, She knew where to hit the brakes when she knew when to hit the brakes.
@@GameChanger597 i have to disagree she truly wasn't comfortable in a strapless dress and i don't see why they couldn't accommodate straps for her and have everyone else have strapless.
She was the one who was forcing and bullying her “bestfriend” into a gown that obviously makes her feel uncomfortable and she has the audacity to cry? What a petty witch!!
I had my bridesmaid dresses made. I selected the color and fabric. They each chose their own style dress. Not one complaint and the pictures were great.🥰
I really hope Shawanda sees these comments and rests assured that she was not wrong in this situation. You weren't saying no just to be difficult. You had your very valid reservations. I'm an aspiring fashion designer and I know that some of my friends are more reserved than others, so I don't force them to wear certain garments that they're uncomfortable with. I just work around it. Now you know she wasn't your true friend, Shawanda
I disliked how lori went, "I wonder if it's really about religion"...yes it is.. There is no power struggle.... It's her belief. It's her right. Why the hell was she being attacked
@@EijiTheRonin well sure if you're being forced into a religious belief which isn't yours then that's wrong. But is she was genuinely trying to hold onto her beliefs, then no one had any business to make her look selfish
Not really the same. There's nothing in the bible that says you have to cover your neck and shoulders. And if she's fine with that dress with the straps, it's still showing the same amount of skin without. That being said, she should be comfortable in her clothes and the bride shouldn't make her wear something she doesn't want. The thing with the straps vs the non straps is the support. she doesn't feel supported by the strapless dress, and you can see it. Because again, she was fine until they took the strap down. which that skinny strap isn't covering shit. so it's not about modesty but support.
