Candice wants all her bridesmaids to buy their dresses at Lori's Bridals however, Nicole is trying to convince them to pay her to make their dresses instead. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
sunflowerr_yelloww they are gonna need to have the dress altered so it fits them, and that can become quite expensive. Since the dresses they are trying are basically just for show.
I have a hard time believing she can duplicate that dress for 50 bucks - am thinking she would have to use a slightly different, less expensive material - which then won't look or drape exactly like the model, and could cause MAJOR drama. Glad she agreed to buy the dress.
Ok, it was tacky if her friend to push her services as a seamstress - and maybe the bride feels she is unreliable. BUT also spending $300 on a one time use dress is ridiculous !!! Get real.
@JJ people love to go on TV and look ridiculous (and I love it personally) LOL. But in real life, I would be very annoyed spending so much on these dresses! The brides in my life were not trying to have me overspend at all.
@@dacherries4984 why TF would you interpret that as 'racist?' It's a statement of my opinion. The peach dress looks nice against her skin tone. If I said a yellow dress looked nice against the pale skin of a Caucasian woman, would you find that to be 'racist', or simply a statement of opinion?
@@blackexc7575 Why wouldn't she? Who the heck would have a problem with being told their outfit complements their skin tone... or eye colour, hair colour, or any other feature?
This is why I prefer Randy, his first rule of bridal shopping is if someone else is paying for it, then it's very important to respect their budget. 25 dollars maybe 25 dollars for her but for 25 dollars is my weekly transportation money or my meal plan for the day.
Breaking Randy rule #1, don't try on dresses over budget. Why would she put them in $297+ dresses when the budget was $150? I am sure they knew the group wasn't going to go twice as high.
@@kogancames1107 1) why are you cursing - wtf? It's a RU-vid video. 2) she came out the 2nd time with $175 dresses so they did have better options in long than the $300 budget buster, 3) show them short dresses or whatever is in budget. There are plenty of dresses under $150, let's not make this harder than needed.
@@mommynab 1) I guess you haven't been on RU-vid long cause omg a lot of people swear on here. 2) she said she put them in the 300 dollar dresses because they were the brides picks and she wanted to gage how far shes willing to go out of her budget for styles she likes. 3) if the bride says long dresses shes getting long dresses. Idk why this is so hard to understand.
Me shopping: "budget's X." Store: "we have nothing below X." Me: "aight, Imma head out." If you insist on other people getting something above their budget, be prepared to pay the difference.
I agree but I also feel like they should of known beforehand (either from researching or from the store contacting them) that none of the dresses were in their price range and gone somewhere else.
@@gem4life933 A budget is a budget just because someones a bride doesn't mean they can just make people pay for things. Who cares what the shoe budget was, the budget should have just been respected. If the bride wants those dresses she should pay the difference.
Alicia Molén also, the bride is paying for food. Music, the venue, and a WHOLE lot more. The bridesmaids get a lot of free things (along with the other guests) while at the wedding. Being a bridesmaid is a privilege that comes with a cost. (Also, brides typically purchase gifts, a hair/makeup team etc. for the bridesmaids. The least a bridesmaid could do is pay for their dress.)
And unless you’re independently wealthy, I guarantee you won’t have the extra funds to purchase a dress for every girl... I’m sure you will need to spend that extra money (saved from the bridesmaids purchasing dresses), and maybe include some extra things for guests to do at your wedding.
The bride is really selfish saying "they are looking more towards the price than my big day". Unless you're gonna pay for them, you need to stop complaining. I can't believe this bride, it's ridiculous
I see where the bride is coming from, my friend got married and had her friend make the dresses, biggest mistake she ever made, only 2/10 dresses were done in time, and she paid $250 each dress. My friend ended up going to Ross and goodwill to find new dresses and she was heart broken.
Yeah but she could’ve went somewhere cheaper like Macy’s for instance where the dresses range from $50-80 and it would’ve been a nice compromise. The Macy’s I live near has dresses pretty similar to what she got for like $60. I’m sorry that happened to your friend though, hope everything turned out okay!!
How rude to go into a store and say the whole time "I could make this for cheaper." So what if you can its so rude to say. I'm a bench jeweller and I have never once gone into another jeweller and been like I can make this for cheaper. Like yes I can but you just don't do that.
It is her wedding, but she should still consider the bridesmaids budgets. They shouldn't have to feel guilty over not having a lot of money. Unless the bride pays for all the dresses, idk why she's getting all pissy at her friends
I know right I didnt spend that much on my prom dress so for me. Plus is easy for her to say it's just 25 dollars. My friend works in bridal shop earns 25 dollars an hour doesn't even work in a high end bridal shop. So imagine she earns more, so for her 25 dollar an hour. So for her 25 dollars is just a couple of cents.
Also i didn't like how the worker is acting "are you going to say for the sake of your friendship? " money suckers . i get that they have to get money but that was super low .
Yes. That was low. That’s none of her business, she’s just there to fetch dresses for them to try on but I feel like so was so worried about making a sale that she was actually causing problems.
What kind of bride is this? How selfish. I’m a soon to be bride and I would NEVER make my bridesmaids pay over budget. $150 is a lot of money for a dress you’re never going to wear again. So if my bridesmaids were ok with paying that I would make sure to stay in the budget. Period. Go on amazon. They have great dresses for $60-$100. She’s selfish
I got really mad at the consultant, why the hell she has to show 290$ dresses when budget is 150? then guilt trip all the bridesmaids into buying something more expensive cause its "only 25 dollares more and you have to be compromised with the bride?" omg
It really is only 25$ more. And you can just sell the dress for half price after the wedding. Get your money back so why is everyone so pissy about it?
@@wonderland07209 my privilege? 🤣 sorry that I work hard to afford an extra $25. Sad you had to stoop to that level because you don’t feel like you need to work hard in life.
@@Jessaroonie23 youve never heard of poverty and minimum wage and it shows. even when people do work, often they aren’t paid enough to afford to live. and it’s not easy to just go and get a degree because that’s also insanely expensive. you’re just proving how privileged you really are
Well if you're going shopping atleast you should take some extra with you not everytime you'll get what you want with the money you have. Sorry but it's the truth😈
jsjg fdhgfsf 2 minutes ago (edited) they literally said AT THE BEGINING that they dont have any long dresses (which is EXACTLY what they want) under $150 thats as good as its gonna get
Annointed One I don’t think it was because of the money but because they were all turning on her. She made it very clear that she didn’t want her friend to make the dresses and frankly it was rude of her friend to keep insisting. But none of the bridesmaids were taking her concerns about her seamstress friend seriously and I think that’s what upset her
It was the fact that they weren't willing to listen and try to compromise, but instead were jumping ship to have the seamstress friend "make" the dresses with potentially disastrous results. From the beginning, they weren't willing to really listen to her because they were focused on the friend offering them $50 dresses - which isn't even reasonable, unless she planned on spending hundreds of her own money to buy all of the fabrics...?
this just pissed me off because like, if she wants them to have the dress over budget, she can’t complain if they want the cheaper option. i can understand she wants them to have top quality and have it on time, but she’s not the one paying more for it. if i were one of them i’d tell her if she really was going to cut me out of the wedding for not being able to afford the dress, i wouldn’t want to be in it anyways.
As a seamstress myself I kinda want to root for the seamstress but the bride is her friend and she pretty much said that they most likely wouldn't get the dresses on time with her making them. I would never use my friend's wedding as a way to make a quick buck anyway. I would have offered it as my wedding gift buy the fabric and I will make them free of charge. but thats just me
Your missing the point its her weeding as a brides maid you have to look presentable you're going to be in the front of everybody and in the bride's pictures plus most likely she would not had had all the dresses done in time
It's not unreasonable to want your bridesmaids to get their dresses ON TIME. The alternative is no dresses if the seamstress friend flakes. Judging by the bride's reaction, the seamstress friend is a flake.
If they can’t afford the dress then they can’t afford it! She’s over here threatening to cut people out the wedding if they don’t buy the dress lmaooo girl I’ll cut myself out before you do, DUECES ✌🏽
she wasnt threatening to kick them out cuz they couldnt afford it (hence why she compromised with lowering the price of the shoes) she threatened to kick them out cuz they cared less about her actual wedding that the price and you could tell by the fact that they werent like "could we get a cheaper one" instead they were deadass talking about getting it made for $50. they cared more for a cheapass remake that as stated likely wouldnt even be done on time than her one time wedding they were out of line here not the bride.
Ok the reason she said it because they are being cheap I guarantee they pay way more for nails,hair shoes,bags, vacations,cars so this cheapness isn't ok
Facts I would have not been in her wedding. If someone can’t afford it and you aren’t offering to pay for it, tho it’s her day, she’s being a bit too selfish and not considerate of their pockets. There is other things people have to pay for like bills😂🤷🏼♀️💯besides a dress they’ll only wear for one day.
I'm a seamstress too and I've made formal wear before. Formal fabrics can cost around $20 a yard or more. Let's say you need at least four yards for a floor length gown and have extra for any accidents or design features like ruching. Then you also have to get the lining for the dress. Let's say that's $7 a yard and you get 3 yards. With fabric alone that's already $101. The amount of fabric needed will vary with the size as well. Plus extra for any embellishments like rhinestones or lace. Then you need the zipper and either a hook and eye or button to fasten at the top. And of course several spools of matching thread. On top of that, you want to charge for the time and labor involved. Plus it's for a wedding. High quality is expected. Fit, construction, and finishing have to all be there. I doubt she could make floor length gowns for all these women in a timely manner with good fabric and proper finishing techniques.
My grandma made many bridesmaids dresses, in her time. She’d measure each girl, tell them the cost of the materials , and charge them $25 (in the 70s,80s and 90s) for labor. She’d literally finish as many as six, in a month. In those days, Simplicity often had patterns for the popular styles. Word of mouth brought her a steady supply of customers. It’s how she contributed to the family income, as a stay home mom/grandma. She made other items too, and would iron for the single guys in town.
I really dont understand why seamstress friend is the one to blamed here. She 's a seamstress so she really know her skills. I am a designer. I too dont like to purchase something when I know I can make it better and cheap. Bride is the unfair one. She did'nt even pay for them but not only expect them to go over budget but undermine her friends skills. She kept saying its her day bla bla.. if it is your day then pay for them. Because its not their day. In our country not only bride pay for everything for brides maids but also its custom to give a gift to each for helping and being there for her. If I was her seamstress friend I dont want to her brides maid not beacuse she want me to go over budget but because she looked down on my skills and one thing I do best which is also my profession. If I was her I would be hurt because my friend dont want anything I made and she is not appreciating my work!
@@tracyndlovu9717 if that the case then shouldn't the bride pay the difference? Not cool to make them go over budget when she isn't even paying for those dresses
What the heck was up w the consultant?? "If you're refusing to pay for a dress then don't be a bridesmaid" But...she was the one who put them all in dresses above the budget "to see how much they are willing to go over the budget" Saleswoman being a saleswoman 🙄
Randy is a salesman and he always respects a person budget but that because unlike her, Randy knows that money doesn't grow on trees and many people don't have nice fancy retail jobs that pay them 30 an hour.
@@sailorsister211 at the start the consultant said "we dont have any dresses the are 150 or less so im just going to but them in the brides picks" its unrealistic to go to an expensive dress store and expect to spend less than at least 200.
@@jaidafair2422 I understand that they don't have dresses that don't start at 150. They shouldn't have gone with budget like that to Bridal by Lori, is like going to Sephora with 10 dollars and expect to buy full face make up. However, the whole comment "if you are refusing to pay for a dress then don't be a bridesmaid" was rude, since they aren't refusing to pay for a dress, they are refusing to for a dress that is over their budget, that a huge difference. It makes it seem the bridesmaids were bad guys for not going over budget, esp since the Bride didn't step up by pay the differences. Maybe going a few bucks over budget is nothing for her but a few bucks maybe be a lot for these women esp for a dress that they are going to wear once. The consultant made it seem selfish for the bridesmaid not going over budget for the bride.
But she was right they went to a very popular bridal shop and expected to pay a budget lower than $200 if you know you’re not financially stable then you shouldn’t be apart of a wedding that includes paying for your own clothing
Okay, I sew for a living, and I can tell you that a seamstress that will only charge $50 to custom make a formal dress is a hobby sewer, not a professional. The raw materials for a dress like that will cost around $30 (if she gets mid grade fabric), leaving her to be paid $20 to make dresses that will take Days to construct.
THANK YOU! It's obvious to anyone who is familiar with sewing that Nicole does not know how to sew. The dresses she claims she can make for so little money are complicated and are made out of high quality fabric. Judging by the bride's remarks that they won't even get the dresses if Nicole makes them and Nicole's own self-admittance that she hasn't been that great of a seamstress in the past, Nicole most likely would not have delivered.
EXACTLY. Just because were friends doesn't mean I'm going to go so far in the red to make all of those dresses. I might give you a bit if a discount but at $50 a dress, you're basically offering your services for free.
She was making an offer for her friends... maybe she doesn't value her skills that much or maybe she was only making an exception for her friends since she knows their financial situation.
@@nora4981 Here's the thing though. With $50-100, her friend would be eating much of the cost of each dress. The fabric alone costs $15-30 per yard. You need at least 4 yards for a basic dress. More for any pleating, ruching, or gathering or for larger sizes. So already she is underestimating the final price. Then you need things like lining fabric, boning to keep the dress up, zippers, buttons, etc. Then you need to make multiple ones. That's a lot of time and effort. That doesn't even include drafting or buying a pattern, extra fabric in case of mistakes, or fittings. Even with my closest friends, no matter their financial situation, there is no way I'm eating that much of the cost for five or so dresses.
Bride wants long dresses, but she isn't buying them. It's obvious what she wants cost more than what the bridesmaids can afford. It's her wedding, but it's their wallets - I'd nicely and politely opt out of the wedding party.
Exactly what I was thinking...plus, I have never seen a bride make the bridesmaids pay. If you cant afford it, have one bridesmaid. I also thought it was very rude when the lady in the shop was standing there after putting in her hard work. Maybe this is a conversation that should have been had BEFORE making an appointment. To me this is like going into an expensive restaurant, making the server go through everything on the menu than saying nah...we are going to McDs. You dont need money to act with class. BTW, this is when friendships are lost. I want no bridesmaids, and my dress is vintage.
@@contraasss I love Micarah, but she also makes a lot of her stuff out of bed sheets and curtains (i.e. why she can make things so cheap). That just isn't the vibe for a wedding👋🏽 For proper dresses to outfit a bridal party that large, she's absolutely paying more than $175 in fabric alone.
so I sew... So I'm going to break some math down for you. Let's go with the light blue one shoulder chiffon dress. A good quality chiffon can run as high as $20. On average for female around 5' 6" tall that is averages weight I need 4 yards of fabric. So that's $80 bucks. This does not count for the Sash or the solid fabric of the dress that tends to be under the chiffon dress, the zipper, or thread. There are a lot of small prices that can add up to material cost. So there is a chance she could actually get her fabric for around $100 for that dress. But the reason it's cheaper would because she is doing it at cost with no labor, over head cost, or profit figured in. As for the strapless chiffon dress could it be done for $50 cost if she orders from a fabric wholesale good chance. I hate working with chiffon it's a pain.
The fact that the brides concern is that the bridesmaids wouldn't have their dresses on time or that they wouldn't fit right and the seamstresses only response is "I'm better now though" is very telling.
Exactly unless ik for sure she will get the job done or does it professionally, on top of if her work is that good and if shes done something similar before for someone else
fox4ab "OBVIOUSLY"??? Do you know the seamstress personally or are you speaking out of your ass? 🤔 You speak like you know the whole entourage on a personal level 😂😂😂
@@leslien.552 Or Candace knew her seamstress friend wouldn't be able to make the dresses on time so that's why she was against the idea. :/ This is probably what fox4ab meant.
The truth is, go into a store that isn't bridal and you get a perfectly nice dress for $150. These bridesmaids dresses that pass for "fashion," um... not so much.
I do not get what is so big about being a bridesmaid and pay for a dress that someone else chose for you !?? And she threatens them to cut them off wedding !?? Just because they would not go over their budget!! She should have offered paying the 25
because it's her wedding meaning she spent more money then her "friends" on their bridesmaid dress that they only have to pay 25 dollars more, so please do be so selfish.
@@aikoakuma9840 is this a spam comment? Literally im seeing the exact same words over and over again....... Why the need to defend the brides action everywhere? R u the bride?
I’m pretty sure she can’t do that considering it’s not her shop- but either way it is only 25 dollars and if you can afford it dont be a bridesmaid lol
Lmaooo exactly since it’s only $25 more cuz clearly they got it laying around the place somewhere 😂or maybe the bride since she want them to come out of pocket more than planned
I think it was rude that Nicole kept pushing that she could make the dresses after the bride made it clear that she didn’t trust her to get them done. I also don’t think she threatened to kick them out over money but more because they weren’t listening to her in regards to Nicole so it seemed like they were turning on her. I understand wanting to stay within the budget but at the end of the day they agreed to buy what the bride wanted. Honestly they NEVER should’ve went to a high end bridal shop with a $150 budget. They could’ve found something much nicer for the same price at a lower end store.
86upsmaya the bride didn’t “want them to go over budget” that’s literally all they had, she just didn’t want Nicole to make the dresses. You don’t got to a place like Brides by Lori or Kleinfelds with a $150 budget. Someone should’ve suggested looking somewhere else within their budget. Either way they agreed to pay less for shoes so they didn’t spend more money than they agreed upon
My bridesmaids did pay for their own dresses. However, I made sure to be mindful of what was affordable for them. I completely appreciate them being on a budget. That bride would have seen me walk out of the whole thing! I would never pay for something I couldn't afford, wedding or no wedding!
Some people just really dont understand that other people can be poor. Who knows what bills some girls couldnt pay just because she wanted them to get that dress.
I love how that bridesmaid transformed when she put on (and rocked) that peach dress. ❤ She just became this pretty, feminine woman with her own twist! Loved it!
My wedding was rather expensive, my dress alone was a $12,000 handmade ballgown... But my fiancee and I saved for two years for it. My bridesmaids bought their dresses, but we paid for their nails, hair, makeup, jewellery, shoes, even their bras (to make the dresses look perfect)... Literally everything else. Never once did they complain. It was my day and their gift to me was being 100% supportive of every decision I made.
What is so selfish about being a seamstress and wanting to stitch your own dress when you have the skills to do it. The bride isn't even paying and also her friend could have made a little money stitching their dresses which isnt a bad thing at all. In our culture we buy our own dresses and we mostly get them stitched. Its not a big deal.
Menahil Ahmed she probably isn’t a good seamstress and from their conversation you could tell that the bride knew her friend to be an unreliable seamstress
What bothers me is the fact that her "special day" is not a day to celebrate with people she loves. If a dress is more important than your friends, if having everybody just doing what you want is your main goal, pay for actors to be there. You can dress them the way you wanted, make them wear any haistyle and smile for pictures.
I feel this both ways. The bride needs to respect their budget and know that to them it’s one day they’ll never repeat. No one wants to out hundreds of dollars on something they won’t wear again. And to the bridesmaids they need to respect that the bride wanting to go shopping for the dresses and they all agreed to that. Don’t throw in her face multiple times they’d rather make it, it makes her feel flustered that her big day isn’t that important. I’m glad they all compromised.
Guerline Janvier while she’s obviously not living in the United States or she wouldn’t have asked . Because in the UK we don’t pay for our dresses. The bride pays for everything !!
I'm in the UK and shocked. Can't afford bridesmaids' dresses, you can't afford to invite bridesmaids - it's that simple. Different social conventions. Funny how they can speak English but have such different customs from ours.
In Australia we seem to do both. Sometimes the bride pays, sometimes the bridesmaids pay for their own. I paid for my bridesmaids (even though they overruled me on colour - ugh) I did get them to pay for their shoes but they got a lot of say in the choice and budget. I think the bride paying is the better option, it's your wedding, your choice, your cost. Consider it a gift to the bridesmaids for supporting you. As brides usually do pay it's not really a thing to have very many bridesmaids for that reason. Two or three max seems to be the norm.
@@Miluielle I'm in the U.S. yet never understood why the bridesmaids pay for the dress when the bride is picking it. People often forget that while, yes, it is the bride's big day, the bridesmaids are doing them a favor dedicating their time and money to support their friend. Like you, I paid for my bridesmaids dresses and they bought their own shoes. My mother had the difficult experience in her young life when she had to turn down the role as bridesmaid for her friend who wanted her to spend $200 on a dress even though she could barely afford milk at the time. The friend was upset with her for it, but ultimately my mother made the right decision because the wedding was called off and she would have been stuck with an expensive, non-refundable dress! I wasn't about to make my own friends have to choose between me and their next few meals.
If I were the bride, I would pay the difference in the dress and make sure they like the dress because I care about how they feel and I respect their budget. It’s called being a good friend.
I feel like everyone in this situation was in the wrong. I understand that they have to stay under budget. They should’ve went somewhere that was more affordable! The bride and the woman helping them into the dresses should’ve been more reasonable. And the seamstress shouldn’t of showboated her pricing like that. As a bride, I would be reasonable that my bridesmaids couldn’t go over budget but I’d be concerned that if I were to chose the seamstress that she may not get everyone’s dresses perfect and done on time for the wedding.
She should have gone to Ross I went there to get my bridesmaid dress and I got one for $20 dollars and it was originally $375 dollars and it was gorgeous.
I am a bride and I would never ask my bridesmaids to spend that much on a dress that they are going to wear once. I get that she wants them to look nice, but $175 is insane
When my sister got married she had a very specific vision for her bridesmaids and it was VERY expensive so she footed the bill of every dress because she felt that it wasn't her place to put financial stress on her friends for her wedding. I know this is not possible for everyone but at least work within the agreed budget if you are not providing the dresses.
Why not have the seamstress friend make the dresses? This way they'd be all helping her business and at the same time, the other bridesmaids would be saving money! Everybody wins!
I dnt agree with the bride asking them to go over budget however her seamstress friend is overstepping her bounderies ...the bride said that she doesnt want them sawn and at first even the bridesmaids didnt back up the friend ...if they re so bothered by purchasing they should have spoken earlier or she should have kept quite instead of pushing it
If you want them to wear the dresses you want then buy the dresses for them. It's unfair to expect them to pay for those expensive dresses and assume everyone is as well off as you are.
JJ it’s 25 dollars... I can guess that their financial situation is pretty good considering their fancy jewelry, clothes, and hairstyles. I think $25 dollars shouldn’t be such a huge freaking deal if it’s to make a friend happy. And I’m guessing that any extra stuff should’ve already been accounted for by the time that they’re shopping for dresses.
86upsmaya read my answer to JJ. It’s for a friend, they obviously have the money, and it’s 25 dollars. I feel like if they love their friend enough to be in their wedding then they should be ok with spending 25 extra dollars for a beautiful dress.
@@Amanda-uu9vx ugly dresses, and if the bride loved her friends, she wouldn't care what they wore as long as they were at her wedding. But being a control freak bridezilla seems to be the norm these days
@@Amanda-uu9vxyou never know they could be really good at buying my friends got her hair and nails done for 15 dollars and it looked amazing and I got a lot of really nice jewelry for under 10 dollars that's looks real some people know how to shop or maybe someone else payed for them or maybe that's all they can afford at that moment
"If you're refusing to pay for a dress, then don't be a bridesmaid" hell no they are asking for a dress within their budget!! if the store cannot provide that go somewhere else that does. The store is the problem
I agree. I asked my bridesmaids to find something they each felt happy and comfortable with, and something they can really wear again. It worked out well, and they all looked beautiful. :-) Good luck to all future brides and bridesmaids!!
