Common Mistakes That Will Ruin Your Relationships 

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i think your autocorrect spell it wrong , it`s *girls

Why do you believe dating is a mess?

It's a market on demand.. and you need to create demand.. by that i mean that being needy prove to the other person that they can have you easily. and that is what turn off human. human want the limited edition, they want to be the only one to have it. they want to have it the hard way. but yeah, still a mess don't bother with that.

@@v1nce529 you speak true words, mate. I believe one core issue is that most of us do not accept the reality of dating being a business. Yes, there is emotion involved and yes, we - as loving individuals - do not want to be seen as guided by the interaction of variables like intellectual/emotional/physical investment in another human being. However, if we do not accept that there are principles and variables we are very likely to have many tough moments in our dating life that could have been avoided by rational anticipation...

izeizei 😂

The past is a very different, and harsher, time. Having harmonious relationships isn’t necessary to procreate, after all. The ones who could do it (including, sadly, such people as rapists - whether it’s a classic Genghis Khan type or just obligations in a male-dominated society) did it, and everyone else is shit outta luck. Lucky for us, that kind of thing isn’t so prevalent anymore!

Cause people didn’t date. It was about procreation and building families, not “love”

Fewer options, more proximity, shorter lifespans, and more people in your business like your parents. Probably a similar % of males never procreated or had a mate though.

Maybe their life wasn't ruined by social media..

Raphanne wait so you’re saying there wasn’t any mindgames? Or a 1 week period where one of u pretends to not be interested? (Playing hard to get) no deception or manipulation? WHAT IS HAPPENING.

If only if it were that simple lol

@@d0m3ll0tt4 It is that simple with the right person, if there's too many variables and mind games, she most certainly not the one you should be with. UNLESS you just wanna tap her.

the video says that if someone cancels plans don't immediately try to make new ones give it some time first.

That's the way it should be! It depends on your circumstances. If you're both into each other keeping in contact frequently is perfectly fine. Who made up all these 'dating' rules anyway?

rest assurred, or bad-mouths their 'friends' to boost 'this is your lucky day because you met me!!!"

Or their parents.... Ouch!

This is mentioned a lot, I cannot beleive it is that common :(

@@M2U0 It's common!

@@Anonymous-pr3gr Definitely...I've witnessed it. Same behavior towards their mother and me.

Haha, good news is you can be as needy as you like with dogs and they'll still love you ;-)

True. They live for that stuff.

Don't give up. Spend time learning. In fact, what he mentions here is bigger than a lot of other things. Although, the crux of it is deeper than plainly making time/not making time for other people. You have to basically internally put yourself first, and really put that image out. Drill that concept into your brain. You come first.

Rishav Siddhanta ESSEC

or a pillow

Preach

"Nobody will ever make you a priority, until you learn to see, and treat yourself as one, once you succeed at that, you can go get whoever you want, if they do not want you, they do not deserve you, the trick is knowing that deep down, they want you badly, they just do not always realize it yet" -Me, the ONLY God

There’re just an option too……

@@e.thomas2475 right? everyone is just an option LOL. not the correct train of thought

@@Runny117 Why? What I said is objectively true from a biological and social standpoint.

Yes

Hell uea

Unless she asks you to be exclusive with her or she’s already your gf/wife, you focus on hanging out with your boys first. Who will be there for you in case she breaks up with you? The boys

You also need to set that precedent. Getting together with a girl who will prevent you from seeing your friends is VERY BAD. That will continue forever, and it's very possessive and emotionally abusive. Stay away from that kind of girl. And the best way to smoke out that attribute in women is to insist there is time set aside for "guys' nights" right away. If she starts acting like your friends are a problem that needs to be fixed, you can confront it by asking if she would like it if you said she couldn't hang out with her female friends. That undercuts the moral high ground and forces some level of empathy, and if she still has a problem, it is probably time to get out of there. If you need motivation to get out, just take a look at any guys you might know whose wives or girlfriends have socially isolated them, look how afraid they are to go against her. You don't want that in your life.

LMAOOOO

Im suffering on those same drugs rn man :(

After 5 days you actually would not feel hungry. After about 3 hunger pains go away and your body runs on stored fat. If you've been single a year and you've spent that time investing in yourself instead of trying to find someone, then you would not be needy either.

challenge 1 complete. so far on year 2. second challenge pending. though I have gone 2 days without fluids. I was stoic about it... and then I passed out in class. woke up a few hours later at the local clinic. took some convincing not to go to the hospital.

Pretty big difference here. You need food to live. You don’t need a gf. You can want one sure, but that’s why needy is a word and wanty isn’t

@@-fakebirds-6792 fun fact: sexual desire considered as basic as for food, drink or sleep. Not by me, by biologists.

@@-fakebirds-6792 wow u didnt learn basic facts

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Crow Cullom eat vegetables

Anon Amos stay a virgin

doge fm eat half the cake or a salad lol

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I feel you. Like ONI said, we can only learn and keep moving forward.

Because it would have ended for other reasons. You're better without her. You'll be fine, just live and learn.

lol :)

Agreed

Damn...

TheRealBBC I agree! Hahahaha

TheRealBBC same haha

Lol, I feel you man.

same goes with messages if you look through your messages and notice you are the one engaging and usually the one finishing, slow down the pace the or the same phenomenon is going to happen learned it the hard way

Yoann Morais Thanks for the tips.

LOL

Touie G me too. I liked this girl a lot in backed in freshman year in college. We had the strongest connection but once I started making time for her and doing so much for her, she backed out so quickly that it took me over a year of scratching my head and heartbreak to get over it.

YEET DA yeet needless to say, I’ve learnt a lot from that last relationship. I’m making sure I don’t make those same mistakes in this one that destroyed my last one. There’s a good quote, “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” and I’m lucky enough to have a girl now who I can tell really cares about me

@@touieg1211 absence also allows girls to cheat

Jakub Rogacz this can be true. I like to think that if she cheats it’s her loss 😎

@@touieg1211 haaha if you can detect that then yes. I mean let her chase new boy toy. Just remind him she did have biyfriend when she slept with him and tell him he is otherwise free to treat her to all her expensive stuff in your place no problem. Then wish him good luck. If that doesnt get a guy to rethink if he should associate with radioactive women nothing will.

Proper chemistry. Since people are different.

QShaque exactly!!! 👏🏿 Ridiculous games! If I like you yes I want to see you! Geez!

Dating games

@@Nat0528 not games, basic human psycology. Although some people do play games, what the video is describing its not games.

@@LuisSoto-fw3if can you elaborate?

totally.

Exactly.

yes, I've started with my network. three girls are attempting to force themselves on me. bracing myself😂

it's about having abundance

Well said mate

JogoLord Uh huh. is her name Karen?

😂😂😂

I initially was interested in Psychology but got bored and switched to Sociology, although there was a psyc class about dating and romantic relations that I was interested in but never took it.

Wolfgang Romine Unfortunately women are wired to seek the best possible mate for them and by giving you all of their time they run the risk of not having other options. in all honesty the best relationships start slow and progress to deep connections if done with the right partner.

Its because people don't want to be perceived as simple and try to blur lines to make things that are, relatively ordinary, complex

So many more interesting things to do with my time is what I think about those games.

It's not games, it's evolution at work trying to match a couple that will have the best success for survival of their offspring. I can't help but to put things in scientific terms but once you forget all the false information you've learned from friends and family and just think of human survival and offspring... caveman days and it will work every time. Most women are instinctively programmed to find stability, success and self respect attractive. Why? because it gives better chances for their offspring to survive. If you're a man trying to attract women, the worst thing you can do is put less focus on yourself and more focus on them. What this tells your partner is that you don't have your shit together thinking you can run a family. Naturally, you will be less attractive. You may think it makes no sense because you're showering them with all this attention and gifts and you have PLANS to be successful and run your own business... but you're going nowhere! Again, survival of offspring is the key. Focus on your career, focus on your health, obtain assets and increase your net worth. Purchase property, can you imagine being a single male who is successful, healthy and owns their own home? Can there be anything more attractive to women than that? I'm leaving out personality and the subtleties that sometimes matter but matter much less when you have your shit together. Of course this doesn't apply to grade schoolers so don't be a smartass by saying how you're supposed to have a home at age 15. I'm referring to men in late 20's and older.

Wolfgang Romine I hate mix signals.

I'm one month into my first relationship (17) and I'm fairly certain I'm playing all the right cards, but maby there is something that I need to add or change because lately I've been feeling kinda down and lost and miss her even though I see her almost every day (through school)... is that normal?

Really

Bro don’t say that cause imma just give up rn

you're kind of being rude

Some people needed to hear what comes across as being needy specifically. I guess this is why CoC has 568k more subs than you m8

Mikae Gildon Dont be short don't be ugly don't be broke. There you go.

***** thanks

You can be all of those, just gotta find a match that also fits the description.

Thanks for sharing that :)

Heather Muffins haha so he was just fishing for your neediness?

@@thinkingofaname6233 hahahahahaha dude you're a secret unlocker

I also did the same thing

A girl has flaked me and she didn't texted or any communication that she can't make it until a day later. I waited for an hour because I am a patient and understanding man. I even texted her if she is okay and if she needed to reschedule but no reply at all until a day later. She broke my heart.

Fish Canon, the issue with this man is that we’re not gonna change all of society. Oftentimes, for example in my own case, a man was what would be called a “nice guy”, looking to genuinely love one girl and give her the world just like in the Disney movies. However after constantly being taken advantage of, friend zoned, left on read, and seemingly unable to pull girls, they take a step back and ask “why am I not getting the girls?” And they see the alphas, the “bad boys”, the jerks the assholes etc, and they’re the ones getting all the girls. And we, especially girls, ask, why are dudes players? Because that’s how we have to be to get girls

I think there’re boundaries between neediness and showing genuine interest. I am myself is guilty of being needy sometimes and I totally understand that it drives people away, not just when you first met someone, but in long term relationships or marriage too. I experienced this when my ex girl friend used to be so needy, I kinda got tired and wanted to have my own space and wanted to break up, but when she changed, I became the one who was needy to her and wanted her attention and tried to work for that

Being flaky is just as bad as being needy. It's really just another way of expressing neediness. To me the balancing point is: keep your word and be available, but also make sure you're not ALWAYS available. If you've gone out three Saturdays in a row with the same girl, maybe you should deliberately make plans to go out with your guy friends on the next Saturday and skip that weekend with your girl or take her for a more casual date like an ice cream just to keep the contact. Don't be an accomplice in someone else taking you for granted.

I think both extremes are bad... Just because one is "warm" doesn't mean that is better... If you need someone then you are most likely to have emotional problems, the same applies to being flaky. I think the best dating advice i have got is that you have to focus on yourself BUT knowing that the other person is a person. Being able to express things of your persona that you actually value will set yourself in an another level. And if the person rejects you, it's not a grat problem as it may feel.

@@csooov9354 God is a funny guy. Yeah... Girls are attracted to "bad guys". Because they project something important, and cristal clear. Force. As i said. The "bad guys" project Force. That doesn't mean that they are strong (in the every sense of the word). If you are strong... I mean REALLY strong (emotionally, physically, mentally...) Then you don't have to adopt the BS of the "coaches" or "gurus" of seduction. In other words, *if you are strong you don't have to pretend that you are a bad guy.*

Anos Anosn I disagree, some women are actually worth fighting for because of their intellect, goodness modesty etc. But what I can't stand is the pretty little bitches who think they all that, who are not really worth the effort.

***** The point of the rule is that women who are good usually don't entertain games. :P

Smart man. Outside of rom-coms, jumping through hoops is always a bad idea. Once a woman sees you behaving like that she will inevitably lose respect for you.

you miss his point; the cool women don't play those games..if youre cool too, you wont have to fight

yes, i much prefer women who play less, or even no games. its hard to find one who plays zero games at all tho. almost all of them play at least a few games. just find one who doesnt play that many. someone who doesnt care if you talk every day or not. cuz i end up talking a lot. almost always more than whoever im with, n i tell them i make no excuses for it. if i have something to say im gonna say it. if you dont like it, too bad.

Depends on how far you got. At get to know stage its idiotic to dive deep. Problem i think is people want to date as fast as they eat and work but biology rebels.

I remember that several of the laws of power state to avoid putting too much trust in friend, committing to one person and to avoid investing too much in a person.. regarding today we should definitely keep in check how much we invest and do for a person because most likely you will either be disregarded and ignored or taken for granted. People have a tendency to underestimate anything that comes at no cost.. like your time or effort. It’s really not possible for people to respect or value you any more than you respect or value yourself.

The problem is that in some strange way, in my experience, I never get intimate with girls that I show to much interest in to early. I hate it but that is just how it is.

@@csooov9354 Yes, this is reality.

I think if you contact someone every day when they aren't answering back that almost start to look a bit stalkerish (even worse if you message multiple times before they answer back). If they are talking back (in a way they're not trying to reject you, or seem completely uninterested) I cant really see whats wrong with it. The case in this video maybe sounded a bit fussy when I think of it.

Ha, I didn't factor snapchat into the equation here - I'm a different generation

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critic37509 my exact thought lol

critic37509 yea that's why I don't have snapchat

That is a good idea for a video. But don't think that being introverted is a bad thing it just means you are thinking about a lot of stuff that interest you. The trick is to find the right balance with being extroverted and communicating with other people. The best way for that is taking an interest in them. Try looking up a few books on that topic: How to make friends and influence people and The 42 laws of power. I hope that helps.

Yes this helps and thank you for suggesting those books I just bought them hopefully they help,

If someone really is the opposite of needy (as opposed to just not needy, or a little bit introverted) to the point of being distant, then I think if it's always been that way/in the early stages of the relationship that they're not very excited about it and at best you are an "option" or a fallback strategy, while if it didn't used to be that way but it has become so recently in a more developed relationship then chances are they are either losing interest (in the case of a girl) or cheating on you (in the case of a guy). I would say with a good match in a good relationship you only ever need worry about being too needy, if you're worried things are naturally too distant, my guess is that you're simply not right for each other. This is assuming, of course, that it's a kind of distant that makes either of you feel insecure; there are rare couples that just have a naturally distant equilibrium they are both happy with, but this is EXTREMELY rare (I've only ever seen it in relationships where they started dating very, very young).

Mayro Dneir yeah I'm talking about someone who's extremely introverted, doesn't like going out much, doesn't talk much, hates talking on the phone but doesnt mind txting if its not to often/all day, if someone comes into the room they will basically stop talking, there still like playful they just won't want to talk. also sometimes they have a tendency to just drop off the face of the earth for like a week or 2 won't answer phone or texts besides sometimes good morning ones

me 100% omg. I have a fear of appearing too needy and it just comes across as uninterested when it's actually the complete opposite.

Joe Wiik Then, respectfully, I suggest you broaden your horizons, find other things in life that can give you some joy or fulfilment, like music or church or something! The way I look at it happiness is not something you can get from people or material things.

Joe Wiik yea me too

Joe Wiik Yeah, find other activities to take up your spare time.

learn how to play the organ, it will take a lot of time

Joe Wiik I understand you all too well. My best friend goes through the same thing. I tell him over and over again to go for a walk with his dog, girls can't resist dogs and that will break the ice for someone to come talk to him, but of course he will not do it. Sometimes we can create in our minds many barriers just to avoid getting us out of our comfort zone. But it really doesn't require much to meet new people when you live in an overpopulated world. I am brazilian and my boyfriend is norwegian. It happened over Tinder... of course we were both set to find an SO, but you can use the same path for friends too... You can give it a go to learning a new language, improving a cooking skill, getting a green thumb, learning a new instrument. All of this can only make you more interesting, knowledgeable, and get you to have more peers. And by turn get you out of the house and busier. Hope you manage that :)

I can't because it is Wednesday, my dudes

Dannybhoy1 if I was a girl this comment would get me wetter than an untipped wheelbarrow during storm season.

Now thats a hardworking man

Hehehe

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Had a Grade school teacher 'Capobianco', (Head White, in Italian). We called him 'Sam' or 'Capo' at recess. Samuel Whitehead...get your wife and son to call you 'Capo'. Greetings from Canada...got to go feed my polar bear!

Like he said fill your time with stuff you like

Damn! I do the same!😂

If it's still the case, then go backwards and learn how to be more popular. I say this because I was the same. :D

@@kristofkovacsRisy and how do you get more popular ?

Aww bro just get out there and talk to people even though it feels awkward

Travis Kraft that could work out great with the right person

Funaru Yeah, if I were with Hillary Clinton or her staff.

looks like 15 people at least got the reference :D

was she 7?

Hahaha. Top kek!! 90% of people will not get this joke on here

Glad to have you!

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about as stealthy as a ghost ninja. basically me throughout my 1 year of college

Дмитрий Веселов gg man, gg.

I've seen you in another comment section before I don't know where but we talked it's just very unlikely that I would find the same person in two different comment sections under two completely different videos

In my experience if you don't show interest back they start to hate you. Then they either start avoiding you or their goal becomes to hurt you back.

@@Incognito2803 Girls are usually the choosers, so having an unreciprocated interest hurts them on an unfathomable level; while a boy would be kinda used to it

And then you make some fine human sushi amiright

Great analogy.

I'm gunna need a bigger boat.

Lol that’s funny true

Thanks for sharing that!

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Kajkajn Lols Yess !!!!

I support the idea, it'd be really helpful!

But I like being the Kenny of the group...

Hey well, if you're the shy one in the group people will reconize you that way, the question is what role do you which to play in your social group?

Find a different social group. You get a fresh slate. That way you can see if you're actually more than your role in you previous group or you need to work on yourself more. It'll also make it easier to develop skills in a different social role and you'll be able to bring it back into the social group you want to change roles in.

1) why not if you have something to talk about talk. If not don't. 2) Some people don't mind being pushed 3) Only if you don't think they are reliable

@@MylesKillis His points, not mine. Make a comment of your own and, if you're lucky, he or someone else will answer. My own take would be: 1) You'll bond more if you just meet physically and talk about those same things - humans have evolved to do it that way anyway, and misinterpretation will happen less often. Getting a meet-up can only happen so and so often but I still think it's a good idea. Also she might just be answering every day to be nice - I've seen before - giving he a few days of rest now and then will make it feel less like a chore to talk to you. The real exception here is if *she* starts a conversation with you every day. 2) That amount of people are probably very few, otherwise he'd have mentioned it. 3) I think too many of us have a tendency to think she is when she's not. And we just think so because we after all have a crush on her. You know your time isn't being taken for granted if she knows that you have plans that both can and will be prioritised above hers if those plans were there first.

@@MylesKillis Damn you be you, he just pointed out the ones in the video.

If she doesn´t want you every day in her life maybe she is the wrong choice. So contacting every day is okey, just don´t overwhelm her.

@@Mars-1995 I think you are exaggerating.

Happy to share :-)

Agreed

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Tip #0 : don't ever use word date again. You are not going on a date with a girl, you are meeting with her, 'hanging out'. The word date puts too much pressure o her and on you as well,.. plus it reveals your intentions straightaway, which kills all the curiousity. Go out as a friend and escalate your realtionship by touching her and having fun. Believe me, it is 10 times less awkward if both of you have 'this is not a date' mentality.

Sexy Beast Nope, don't do that. I've had it happen to me and it's even more annoying to figure out whether it's a date or not. The guy spent too long getting to the point and I ended up losing interest. I say call it a date and be clear with your intentions.

Booper doop shoop da woop because you don't know how to escalate. If you know what you are doing she will immediately pick up the signs but still have doze of wondering whether you truely like her or not = curiosity Lol, and how is that going on for you?unecessarly putting pressure on her to either accept or reject you in that moment.. plus all the curiosity is gone. And makes you look like a low value (desperate) man if you do it very early in interaction. I am not saying it's impossible to do it if you ask her for a date, but it's way more comfortable and easier for you and for her. Just learn how to escalate

Kriscenarios would have helped me two months ago...

This is basic knowledge, pickup has stated this yeeeeeeears ago.

Kriscenarios he was busy Watching tv with a friend

He was watching romantic comedies where the man does everything for a woman until she falls in love with him.

Appreciate that!

oh, so it happens to girls too lol noted

bevrosity I’m suprised girls as hot as her ever have trouble.

Hahaaa I have one up on everyone. Can't make mistakes in dating if I don't even have the guts to confess my feelings to a person... or flirt... or talk to peoplr I'm interested in... or people in general... or if I don't even have the opportunity to meet new people... ... ...

I've had to block women who were not only needy, but became stalkers after being told I wasn't interested. Getting a restraining order isn't amusing. It's great that you acknowledge your mistake and even laugh it off. Much better than becoming all fangy, bitter and blame shifting. Some women REALLY can't handle rejection, even though I'm compassionate about it. Anyway, kudos for having dignity...that's even more attractive than your appearance.

Will definitely work on more!

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A needy bitch just broke up with me I have lot of things to do and always have to adjust to her Time si I say no more. That was the end, I'm better alone really.

~ Glad it helped :-)

Will definitely keep going :-)

I should make a video about this!

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